Pre-Thanksgiving Shenanigans '25 (Recorded LIVE On 11-26-25)

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1:35 So, what's up everybody? This is Big holdly On hosted this My HERD podcast coming to you live from from wherever you want us to be live from. You know how it is. Let me bring in my lovely co host, Lady G. Lady G was good. Hey, what's going on? Happy Thanksgiving? Happy Thanksgiving? To YouTube? How is your week? It was great? It was a short week. Yeah right, it's pretty short. So now that the holiday season is in full swing, now that I guess everybody's out there cooking and preparing for tomorrow, and you know, everybody's gonna be with whoever they're gonna be with, So blessings everybody out there for the holiday, and you know it's it's gonna be a day, a day of football, stranger things and who you can't argue with that food, family, and football, the three f's, you know what I mean.

3:02 So so let's uh, let's tackle what it is your family traditions are for this holiday or matter of fact, you know what, let's not even talk about current family traditions. What are the traditions you remember growing up that you shared with your family? Me, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. Well. For the longest time. We are all used together at my aunt's house. She lived on a farm, and we would all go over there. You know, but people and you know, people in the family start passing away and and then you realize they were actually the glue that held everything together. So unfortunately, as we lost like my mom, my grandparents, those traditions started to dwindle. But that's what we did for the longest time. You know, we all gathered at my aunt's house together as a family. You know.

4:23 We had the kids table, the adults table. We played board games, the guys will watch football. Yeah, yeah, that's that's That's pretty much how I remember it growing up. You know, we had Thanksgiving at grandma's house. You know, everybody would go there. The kids will be running around, Grandma still be you know, cooking her food, and we'll sit there, we'll eat, you know, the guys are watching the football games, kids are running around acting crazy. Grandmother's smacking to shatter everybody like chill out, you know.

5:04 But then after she passed away, like you said, you know, sometimes family tends to you know, scatter and do their own thing. Then once once my mom passed away, it was it was like a free for all, everybody just ran off, and you know, it's just how it was so to me. To me, it's not it's not really you know, hello, Heather, how are you Nowadays? It's a lot different because you don't have that family unity much anymore.

5:49 Yeah, And I think that's all around the board. Yeah, I think it's I think it's just that everybody grows, families grow, and you grow apart sometimes, you know, And that's the thing that that that really that sucks about it because I grew up having and spending these holidays with my cousins, you know, and it's it's not like that anymore. No. Yeah, if you grow, your cousins grow, they have their own families, they start their own traditions, you know, and things just that don't they don't. It's just not the same anymore.

6:38 And I think, you know, social media and telephones kind of played into that as well, because people don't interact the way they used to, and because you know, now we're in this cancer culture. You know, when people disagree, they don't work things out anymore. They just tend to not show up. So people stop talking to each other and they and then you know, again because of the social media era and the cancel culture. Nowadays, they rarely ever get back together.

7:19 Yeah, I think. I think also it has to do, like what you said, a lot with with with family drama. But the thing is, there's always been family drama. Actually, once upon a time, it wasn't a family holiday unless someone got into a fight, somebody had an argument, somebody said something out of pocket. But it was like you dealt with it at the time and you moved on, you know. But it's it's not like that anymore. People, people you know, get so sensitive they allow it to ruin you know, the rest of the year lives. And it wasn't always like that. People would get mad, they do what they gotta do for a little bit, and then they come back together. I was talking to my father recently and we were talking about stuff just like that.

8:15 You know, even if you didn't like each other, you were always family. You were always made to connect, made to be together, even if you weren't getting along at the time. You know, you still did it for the sake of family, you know, because it's what you do. But anymore, it's it's not it's not. Yeah, and it's it's it's it's kind of like like I remember growing up, Thanksgiving morning, me and a bunch of guys get together.

8:58 Go play football, Herkey Bowl football. Can't you know that that was a tradition growing up as a kid. We go play things Giving Day football at the field. Then after that we come home, shower, you know what I'm saying, get dressed, and go where we had to go, go to where the family we were going to if we weren't staying at home and my mom was doing something at home. And then after that, after eating, they'd be the Godzilla marathon on Channel five, you know, and then we're watching Godzilla all damn day. So you know, it's it's hard. It's really hard for some people who don't have you know, much family left, you know. And then to all you people out there listening that that are going to be either alone or you know, just don't have the family connections that you used to have, you're not alone, you know what I'm saying. Just keep in mind that, you know, it's not it's not your fault.

10:05 It's you know, people just don't want to get together no more. You know. Well, I mean I look at even me this well, it's been this way as long as I can remember. Now, you know, my daughter, I still have to alternate holidays with her father, you know, and this year I have her for Thanksgiving, but it's it's just me and her. You know. I used to have Thanksgiving here at my house, but stop, people stop coming. So now you know, I'm actually cooking, but I'm cooking for two people. Yeah, so there is no family, there is no friends, There's just me and her.

10:59 Damn. Yeah. But you know, you just have to you have to remain happy and enjoy what you have and the time. And you know, I'm happy. It's gonna be me and her. We're still gonna have you know, our traditional food, and and we're gonna be eating it. Yeah, we're gonna be freezing it because we're gonna be eating it for a long time. But you know, we still you know, this is my family now, this is what it consists of. And so that's good, you know. Yeah, Yeah, I know I'm gonna be I'm gonna be very honest. I'm gonna be very fucking straight up and honest here. I'm you know what, I'm spending Thanksgiving with.

11:50 Your dog, my dog, with your daughter, me with mine. You know what I'm saying me and Ivy. She's looking at me right now, like what are you talking about? Bro? But me and I you're gonna be chilling tomorrow. I'm I'm I'm gonna cook some food and I'm just gonna, you know, do what I do, food, Ivy and football, you know what I mean. Yeah, it's it is. It is what it is, you know. Like like I like, I think about it, and I'm not mad. I'm not upset, you know, because, like I said, everybody grows and builds that has their family and they build their own traditions.

12:43 So I can't. I can't be upset, you know. But you know, yeah, you know, let me see. Heather says she will be in Alaska chilling in her truck the brass Brass, And I said, I said, Nebraska, right, Alaska, Nebraska. She'll be in Nebraska telling her truck. Oh she was on she'd be on the road. She's a truck driver ship. So yeah, it's it's tough, but you know, it is what it is, you know what I mean. So now to get off the topic of that, To get off that topic, I have an email here from someone and I'm gonna let me fold this because the lights are going through it, let me fold it up. The don't have to flip it when I'm done with that line.

