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Sept. 24, 2026

The Red Flag Was There From Day One, You Just Called It Love...Why!?

The Red Flag Was There From Day One, You Just Called It Love...Why!?
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Season 13

Let’s be real the red flags were waving so damn hard they could’ve directed traffic, but somehow we looked at them and said, “Nah… there just passionate.” In this episode of This Might Hurt Podcast, Big Corleone, Dubs Tha Don, Lady G, and TG Love are digging into one of the biggest relationship mysteries of all time: why the hell do we ignore the warning signs we KNOW are there? The jealousy was crazy, the communication was trash, the stories never added up, your friends hated them, your family was concerned, and your gut was basically filing a police report but you still called it chemistry, loyalty, or “fighting for love.” We’re talking toxic attraction, excuses, manipulation, emotional chaos, desperation, and those moments when somebody shows you exactly who they are… and you decide to wait for the deluxe edition. Sometimes love really is blind but sometimes we see everything perfectly and just choose to close our damn eyes. So buckle up, because this one might expose some old relationships, some current situationships, and maybe even a few people listening right now. Yeah... This Might Hurt!!!

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Yo, what's up everybody? This is Big Corleone with the

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This Might Hurt Podcast. Coming to you live. You know

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how we do it. You know what I'm saying? I'm

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going to bring in my co-host, TG Love.

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Yo.

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Yo. TG.

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Hi. Hi.

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How are you?

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Oh, my God.

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I was trying to use headphones, but I don't know

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what's happening.

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But, yeah, I can't see.

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Hi. Hi.

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I wasn't ready. Look at me.

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I don't know.

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I'm, like, trying to configure things better because, like, just

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the situation with the phone and stuff and the thing

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I'm using is so flimsy.

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I think it's time to get some stuff. Oh, my Lord, Jesus.

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So I can hear you clearly. You hear me clearly?

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Yes, I can.

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All right. All right, cool. So everything's been good? Everything all.

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Right?

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Yeah.

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I wish I knew how to make things bigger on here.

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The thing is, we got to get you a laptop.

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Yeah, we do.

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Yeah definitely but everything's been good I see you got

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a new hairstyle I got.

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A haircut I dyed it but I'm not crazy about

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the color because I feel like you can't really tell.

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And I started a new job almost.

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Forgot I feel like I can't see and it's probably

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because I'm blind these days I got look at that

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I can see if I do that with my progressives.

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I got freaking new glasses.

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Oh, my God.

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But I can't, like, I don't know. I'm still getting

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used to them. And, oh, yeah. So I'm working at

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a different place now. And so far, so good.

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That's good.

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It seems like it's going to be a fun and

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interesting time there.

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Yeah.

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That's good. That's good. So today's topic, of course, is

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going to hit a couple people hard. We might hurt

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some feelings along the way. You know how we do

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it here. Red flags. Yes. So we all know what

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the fucking red flag is. There's red flags everywhere. There's

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no ifs, ands, or buts about it. Not everyone can

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spot a red flag. Sometimes it's obvious, sometimes it isn't.

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You know, but eventually the red flag does show itself.

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And every once in a while, you get a fucking

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green flag. Every once in a while, not all the time, though. So,

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with that being said, I got two emails, right? One

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from a dude named Marcus and one from a woman

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named Leslie. The reason why I picked these emails is

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because we're getting it from a male's perspective and from

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a female's perspective.

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Okay.

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All right. So let's start with Marcus. Let's get the

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dude's perspective on this first. You ready for this? Yeah,

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I know, right?

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Yes.

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Go for it. I'm going to try to put my

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headphones back on.

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Oh, Lady G is here. Hold on one sec. Hello.

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Hi, how's it going?

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How are you?

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I am good.

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All right. So, all right. So check this. This is

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from Marcus.

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Okay.

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All right. There's an email from Marcus about his dating

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experience and how he spotted these red flags. All right. Yep.

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All right.

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So long time fan of the show. Oh, wait, this

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isn't even, no, this isn't Marcus. All right, here we go.

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Wrong one. Sorry. What's up, y'all? Marcus here. I need

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the crew to help me make sense of this because

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my brain and my common sense are currently fighting for

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custody of my decisions. I went out with this woman recently,

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and I'm not going to lie. She is fine. All right.

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Where did TG run off to? All right.

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Oh, well.

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All right, we got to wait until she comes back.

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Where'd she go? She disappeared. Yeah, she didn't pay her

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Wi-Fi bill. That's the problem. No Wi-Fi. That's what happened.

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They just cut her off. All right, so anyway, I'm

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not going to lie. She's fine. Like, stupid attractive. The

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chemistry was there. The flirting was heavy. She kept touching

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my arm, laughing at damn near everything I said. What happened?

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You didn't pay your Wi-Fi bill?

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No, I couldn't hear.

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The sound went for some reason, even though I was

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like pressing a million things to try to get it back.

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I don't know. So I decided, let me leave and

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come back.

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All right.

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And it obviously worked because I couldn't hear again. I

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still can't see, but I can hear.

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Okay. But I see you. All right. I'm going to

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start again from here. Okay. I went out with this

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woman recently, and I'm not going to lie, she is fine. Like,

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stupid attractive. The chemistry was there. The flirting was heavy.

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She kept touching my arm, laughing at damn near everything

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I said, and I definitely got the feeling she was

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into me. The problem is while one part of me

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was thinking, yeah, I need a second date. The other

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part was sitting there watching a red flags pop up

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like notifications on a busted phone. And I'm trying to

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figure out if I'm being too judgmental or if I'm

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horny or my horny ass is just willing to walk

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into a burning building. while the woman holding the gasoline

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looks good.

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Oh, my.

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Oh, my God. All right. Here are the five things

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that really bothered me. First, she spent a big chunk

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of the date absolutely destroying every one of her exes.

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According to her, every man she's ever dated is crazy, toxic, jealous, manipulative, broke,

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or a narcissist, and somehow she was never part of

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the problem. All right? Second, she was rude as hell.

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Hold on, let me flip the page here. She was

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rude as hell to the server over something minor. And

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that instantly made me wonder how she treats people when

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she doesn't need something from them. Third, she kept checking

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my phone every time it lit up and actually asked,

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who keeps texting you? Mind you, this is the first date. Ma'am,

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you don't even know my middle name yet.

