July 16, 2026

This Might Hurt Podcast : Season 13 Premiere

This Might Hurt Podcast : Season 13 Premiere

Season 13 is HERE... and we're coming in louder, bolder, and more unapologetic than ever. The wait is over! Big Corleone, TG Love, Lady G, and Dubs Tha Don are back behind the microphones for the Season 13 Premiere of This Might Hurt Podcast, and...

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Season 13

Season 13 is HERE... and we're coming in louder, bolder, and more unapologetic than ever.

The wait is over! Big Corleone, TG Love, Lady G, and Dubs Tha Don are back behind the microphones for the Season 13 Premiere of This Might Hurt Podcast, and nothing is off the table.

New season. New energy. Same raw honesty.

We're diving headfirst into real life, real relationships, mental health, music, movies, social media, and the everyday chaos that keeps us all talking. Expect unfiltered conversations, hilarious moments, uncomfortable truths, passionate debates, and the kind of authentic discussions that make you laugh one minute and think the next.

As always, this is a Stigma Free Zone where every opinion has a seat at the table except politics and religion. No fake personas. No sugarcoating. Just four people keeping it real and saying what everyone else is thinking.

Whether you've been rocking with us since Season 1 or you're joining the family for the first time, this is the perfect episode to jump in and experience what Real Fun. Real Life. Real Talk. is all about.

So grab your headphones, buckle up, and prepare yourself...

Because if you've been looking for the truth...

THIS MIGHT HURT!!



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Years, has Se.

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Has said, hey, what's up? Everybody has been coldly on

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of this might her podcast. This is season thirteen, and

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you know it's it's been a while, you know what

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I mean, it's been a while since we've been on.

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We've been doing this a long time. We've actually lasted

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longer than some relationships, you know what I mean. So

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we're recording live from you know wherever we record from.

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You know how it is, you know how we do it.

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I want to bring in my co host TG Love. Welcome, Hellaire. Hello,

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how are you?

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I don't know, broke.

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That's good, that's good.

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I'm here.

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I ate something. Okay, I was nervous. I was going

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to have enough time, but I did it.

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Yeah, we'd word man, thanks for being.

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Here, Thank you for having.

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Me.

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Well, Dove said he was gonna come through, He's gonna

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be late whatever. Yeah, he's he's with the Fami Medieval Times,

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having a good time.

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Nice.

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Yeah, so you know how it is. But before we

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get started, I want to welcome everybody to season thirteen

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of the show. At this point, like I said, we've

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lasted longer than some relationships. Some group chats, some New

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Year's resolutions, uh, free maybe maybe maybe even some free

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trials people forgot to cancel, you know what I'm saying.

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So we're back to talk about life, love, relationships, mental health, music, foolishness,

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and all the things people think that you know, they

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can't talk about and they're too scared to say out loud.

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We're here to give you what it is you don't

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you know, you don't have. The opinions may be strong,

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the jokes may be inappropriate. It and somebody's feelings just

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might get bruised at some point, but it's all a

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stigma free zone. No politics, no religion, just real fun,

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real life, real talk. Let's get going. How you been TG,

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how's everything?

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First of all, I don't even remember the last show?

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Was the last show for your birthday?

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Yes?

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Oh man, so it's been it's been a hot minute.

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It's it's been a minute.

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Yeah, I can't even catch you up. There's been like

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like it's been a few months. Right, life is what

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it is. Uh, definitely. I don't know about a lot

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of people out there, but I'm definitely feeling the changes

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that have been made to our insurance premiums and things

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like that. And right now I am looking for a

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full time work because my part time is not enough to.

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Cover what I need to pay.

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Wow, and.

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It's so much so that to add Hubby to my

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plan is an extra five hundred dollars amount that I

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don't have and so mhmm yeah. For some yeah, it's insane.

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As a part timer, it's even more money. So in

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order for it to be cheaper, I need to go

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full time and to be able to also cover it.

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So before I would always do. And the thing is

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a lot of people don't understand insurance and I feel

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like it's done on purpose. But you always want to

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look out for any deductibles that you need to pay

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or out of pocket cost because that's what the company

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expects you to pay before they pay one hundred percent.

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And typically those are high when you have like an

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HMO or something like that. When you have a PPO,

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which is the better one, you just have copays and

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you're deductible as much lower. So that's what I did.

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I upgraded because I put myself in seven thousand dollars

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in medical debt for this past year for surgeries and

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all the other things that have come up in my

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life that I've had to take care of and so unfortunately,

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that's what it is. And I'm just among many of

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our American friends who is dealing with medical debt unfortunately,

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and with insurance issues unfortunately. We make too much money

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for Medicaid or any other supplemental plant, Like, it's probably

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going to cost us a lot of money out of pocket.

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So it's just like it just sucks.

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I think that's my biggest grape right now is I'm

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like so mad because I've been looking for work and

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applying and doing what I'm supposed to be doing, but

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it's actually hard out there. I don't know how it

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is for other people, but for myself, my experience right

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now is it's rather difficult, and I'm in a place

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it's where I could be overqualified for certain positions, so

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they might overlook me. So it's I don't know, it's crazy.

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It's a crazy time.

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That's why this.

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Show is necessary so we can vent and also just

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talk about other things so we're not like stressing about

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the unfortunate things that we have to deal with, which

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is adulting, which I don't like adulting at all anymore.

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I don't know why I ever said I can't wait

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till I get older, you wait till I get out

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of this house.

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Why?

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Yeah, that's that's what's that's the crazy part. As a kid,

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you look at the adults and you're saying to yourself.

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Yo, I want to be like listen.

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In my case, that definitely was the case, like I

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had to be out regardless. For some people that's not

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the case, right, Like their parents are just annoying, Like

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deal with that shit. Deal with an annoying parent. You know,

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if I if my parent was just annoying, I would

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have stayed. But that wasn't the case for me. But

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it's it's just crazy, Like I get why more people

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are living at home at saying and staying living at

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home because ren is insane, Groceries are insane, Gas is insane.

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Like I've even like saying, like going for another job,

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like I need to be making more than I'm making

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now because gas keeps going up. I have to get

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to work and it's not next to my house. So

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it's it's crazy. It's just crazy.

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Right now.

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I feel like it's it's.

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Hard not to be stressed right now, especially just financially.

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That's that's how I'm feeling right now, Like I'm feeling

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that stressed. I know a lot of people around me

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are feeling that stress.

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You know, I have a.

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Coworker who has four kids and she is paying I think,

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like over thirteen thousand dollars a year for insurance or whatever.

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It is.

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Like, it's it's insane, it's insane.

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Yeah.

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I know there's a bunch of people out there. I

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can't read comments, but I feel like there's comments there.

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Yeah, you know, my eyes are.

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Mad Amanda's saying, hi, guys, glad you're back, I said,

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I said, what's up? And then everything is so dang expensive? Yeah,

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so expensive?

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Yeah, mm hmm, so yep, it's hard.

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Oh look who's here?

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Oh hello, sir, oh brother, long time sake.

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Oh well, I don't believe that. Maybe to me, but

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not to him. Yeah, well, I see how it is. Okay, okay,

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don't check on your girl or anything.

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Oh goody, it's been a while, but like, hold on,

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let yo, they gotta move my car, which came out

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from medieval times.

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Off with his head, I say, off with his head,

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depend misery. I want to see.

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Did your night win?

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Yeah?

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As a matter of fact, my daughter, my daughter was

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crowned the queen.

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Oh cute, yeah, she was like Corse.

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I'm like, yeah, that's right, don't mind me. I'm finding

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parking because you know, no burging no damn.

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Yeah. So so I have a couple of emails here

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that I want to discuss.

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Spit it out, yep, no, pause, don't swallow, spit it out,

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don't swallow.

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You didn't update us your time? How you doing? I

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just went on a ramp. But how are you?

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Yeah?

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You well, both of you.

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I don't know what's going on with either. How's it

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been the past few months?

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Man?

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Yeah?

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You know what? Man, Like, how's it been? I'm alive?

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Okay, that's good, that's you know, like what you have, what.

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You mean, that's good, that's great, you know, like it's right,

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you know, like there's no other way to put it.

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I mean, I could you know what I'm saying, Like

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I could complain about you know, minor stuff, But what's

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used to complaining, you know, Like what's.

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That gonna get? You know? Like, well, I'm gonna you

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know what I'm going to complain right now? Parking?

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Oh man, That's always an issue when you live like

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in city areas though that that's one of the reasons

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why I was so glad to get away from the city.

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I promise you, y'all, I've been. I've been trying to

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find Parkerson's like some forty five. I believe you, like

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you know what, like like I had to take a

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bathroom break.

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That's how that's that's how long it's been.

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Yeah, I believe you. That's crazy.

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That's terrible.

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You know you know you you you suburban people disgust.

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Me sub with farm animals not far so.

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You know what you farm people in suburban people disgust me.

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I say to the.

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Man, man, I was a man. I was a Medieval

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Times acting a fool as you.

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I want to I want to see blood, I say blood.

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You know.

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Look, you know what I always wanted to go to

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Medieval Times, right, says it's open or whatever.

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It's my first time.

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No, yes, oh my gosh, it's so it's fun. Right.

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I love medieval Times.

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Yo.

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You know what I'm thinking about? Yea, I think I

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want to go back again, like in three months.

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It's fun. It's good to go with a good like

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a group of people, you know what.

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It's also good to go with like you know what

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I'm saying, like people that's actually into it, you.

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Know, because like yeah, yeah, that's why.

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Because like you know, like my lady she's like into

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like all that fantasy you know stuff, stuff like that, right,

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so she kind of got me into it, and I

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felt like a little kid again. So I mean, you know,

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like it's like like yo, you know what, Like I

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mean like yeah, yeah, I said, I said, COLLI own

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pictures or whatever, and my daughter fell asleep, right, so

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I captured it. I was like, I was like, there

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wasn't enough blood to satisfy her thirst. She was like, pops,

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this boys, me, everybody.

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But but nah, you know what, it was good, you know,

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like all right, enough about me.

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We got a full house and then hold on.

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Oh red snap, oh look what the wind blew?

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And now the party can start.

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That's right, yes, a real party.

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Now the queen has arrived.

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Oh wow, speaking of no you missed the queen at

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medieval times, my daughter was crying the queen, That's what

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I'm talking this way.

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Somebody touched me and I was like, can't hand me,

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you're ruffian. I am a lord. Yeah yo, you know what,

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you know what, yah.

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I'm not gonna lie right like I was there and

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whatever and and like you and then what like, first off,

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I felt like that twelve year old kid.

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That has seen the commercial of Medieval Times, you know

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what I mean.

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Like I was like, yeah, I want to go there,

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but like, you know, like my parents, you know, Spanish parents,

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they're like, they're like Medieval Times.

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I'm Medieval Grass. I was like, okay, okay, you know,

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like like you know, but.

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Like I actually, you know, you know what I'm saying,

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Like as I got older, like the feeling died. And

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then the next thing, you know, you know, opportunitly not

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she ain't called before she came, but you know, I answered,

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I think I'm gonna go to Medieval Times.

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And next thing, you know, Mat, I'm looking for parking.

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Oh my goodness, you are such a bad example.

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Hey, look, you know what you know? Listen here all right,

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I'm going to.

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Say the disclaimer. Now we are not responsible for the

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actions of any member of this show. Driving while podcasting.