13:43 All right, first email the night. My name is NICKI dill Pickle, now just kidding, it's just Nick. I'm forty five. I have a question and also need some advice. I'm on a dating app and I think I'm fair. I think I'm a fairly handsome guy. And every so often I get a couple likes. But when I do, I like to chat with those that send them, so or some reply, but most don't. I don't get why they send likes if they're not going to reply. But anyway, the ones that do reply I tend to chat with, and then some of them fall off and fade for some reason. So I started, all right, So I started chatting with this woman who seemed to be into me.

14:41 We exchange numbers and continue to text and have some phone conversations. We even video chatted once or twice. She lives about an hour from me. We seem to be getting along, but now I'm noticing a shift. Less texts, won't commit to seeing no, won't commit to setting a day to meet, and never knows when she has off of work. I sent a text yesterday evening and a couple of times today and have yet to get a reply. First off, I hope she's okay, But you're telling me that she hasn't used her phone since yesterday. I'm not an idiot. I know that in this age of social media, women have their phone in hand often. I think she's an attractive woman, and I think we clicked. But now I don't know what the deal is. Should I just stop texting and move on, or should I try once more to reach out. I would like a guy's as well as a woman's perspective on this. You guys and girls are great, by the way, Thanks Nick. Right, Yeah, so off with the woman's perspective, because he's texting a woman and she's not applying. What do you think about what he said?

16:06 All right? So I can really only speak about my experiences and what I think. Again, this day and age, we've made things less meaningful, right, So everything is very liais a fair very casual. So women have gotten into the habit because they often get hurt, you know, in these situations. So a lot of women have learned to match energies, right, So, and and people are very different now than they used to be because there's not that connection.

16:53 So personally, it depends on how the conversation's going. I mean, if the conversation you talk every day, but it's Hi, how you doing, good morning, what are you up to today? After a while, for certain people, that gets old. You know, if you guys aren't really having a conversation about anything, then that one is a sign. Two, you know, what is the energy? You know, because the truth of the matter is, men are naturally hunters and gatherers. So whether guys these days like it or not, they're really supposed to not supposed to, but they're really natural pursuers. You know, they see something they like, they're hunting, so they go after that, right and and women, you know, are supposed to kind of make like meet you there, kind of match your energy. So me personally, I'm a little bit more old school. You know, we don't talk a whole lot, but most of you know that. You know, I'm a woman of faith, and so in my way of living, I've spent so much time being the person in charge, the one making decisions, the one initiating things, that I really am trying to get back to basics. So when I connect with somebody online. Now, mind you, people are

18:27 liking left and right, and I totally understand, and they're doing it based on what people look like. People aren't even reading each other's profiles, so they're just swiping left and right based on what the person looks like. If they're finding attraction to the physical attributes, then they're reaching out, you know. So it should be a natural you like me, So now I decide either I'm going to like you back or I'm going to write to you, right, But it should be a back and forth type of thing. But also if it's not an engaging conversation for one party, then that conversation is going to fall off. A good example, I was texting somebody back and forth and then it was just kind of like every couple days he'd hit me back. So in my mind, I'm like, okay, so this is gonna be every couple days type of thing.

19:22 It's not even gonna be a daily thing. I guess whenever he got a chance. So it's like the longer you make a woman wait, the less interest it should becomes. So I got it in my head like, Okay, this is going to be every couple days already I know that in a relationship that's not what I want. So I've already made up my mind that even if me and this guy are friendly or we get along, it's not going to really be much of anything. It's not gonna develop into anything, because that's not what I'm looking for. I'm not looking for me. If somebody can go twenty four hours without having a conversation with me or hearing my voice or talking, then to me that that makes me feel like, Okay, well, then you're not really interested.

20:14 Because when a man is interested in somebody, they're going to make sure that they talk on a daily basis because they want to know what's going on with you, you know, so they are going to do that pursuing thing. So then finally, after like months of the random conversations, he finally asks for phone numbers. So I give the phone number, because I mean, at least now I know him well enough to know that he's not a danger. But then what happened. But then what happens on the phone conversation is every other word that came out of his mouth was cursing and to me, like and when we were writing each other, not once did he do that.

20:55 But now we're having these conversations and this foul language is just shooting off everywhere. So for me, it took me a little bit further away from the possibility because it's like, that's not something I want in my life. And I'm a very straightforward type of person, very I don't try to hurt people or do any of that kind of stuff. But I do let people know if I don't feel like this is something, you know, that I'll move forward or things like that. You know, and I make it very clear that you know, you seem like a nice person, and I think we can be good friends, but I don't see this turning into anything more than just this. And believe it or not, the more people who do that, the less time you're wasting.

21:44 But again, we have made dating and love and intimacy and sex. We've made it so casual that now you can just go to the corner and find all of those things. Well, I'm not going to want to look for a sushia, so I don't do that. But that's you, that's not that's not a majority of the people. That's not a majority, and and and that's you know what Corleone that's probably why we are still single, because we. Don't go to the corner looking for sushias. And because again I was actually talking to somebody about this, we have a different level of standard, right, So we've spent so much time learning and getting hurt and learning lessons and all these things that finally, you know, we start doing this work on ourselves and hopefully, you know, everybody gets to a point where they realize who they are, what they want, what they don't want. Right. The problem is even culturally people I can only really speak for Latino men. You know, in our culture, for so long, the idea of a partner had nothing to do with love.

23:05 It was about not being alone. Not you know, Latin men, hardly ever do you find them not living with someone, not in a relationship with somebody, not married to somebody. Like sometimes men just don't know how to be alone. And some women too, There are people women too, But people have got this in their mind that they can't be by themselves. And so while you're not spending time with yourself, you're not learning about yourself. You're failing to be self aware, you're failing to learn your strengths, your weaknesses and what you actually bring to the table for somebody.

23:49 So unless you can take that opportunity to do work on yourself, how can I be good for somebody else If I don't even know how to be good for myself, If I don't even know myself, how am I going to be able to tell somebody? You know, this is these are my expectations, these are my needs, and these are my wants, right, because those are three different things. If I don't spend that time figuring that out for me, how am I going to be able to give that to somebody else? So, you know, I talk a lot about how people always calling me too much, right, And the truth is, you know what, Actually it was a conversation I was having with my youngest daughter when I asked her, I said, am I asking for too much?