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Fourth. Does she even know his first.

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Name? Probably not. All right. Fourth, she started talking about

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how men should prove themselves financially and made a few

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comments about what I drive, what I do for work,

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and whether I own my own place. It kind of

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felt like a date and more. It didn't feel like

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a date, but more like I was applying for a

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damn mortgage. And fifth, and this one really got me.

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She straight up admitted that that when she gets mad

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in relationships, she'll block somebody, disappear for days, and then

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say things like she didn't really mean to, just to

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hurt them. She laughed when she said it, so I

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didn't show much interest after that. Am I looking at

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five giant warning signs or ignoring them because she's beautiful

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and clearly feeling me? Or am I overthinking one wild

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first date? Because right now the red flags are waving,

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but so is my dumb ass.

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Well, I definitely think there are red flags. I just

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don't think he's recognizing them for what they are. Like,

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I think he's thinking other things.

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About these red flags.

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Oh man i mean.

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He's obviously thinking with his dick this woman has this

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woman gives us a bad name and she is the

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reason why there's so many disgruntled men about dating women

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because they think they're like that you don't go on

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a first date and talk about your exes you should

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be talking about you and getting to know the person

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in front of you Like, why are you talking about

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the past? And then you're blaming everyone, which means you

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take no accountability at all, which means you're not self-aware.

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Then you treat the waitress like shit.

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So you're a piece of shit.

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Like, I feel like every single thing that he said,

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I would have just been like, I mean, I guess

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if she would have given him a blowjob, I would

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have taken it. But other than that, like, I would

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never speak to that person again.

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Like, Why would, where, where were the qualities?

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He did not say not one, not real qualities.

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About this woman, except that she's good looking, that she's beautiful.

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So she's beautiful.

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So there's a lot of beautiful women, but this woman

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is obviously showing you that she doesn't have anything to

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bring to the table. She has work to do. She's immature,

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blocking people, not talking to them and then laughing about it.

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I feel like I'm in a movie. Like what's, That's

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so immature.

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Like, how old was this bitch?

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And how beautiful are we talking that you would literally

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overthink this?

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Right, right, right. It's wild, too, because he said that

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she actually said that a man has to prove himself financially.

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What?

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Yeah.

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And that bullshit too. Like, I'm sorry. Are you not

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living in this economy? Are you not living in the

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U S in any state right now? We gas prices

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with rent, rent, forget like buying a house because that

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you need a lot of money for and who can

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save money to buy a house when you're living paycheck

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to paycheck, because you're working one or two, three jobs

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for some people and And then like to do it

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on your own and have to pay like 12, even like,

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I don't know what I Jersey rent was always astronomical.

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I don't care where you went. I always felt it

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was expensive.

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Unless you're going to live in the hood and you,

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you're going to pay very little, but what's.

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Like, I don't knock anyone.

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I'm doing this so I can read. hi monica i

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don't yes run i don't i don't blame anyone for

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why are we getting mad at people because they don't

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have the what you think the best of and guess

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what i bet that bitch don't have it either.

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You know what i'm saying like yo you're probably broke

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as fuck yourself.

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You probably live at home.

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You know what i'm saying like yo And I'm wondering

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what she got to eat. I'm wondering if she got

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the lobster or the salad. Right.

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And what were you eating? It's like, what are you doing?

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First of all, that email is what to not do

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on a first date.

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Like, ever. Like, how to lose a guy in Five Flags.

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Yeah. That's Chris Wyatt. I mean, the idiot. Sorry, Marcus,

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you're an idiot.

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Yeah.

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Yeah. Am I looking at five giant warning signs or

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ignoring them because she's beautiful and clearly feeling me?

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Who cares?

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You're going to sacrifice a lifetime of bullshit just for

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a good time.

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But guys do that all the time.

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Yeah, of course they do.

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They overlook the quality women for the one that looks good.

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They put up with that stupid crap for the one

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that looks good.

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Or the one that's easier to please.

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Exactly.

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Yeah, it's ridiculous. The ones that they don't have to

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grow up for. The ones that don't challenge them. Emotional,

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damn it! Accept them in their sad state that they're in.

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Yeah, that's terrible.

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Terrible.

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From our mouth to your ears, don't be a fucking idiot. Run.

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Don't be an idiot like Marcus. Sorry, Marcus. Sorry, not sorry.

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You get the.

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I definitely look.

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It's so loud.

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But also, not for nothing, the tides have turned, right? Because....

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Now we have men who are talking about, you know,

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like what are women bringing to the table? What can

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women offer them? You know, yes, I know we are

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in a time of like growth and, you know, we've

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evolved and stuff like that. But whatever happened to men

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feeling responsible to care for someone in their future? You know, like,

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actually providing a safe space for a woman so that

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she can be supported and she can support him. You know, because, like, yes,

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now we're in the work world. We're not housewives anymore

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and things like that. But now men are almost, like,

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taking the role of women where they also want to

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know what a woman brings to the table.

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Does she have this? Does she have that? Mm-hmm.

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You know, so it's like, are you going to go

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on a date with me 50-50?

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You know, like.

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Yeah, we're going Dutch.

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Yeah, we're going Dutch. I make it very clear.

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Listen, I don't need anyone to care for me. But

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the truth of the matter is, I am of kind

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of sort of like that old school thing is I don't,

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you know, I do for myself. I provide for myself.

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I'm in my masculine energy because I'm the one paying

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my bills. I'm the one taking care of all my business.

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But the truth is, I do want someone. I don't

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need anyone to care for me. I don't need anyone.

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To protect me.

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But I want someone who wants to, who still feels

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responsible to be the protector, to be you know, the

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strong arm to be, you know, the safe space so

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that I can be in my feminine energy and support

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him and be there for him and do all the

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things that, you know, a man deserves, just like a

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woman deserves to feel safe and secure.

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You know, but it's like, we're not there anymore.

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Yeah, your mic was a little messed up, like it

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was coming in and out, but we heard her.

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You heard her clearly? Everything, yep.

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Oh, all right. I heard most of it.

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It's just you, you. It's just you.

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Yeah, my ears are going. That's what you're saying? Yes.

