Sept. 18, 2025

Platinum Plus Wednesday!! (Recorded LIVE On 9-17-25)

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This Might Hurt Podcast is where raw meets real no filters, no fluff, just unapologetic truth. Your host Big Corleone leads the charge with his unrelenting grit, backed by the unshakable crew: T.G. Love, Dubs Tha Don, and the fierce Lady G. It’s the podcast about nothing, yet somehow everything, culture, chaos, controversy, and the kind of convos that make you laugh, think, and maybe even squirm a little. This ain't your safe space, it’s your wake-up call. So buckle up cause… This Might Hurt.

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Mhm yo.

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Exce up everybody, this is big holding on all this

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might heard podcast coming to you live from you know

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how you know where were coming live from. I don't

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have to tell you because you're ready. No what I'm saying.

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So with that being said, welcome to the show. Tonight's

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show Platinum Plus Wednesday. It's also suicide Prevention Month. We'll

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get into that. We'll get into a bunch of other shit.

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You know how it is. They ain't bringing my co host,

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my lovely co host, my dog thought I lady G

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how you doing?

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I cannot hear you.

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You can't hear me.

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I can I hear you?

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No? No, my mic is working.

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Oh I'm not connected to nothing else.

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You don't hear me at all. Yeah, you don't hear me.

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I can't hear you, sir.

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Oh no, hold on, you talk. Can anybody out there

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hear me? Or is it me? Or is it her?

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Can anybody confirm? Nor den? I if they can hear us,

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I don't know. I don't know what's wrong. We would

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just hold on? Oh, she says, she hears us both.

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Well, I hear you now?

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Oh all right, well, thank you. I appreciate that. Melissa

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thank you very much for the sound check. Appreciate it. Okay,

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I don't know what happened that was.

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That was weird. But I hear you, now, all right.

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That's all that matters. We hear each other. So you

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didn't hear you, didn't hear me? Give me your grand entrance?

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No, I was just seeing you on the.

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Screen, I said, I said, I said, the lovely doc

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thought I lady g.

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What's up people in podcast land?

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Yeah? Yeah, So with with this month being suice type

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avention month, I am right right, yeah, that's right. Say

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hello to my little friend. Am almost cold handle? Look

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gonna take it easy? Hello, Yes, yeah, So you know,

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there's a lot of a lot, a lot of stuff

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that we're gonna go over the day I got I

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got some questions that I wrote down that I want

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to ask you co hosts and the fans of the show.

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Hopefully they can give us some insight into who they are,

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who's listening, you know, and and we'll give you know

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what it is, you know, give our thoughts on all right,

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Puerto Rico, Puerto Rico.

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Yeah, so you know, considering I'm not from Puerto Rico, no, oh.

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Boo, No, I'm playing. I'm playing, Yeah, I'm playing anyway. Yeah,

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so we have we have a mixture of of of

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Latin Latin descendants here, I mean because I mean I'm

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from Puerto Rican. You are Peruvian, dubs is Nicoaguan, Jamaican

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and Puerto Rican and I think.

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T is I don't know what.

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I want to say, Puerto Rican too, but I'm not

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I'm not quite sure. I'm not quite sure. We'll have

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to if you have to ask him when she comes on?

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What comes on? So anyway, how have you been?

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Wonderful?

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As usual?

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Every day I wake up on this side of the ground,

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I am awesome day.

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That's always. That's always a great way to be either way.

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When you when you wake up in the morning, you

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look up and you're still here, and it's like, yes,

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another day, another day. I've lived another day. So it's great.

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It's it's great to be alive. Man, it's great to

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be to be here with you.

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II.

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How you doing. I'm talking to you. You know, I'm

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talking to you.

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You know I have my health. Uh, my children. Just

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got to speak to my granddaughter for her third birthday.

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Oh that's that's great, that's awesome. Yeah, that's wonderful. Grandkids

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are a blessing. They are because you can give them

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back at the end.

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Of the day.

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Mine's too far away. But I'm still single, So you

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know there's that.

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Because your season is coming, isn't it winter?

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It is, it is.

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I'm not worried sweater weather.

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No, my sweater weather whenever God deems it necessary. I'm enjoying. Hey,

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I'm enjoying my solitude.

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Yeah, you gotta, you gotta have solitude, right, yeah, my my,

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my living room, my living room is my fortress of solitude.

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You know what's crazy, You know it's wild. If I

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feel some kind of way, I can spend the whole

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day and not come into the living room once. Really, Yeah,

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I'll sit in my room.

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I'll do that.

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With all those screens you got going on.

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I just I don't like if I feel like like down,

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if I feel like I'm stressing, or you know, I

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feel any kind of way, I won't bring it into

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my living room. My living room is my safe space.

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Wow.

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Yeah, I'll hang on in my bedroom. I'll pace in

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the kitchen, I'll walk into the bathroom forty fifty times,

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hang out outside of the living room. Yeah, I won't

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come in here if I'm feeling some kind of way.

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Straight up, I'm not bringing nothing into my living room.

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My living room is my theater.

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I guess that would be my bedroom.

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Yeah, well, everybody has a space, you know what I mean?

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Yeah, definitely, Yeah.

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Of course. So as we wait for the other hosts,

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the rest of our crew, the rest of the crew. Yeah,

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I'm hoping to form Voltron tonight, but we'll see what happens.

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We're one short of that.

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Yeah, yeah, you're right, But I have an email. We'll

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talk about this while we wait for the others.

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So here goes you and your emails.

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Yeah, I can't help the fact that they keep sending

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them in. I gotta I gotta talk about them. I

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can't just let them send them in and not discuss them.

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I don't get no emails.

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I mean, I, oh, look who's here, the lovely, the

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lovely TG love All.

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I don't hear anything.

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Oh no, you don't at all.

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All right, let me get out, all right, all.

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Right, she'll have to come back. I'm not going to

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give her a grand entrance again. She messed it up

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the first time, all right, Okay, so let's see if

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she comes back in so we can do this with

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her here. Yeah, so we got one two day five Okay,

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how about now?

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I think my volume was down. This is the kind

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of week I'm having.

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So there you go.

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So before we get into this this email, I want

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to ask you how you've been. It's been a while.

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It has been a while. I got a lot going

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on on my aunts and I did go to I served.

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I went to jury duty today.

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Nice. Uh.

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I was juror number four, but I was not selected

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for the trial. I didn't make it. That's okay.

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Did you tell them whatever he did? He did it?

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No, No, But they do ask like specific questions, and

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like I knew once I stood up for one of

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the questions that they asked that it was going to

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be like a bias issue for them.

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Yeah. Right, So it's all good.

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Though.

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It was fun like to like see how how they

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do it, like how it's done, sort of like in

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that scenario justice, you know, turn, Like how they pictures,

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like the questions that they ask.

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It's interesting. So we had a debate.

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What is your nationality for Hispanic heritage month.

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I'm Keevian Puerto Rican.

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Ah, all right, she said, she said, Puerto Rican. I

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said like, you were like, did I say anything? I said,

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I said, I said, I don't know. I know she

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said this Puerto Rican somewhere, and I was saying, I

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was saying, I.

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Was, I.

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Have her friend who calls me that to annoy me

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because he's like Mexican. You know, you're all the same.

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And I was like, no, we're not. Don't you dare

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We're not going there.

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Yeah, that's wild. All right, So you've been good. Everything good,

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everything's all right.

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No, but you know where, but yeah.

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You're alive, you know, I know that's good. How's a

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kiddie doing?

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Can He's good.

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I have the other one here still and they're getting along.

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Now you another one.

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Well, yeah, I have my friend's kat too.

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Mm hmm.

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It's but he's like nine months now, so he's he's

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a boy, okay, and they are.

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They have their moments.

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But my cat lost weight because she was She's actually

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like getting up and playing instead of just laying on

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the couch all day every day.

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So it's a good thing for her. She needed it.

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Play play friends like a lazy kitty, you know what

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I mean. That's how they get all chunky and.

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What you gotta laugh for see, when you laugh. When

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you laugh, it makes.

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It, it makes it like got to that's crazy.

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And then it's like lazy kitty, my god.

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See, oh my goodness, Wow, that's what they call menopause.

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That's hilarious. Oh man, yeah something.

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But yeah, it's uh, I don't know, it's just been

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it's been crazy. It's hard when you already deal and

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stuffar with depression and stuff like that to really like

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get up every day and not feel like like.

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I don't want to get out of bed. That's that's

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the reality every day.

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Like sometimes I put the news on because I'm hopeful,

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like you know, like I like hearing, you know, when

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there's cures for cancer or something. There's been some things

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coming out and that makes me hopeful. But the minute

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that they go into the polities of things and stuff,

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I like, I got to shut it off because I'm

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just like I can't. And the climate right now between

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people is insane, right, let's just put it that way.

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And the only fear I have right now is that

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racists are feeling very emboldened. And I don't appreciate that

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because there's no room in here for racism. Like it's

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twenty twenty five, Like, what the fuck are we still doing?

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I don't get any of it right, Yeah, I might.

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I might have to beat a cat in a minute.

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If he doesn't, you're gonna beat the kiddy.

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Yeah, I'm a beat. I would never what are you doing?

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More like I yell at him and then he doesn't

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even care. He just lays on the grounds and he's

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just like, oh, like, that's not helping me.

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It wor this might be this might be a little

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bit he has to do with a pet. I don't

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know why we got an email about a pet, but anyway, well.

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You know what, it's an email?

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Yeah, all right, here we go. I have a dog

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that's on the older side at nine years old. A

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few weeks ago, it lost the use of its back legs.

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I had to get surgery for him because I was

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not getting him put down. All in all, it came

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out to eighty five hundred dollars goddamn, all of which

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I had to pay out a pocket for. Of course,

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this wasn't a huge problem because I have plenty saved

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up and in general I'm well off. Here's the issue.

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I know, right whose season is is?

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I wish that was my problem? Buddy.

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All right, here's the issue. My girlfriend's sister has been

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struggling with rent. Apparently she's behind a few months and

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panicking about being kicked out. When my girlfriend found out

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what I paid for the surgery, she got really upset

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with me and said I was selfish. Her words were

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along the lines of you spend eight grand on a dog,

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but you won't even help my sister keep the roof

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over her head. Since my girlfriend has been pissed off

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with me and keeps calling me cheap and selfish for

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not helping her sister, I feel like, hold on, let

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me finish. Hold up, Hold up, hold up. I feel

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like I shouldn't have to suffer for another person's poor

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life choices. The reason her, Yeah, the reason her sister

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is in this predicament is because her relationship fell apart

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and she's living in a place she can't afford. Further

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further to that, I own a four bedroom house and

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my girlfriend suggested her sister come move with us, but

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I refused. I don't want my girlfriend to be mad

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at me, and I want to make it up, but

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I also don't want to give into her demands. What

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can I do to repair this leave.

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First of all, she call you selfish and all this

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stuff for taking care of your fucking dog.

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Are you kidding me? That's not the only thing.

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First of all, as a girlfriend that does not give

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you wife benefits like thank you, you are not legally

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bound to this woman, nor are you legally bound to

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her family. And adults make their own decisions exactly.

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She's the woman responsible.

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Yes, we are not responsible for the choices of other people,

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especially if we're not married.

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To our girlfriend. I need that boyfriend's fuck it up because.

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Let and pay.

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He could pay for the kiddy to get things done.

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That's great.

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Shame her for that expectation.

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Yeah, keep the dog exactly, save that dog, help her sister.

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Right they were married, Right, If they were married, this

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would be a different story. But they're not married. This

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is your girlfriend, and your girlfriend has these expectations. By girl,

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she obviously know he has money, and she's hitting at

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the fact that because he has money, he should be

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helping her and our family out. Like no, girl, No,

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that's not how this worked. See, these are the women

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that give women a bad name because they make it

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seem like we're all like money hungry and shit or

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like using people and like men for certain things, like

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of what they can provide, and that's not the case.

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I can't read anything, by the way, I have very

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bad visions, so you're gonna have to read stuff.

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It's a real pooch. I'll miss you.

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Oh wow.

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Listen though, if you have the money, you're gonna do

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what you can for your dog. Like I had someone

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get mad at me when I because my hat I

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think it was last year, started throwing up and stuff

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and she was acting really weird. So I figured, Okay,

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she ate something she shouldn't have eaten, so I got scared.

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I took her to the vet.

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Yes, I hardly had any money. It took my last dime.

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But I don't want to tag cat. I want my cat.

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So she's my companion, my baby, my boo. Like I'm

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not you know, people's pets are their family, Like I

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don't think it's fair. Like yeah, people who who are

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like it's just a dog, Well you ain't got you

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haven't had that love from that dog. That's unconditional right there.

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Like could you imagine, ba, see if someone told you

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not to like help your baby out, like your puppy,

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Like I would be like, uh, no, let's do a

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GoFundMe right now, because we're gonna help this baby, right.

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Like Melissa just said, why don't she give her sister

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the money? Speaking selfish, you know what I mean?

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Yeah?

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No, I mean we've established the fact that the girlfriend's

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got to go and that she's she has the wrong

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expectations here, and you know, oh my god, I can't

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believe that she wanted her fucking sister to move in

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with them.

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Oh lord Jesus.

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Check this out. Jessica says, I have a fourteen year

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old dog now he's living just to spite me.

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Basically, Oh wow, yeah.

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But that's wild, though. How do you? How do you

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do that? Man? How do you? How do you expect you?

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And and there's not even a ring on a finger?

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He says nothing about the girlfriend?

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Yes, girlfriend, girlfriend, So she's the girlfriend.

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That means she can be the ex girlfriend.

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Yes she can. And you could slide right into.

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His d m off, slide right in the es. I

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love your dog.

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Shit all right, So I have before I get into

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the second email, which we'll do a little later, I

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have some questions here that I thought about and rolled up. Okay,

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and we're gonna I'm gonna pose this to my co

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host and to the fans who are active tonight. So

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the first one is, what's the biggest red flag that

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you've ignored in the relationship only for it to blow

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up later.

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That they're not real?

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I think that that is a red flag. That is

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a red flag.

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Oh gosh, love bombing.

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Love bombing, all right, but love bombing like you think

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a red flag is.

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Yes, if I'm just talking to somebody days in and

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they're telling me that they're falling in love with me

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and love me and stuff like that, uh yeah, no,

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so that's not happening. Not having a good relationship, if

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they're a parent, not having a good relationship with the

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baby mom.

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If that is the case, So wait a minute.

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So if if your dude doesn't have a good relationship

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with his baby mama, as a red flag.

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Is the first I mean, I need more details, right,

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but I'm only hearing one side of a story, so

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I have to take that into consideration. And I think

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a lot of us don't do that. We'll take someone's word,

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but I like receipts. So when someone starts showing me

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messages and what they're going through, then I have a

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more understanding, and then I can understand why the relationship

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it's different. Like in one instance, I know someone I

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knew from the get that there this was a situation.

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So yes, in my mind, it was like, Okay, this

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is kind of a red flag because this is always going.

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To be a situation. This is not something that's gonna.

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Like just get better overnight, you know, especially in a

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co parenting situation. Right, Sometimes a red flag could be

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too many kids with too many women.

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M m, yeah, that that's a that's a problem, Melissa said,

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calling their ex psycho.