24:37 And She's like yeah, And then so I had to think about that for a second. I'm like, really, because in my eyes, I'm actually just asking for the bear, you know, like the she don't seem to think so the basic think so what she don't seem to think you're asking for a little bit. I don't either. I'm asking for basic, right, I'm asking for basic. But as I was talking to my daughter. She clarified it for me. She said, no, Mom, I don't think you're asking for too much. In general. What I think is the people that you're meeting, or the people that are attracted to you, don't have that capacity. You're asking too much from them because you're asking for something that they can't give you.

25:25 So for them, it's too much, she said. But in general, no, I think you're asking bare minimum. And so I thought about that and I was like, you know what I am. So that kind of solidified my thing because I have a certain standard, right And the funny thing is the more you respect and care for yourself, the less you're gonna put up with other people's junk. The Shenanigans, Yes, the Shenanigans. You are just not gonna put up with somebody who values you less than you value yourself. Right, really, really quick, before you continue, I just want to just say happy Thanksgiving and hi to Amanda, because she said she hopes you have a great Thanksgiving.

26:12 Amanda, you too. And then Jessica said, hey, big c lady, g what's up? I waved, say, what's up? How you doing? How you've been? Everything's cool? And we got one of the message there's nothing on it, and then this one you're asking the wrong one for the right things. Mm hmm, yeah, exactly. You can go get I'm sorry about that, just one of the That's okay. Because see I'm I can't see that little writing, you can. Yeah. So yeah, So it's like basic, basic is look at what you're bringing to the table, right, And and I'm talking basic like before, like a long time ago, we talked about basic needs. How do you how do you expect to feel safe and secure when your basic needs of like sustenance, roof over your head, and safety are not happening. Right, So, if you don't have a safe place to lay your head, if you are not able to feed yourself every day, if you're lacking the basic needs and necessities, you can't go up to that higher level of Now let's talk about safety and security. Now let's talk about self respect. If you don't even have the basic needs and that, how are you gonna go up? Right? So, for me, the basic is I know what I have done in my life to get where I am right and so that needs. So that means at a minimum,

27:45 anybody that I'm going to let into my life or even to approach me to go on a date. One You do have to have a vehicle, why because I have one. You have to have a job, Why because I have one. You have to have a place to live, Why because I do? Now, the preference is because everybody has different circumstances, so you can't really judge, you know, until you know the circumstances. But even as a single parent who struggles have my head above water. I still have my own home. I'm not living with five six different people. My mother has been passed away for twenty something years, so there's no mom, no grandma. There is nobody in my life to live with. So I have to either find a way to make it on my own or be homeless. Right. So the thing is, people don't work on themselves just to not have the same thing offered to them, right, So we don't have to be the same, but we at least have to come with the same type of tools, because how do you actually build on something if you come with no foundation?

29:03 Mm hmm you know, so, how can I say, it was just said one more. Time, how can you build something if both of you don't come with a foundation. Right. So, with that being said, what if the foundation needs to be built together? But see, well, depending on your age, if you're in your twenties, I can say wholeheartedly yes, but at yours and my age, cordleone, you have to have your own foundation, right, we can build something together. But how are we gonna build something together if I'm the only one that comes with a foundation and you're just coming, you know, with sand like that? That doesn't mix, you know, because sand?

29:56 I mean, so you can build a foundation with sand. If not, if mine's made of rock. I get it. I'm just trying to make. It like yeah, but. Look at what Courtney says real quick, I think it goes to what you were saying about energy. No, you can't read it. I can't read it. It's too so all. Right, So many people are trying to find the ideal match, but aren't willing to put in the work to match the energy of the people they are trying to. Date exactly exactly. People are asking for loyalty, honesty, effort, affection, right, but they themselves are not willing to give that. They want all of these things for them, but they're not putting in the work to actually be that for somebody else.

30:50 And that's the thing. When you think about what am I looking for, you also have to ask yourself, do I also provide that? Right? So we're going to go back to the age old. Lately, what's been happening about men talking about women being in their masculine energy and you know, more men acting like women, right, because everybody's trying to one up each other. Right at the end of the day, like I said at the beginning of this conversation. Will to give what you want to take, and you. Also and if you're asking for something, you also have to be willing to accept what comes with that. So how do you want a strong woman? But don't expect her to have a strong character, because what builds strong people is pain, experience. Laws, That's what builds strong people is failure that they have had to come overcome time and time again. Because if you never fail, you never grow.

32:03 And because people get hurt one time nowadays and then all of a sudden they want to give up forever. They're robbing themselves of the opportunity to find exactly what it is that is meant for them. And the thing is, ha ha I hear you, Courtney. Yeah, So it's like, if I'm asking for certain things from a man, I also have to be willing to match that. Right. So, like I said, I have a strong character. You know, I've heard time and time again that I am emotionally intense.

32:45 Now the emotionally intense is more like a passion, right, because I guess I could be considered a serious person. But people want to go through life on the surface. They don't want to have the hard conversations because they're uncomfortable, and that's where we go wrong. Now, what what do the hard conversations usually consist of? Okay, those hard conversations are how do you spend money? How? What what is your what are your values? How do you see raising kids? Or if you had at our age, if you have grown kids, what is your view of how how much you help your grown kids? Because there are some people who are like, oh, my grown child can come back home and live with me as long as you know, if they're trying to get their life together, right, But are you enabling them or are you just helping them? Right?

33:50 Because how do you how do you expect somebody comes into your life and you guys, get married, you live together, whatever, whatever it may be. This person is here with you, and everything has to be communication. But if you're someone who is always going to allow everybody to move in with you, how much time are you actually gonna have with your significant other if all you do is help everybody else? Right? So, you know, so it's like you got to decide where your things are. But these hard conversations are the conversations about what is your history? You know, like do you come from a background of abuse? Do you come from a background of need? Do you not that they should be bringing all of those unhealed baggages with them, But all of us come with baggage. All of us have history, and it's not okay to expect that somebody is not going to struggle with their past experiences because a lot of us know we carry those things in us. Now. It's okay to remember them, we just can't live there. Right. So are you healed from the things that you've came from?

35:13 Right? And if you're healed, it doesn't change that these things were still your experiences. But you want to have a partner who's going to understand that and do the best they can. They can't solve it for you, They can't heal it for you. You have to heal it yourself, but they can support you while you're doing that, right, But we don't do that. We do this trauma bonding thing. So it's like, oh, well, they know what I went through and they kind of went through the same thing. Yes, but you might be healed and they're not. So what's gonna end up happening is that person's going to drag you back to your past and start triggering you all the time, and then it just becomes this toxic, you know, back and forth type of relationship. You or I, or if you're lucky, you'll rub off on them with the healing and they'll want and try to get better. If you're lucky, Yeah, if you're lucky in a perfect world that we don't live in, you know that, then that's what's going to happen. But I think that's why people see me as too much. And I'm okay with that because I've done the work on myself. By no means am I perfect, not at all. I'm far from it.