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Fuck you! I'll be that viejo. That's all right. Look

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at all my wisdom, see? Oh, my Lord.

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You got whiskers coming out of your ears yet?

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No, they're not. No, but anyway. But, I mean, look.

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From a man's perspective, you know, from what Lady G

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was saying, I mean, a lot of relationships nowadays are

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going that route. you know, men, a lot of men are,

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you know, looking to women, you know, looking at women

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and saying to themselves, you know, you know, I'm going to,

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if I'm going to, you know, be with this woman

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and then settle down with this woman, she's got to

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bring some, you know what I'm saying?

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That's funny because most women today put off marriage because

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they're trying to figure out what men bring to the

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table for them.

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Because they can provide for themselves.

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Well, then that's the woman that, that, that, that's kind

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of like the independence that, that.

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But that's a lot of women. And we're talking about

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these generations.

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Yeah.

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Right. I, did they say how old they were?

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Oh, no, I didn't, they didn't give any ages.

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No, but like, I'm just curious too, like, because, uh,

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you know, this is what studies and, and like what

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statistics are showing. It's like women are putting off marriage. Women,

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women are focusing just as much as men were focusing

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on their careers so that they can have the things

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that they want, a house, a car, whatever it may

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be and, and provide for them. So I'm just trying

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to understand like, like why, why, It still can't be

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like Lady G said, which is, you know, he can

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still be that masculine energy provider, safe place, strong arm,

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all those things. And like, to me, this is a partnership.

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I see like how Lady G was saying how I

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want to be with someone for the long run, because

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at the end of the day, One day we're going

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to die. That's the reality of everything. And how do

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you want to be spending your life?

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And with who? Do you want someone by your side?

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You know, there are some people out there who may

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honestly say, no, I'm okay with dying alone. Kudos to you.

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But most people, most human beings do not want to

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be alone. You know, we don't want to wind up

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in a nursing home or, you know, like that's not,

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I don't think that's ideal for many of us.

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Right.

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You know, but, but if we're lucky enough to.

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Get to that age, let's say, yes, I want someone

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by my side who, who I feel safe with, who,

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who we work together.

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Someone who can add to what you got going on.

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And now we are benefiting in the fruits of our

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labor together because that was the goal.

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But it's like, what's left? So it's true.

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First of all, we were not created to live this

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life alone. We were created to have partners. But at

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the same token, what's it going to cost me? Because

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now it comes at such a great cost to actually.

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Have someone in our life. You know, I do not

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want to die alone. However, if not dying alone means

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that not only do I have to carry myself, but

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now I also have to carry my partner financially and

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emotionally and all that kind of stuff. it's like, is

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that cost worth it for me to be with someone?

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And it's, yeah, for me, it's not. And so even

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though I don't want to die alone, I'm actually okay

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with being alone as long as it, you know, if,

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if it means that not being alone, like I'm not

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willing to not be alone by any means necessary, you know,

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like that's not, that's, that's not it for me.

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I'd rather struggle. Like you're not worth settling. I'm not

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going to settle for the sake of not being alone.

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Yeah, because it's not.

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What is the purpose of having someone in your life

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if you're going to be just as sad, miserable, and

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angry as if you were alone? It's not worth that.

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I can struggle all by myself.

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I don't have nobody else in.

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My life to struggle with. What if there wasn't a struggle?

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What if... ends with meeting like a motherfucker. You know

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what I'm saying?

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Well, I don't just mean, I don't just mean financially.

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I know, but what I'm saying... Go ahead. What I'm

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saying is, what if everything is meeting at, you know,

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where everything is going the way it's supposed to go,

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everything is peachy green financially, emotionally, physically, mentally, everything is

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going great. Something happens... where a job gets lost times

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are starting to get to the point where, you know,

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you're starting to struggle a little bit. What do you

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do about it then?

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But see, the thing is that is a, a life obstacle.

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You didn't start that way.

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That's something that actually, believe it or not, someone losing

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their job or some, Tragedy happening in the middle of

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your life is what life is about, is the purpose

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of the relationship. We're not saying that things are never

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going to be hard. Actually, if there were no hard times,

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I would have to wonder how real this relationship is

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because no two people are going to get through life

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hunky dory. But that's what you sign up for. Once

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you get in the relationship, you're signing up for the

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highs and the lows. But if I'm meeting you at

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your low and I'm, you know, okay, or, you know,

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like if we're coming in not equal, then how am I.

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Supposed to hold, like help hold you up if you

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came in that way?

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So it's kind of like this.

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But wait, I think we have to take an account

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to our ages here, okay? Because this is different if

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we're talking younger people.

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This is different. Right, right, right. Because we are in

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this season of our lives where we've been through them. Yeah.

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And now, you know, we're in a different place in

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our lives.

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But even the younger generation.

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I mean, don't settle.

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Yeah.

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So, but my question as a younger generation is regardless

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of where you currently are, what's the plan? You know, like,

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do you even have a plan or are you looking

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to just coast through with the woman that holds you down?

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The woman that's got your back, your ride or die.

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She's going to cook for you. She's going to clean

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for you. She's going to pay for your braids.

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She's going to, you.

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Know, like.

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I ain't got hair. I don't need braids.

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Unfortunately, that's what a lot of the younger generation, you know,

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the guys are talking about how women are.

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Just gold digging them.

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But aren't they doing the same exact thing?

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Yes.

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When a man asked me what I bring to the table,

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my answer is going to be clearly not you.

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Because if you need.

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To ask me that as a woman, that's already telling

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me part of what I need to know. which is

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you're always going to be looking for what you're getting

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out of the deal instead of wanting to provide anything

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to the relationship.

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Like if you're hurt first, go ahead.

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All right, so people game, so check it. Now, my

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thing is this. I understand that a lot of women

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want ready-made dudes, right? You know what I'm saying?

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It's not ready-made. It's not ready-made.

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It's what are you doing for yourself to meet me

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in the middle instead of asking me what I'm bringing

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or what you're bringing.

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But he still needs to have his shit, you know,

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pretty much together. You know what I mean? So what

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if this dude You know, you meet this guy and

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you guys are, you know, hitting off and everything and

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things are cool. You find out that he's some kind

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of like entrepreneur or something. You know what I'm saying?