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Yeah, like that's what I mean too, Like it really

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depends how bad, Like are they bad mouthing them? What

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are they saying about them? If they talk about them

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too much, that's a that's a red flag.

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Let's see.

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So am I red flag if I have three baby mamas?

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Oh h, I mean it definitely is something that like

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is like, okay, let me take a step back here, right,

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because you have a past we all have passed, which

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is fine, but I think it also matters the.

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Relationships and stuff like that.

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Like the relationships you have with your your kids is

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very different than a lot of people that I know, right,

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and you're very close to them, so like you're not

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an absent father or dead beat by any means. So

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I think that's not a red flag, right, But to

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some women it might be like a turn off in

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the beginning to hear that, right, But I think at

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the same time, we have to remember like how old

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we are and that we have passed that it's been

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like we're not young anymore. Right, this is a growth

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shit where most of us are divorced or had kids already,

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you know, are having grandchildren some people the older ones,

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and like that's what it is.

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But I mean, I've said it people our age, our

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age group, we come with baggage. It's not like our

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life is starting once we get together. I had a

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whole life life since before you.

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Somebody grew up during the Internet, Okay, Like so I

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feel like that is pretty huge. We grew up through

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the beginning of that and look where it is now, right, Like,

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if it if it was now what like then was

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like now, we'd be fucked. We'd all would have had

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bad videos out there or.

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Study exactly.

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So, yeah, we had social media back in our day.

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No, it was bad enough that we had AOL.

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And could talk to people, okay, and we were talking

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to freaking strangers. I've been talking to like a fifty

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year old man for all I know. You know what

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I'm saying, Like there was it was actually dangerous, but

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we didn't realize how dangerous it was. And I think

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now you can see the dangers more than you could before.

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But the danger has always been there. This is nothing new, right.

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Yeah, I completely I completely get it. I completely get it.

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You know, it's it's it's it's wild. Yahoo chat rooms.

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Oh my god, that's what I'm saying.

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Those were bad, and then you meet people you start

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talking to him off the side.

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Mm hmm.

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Things went ugly in some places. Na, it was nuts

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and I was.

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Young and Yahoo black planet ay, well yeah, and I

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was doing.

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I don't even know what that is black planet.

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Black planet is before my Space.

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Oh see, I never really got into my space. I

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only got into Facebook like in the late two thousands.

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When remember when everybody put down as l H sex location.

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Oh my lord, so red flags.

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Red flags with other red flags.

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Honestly, if you're mean to your animals, that's a big

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red flag.

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To me.

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A red flag is if everything I say is a

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problem for you.

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Mm hmm, yeah, I can see that being a red flag.

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No matter what I say, you have something to Yeah,

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what's for telling me that I shouldn't feel a certain way,

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like my feelings are balanced?

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What would be your red flag? Like relationship for you?

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So for a woman, if you're dating a new woman,

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what would be the red flags for you.

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On the phone, Like.

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If I'm dating a woman?

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No dogs, he asked, like red flags meaning what? And

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I'm saying, like, if you're dating someone him, it would.

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Be a woman, so real quick, so real quick, Jessica says.

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Protective turned possessive.

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Mm very controlling if you only hit me up a

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certain time of.

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Day mmmmm yeah yeah, or like you are talking back

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and forth, back and forth.

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And then you just automatically stop.

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Right, Oh it takes forever to answer back, right, But

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then if you do it to them, they get really

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pissed off.

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And it's not even our purpose.

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It's like, oh, I was busy or whatever it happens, right,

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we have to remember that people get busy. You can't

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take shit so personally, I learned that that's hard to

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do with texting, But because it's so easy, just read

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your own tone in there the way you want with words,

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So it's dangerous. So I learned not to take shit personally,

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so I wouldn't hear. But when you really like somebody

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and you want to hear from them and you he really.

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Like that motherfucker?

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What the fuck?

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What did he do with? Is he fucking somebody else?

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Because it's bullshit?

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Another flying.

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That's great.

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Good when when you when you're like the side dude,

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and you know it, and she goes and she wants

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to break up with the what what you know, her

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main just to be with you.

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Yeah, that was a flag going in.

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Yeah, it was a big red flag going of course,

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of course you know what I'm saying, like you know

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what I mean like that, of course, I mean like

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that was a flat from I just wanted to the

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same point, you know, point it out.

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Yes, like the husbands who will will say they'll leave

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their wives for their mistresses.

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Or the wife or the wife actually making a phone

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call talking about you.

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Know, please if he's even separated it now, I.

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Don't want to do this more. Another red flag. She

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jumps in the rivers for you when you didn't ask her.

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To separated, divorced less than a year.

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It sounds it sounds like somebody jumped in the road

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for you, bro, what happened? You know what I'm doing

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about the way?

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The way?

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The way you said that, this is like what a

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no one jumping.

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The ref for me.

486
00:32:11.480 --> 00:32:15.880
But I've seen I've seen some ship like that too.

487
00:32:16.000 --> 00:32:17.400
Yeah, I've seen some ship like that.

488
00:32:17.480 --> 00:32:21.680
I was like, I was like, yo, yeah, man, you

489
00:32:21.680 --> 00:32:23.519
know what I'm saying, Like, next thing, you know.

490
00:32:24.000 --> 00:32:27.759
Man, look at this one. We're not together, but we

491
00:32:27.839 --> 00:32:28.440
live together.

492
00:32:28.880 --> 00:32:36.960
Oh damn no, don't do that to yourself. The worst.

493
00:32:37.519 --> 00:32:41.440
That is the worst. We're not together, but we live together. Yeah,

494
00:32:42.440 --> 00:32:44.640
that's not that because that's not three or four red

495
00:32:44.680 --> 00:32:55.640
flags in one. Yeah, that's wow. That's wow. Yeah, another

496
00:32:55.920 --> 00:33:00.160
another relationship with like but remember the question was the

497
00:33:00.200 --> 00:33:05.839
red flags you ignored later and they later on blew

498
00:33:05.960 --> 00:33:09.000
up the relationship was naive?

499
00:33:10.759 --> 00:33:14.640
Yeah, like that he was shy and you know, played

500
00:33:14.680 --> 00:33:18.400
the nice boy that he didn't that he was not

501
00:33:20.279 --> 00:33:23.000
experienced in life, that he was you know, kind of

502
00:33:23.079 --> 00:33:23.880
naive and green.

503
00:33:25.680 --> 00:33:27.240
Mm hmm, all.

504
00:33:27.200 --> 00:33:38.680
Right, the reflect I ignored.

505
00:33:32.920 --> 00:33:41.160
The mama's boy, That's what I ignored.

506
00:33:43.160 --> 00:33:50.000
When they're too quiet, so like they don't share anything.

507
00:33:50.720 --> 00:34:00.799
To the first of all, So that's older than me,

508
00:34:01.039 --> 00:34:02.599
you know, Like I just I was just like in

509
00:34:02.640 --> 00:34:04.720
my thirties and I was like whatever, and like she

510
00:34:04.759 --> 00:34:09.519
had like nine years over me, right, and she.

511
00:34:09.599 --> 00:34:13.559
Was like, you know, married, getting a divorce to do

512
00:34:13.639 --> 00:34:18.360
the separation at the time, right, So that was one

513
00:34:18.400 --> 00:34:21.320
red flag, right how like you know, I just jumped

514
00:34:21.360 --> 00:34:24.840
in so quick, right, and I got and I ain't

515
00:34:24.880 --> 00:34:27.159
gonna lie, you know what, I suck it in because

516
00:34:27.159 --> 00:34:31.639
you know, it was something different. So there was a

517
00:34:31.679 --> 00:34:34.719
period of time when I can't call it certain times

518
00:34:34.760 --> 00:34:37.559
or whatever not because she was working, because her acts

519
00:34:37.599 --> 00:34:41.039
at the house, seeing her you know, her child, because

520
00:34:41.039 --> 00:34:42.800
they had a child together, and I felt, you know

521
00:34:42.840 --> 00:34:45.679
what I'm saying, I found that strange and ship, you.

522
00:34:45.639 --> 00:34:49.719
Know, strange that that's a problem.

523
00:34:48.599 --> 00:34:49.760
Exactly, you know what I'm saying.

524
00:34:49.760 --> 00:34:52.280
Like, but I ignored that, you know, and then like

525
00:34:52.280 --> 00:34:55.440
you know, everything like you know smoothed out on whatever, right,

526
00:34:56.119 --> 00:35:00.159
and you know, come and think of it, you know,

527
00:35:00.199 --> 00:35:03.639
like I always got called narcissistic, right, but she was

528
00:35:03.679 --> 00:35:07.119
just as bad, if not worse, because you know what.

529
00:35:07.119 --> 00:35:08.119
They called you out.

530
00:35:08.159 --> 00:35:13.360
You just said, you're like if she was not as

531
00:35:13.599 --> 00:35:15.639
she was just as bad, if not worse.

532
00:35:16.079 --> 00:35:18.199
So you are your meanting that you weren't.

533
00:35:20.960 --> 00:35:21.920
I mean I was.

534
00:35:22.480 --> 00:35:27.239
I was, was.

535
00:35:26.079 --> 00:35:28.519
Was because and the reason why, you know, I said

536
00:35:28.519 --> 00:35:30.719
it was because like looking back at my actions, I'm like,

537
00:35:30.840 --> 00:35:32.199
holy shit, I was narcissistic.

538
00:35:32.280 --> 00:35:36.679
But like still though, right, let's just say, you know,

539
00:35:37.639 --> 00:35:40.360
how you get them is how they leave you. Yeah,

540
00:35:40.400 --> 00:35:46.840
and that's what happened, you know, so you know five

541
00:35:46.920 --> 00:35:48.360
years down the road, that's what happened.

542
00:35:48.679 --> 00:35:50.079
And I was, you know what, And I looked at it,

543
00:35:50.159 --> 00:35:51.360
I was like, yo, you know what, that's got to

544
00:35:51.360 --> 00:35:54.039
be karmic energy for all the foul have done.

545
00:35:53.400 --> 00:35:58.320
It has to, right. That is that's definitely a rare flame.

546
00:35:58.400 --> 00:35:58.519
Bro.

547
00:35:58.599 --> 00:36:00.719
I mean, I don't I understand, I don't understands. Hold

548
00:36:00.719 --> 00:36:03.840
it real quick before I get into that. Jessica says,

549
00:36:04.159 --> 00:36:08.639
I don't usually ignore them, lol, probably why I'm eternally single.

550
00:36:09.039 --> 00:36:10.320
Yeah, yeah, that.

551
00:36:12.039 --> 00:36:15.480
So. The thing The thing about it is this, I

552
00:36:15.519 --> 00:36:20.760
feel if you meet a woman, right and you say

553
00:36:20.800 --> 00:36:22.519
to her, oh, so you know how you're doing, how

554
00:36:22.519 --> 00:36:26.800
you've been, what's up this? And that? Are you involved? Yeah?

555
00:36:26.840 --> 00:36:27.440
I'm married?

556
00:36:27.679 --> 00:36:29.960
All right, deuces, see you later, that should be the

557
00:36:30.039 --> 00:36:34.599
end of the conversation. Yeah, anybody who engages with someone

558
00:36:34.599 --> 00:36:38.079
who's involved, you don't know what you're getting yourself into,

559
00:36:38.519 --> 00:36:40.400
not at all. You know what I'm saying. You don't

560
00:36:40.400 --> 00:36:44.800
know what this dude is all about. This dude could

561
00:36:44.840 --> 00:36:50.199
be the wireless, he could be jealous, he could be possessive, obsessive,

562
00:36:50.239 --> 00:36:51.119
whatever the fuck.

563
00:36:50.920 --> 00:36:53.280
You may be due family.

564
00:36:53.599 --> 00:36:55.000
Yeah, you know what I'm saying, Like, you don't know

565
00:36:55.000 --> 00:36:56.840
what the fuck you're doing. You don't know what you're

566
00:36:56.840 --> 00:36:59.920
getting yourself into. That's why you don't ever get involved

567
00:36:59.920 --> 00:37:01.360
with anybody who's involved.

568
00:37:02.199 --> 00:37:05.079
You know what. You can't You can't ruin something that's

569
00:37:05.119 --> 00:37:06.280
already ruined, you know what I'm saying.

570
00:37:06.400 --> 00:37:10.639
Nah, but still throwing a wrench into that better.

571
00:37:10.760 --> 00:37:15.639
You're you're making a choice, though conscious deliberate the.

572
00:37:15.760 --> 00:37:21.400
Choice something you know is not right and it's just not.

573
00:37:21.320 --> 00:37:24.320
Going to But but but you know what, like like

574
00:37:24.360 --> 00:37:26.920
I'm going back to like you know, like you know,

575
00:37:27.039 --> 00:37:30.159
like like my situation is like like it was told

576
00:37:30.199 --> 00:37:31.480
you know, it was told to me what it was,

577
00:37:31.519 --> 00:37:33.880
you know, like you know, like they're you know, like

578
00:37:33.880 --> 00:37:35.679
they're in the middle of separation, getting the divorce and

579
00:37:35.719 --> 00:37:38.840
stuff right, so the guy, I bet you know, I

580
00:37:38.840 --> 00:37:41.440
didn't think nothing of it. Come to find out that,

581
00:37:41.519 --> 00:37:44.639
you know, they were just they were just separating.

582
00:37:45.159 --> 00:37:47.320
Like that's why you asked you to turn thrown and

583
00:37:47.360 --> 00:37:50.159
walked away as soon as she said, with separating, getting

584
00:37:50.199 --> 00:37:51.039
a divorce.

585
00:37:50.800 --> 00:37:54.400
And I want to see us right right, I want.

586
00:37:54.280 --> 00:37:55.719
To set that ship.

587
00:37:57.440 --> 00:37:59.599
See I'm better not be living in the same house either.

588
00:38:00.599 --> 00:38:03.760
You want me be an ignorant though, Like I was like, yo,

589
00:38:03.760 --> 00:38:05.280
you know what, you know what I like the child,

590
00:38:05.320 --> 00:38:07.760
You know what I'm saying, because there's.

591
00:38:07.599 --> 00:38:11.360
A thrill to it. Of course, of course is the thrill.

592
00:38:12.039 --> 00:38:17.119
Yeah, you know, like the the whole like you can

593
00:38:17.159 --> 00:38:21.800
get caught and it's bad and it's I get it,

594
00:38:22.599 --> 00:38:25.280
but it's just it's not good.

595
00:38:25.880 --> 00:38:28.280
It was like the came back to me.

596
00:38:29.239 --> 00:38:32.519
So Jessica said, it's always a pivotal moment to choose

597
00:38:32.599 --> 00:38:35.920
to stay and ride it out, ride the red flag out,

598
00:38:36.039 --> 00:38:36.840
or just even.

599
00:38:36.639 --> 00:38:40.800
Be Yeah, but I don't think they should be ignored.

600
00:38:40.960 --> 00:38:42.840
And we really didn't answer the question because I didn't

601
00:38:42.840 --> 00:38:44.239
really think about red flags.

602
00:38:44.280 --> 00:38:44.760
I ignored it.

603
00:38:44.840 --> 00:38:51.360
I did name a couple of that, but uh, I

604
00:38:51.400 --> 00:38:56.039
think that like it happens and and the the truth

605
00:38:56.079 --> 00:38:57.960
of the matter is that we do not trust our

606
00:38:58.000 --> 00:39:00.519
gut when we should. And and that what it really

607
00:39:00.519 --> 00:39:03.159
comes down to it because if there's even a fucking

608
00:39:03.400 --> 00:39:08.559
inkling that it feels wrong or just something is wrong, one.