36:28 But I am open to learning new things. I am open to hearing other people's point of view. I'm open to criticism. Right, it's got to be constructive. So don't just come at don't just come at me with the problem, but let's come up with a solution or offer me a solution. Right. So I'm always open to hearing, always, and I'm open to hearing how what I'm doing or saying affects other people because I can respect other people's feelings. I can agree to disa But we've stopped everybody's about themselves now, right, So it's like, well, if it doesn't match me, then I don't want it. Right. So, like our listeners said, we stopped trying to do the work that it takes because no relationship is perfect and anything worth having requires work to achieve it and to maintain it.

37:27 Courtney said, if you're if you're too much, and they can go find less. I said that. I said that, Yeah, I said that a while ago, because when they do tell me that, I'm like, you know what, I and I say that I have too much. So you can go ahead and find less for yourself because I have hurt, healed, hurt healed, come through it all, you know. And again, my faith is what helps me to continue to be the strong woman and that I am. So I refuse, I refuse especially because I'm only asking for bare minimum to begin with, and the bare minimum is honesty, respect, transparency, you know, just just the basic what the basic standards people should have, Like, I'm not going to just sit around and keep accepting the fact that you're not a person of your words, you know. Like again, I used to think I was the problem until I realized no, I just did the healing, and those people are not healed yet. They're not ready yet.

38:43 They want everybody wants the side piece, they want the easy thing. Well, I don't want what's easy because I want something that lasts. So that means I'm going to take my time. I'm going to put in the work that's necessary. I'm gonna hope that they want the same thing, and I'm gonna be patient because the truth is I can do bad all by myself. So if I don't take my time, if I don't get to know somebody first, rushing into it is not gonna help me. It's not gonna help them, and it might put me in a worse situation. People are not being smart just because they're lonely, you know, and loneliness motivates people to get themselves into these situationships, and honestly, to me, it's not worth it.

39:33 It's not worth it. You know, I was married sixteen years emotionally, physically, I'd say even financially, other than the fact that I don't have the other income, I'm doing better on my own than I ever did when I was married, and and I have one third the money I had when I was made. It's about what I'm doing to help build myself, to help myself be worthy of somebody that I want in my life.

40:13 Courtney says, it gets hard being patient. Oh, I know, it's so. It's been six years for me, Courtney, six years I've been on my own, and it not one day has been easy. So I truly understand. I understand. But again, as lonely as it is right, lonely passes chaos and trauma, don't I would rather be lonely and happy and at peace than to be constantly fighting with someone feel like I'm less than struggle taking care of somebody else that's supposed to want to be taken care of me. So you know, in reality, I don't need anyone to take care of me. But as a woman, as the woman that I am, I want somebody who wants to take care of me. There are just these natural ways that men and women are and we need to get back to those basics. I'm not talking about gender roles or any of that. Again. Men are solution focused hunters and gatherers. They go after what they want and I have seen that proven time and time again.

41:40 Women are nurturers. Women are detail oriented. We need to know when, where, why, and how of things. We need to have the details. We need to you know, have explanations. You know. Not every woman's like that, but we're the nurturers. You give us something, multiply it. The man brings home the money, we use it to. Go do your nails and toe. And no, no, no, no, no, no not no. I'm just I hope you're just playing, because that would be a very you know. Yah, I'm just goofing. I know, I know what, I know what's going on. Yeah, that should be the extra that should be You do that because you want to do.

42:23 That for her, right, you wouldn't have you wouldn't have to go to a uh nail salon. I do that in the crib all by myself. Yeah, okay, I don't think so. No, but It's like you love a woman, she multiplies that love. You know, you you you provide the woman in a house, she makes it a home. You give her love, she turns it into you know, nurturing and caring. You you bring home the money and and and the woman go shopping and brings food, right, bring you bring food, she makes a meal. You know, like, these are not the expectations.

43:09 These are just naturally what women do. And when a woman feels safe, secure, love intimacy other than just physical sex, you would be surprised at how open she becomes, how loving and accepting and caring she can be. But when we're constantly having to do for ourselves, pay our own bills, get our own nails done, get our own hair done, cut our own grass, clean our own house, like, do all these things, then what do we need the guy for if he's not willing to do any of these things?

43:55 You're right? Is she a dude? A dude like me? Like I love doing in the laundry, I love cooking, I love cleaning, I love doing all that shit, all. Right, and a woman like me, I love to cook, But I'm not big on laundry and cleaning. I mean, but they're not. They're effort, team effort. They're not my strengths. And that's the way it should be. A team effort. It shouldn't be well, you have to cook and you have to clean, and you know, find out what each other's strengths and weaknesses are because you know what. Certain people have certain expectations, and when you come in with expectations, you may lose out on the best things.

44:46 Courtney said he knows how to treat a lady. I don't know about that. And this one says, misery does company, and that's not the company I'm willing to keep around them. Again, if I want to be miserable, I can do that sitting right here on my couch all by myself. I don't need nobody else taking up my space, eating my food, sleeping in my bed, or causing me drama. I do what I want, go where I want. You know, if I don't want to come home, I don't have to. Those are things I would love to do, you know. I do want to share my life with someone, but I'm not willing to sacrifice my feeling of safety, security, peace, calm, you know, like I'm not willing to sacrifice that anymore.

45:45 And unfortunately it took a long time. It took my late forties to finally get to that place to realize, like, being alone does not feel half as bad as it does being in a relationship where you feel alone, or being in a relationship where you feel unloved or unimportant. You know, because people will tell you whatever they want to get what they need. But when you stop giving them what they want and start, you know, standing on the boundaries, start standing matching that energy, you'd be surprised how many people take themselves right out of your life, this out.

46:27 I do what I want with restrictions, respectable restrictions. Oh yes, oh yeah, well that's why people call me a prude, because they're like, oh, well, why don't you send me this pick? Oh no, no, no, no, we will not be doing that, because, yeah, because you have to have self respect at the end of the day. And and you know what, my father asked me not too long ago, what that looked like, right, And so I plainly said to him, if you're doing anything in your life that you would want to hide from anybody else, like even public total strangers, then you might want to think twice about doing that. Then cause I think I had shared a story where we went to a store one night and I had taken him out for Father's Day.