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And he he's just he's just making his way through buildings. something.

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Are you going to sit there?

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Is there actions?

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Right. The guy's building shit. The guy's building shit.

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Right.

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So there's a difference between someone being ambitious in a

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sense of talking about doing things and wanting to do things.

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And I've been doing the research, but like, But the actual,

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there's a plan, there's an action plan.

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And something's actually happening.

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Like nobody is knocking anyone who is actually doing something.

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There are more people talking shit than not. There's more

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people out there who great. I love that you're ambitious.

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You have dreams and goals and everything.

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Wonderful. But what the fuck are you doing about it?

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But I'm saying, hold on a minute.

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I'm not talking to you. I'm just saying in general,

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this is the thing.

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It's not about like, oh, you know, he's a bum, this, that,

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and the other thing. Because, you know, he's 38 and

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he doesn't have a full-time job or whatever. Listen, I

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want to get to know who you are as a person.

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Maybe there's a story behind that.

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That.

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Okay.

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But that doesn't mean that there still can't be red

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flags or anything like that. So you can't like, again,

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we've talked about this before in another show, seeing potential

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in people, which is great because there is potential in

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a lot of us.

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Right. But what are we showing at the potential? What

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are we showing? And not the reality.

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Right.

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Because we've said this before. People show you who they are.

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What is that person showing you? Are they actually like

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talking about this ambitious plan to become a business owner?

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Yet they've been talking about it for two years and

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literally nothing has happened except a notebook filled with a

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bunch of words. Is that ambitious or like, what is that? Right.

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Talking about building a certain business, but they've been talking

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about building that business for years.

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Yeah.

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And in the meantime, they're working at McDonald's or they're,

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you know, just.

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But no plan.

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00:32:04.500 --> 00:32:04.859
Yeah.

483
00:32:04.960 --> 00:32:08.440
Like just doing bare minimum in the meantime, because I've

484
00:32:08.480 --> 00:32:11.980
got this big plan coming up. Yeah, but how are

485
00:32:12.039 --> 00:32:17.299
you living? How are you making this plan come to fruition?

486
00:32:17.319 --> 00:32:19.960
He's a manager at Mickey D's. You know what I'm saying?

487
00:32:20.230 --> 00:32:24.170
Maybe he went from lettuce to fries to milkshakes.

488
00:32:24.210 --> 00:32:26.349
He could be. Yeah, but I'm not talking about the manager.

489
00:32:26.369 --> 00:32:29.440
She's not talking about the manager. But that's the whole thing, yes.

490
00:32:29.460 --> 00:32:32.240
You're just a regular old line burger flipper.

491
00:32:33.000 --> 00:32:37.640
And, you know, so your ambition for this dream is great,

492
00:32:37.900 --> 00:32:42.339
but what steps have you taken to actually level yourself up?

493
00:32:43.140 --> 00:32:45.500
Wait a.

494
00:32:48.960 --> 00:32:51.819
Minute. Am I supposed to be offended by this comment?

495
00:32:53.000 --> 00:32:56.460
What he does and how much money he makes, which

496
00:32:56.539 --> 00:32:58.099
is who is he?

497
00:32:58.119 --> 00:32:59.259
Okay. Okay.

498
00:32:59.710 --> 00:33:01.910
A man isn't going to be able to be the

499
00:33:01.970 --> 00:33:05.470
man you need if he doesn't have the three things,

500
00:33:05.930 --> 00:33:09.539
which is who he is, what he does, and how

501
00:33:09.599 --> 00:33:11.019
much money he makes.

502
00:33:11.700 --> 00:33:16.079
I disagree with you. I disagree with you. I disagree

503
00:33:16.119 --> 00:33:20.599
with you because those are superficial things.

504
00:33:21.720 --> 00:33:24.299
At the end of the day, what you should be

505
00:33:24.359 --> 00:33:29.400
looking for is, is this person honest? Can they be trusted?

506
00:33:30.200 --> 00:33:34.809
Do they respect me and others? Do they show love

507
00:33:34.869 --> 00:33:37.970
and support? And not how much.

508
00:33:37.829 --> 00:33:40.549
Money does he make, but is he making?

509
00:33:41.269 --> 00:33:43.630
Damn, I wish I was making the money that I

510
00:33:43.650 --> 00:33:46.329
feel that I deserve to be making, but I'm not.

511
00:33:46.519 --> 00:33:50.680
Because they're not paying me what I should be getting paid.

512
00:33:51.240 --> 00:33:57.240
Okay? So you need to take money out of the equation. Yeah. Right.

513
00:33:58.019 --> 00:34:01.200
The work ethic is more important at the end of

514
00:34:01.259 --> 00:34:02.400
the day than what you make.

515
00:34:02.799 --> 00:34:09.989
Because the business doesn't also really reflect on people. Who's

516
00:34:10.050 --> 00:34:10.619
not looking for?

517
00:34:10.699 --> 00:34:13.170
I'm confused about who said what, because I'm not even

518
00:34:13.210 --> 00:34:14.010
reading who said it.

519
00:34:14.550 --> 00:34:16.469
But I mean, let's be real.

520
00:34:17.269 --> 00:34:20.110
If those are your motivating things, the big things that

521
00:34:20.130 --> 00:34:24.389
you're looking for in the other person, then I say

522
00:34:24.510 --> 00:34:28.610
maybe you need to question a little bit more about

523
00:34:28.670 --> 00:34:31.449
what it is that you are looking for i wish.

524
00:34:31.030 --> 00:34:33.380
I wish i wish i had a red flag right

525
00:34:33.409 --> 00:34:36.179
now so you could throw it i'd be throwing that

526
00:34:36.199 --> 00:34:36.780
shit it's.

527
00:34:36.699 --> 00:34:38.920
So funny because i have a flag but it's a

528
00:34:39.599 --> 00:34:43.480
uh lgtbq flag and i was like man i wish

529
00:34:43.519 --> 00:34:44.880
i had a red one so i could just be

530
00:34:44.920 --> 00:34:51.170
like you know but no we didn't think that through.

531
00:34:50.889 --> 00:34:55.179
All right so so that Let me get into the

532
00:34:55.260 --> 00:34:57.119
second email. This one is interesting.