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Correct driving while podcasting.

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Yeah. So, lady, g how are you?

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I am alive? Thank you?

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Another one?

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Another, I call it another one.

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That's how how's everything been the past couple of months?

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Okay? I woke up this morning on this side of

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the ground. I am awesome.

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Why why why?

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Why?

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When I heard when you said I woke up this morning,

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like the Soprano's theme song came to my.

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Head, I got myself. I'm sorry yo, Like like I'm like,

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I'm I'm gonna I'm gonna.

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Very that's just who you are.

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I'm in a very extremely good mood because you know,

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I got I did something that I thought that I lost,

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like the luster fourth up until today, Like I actually

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went and I was like wow, so then the child

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still you know, mm hmm, you know that's that's one

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thing off my you know what I'm saying, like checklist.

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I didn't understand one word said.

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All right, so so all right, you know what, like

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I'm still I'm still a little excited.

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I went. So I did a thing today. I went

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to medieval Times and yeah and like and like at first,

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I was like, you know what, just gonna go.

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But like, you know, I was like trying to suppress that,

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you know, excitement feeling all the way up until like

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you know, like we got the VIP section and stuff

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and all way up until like sat down with my daughter.

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I'm here looking at my daughter. My daughter's like cose,

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see and I'm here looking. I'm like, wow, I'm actually here.

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And then like you know, the little kid you know

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what I'm saying, came out and be like yeah, yeah, yay,

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and then the teenager came out. You know, you know,

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nobody dies, but but like it was just you know,

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it was just like, you know, like it was a

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great night tonight man, like all right, you know, like.

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You know like this. So I mean I'm.

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Gonna go y, you know, like, and I'm meeting out

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of a college fridge. So what what college fridge?

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Where are you?

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He's going to medical you know, medieval times and I'm

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meeting out of a college fridge. I'm at home. My

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my refrigerator died.

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Was a funeral.

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It's a couple of weeks ago actually, mm hm.

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Oh damn for real?

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Yeah, oh you got you got the the man fridge.

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Yeah, the man k fridge. So ah, I.

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See that's frustrating.

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Yeah I thought he was joking.

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No, it's good fortune. Hey, God still took care of

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me because at least I had one Yeah, grow every

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anything away, at least keep the milk and eggs.

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Look, you know what with this heat wave that at all?

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So how did you guys slot forward.

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Yeah, speaking of tea waves regular day.

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Uh, you know what, I once to the lake right

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and sun and you know, like you know they tell

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you put sunscreen, sunblock or whatever. Let me tell you

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something on that day.

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Look, you know what, you know what? Yo, you know what?

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I ain't gonna lie.

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I thought I was half safe, but you know what,

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let me tell you something the sun.

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The son was like, yeah you could. I mean it's

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a good suggestion.

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I'm still gonna burn you anyways, and that it did

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and that.

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You're not exempt.

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Bro right man, let me tell you something man like

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then I did I get I got burnt, but my

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lady or a bad real bad like lobster bad, like

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like I had to run to the store and get

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Alan ferr for like three days back.

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Can I ask the question, and it's just Devil's advocate.

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Why are you still calling her your lady? Why is

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she not your wife yet?

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Because we're gonna get there right now. We're gonna get

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to that right now.

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Talk about the baby, baby, baby, and and this this

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poor woman who's been putting up with you for I

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don't know how long, and I don't know how they're

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saying my lady. I should be hearing my wife, not wifey,

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not shorty, my significant other meanings.

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My missus, yeah, my lady, my missus.

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No, not the same.

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Oh you mean like off the the what's called the

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the correct way, Yes, but that takes.

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Time and planning the respectful way coming.

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It's coming. But you know what, that takes time and planning.

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You know what, You've been planning for way too long.

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Bro, you know what, I haven't been planning hard enough,

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hard enough.

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And when it walks out, m m.

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M hm, you know what, you know what, you know what?

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You know like I'm not gonna sit here and like,

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you know and be like she ain't leaving, nah, because

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you know what, like back then, it's like sh ain't leaving.

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She left.

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So everything has everything has its timing right, Everything has

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its timing right.

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So as I'm sure you keep telling.

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Her no, you know what, I don't say nothing, you

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know what I'm saying.

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But but you know what my mom and I you know,

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like my mom has a hooked up and I'm working

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all that.

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Oh wow, it's gotta be something where you need a

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hook up. I thought we were past hookups now, I

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thought I thought you were straight able to go hand.

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Now I'm talking about you know, like jewelry store, that's stuff,

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you know, Like I don't want to say much of anything,

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but like you know that.

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But I didn't know you still need to just to

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to think about hookups anymore. I thought you could just

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I want it, I do it, let's go.

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Yeah, But you know what, if I can get a deal,

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I'll get the deal.

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That's right.

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Deal word.

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But if it keeps making him sleep, I mean.

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No, no, I only wait so long I ain't sleeping.

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I'm saying though that you know what, if I can

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get a deal on something, that's good, because I'm gonna

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you know, like sometimes you gotta wait for it.

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Mm hmm, you know, but I'm working on it. I

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just don't speak on it.

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Let me get into this, let me get into this email.

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So we're still in this thirteenth season.

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I mean, unless unless you want to, you want to

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do something else. What do you have in mind?

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Well? I thought that's what this meant. Thirteen season was

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new and improved.

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Damn what.

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Fire hold on, hold On, hold on hold On was

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at a home run derby yesterday because she's she's still

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she stuffed the bat huh yep, still up the bat.

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After after our little sabbatical, I got tired of keeping

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my mouth shut. And so Lady G is a little

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new and improved.

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And oh you got a new villain. All right.

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No, I'm not. I'm just speaking the truth. I'm not.

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I'm not hurting nobody. I'm no. I'm still the sweet

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I've always been. But I'm no longer sitting back and

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just waiting for things happen.

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That's good. Yeah.

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It's either you do or you don't. That's it. There's

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no maybe, No, I need time. I need to think

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about it. No, you either do or you don't. It's

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not I can or I can't. You either will or

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you won't. That's it.

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Well, I will read this email. I told him. I

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told him I would read it.

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Youah, no problem. You just told me what I needed

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to know. That's all right, all right.

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So I'm hoping you can give me some advice because

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I'm struggling with something in my relationship. I love my

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boyfriend very much, and I truly believe he loves me too.

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The problem is that whenever we have an issue or disagreement,

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he shuts down or voids talking about it. He seems

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to believe that if enough time passes, the problem will

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simply disappear, instead of working through it to get Unfortunately,

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the issues never really go away. They just build up

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and make us both feel more disconnected. I know his

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behavior isn't coming from a bad place. He has struggled

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with mental health issues for a long time. He and

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he was abused and neglected as a child. I understand

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that those experiences can make conflict feel scary and overwhelming,

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and I want to be supportive instead of making him

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feel attacked. At the same time, I what was that,

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all right? I want to be supportive and instead of

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making it feel attacked at the same time, I don't

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want to spend the rest of my life avoiding difficult conversations,

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because healthy relationships need communication, honesty, and conflict resolution to

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grow stronger. My question for the hosts is this, how

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can I help someone I love overcome avoidance without pushing

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them away? Is there a healthy way to encourage him

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to communicate and face conflict while respecting his past trauma

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and mental health challenges. I'd really appreciate any advice you

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have because I love this man and I genuinely want

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us to have the healthiest relationship possible. Thank you for

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everything you do. Thank you for creating a stigma free

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space where people can have real conversations. A hopeful listener.

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So that's what that is.

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So loves her boyfriend and he is avoidant when he

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gets upset or something or they argue.

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She said, right, yeah, so go ahead.

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Now I was just gonna say, I mean, she wants

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to support him, but does she know what that looks

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like for him? I think we don't typically have those

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conversations enough.

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Of what it like. What does support look like for me?

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Like, if I'm feeling a certain kind of way, maybe

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space is okay, But completely avoiding, obviously is not healthy.

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You're not coping, you're not dealing with the situation at hand,

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and just pretending that it didn't happen and ignoring it

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isn't really going to change anything. So obviously having those conversations.

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But I think she needs to know maybe what he

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needs and maybe he's not like I feel like men,

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it's harder for them to be vulnerable, and so it

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takes a little bit more. But if I don't know,

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if I'm in a loving relationship, my expectation is that

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my partner is going to come to me if something

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is going on. But again, that could be for multiple

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reasons that he's dealing with things internally. I don't suggest

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people do that, but but I get it. I get

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why people do do that. But I would suggest that

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she talked to him about what what that could look like?

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How can I help you in these times? And how

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how can we talk? How can we resolve our conflicts

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without just walking away?

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The question the question I have is when, at what

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point does a conversation need to be had? Is it

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when the can.

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You guys hear him? I can't hear him?

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Yeah, okayrol, I can't hear him.

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I was playing with my volume before because I couldn't

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hear him, and then it worked again.

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I don't know if that helps.

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Try try to come in and out if.

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You have to go out and come back?

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Yeah, technology, what do you doing?

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FI?

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Why?

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FI?

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The thing is the thing I was thinking is what

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when do you have the conversation? You really can't have

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the conversation while the conflict is happening. Of course, you

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have to be able to do it at a point

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where you're both you know, comfortable with the conversation.

480
00:30:16.960 --> 00:30:18.240
I mean yes and no.

481
00:30:18.599 --> 00:30:21.799
I mean if yeah, I wouldn't wait until, like we

482
00:30:21.880 --> 00:30:25.640
got into an argument to like be But at the

483
00:30:25.680 --> 00:30:27.759
same time, even if I did get into an argument,

484
00:30:28.119 --> 00:30:30.680
I would express that, like I want to be here

485
00:30:30.680 --> 00:30:33.119
to support you, So how can I support you?

486
00:30:33.920 --> 00:30:36.240
That's not like you're not adding to.

487
00:30:36.279 --> 00:30:41.119
Conflict by asking that, You're actually being supportive in that

488
00:30:41.240 --> 00:30:44.440
moment by asking that, like, how can I show up

489
00:30:44.440 --> 00:30:44.640
for you?

490
00:30:44.720 --> 00:30:45.759
How can I be here for you?

491
00:30:46.720 --> 00:30:49.359
So my question one is how does it say how

492
00:30:49.400 --> 00:30:51.359
long they've been together? I don't remember if I heard that.

493
00:30:53.880 --> 00:30:57.079
No, for she loves her boyfriend.

494
00:30:57.279 --> 00:31:02.799
Yes, that's great, that's wonderful. My first question is how

495
00:31:02.799 --> 00:31:05.680
long have you guys been together? How long has this

496
00:31:05.759 --> 00:31:07.000
been an issue?

497
00:31:07.279 --> 00:31:07.440
One?

498
00:31:07.720 --> 00:31:14.559
It is not your responsibility to fix or heal the

499
00:31:14.640 --> 00:31:20.400
other person one, And another question is do they want

500
00:31:20.720 --> 00:31:24.880
to be helped? Do they want this to change? Or

501
00:31:24.960 --> 00:31:29.759
are they okay with this status quo? Because when you're

502
00:31:29.799 --> 00:31:34.799
in a relationship, neither person you can both have struggles.