609
00:39:08.639 --> 00:39:14.360
D fifty, it's wrong, there's something wrong. What does that say?

610
00:39:14.400 --> 00:39:14.800
I can't ry?

611
00:39:15.320 --> 00:39:18.559
Melissa says, I was dating man for months and he

612
00:39:18.639 --> 00:39:22.440
did everything for me. Then six months and he told

613
00:39:22.440 --> 00:39:25.760
me about his wife, and that's that's when I dropped

614
00:39:25.800 --> 00:39:26.400
him right there.

615
00:39:26.760 --> 00:39:28.679
I mean, yeah, I mean, he freaking lied to you

616
00:39:28.719 --> 00:39:32.199
from the gut goddamn's expensing.

617
00:39:32.719 --> 00:39:35.079
And then you know, it's crazy you don't know what

618
00:39:35.159 --> 00:39:39.159
you shared with someone six months in for them to

619
00:39:39.199 --> 00:39:40.719
turn around and say, well, I got.

620
00:39:40.559 --> 00:39:44.760
A wife, right right, right six months you could have

621
00:39:44.800 --> 00:39:49.079
feelings for real, you know.

622
00:39:49.960 --> 00:39:55.039
You know what, Yes, trust your good you know what?

623
00:39:55.079 --> 00:39:58.800
I know somebody right that was with this girl whatever,

624
00:39:59.000 --> 00:40:00.920
like he was just like treating like a queen and

625
00:40:00.960 --> 00:40:06.920
all that stuff, right, So that one thing one day

626
00:40:07.000 --> 00:40:11.199
right like like one of my people's right, it sounds

627
00:40:11.239 --> 00:40:13.159
like a text, you know what I'm saying, and it's

628
00:40:13.239 --> 00:40:15.079
it's about it's a link to back page.

629
00:40:15.320 --> 00:40:17.039
So I was like Yo, what the fuck you send

630
00:40:17.079 --> 00:40:17.679
me back page for?

631
00:40:17.800 --> 00:40:17.920
Bro?

632
00:40:18.320 --> 00:40:19.480
He said, noah, I look at this ship.

633
00:40:20.280 --> 00:40:24.119
So I pressed the link and whatever I look won't

634
00:40:24.119 --> 00:40:26.920
beholder to throw the other that the other dude was seeing.

635
00:40:27.920 --> 00:40:32.119
I'm like, on back page, isn't that? Isn't that a

636
00:40:32.159 --> 00:40:32.639
pornt thing?

637
00:40:34.400 --> 00:40:34.880
Basically?

638
00:40:34.960 --> 00:40:36.960
You know, like you can get everything on that. You

639
00:40:37.079 --> 00:40:38.559
just get anything on back page back then?

640
00:40:38.599 --> 00:40:43.960
Oh back page that was that. That was that was

641
00:40:44.199 --> 00:40:46.480
that was thing.

642
00:40:46.519 --> 00:40:50.639
Back you know what I'm talking like ten twelve years ago,

643
00:40:51.039 --> 00:40:51.280
like this.

644
00:40:52.199 --> 00:40:53.639
That's where the sus hang out.

645
00:40:54.400 --> 00:40:58.360
Yeah, you know, like you know, and and it's like

646
00:40:58.880 --> 00:41:01.559
and and it was like, oh, is anybody gonna tell

647
00:41:01.599 --> 00:41:01.840
him that?

648
00:41:01.920 --> 00:41:02.079
You know?

649
00:41:03.039 --> 00:41:03.119
That?

650
00:41:05.280 --> 00:41:08.440
Is anybody gonna tell him? Does he know? No, he

651
00:41:08.480 --> 00:41:08.840
don't know.

652
00:41:08.920 --> 00:41:14.320
I'm like, well that's dangerous because she's a sushi. She's

653
00:41:14.360 --> 00:41:15.920
out there on back page. You don't know what she's

654
00:41:15.920 --> 00:41:16.840
bringing home to you, bro.

655
00:41:22.039 --> 00:41:27.039
The thing is like like like you know what though,

656
00:41:27.079 --> 00:41:29.159
like she didn't even look like you know, like the

657
00:41:29.199 --> 00:41:31.480
way she carried herself was like night and date.

658
00:41:32.519 --> 00:41:32.719
Yeah.

659
00:41:33.119 --> 00:41:38.679
I mean people are gonna a protending Yeah, that's the

660
00:41:38.760 --> 00:41:40.920
other thing. Like if you tend to only speak to

661
00:41:41.079 --> 00:41:43.920
or see someone at night or during you know what

662
00:41:43.960 --> 00:41:46.880
I'm saying like that, that that's a red flag. I

663
00:41:46.920 --> 00:41:51.000
feel some people won't catch or will ignore at first.

664
00:41:52.519 --> 00:41:54.880
Sometimes a lot of times can be stated they may

665
00:41:54.920 --> 00:41:57.199
be married or in a relationship because they're.

666
00:41:57.039 --> 00:42:00.360
Waited to talk to you later.

667
00:42:00.519 --> 00:42:03.760
Like for real, I've heard of time.

668
00:42:04.800 --> 00:42:06.360
He's nudging her she's asleep.

669
00:42:06.360 --> 00:42:13.039
Hold on, but you wear it? Yeah, exactly, it's exactly.

670
00:42:15.320 --> 00:42:20.840
Yeah, man, that's that's that's terrible. That's terrible. All right,

671
00:42:21.559 --> 00:42:28.199
all right. Second question, the question, Yes, what does healthy

672
00:42:28.280 --> 00:42:31.360
communication in a relationship look like to you?

673
00:42:32.760 --> 00:42:33.159
Mm hmm.

674
00:42:36.960 --> 00:42:38.440
I'll give it. I'll give it an example.

675
00:42:39.719 --> 00:42:49.639
No, not an example, No, no, another word. He was

676
00:42:50.719 --> 00:42:54.519
someone to serve him. He likes being served.

677
00:42:55.559 --> 00:42:59.920
No, you know what healthy with healthy relationship? Yo?

678
00:43:00.079 --> 00:43:00.679
Communication?

679
00:43:01.960 --> 00:43:04.440
Oh well check this out, Jessica. Just hold out real quick,

680
00:43:04.800 --> 00:43:08.400
Jessica says, when they only talk during the day when

681
00:43:08.559 --> 00:43:11.119
they're at worst hours.

682
00:43:11.840 --> 00:43:14.880
Yes, yes, that's that's what I meant, instead of the evening. Yes,

683
00:43:14.960 --> 00:43:17.760
like you only talk story certain times, That's what I mean.

684
00:43:18.320 --> 00:43:22.440
That's usually a sign. But yes, healthy relationship. What what

685
00:43:22.480 --> 00:43:22.960
was the question?

686
00:43:23.000 --> 00:43:29.440
I guess question was God damn it? What does healthy

687
00:43:29.480 --> 00:43:31.840
communication and the relationship look like to.

688
00:43:31.760 --> 00:43:33.440
You healthy communication.

689
00:43:33.880 --> 00:43:36.960
Okay, dubbs, you were going to say something on healthy

690
00:43:37.000 --> 00:43:39.519
communication aside from getting into the kitchen.

691
00:43:41.199 --> 00:43:44.719
You know what the kitchen all seriousness is like when

692
00:43:44.760 --> 00:43:47.719
like you know, yeah, what what do you call it?

693
00:43:48.400 --> 00:43:50.280
When you guys are just like goofy with each other?

694
00:43:50.559 --> 00:43:51.039
You know what I'm saying?

695
00:43:51.239 --> 00:43:53.239
Like what like you know what, like you could just

696
00:43:53.239 --> 00:43:57.719
bob each other on your worst day, you know, like

697
00:43:57.760 --> 00:43:59.519
you know, like your worst days is you know, like

698
00:43:59.519 --> 00:44:01.760
you could be like a real shitty day and then

699
00:44:01.800 --> 00:44:04.400
like you see your partner whatever and then like you know,

700
00:44:05.159 --> 00:44:07.000
you realize that it's not that bad because you know,

701
00:44:08.280 --> 00:44:10.000
this one's vible with you regardless.

702
00:44:10.599 --> 00:44:10.800
You know.

703
00:44:11.559 --> 00:44:14.800
Transparency, Yeah, you.

704
00:44:14.760 --> 00:44:18.320
Know like like like like to me, that's healthy.

705
00:44:18.440 --> 00:44:21.840
You know what else? You know, like you tell them

706
00:44:21.880 --> 00:44:26.199
what it is, you know, but you gotta watch.

707
00:44:25.920 --> 00:44:29.079
How you're saying because you know what, like like you

708
00:44:29.119 --> 00:44:32.159
know what if if you tell someone you know, like

709
00:44:32.440 --> 00:44:34.480
you know what I'm saying like like that with your

710
00:44:34.480 --> 00:44:38.880
tone or whatever, I love you, right, They're gonna take

711
00:44:38.880 --> 00:44:41.039
it as you know I'm saying as.

712
00:44:40.519 --> 00:44:42.440
Some aggressive.

713
00:44:43.920 --> 00:44:46.280
Okay you know you know.

714
00:44:46.320 --> 00:44:48.199
But like yo, you know, like they're gonna take it

715
00:44:48.239 --> 00:44:54.480
aggressive and whatnot, and you know, like that that verbal communication.

716
00:44:54.079 --> 00:44:59.679
Part what else and just and just them knowing what about?

717
00:44:59.760 --> 00:45:02.039
What about?

718
00:45:00.239 --> 00:45:05.840
What I mean, I'm waiting, I'm waiting for him to

719
00:45:05.880 --> 00:45:07.599
be done?

720
00:45:08.840 --> 00:45:09.440
Oh what else?

721
00:45:09.480 --> 00:45:11.039
You know what I'm saying? And like, you know, like

722
00:45:11.280 --> 00:45:13.760
to make you a sandwich when when your football team loses.

723
00:45:14.159 --> 00:45:19.760
Right, yeah, that is huge, But that's not communication. That's

724
00:45:19.920 --> 00:45:22.920
just being a good partner and just like.

725
00:45:24.480 --> 00:45:31.079
About to talk things through, even if the irrational things.

726
00:45:32.480 --> 00:45:39.880
Okay, So healthy communication comes with honesty, transparency, and trust.

727
00:45:40.880 --> 00:45:43.360
I want my partner to be able to trust and

728
00:45:43.440 --> 00:45:46.920
not in me, to be able to tell me what's

729
00:45:46.960 --> 00:45:50.920
going on. Like you're having a bad fucking day, you

730
00:45:51.039 --> 00:45:57.960
need time, Fine, take time, but vocalize that and then

731
00:45:58.599 --> 00:46:01.480
when you're ready to talk to me, I'm gonna be here.

732
00:46:01.800 --> 00:46:03.719
Maybe you just want me to hold you, Maybe you

733
00:46:03.800 --> 00:46:06.440
just want to watch a movie together and not think

734
00:46:06.480 --> 00:46:07.039
about something.

735
00:46:07.039 --> 00:46:07.840
Because men and.

736
00:46:07.760 --> 00:46:13.239
Women really do uh kind of like right.

737
00:46:13.440 --> 00:46:17.719
We express so different because you know what, in my opinion,

738
00:46:17.760 --> 00:46:21.840
women are more into, like they're more grounded with their feelings, so.

739
00:46:21.719 --> 00:46:25.800
Like we're typically more self aware than men are. Yes,

740
00:46:26.039 --> 00:46:28.559
but there are men who are very self aware, and

741
00:46:28.639 --> 00:46:31.440
I think it's important though to be self aware.

742
00:46:33.360 --> 00:46:35.719
Shut me out, you know what it is.

743
00:46:36.079 --> 00:46:37.920
I mean, I'll be half of be half of most men.

744
00:46:38.000 --> 00:46:39.760
You are self aware about it too. It's just that

745
00:46:39.800 --> 00:46:40.679
we don't know how to say.

746
00:46:41.280 --> 00:46:45.440
Not everybody or women either, Not everybody is self aware,

747
00:46:45.480 --> 00:46:46.920
but that is a big thing to.

748
00:46:46.920 --> 00:46:51.519
Have, like like like look, you know what, like you

749
00:46:51.519 --> 00:46:55.400
know what, Like like I was going through like like

750
00:46:55.719 --> 00:46:58.239
perfect example, I was going through something like a couple

751
00:46:58.280 --> 00:47:03.440
of weeks ago, right, and it got you know, you

752
00:47:03.480 --> 00:47:05.119
know what I'm gonna say what you know, I'm gonna

753
00:47:05.119 --> 00:47:06.719
say it here, Like it got so bad that.

754
00:47:08.400 --> 00:47:11.559
I was having an anxiety attack and like I didn't

755
00:47:11.559 --> 00:47:12.880
know you know what I'm saying, Yo, what's wrong?

756
00:47:13.719 --> 00:47:15.480
And then I realized I was like, Yo, you know what,

757
00:47:16.039 --> 00:47:17.079
I'm scared of something.

758
00:47:17.440 --> 00:47:18.519
You know, you're picking your nose.

759
00:47:18.559 --> 00:47:18.719
Bro.

760
00:47:19.480 --> 00:47:21.320
No, I'm not saying you're on camera, b.

761
00:47:22.239 --> 00:47:29.559
I know, like looking back or did he do it?

762
00:47:30.679 --> 00:47:30.960
You know what?

763
00:47:31.039 --> 00:47:33.599
Though, Like it's just that you know what I'm saying,

764
00:47:33.639 --> 00:47:37.800
Like I was scared of something, you know, and I

765
00:47:37.800 --> 00:47:40.519
didn't know how to handle that, so like I just

766
00:47:40.599 --> 00:47:43.199
kept so I kept on inside, and it just started

767
00:47:43.239 --> 00:47:48.360
eating me up, getting me up, and it's like it

768
00:47:48.440 --> 00:47:50.400
was hard to like you know, like accept what was

769
00:47:50.559 --> 00:47:54.840
what What's gonna happen? You know, like like you know,

770
00:47:54.880 --> 00:47:57.559
like the like there's a change coming, and it's hard

771
00:47:57.559 --> 00:48:01.320
to you know, like it's hard to to grasp that in,

772
00:48:02.320 --> 00:48:06.440
you know, because like things are going to change after that,

773
00:48:07.440 --> 00:48:11.239
you know. And it's like the fear of not the

774
00:48:11.280 --> 00:48:12.760
fear of the unknown God.

775
00:48:13.280 --> 00:48:17.440
You know what I'm saying, Yes, anxiety, Anxiety is fear.

776
00:48:18.159 --> 00:48:19.760
And and and you know what, I could admit that,

777
00:48:19.800 --> 00:48:22.159
but you know what though, like like like it got

778
00:48:22.199 --> 00:48:23.719
me to the point where it was messing with my

779
00:48:23.840 --> 00:48:27.519
physical being because my how like my blood prinsure was

780
00:48:27.559 --> 00:48:32.360
high as ship. Right, I kept on rocking back and forth.

781
00:48:32.480 --> 00:48:34.840
You know, I had like a certain look in my heart,

782
00:48:34.960 --> 00:48:36.480
you know, like like like you know, my girl.