533
00:34:57.139 --> 00:34:58.039
Oh, my God.

534
00:34:58.480 --> 00:35:03.320
Now that this is what's being said, this email is

535
00:35:03.400 --> 00:35:08.320
pretty wild, too. All right. So this one's from a

536
00:35:08.340 --> 00:35:12.730
woman named Leslie. Leslie, thank you for the email. Longtime

537
00:35:12.789 --> 00:35:15.690
fan of the show. Oh, she's starting it off already

538
00:35:15.730 --> 00:35:18.730
fucked up. Sorry, fellas. This is for the ladies of

539
00:35:18.769 --> 00:35:24.489
the crew. So ridiculous. Oh, my God. Leslie here, and

540
00:35:24.550 --> 00:35:29.739
I need help because this man had me questioning my standards,

541
00:35:30.610 --> 00:35:37.199
my judgment, and possibly my eyesight. He was exactly my type.

542
00:35:37.719 --> 00:35:42.219
Handsome as hell, over six feet tall, smells good, haircut fresh,

543
00:35:42.800 --> 00:35:46.659
clean clothes, shoes matching, beard lined up like somebody used

544
00:35:46.739 --> 00:35:50.210
a ruler. Basically the kind of man who makes you

545
00:35:50.289 --> 00:35:53.809
forget you were supposed to be paying attention to his personality.

546
00:35:55.449 --> 00:35:58.570
I was definitely into him, but the entire date I

547
00:35:58.650 --> 00:36:01.829
couldn't tell if he was really feeling me. Or if

548
00:36:02.050 --> 00:36:05.179
I was just naturally, or he was just naturally charming.

549
00:36:06.429 --> 00:36:11.340
He was polite, funny, and easy to talk to. Baby,

550
00:36:11.500 --> 00:36:16.820
I felt like I was trying to read a text message. Oh,

551
00:36:16.880 --> 00:36:20.369
but emotionally. Baby, I felt like I was trying to

552
00:36:20.429 --> 00:36:24.929
read a text message with 2% battery left. So here's

553
00:36:25.030 --> 00:36:31.380
what had me side eyeing this whole situation. Red flag

554
00:36:31.409 --> 00:36:36.619
number one. He mentioned his best friend was a female

555
00:36:37.260 --> 00:36:42.920
about nine times. Apparently, she knows everything about him, talks

556
00:36:42.940 --> 00:36:45.559
to him every day, has a key to his place,

557
00:36:46.500 --> 00:36:51.619
and according to him, Women always misunderstand their friendship. Sir,

558
00:36:52.139 --> 00:36:54.820
why does your best friend sound like your wife without benefits?

559
00:36:56.960 --> 00:37:01.880
Red flag, too. His phone. Oh, my God. Hold on.

560
00:37:01.980 --> 00:37:04.840
Could I flip the page? Be a whole moment. His

561
00:37:04.940 --> 00:37:08.699
phone stayed face down the entire date, and every time

562
00:37:08.780 --> 00:37:12.409
it buzzed, he looked at it like it contained nuclear

563
00:37:12.449 --> 00:37:16.550
launch codes. At one point, he actually picked it up,

564
00:37:16.630 --> 00:37:20.610
walked away from the table, and came back saying, just

565
00:37:20.670 --> 00:37:27.530
handling something. Like what? Batman? Red Flag 3.

566
00:37:27.530 --> 00:37:30.739
But are we talking first dates or are we talking relationships?

567
00:37:30.780 --> 00:37:32.920
Hold up, hold up, hold up. That's not a red flag.

568
00:37:33.519 --> 00:37:38.000
Hold up. He casually admitted that he hadn't had a

569
00:37:38.039 --> 00:37:43.559
relationship that lasted longer than six months because he gets bored.

570
00:37:44.070 --> 00:37:48.989
when things become routine, excuse me. So basically once the

571
00:37:49.030 --> 00:37:52.449
honeymoon phase is over, my replacement is already warming up

572
00:37:52.489 --> 00:37:56.250
in the bullpen, but here's the damn green flag. Oh,

573
00:37:56.289 --> 00:38:00.880
that's a green flag. When we talked about the future,

574
00:38:02.519 --> 00:38:05.480
he said he genuinely wants to get married one day,

575
00:38:05.500 --> 00:38:08.940
have kids, build a family and actually be a present

576
00:38:09.039 --> 00:38:12.920
husband and father. And I'm not going to lie, that

577
00:38:12.960 --> 00:38:16.559
hit me right in the soft spot. So now I'm stuck.

578
00:38:17.519 --> 00:38:21.429
Is this a well-dressed six-foot-tall red flag factory with one

579
00:38:21.489 --> 00:38:24.570
beautiful green flag hanging in the window? Or am I

580
00:38:24.650 --> 00:38:27.530
judging him too fast because I couldn't tell if he

581
00:38:27.570 --> 00:38:33.829
really liked me? Because, ladies and gentlemen, I am attracted, confused, concerned,

582
00:38:33.869 --> 00:38:36.590
and apparently still willing to answer his texts.

583
00:38:37.210 --> 00:38:37.329
Help.

584
00:38:38.900 --> 00:38:41.199
Oh, Leslie, you poor, poor Leslie.

585
00:38:43.300 --> 00:38:43.760
Oh, my.

586
00:38:45.570 --> 00:38:49.110
If those are your red flags, you do not deserve.

587
00:38:49.170 --> 00:38:51.449
Is he black? Please send him my way.

588
00:38:52.909 --> 00:38:53.469
Oh, gosh.

589
00:38:55.650 --> 00:38:58.230
Is he a black six foot tall man that looks handsome?

590
00:38:58.650 --> 00:39:01.210
Oh, my God.

591
00:39:01.929 --> 00:39:06.690
Leslie, what are you doing? This is ridiculous.

592
00:39:08.269 --> 00:39:10.489
Oh my god i don't think he wants to be

593
00:39:10.530 --> 00:39:11.590
part of a poly.