47:23 He had four glasses of wine while we were out, but then we went to the supermarket and he saw a pretty girl at the cash register, and so I guess to seem like he was romantic and whatnot, he, you know, out loud, said to me, Hey, Trish, why don't we go to the liquor store and bottle buy a bottle of wine. Now, me, just being a daughter, I turned around and was like, what pop you just had? You just had four glasses of wine. And then he gave me this look like he was about to kill me. And as soon as he said that, it like, just like that, it dawned on me what he was saying.

48:05 He was trying to make it look like he hadn't had anything to drink, and the fact that I looked at him and was like, dude, you just have four glasses of wine embarrassed him because then this pretty girl would know that he's already had four glasses of wine, and now he's talking about getting a bottle of wine. So it makes him look like he's a lush or an alcoholic. Right, So when he says something to me outside the store and I said, Pop, you are a grown man. If you want to have six glasses of wine, six bottles of wine, that's your prerogative. But I tell you this, if you drinking four glasses of wine causes you embarrassment, if somebody else knew that, then maybe you need to think about how much wine you drink. And can't seem to wrap their head around that. Because I tell people I practice what I preach. Right, There's nothing in my life that I do, you know, talking about the self respect part, there is nothing in my life that I do that I would be ashamed or embarrassed if somebody else knew. Because I live my life the way I want people to see me, the way you know, I want people to trust me. I want people to believe me. So I live a trustworthy, believable life. So

49:36 it's like, if you want something, you need to be putting that out into the world. You need to be that person, right, you know. And as a LEO, I can't stand fake. I can't I feel these fake vibes from people, and I'm like, I'd rather you not speak to me than to smile at me in my face and not really feel that way. I see people are saying stuff. What are they saying? Ye do I'm I'll tell you right now. This one says free will is a thing. I can be out there slinging d like cracking the eighties, but for what been there done that once upon a time. It was easy and fun during the toxic phase. But it's energy.

50:18 I'm not swapping soul ties no more. Yeah, that's that that lingers with you after a. Man. And then it says STDs are real besides the sexual part of the spiritual transmitted disease. Yeah, but people don't want to think about those things in the moment. The flesh is weak. When you've been alone for a long time and somebody starts showing you attention and starts, you know, saying sweet nothings, You know that that can definitely cause someone to want to give in.

50:59 The funny thing is I'm the total opposite. If I just met you and you're love bombing me like how beautiful I am, how nice I am, how caring I am. That's a reflect for me because that's not naturally how good things start. You know, I'm not gonna say I'm not gonna say what culture, but there's a certain culture that it's like as soon as you meet them, they're calling you song. You already put it out there just by saying in Spanish. No I didn't. Hey, if you know you know, yeah, if you know you know. So it's like, as soon as they start talking that stuff, I look at them like, already I've cut you off. Because there is no way in God's green earth that you just met me maybe a week, right, and all of a sudden you're telling me that I'm what you've been looking for. That's BS, That is absolute BS, because there are those hard conversations that we haven't even had yet. Let me tell you something.

52:15 You could look, you could be banging, you could be smoking hot, you could drive the right car, have the right job, know what to say by this by you can do all of those things. But if you don't meet my deeper needs, yes, exactly, exactly you know, and and so you have to know what you value. Like for me, you know, my first thing, my first, my foundation thing is if you don't have a relationship with God.

53:05 For me, that like that's the minimum. For me, that's the bare minimum. But to you what's your relationship with God? Though? I mean everybody, everybody if not. That, but that's what I'm saying. Hear what I said. I said a relationship, not not knowing he exists, not just believing in him, Like you have to actively have like walk with him every day, Like you have to be pursuing and living a life of respect, not just for yourself but for others of kindness and like not just going out there hurting people on purpose. You can't be just breaking the law all over the place. I mean, there are there are those things. I'm a rule follower, so it's like I won't break the rules. I might bend them a little bit, because we're human, we bend rules.

54:06 But no, I'm not breaking the rules. Like I'm not gonna just absolutely go out there and start stealing things just because I see it. And yes, did somebody say that? Ye? Who said that? Mister Sanchez says and reading the word. Amen, mister Sanchez. You know, like, and there are a lot of people, And again I don't knock anybody's faith. I don't knock anybody's level of relationship, Okay, because everybody is at a different point in their relationship, in their walk in their life. Right. But it's one thing to say I believe in God, I believe he exists, and something else to understand that sex before marriage is looked down on. Right. So it's like, like you said, reading your word, How are you going to be close to somebody if you're not reading the word that leads you to them? Right? So for me, like I said, my absolute minimum minimum is you you at least have to want to have a relationship with him, not not like I said, not just believe and not just know that

55:36 he exists. Because I think everybody in the world knows or believes in something right right, right? Absolutely, Yeah, Like we grow up, we grow up. We are all taught at some point in our life to believe in God, to pray to God. You know, but what does that mean? You know, like, what what does that really mean to you? You know? I know people who say they believe in God. But I but you this, if they walked into a church, they go up in flames. Yeah, you know, so again, nobody has to They don't have to be on my level and believe me, I don't like fanatical people either, you know, where it's like you can't even have a conversation with them without them pointing out every little thing about what you're doing wrong. But you have to want to be living a certain path, you know, so you know, and I know we don't do religion on here. So it's like I don't want to, you know, go too too far into that. But for me, that's the bare minimum.

56:46 So like I said, you could look hot as I don't know what. You can have everything physically that I want. You can have a great job, great car, but if you do not have that relationship, I have to pass you buy because that's something important for me, that that's something that has held me together my whole life, you know. And like I said, the other things are what is your life situation? Because truly you know, and you tell me, Corleon, if you're in your mid forties, early fifties and you are still on the struggle bus, do you really think that that's gonna change?

57:33 No? No, that is that is your trajectory. Again. You ain't you ain't gotta be rich, You ain't gotta you know, own five six car, none of that stuff. But it's like it's one like, okay, so my head's above water. That doesn't mean I don't struggle, right, you know, I think most of us are in that head above water. But but but but then think sometimes I think of it like I look at it like I look at it this way, right, Like no, some people feel like by the time you get into you to this age, to our age, you know, the salt and pepper age, you know what I mean. Yeah, you should have your shit together right.