783
00:48:36.480 --> 00:48:37.679
Kept on asking like, Yo, what's wrong.

784
00:48:37.679 --> 00:48:39.559
I was like, Yo, I'm good, I'm right, you know,

785
00:48:39.679 --> 00:48:44.599
Like I didn't want to leave the house right because

786
00:48:44.639 --> 00:48:46.800
like my mom was like and my mom was just

787
00:48:46.800 --> 00:48:48.760
like you know what I'm saying, like racing the thousand

788
00:48:48.800 --> 00:48:50.880
miles a minute, and I was trying to figure out

789
00:48:50.920 --> 00:48:53.159
you know, like not you know what I'm saying, like

790
00:48:53.320 --> 00:48:55.920
not what was wrong, but how to come out to

791
00:48:55.960 --> 00:48:58.920
say it or like how to come out and express it.

792
00:48:59.400 --> 00:49:01.880
So it got to the point.

793
00:49:01.679 --> 00:49:02.840
Where I was just like, you know, like I was

794
00:49:02.920 --> 00:49:04.239
rocking back and forth, and all of a sudden, I

795
00:49:04.280 --> 00:49:08.199
just started crying, you know, just like crying like a baby,

796
00:49:08.800 --> 00:49:09.599
you know, because.

797
00:49:11.639 --> 00:49:12.280
I was scared that.

798
00:49:12.360 --> 00:49:14.159
I didn't you know, like there's not that I didn't

799
00:49:14.199 --> 00:49:17.920
know that. I didn't want to admit it. You know,

800
00:49:18.679 --> 00:49:20.480
the fair part. I don't want to admit that part.

801
00:49:22.400 --> 00:49:26.039
You need therapy, bro, what you need therapy?

802
00:49:26.760 --> 00:49:28.679
I'm good, no.

803
00:49:28.639 --> 00:49:31.599
Melissa said. Melissa said, I need a partner who can

804
00:49:31.679 --> 00:49:34.199
listen to me as well as tell me anything good,

805
00:49:34.320 --> 00:49:35.239
bad or ugly.

806
00:49:36.960 --> 00:49:42.800
No, I mean, I want you to be honest with me.

807
00:49:42.880 --> 00:49:48.320
But there but there's a wake there could be a.

808
00:49:48.239 --> 00:49:52.639
Way for someone to pick out your flaws or.

809
00:49:53.960 --> 00:49:55.320
Say things and.

810
00:49:55.559 --> 00:50:02.119
It's it doesn't come off as loving because it isn't loving.

811
00:50:02.519 --> 00:50:06.920
Like I don't know, explain that because I don't get it.

812
00:50:07.360 --> 00:50:09.559
Because okay, like.

813
00:50:12.519 --> 00:50:13.280
That's what you're saying.

814
00:50:14.039 --> 00:50:16.880
No, what I'm saying is.

815
00:50:18.880 --> 00:50:23.199
When a person starts to kind of like pick at

816
00:50:23.280 --> 00:50:27.119
you for certain things. I don't feel like that's like

817
00:50:27.679 --> 00:50:31.239
coming from a real honest place of like reflection. I

818
00:50:31.280 --> 00:50:35.119
think that's more of like, uh, these are the things

819
00:50:35.119 --> 00:50:35.920
that annoy me.

820
00:50:38.079 --> 00:50:40.079
No, I'm not I gotta I gotta it.

821
00:50:41.039 --> 00:50:41.320
Uh.

822
00:50:42.639 --> 00:50:43.719
I think I'm gonna get into.

823
00:50:43.639 --> 00:50:48.360
A fight because I'm getting itchy.

824
00:50:48.440 --> 00:50:53.239
I don't know where I'm playing with this. I don't know.

825
00:50:53.400 --> 00:50:56.800
I think I'm just thinking about something specific where it's like.

826
00:50:59.400 --> 00:51:02.880
I know my I know them.

827
00:51:03.199 --> 00:51:07.360
I don't need my partner to also reiterate my flaws.

828
00:51:07.639 --> 00:51:11.320
This makes sense. A degrading joke is never good communication.

829
00:51:11.280 --> 00:51:12.480
Right, Like.

830
00:51:14.199 --> 00:51:15.800
I want to know the good and bad and ugly

831
00:51:15.840 --> 00:51:20.159
about you, Like if you want to share things about yourself,

832
00:51:20.840 --> 00:51:24.679
you know, I'm willing open and accepting to them. You know,

833
00:51:24.760 --> 00:51:27.000
if we're in a relationship but we really love each other,

834
00:51:27.800 --> 00:51:29.920
I'm hoping at this point we know these things about

835
00:51:29.920 --> 00:51:32.719
each other and we can also call each other out

836
00:51:33.559 --> 00:51:37.199
on our bullshit, which is good. I think that's good

837
00:51:37.320 --> 00:51:40.039
because sometimes we need to be grounded in that way,

838
00:51:40.159 --> 00:51:44.239
Like I have ADHD like a motherfucker, So I use

839
00:51:44.280 --> 00:51:47.360
somebody who needs to understand that, Like I might not

840
00:51:47.440 --> 00:51:50.360
get that done because I started it and then I

841
00:51:50.400 --> 00:51:54.440
went to do something else. So sometimes that's what happens,

842
00:51:54.480 --> 00:51:58.199
and it can be chaotic. So it's finding somebody who

843
00:51:58.239 --> 00:52:02.320
can like center you and be like remind you or

844
00:52:02.320 --> 00:52:04.719
whatever in a good way, but not be like, bitch,

845
00:52:04.760 --> 00:52:06.440
you're always forgetting to do this.

846
00:52:06.960 --> 00:52:10.760
Like, how about lady, what do you think?

847
00:52:11.119 --> 00:52:12.000
Yeah? What happens to lady?

848
00:52:12.039 --> 00:52:17.360
J I'm here, Okay, I apologize. What was the question?

849
00:52:19.039 --> 00:52:23.400
Well, we were talking about healthy communication and a relationship

850
00:52:23.400 --> 00:52:26.119
and what it looks like to you, and we went

851
00:52:26.159 --> 00:52:31.480
into a whole thing about obviously, transparency, honesty, being able

852
00:52:31.519 --> 00:52:36.079
to share with each other your truths, the good, bad,

853
00:52:36.119 --> 00:52:36.639
and ugly.

854
00:52:37.239 --> 00:52:37.440
Yeah.

855
00:52:37.800 --> 00:52:43.800
I mean, healthy communication to me is not not ignoring

856
00:52:43.840 --> 00:52:48.440
the issues and thinking they'll just go away by themselves.

857
00:52:48.440 --> 00:52:48.880
Correct.

858
00:52:50.079 --> 00:52:56.519
Healthy communication is talking through anything that bothers you or

859
00:52:56.559 --> 00:53:06.599
bothers the other person again, not shutting down sharing. And

860
00:53:06.760 --> 00:53:11.039
the difference between being transparent and being honest. Being honest

861
00:53:11.159 --> 00:53:13.840
is I'll answer you honestly if you ask me a question.

862
00:53:13.960 --> 00:53:17.480
But transparency is letting me know before it happens, you

863
00:53:17.559 --> 00:53:19.400
know such and such is going to be there. I

864
00:53:19.480 --> 00:53:22.239
just want to be transparent so that you know you know,

865
00:53:22.320 --> 00:53:25.079
I'm not going to be there with my dudes. They're

866
00:53:25.119 --> 00:53:28.159
going to be females there, So you know, just knowing

867
00:53:28.199 --> 00:53:36.880
the difference emotional intelligence, that's pretty much good communication to me.

868
00:53:37.000 --> 00:53:43.880
That's that's that's a necessity. He has to have emotional intelligence. M.

869
00:53:44.599 --> 00:53:47.519
People definitely intelligent. I just don't know if I have.

870
00:53:48.679 --> 00:53:50.960
People have emotional intelligence.

871
00:53:51.000 --> 00:53:53.800
That's actually one of the quality is of a good

872
00:53:53.840 --> 00:53:58.760
leader is being able to have emotional intelligence. So being

873
00:53:58.800 --> 00:54:02.400
able to pick up on m if your partner's sad

874
00:54:02.679 --> 00:54:06.519
or something's off or I mean ideally, I feel like

875
00:54:06.719 --> 00:54:11.920
you're if you have a partner you see itchy. I

876
00:54:11.960 --> 00:54:16.519
feel like my partner's supposed to be my my other half,

877
00:54:16.719 --> 00:54:20.280
like my you know, like the one that kind of

878
00:54:20.320 --> 00:54:21.159
like completes me.

879
00:54:21.320 --> 00:54:25.760
As cheesy as that sounds, but like, you know, like

880
00:54:25.880 --> 00:54:29.039
in a way, like I want my.

881
00:54:29.079 --> 00:54:31.840
Partner to be my refuge when I need it, like

882
00:54:31.960 --> 00:54:35.440
someone who I can go to when I am feeling shitty,

883
00:54:36.239 --> 00:54:39.199
and or the fact that maybe I do need some

884
00:54:39.280 --> 00:54:43.800
time alone and that's okay, Like and there needs to

885
00:54:43.840 --> 00:54:49.519
be an understanding of the difference between lady she's getting

886
00:54:49.559 --> 00:54:50.320
another call.

887
00:54:52.519 --> 00:54:58.280
Between like I lost that train of thought. You see,

888
00:54:59.159 --> 00:55:01.320
this is what happens.

889
00:55:02.320 --> 00:55:06.440
All right, Right, I ain't laughing at you. I'm just saying, yeah,

890
00:55:06.920 --> 00:55:07.960
but this is what happens.

891
00:55:08.159 --> 00:55:10.000
Is like I was like all full of mode and

892
00:55:10.039 --> 00:55:15.679
then it left me. It's okay though either way. But

893
00:55:15.760 --> 00:55:18.480
we were talking saying the same things. Basically, we want

894
00:55:18.519 --> 00:55:20.519
the same things. We want somebody who's gonna be fucking

895
00:55:20.599 --> 00:55:25.800
honest and not be an asshole. And you know, and

896
00:55:25.920 --> 00:55:27.840
if you are feeling some kind of way about the

897
00:55:27.880 --> 00:55:32.199
relationship or something isn't working, you shouldn't wait until you

898
00:55:32.360 --> 00:55:33.360
blow up.

899
00:55:34.000 --> 00:55:36.039
Right, That's one thing.

900
00:55:36.440 --> 00:55:42.039
Yeah, Like I've noticed that some people tend to hold

901
00:55:42.039 --> 00:55:45.760
things in and assume that you know or expect you

902
00:55:45.840 --> 00:55:48.519
to know what they want. And it's like, no, like

903
00:55:48.559 --> 00:55:51.960
I've told you, I can't do that. You have to

904
00:55:52.039 --> 00:55:56.000
verbalize to me what's bothering you, even if you have

905
00:55:56.039 --> 00:55:58.880
to say it multiple times. I'm sorry it's annoying. But

906
00:55:59.039 --> 00:56:02.800
like sometimes it's you know, people need redirection or whatever.

907
00:56:02.920 --> 00:56:04.599
It's it to me, that's normal.

908
00:56:06.239 --> 00:56:09.719
Yeah, absolutely, I think that that that's that's right on,

909
00:56:09.960 --> 00:56:13.280
that's right on an itchy nose, right, you know, you

910
00:56:13.280 --> 00:56:17.880
know it's it's it's definitely don't don't hold don't hold

911
00:56:17.880 --> 00:56:20.719
shit in because you keep bottling ship up. Then all

912
00:56:20.760 --> 00:56:23.119
of a sudden, one day you're blowing up and they're.

913
00:56:22.960 --> 00:56:27.159
Like, oh, what the fun right, right, and it becomes

914
00:56:27.199 --> 00:56:31.760
something completely different or bigger than what it is, when

915
00:56:31.840 --> 00:56:34.800
it could have just been a simple conversation to be like, hey,

916
00:56:35.920 --> 00:56:38.639
you know, this is my expectation of you. And I

917
00:56:38.639 --> 00:56:41.719
think that's a big problem that people don't speak of

918
00:56:42.039 --> 00:56:46.159
the expectations that they have of each other. So people

919
00:56:46.239 --> 00:56:47.400
are mind readers.

920
00:56:47.440 --> 00:56:48.039
I learned.

921
00:56:48.079 --> 00:56:51.880
If I want someone to know how I'm feeling or

922
00:56:51.920 --> 00:56:54.559
what I'm thinking, I need to tell them exactly. And

923
00:56:54.599 --> 00:56:58.679
people make that mistake a lot, you know, they assume,

924
00:56:58.840 --> 00:57:02.239
like you you should know, you should know, and it's like, yeah, no,

925
00:57:02.800 --> 00:57:05.159
I don't because I have like eight hundred million things

926
00:57:05.199 --> 00:57:07.880
going on in this brain all the time, and I'm

927
00:57:07.960 --> 00:57:09.880
just trying to focus on the ship that I need

928
00:57:09.920 --> 00:57:14.400
to do. So no, I also can't take on whatever

929
00:57:14.480 --> 00:57:16.880
is happening up there in your head.

930
00:57:17.000 --> 00:57:21.960
Like I'm not a superhero. I wish I was.

931
00:57:23.559 --> 00:57:28.480
I'm a superhero. I don't give fuck. I'm a superhero,

932
00:57:29.079 --> 00:57:34.360
all right, superhero superhero all right? So that was. That

933
00:57:34.719 --> 00:57:36.440
was That was pretty good. That was really good.

934
00:57:36.840 --> 00:57:39.119
Okay, what was you have another email? You son?

935
00:57:40.039 --> 00:57:42.679
Well do I?

936
00:57:42.679 --> 00:57:44.360
I don't know what you said. You're like, I got

937
00:57:44.360 --> 00:57:47.840
a couple of questions, then I have. I thought you

938
00:57:47.880 --> 00:57:49.840
said another No I got.

939
00:57:49.920 --> 00:57:52.239
I got the questions I did. I ran through the

940
00:57:52.280 --> 00:57:56.719
emails already. It was just all right. Next question, yes,

941
00:57:56.760 --> 00:58:02.559
all right. What is the most real relationship advice you

942
00:58:02.599 --> 00:58:06.519
can give someone who's in distress over their relationship?

943
00:58:09.000 --> 00:58:14.559
Mhm, pray to God everything will work out, so I

944
00:58:14.559 --> 00:58:18.320
can tell you I got a situation though.

945
00:58:18.760 --> 00:58:20.840
Tell tell your partner not to eat yellow snow.

946
00:58:21.840 --> 00:58:22.400
That's true.

947
00:58:22.639 --> 00:58:26.159
Don't do that. Yeah, telling them to eat yellow snow

948
00:58:26.280 --> 00:58:27.039
is not a good look.

949
00:58:30.320 --> 00:58:35.199
That's how I got told back. Nah.

950
00:58:35.280 --> 00:58:38.760
But just communicate. I mean, that's that's the best advice

951
00:58:38.800 --> 00:58:43.199
you can give someone. Make sure if you want your

952
00:58:43.239 --> 00:58:47.039
relationship to last, because a lot of relationships don't last

953
00:58:47.079 --> 00:58:53.039
because of uncommunicated expectations. You know what I'm saying. If

954
00:58:53.079 --> 00:58:55.039
you you got to be able to tell your partner

955
00:58:55.360 --> 00:58:56.400
what it is you want.