503
00:31:35.200 --> 00:31:38.079
It could be it could be anything. Right having a

504
00:31:38.200 --> 00:31:41.240
true loving relationship, love is not a feeling, it is

505
00:31:41.279 --> 00:31:47.000
a choice. So you have to decide is this what

506
00:31:47.119 --> 00:31:51.960
I want? Again? We keep looking at people's potential, we

507
00:31:52.000 --> 00:31:54.680
look at what we know they can be, what we

508
00:31:54.799 --> 00:31:58.720
see them as being their potential right, But what is

509
00:31:58.759 --> 00:32:01.759
the reality? Just because because we want things to be

510
00:32:01.880 --> 00:32:05.519
well does not mean that they want things to be well. Right,

511
00:32:05.720 --> 00:32:11.079
And so at some point there has to be individual decisions. One,

512
00:32:11.720 --> 00:32:15.519
if this is mine forever, can I live with this? Two?

513
00:32:16.160 --> 00:32:18.680
He's got to ask himself is this what I want?

514
00:32:18.839 --> 00:32:22.200
If it's not, how and who do I ask for help?

515
00:32:22.759 --> 00:32:25.599
Because if someone does not ask for help, we cannot

516
00:32:25.640 --> 00:32:29.039
assume as their partner that they want help or that

517
00:32:29.039 --> 00:32:31.480
they are even going to do what they need to

518
00:32:31.519 --> 00:32:37.440
do to improve the situation. Three. When you are in

519
00:32:37.519 --> 00:32:43.519
a relationship, neither person should have to feel like they

520
00:32:43.599 --> 00:32:49.640
are walking on eggshells because their feelings, their opinions, or

521
00:32:49.680 --> 00:32:54.240
their points of view are going to cause anger, resentment,

522
00:32:54.759 --> 00:32:58.279
or fear. But at the same token, we don't want

523
00:32:58.279 --> 00:33:04.599
to be the cause of someone else's retriggering of trauma.

524
00:33:05.200 --> 00:33:08.640
It's one thing as adults to know where our traumas

525
00:33:08.680 --> 00:33:13.920
come from. It's something totally different to recognize them, be

526
00:33:14.079 --> 00:33:18.039
accountable for them, but then actually get up and do

527
00:33:18.119 --> 00:33:29.000
something about it. So love is not enough it's not

528
00:33:29.160 --> 00:33:31.720
enough because if people are not willing to put in

529
00:33:31.799 --> 00:33:36.480
the work, it's not going to work. Right.

530
00:33:36.519 --> 00:33:39.400
There's like this crazy assumption that just because I love you,

531
00:33:39.440 --> 00:33:44.960
weren't in this together forever. But relationships that have been

532
00:33:45.000 --> 00:33:49.920
together forever took work. They weren't easy, it wasn't always

533
00:33:50.000 --> 00:33:54.640
a good time. It's you know, it's there are things

534
00:33:54.680 --> 00:33:56.759
and you got to deal with real shit together.

535
00:33:57.440 --> 00:34:01.240
Yeah, but then that that whole definition of insanity. If

536
00:34:01.240 --> 00:34:04.039
you keep doing the same thing over and over, you

537
00:34:04.119 --> 00:34:07.640
are not going to get a different result. And there's

538
00:34:07.720 --> 00:34:12.760
something behind that. If the arguments are turning into traumatization

539
00:34:13.480 --> 00:34:18.480
and shutting down, let me tell you something. People do

540
00:34:18.519 --> 00:34:22.679
not shut down for no reason, all right, Like I'll

541
00:34:22.719 --> 00:34:26.400
tell you I shut down, but I shut down when

542
00:34:26.440 --> 00:34:30.280
I feel like one I'm not being heard, two I'm

543
00:34:30.320 --> 00:34:35.960
not being respected, Three my boundaries are being crossed. That

544
00:34:37.679 --> 00:34:42.840
for me anyway in the other person may spark like

545
00:34:43.239 --> 00:34:46.360
anger and resentment, like you're always shutting down. So it's

546
00:34:46.360 --> 00:34:53.280
like they're blaming me for triggering reactions. Right, But the

547
00:34:53.320 --> 00:34:56.119
thing is, if I don't actually speak up and talk

548
00:34:56.159 --> 00:35:00.159
about what has triggered me, why I feel like I'm

549
00:35:00.159 --> 00:35:04.760
shutting down one they're never gonna know. And two if

550
00:35:04.840 --> 00:35:09.599
hurting you, if hurting me does not hurt you, then

551
00:35:09.639 --> 00:35:14.480
I don't belong here, so you have to. It can't

552
00:35:14.519 --> 00:35:18.199
be just about how do I prevent these things from happening.

553
00:35:18.599 --> 00:35:19.519
It's got to be.

554
00:35:19.760 --> 00:35:22.639
It's got to be why are these things happening? And

555
00:35:22.920 --> 00:35:26.320
is there something we actually need to do? And even

556
00:35:26.400 --> 00:35:31.320
more important, are you wanting to do anything about it?

557
00:35:31.920 --> 00:35:34.360
Or are you just good the way things are? Because

558
00:35:34.400 --> 00:35:37.679
guess what, you might be okay with it, but I

559
00:35:37.719 --> 00:35:40.960
can't continue to live this way. And if I can't

560
00:35:41.000 --> 00:35:45.519
be who I am and express my feelings about things

561
00:35:45.559 --> 00:35:48.960
that are happening, then this is not gonna work for

562
00:35:49.000 --> 00:35:52.920
me because I want something to work towards, not something

563
00:35:52.960 --> 00:35:55.800
to have to avoid or run away from.

564
00:35:56.960 --> 00:35:58.079
Right right.

565
00:35:59.119 --> 00:36:00.800
I don't know about you, but I feel like for

566
00:36:01.000 --> 00:36:06.199
women especially, the biggest thing is feeling safe. There's a

567
00:36:07.000 --> 00:36:11.280
you know, we need to feel safe around our partner.

568
00:36:11.920 --> 00:36:15.800
If they do not make us feel safe, that's when

569
00:36:16.400 --> 00:36:20.360
we need to start questioning why we are there. And

570
00:36:20.880 --> 00:36:23.920
I love that you brought up the whole thing about

571
00:36:24.119 --> 00:36:28.480
like fixing, because I feel like women do this too much.

572
00:36:29.199 --> 00:36:33.400
They get involved with the man. They see potential, they

573
00:36:33.480 --> 00:36:36.039
see that he is a good person, but they're not

574
00:36:36.280 --> 00:36:39.679
seeing the actions and what he is showing in the

575
00:36:39.800 --> 00:36:43.800
moment to your face. And we need to pay attention

576
00:36:44.119 --> 00:36:49.760
to that because, like they said, what is happening, and

577
00:36:49.800 --> 00:36:52.639
that is what is happening, and.

578
00:36:52.400 --> 00:36:54.760
I don't understand and I don't get I don't I

579
00:36:54.760 --> 00:36:55.280
don't get it.

580
00:36:55.639 --> 00:36:58.920
Oh, let me give you an example. Okay, all right,

581
00:36:59.480 --> 00:37:06.280
So someone wants to build a life with someone, right right,

582
00:37:06.679 --> 00:37:08.519
but they want to do it. A man wants to

583
00:37:08.559 --> 00:37:10.280
do it. And this is not all men, this is

584
00:37:10.360 --> 00:37:14.199
just one specific situation. He wants to do it and

585
00:37:14.400 --> 00:37:22.840
feel valued, uh you know, validated, you know things like that. Right,

586
00:37:23.360 --> 00:37:25.280
So he wants to build this life with it with

587
00:37:25.320 --> 00:37:26.039
you as a woman.

588
00:37:27.360 --> 00:37:31.960
So you're the man. You're you're the man that you're

589
00:37:32.039 --> 00:37:32.519
so funny.

590
00:37:32.559 --> 00:37:33.199
What's talking about it?

591
00:37:33.800 --> 00:37:35.360
We're just talking about you now now.

592
00:37:36.559 --> 00:37:42.119
Yeah. So so then okay, so me as the woman,

593
00:37:42.639 --> 00:37:47.480
it's like, okay, I like this person. I I have

594
00:37:47.599 --> 00:37:51.719
spent time with this person. I like I like that

595
00:37:51.760 --> 00:37:56.960
I've seen uh he likes to fix uh old cars, right,

596
00:37:57.000 --> 00:37:59.280
so he's got a garage. He fixed old cars. I

597
00:37:59.320 --> 00:38:02.719
find that a train. I find it interesting when it

598
00:38:02.800 --> 00:38:07.599
comes to responsibility as far as like finances. You know,

599
00:38:07.840 --> 00:38:11.559
he's financially stable, he has a good job, he has

600
00:38:11.639 --> 00:38:15.239
health insurance, he has a home, he has a car.

601
00:38:15.719 --> 00:38:19.079
Those are grade A wonderful. He comes with the same

602
00:38:19.199 --> 00:38:22.880
tools that I come with. Awesome. He's not a smoker,

603
00:38:23.000 --> 00:38:30.000
not a drinker, is not into drugs. Wonderful. However, he

604
00:38:30.079 --> 00:38:36.280
wants me as the woman to consistently, consistently, consistently feed

605
00:38:36.360 --> 00:38:40.559
his ego. Now, on the you know, and it's always

606
00:38:40.639 --> 00:38:46.039
about do I miss him? Do I love him? How?

607
00:38:46.280 --> 00:38:49.639
You know? Is there something you know I can do

608
00:38:49.800 --> 00:38:54.760
for him? It's always him him, So it's like, you

609
00:38:54.800 --> 00:38:57.880
know what. On the one hand, I see how much

610
00:38:57.920 --> 00:39:01.119
he loves his family. I see see how much he gives.

611
00:39:01.719 --> 00:39:04.119
I see how much he takes care of people. I

612
00:39:04.119 --> 00:39:06.239
see that we have the same interests. I see that

613
00:39:06.320 --> 00:39:09.880
we're on the same financial even the same emotional and

614
00:39:10.000 --> 00:39:15.440
mental path. However, me as a woman can't express my

615
00:39:15.519 --> 00:39:19.840
feelings because when I express my feelings he gets upset.

616
00:39:20.199 --> 00:39:24.599
That means, bam, my emotions are not safe with this man.

617
00:39:24.840 --> 00:39:28.159
I can't express myself because when I do he makes

618
00:39:28.199 --> 00:39:29.400
it unsafe for me to do.

619
00:39:29.440 --> 00:39:29.519
So.

620
00:39:30.960 --> 00:39:35.840
Two, I can't go anywhere without him questioning where are you,

621
00:39:36.039 --> 00:39:40.440
what are you doing? Who are you with? Control? Everything

622
00:39:40.480 --> 00:39:44.639
I do. He has to control. Even when it comes

623
00:39:44.639 --> 00:39:47.760
to him he wants a kiss, I give him a kiss.

624
00:39:48.559 --> 00:39:51.159
The kiss wasn't the way he wanted it. How about

625
00:39:51.199 --> 00:39:52.880
you do it like this? It would be better if

626
00:39:52.880 --> 00:39:56.760
you did it like this. You should do it this way. Okay. Now,

627
00:39:57.079 --> 00:40:01.320
my physical emotion, my physical love for him, is not

628
00:40:01.480 --> 00:40:05.239
safe because no matter what I do with my heart, body,

629
00:40:05.320 --> 00:40:08.400
or mind is not good for him. It's not safe

630
00:40:08.440 --> 00:40:10.639
because now he has to tell me what I did wrong.