594
00:39:11.289 --> 00:39:18.199
Program why doesn't like anybody like want it like like

595
00:39:18.659 --> 00:39:20.679
the thing that bothered me the most about that email

596
00:39:20.719 --> 00:39:26.070
was how much she valued how good he looked smelled

597
00:39:26.150 --> 00:39:29.869
what was the other thing like all the fucking descriptors

598
00:39:30.380 --> 00:39:35.599
of just yumminess oh great yumminess again so you're just

599
00:39:35.699 --> 00:39:39.559
as bad as marcus leslie i'm sorry to say but

600
00:39:39.619 --> 00:39:44.360
like what was like okay i can understand a woman

601
00:39:44.440 --> 00:39:52.210
not liking the whole best friend female um yeah that's

602
00:39:52.269 --> 00:39:56.010
about definitely about boundaries and also I need more context

603
00:39:56.070 --> 00:39:58.489
like how long have they been best friends they grew

604
00:39:58.550 --> 00:40:03.150
up together like type thing like all that but yes

605
00:40:03.929 --> 00:40:07.750
I mean him he was respectful and got up to

606
00:40:07.889 --> 00:40:12.550
use his phone and then apologized when he came back

607
00:40:12.630 --> 00:40:16.289
and said he had had to handle something and you

608
00:40:16.949 --> 00:40:21.260
took it personally like oh, I'm not good enough to

609
00:40:21.340 --> 00:40:22.349
stay for?

610
00:40:22.739 --> 00:40:23.719
Like, what?

611
00:40:24.079 --> 00:40:26.019
Because she was like, oh, what is it?

612
00:40:26.059 --> 00:40:27.079
Batman?

613
00:40:27.099 --> 00:40:28.320
Shut up.

614
00:40:28.449 --> 00:40:30.239
Are you serious?

615
00:40:30.389 --> 00:40:34.409
Or maybe he is Batman. Six foot tall and something.

616
00:40:34.449 --> 00:40:35.550
What are we doing?

617
00:40:35.570 --> 00:40:35.809
I don't.

618
00:40:38.329 --> 00:40:38.630
Know.

619
00:40:38.969 --> 00:40:43.849
This is so frustrating. The people that are dating right now,

620
00:40:43.909 --> 00:40:50.099
I get it. Oh, my God. The pain. I feel you. Kitty, stop. Sorry.

621
00:40:50.239 --> 00:40:53.380
So, I mean, the dude did have one green flag

622
00:40:53.679 --> 00:40:55.530
that she claims was a green flag.

623
00:40:56.090 --> 00:40:56.929
Which was what again?

624
00:40:57.389 --> 00:41:00.570
Which was, they were talking about the future.

625
00:41:00.590 --> 00:41:01.630
Oh, the future.

626
00:41:02.050 --> 00:41:03.869
Oh, he wants to get married and have kids. He

627
00:41:03.889 --> 00:41:06.670
didn't say he wanted it with you though, Leslie. He

628
00:41:06.730 --> 00:41:10.250
never once said he wanted that with you. He just

629
00:41:10.409 --> 00:41:14.050
wants those things. Women, you need to stop this shit.

630
00:41:14.829 --> 00:41:19.090
Okay? Talk and have conversation. Get to know someone. But

631
00:41:19.130 --> 00:41:22.590
then let him show you who he is and listen

632
00:41:22.630 --> 00:41:23.789
to your fucking gut.

633
00:41:24.829 --> 00:41:25.650
Period.

634
00:41:26.130 --> 00:41:29.179
If there's red flags, like, even for you, fine.

635
00:41:29.239 --> 00:41:32.500
If that's a red flag, like, somebody can't, like, stay

636
00:41:32.579 --> 00:41:35.679
off their phone, whatever, then fine.

637
00:41:35.880 --> 00:41:39.739
But, like, to me, that's a soft red flag. I

638
00:41:39.760 --> 00:41:43.750
feel like there's soft red flags and then, like, hard ones.

639
00:41:43.769 --> 00:41:45.150
Does this make sense?

640
00:41:45.250 --> 00:41:46.889
Everybody has their own.

641
00:41:47.579 --> 00:41:50.860
Hard lines and soft lines. If that's a hard line

642
00:41:50.900 --> 00:41:52.519
for you, then you already know.

643
00:41:52.400 --> 00:41:55.079
He's not for you. Don't second guess yourself.

644
00:41:55.920 --> 00:41:58.219
You know, like don't second guess yourself.

645
00:41:59.139 --> 00:42:02.510
But also if you're like overthinking shit and making shit

646
00:42:02.570 --> 00:42:07.650
personal when it isn't, take a step back, Leslie.

647
00:42:09.869 --> 00:42:15.849
Yeah. I mean, but then what about this? the one

648
00:42:15.869 --> 00:42:20.340
on the red flag, he casually admitted he hadn't had

649
00:42:20.360 --> 00:42:22.860
a relationship last longer than six months because he gets

650
00:42:23.019 --> 00:42:25.159
bored when things become routine.

651
00:42:25.940 --> 00:42:26.659
He hasn't found out.

652
00:42:26.960 --> 00:42:27.280
Whatever.

653
00:42:27.300 --> 00:42:28.659
He's honest.

654
00:42:28.739 --> 00:42:32.059
At least he fucking ends shit when he's not feeling

655
00:42:32.139 --> 00:42:33.579
it and he doesn't just stay to.

656
00:42:35.260 --> 00:42:35.820
Appease.

657
00:42:36.039 --> 00:42:38.059
I mean, there's different ways to look at these things.

658
00:42:40.019 --> 00:42:43.420
But again, if that's a hard line for her, then.

659
00:42:45.849 --> 00:42:46.349
Okay.

660
00:42:48.050 --> 00:42:53.349
But, like, again, why just because somebody looks good that

661
00:42:53.409 --> 00:42:54.429
that's enough?

662
00:42:55.210 --> 00:42:55.469
Right.

663
00:42:56.090 --> 00:42:56.409
You know?

664
00:42:56.429 --> 00:42:57.210
Yeah.

665
00:42:57.909 --> 00:43:00.329
I once shared a meme, which I thought was really funny,

666
00:43:00.409 --> 00:43:04.139
that said that, like, if he can cook, that knocks off, like,

667
00:43:04.260 --> 00:43:06.000
two red flags automatically.