956
00:58:57.760 --> 00:59:01.239
You know what I'm saying, And that includes in the

957
00:59:01.239 --> 00:59:06.320
bed and it bothers me. I'm gonna be honest, because

958
00:59:07.360 --> 00:59:12.000
a lot of guys I messed with had girlfriends I

959
00:59:12.039 --> 00:59:17.280
didn't know, and a lot of times it was because

960
00:59:17.280 --> 00:59:19.440
their girls wouldn't do things, and I would get really

961
00:59:19.519 --> 00:59:23.079
pissed because that would be like why are you with them?

962
00:59:23.320 --> 00:59:28.480
Like I want my partner to fulfill all of it.

963
00:59:28.960 --> 00:59:30.840
If you can't fulfill all of it, then how are

964
00:59:30.880 --> 00:59:33.119
we doing this? Like how are we on the same page?

965
00:59:33.239 --> 00:59:36.239
Like we have to be on the same page about finances,

966
00:59:37.119 --> 00:59:42.400
about direction of where we're moving in life, like home

967
00:59:42.639 --> 00:59:44.880
where we want to live and stuff like that, or

968
00:59:44.920 --> 00:59:47.280
like if we want a house or apartment whatever, like

969
00:59:47.400 --> 00:59:54.280
an actual physical thing, and belief systems kind of have

970
00:59:54.360 --> 00:59:57.440
to align as well, because it's it is going to

971
00:59:57.440 --> 00:59:59.920
be difficult if you have different belief systems.

972
01:00:01.920 --> 01:00:06.679
Okay, so believe when you say relief sism, do you

973
01:00:06.840 --> 01:00:08.199
do you mean I.

974
01:00:08.159 --> 01:00:15.119
Mean religion, I mean politics, I mean like drugs, addiction,

975
01:00:15.800 --> 01:00:19.400
mental health. You know what I'm saying, Like the things

976
01:00:19.480 --> 01:00:26.480
that are part of us, that are us that you know, uh,

977
01:00:28.480 --> 01:00:31.960
like you you can't be an empathetic person and be

978
01:00:32.119 --> 01:00:34.960
with someone who's the complete asphole doesn't care about other people,

979
01:00:35.800 --> 01:00:39.679
Like that's very difficult. To because how do you sympathize

980
01:00:39.679 --> 01:00:42.960
with me? How do you relate with me? If I'm

981
01:00:43.039 --> 01:00:46.960
here thinking about these things or I see things in

982
01:00:47.000 --> 01:00:49.079
this way. And I'm not saying that we have to

983
01:00:49.119 --> 01:00:52.480
see everything the same because we've had different life experiences,

984
01:00:53.119 --> 01:00:57.519
so we're bringing different perspectives to the table. But I

985
01:00:57.519 --> 01:01:00.920
would like us to align in some way. My husband

986
01:01:01.320 --> 01:01:07.599
was Muslim, he's Christian now he converted. He did, that's whatever,

987
01:01:08.119 --> 01:01:11.480
that's him. I am atheist. I don't believe in religion.

988
01:01:12.280 --> 01:01:15.519
But if that's what he wants to do, go for it.

989
01:01:15.639 --> 01:01:18.239
You know, if that's what makes him happy, which it does,

990
01:01:18.920 --> 01:01:22.960
then be happy. He's exploring something different, something new in

991
01:01:23.000 --> 01:01:27.400
the religion world. So I'm letting him figure it out,

992
01:01:27.760 --> 01:01:29.840
you know. And sometimes we talk about certain things and

993
01:01:30.280 --> 01:01:34.159
he knows how I feel. But he never like he'll

994
01:01:34.280 --> 01:01:36.199
joke and say, like you need to come to church

995
01:01:36.239 --> 01:01:42.920
with me, you know, but but like that's his thing,

996
01:01:43.199 --> 01:01:46.840
and that's okay, Like I am, I'm not going to church.

997
01:01:47.440 --> 01:01:51.280
So that's that. So Jessica says, it comes down to

998
01:01:51.320 --> 01:01:53.599
what you're willing to live with and what you're not.

999
01:01:54.119 --> 01:01:57.440
Everything he isn't going to correct.

1000
01:01:57.639 --> 01:02:01.199
We all have our like what we consider red flags

1001
01:02:01.239 --> 01:02:03.639
or what we consider like are.

1002
01:02:05.400 --> 01:02:07.760
What's the word I'm trying to think of our deal breakers?

1003
01:02:08.760 --> 01:02:12.400
We all have deal breakers, right, Like there's there's been

1004
01:02:12.440 --> 01:02:14.559
people who have come into our lives and like certain

1005
01:02:14.599 --> 01:02:18.079
things like I met someone and he was a complete alcoholic.

1006
01:02:18.440 --> 01:02:19.440
Did he know he was?

1007
01:02:19.760 --> 01:02:19.920
No?

1008
01:02:20.320 --> 01:02:23.480
But I knew he was, And for me that was

1009
01:02:23.519 --> 01:02:26.559
like complete turn off. And I was just like I

1010
01:02:26.679 --> 01:02:30.239
dealt with addiction in my life, you know, with the

1011
01:02:30.360 --> 01:02:33.360
parents that took care of us who were alcoholic and

1012
01:02:33.800 --> 01:02:38.199
drug addicts. So for me, that's that's not a person

1013
01:02:38.840 --> 01:02:41.760
I want to be around and be doing stuff with.

1014
01:02:43.199 --> 01:02:43.800
Boundaries.

1015
01:02:43.920 --> 01:02:49.599
Yes, boundaries are important for not even relations like not

1016
01:02:49.679 --> 01:02:56.519
even romantic relationships, just people relationships. Boundaries are important. We

1017
01:02:56.559 --> 01:02:59.280
all need to have boundaries. We need to make those

1018
01:02:59.320 --> 01:03:04.599
boundaries clear that this way, if somebody does fuck around

1019
01:03:05.079 --> 01:03:09.320
that they can find out absolutely absolutely.

1020
01:03:11.239 --> 01:03:22.639
So that just actually leads into the next question. She said, yes,

1021
01:03:25.119 --> 01:03:28.440
all right, this one Melissa says, I lost loved ones

1022
01:03:28.760 --> 01:03:31.760
from addiction and so that is.

1023
01:03:31.719 --> 01:03:34.920
A hard no, right right, Like you know what that

1024
01:03:34.960 --> 01:03:38.920
paid feels like, you know what that is, and especially

1025
01:03:38.920 --> 01:03:41.719
if the person doesn't realize there is the problem, and

1026
01:03:41.760 --> 01:03:45.280
they don't want to help themselves. That's definitely not See

1027
01:03:45.280 --> 01:03:49.000
this is the thing too with women. Oh and some

1028
01:03:49.119 --> 01:03:52.000
men too, but they want to be this savior you know,

1029
01:03:52.559 --> 01:03:55.559
I want you to need be in some way, and

1030
01:03:56.320 --> 01:03:58.639
unfortunately there are relationships based.

1031
01:03:58.320 --> 01:04:02.760
On this is complex to save your complex.

1032
01:04:03.960 --> 01:04:05.880
Like captain save a whole.

1033
01:04:06.039 --> 01:04:11.079
No, I don't captain. Oh damn.

1034
01:04:12.039 --> 01:04:12.239
Yeah.

1035
01:04:13.400 --> 01:04:16.079
But but but you know what though, like those who

1036
01:04:16.079 --> 01:04:18.280
are addicted, right, you know.

1037
01:04:19.880 --> 01:04:20.159
That's the.

1038
01:04:21.880 --> 01:04:25.119
People don't get addicted on anything by accident, you know

1039
01:04:25.159 --> 01:04:25.599
what I'm saying.

1040
01:04:25.880 --> 01:04:28.719
But addiction is a disease either you know.

1041
01:04:28.639 --> 01:04:30.159
What, You're either chasing something.

1042
01:04:32.119 --> 01:04:32.840
Or you're don't both.

1043
01:04:34.079 --> 01:04:36.280
No, oh my god, we can hear you now.

1044
01:04:38.199 --> 01:04:41.880
But you know what with addiction, right, you know, like

1045
01:04:42.480 --> 01:04:46.199
they're doing both. They're chasing the feeling and running away

1046
01:04:46.199 --> 01:04:46.760
from their pain.

1047
01:04:48.239 --> 01:04:52.679
Right, it's all avoidance, Like, uh, A lot of advices

1048
01:04:52.800 --> 01:04:58.559
are avoidance or uh, just trying to fill avoid in

1049
01:04:58.639 --> 01:05:04.039
life because you know there's nothing exciting or life is

1050
01:05:04.079 --> 01:05:08.960
fucking miserable and sucks and you're just waiting for the

1051
01:05:09.000 --> 01:05:10.800
world to implode.

1052
01:05:10.880 --> 01:05:16.199
So yeah, yeah, I get it, man, I get it.

1053
01:05:19.280 --> 01:05:20.360
No, I wasn't gonna say anything.

1054
01:05:21.199 --> 01:05:24.400
All right, I got another question, this one you mentioned

1055
01:05:24.440 --> 01:05:25.239
a little bit ago.

1056
01:05:25.400 --> 01:05:32.599
Okay, okay, hold on, all right?

1057
01:05:33.239 --> 01:05:39.920
How important? How important is sex in a long term relationship?

1058
01:05:40.679 --> 01:05:42.760
How do you keep it alive?

1059
01:05:44.519 --> 01:05:44.679
Well?

1060
01:05:44.719 --> 01:05:49.880
I guess that depends on what you believe. What you believe, yes,

1061
01:05:49.960 --> 01:05:56.880
because I my current the season of life is no marriage,

1062
01:05:56.920 --> 01:05:59.039
but I mean no sex before marriage.

1063
01:05:59.599 --> 01:06:04.719
But talking like you're in a long term relationship. Yeah,

1064
01:06:04.760 --> 01:06:07.599
let's say you are married. Let's say you are married.

1065
01:06:07.840 --> 01:06:12.920
The point is how important? How important is it to you?

1066
01:06:13.559 --> 01:06:16.239
And how do you keep it alive? I got I

1067
01:06:16.280 --> 01:06:19.880
got that. Who wants to go before may?

1068
01:06:23.280 --> 01:06:29.239
Well, it's very important because it's essentially almost a third

1069
01:06:29.280 --> 01:06:33.639
of the relationship, So it's very important to keep that

1070
01:06:33.760 --> 01:06:38.039
alive and keeping it alive. As corny as it sounds,

1071
01:06:38.119 --> 01:06:40.400
communication is key, definitely.

1072
01:06:41.320 --> 01:06:41.639
Uh.

1073
01:06:41.800 --> 01:06:50.800
Two is trust, trust and respect. And also, I mean

1074
01:06:50.840 --> 01:06:54.679
the communication is a lot of different things. One communicating

1075
01:06:54.719 --> 01:07:00.960
what you need, what you want, what you like. Trusting

1076
01:07:01.079 --> 01:07:04.159
that the other person you know is your person so

1077
01:07:04.199 --> 01:07:07.960
you don't have to hide those things from them.

1078
01:07:08.119 --> 01:07:11.000
Yeah, on this rope while I chase you with the flamethrower.

1079
01:07:13.519 --> 01:07:15.679
Yeah, well, no, it is also a completion.

1080
01:07:17.719 --> 01:07:25.079
And I'm not no, you know, like I thought it

1081
01:07:25.199 --> 01:07:34.880
was going somewhere and that he took me to the room.

1082
01:07:35.079 --> 01:07:42.719
Yes, I agree, sex is totally For it to be great,

1083
01:07:43.320 --> 01:07:46.519
there needs to be trust. There needs to be trusted

1084
01:07:46.599 --> 01:07:53.519
between the partners. No, please don't, especially while we fucking.

1085
01:07:53.880 --> 01:07:57.199
That's up either.

1086
01:07:57.360 --> 01:08:02.360
Okay, just let's not do that. But sex is important

1087
01:08:02.559 --> 01:08:06.119
because at the end of the day, intimacy, I know

1088
01:08:06.280 --> 01:08:08.320
is more than sex, but that is a big part

1089
01:08:08.360 --> 01:08:15.199
of it. And even though just like kissing, smacking someone's

1090
01:08:15.280 --> 01:08:19.800
ass when they pass them, or grabbing them, telling someone

1091
01:08:19.800 --> 01:08:23.159
that they look good or they smell good, kissing someone

1092
01:08:23.199 --> 01:08:27.439
on the neck sometimes or grabbing someone's hair whatever, like

1093
01:08:27.800 --> 01:08:29.960
these are all the things that you could be doing

1094
01:08:30.119 --> 01:08:33.079
to show like I want you.

1095
01:08:33.079 --> 01:08:37.199
You know. Date nights are super important.

1096
01:08:37.359 --> 01:08:40.680
I think like if you do not try to do

1097
01:08:40.800 --> 01:08:45.520
date nights, that's how quick and easy a relationship can fizzle.

1098
01:08:45.640 --> 01:08:49.319
You need that one on one time and a date

1099
01:08:49.399 --> 01:08:51.800
night could literally be at home. It doesn't even need

1100
01:08:51.840 --> 01:08:56.800
to be out. It's just intentional time being spent together.

1101
01:08:57.840 --> 01:09:01.119
And I think it's fun too, have fun with sex

1102
01:09:01.319 --> 01:09:05.159
and role play or talk to each other about fantasies

1103
01:09:05.279 --> 01:09:07.279
and kind of see if you line up with that

1104
01:09:07.640 --> 01:09:11.439
and have fun with one another, who knows the baby

1105
01:09:11.520 --> 01:09:13.640
you find out you both like swinging and you go

1106
01:09:13.720 --> 01:09:17.000
to a swingers club, you never know. But this is

1107
01:09:17.039 --> 01:09:21.000
why communication is important. That's why we need to talk

1108
01:09:21.039 --> 01:09:22.239
about these things.

1109
01:09:22.640 --> 01:09:24.039
And it's like, first.

1110
01:09:23.760 --> 01:09:26.720
Well, first things first, I am not inviting any of

1111
01:09:26.760 --> 01:09:27.920
that bullshit swinging.

1112
01:09:28.520 --> 01:09:31.199
You don't have to, it's cool. I was just bringing

1113
01:09:31.239 --> 01:09:35.720
an example. Okay, I wasn't talking about anyone specific. Don't

1114
01:09:35.760 --> 01:09:36.920
get it twisted.

1115
01:09:38.279 --> 01:09:41.000
You don't want to swing from the chandeliers.

1116
01:09:42.239 --> 01:09:44.039
That one of your fantasies.

1117
01:09:47.479 --> 01:09:57.840
You're not chasing. Yeah, but but I mean you have to.

1118
01:09:57.960 --> 01:10:01.039
You have to keep it live. Yeah, have to even

1119
01:10:01.079 --> 01:10:03.119
even if you have to create situations.

1120
01:10:04.279 --> 01:10:07.199
He's watching the football game, Get down on your knees

1121
01:10:07.199 --> 01:10:17.399
and give him a blowjob. She's making something, grab her

1122
01:10:17.439 --> 01:10:21.000
asses and start try playing with her like there's ways

1123
01:10:21.119 --> 01:10:24.359
to do things to remind someone you but that you

1124
01:10:24.479 --> 01:10:25.439
want them.