631
00:40:13.440 --> 00:40:18.400
So when I'm looking at the potential, I've seen the

632
00:40:18.440 --> 00:40:22.400
soft side of him. I've seen what he is capable of.

633
00:40:23.639 --> 00:40:27.480
The other side is his reality. He needs to control

634
00:40:27.559 --> 00:40:32.480
every situation. My emotions are not safe to express, so

635
00:40:32.559 --> 00:40:36.159
that means I can't express them. So when I'm sad,

636
00:40:36.239 --> 00:40:38.360
I can't say I'm sad. When I'm angry, I can't

637
00:40:38.400 --> 00:40:41.000
say I'm angry. I need to be happy all the

638
00:40:41.119 --> 00:40:44.119
time and be the fake person that I never ever

639
00:40:44.199 --> 00:40:47.639
wanted to be. So that's what we're talking about when

640
00:40:47.679 --> 00:40:53.079
we say potential versus reality. He's basically telling me without

641
00:40:53.159 --> 00:40:57.920
telling me. He's treating me without being overt about it.

642
00:40:58.559 --> 00:41:02.679
His reality is he needs to be in control. He

643
00:41:02.800 --> 00:41:09.400
is narcissistic. Everything in our relationship is about him. So

644
00:41:09.440 --> 00:41:12.039
the potential is he could be the love of my life.

645
00:41:12.800 --> 00:41:16.199
The reality is, even if I was the love is life,

646
00:41:16.480 --> 00:41:21.800
it's only on his terms.

647
00:41:23.239 --> 00:41:23.719
All right?

648
00:41:24.159 --> 00:41:25.920
Did that to help you understand that?

649
00:41:26.239 --> 00:41:29.119
That really that helped me understand completely.

650
00:41:30.400 --> 00:41:33.000
Yeah. And the thing is and and TG was right.

651
00:41:33.920 --> 00:41:38.920
We as women are the nurturers. And so because our job,

652
00:41:39.039 --> 00:41:44.599
our innate inner person is naturally wanting to care for

653
00:41:44.880 --> 00:41:51.559
and nurture and grow people, show emotion, protect them. That

654
00:41:51.719 --> 00:41:54.679
is our nature. Even if we wanted to get away

655
00:41:54.679 --> 00:41:57.880
from it, we can't. It's it's just in our DNA.

656
00:41:57.960 --> 00:42:01.199
As women, just like with men, it's in their DNA

657
00:42:01.360 --> 00:42:04.599
to be the hunter, the gatherer, the chaser. And so

658
00:42:04.719 --> 00:42:09.159
when they truly care or want something, they do everything

659
00:42:09.199 --> 00:42:13.719
in their power to protect it, right, And they can't

660
00:42:13.719 --> 00:42:19.679
help it either. It's just in their DNA. So when

661
00:42:19.719 --> 00:42:24.280
you find a situation where it is not that way,

662
00:42:24.320 --> 00:42:30.400
it's not the reality. Right. And because we're the nurturers,

663
00:42:31.039 --> 00:42:35.440
we tend to ignore or become blind to those red

664
00:42:35.440 --> 00:42:41.320
flags because we see the little glimmers of hope, the

665
00:42:41.440 --> 00:42:45.840
little glimmers of care and safety that they provide.

666
00:42:46.639 --> 00:42:49.039
And they can also be saying things too.

667
00:42:49.519 --> 00:42:53.199
Yes, yes, they could be giving you hope in the

668
00:42:53.239 --> 00:42:55.599
words that they are using to you as.

669
00:42:55.480 --> 00:43:00.239
Well to show you who they could be right not,

670
00:43:00.480 --> 00:43:03.119
you know, they tell you what you want to hear.

671
00:43:03.639 --> 00:43:07.159
It's not what they truly feel. Yes, you know.

672
00:43:07.239 --> 00:43:07.559
And.

673
00:43:10.039 --> 00:43:15.880
Yes, yes it is gas lighting. Yeah, But the thing is,

674
00:43:16.360 --> 00:43:20.960
men are the ones that drive commitment. Women are the

675
00:43:20.960 --> 00:43:26.079
ones that drive the size of the love, but men

676
00:43:26.159 --> 00:43:28.239
do the like. Men are in charge of the commitment,

677
00:43:29.320 --> 00:43:32.840
so they know what they're doing, they know how to

678
00:43:32.920 --> 00:43:35.119
do that. It's just a part of who you guys are.

679
00:43:35.199 --> 00:43:37.480
It's you know, it's not bad, it's not good, it's

680
00:43:37.639 --> 00:43:41.239
just what it is. But the thing is, guys know

681
00:43:41.360 --> 00:43:47.639
that and they use that to portray the persona that

682
00:43:47.679 --> 00:43:53.519
they want women to see. But women, as nurturers and

683
00:43:53.559 --> 00:43:58.280
as detail oriented people, have the ability to discern the

684
00:43:58.360 --> 00:44:04.480
reality versus the dream or the hope that you know, potential.

685
00:44:05.400 --> 00:44:08.519
But unfortunately, because of the way the world is and

686
00:44:08.559 --> 00:44:10.639
because of the pain and the hurt that we go

687
00:44:10.800 --> 00:44:15.400
through and that we struggle and suffer with. We want

688
00:44:15.480 --> 00:44:18.760
so much to not be alone or to believe that

689
00:44:18.840 --> 00:44:24.000
we are enough that when someone shows us what we want,

690
00:44:25.039 --> 00:44:30.159
we try to make it into what we need and

691
00:44:30.199 --> 00:44:33.840
that that is truly who they are. And so we

692
00:44:33.960 --> 00:44:40.360
become blind to those little little flags that we see

693
00:44:40.719 --> 00:44:46.119
because we've seen even less of a sliver of great

694
00:44:46.679 --> 00:44:49.880
and because that little sliver showed up, we make it

695
00:44:49.960 --> 00:44:53.920
the whole kaboodle yep, and we turn that person into

696
00:44:54.000 --> 00:44:56.559
who we think they can be and not who they're

697
00:44:56.599 --> 00:44:58.079
actually showing us they are.

698
00:44:58.679 --> 00:45:05.239
Yeap. That is word to your mama right there.

699
00:45:06.079 --> 00:45:06.920
And father, And.

700
00:45:11.000 --> 00:45:14.159
Like, this is definitely a conversation I've been wanting to

701
00:45:14.239 --> 00:45:19.639
have because I feel like because unfortunately, if I'm experiencing this,

702
00:45:19.800 --> 00:45:25.199
but also it's just you know, I get talking to

703
00:45:25.519 --> 00:45:30.360
men and getting their perspective is very interesting because the

704
00:45:30.360 --> 00:45:33.599
minute that I explained certain things are like nat, he's lying.

705
00:45:34.400 --> 00:45:39.039
Like now when they're doing it, it's not a lie.

706
00:45:39.159 --> 00:45:44.159
I'm like, yeah, okay, okay, yeah, So it's it's just interesting.

707
00:45:45.000 --> 00:45:49.880
But unfortunately this is what happens. And and a lot

708
00:45:49.960 --> 00:45:52.719
of times we'll see people that were like, why why

709
00:45:52.719 --> 00:45:55.840
would she Why is she wasting her time on this guy?

710
00:45:56.639 --> 00:46:00.280
Because we're seeing it. That doesn't mean she doesn't see it.

711
00:46:00.280 --> 00:46:04.559
It's just that she's seeing other things that aren't truly

712
00:46:04.800 --> 00:46:09.320
like what's happening and it and it, and it's.

713
00:46:09.000 --> 00:46:12.000
Seems he's capable. That's enough.

714
00:46:12.239 --> 00:46:16.920
That's enough, I know, because it's it's showing that you

715
00:46:16.960 --> 00:46:19.039
can do that. You can be that person, you can

716
00:46:19.119 --> 00:46:21.039
be that caring, you can be that loving.

717
00:46:21.320 --> 00:46:25.480
But on the bigger picture, that's not who they're choosing

718
00:46:25.639 --> 00:46:30.280
to be, right right, So it's well, I'm sorry that

719
00:46:30.320 --> 00:46:32.880
I heard you. No, you know what, I don't want

720
00:46:32.880 --> 00:46:35.280
to hear you apologize to me one more time because

721
00:46:35.360 --> 00:46:39.199
guess what if you were sorry, you wouldn't do it.

722
00:46:39.519 --> 00:46:44.079
Right or you'd make actual changes. Did you find parking?

723
00:46:45.039 --> 00:46:46.960
No, of course not.

724
00:46:47.519 --> 00:46:48.679
Why don't you just buy the street?

725
00:46:51.039 --> 00:46:51.239
Yeah?

726
00:46:51.599 --> 00:46:54.519
I wish I couldn't. It's you know what I mean,

727
00:46:54.559 --> 00:46:57.159
like like you know, like parking.

728
00:46:57.199 --> 00:47:01.119
Come on now, I think that's what you were doing. Nah,

729
00:47:01.719 --> 00:47:07.679
I pulled over. I pulled over? No, like get me.

730
00:47:07.880 --> 00:47:10.119
You know you know what you guys is rampling for

731
00:47:10.119 --> 00:47:11.199
for like ten minutes.

732
00:47:11.719 --> 00:47:17.559
That's called meeting their representative. Call it what you wanted. Oh,

733
00:47:17.639 --> 00:47:20.760
that's what That's what it is. I'm at a representative.

734
00:47:20.840 --> 00:47:22.199
That's that's that's.

735
00:47:22.119 --> 00:47:24.920
Yeah, you gave the representative. But we're talking about how

736
00:47:25.079 --> 00:47:31.519
women tend to fall in love with the representatives.

737
00:47:31.559 --> 00:47:32.000
Messed up.

738
00:47:32.719 --> 00:47:34.159
Yeah, but that's messed up.

739
00:47:34.199 --> 00:47:36.840
Like like like like you know what, I've been guilty.

740
00:47:36.920 --> 00:47:40.199
I've be guilty of some of my representative. Like you know,

741
00:47:40.280 --> 00:47:42.199
I admit it. You know I'm saying like back then

742
00:47:42.239 --> 00:47:45.159
I didn't care because you know, like whatever, Like I

743
00:47:45.199 --> 00:47:48.400
care now you know what I'm saying, Like I'm guilty

744
00:47:48.400 --> 00:47:48.559
of it.

745
00:47:48.599 --> 00:47:50.320
You know what I'm saying, Like I don't brag about it.

746
00:47:50.480 --> 00:47:52.960
I feel did it take, Dubs? What did it take

747
00:47:53.079 --> 00:47:57.719
for you to finally decide you were no longer going

748
00:47:57.800 --> 00:48:00.880
to try to represent who you thought she wanted, but

749
00:48:01.000 --> 00:48:03.800
actually be the man you've been claiming to be all

750
00:48:03.800 --> 00:48:04.280
this time.

751
00:48:06.599 --> 00:48:07.599
Start loving myself?