668
00:43:06.019 --> 00:43:10.559
Oh, I'm sorry. If he could cook good, not just cook.

669
00:43:11.480 --> 00:43:11.800
Okay.

670
00:43:12.059 --> 00:43:14.599
Well, there's a difference between Chef Boyardee.

671
00:43:15.059 --> 00:43:21.190
Correct. corporate and chef friends will z yes yes.

672
00:43:21.949 --> 00:43:24.230
So i think like.

673
00:43:25.909 --> 00:43:28.860
It's all like lady g said it's about like how

674
00:43:28.889 --> 00:43:33.760
you see things your boundaries what's good enough for you

675
00:43:33.780 --> 00:43:36.420
what's not good enough for you and again not settling

676
00:43:36.480 --> 00:43:39.840
like and if you don't like those things okay then

677
00:43:40.280 --> 00:43:44.210
then move on To me, they're superficial things, but that's

678
00:43:44.269 --> 00:43:46.929
cool because then you're leaving that fish in the sea

679
00:43:47.530 --> 00:43:51.289
for us to line, sink, and hook.

680
00:43:51.550 --> 00:43:53.329
Thank you. Thank you, Leslie.

681
00:43:53.349 --> 00:43:56.150
There are some people looking just for superficial things, and

682
00:43:56.210 --> 00:43:58.500
that's what's going to make them happy. But then there

683
00:43:58.539 --> 00:44:02.260
are others who are looking for a deeper, meaningful thing. And,

684
00:44:03.059 --> 00:44:06.480
you know, so everybody knows what their thing is.

685
00:44:06.559 --> 00:44:08.409
The problem is we're not.

686
00:44:09.599 --> 00:44:12.139
Being at what's good for us. Again, we're doing that,

687
00:44:12.550 --> 00:44:16.630
looking at potential. Just because he said that he's interested

688
00:44:16.670 --> 00:44:17.250
in getting.

689
00:44:17.070 --> 00:44:20.510
Married and having a future, he didn't say he was

690
00:44:20.570 --> 00:44:21.889
interested in doing that now.

691
00:44:21.909 --> 00:44:25.260
He didn't say he was interested in doing that with her.

692
00:44:25.280 --> 00:44:26.699
Exactly.

693
00:44:27.239 --> 00:44:30.739
He didn't even say if he was interested in doing

694
00:44:30.780 --> 00:44:31.449
that with a woman.

695
00:44:32.070 --> 00:44:35.880
Like, Oh, that's true.

696
00:44:36.440 --> 00:44:41.119
It's so vague, but nobody's asking the follow up questions.

697
00:44:41.900 --> 00:44:44.570
You know, like if you're going to start talking about

698
00:44:44.659 --> 00:44:46.329
future type stuff, then.

699
00:44:46.090 --> 00:44:48.030
You'll be down with the party program.

700
00:44:48.610 --> 00:44:51.710
So then let's get then let's have that discussion then.

701
00:44:52.349 --> 00:44:53.929
You know, if that's what if you know, if you're

702
00:44:53.949 --> 00:44:55.710
going to throw that on the table, then I'm going

703
00:44:55.730 --> 00:44:57.230
to pick it up. Yeah.

704
00:44:57.630 --> 00:45:00.610
And let's, you know, dig into that a little bit.

705
00:45:01.030 --> 00:45:05.269
You know, are we talking about You know, short-term, long-term, like,

706
00:45:05.329 --> 00:45:06.909
where are you at in that?

707
00:45:06.929 --> 00:45:09.610
I'm looking for something red to throw.

708
00:45:09.639 --> 00:45:13.860
Oh, gosh. You know, like, different things like that. Because

709
00:45:13.900 --> 00:45:14.739
everybody's different.

710
00:45:14.780 --> 00:45:16.840
What's a red flag to one person might be a

711
00:45:16.880 --> 00:45:19.619
green flag to somebody else. Everybody's looking for something else.

712
00:45:20.019 --> 00:45:23.059
But once, like, you have to stop second-guessing. Like you said,

713
00:45:23.099 --> 00:45:28.159
go with your gut. If you're second-guessing about what this

714
00:45:28.260 --> 00:45:32.989
means or what that means, then... Because the truth is,

715
00:45:33.090 --> 00:45:36.360
the person that is meant for you, you won't have

716
00:45:36.420 --> 00:45:38.940
to second guess. It's just going to.

717
00:45:39.000 --> 00:45:42.139
Fit or it's not going to fit. You're going to know.

718
00:45:42.159 --> 00:45:46.400
Because whenever you have to question your place in someone

719
00:45:46.460 --> 00:45:51.949
else's story, then, you know, like for me anyway, that's

720
00:45:52.010 --> 00:45:55.570
too vague. You know, if I'm always wondering where I

721
00:45:55.670 --> 00:45:58.409
stand with you, then I'm not standing anywhere.

722
00:45:58.530 --> 00:45:59.210
I'm moving on.

723
00:45:59.909 --> 00:46:00.159
Right.

724
00:46:00.989 --> 00:46:06.230
Because that's one of my needs is knowing exactly where

725
00:46:06.389 --> 00:46:10.809
I stand at all times. And for some people, that

726
00:46:10.869 --> 00:46:15.030
is a red flag. It all depends on the person.

727
00:46:15.889 --> 00:46:17.889
But for me, I'm at a place in my life

728
00:46:17.929 --> 00:46:21.280
where I know exactly what I want, what I feel

729
00:46:21.400 --> 00:46:29.489
I deserve. Well, for me, yes, physical attraction matters. But

730
00:46:29.769 --> 00:46:31.969
for me, it's not even just physical attraction.

731
00:46:32.070 --> 00:46:34.579
It's a chemistry type of a thing. Right.

732
00:46:35.280 --> 00:46:38.780
And because it's not even that you're attractive, but that

733
00:46:38.820 --> 00:46:40.320
you're attractive to me.

734
00:46:41.219 --> 00:46:41.440
Right.

735
00:46:42.019 --> 00:46:45.920
So because there are some pretty boys that everybody else

736
00:46:45.980 --> 00:46:46.369
is like.

737
00:46:46.280 --> 00:46:47.070
Drooling over them.