1125
01:10:25.479 --> 01:10:28.079
That you do that TG and they just look at

1126
01:10:28.119 --> 01:10:29.520
you like you're stupid.

1127
01:10:29.600 --> 01:10:32.319
Then they need to go okay, because if you ain't

1128
01:10:32.319 --> 01:10:35.520
getting my love language what we're doing, I mean, that's

1129
01:10:35.560 --> 01:10:36.319
love language.

1130
01:10:36.359 --> 01:10:37.920
That is a love language.

1131
01:10:37.960 --> 01:10:40.319
Well, it's just funny coming in like a wrecking ball.

1132
01:10:41.159 --> 01:10:44.560
That's right, big sea's coming in.

1133
01:10:45.239 --> 01:10:48.239
I want to see this if we could remake that

1134
01:10:48.319 --> 01:10:50.119
video with you on the wrecking ball.

1135
01:10:50.239 --> 01:10:50.720
How are you.

1136
01:10:50.840 --> 01:11:01.279
Saying everything where that's the best?

1137
01:11:02.039 --> 01:11:26.399
The fucking like and traps assless, traps.

1138
01:11:16.880 --> 01:11:17.920
Don't say nobody.

1139
01:11:17.960 --> 01:11:19.199
You never know, Corny.

1140
01:11:22.159 --> 01:11:31.600
The cameras you look at the camera like smoking, snap,

1141
01:11:32.680 --> 01:11:33.680
he says, it's smoking.

1142
01:11:37.560 --> 01:11:38.520
Oh my goodness.

1143
01:11:38.960 --> 01:11:43.800
Also bringing toys or different things like there's slavor loves,

1144
01:11:43.880 --> 01:11:50.760
there's massage oils, there's uh fucking creams for edible oral stuff,

1145
01:11:50.880 --> 01:11:56.840
and there's so many things. Yeah, I think I have

1146
01:11:56.880 --> 01:12:04.640
to make a phone call, but it's true. There's just

1147
01:12:04.720 --> 01:12:10.000
a lot of things. And I feel like people like,

1148
01:12:10.359 --> 01:12:15.319
here's the thing I've done, sex toy parties. I've spoken

1149
01:12:15.359 --> 01:12:19.640
with many wives and I don't know, it's disheartening to

1150
01:12:19.680 --> 01:12:22.680
hear women talk about how they don't like sex or

1151
01:12:23.119 --> 01:12:27.479
they don't want sex or whatever. Now there's different things

1152
01:12:27.520 --> 01:12:29.720
about that too, right, I mean, if a woman is

1153
01:12:29.720 --> 01:12:33.720
a menopause, there's a lot of shit going on that's understandable,

1154
01:12:34.479 --> 01:12:39.560
even perimenopause, Like unfortunately, for us, like hormones are just

1155
01:12:39.600 --> 01:12:43.399
fucking with us from forty on, like worse than ever.

1156
01:12:44.000 --> 01:12:49.239
So not everyone has a high libido. But I think

1157
01:12:49.279 --> 01:12:50.760
a lot of the women that have told me that

1158
01:12:50.800 --> 01:12:53.159
they didn't like something is because they haven't found a

1159
01:12:53.159 --> 01:12:56.000
way to do it where was enjoyable for them. Like,

1160
01:12:56.279 --> 01:12:59.439
if you're not making your partner calm, that's a problem.

1161
01:12:59.520 --> 01:13:01.720
You need to learn how to make your partner come

1162
01:13:02.119 --> 01:13:08.119
like And I just feel like that's kind of important

1163
01:13:08.399 --> 01:13:12.840
to have a good sex life, Like we gotta what

1164
01:13:12.920 --> 01:13:14.880
was to say.

1165
01:13:16.000 --> 01:13:20.079
Pre.

1166
01:13:20.199 --> 01:13:23.199
Perry menopause?

1167
01:13:23.479 --> 01:13:29.479
Thank you just say it very good pre menopause.

1168
01:13:29.880 --> 01:13:32.399
It's pre menopause.

1169
01:13:32.640 --> 01:13:39.279
Yeah, like your ten years people basically, yeah, you can't

1170
01:13:39.319 --> 01:13:46.800
have your period for how long? Ten years before they

1171
01:13:46.880 --> 01:13:49.760
call they say you're menopausal.

1172
01:13:50.079 --> 01:13:54.079
And then menopause itself can last another five to ten years.

1173
01:13:54.279 --> 01:13:57.920
And it's literally like the hormones or just completely changed.

1174
01:13:59.800 --> 01:14:06.840
We get like hot flashes, can't sleep or too tired,

1175
01:14:07.359 --> 01:14:10.560
or completely anxiety written, or like it's.

1176
01:14:10.439 --> 01:14:13.680
Just everything feels like sandpaper.

1177
01:14:13.319 --> 01:14:17.840
And it's just it's not good. It's it's just one

1178
01:14:17.840 --> 01:14:18.399
of those things.

1179
01:14:18.520 --> 01:14:22.680
Imagine imagine what what what if your coach felt like sandpaper.

1180
01:14:23.680 --> 01:14:28.680
Then you need to go to a doctor because you

1181
01:14:28.880 --> 01:14:31.199
have an issue. Well, first, let's make sure we don't

1182
01:14:31.239 --> 01:14:34.800
have an STI. And if that's not it, then let's

1183
01:14:34.840 --> 01:14:37.279
make sure we get some good lube. That's all I'm saying.

1184
01:14:37.319 --> 01:14:39.680
That's why there is lub. And don't get ky jelly

1185
01:14:39.680 --> 01:14:41.520
because that's just nasty.

1186
01:14:42.239 --> 01:14:44.880
Oh shit, I got.

1187
01:14:48.640 --> 01:14:51.600
Well, But it is an unfortunate thing, like how men

1188
01:14:52.319 --> 01:14:56.239
how men wind up having a reptile dysfunction, women wind

1189
01:14:56.319 --> 01:15:00.119
up having like a loss of libido and dryness. Like

1190
01:15:00.199 --> 01:15:02.760
it's an unfortunate thing. But it happens to both people.

1191
01:15:02.800 --> 01:15:05.439
But let me tell you something. It must start working

1192
01:15:05.479 --> 01:15:08.640
again at one point, because I know all those retirement holes,

1193
01:15:08.640 --> 01:15:12.640
those old people's getting down and dilreaty with all them. STIs,

1194
01:15:13.079 --> 01:15:15.359
how did we get here? Tanya is here, That's how

1195
01:15:15.399 --> 01:15:16.079
we got here.

1196
01:15:21.560 --> 01:15:24.319
Ship Oh man, he brought.

1197
01:15:24.199 --> 01:15:24.920
Up the questions.

1198
01:15:25.000 --> 01:15:28.560
You want to talk about keeping the sex life everything

1199
01:15:29.039 --> 01:15:32.000
you know, but it is important. I don't think it's

1200
01:15:32.000 --> 01:15:34.920
talk about it enough because it's still taboo to a

1201
01:15:34.920 --> 01:15:35.560
lot of people.

1202
01:15:36.159 --> 01:15:37.560
Yeah, word, that's true.

1203
01:15:39.439 --> 01:15:39.920
Mm hmmm.

1204
01:15:40.319 --> 01:15:42.800
And more power to you want to be celebated, I mean,

1205
01:15:42.920 --> 01:15:44.640
I applaud you I could never.

1206
01:15:46.159 --> 01:15:48.720
Yeah, that's just wild. I mean I think one of

1207
01:15:48.760 --> 01:15:52.319
the one of the biggest things also is the role

1208
01:15:52.319 --> 01:15:56.760
playing thing. Yeah I was. I once told this dude.

1209
01:15:57.039 --> 01:15:58.760
He was like, damn you, I don't know what whoa

1210
01:15:58.880 --> 01:16:00.800
whoa whoa whoa whoa whoa.

1211
01:16:01.279 --> 01:16:01.760
Okay, what.

1212
01:16:05.600 --> 01:16:07.119
You said things important?

1213
01:16:07.159 --> 01:16:08.319
I want to do it.

1214
01:16:08.399 --> 01:16:11.640
I'm like, I'm like, whoa, and you want me to

1215
01:16:11.680 --> 01:16:19.840
say ahead.

1216
01:16:20.760 --> 01:16:22.800
A friend of mine, dude, he was a friend of mine,

1217
01:16:23.520 --> 01:16:25.079
said to me, damn you know me and my girl,

1218
01:16:25.119 --> 01:16:27.680
we have been beefing a lot. You know what I'm saying.

1219
01:16:27.800 --> 01:16:31.800
She's complaining about certain things, and I just don't know

1220
01:16:31.800 --> 01:16:33.359
what to do. Like what do I do? I said,

1221
01:16:33.359 --> 01:16:33.920
you know what you do?

1222
01:16:34.000 --> 01:16:34.159
Bro?

1223
01:16:34.840 --> 01:16:38.359
Why don't you guys go out go out to the bar,

1224
01:16:39.199 --> 01:16:41.720
act like you don't know each other. Every shit on

1225
01:16:41.760 --> 01:16:43.239
the other side of the bar. You should at one

1226
01:16:43.279 --> 01:16:47.439
side of the bar, buy her a drink, wave at her.

1227
01:16:48.199 --> 01:16:49.680
You know what I'm saying, Play it off like you

1228
01:16:49.720 --> 01:16:51.239
don't know each other, walk up to one another, and

1229
01:16:51.960 --> 01:16:55.680
we introduce yourselves to one another, and and and and

1230
01:16:55.760 --> 01:16:58.520
play along, play and play that play that role, you

1231
01:16:58.520 --> 01:16:59.399
know what I'm saying.

1232
01:16:59.199 --> 01:17:02.760
Like or even you know, in the beginning, like when

1233
01:17:02.760 --> 01:17:06.279
people are first talking and shit and they usually get

1234
01:17:06.399 --> 01:17:10.880
very like sexual with stuff, or they'll be like setting

1235
01:17:10.920 --> 01:17:12.039
picks and shit like that.

1236
01:17:12.199 --> 01:17:13.119
Bring that shit back.

1237
01:17:13.840 --> 01:17:15.800
Send a hard dick pic in the middle of the

1238
01:17:15.840 --> 01:17:17.840
day that you're thinking about me.

1239
01:17:17.960 --> 01:17:20.479
That's fucking hot. I don't care what anyone says.

1240
01:17:20.800 --> 01:17:23.840
I am not talking about random big picks being sent

1241
01:17:23.880 --> 01:17:25.600
to me. I'm talking about a person I'm in a

1242
01:17:25.640 --> 01:17:26.479
relationship with.

1243
01:17:27.680 --> 01:17:30.000
But like you know, like.

1244
01:17:32.000 --> 01:17:36.520
The one thing I notice is when someone starts getting

1245
01:17:36.640 --> 01:17:41.399
that attention, that flirty attention from someone, that's when you

1246
01:17:41.479 --> 01:17:45.720
start losing. So be flirty. Continue to be flirty in

1247
01:17:45.760 --> 01:17:51.399
your relationship because it is work. Every relationship is work,

1248
01:17:52.039 --> 01:17:54.800
so you need to put in that work, and that

1249
01:17:55.079 --> 01:17:58.920
is making sure that you're providing and doing your part

1250
01:17:59.079 --> 01:17:59.960
in the relationship.

1251
01:18:00.039 --> 01:18:07.399
It absolutely fuckingly dad, I don't know.

1252
01:18:07.479 --> 01:18:10.159
People just annoy me like it's not that complicated, but

1253
01:18:10.159 --> 01:18:12.000
at the same time it is because.

1254
01:18:11.720 --> 01:18:14.359
But yeah, people people, people look at it. Hold on

1255
01:18:15.079 --> 01:18:17.680
just because said just because you get them doesn't mean

1256
01:18:17.720 --> 01:18:19.239
you should stop dating them.

1257
01:18:20.199 --> 01:18:22.840
Exactly, you don't stop dating them.

1258
01:18:22.920 --> 01:18:26.000
You were still dating That's why I said, it's important

1259
01:18:26.000 --> 01:18:29.279
to still have dates later on in the relationship. Even

1260
01:18:29.359 --> 01:18:32.760
if you're married, you have kids, you definitely should be

1261
01:18:32.800 --> 01:18:35.359
going on dates. You definitely should be were kindling. I

1262
01:18:35.399 --> 01:18:39.479
feel like, uh, that's happened in a lot of relationships too,

1263
01:18:39.760 --> 01:18:43.359
Like people who got married had kids right away, they

1264
01:18:43.439 --> 01:18:46.680
never found out who they were and so like after

1265
01:18:46.720 --> 01:18:49.880
the kids leave, that's that becomes a different time. Now

1266
01:18:50.000 --> 01:18:53.439
the ny nest, you know, it's like figuring out who

1267
01:18:53.520 --> 01:18:56.560
am I and who are you today? And like how

1268
01:18:56.560 --> 01:19:00.279
do we like keep bringing this in together? You know,

1269
01:19:02.840 --> 01:19:08.560
I would be like, oh, I see now, okay. But

1270
01:19:08.680 --> 01:19:11.800
I think that that's a mistake that people make that

1271
01:19:11.920 --> 01:19:15.640
they think that once you got someone, they're yours. No,

1272
01:19:16.119 --> 01:19:19.840
you got to keep them, you know, like you got

1273
01:19:19.840 --> 01:19:23.880
to keep me, Like you can't just just say you

1274
01:19:23.960 --> 01:19:26.520
have me and ignore me like that.

1275
01:19:26.520 --> 01:19:29.119
That's a big that's that's that's a big deal, you

1276
01:19:29.159 --> 01:19:31.960
know what I'm saying, And that's important. Just because you're

1277
01:19:32.000 --> 01:19:38.039
together doesn't mean that you know, right doing nothing, you

1278
01:19:38.079 --> 01:19:39.600
know what I'm saying, We gotta.

1279
01:19:39.399 --> 01:19:41.640
Do ship exactly.

1280
01:19:41.760 --> 01:19:45.960
Also, I think a big teller, like if before you

1281
01:19:46.000 --> 01:19:50.600
get married, for someone who's go on vacation with them

1282
01:19:50.760 --> 01:19:53.680
because when you go on vacation, especially like a little

1283
01:19:53.720 --> 01:19:57.920
road trip, those are the best ones to see like

1284
01:19:58.079 --> 01:20:03.119
how a person is in situations, because when you're out

1285
01:20:03.159 --> 01:20:05.520
and about on a vacation, you don't know what to

1286
01:20:05.600 --> 01:20:11.439
expect necessarily exactly. You could get lost, There's so many

1287
01:20:11.479 --> 01:20:15.000
things that could happen, and how your partner handles things

1288
01:20:15.000 --> 01:20:18.960
with you shows a lot of who they are, and

1289
01:20:19.119 --> 01:20:22.640
that's important because like, if I'm trying to go to Italy,

1290
01:20:23.079 --> 01:20:25.319
you can't be actuit a mess scientist.

1291
01:20:24.920 --> 01:20:25.479
And you're with me.

1292
01:20:29.920 --> 01:20:33.560
Shit right to go to Italy.

1293
01:20:33.640 --> 01:20:36.279
But yeah, I need to renew my passport. I was

1294
01:20:36.479 --> 01:20:40.960
recently told that there might be a Japan next year, so.