752
00:48:08.840 --> 00:48:11.039
Okay, So what happened? What did it mean for you

753
00:48:11.119 --> 00:48:14.239
to decide that? Because whatever it is that took for

754
00:48:14.280 --> 00:48:16.679
you to decide that, you need to put that knowledge

755
00:48:16.679 --> 00:48:22.159
out to these freaking men. Yeah, to stop the madness, please,

756
00:48:23.079 --> 00:48:27.000
because let me tell you, it's what Let me tell

757
00:48:27.000 --> 00:48:29.280
you something. Men out here talking about how they want

758
00:48:29.320 --> 00:48:32.880
a faithful woman, they want a woman who's neat and clean,

759
00:48:34.960 --> 00:48:38.480
good hygienically, who keeps a good house. But then you

760
00:48:38.559 --> 00:48:41.400
go turn around and they're not doing not one of

761
00:48:41.440 --> 00:48:45.920
those things for that woman. Yeah, you want a faithful woman,

762
00:48:46.039 --> 00:48:48.320
you want a lawyer woman. You don't want somebody's gonna

763
00:48:48.360 --> 00:48:51.360
lie to you, steal from you, cheat on you. Well,

764
00:48:51.360 --> 00:48:53.440
then if that's what you want in your life, why

765
00:48:53.440 --> 00:48:55.800
are you going around doing that? Do they not deserve

766
00:48:55.840 --> 00:48:58.760
the same right or this whole fifty to fifty thing.

767
00:48:59.239 --> 00:49:03.599
Oh you know these women expecting me to buy this

768
00:49:03.800 --> 00:49:07.159
or to pay for dinner. Guess what, that's innate. That's

769
00:49:07.239 --> 00:49:10.840
what a man does. A man's nature is to care

770
00:49:11.320 --> 00:49:14.559
and to be secure, to help a woman feel safe

771
00:49:14.559 --> 00:49:18.320
and secure. No, it is not a requirement. It's not

772
00:49:18.440 --> 00:49:25.400
a requirement. However, they should feel man enough and responsibility

773
00:49:25.719 --> 00:49:30.639
to want to do that for someone that they're asking out. Okay, Now,

774
00:49:31.039 --> 00:49:34.239
when you get to the point of I'm not paying

775
00:49:34.920 --> 00:49:37.039
for this for that, then you're going out with too

776
00:49:37.039 --> 00:49:39.960
many freaking people, all right, Because if you're talking about

777
00:49:40.039 --> 00:49:42.960
wasting your money, then you are not being selective about

778
00:49:42.960 --> 00:49:45.880
the women you're asking out. That's what. If you're going

779
00:49:45.960 --> 00:49:50.360
to ask out every boomshika fla la la, and you

780
00:49:50.400 --> 00:49:54.239
know Dominique out there, then you're gonna be spending money, brother,

781
00:49:54.400 --> 00:49:58.800
because a real man don't make a woman pay. Now,

782
00:49:58.880 --> 00:50:01.960
that doesn't give her car Blanche to be acting a

783
00:50:02.000 --> 00:50:04.440
mess and order everything on the freaking menu.

784
00:50:04.639 --> 00:50:07.239
She needs to be a lady about it.

785
00:50:09.559 --> 00:50:11.880
I've turned into one of those women. If you're asking

786
00:50:11.920 --> 00:50:14.280
me out, I'm not taking my wallet.

787
00:50:15.400 --> 00:50:17.960
But see here's the thing though, right, go ahead, then

788
00:50:17.960 --> 00:50:19.119
we're going to Mickey D's.

789
00:50:19.239 --> 00:50:20.239
That's where we're going.

790
00:50:20.639 --> 00:50:27.519
Hey, that's what if we're going to that is fight

791
00:50:27.639 --> 00:50:30.639
with me because about where we go.

792
00:50:34.079 --> 00:50:34.360
State.

793
00:50:35.400 --> 00:50:40.519
Okay, you're still providing me a place to go, you

794
00:50:40.559 --> 00:50:44.119
are you gentlemen? What if Mickey D's is all you

795
00:50:44.199 --> 00:50:44.800
can afford?

796
00:50:45.039 --> 00:50:46.840
Okay? I ain't mad about it.

797
00:50:47.280 --> 00:50:53.719
Yeah, I'm not either. I'm still took me to say

798
00:50:53.960 --> 00:50:56.320
I'm only going to be able to eat half of

799
00:50:56.360 --> 00:50:59.239
the plate anyway, So whatever, let me.

800
00:50:59.639 --> 00:51:02.679
I I gotta tell you something because this is on topic.

801
00:51:03.000 --> 00:51:10.840
Like I've been looking on Facebook dating and stuff on profiles.

802
00:51:10.199 --> 00:51:11.800
It's I just.

803
00:51:12.320 --> 00:51:14.519
Why tg why are you looking at that stuff?

804
00:51:14.639 --> 00:51:19.199
It's hilarious, But there is like some of the ship

805
00:51:19.440 --> 00:51:23.280
these guys say I am dying, Like, oh, if you

806
00:51:23.519 --> 00:51:26.920
want to get to you know each other or whatever,

807
00:51:27.239 --> 00:51:29.360
then I don't need to be going out and buying

808
00:51:29.400 --> 00:51:32.400
you things. And I'm just like what like what if?

809
00:51:34.239 --> 00:51:37.360
But whatever happened to like actually just talking to people

810
00:51:37.400 --> 00:51:41.280
to get to know them before you meet up. Like

811
00:51:41.360 --> 00:51:44.280
everybody just wants to meet right away. I'm like, I

812
00:51:44.280 --> 00:51:46.639
don't know if you're a fucking psycho, crazy motherfucker.

813
00:51:47.119 --> 00:51:49.440
This is like the same day they want your phone number.

814
00:51:49.519 --> 00:51:52.920
I'm right, I don't know you. Yes, you cannot my

815
00:51:52.920 --> 00:51:53.440
phone number.

816
00:51:53.760 --> 00:51:55.320
And there's a lot of scammers.

817
00:51:55.639 --> 00:51:58.440
What are your goals and aspirations? Okay?

818
00:51:58.840 --> 00:52:02.400
Because I give most of most of the people that find.

819
00:52:02.159 --> 00:52:06.360
Out all this information and then after that they're not

820
00:52:06.480 --> 00:52:09.880
find out that you got five six, seven baby mamas.

821
00:52:09.960 --> 00:52:10.320
No.

822
00:52:10.960 --> 00:52:13.360
Look, most of these people are told anyways on the low,

823
00:52:14.159 --> 00:52:18.800
you know, like like like what's called like they listen

824
00:52:18.880 --> 00:52:21.159
to like you know, these so called alpha males who

825
00:52:21.239 --> 00:52:24.920
turn out, you know, to be undercover. You know, yes,

826
00:52:25.000 --> 00:52:27.320
you know, let's just let's just put it this way, right,

827
00:52:27.360 --> 00:52:29.920
those alpha males that they're listening on the podcast or whatever.

828
00:52:29.920 --> 00:52:31.119
They got grinder accounts.

829
00:52:31.159 --> 00:52:33.679
All right, you know what I'm saying because like the

830
00:52:33.679 --> 00:52:37.119
way they talk, you know, like about women is like, bro,

831
00:52:37.239 --> 00:52:38.760
like are you trying to like you know, like do

832
00:52:38.800 --> 00:52:41.639
you want? But like what are you like what are

833
00:52:41.679 --> 00:52:43.360
you looking for? You know, like the songs that you're

834
00:52:43.360 --> 00:52:43.639
looking for?

835
00:52:43.679 --> 00:52:47.519
A dude? Yeah, you know what I'm saying, Like, like

836
00:52:47.760 --> 00:52:49.079
it's funny, I say.

837
00:52:48.920 --> 00:52:52.039
They want women who have that they're in their feminine energy, right.

838
00:52:52.280 --> 00:52:53.840
They don't like these these.

839
00:52:53.639 --> 00:53:04.840
Women because they're in their feminine energy too.

840
00:53:01.400 --> 00:53:06.039
Energy energy, right, But yet when you go on a date,

841
00:53:06.119 --> 00:53:08.280
you want her to pay for her own How is

842
00:53:08.320 --> 00:53:11.000
she supposed to feel feminine when she's the one that's

843
00:53:11.039 --> 00:53:14.599
got to pay her own bills, sweep her own step,

844
00:53:15.119 --> 00:53:19.199
mow her own grass, drive her own car, change her

845
00:53:19.239 --> 00:53:22.800
own oil, pump her own freaking yas, take care of

846
00:53:22.880 --> 00:53:27.880
this jersey, work two three jobs. And you want a

847
00:53:27.880 --> 00:53:30.199
woman and her feminine energy, but yet you don't want

848
00:53:30.199 --> 00:53:32.079
to be able to provide for anything.

849
00:53:32.400 --> 00:53:35.039
Okay, because they're all right, can I answer that? Because

850
00:53:35.039 --> 00:53:41.639
they're in their feminine energy too, you know, so like sorry, sorry,

851
00:53:41.840 --> 00:53:43.880
you know what I'm saying, like, those are the type

852
00:53:43.920 --> 00:53:45.760
of dudes like, you know what I'm saying, like, hello,

853
00:53:46.400 --> 00:53:48.000
you just got into a lesbian relationship.

854
00:53:48.719 --> 00:53:51.280
What is a man with energy? What is that? What

855
00:53:51.320 --> 00:53:52.079
does that look like?

856
00:53:53.440 --> 00:53:53.559
Well?

857
00:53:53.719 --> 00:53:56.679
All right, they're the ones who are like the loudest

858
00:53:56.679 --> 00:53:58.800
ones in the room talking about I'm an alpha male male,

859
00:53:58.920 --> 00:54:01.400
you know, blah blah blah blah blah blah blah.

860
00:54:01.559 --> 00:54:02.079
That's dumb.

861
00:54:02.960 --> 00:54:06.719
So as feminine, a woman in her feminine energy goes

862
00:54:06.760 --> 00:54:08.639
around saying she's the most important thing.

863
00:54:08.760 --> 00:54:12.880
Since no, I'm no a man in the feminine Did

864
00:54:12.880 --> 00:54:15.079
you not ask, like, what's a man in this feminine energy?

865
00:54:15.679 --> 00:54:16.360
Yeah?

866
00:54:15.960 --> 00:54:19.039
But when you say feminine energy, you're basically saying, then

867
00:54:19.079 --> 00:54:20.880
that must be what women are doing.

868
00:54:20.960 --> 00:54:23.800
No, no, no, no, no, you know what I'm saying

869
00:54:23.880 --> 00:54:27.599
that they act that the loudest ones in the room

870
00:54:27.679 --> 00:54:30.559
saying I'm out for male, you know I do blah

871
00:54:30.639 --> 00:54:34.480
blah blah. But no, no, hold on, But those are

872
00:54:34.519 --> 00:54:36.760
the ones that you know they're feminine energy because you

873
00:54:36.800 --> 00:54:41.119
know what they start doing what you just described. You

874
00:54:41.199 --> 00:54:42.800
gotta oh no, you know what, you gotta pay your

875
00:54:42.800 --> 00:54:44.639
own bills, You gotta do this stand. The third they

876
00:54:44.679 --> 00:54:47.719
do the opposite. See, those are the ones. Those are

877
00:54:47.760 --> 00:54:50.039
the males that's in their feminine energies, the loud ones.

878
00:54:50.199 --> 00:54:51.800
You know what I'm saying, the loud ones to distract

879
00:54:51.840 --> 00:54:54.360
you from the fact that, yo, you know what they

880
00:54:54.559 --> 00:54:57.199
are doing what you just described. But both you guys

881
00:54:57.400 --> 00:54:58.599
just described as a matter of fact.

882
00:54:59.760 --> 00:55:02.440
Okay, So when a woman, let me tell you, I

883
00:55:02.440 --> 00:55:03.880
think you're misunderstanding.