58:22 You should have it at least. Right right right, because. Look at you, Corneon, and you've talked about it a lot of times. You know, you were in this long time relationship. Yes, people have setbacks, they have struggles, and and you talk about struggling sometimes in different ways, you know, but you, for the most part, you still have your stuff together. You got your you got your little girl dog, you got your kids, your grandkids, You've got a place to live. You know, you work. You know, you do the best that you know how. You're not coming broken and homeless and sleeping on people's couches because, you know what, not for nothing. And I'm not saying this disrespectfully, but at the same time, i am if you are fifty years old and you are still CouchSurfing, you're not for me.

59:24 I'm sorry, because that shows me that you want no consistency, no security, you know. Like, and I talked about this before too. My father who just recently last couple of years came back into my life. It's seventy eight years old, and this is the first time in the man's life that he has ever lived by himself. And I I find that hard hard to cope with as a daughter, you know. And the only reason he's even doing as well as he's doing is because I'm making sure that his bills are paid, that he has food in his refrigerator, that his apartment is halfway decent. You know. I'm actually getting him an apartment, you know, Like, I can't imagine what his life. He would probably still be sleeping on his mother's couch or in his car, and that makes me sad that and again this speaks to my faith.

1:00:46 I have every reason, every reason under God's heaven to not speak to the man who allowed me to be on this earth. But I do because the person that I believe in talks about love and forgiveness. And at the end of the day, out of the seven kids, I am my father's only daughter, and I feel that because my mother's been going for twenty something years. It is my responsibility to take care of my father. He's making it hard because he won't leave Florida to come to New Jersey. But I'm making it work, right, I'm making it work. Every three months, I travel to Florida, make sure he's got food in his freezer, that I have meals prepared for him, that his apartment is clean, that all of his electronics are charged, that his TV is still logged into his streaming. You know, but that's what work is. When you love people. Love is not a feeling. Love is an action, and we stop. We stopped loving people, We stop doing for others because we were worried so much about ourselves. It makes me happy to be there from my father. Does he deserve it, It doesn't really matter if he does or not. It's who I am. It's who I want to be, and

1:02:19 I wouldn't want to be any other way. Have people hurt me, Heck yes, but that's a part of life. I don't learn any lessons if nobody ever slaps me in the face, right, you know, if I never fail, I never grow. I'm not ashamed to say that I've made many, many mistakes in my life. But I don't regret not one of them, and I would not change one thing in my life because if I did, I would not be La doc Tora. I would be somebody totally totally different, and I may not like who I am. So some people mistake my kindness for weakness, and that's their mistake because let me tell you, I'd rather be the loving woman that I am then the bitter women that are out there now. Am I tired? Yes? But I have to know this. If people like me exist, if I exist, then others like me have to exist.

1:03:24 People who value things have to exist. But how can I preach if I don't practice what I preach? Right? You know? And everything that I say on the show is because that's how I live my life. It's what I believe, you know. Yeah, absolutely, So. You got to be true to yourself before you try lying to others. And I know I've been doing all the talk today and I apologize. It's it's it's it's it's ay. They're loving it.

1:04:06 Oh, I'm glad they're loving it. Yep. Damn. I didn't even give this dude a male's perspective of what the fuck is going on with him. Oh man, what's this say? Right? He hold on. Some people are just habitual linestepers, always trying to force your hand to be someone you don't want to be, forcing you to embrace your inner satan. Yeah. You know what's so funny. People hate the monsters they create. That's true. Yeah, that is true. Yeah, that's.

1:04:50 Like. Okay, So we were talking about my father. My father before I, before he came back into my life, he had been married for thirty six years. I didn't know that when he came to mind, he was in the middle of a divorce, right, but because he was having such difficulties with whatever was going on with his life, he was in a bad situation because he had already been trying to get divorced for a year. So it took me stepping in for him to finally get the process done. But the thing that disheartened me and really made me sad and angry at the same time is thirty six years. That's a long long time to be married to somebody. And all he would do, even to this day and it's been two years now, is talk about how she is the demon, how he should have never married her, how she was this and she was that and the other. And it makes me so angry because then I say to him, I said, Pop, you know I love you and I respect you, but you can not sit here and tell me that she was such a horrible person that you stayed married to her for thirty six years. Why is it now you are hating a monster that you created. You were a part

1:06:21 of that marriage, and I know you. Even though I didn't spend my life with you, I know you well enough to know that you are not an easy person to live with, and you were very selfish. So the fact that she stayed. That long, he said, he said, she didn't let cheat in peace? What was that she? She didn't let him cheat in peace? You know what? That's funny because before he even got divorced, I mean, he was out, he was out of the house. She kicked him out, you know. But the funny thing was he moved in with my grandmother to supposedly help take care of her. But because my well, actually all the men in my family, including my brothers, they don't like when people tell them about themselves or shine light on things that they don't want other people to know. Right, So as soon as you say something that they don't like they act like children. They will either storm out of the house, cut you off and leave like they run away like little kids who are throwing tantrums. Right, right, So he was supposed to be living with my grandmom to help her because she's ninety eight years old. Wow, yeah, she kept yes and she kept falling and all that.

1:07:50 So he was supposed to be staying with her to assist her, take her to her doctor's appointments, make sure she was safe, make sure she ate like I'm doing for him now, and every time she said something, and now she has dementia. So a part that, a part of that disease is they become angry and frustrated because they're lost. They they're losing their faculties. And when they're like consciously, you know, coherent, they realize what's happening to them and it makes them sad and angry. So combativeness is a part of the disease. Yes, So when Maya Wilita gets like that or tells him about himself and it's not like she's lying, she's just telling him about himself, he gets so angry. He was leaving her apartment to go to other women's apartments and he was still married at the time. And when I found that out, it was because my grandmother had fallen. My uncle installed cameras and called me and said, where's your father because I just saw that my mom fell, you know, and he's nowhere to be found, right, only to find out that he was staying in another woman's apartment in my grandmother's building.

1:09:15 But that wasn't the only woman he was staying with. I'm like, dude, you are not even divorced yet and you're already looking for somebody else to be up under. Like I don't get it, don Juan, Like, I just don't get it. I don't get it. But you're sitting here talking about demon that your ex wife is a demon. But look what you're doing right, you know. And and on top of that, which really really bothered me, he calls himself a Christian. Oh wow, yeah, Like he actually has a doctorate in theology. And my whole entire life we spoke maybe once a year, my whole entire life, and all he would ever do would throw the Bible at me anytime I had a struggle growing up or whatever it was, because I didn't pray enough, because I didn't love God enough, you know, whatever these reasons are.