1295
01:20:44.680 --> 01:20:46.199
There's so many cool let.

1296
01:20:46.119 --> 01:20:48.520
Me tell you, there's so many cool things in Japan

1297
01:20:49.239 --> 01:20:52.199
that like every time I see ship like on wheels

1298
01:20:52.239 --> 01:20:53.479
and stuff like from.

1299
01:20:53.319 --> 01:20:55.079
Over there, I'm just like, I want to go. I

1300
01:20:55.119 --> 01:20:58.199
want to go so bad. They have such cool shit,

1301
01:20:58.359 --> 01:20:59.000
and they're like.

1302
01:20:59.079 --> 01:21:02.439
The starts knocking ship the fuck down.

1303
01:21:03.159 --> 01:21:08.159
I'm not going to China. Let's I'm not going to China.

1304
01:21:08.600 --> 01:21:10.880
I want to go to you know what city I

1305
01:21:10.960 --> 01:21:12.840
want to go to? And I've seen it on YouTube.

1306
01:21:13.640 --> 01:21:16.840
It's called chang Ching, China. Look it up.

1307
01:21:17.600 --> 01:21:22.239
They got you know, like like like like.

1308
01:21:21.560 --> 01:21:22.399
Like the way they built it.

1309
01:21:22.399 --> 01:21:24.640
They built it literally like it had to be built

1310
01:21:24.680 --> 01:21:27.560
literally inside the mountain or something like not inside the mountain,

1311
01:21:27.600 --> 01:21:30.000
but like on the mountain's edge or whatnot, because like

1312
01:21:30.840 --> 01:21:33.520
you could be on the main floor, right, you know,

1313
01:21:33.880 --> 01:21:36.279
and then it's like the main plaza, but then like you,

1314
01:21:36.720 --> 01:21:40.840
but then like you walk over and there's another street

1315
01:21:40.920 --> 01:21:44.039
like twenty like thirty feet down and there's another plaza,

1316
01:21:44.119 --> 01:21:45.880
like it's weird, and then like you and then like

1317
01:21:45.920 --> 01:21:49.239
they got like monorails going through buildings and all that stuff. Right,

1318
01:21:49.920 --> 01:21:52.239
It's just it's just you know, yo, you know what

1319
01:21:52.840 --> 01:21:55.760
they call it, like the future punk City and whatnot,

1320
01:21:56.000 --> 01:22:01.800
like there's a game. But the only thing I know

1321
01:22:01.840 --> 01:22:04.319
is that since twenty eighty seven at the end of

1322
01:22:04.359 --> 01:22:07.079
the cyberpunk they call it cyberpunk City.

1323
01:22:08.640 --> 01:22:12.279
Because because of the way it looks so And I'm

1324
01:22:12.319 --> 01:22:13.000
gonna go somewhere.

1325
01:22:13.319 --> 01:22:14.159
I'll go over there.

1326
01:22:14.640 --> 01:22:17.960
Japan is the only Asian country I'm interested in listening.

1327
01:22:19.000 --> 01:22:22.039
I got a good question. Yeah, I'll go over there.

1328
01:22:22.319 --> 01:22:24.119
With South Korea, no career.

1329
01:22:24.159 --> 01:22:26.640
I mean maybe South Korea. We can't go to the.

1330
01:22:26.720 --> 01:22:27.560
South Korea.

1331
01:22:29.239 --> 01:22:29.520
China.

1332
01:22:31.359 --> 01:22:35.000
All right, so Korea and Japan. That's it. We we

1333
01:22:35.000 --> 01:22:39.600
we're down to two questions left, all.

1334
01:22:39.600 --> 01:22:40.560
Right, hit it?

1335
01:22:41.079 --> 01:22:50.079
All right? So I genuinely want to know why guys

1336
01:22:50.880 --> 01:22:53.479
staying relationships they're unhappy and.

1337
01:22:55.520 --> 01:23:01.119
Comfort why we spend relationships?

1338
01:23:04.359 --> 01:23:06.439
Yeah, well why why would a dude stay in a

1339
01:23:06.560 --> 01:23:08.560
relationship he's not happy?

1340
01:23:09.279 --> 01:23:10.439
Fear of being alone?

1341
01:23:11.680 --> 01:23:12.079
That's it.

1342
01:23:13.479 --> 01:23:14.680
You're starting all over again.

1343
01:23:15.239 --> 01:23:18.039
Yeah, and some of them they stay for the kids.

1344
01:23:18.399 --> 01:23:18.840
Mm hmm.

1345
01:23:19.079 --> 01:23:26.279
Yeah, the responsibility because yeah.

1346
01:23:25.520 --> 01:23:27.520
All right, that was that that that was that was

1347
01:23:27.560 --> 01:23:31.279
a social question. But I got a better one. Okay,

1348
01:23:31.680 --> 01:23:37.960
all right, all right, relationships, all right, relationships are transactual

1349
01:23:39.039 --> 01:23:43.159
and there's nothing wrong with thinking that way, or is there.

1350
01:23:46.199 --> 01:23:46.439
Yeah?

1351
01:23:46.600 --> 01:23:50.279
No, yeah, because you know what yeah, yeah, and no,

1352
01:23:50.800 --> 01:23:55.640
yeah and no, because like you know, when you're in

1353
01:23:55.640 --> 01:23:58.199
a relationship, you know, like you're buying you know, I'm saying,

1354
01:23:58.199 --> 01:23:59.279
you're buying your partner things, you.

1355
01:23:59.239 --> 01:24:01.600
Know what I'm saying. Can smile, but like it's not

1356
01:24:01.800 --> 01:24:02.279
you know what I'm saying.

1357
01:24:02.319 --> 01:24:04.840
It's not translating, like like you know, it's not transactional

1358
01:24:04.920 --> 01:24:08.279
to you and the other person because you know, you

1359
01:24:08.279 --> 01:24:12.159
guys say together, you know, like so, so that's the

1360
01:24:12.159 --> 01:24:14.000
reason why I say yet and no, because like.

1361
01:24:15.520 --> 01:24:17.279
You know, like money is being spent.

1362
01:24:17.359 --> 01:24:21.840
But however, right, it's not that it's not that transactional

1363
01:24:21.920 --> 01:24:24.239
that you know, like you're internally you're like, all right,

1364
01:24:24.279 --> 01:24:27.359
you know what I'm saying. In other words, I'm gonna

1365
01:24:27.359 --> 01:24:30.560
say it as blunt as I can. You know, when

1366
01:24:30.560 --> 01:24:33.520
it's relationships are transactional is not. It's not that you're

1367
01:24:33.520 --> 01:24:36.239
paying them the fun, you're paying them to leave, you

1368
01:24:36.279 --> 01:24:39.199
know this one. The the other hand, when it's a relationship,

1369
01:24:39.920 --> 01:24:43.720
you know what I'm saying, relationship like you're with them,

1370
01:24:43.880 --> 01:24:46.600
you know, and like and like you know, like the

1371
01:24:46.680 --> 01:24:49.640
transactional part doesn't even count, doesn't even matter because you

1372
01:24:49.680 --> 01:24:52.079
know what, the smile, you know, you know what I'm saying,

1373
01:24:52.079 --> 01:24:54.239
The smile matters, you know what I'm saying.

1374
01:24:55.319 --> 01:24:56.840
Like, you know, like just like you.

1375
01:24:56.840 --> 01:25:00.279
Know you're missing what I think.

1376
01:25:00.680 --> 01:25:01.000
I think.

1377
01:25:01.000 --> 01:25:03.199
I probably am.

1378
01:25:02.560 --> 01:25:09.680
I'm just because I was trans Yeah.

1379
01:25:08.000 --> 01:25:11.479
Transaction is like you give and then I guess and

1380
01:25:11.520 --> 01:25:16.000
then right, it's like I don't think it should be

1381
01:25:16.279 --> 01:25:18.640
like that give give and give and take.

1382
01:25:18.560 --> 01:25:21.479
Like because I do something nice for you doesn't mean

1383
01:25:21.520 --> 01:25:24.760
I expect you to do anything you know to do

1384
01:25:24.840 --> 01:25:27.159
that same thing for me. You know, I do it

1385
01:25:27.159 --> 01:25:30.159
for you because I care and because I love you.

1386
01:25:32.680 --> 01:25:36.319
One thing when I was married was I cooked because

1387
01:25:36.319 --> 01:25:39.439
I enjoy cooking and because I loved him. But I

1388
01:25:39.479 --> 01:25:42.119
also let him know the first time he comes home

1389
01:25:42.760 --> 01:25:47.399
and the question where's my dinner is happens will be

1390
01:25:47.439 --> 01:25:48.520
the last time I cook.

1391
01:25:49.520 --> 01:25:51.399
So it's like, because.

1392
01:25:52.199 --> 01:25:56.279
That's my grandma, I know how to cook. I don't

1393
01:25:56.279 --> 01:25:58.119
need no woman to cook for my ass. I know

1394
01:25:58.119 --> 01:26:00.159
how to cook now and what I can make that

1395
01:26:00.239 --> 01:26:02.840
guy's rights and being on real quick. So let's not

1396
01:26:02.880 --> 01:26:03.960
get a twisted.

1397
01:26:03.640 --> 01:26:10.279
Oh my god, she was talking for yourself about something specific, mister.

1398
01:26:10.680 --> 01:26:16.720
Himself playing I'm just playing go ahead ahead bad So

1399
01:26:16.720 --> 01:26:20.880
so can love? Can love actually be unconditional?

1400
01:26:22.960 --> 01:26:23.680
Why couldn't that?

1401
01:26:24.760 --> 01:26:25.600
But but when.

1402
01:26:25.479 --> 01:26:28.640
You think, there's always some type of a condition.

1403
01:26:28.840 --> 01:26:33.319
Right exactly. But when you put conditions on it, doesn't

1404
01:26:33.319 --> 01:26:35.359
it come contractual? Become contractual?

1405
01:26:35.880 --> 01:26:43.159
No contractual is an agreement love like real love. It's

1406
01:26:43.199 --> 01:26:48.359
it's it's not a contract, it's a covenant. It's a

1407
01:26:49.680 --> 01:26:53.159
it's not an agreement you make, it's a promise, a dedication.

1408
01:26:54.159 --> 01:26:58.960
You know, it's something you do together. Where a transaction

1409
01:26:59.239 --> 01:27:01.920
is again a give and take of paying for a

1410
01:27:01.960 --> 01:27:08.439
service type of thing, a covenant is something else. A

1411
01:27:08.479 --> 01:27:15.520
covenant is an agreement. It's something you do together. A

1412
01:27:15.600 --> 01:27:20.520
contract is an if or type of thing. But when

1413
01:27:20.560 --> 01:27:26.199
I say I'm not sure it can be unconditional, is

1414
01:27:26.279 --> 01:27:29.600
because there is always a condition, you know, like.

1415
01:27:31.760 --> 01:27:32.520
If you cheat.

1416
01:27:32.680 --> 01:27:35.279
How do you love your children unconditionally? But you can't

1417
01:27:35.359 --> 01:27:37.119
love another person unconditionally?

1418
01:27:37.640 --> 01:27:40.800
Well, your children there are no conditions, there is nothing,

1419
01:27:41.079 --> 01:27:43.239
not one thing. They could be murderers and I would

1420
01:27:43.279 --> 01:27:49.840
still love them because they are a physical, biological part

1421
01:27:50.039 --> 01:27:54.520
of me where loving another person can be very deep

1422
01:27:54.640 --> 01:28:00.000
and very very very connected. But there is there's always

1423
01:28:00.319 --> 01:28:04.319
at least one condition that would stop you from loving them.

1424
01:28:05.000 --> 01:28:07.359
Mm hmm okay, I when you say it like that,

1425
01:28:07.760 --> 01:28:09.119
then I understand them part.

1426
01:28:09.800 --> 01:28:13.279
Yeah, all right, that makes sense.

1427
01:28:13.760 --> 01:28:18.880
Yeah, I mean, you know, like I may not my kids,

1428
01:28:18.960 --> 01:28:23.119
but I won't stop loving them.

1429
01:28:23.199 --> 01:28:29.880
Of course, always love your children, you know, like.

1430
01:28:29.680 --> 01:28:32.039
Like especially when it comes to kids, man like like

1431
01:28:32.159 --> 01:28:34.239
like like he said, you know, like.

1432
01:28:36.039 --> 01:28:38.119
Like you know, like my son and my daughter could

1433
01:28:38.119 --> 01:28:42.079
be several killers or whatever, I'm still going to love them,

1434
01:28:42.479 --> 01:28:47.680
you know, but however, I'm not going to you know what,

1435
01:28:47.720 --> 01:28:49.920
I'm not what they have done.

1436
01:28:50.760 --> 01:28:54.760
I'm still don't love them, but don't touch my food.

1437
01:28:58.479 --> 01:29:00.920
You know, Like I'm still going to love you from afar.

1438
01:29:01.239 --> 01:29:05.399
But okay, but that love doesn't go I get it,

1439
01:29:05.439 --> 01:29:07.800
I mean, and it is scary to me, Like when

1440
01:29:07.800 --> 01:29:11.119
I think about that, like loving someone unconditionally or just

1441
01:29:11.159 --> 01:29:15.079
giving that much love to someone. Yeah, because you're right,

1442
01:29:15.239 --> 01:29:19.039
like the minute if something for their curve, if a

1443
01:29:19.119 --> 01:29:24.119
condition comes, I mean, then that's heartbreaking because you it

1444
01:29:24.199 --> 01:29:27.199
is kind I want to give because that for me,

1445
01:29:27.399 --> 01:29:28.319
that's what I want.

1446
01:29:28.399 --> 01:29:29.319
I want to give.

1447
01:29:29.760 --> 01:29:31.479
I want to be able to give all my love

1448
01:29:32.600 --> 01:29:36.800
and wholeheartedly love this person.

1449
01:29:37.479 --> 01:29:40.720
And you can, and you really can. But that's how

1450
01:29:40.760 --> 01:29:43.239
we unfortunately, that's how we get a lot of the

1451
01:29:43.319 --> 01:29:47.520
domestic violent situations is because the whole idea we put

1452
01:29:47.560 --> 01:29:50.840
out there about loving someone unconditionally, and it's like, once

1453
01:29:50.880 --> 01:29:53.159
I commit my life to you, I have to love

1454
01:29:53.199 --> 01:29:58.880
you unconditionally. Well, unfortunately, it's not going to be unconditional

1455
01:29:58.920 --> 01:30:01.880
because the moment you put your hands on me, whether

1456
01:30:01.920 --> 01:30:04.680
I love you or not, I have to walk away

1457
01:30:04.680 --> 01:30:07.039
from that because I'm not gonna love you to the

1458
01:30:07.039 --> 01:30:09.359
detriment of my death right.

1459
01:30:09.439 --> 01:30:13.439
So it's the boundaries. It's like that, but we still

1460
01:30:13.520 --> 01:30:14.640
have those boundaries.