884
00:55:03.840 --> 00:55:08.639
You're misunderstanding because when a woman is in her masculine energy,

885
00:55:08.840 --> 00:55:14.400
that means she's doing things that should be doing. Now,

886
00:55:14.559 --> 00:55:17.800
a man in his feminine energy has nothing to do

887
00:55:17.880 --> 00:55:21.119
with being loud or telling someone, because that's.

888
00:55:20.960 --> 00:55:23.719
All right, all right, I'm sorry, I'm sorry.

889
00:55:23.880 --> 00:55:27.199
You know what a man in this feminine energy, Well,

890
00:55:27.280 --> 00:55:28.960
they expect you to do, you know what I'm saying,

891
00:55:29.039 --> 00:55:30.920
to do what you say.

892
00:55:31.280 --> 00:55:33.400
Expecting you to do the man's job.

893
00:55:33.559 --> 00:55:34.079
Yes.

894
00:55:34.199 --> 00:55:39.239
But however, however, they come across as alpha I mean

895
00:55:39.960 --> 00:55:40.280
the man.

896
00:55:40.519 --> 00:55:45.679
Yeah. But they're not doors. They're not you know, they're

897
00:55:45.719 --> 00:55:49.119
not opening doors, they're not pulling out seats, they're not

898
00:55:49.159 --> 00:55:51.280
making that you have lunch.

899
00:55:51.039 --> 00:55:53.960
This week because you know what, No, they're not doing

900
00:55:53.960 --> 00:55:57.159
all that because to them it's gay, right.

901
00:55:58.119 --> 00:55:58.280
You know.

902
00:56:00.599 --> 00:56:04.039
However, that's what the manliest men that I've ever known

903
00:56:04.079 --> 00:56:06.440
in my whole life do, not because they have to,

904
00:56:06.599 --> 00:56:07.960
but because they want to.

905
00:56:09.440 --> 00:56:11.280
But to them, it's gay, you know what I'm saying,

906
00:56:11.360 --> 00:56:12.920
Like like like, as a matter of fact, living with

907
00:56:12.960 --> 00:56:17.760
your girl is gay too, Like I didn't know, you know, no,

908
00:56:18.280 --> 00:56:20.800
you know what, there's a there's a podcast that says

909
00:56:21.480 --> 00:56:23.480
living with your girl will turn you gay, and I'm

910
00:56:23.519 --> 00:56:26.199
like this, but of course this has come. This is

911
00:56:26.199 --> 00:56:29.800
coming from someone that has pictures of himself getting kissed

912
00:56:29.840 --> 00:56:30.880
on by never.

913
00:56:30.719 --> 00:56:39.960
Mind probably, like you said, has a blinder account. So

914
00:56:40.360 --> 00:56:43.760
there's no reason I hate these people that that come

915
00:56:43.840 --> 00:56:46.400
on and talk all this ship like they know things

916
00:56:46.400 --> 00:56:49.400
when they know nothing. But the problem with that, with

917
00:56:49.440 --> 00:56:52.400
that alpha male ship is that it's teaching young men

918
00:56:52.719 --> 00:56:57.679
horrible things. Because I actually watched something that came up

919
00:56:58.119 --> 00:57:01.400
and the guy was like, oh, so you don't care

920
00:57:01.719 --> 00:57:05.119
if the girl gets off when you're having sex with her?

921
00:57:05.159 --> 00:57:08.920
And he's like no, he's like, that's extra work and more.

922
00:57:10.360 --> 00:57:12.440
Let me guess who that is. It's a it's a

923
00:57:12.519 --> 00:57:14.559
it's a it's a dark skinned dude, right.

924
00:57:15.119 --> 00:57:16.519
No, it was a white guy.

925
00:57:18.400 --> 00:57:22.199
No, it was this young white blonde guy like he

926
00:57:22.360 --> 00:57:24.840
was talking to another dude. It was like he was

927
00:57:24.880 --> 00:57:28.119
a guest on the show or something and they were

928
00:57:28.199 --> 00:57:31.599
talking to him and he was like talking about that.

929
00:57:31.719 --> 00:57:34.760
It was like talking about it like it was a

930
00:57:34.800 --> 00:57:36.519
business venture that there was no.

931
00:57:37.199 --> 00:57:40.920
ROI and all this. I'm like, what, Like what the

932
00:57:40.920 --> 00:57:42.239
fuck are you talking about?

933
00:57:42.320 --> 00:57:47.920
So when you are looking at people transactionally, then you're

934
00:57:48.039 --> 00:57:51.599
you're not looking at people from a loving or emotional

935
00:57:51.639 --> 00:57:53.199
place at all, you.

936
00:57:53.159 --> 00:57:55.599
Know what, you know what in all honesty, like.

937
00:57:57.159 --> 00:57:58.679
Like you know what, you could tell that they just

938
00:57:58.760 --> 00:58:01.280
talk just to talk, you know what I'm saying, Like

939
00:58:01.280 --> 00:58:03.360
like like like you know what they talk as you

940
00:58:03.360 --> 00:58:05.719
know what I'm saying just to you know, just to

941
00:58:05.800 --> 00:58:07.599
like you know what I mean, like sell it if

942
00:58:07.639 --> 00:58:12.280
you will, right right, but in a reality right then,

943
00:58:12.360 --> 00:58:13.960
like you know, they get caught up, you know, like, oh,

944
00:58:14.000 --> 00:58:15.679
yeah I get girls. You know this, that the third

945
00:58:15.920 --> 00:58:17.519
I got you know, I'm a high value male, this

946
00:58:17.599 --> 00:58:19.880
and the third. But yeah, you know you're getting caught

947
00:58:19.960 --> 00:58:24.119
on them, on them like what's called them sugar daddy accounts?

948
00:58:24.559 --> 00:58:24.760
Right?

949
00:58:25.960 --> 00:58:28.400
You want to talk about high value males paying the

950
00:58:28.519 --> 00:58:30.360
the way wait, hold on, hold on, they get they

951
00:58:30.360 --> 00:58:32.719
get they get caught pain for the box.

952
00:58:32.760 --> 00:58:34.280
But you're supposed to be players like you're supposed to

953
00:58:34.519 --> 00:58:36.760
like you know what, how do they perceive themselves? Like

954
00:58:36.800 --> 00:58:39.239
how they that that.

955
00:58:39.280 --> 00:58:39.679
You know what?

956
00:58:39.719 --> 00:58:41.719
Like like these are like major players that they could

957
00:58:41.719 --> 00:58:43.760
talk to Virgin Marry out of Pains the same night

958
00:58:44.239 --> 00:58:44.760
that type.

959
00:58:44.840 --> 00:58:47.360
Right, you know what, done I have found You don't

960
00:58:47.400 --> 00:58:49.360
have to look, don't even have to say a word

961
00:58:49.400 --> 00:58:52.039
to talk of woman ever panties, you know how because

962
00:58:52.119 --> 00:58:55.920
Corneione don't say nothing. And he's the only yeah, women

963
00:58:56.079 --> 00:58:57.960
talking about they wanted to go out with him on

964
00:58:58.000 --> 00:58:58.360
the show.

965
00:58:59.800 --> 00:59:02.480
Yeah. You know what, yo, yo yo, You know what.

966
00:59:06.760 --> 00:59:08.760
Corleon is the most instant man in the world.

967
00:59:09.119 --> 00:59:11.119
He doesn't have to talk. He doesn't even have to

968
00:59:11.440 --> 00:59:13.280
He doesn't even have to say a word.

969
00:59:16.000 --> 00:59:16.599
Any play.

970
00:59:17.280 --> 00:59:22.039
The most interesting man in the world. He's to Walking's commercial.

971
00:59:26.760 --> 00:59:29.000
He just shows up and got phone.

972
00:59:30.639 --> 00:59:32.320
You know what I'm saying. They're squeezing it.

973
00:59:33.199 --> 00:59:38.280
Drip drip drip, posting himself more than he posts anybody else.

974
00:59:39.440 --> 00:59:40.000
That's true.

975
00:59:40.239 --> 00:59:41.199
Noticed that right.

976
00:59:42.760 --> 00:59:46.119
About you You know what, that's you know what, that's

977
00:59:46.119 --> 00:59:49.880
called confidence coming back up let him live, you know,

978
00:59:50.039 --> 00:59:52.400
like like like yo, you know what some people like

979
00:59:52.440 --> 00:59:54.880
you know they shout from shall.

980
01:00:01.239 --> 01:00:06.599
Yeah I'm gaining I'm gaining knowledge, man, I'm learning.

981
01:00:07.440 --> 01:00:09.519
Yeah yeah, yeah, you know what emails?

982
01:00:10.519 --> 01:00:13.679
Yo, you know what I'm telling you man, like meet

983
01:00:13.679 --> 01:00:15.440
the most interesting man in the podcast.

984
01:00:15.920 --> 01:00:18.519
He stays quiet for fourteen seconds and smiles.

985
01:00:20.320 --> 01:00:36.840
He thinks, noah, but.

986
01:00:32.320 --> 01:00:35.440
Were pictures of himself every day with interesting music and

987
01:00:35.559 --> 01:00:39.880
saying that's right, right, and it's all about this my

988
01:00:40.000 --> 01:00:49.719
her podcast, all the love and they don't get no.

989
01:00:49.760 --> 01:01:03.400
Pay bro, like like like nah, but like all jokes

990
01:01:03.400 --> 01:01:05.440
aside is like you know, like these like those are

991
01:01:05.440 --> 01:01:07.599
the types and then you know like people actually fall

992
01:01:07.679 --> 01:01:09.920
for that, like how.

993
01:01:09.960 --> 01:01:12.840
You know, yeah, that's how it's supposed to be, you know,

994
01:01:13.519 --> 01:01:15.039
you know, like you get women and this that and

995
01:01:15.079 --> 01:01:17.079
the third they like they go on to you know,

996
01:01:17.159 --> 01:01:20.079
sell the little courses or whatever. But yet they getting

997
01:01:20.119 --> 01:01:22.880
called the scandals like and it's like, how are you

998
01:01:22.880 --> 01:01:25.719
getting called Wait a minute, aren't supposed to be this player?

999
01:01:26.559 --> 01:01:28.239
How are you getting called the scandals?

1000
01:01:28.280 --> 01:01:28.519
Like that?

1001
01:01:29.440 --> 01:01:30.440
Of that back to two?

1002
01:01:30.519 --> 01:01:32.679
You know, so it's like it's like come on, man,

1003
01:01:33.760 --> 01:01:36.320
you know, just you know what you know what, in

1004
01:01:36.360 --> 01:01:38.199
all honesty, if you want to learn how to pull

1005
01:01:38.199 --> 01:01:39.599
a girl, just be you.

1006
01:01:39.599 --> 01:01:41.800
You know what I'm saying. If they don't like you

1007
01:01:41.880 --> 01:01:45.360
so bit right, you know, so b it. You know,

1008
01:01:45.440 --> 01:01:48.079
like most of these dudes are too sensitive that.

1009
01:01:48.039 --> 01:01:55.760
Don't make the money that definitely you know what I mean.

1010
01:01:56.440 --> 01:01:58.960
I mean, you know what, you know what it took

1011
01:01:59.079 --> 01:02:01.119
it took for God to me of everything to realize

1012
01:02:01.119 --> 01:02:01.800
I'm still rich.