1:10:10 And here I am a grown woman watching my father who was still legally married in Fulana Deda's apartment, not taking care of his mother like he was supposed to, and totally going against what he's preaching at everybody else. I'm like, can you say hypocrite? M But I still love him and I still take care of him, but I do tell him about himself. And I said, and now I dare you to go run away because this is your house. Yeah, so run away now, old man, and see if I come see if I come back and take care of you. That's wild. Yeah, I mean, it's it's it's it's hard.

1:10:52 You know what I'm saying. It's not easy. It's not easy, but for some reason people think it's supposed to be right, but it's not. Life is not easy, but anything worth having is not easy to achieve, you know, Like you know, my brothers think that my life is easy, because all right, guys, I'm one of seven kids and I'm the only one that graduated high school and then I went to college. So now my siblings who are still around, hate on me. You know, they talk trash about me, Oh, you think you're better than me. No I'm not.

1:11:32 That's the one thing they go to all the time, the first ting you go. And my answer is nope, I am no better than you. I just made different decisions, different different choices. So don't get mad at me, because the choices you made got you where you are, and the choices I made got me where I'm at. And he said insecurities. Yeah, And the funny thing is I have always been there for everybody, Like anybody could call me and I'm there. I will always answer the phone for you. I don't reach out a whole lot because, like I said, I'm a very highly sensitive person and I absorb people's energy and things like that. And you get tired of being the one who always reaches out, and so you get to a point in your life where it's like, listen, if people want me, they know where to find me.

1:12:30 Like I said, I will always answer the door. I will always answer the phone. You just have to reach out for me, because you know, I stopped to reach it out a long time ago. So all, oh shit, oh my god, I'm sorry. I just had to do it. I just had to do it, oh man. But yeah, The reason why her mic went off was because she said if she would answer the phone if anybody called to call her. So I called her and her phone rang and it kind of cut kind of cut it off. So that was my fault. I apologize. I was just trying to be a wise ass and it backfired a little bit.

1:13:37 What happened, I disappeared. No, when you said if anybody was to knock on my door, I'd answer the door if anybody called, I'd answered the phone. So I called you. Oh you are such a butt because when you did that, then I couldn't hear no more and it kicked me out. Yeah, yeah, I know it kind of backfired. But it was supposed to be funny. But yeah, but but yeah, it's yeah, it's it's completely I completely understand. I mean, it's it's it's terrible that that's how ship is nowadays, you know what I mean, you know, it's it's it's so bad, you know, and and to think and to think and I'm not I'm not you know, bashing you know, your pops And then but when when is it? When does it stop?

1:14:29 When he dies? Yeah? Because the truth and this is something because I just came back. Me and my daughter just came back from our quarterly visit, and I realized something. All the things because I go to this this condo, I buy and spend all this money because he he never lived alone, so he had to start from scratch. Yeah I had to buy. Yeah, I had to buy silverware, all these things, right, And my thing is my taste is not his taste, and vice versa. So I would always say, Pop, what do you want? What do you need? All this stuff? Right?

1:15:10 I buy all this stuff. So this last time, I go over there and I go into the kitchen washing dishes, I say, Boppy, what happened to your dish strain? Oh it's under the sink. I go into the bathroom, Boppy, where's your toothpaste and toothbrush? Oh it's in the medicine cabinet. Okay, where did your soap dish go? Oh? I threw it out. Where are your towels? All this stuff I bought brand new. Where's your towels? Oh they're too fluffy. I don't use them. I'm like, hold on, I spent thousands of dollars getting you all of these things, and you said, whatever you want me? How whatever you want I do that, and you don't use any of it, right, Your dish strains under the sink. He's like, oh, well, because I just washed my dishes and put them away. Well, then, when I asked you if you wanted this dishtrain, you didn't say I don't want a drain. You say you want kitchen towels. I buy kitchen towels. What are they doing?

1:16:19 They're hanging on the fridge. You don't even use them, right. I bought him the if any of you guys know like BJ's Costco, Sam's, you know all that. It's the bulk stuff. I buy him bulk toilet paper, bulk paper towels so that they'll last at least every three months, so that when I go I can buy more. Right, Yeah, I go. He's got these dollar store paper towels on the table, and I'm like, Pop, where are the paper towels that I bought you? Oh, they're in my closet. Which closet, Oh, the closet where my clothes are hanging. Do you not like them? Like their paper towels? Pop?

1:17:03 Like I don't, and they're the good ones, right. I'm like, I don't understand. Why are you buying dollar store paper towels, wasting more money when you have like a thirty pack in your closet and the toilet paper you have a fifty pack, Why are you buying these dollar store toilet paper? So anyway, all that to say that I realized that he is who he is and that's not going to change. So I need to figure out a different way of compromising and communicating with him, to figure out what is going to help to make his life easier and not mine, because again he's the one that won't take the doctor's medication but will call me because of some that he saw on TV. Yes, Ma, could you buy me? Can you buy me this thing that I saw on YouTube? No, Pop, I'm not buying you monkey snot shark, finn, giraffe toenails.

1:18:17 I'm not buying all this stuff takes the medicine that the doctor gives you. Giraffdails, Oh my god. And the funny thing is it's just the generation. Because when we were visiting my well my I call her my aunt, but it's my my father's cousin. I literally sat there listening to them talk. They're like brother and sister, and she's talking the same stuff. She's like, don't you know I had cancer and they told me to have shark finn or whatever and it cured my cancer. I looked at her, I was like, no, no, she didn't.

1:19:06 She didn't. She's got my father thinking that these things he sees on YouTube. Oh, it's crazy. It is crazy. But I definitely saw and understood something that I didn't understand before. But again, he hasn't been in my life, so I'm still learning. I'm still learning him and how to deal with him. Wow. So it's it's been interesting. And that's act and that's type of love too. You know, we talk about relationships. Parent relationships are just as much a part of your intimate relationships as your friendships, you know. And and we're just in a place right now where it's every man for themselves, you know, every man for themselves, and and it's becoming really sad and lonely and just people hating each other. You know. Yeah, things that were said to pass are passing. M hm. Yeah, We're we're in We're in dire times. Corleone.

1:20:26 I get it. I get it. But I sit in my house and I drink my homemade iced tea and got turkeys and pies and all that, because tomorrow I will wake up and thank my Lord above for everything that I have, good, bad, and indifferent. Mm hmm. Even you when you when you, when you, when you get silly on the show, I'm like, you know, I'm thankful. Yeah. Yeah, I didn't think it was going to turn your mic off and boot you out. I didn't think it was going to do all that.