1461
01:30:14.720 --> 01:30:18.000
Yeah, yeah, And unfortunately, I think even if we tried,

1462
01:30:18.039 --> 01:30:19.880
I mean, of course, there are those people out there

1463
01:30:19.920 --> 01:30:23.000
in the world that you know, the ones that end

1464
01:30:23.119 --> 01:30:27.840
up unfortunately killing their children or whatever. So unfortunately there

1465
01:30:27.880 --> 01:30:35.359
are those, But are a parent who is truly a parent,

1466
01:30:37.760 --> 01:30:40.520
you wouldn't be able to. You would not be able

1467
01:30:40.560 --> 01:30:43.880
to put a condition on that love because even if

1468
01:30:43.880 --> 01:30:48.520
you tried, even if you wanted to, your heart's not

1469
01:30:48.560 --> 01:30:51.520
gonna let you. It's not gonna let you.

1470
01:30:51.800 --> 01:30:54.279
I mean, they're like you said, I think the biggest

1471
01:30:54.279 --> 01:30:57.960
component is they are literally a biological part of you. Yeah,

1472
01:30:57.960 --> 01:31:00.960
that is something that you created and brought into this

1473
01:31:01.039 --> 01:31:06.840
world and not change change and like that's a responsibility.

1474
01:31:07.279 --> 01:31:11.960
So yeah, well even I have to say, even my

1475
01:31:12.079 --> 01:31:17.159
older daughter, who is not biologically my child, there is

1476
01:31:17.199 --> 01:31:20.840
no condition. The same goes for her. There's nothing in

1477
01:31:20.880 --> 01:31:24.640
this world that she could do that would make me

1478
01:31:24.760 --> 01:31:28.880
stop loving her again, being a part of her life,

1479
01:31:29.119 --> 01:31:35.239
being present for my granddaughter, like interacting would be different.

1480
01:31:36.079 --> 01:31:39.960
But that love it's from day one, you know, so

1481
01:31:39.479 --> 01:31:41.640
do so by no means does it have to be

1482
01:31:41.720 --> 01:31:45.800
that biological connection, right, it's your role in their life.

1483
01:31:45.800 --> 01:31:49.760
It's it's that they they were given to you, loan

1484
01:31:49.880 --> 01:31:55.439
to you for that care and for that love and

1485
01:31:57.159 --> 01:32:01.479
the really, oh, come one, cor leone, there really really

1486
01:32:01.560 --> 01:32:04.319
is no no love like it.

1487
01:32:04.680 --> 01:32:08.840
There is no love like it. There's no there's no

1488
01:32:09.159 --> 01:32:11.319
greater love than the love of a parent man.

1489
01:32:11.920 --> 01:32:14.119
Just like there's no greater loss than the loss of

1490
01:32:14.119 --> 01:32:14.840
a child.

1491
01:32:16.000 --> 01:32:20.319
M hm or a loss of a symblom.

1492
01:32:20.439 --> 01:32:23.359
I mean, yes, but you're not supposed to lose your

1493
01:32:23.439 --> 01:32:27.159
children like you're.

1494
01:32:26.439 --> 01:32:29.199
You know, you're you're. They're supposed to be burying you,

1495
01:32:29.479 --> 01:32:30.520
not the other way around.

1496
01:32:31.239 --> 01:32:31.479
Yeah.

1497
01:32:31.880 --> 01:32:34.159
I want to be frozen to what the fuck is

1498
01:32:34.159 --> 01:32:37.399
wrong with me? Then that's what I want. Freeze me

1499
01:32:37.640 --> 01:32:39.359
and figure out what's wrong with me, then bring me

1500
01:32:39.399 --> 01:32:41.880
back to life.

1501
01:32:42.640 --> 01:32:44.319
I didn't know you was rolling it dough.

1502
01:32:44.479 --> 01:32:45.760
Wow, Like for real.

1503
01:32:46.119 --> 01:32:48.279
I want to be frozen and then they break you

1504
01:32:48.319 --> 01:32:50.560
apart and then you become part of the ground and

1505
01:32:51.119 --> 01:32:54.000
they put you in like this thing with tree seeds

1506
01:32:54.039 --> 01:32:54.399
and ship.

1507
01:32:54.479 --> 01:32:56.199
If you come back as a tree. I want to

1508
01:32:56.199 --> 01:33:01.720
come back as a tree. No, not compost. It's different.

1509
01:33:03.000 --> 01:33:04.479
Compost is like ship.

1510
01:33:04.600 --> 01:33:06.479
Well, I know, is they better be a millionaire because

1511
01:33:06.479 --> 01:33:12.520
I'm sure that she costs a lot of money.

1512
01:33:11.079 --> 01:33:13.840
Because I have composts in my backyard and there ain't

1513
01:33:13.880 --> 01:33:14.680
no ship in it.

1514
01:33:18.399 --> 01:33:18.720
Business.

1515
01:33:20.520 --> 01:33:21.640
No, it's pure.

1516
01:33:23.279 --> 01:33:23.920
Leaves.

1517
01:33:24.239 --> 01:33:27.239
Oh no, compost like that is different, Like you're talking

1518
01:33:27.239 --> 01:33:31.800
about like talking about fertilizer, talking about like cow poop

1519
01:33:31.880 --> 01:33:33.000
that they use over here.

1520
01:33:33.319 --> 01:33:40.000
Yeah, fertilizer. It's cow ship. It's so bad.

1521
01:33:40.079 --> 01:33:40.319
Guys.

1522
01:33:42.960 --> 01:33:48.680
Hey, you know what what that was.

1523
01:33:48.680 --> 01:33:49.279
A good question?

1524
01:33:50.840 --> 01:33:51.399
Is it anymore?

1525
01:33:51.399 --> 01:33:55.239
Else? It anymore?

1526
01:33:54.479 --> 01:33:55.960
We are done?

1527
01:33:56.640 --> 01:33:58.479
We hit it. We did it.

1528
01:34:00.920 --> 01:34:05.479
Hey, I podcast for being late. It was watching Majana.

1529
01:34:05.560 --> 01:34:07.920
She couldn't, like, you know, fall asleep, so I had

1530
01:34:07.960 --> 01:34:09.159
to like sing, hope, I.

1531
01:34:09.159 --> 01:34:11.479
Hope it wasn't. The second one. The second one is trash.

1532
01:34:12.079 --> 01:34:15.720
Oh wow, now now now we like that.

1533
01:34:17.520 --> 01:34:19.319
I didn't even see the second one.

1534
01:34:19.640 --> 01:34:21.159
The second one is gotbage.

1535
01:34:21.760 --> 01:34:27.880
Keep singing along with the song. She's like like there,

1536
01:34:27.920 --> 01:34:29.680
like you know, a couple of days ago, she was

1537
01:34:29.720 --> 01:34:34.239
like that, daddy, daddy, I'm like I cried, I ain't

1538
01:34:34.239 --> 01:34:35.119
gonna lie man.

1539
01:34:39.079 --> 01:34:42.680
All right, passed her bedtime keeping people up. That's right.

1540
01:34:42.840 --> 01:34:51.239
Well, that's yeah, no being involved. Yeah. Anyway, with that

1541
01:34:51.279 --> 01:34:57.319
being said, we're good.

1542
01:34:58.359 --> 01:35:01.000
Let's just say one quick thing because you do have

1543
01:35:01.079 --> 01:35:08.119
the hotline underneath. It is suicide Prevention month, and given

1544
01:35:08.199 --> 01:35:14.960
the climate of the world right now, it is very easy,

1545
01:35:15.319 --> 01:35:19.560
I feel at this time to kind of get wrapped.

1546
01:35:19.279 --> 01:35:21.119
Into all of this.

1547
01:35:23.439 --> 01:35:28.560
People who have mental health issues with like depression, anxiety

1548
01:35:28.560 --> 01:35:32.239
and PTSD, this is a very difficult time, very understanding.

1549
01:35:33.279 --> 01:35:36.600
But know that you have people out here that support you.

1550
01:35:36.600 --> 01:35:39.239
You have people out here who love you, who want you,

1551
01:35:41.000 --> 01:35:43.600
and if you ever feel like you need to talk

1552
01:35:43.640 --> 01:35:49.800
to somebody, please do Corleone always shares the hot line

1553
01:35:49.880 --> 01:35:55.359
number underneath, and I think it's important that we utilize

1554
01:35:55.399 --> 01:35:58.800
the resources that we still do have while we have them.

1555
01:35:59.119 --> 01:36:02.439
And just know that you have.

1556
01:36:02.479 --> 01:36:07.279
Friends here and we love you and we want you

1557
01:36:07.359 --> 01:36:12.000
to stay. So if you are feeling some kind of way,

1558
01:36:12.239 --> 01:36:15.600
please talk to someone, because you deserve to be here.

1559
01:36:19.439 --> 01:36:26.319
Oh French, all of a sudden we be nonplay.

1560
01:36:27.880 --> 01:36:32.479
Yeah all right, yeah, absolutely, so it's very nice.

1561
01:36:32.520 --> 01:36:33.399
Thank you, Jessica.

1562
01:36:35.119 --> 01:36:39.079
So you have people offering to be, you know, someone

1563
01:36:39.159 --> 01:36:42.079
to listen to, and I think that you know if

1564
01:36:42.119 --> 01:36:45.479
we can't go to therapy, which sucks because I miss it,

1565
01:36:45.920 --> 01:36:49.520
but I think therapy is a great, great, great resourced

1566
01:36:49.560 --> 01:36:55.640
outlet that everyone should really take advantage of. And if not,

1567
01:36:55.960 --> 01:36:58.640
just make sure you have someone that you can talk to.

1568
01:36:59.279 --> 01:37:02.880
Sometimes it's just even if somebody on Facebook Messenger and

1569
01:37:02.920 --> 01:37:05.399
you want to shoot the ship, like you know, it's

1570
01:37:05.439 --> 01:37:08.720
something you know, because sometimes that's what we need. We

1571
01:37:08.840 --> 01:37:11.479
just we need a little laugh. We need we need

1572
01:37:11.520 --> 01:37:15.119
to be reminded that you know we're loved, were cared for,

1573
01:37:15.359 --> 01:37:18.760
or that you know people want us to be here.

1574
01:37:19.279 --> 01:37:20.520
And I think that's important.

1575
01:37:21.680 --> 01:37:26.920
Yes, it is most definitely great message, great message, we appreciate.

1576
01:37:28.279 --> 01:37:31.600
We appreciate you because we got a lot of emotional

1577
01:37:32.399 --> 01:37:38.000
damage going emotion damage, just.

1578
01:37:37.880 --> 01:37:40.880
A lot right now. So I get it.

1579
01:37:40.920 --> 01:37:44.279
I mean I feel it too, uh like I said

1580
01:37:44.520 --> 01:37:47.000
when we first got on, like I really do. I

1581
01:37:47.039 --> 01:37:49.199
have a hard time getting up. Sometimes I find myself

1582
01:37:49.239 --> 01:37:54.479
crying more. And because I'm an mpath so I really

1583
01:37:54.520 --> 01:37:57.960
do feel things like I don't have kids and my

1584
01:37:58.000 --> 01:38:02.600
heart is breaking for parents. So like I I'm just

1585
01:38:02.720 --> 01:38:07.039
able to relate. I'm able to feel ship and sympathize.

1586
01:38:07.720 --> 01:38:12.319
So like for all those mpets out there. I'm with you, Like,

1587
01:38:12.560 --> 01:38:15.840
shit is hard, uh, you know, but it's also good

1588
01:38:15.880 --> 01:38:18.319
to have other hobbies and ship and get off of

1589
01:38:18.399 --> 01:38:23.079
social media sometimes. I think that's a huge thing. Go outside,

1590
01:38:23.159 --> 01:38:26.279
get some fresh air because it's been really nice out.

1591
01:38:26.399 --> 01:38:30.479
The weather is changing. Go to a park, Go find

1592
01:38:30.520 --> 01:38:32.680
some fucking leaves that are changing color.

1593
01:38:32.840 --> 01:38:34.199
I don't know, but like.

1594
01:38:36.319 --> 01:38:39.039
Change the color around you. There's not changed color around

1595
01:38:39.479 --> 01:38:40.479
up around here yet.

1596
01:38:42.039 --> 01:38:45.640
Well some some of it is is not a lot,

1597
01:38:46.239 --> 01:38:48.119
but there are some words that have changed.

1598
01:38:48.640 --> 01:38:51.800
You know, what if you know what if holding on

1599
01:38:51.800 --> 01:38:54.600
the drava to them woodburry around their bear mountains.

1600
01:38:55.399 --> 01:38:58.560
Yes, the leaves are definitely changing, but I guess.

1601
01:38:58.399 --> 01:39:02.079
Up north it's a little cool, like automatically cooler or whatever.

1602
01:39:02.239 --> 01:39:05.119
But yeah, like you know, that's what it's coming down, like,

1603
01:39:05.119 --> 01:39:08.439
like the leaves around here don't chance until I'm like

1604
01:39:08.520 --> 01:39:11.119
probably beginning to miss October.

1605
01:39:12.039 --> 01:39:15.119
Yeah no, so it will be because before you know it,

1606
01:39:15.119 --> 01:39:17.399
it will be like did we have fall and then

1607
01:39:17.399 --> 01:39:20.600
it's winter. So hopefully that doesn't happen this season. I

1608
01:39:20.600 --> 01:39:24.119
will like fall, like it's kind of feeling like it is,

1609
01:39:24.239 --> 01:39:26.279
like I don't know about you, guys, over here, it's

1610
01:39:26.279 --> 01:39:29.319
been kind of like sixty seven seventy. It's really nice,

1611
01:39:29.960 --> 01:39:32.239
except we have like one day it's really hot or

1612
01:39:32.399 --> 01:39:33.880
like it's pouring another day.

1613
01:39:33.960 --> 01:39:37.359
So not like over here, but like.

1614
01:39:38.239 --> 01:39:42.680
Hey, in North Carolina, the leaves only changed for one day.

1615
01:39:43.720 --> 01:39:46.079
Serious, it's crazy.

1616
01:39:46.960 --> 01:39:48.359
You look.

1617
01:39:49.239 --> 01:39:51.119
Damn, that's weird.

1618
01:39:51.199 --> 01:39:53.359
I could see I could have lived down there.

1619
01:39:54.399 --> 01:39:59.319
Well with all that being said, man, yes, I want

1620
01:39:59.319 --> 01:40:02.920
to thank everybody for being here tonight. Yeah, we're fallmed

1621
01:40:03.000 --> 01:40:06.479
vulture on tonight without the fifth piece. We well, well

1622
01:40:06.479 --> 01:40:08.039
that will don't have to worry about that. We we

1623
01:40:08.039 --> 01:40:11.159
we got four piece, four piece chicken up at meal right.

1624
01:40:11.000 --> 01:40:19.439
Here, talking about just make me I know right, so

1625
01:40:19.720 --> 01:40:20.319
much right now.

1626
01:40:20.680 --> 01:40:23.520
But thanks, thanks for coming through everybody, Thanks for all

1627
01:40:23.520 --> 01:40:27.960
the fans listening, watching, talking, getting involved. We appreciate you.

1628
01:40:28.600 --> 01:40:32.479
Good Night everybody, and and always remember, always keep in

1629
01:40:32.520 --> 01:40:35.039
mind because when we talk ship, we talked ship. We

1630
01:40:35.079 --> 01:40:36.920
got something to say, we got something to say. You

1631
01:40:36.960 --> 01:40:39.880
want to listen, We want to listen. Listen. So that

1632
01:40:40.000 --> 01:40:43.399
being said, I always remember that at some point this

1633
01:40:45.840 --> 01:40:49.039
good night, everybody, night