1013
01:02:03.760 --> 01:02:07.639
And then you know, like that's robber h.

1014
01:02:09.960 --> 01:02:11.719
Hey, you know what I'm you know what, I'm blessed.

1015
01:02:11.920 --> 01:02:14.840
I'm blessed, you know, like I'm like I like, I

1016
01:02:14.880 --> 01:02:18.000
am extremely blessed man, Like I don't brag about it.

1017
01:02:18.039 --> 01:02:21.519
Stuff comes at a high price though the you know, like, yeah,

1018
01:02:21.639 --> 01:02:23.559
he didn't just strip it from you. He had to

1019
01:02:23.599 --> 01:02:24.079
take you.

1020
01:02:24.039 --> 01:02:28.519
Through exactly, you know what.

1021
01:02:26.719 --> 01:02:28.880
Saying what you actually had.

1022
01:02:29.079 --> 01:02:31.239
Like like look, you know what, I came away from

1023
01:02:31.280 --> 01:02:33.920
this right like you know, and I'm not trying to

1024
01:02:33.920 --> 01:02:36.360
sound like performative or nothing, but but you know, like

1025
01:02:36.400 --> 01:02:38.239
I told Corleon, I said, Yo, it took for me

1026
01:02:38.320 --> 01:02:40.639
to go through all of this and like you know,

1027
01:02:41.440 --> 01:02:44.559
strip me of all my financials to realize that I'm

1028
01:02:44.679 --> 01:02:47.440
rich still because I got family, I got you know,

1029
01:02:47.480 --> 01:02:49.360
I got God, I got family. You know, I got

1030
01:02:49.360 --> 01:02:50.920
people that love me and all that stuff. You know,

1031
01:02:51.039 --> 01:02:52.719
like that's rich, but.

1032
01:02:52.639 --> 01:02:53.480
That was the purpose.

1033
01:02:53.920 --> 01:02:57.719
That was the purpose, exactly exactly. You know what, like

1034
01:02:57.800 --> 01:03:00.400
Elon must Elon must the rich man.

1035
01:03:00.280 --> 01:03:02.519
In the world. But you know what, he's still broke.

1036
01:03:03.360 --> 01:03:08.360
Because every because you know what, every relationship he has

1037
01:03:08.400 --> 01:03:09.079
is transaction.

1038
01:03:09.880 --> 01:03:11.000
Yep, you know what I'm saying.

1039
01:03:11.760 --> 01:03:14.880
So so yeah, you know what, you know, like what's

1040
01:03:15.000 --> 01:03:16.840
been in what's the twenty dollars?

1041
01:03:16.880 --> 01:03:18.920
If you can't celebrate it with nobody?

1042
01:03:19.559 --> 01:03:22.800
Right, and everybody hates you exactly.

1043
01:03:23.639 --> 01:03:25.840
You know, like like what's that? You know what I'm saying,

1044
01:03:26.280 --> 01:03:27.480
Like like like yo, you know what.

1045
01:03:28.280 --> 01:03:31.719
At first, you know, like the younger men would be like, man,

1046
01:03:31.960 --> 01:03:33.280
I'll take that, you.

1047
01:03:33.239 --> 01:03:35.800
Know, like like yo, like I'd rather like I'd rather

1048
01:03:35.840 --> 01:03:37.119
have my tears. You know what I'm saying.

1049
01:03:37.239 --> 01:03:39.320
Hit you know what I'm saying, Hit the soft leather

1050
01:03:39.360 --> 01:03:42.199
of Bugatti than the back of the eighty seventh bus

1051
01:03:42.199 --> 01:03:45.400
going you know what I'm saying, going to Martin Luther King, Right,

1052
01:03:45.519 --> 01:03:47.280
I used to think that way, but like now it's like,

1053
01:03:47.920 --> 01:03:48.960
you know what, I'll have.

1054
01:03:49.159 --> 01:03:51.800
I'll take what I have right.

1055
01:03:53.440 --> 01:03:56.039
And you know what, it may not be much, but

1056
01:03:56.039 --> 01:03:58.280
I'll make it a fortune, you know because like the

1057
01:03:58.320 --> 01:03:59.880
people around me are healthy.

1058
01:04:00.239 --> 01:04:04.440
That's fourteen right there. Yeah, so so it's yo, yo,

1059
01:04:04.480 --> 01:04:04.840
you know what.

1060
01:04:05.199 --> 01:04:06.880
Having anything else if you don't have that.

1061
01:04:07.840 --> 01:04:10.320
Exactly, you know, like and and and you know another

1062
01:04:10.320 --> 01:04:12.599
thing too is like you know, like not to bring

1063
01:04:12.639 --> 01:04:17.079
religion in it. But you know, you know what, like

1064
01:04:17.079 --> 01:04:18.480
like I said, you know what God had to like

1065
01:04:18.519 --> 01:04:20.239
you know, like really put belt the ass on me

1066
01:04:21.719 --> 01:04:23.239
for me to open up my eyes and realize a

1067
01:04:23.239 --> 01:04:26.440
lot of things. So that's the reason why, like you know,

1068
01:04:27.519 --> 01:04:30.360
how I view you know, like that part of life,

1069
01:04:30.480 --> 01:04:34.000
how I view is how I view it, right, you know,

1070
01:04:34.159 --> 01:04:41.199
like I mean that's why like you know, like I

1071
01:04:41.239 --> 01:04:44.159
am who I am? Now could I could I be

1072
01:04:44.199 --> 01:04:47.440
a better person? Oh yeah, of course I can am

1073
01:04:47.440 --> 01:04:51.360
I am. I aiming for that absolutely, you know. But

1074
01:04:51.400 --> 01:04:54.119
as right now, you know, we had a podcast we

1075
01:04:54.199 --> 01:04:56.599
having fun because it's been a while, you know.

1076
01:04:57.039 --> 01:05:00.719
You know it's been a while, been a while, yeah yeah, yeah, so.

1077
01:05:02.719 --> 01:05:05.800
You know like back to that, you know, like like

1078
01:05:06.079 --> 01:05:08.880
like that's what these dudes are on, not like nowadays man,

1079
01:05:08.880 --> 01:05:14.639
it's like it's like wow, So the leading males.

1080
01:05:14.280 --> 01:05:16.679
Out here are bigger.

1081
01:05:16.760 --> 01:05:18.159
You know, excuse my legs when I say this, but

1082
01:05:18.199 --> 01:05:20.840
I'm just saying anyways, because you know what, a bitch

1083
01:05:20.920 --> 01:05:23.519
does not necessarily mean that it needs to be stuck

1084
01:05:23.559 --> 01:05:27.840
to a female, you know, the female gender, right, But

1085
01:05:28.280 --> 01:05:32.079
the men out here are the are the biggest bitches

1086
01:05:32.280 --> 01:05:39.239
online because like whenever I whenever I read like a

1087
01:05:39.280 --> 01:05:43.079
woman's with like a random woman's post or whatever about

1088
01:05:43.119 --> 01:05:44.079
you know, breakups or whatever.

1089
01:05:45.119 --> 01:05:46.320
You know, it's whatever.

1090
01:05:47.519 --> 01:05:51.679
I reader dude stuff, he's more like he's more emotional

1091
01:05:51.679 --> 01:05:57.320
than the woman. I'm like, whoa bro, you know, like yeah,

1092
01:05:57.360 --> 01:05:59.039
and but but but hold on though, you know what,

1093
01:05:59.119 --> 01:06:01.360
but the woman be talking about you know what I'm saying,

1094
01:06:01.400 --> 01:06:04.639
she got cheated on the dude talking about he got

1095
01:06:04.719 --> 01:06:06.800
you know what I'm saying, like I seen him underneath

1096
01:06:06.840 --> 01:06:09.280
the woman's post get rejected. Well fuck you then you

1097
01:06:09.280 --> 01:06:11.960
ain't all that anyways. And then like she's putting our

1098
01:06:11.960 --> 01:06:17.119
receipts on the DMS and I'm like, congratulations, you played yourself.

1099
01:06:17.480 --> 01:06:19.559
You know what I'm saying, Like, like, bro, you know what,

1100
01:06:19.679 --> 01:06:23.239
just because he said no, well fuck you.

1101
01:06:23.280 --> 01:06:25.159
Then bitch, I'm like.

1102
01:06:25.199 --> 01:06:30.079
Wow, yeah, rejection like he has been like to the extreme.

1103
01:06:30.239 --> 01:06:35.239
It's like like I don't know if the generation is

1104
01:06:35.400 --> 01:06:40.000
coddled that much that like they can't even take rejection,

1105
01:06:40.239 --> 01:06:44.760
like as the women owe men something just for fucking

1106
01:06:44.840 --> 01:06:47.880
existing is ridiculous mindset to happen.

1107
01:06:48.760 --> 01:06:51.400
Yeah, I take yo. I took rejection so smooth. They

1108
01:06:52.119 --> 01:06:53.639
they they want to gave me a second. You know

1109
01:06:53.639 --> 01:06:55.320
what I'm saying, another shot, just because it took us

1110
01:06:55.360 --> 01:06:55.840
so smooth.

1111
01:06:57.000 --> 01:06:59.840
I mean, rejection sucks. Nobody likes it, but you will

1112
01:07:00.119 --> 01:07:03.920
aren't going to try and like it's all about blame

1113
01:07:04.000 --> 01:07:07.559
the world and everyone in its problems, like because like

1114
01:07:07.639 --> 01:07:08.440
it's just weird.

1115
01:07:08.599 --> 01:07:11.519
It's like it shouldn't be like.

1116
01:07:11.400 --> 01:07:15.480
This is the thing nobody owes you nothing, right, right, but.

1117
01:07:16.280 --> 01:07:18.079
But see you know what to think about to think

1118
01:07:18.079 --> 01:07:20.760
about rejection, right, Like like me like as a man,

1119
01:07:21.320 --> 01:07:23.559
like first off, I got dignity, I got pride, Like

1120
01:07:23.559 --> 01:07:26.599
that's when it comes out, you know, like you rejectment

1121
01:07:26.639 --> 01:07:28.039
like you do know what, have a good one?

1122
01:07:28.400 --> 01:07:33.760
You know what I'm saying, because I'm value rejects me.

1123
01:07:33.960 --> 01:07:38.760
I'm like, bet that's your loss, not mine, bro Right, you.

1124
01:07:39.239 --> 01:07:41.800
See you see the thing is this, right, like what

1125
01:07:41.920 --> 01:07:45.480
men seem to forget, right, the only reason why women

1126
01:07:45.559 --> 01:07:49.000
out you know what I'm saying, Just like what's the ratio?

1127
01:07:49.039 --> 01:07:52.920
Like six to one? Right, six women to one male

1128
01:07:53.000 --> 01:07:57.119
is like math on that. I don't know, Like I'm like,

1129
01:07:57.159 --> 01:07:59.360
you know what, I know. I know it's like probably

1130
01:07:59.440 --> 01:08:00.400
up there, like I don't.

1131
01:08:00.239 --> 01:08:00.519
Know, I.

1132
01:08:02.719 --> 01:08:07.360
Know why because because because we're busically being being men

1133
01:08:07.440 --> 01:08:08.800
dowing off. You know what I'm saying, that's stupid men

1134
01:08:08.880 --> 01:08:11.519
wars all that ship that's another story for another time,

1135
01:08:11.840 --> 01:08:14.599
you know, and we're busically doing dumb ship skott diving,

1136
01:08:15.039 --> 01:08:15.519
you know what I'm.