1:21:13 Lesson learned, Lessons learned, lessons learn I can see people writing, but I don't know what they're saying. All right, hold on, let's start with Christina says he might feel like a dollionaire. I guess trying to say, like a dollar millionaire going to the dollar store. Oh, he refused, No, he The funny thing is he goes there to get the toilet paper and all that stuff, but heaven forbid you buy him something like other than that. From there, he will look at you like you have two heads. Mm hmm. Oh, I'm a pumpkin pie. I was thinking of an apple pie, but I don't know. There's only two of us here.

1:22:01 So. Yeah, a dollionaire. That is so funny. Oh, and I took off all of the doorknobs in his apartment right. Two, Why did you do that? Well, no, no, no one. Because we were painting, we've been painting, but also because they're the old original brass knobs and I wanted to renew them because they're quality door knobs, Porleon. How did I go there and he told me he threw them all away? No. I was so angry because that's what he does. It's like, I'm in the kitchen cooking. I leave stuff that I'm working on right like, I'm literally cooking. I go out to go get something like a play or I go to put something on the table. I'll come back. He throw it away. I'm like, pop, stop touching stuff. Oh, I was just cleaning up. I'm like, oh my gosh.

1:23:14 First of all, he forgets from one minute to the next. So it's like, how about you go have several seats and watch all of the things that I'm paying for you to watch on my account and just chill, man, chill, turn on your hair and aid sit down on the couch and got him my there. Bro. Like it's bad enough that all the food that I made for him and put in the freezer, he didn't even cook it. Oh wow. I went because I'm like, every three months, I'm gonna go through the shopping. You know, I don't want to make sure he's got enough food for the three months.

1:23:55 It's easy. You take it out, put it in the microwave. Because he refuses to use the stove. He didn't even do that. All the food I made is still in the freezer. I'm like, are you serious? But then I go and I serve him. So I'm cooking every night on top of cleaning and doing all this other stuff for him, and. I'm like, wow, ma, really quick, really quick. We got uh the one that I was talking about, the dillionaire the dotty there? Yeah, Christina, Christina, you're still in the room.

1:24:37 Let me know you're still in the room or not. I just want to make sure she's still in the room because I want to say something there. Uh. So other than that, I'll wait to see if she lets me know she's still in the room. But uh, but yeah, I get it, and I think the older he gets, it's only gonna get worse, you know what I mean? Yeah? Yeah, but wait, wait until we get to the point where I have to take his license. He's still driving. Mm hmmm mm hmmm. And I'm scared because he's getting an accidents and then blaming the other person. I'm like, oh my gosh.

1:25:33 So Christina, she's still in the room. I wanna I want to send my condolences, and the co host of the show want to send our condolences to you. I know you recently lost you know, a relative, you're your brother, and I know I know, I know, I've known your brother long time. He's a Hoboken legend, you know what I'm saying. And may rest in paradise, you know. So we sending our condolences to you and your family. So just you know, stay blessed and you know, may rest in peace. You know what I'm saying. So I just wanted to say that real quick, and I.

1:26:20 Will definitely be saying prayers for you tonight, Christine. So yeah, and so Eric, why are you ask me about my pie? Yeah? Do you even live in New Jersey? Wow? You're welcome, Christine. Yeah, So I had I had some trivia stuff here, but I don't know. Well, maybe we maybe I should ask you a couple of these questions. Maybe, Yes, let's see, mum m.

1:27:06 Eric said, who Pe, what's that mean, Eric, I don't know. Yes, so old there was the oldest brother that passed. Yeah, yeah, I. Can definitely relate. I lost my older sister nine years ago. It's tough. It's tough. Yeah. Yeah. So he says, oh, I'm a lot closer.

1:27:46 Oh, I don't know what that means. I don't either, A lot closer to what. Mhm oh he's talking to Christina. Okay, yeah, so a cyber truck. Oh man? Oh wow, m damn.

1:28:42 I'm sorry, Yes, Eric, in Jersey, South Jersey, North Jersey, Central Jersey. There's a lot of Jersey here. There and now look there is no central Jersey. Yes, either north or south there, let's get that straight. North there is Trenton is central Jersey. Central Jersey. No, it's not. Yeah, the cut off, the cutoff is I think Edison after that's that's all south.

1:29:23 No, it's central. You know what, I'm not doing this with you? All right? All right, beefing that's right really quick. So yeah we're not We're not gonna do. We'll do trivia other time. So because I was running my mouth. No no, no, no, no no no, not because you're running your mouth. The land of Tailor. Hand Taylor Ham. Yeah, I don't know where where that is. North Jersey.

1:30:05 Oh wow, that sucks. I guess. I guess. No pie for you, Eric Sanchez, No pie that sucks anyway. Anyway, with that being said, all Central Jersey is a myth. No, it's. Oh man, let's let's let's let's let's just give three things. I'll give three things. You give three things that we're thankful for for tomorrow. M hm, three things. I looked thought, what are you thankful for?

1:30:48 I'm thankful for my life, my children and m m my heart. Mhm. Okay, I can't stand pork roll. Get out of here. Well, if we there's a couple of people in the chat room, So if you guys would like to chime in and tell us what you're thankful for, you just give us one thing you're thankful for for tomorrow and and then I'll tell you guys while you guys put it in there. I'm thankful for my children, grandchildren. That was just just one. I'm thankful for my friends and the people like call friend, and I'm very I'm thankful to be able to do you know what I do.

1:32:03 You know what I'm saying, And I really, I'm really thankful for the show and for the connections we've made, and you know the differences we've made in some people's lives just doing what we do, and that's speak the truth, talk to truth, real life, real fun, real talk. You know, that's what we do here. And I'm just thankful that we've been able to do that for people. And and that's it. So you know, hopefully everyone out there has a great Thanksgiving beloved family, food, football, and stranger things.

1:32:58 So hopefully everybody can know has a good time. You know, everybody's happy, safe, healthy, and you know, everybody stay plus this. H oh, mister Akacella, appreciate you. You know, I got mad love for you, bro. You know how we do here, right. Yeah. So with that, with that being said, I hope everybody has a great and happy Thanksgiving. I hope that everybody you know is with family and friends and loved ones, and I hope that everybody can enjoy the day. So with that being said, I thought, I don't hang up, Okay, all right, you stay on and yeah, and Thanksgiving all people.

1:34:10 Plenty of food, plenty of time, plenty of a good time, plenty of fun. And with that being said, always keep in mind that at some point people this might hurt. Hurt. Good night, enjoy your Thanksgiving