1137
01:08:15.440 --> 01:08:24.279
Saying, Like you know like that, but but I'm yeah,

1138
01:08:24.319 --> 01:08:27.000
you know what you know, like like you know, like like.

1139
01:08:27.279 --> 01:08:29.479
We're out here, you know what I'm saying, Like us men,

1140
01:08:29.520 --> 01:08:30.680
you know what I'm saying, We're out here trying to

1141
01:08:30.680 --> 01:08:33.119
prove a point, like like you know, like tight roping

1142
01:08:33.239 --> 01:08:35.119
on a freaking psc in g wire.

1143
01:08:36.000 --> 01:08:36.880
Look at me.

1144
01:08:36.880 --> 01:08:39.840
Meanwhile, I'm drunken ship, you know, like we're out here

1145
01:08:39.880 --> 01:08:44.600
risking our lives doing dumb ship. That's besides another point.

1146
01:08:44.600 --> 01:08:46.720
That's another story for another time. But you know, like

1147
01:08:47.479 --> 01:08:50.079
you know, like I know that women outnumber men, you

1148
01:08:50.119 --> 01:08:52.840
know what I'm saying. So it's like, like, bro, you

1149
01:08:52.880 --> 01:08:56.960
know what hasn't dignity? You're surprised. I was like, like, yo,

1150
01:08:57.000 --> 01:08:58.399
you know what, you're just getting rejected.

1151
01:08:58.399 --> 01:08:58.880
You know what I'm saying.

1152
01:08:58.920 --> 01:09:01.000
It's not like you know someone you know what I'm saying,

1153
01:09:01.000 --> 01:09:02.760
like someone that went and stabbed your mom while you're

1154
01:09:02.800 --> 01:09:04.880
at it too, you know what I'm saying.

1155
01:09:05.520 --> 01:09:07.560
But it's funny. They want all the good women, they

1156
01:09:07.560 --> 01:09:09.840
want the good women, right, But then you meet a

1157
01:09:09.880 --> 01:09:12.439
woman who's saying, I have some self respect, So I'm

1158
01:09:12.479 --> 01:09:17.640
not giving you none until whenever Oh you like that,

1159
01:09:17.840 --> 01:09:20.319
Oh you bitch, you were this, you were that right?

1160
01:09:20.479 --> 01:09:25.600
I thought you wanted the good woman dude, Right, you're

1161
01:09:25.560 --> 01:09:30.239
not the one that looks good, acts like a whole right,

1162
01:09:30.880 --> 01:09:34.520
and treat you like trash. That's the woman you want

1163
01:09:35.039 --> 01:09:36.079
because it's exciting.

1164
01:09:37.319 --> 01:09:37.479
Right.

1165
01:09:39.399 --> 01:09:42.600
You can trust that you can depend on that has

1166
01:09:42.880 --> 01:09:46.359
self value, that you know, believes in God, that.

1167
01:09:46.399 --> 01:09:49.279
You know what out of scruple.

1168
01:09:49.319 --> 01:09:51.159
I don't need that in my life as a hot

1169
01:09:51.199 --> 01:09:52.840
mess exactly. You know what I'm saying.

1170
01:09:52.880 --> 01:09:55.680
I need some toxicity in my life, Like every now

1171
01:09:55.760 --> 01:09:57.279
and then I want to wake up to you know

1172
01:09:57.319 --> 01:09:59.199
what I'm saying, my lady standing over me with a

1173
01:09:59.199 --> 01:10:01.079
frying pan. You know what I'm saying, ready to swing

1174
01:10:01.119 --> 01:10:03.560
and give me a CTE for the next three thousand years.

1175
01:10:03.720 --> 01:10:05.319
You know what I'm saying, I missed those days? You

1176
01:10:05.359 --> 01:10:07.720
know that? Yeah? You know, like yeah, I mean.

1177
01:10:10.439 --> 01:10:10.800
All that.

1178
01:10:11.960 --> 01:10:14.479
Yes, you know what I'm saying. I missed those days.

1179
01:10:15.439 --> 01:10:17.359
You know, I miss those days jumping out the window

1180
01:10:17.399 --> 01:10:20.279
because she's trying to stab me and stuff. I need

1181
01:10:20.319 --> 01:10:25.439
that in my life. Oh yeah, oh yeah, you know,

1182
01:10:26.520 --> 01:10:29.439
you know, miss those miss those toxicity. You know what

1183
01:10:29.439 --> 01:10:32.479
I'm saying. I want to what does that smell like?

1184
01:10:32.520 --> 01:10:35.760
Calval Klin toxicity? You know what I'm saying, I missed that.

1185
01:10:35.920 --> 01:10:42.920
You know, like you should come up like feet.

1186
01:10:44.960 --> 01:10:47.760
I miss those days too, you know, I miss those

1187
01:10:47.840 --> 01:10:51.479
days day or till tomorrow. All right, let's let's shoot

1188
01:10:51.479 --> 01:10:53.720
the dice on it. Let's shoot the dice, shake the

1189
01:10:53.840 --> 01:10:56.119
dice and roll it. Oh man, you know I miss

1190
01:10:56.199 --> 01:11:01.000
those days? Oh yeah, oh yeah, you know like stable life? Please,

1191
01:11:01.439 --> 01:11:10.720
you know what I'm saying. I know it's summer time,

1192
01:11:10.920 --> 01:11:14.039
but why does it feel like I'm pissing out a heap.

1193
01:11:16.560 --> 01:11:17.680
From dragon balls.

1194
01:11:17.760 --> 01:11:25.319
Yo, Yo, the game of throne ist being my penis

1195
01:11:25.359 --> 01:11:39.079
because it's out dragonfire.

1196
01:11:34.359 --> 01:11:34.560
Bro.

1197
01:11:36.079 --> 01:11:41.520
Go to the Warts, the onely Warts.

1198
01:11:41.560 --> 01:11:45.239
I know, John Warts. We're gonna cover this up, you know, like.

1199
01:11:49.560 --> 01:11:51.720
Yeah, yeah, but.

1200
01:11:51.880 --> 01:11:54.680
But but but yo, you know what, like you know, honestly,

1201
01:11:54.760 --> 01:11:57.239
man like Yo, look at y'all talking about it, and

1202
01:11:57.279 --> 01:11:58.039
I'm joking about it.

1203
01:11:58.079 --> 01:12:01.880
But I'm like, yo, that ship was not fun at all. Yo.

1204
01:12:01.960 --> 01:12:03.840
My Cortosoult level was probably like you know what I'm

1205
01:12:03.840 --> 01:12:08.439
saying to the twentieth power, you know, like, nah, man,

1206
01:12:08.439 --> 01:12:11.960
I'm good, I'm so good, so so good.

1207
01:12:13.079 --> 01:12:13.119
No.

1208
01:12:15.159 --> 01:12:18.399
Well that that that was very interesting.

1209
01:12:21.399 --> 01:12:22.439
And you know what, you.

1210
01:12:22.920 --> 01:12:23.119
Know what.

1211
01:12:25.600 --> 01:12:28.800
This man said two sentences yo, Yo? You know what

1212
01:12:28.880 --> 01:12:33.079
he spoke two sentences right now, three inbox talking about

1213
01:12:33.520 --> 01:12:38.119
take me out, take me home, take me home, you

1214
01:12:38.359 --> 01:12:39.279
sexy bro.

1215
01:12:41.079 --> 01:12:41.960
Oh my god?

1216
01:12:42.960 --> 01:12:44.520
Well yo, Yo, you.

1217
01:12:44.439 --> 01:12:49.199
Know what I promise you, yoh, I promise you.

1218
01:12:49.199 --> 01:12:52.159
You know what I'm saying, God got a thong somewhere

1219
01:12:52.199 --> 01:12:52.640
hanging up.

1220
01:12:52.720 --> 01:12:54.079
You know what I'm saying, about to send some fan

1221
01:12:54.119 --> 01:12:56.680
pictures out that says stuck like the rhymestones up the front.

1222
01:12:57.119 --> 01:13:03.760
You know, what some No baby, you want the picture

1223
01:13:03.760 --> 01:13:10.000
with the timbers, baby, just my herd bringing that New

1224
01:13:10.079 --> 01:13:10.640
York style.

1225
01:13:10.800 --> 01:13:21.399
Yo, we can rackle a chance to shine your head.

1226
01:13:26.479 --> 01:13:28.760
Oh my god, what's the corn?

1227
01:13:31.319 --> 01:13:46.079
Whoa whoa wait a minute, oh wait a minute.

1228
01:13:49.039 --> 01:14:03.600
Well with that being said, oh my oh man.

1229
01:14:02.399 --> 01:14:03.880
Is this might hurt right today?

1230
01:14:04.760 --> 01:14:12.880
And don't say me and my me and my friends here.

1231
01:14:18.199 --> 01:14:20.560
Remember nice not nice?

1232
01:14:27.720 --> 01:14:32.560
Oh my god, oh my god, oh my god. Uh

1233
01:14:35.600 --> 01:14:51.159
oh man. Well with that being said once again, yeah.

1234
01:14:50.039 --> 01:14:50.479
That was.

1235
01:14:52.119 --> 01:14:55.159
For real, good good show guys.

1236
01:14:56.359 --> 01:15:01.039
That Yeah, it was a good comeback. Can't come back.

1237
01:15:01.119 --> 01:15:03.479
It was definitely fun. Which this kids uploaded. This is

1238
01:15:03.479 --> 01:15:04.920
gonna be it's gonna be crazy.

1239
01:15:05.560 --> 01:15:13.239
So we'll see you again in another three months fourteen

1240
01:15:13.439 --> 01:15:14.720
even newer and improver.

1241
01:15:18.520 --> 01:15:21.760
I am, I am, I'm big for the own. That's

1242
01:15:21.800 --> 01:15:24.520
TG love that'st up to Dawn as lady g.

1243
01:15:29.239 --> 01:15:30.520
Your SpongeBob voice.

1244
01:15:30.720 --> 01:15:37.720
Three months later, Welcome to episode fourteen.

1245
01:15:39.079 --> 01:15:43.680
Until we end November October.

1246
01:15:47.079 --> 01:15:50.199
Yeah, you'll be lady from the Nursing Home.

1247
01:15:53.680 --> 01:15:55.479
Lady. You're gonna be talking to dut You're gonna fly

1248
01:15:55.600 --> 01:16:07.600
her mouth try fire by then.

1249
01:16:12.560 --> 01:16:16.520
Like I said, love Dub the don Lady G. This

1250
01:16:16.560 --> 01:16:21.199
has been an episode of this her podcast and as

1251
01:16:21.279 --> 01:16:27.039
always it's been a pleasure. We'll be back and one.

1252
01:16:29.199 --> 01:16:39.039
One one in two weeks, yeah, summertime and you know

1253
01:16:39.039 --> 01:16:42.079
what I'm saying. Yeah, so two weeks.

1254
01:16:42.640 --> 01:16:45.399
Yeah. With that being said, man, everybody have a good night.

1255
01:16:45.640 --> 01:16:49.840
Thanks for coming by hanging out with us and down

1256
01:16:51.079 --> 01:17:44.720
yeah mercy all right beside everybody