738
00:46:47.110 --> 00:46:49.590
And I look at them and I'm like, you know,

739
00:46:49.670 --> 00:46:53.329
it's not really calling my attention, you know. But then

740
00:46:53.710 --> 00:46:56.469
there's someone who might have. I actually saw it the

741
00:46:56.530 --> 00:47:01.920
other night. He had one dimple, but the dude was

742
00:47:02.559 --> 00:47:08.059
not quite like my, my type, but he had this

743
00:47:08.239 --> 00:47:09.920
one dimple and.

744
00:47:10.949 --> 00:47:14.429
Emotional. Stupid.

745
00:47:17.409 --> 00:47:20.789
So for me, just that little dimple was enough kind

746
00:47:20.829 --> 00:47:24.090
of chemistry thing for me that, you know, it kind

747
00:47:24.130 --> 00:47:28.349
of matched with his personality and. although he's not somebody

748
00:47:28.369 --> 00:47:35.010
that I would usually find attractive overall, that one physical

749
00:47:35.170 --> 00:47:39.969
attribute was enough for me because his emotional and like

750
00:47:40.050 --> 00:47:45.309
emotional intelligent portion made him more attractive. And so that

751
00:47:45.429 --> 00:47:48.130
physical aspect was just the little dimple type of thing.

752
00:47:48.550 --> 00:47:51.929
So you can't judge everybody by the same, you know,

753
00:47:52.019 --> 00:47:56.530
the same photograph. Everybody has their own little thing. But

754
00:47:56.570 --> 00:47:59.829
you also, again, you have to know where you're standing.

755
00:48:00.530 --> 00:48:04.369
And if, you know, communication is key. Communication is key.

756
00:48:05.530 --> 00:48:09.050
And we're always going to have those little guessing. But

757
00:48:09.289 --> 00:48:12.510
only you can decide what Fred flagged.

758
00:48:12.530 --> 00:48:14.610
Only you can decide.

759
00:48:15.010 --> 00:48:16.670
How did I know you were going to say that?

760
00:48:17.719 --> 00:48:19.469
Only you can decide.

761
00:48:20.059 --> 00:48:21.739
Oh, man.

762
00:48:22.199 --> 00:48:25.539
No, but all right. So, hey, hold on. I just

763
00:48:25.559 --> 00:48:26.219
got another comment.

764
00:48:26.619 --> 00:48:28.590
What does it say? I'm tired of putting the glasses on.

765
00:48:28.610 --> 00:48:31.210
Chemistry is just another word for physical attraction.

766
00:48:32.289 --> 00:48:33.409
No, it isn't.

767
00:48:35.050 --> 00:48:41.460
Because someone, like, like, okay. Shit, you gotta like my food.

768
00:48:41.679 --> 00:48:48.159
What's an example? Okay, so, like, uh, The Rock, right? Like,

769
00:48:48.199 --> 00:48:52.260
he's a good-looking guy, right? And at the end of

770
00:48:52.300 --> 00:48:55.369
the day, like, I could get down with Dwayne. right

771
00:48:55.510 --> 00:48:59.210
physically attractive but if i go up to him and

772
00:48:59.230 --> 00:49:03.039
we're having a conversation and he does nothing for me

773
00:49:03.219 --> 00:49:07.059
and he leaves me sick what are we doing that's

774
00:49:07.340 --> 00:49:12.659
there's no chemistry girl there is a difference okay you're

775
00:49:12.760 --> 00:49:17.309
bugging like you know he could be like hot as.

776
00:49:17.269 --> 00:49:19.809
Hell get the fuck out of here but.

777
00:49:19.730 --> 00:49:23.300
Then he starts talking and it's like oh okay well

778
00:49:24.380 --> 00:49:25.619
not so much i.

779
00:49:25.619 --> 00:49:29.079
Mean you know.

780
00:49:28.179 --> 00:49:30.639
He's i mean to me i wouldn't like jump on

781
00:49:30.679 --> 00:49:33.300
him i gotta think of a better person but like

782
00:49:33.739 --> 00:49:35.960
you know what i'm saying like there is a difference

783
00:49:36.179 --> 00:49:40.969
between that i mean to be, like, physical attraction is like, oh!

784
00:49:42.309 --> 00:49:45.429
T.G., this is gonna be so crazy, right? I don't

785
00:49:45.449 --> 00:49:47.929
know if any of you know who Gary Sinise is, right?

786
00:49:48.610 --> 00:49:50.289
Yeah, I know who Gary Sinise is. He's an actor.

787
00:49:50.969 --> 00:49:54.570
Yeah, he's an actor. He played in Forrest Gump and, like,

788
00:49:54.610 --> 00:49:55.289
some other things.

789
00:49:55.349 --> 00:49:59.349
He was Captain Dan.

790
00:49:59.409 --> 00:50:01.849
Lieutenant Dan. So let me say this.

791
00:50:02.590 --> 00:50:09.340
I don't think he is physically attractive at all. But his, well,

792
00:50:09.380 --> 00:50:13.000
at least his on-screen demeanor, a lot of the things

793
00:50:13.059 --> 00:50:16.480
he's done in the community, to me, that's chemical. That

794
00:50:16.659 --> 00:50:20.119
I could honestly, I could, or even Tom Hanks, I could,

795
00:50:20.800 --> 00:50:26.550
I don't find them physically attractive at all. However, I

796
00:50:26.699 --> 00:50:31.829
feel a chemistry to them. I could imagine.

797
00:50:31.070 --> 00:50:35.769
Falling in love. Have you ever seen Tom Hanks protecting

798
00:50:35.789 --> 00:50:40.800
his wife? He is very protective of his wife, but

799
00:50:40.840 --> 00:50:41.860
he doesn't like anybody.

800
00:50:42.860 --> 00:50:43.070
Right.

801
00:50:43.139 --> 00:50:48.190
So the thing is, some people find that, that piece

802
00:50:48.250 --> 00:50:48.710
of him.

803
00:50:49.329 --> 00:50:49.570
Right.

804
00:50:50.349 --> 00:50:51.690
A great chemistry.

805
00:50:52.389 --> 00:50:52.630
Right.

806
00:50:53.550 --> 00:50:56.570
If you can talk to someone for hours on end

807
00:50:56.699 --> 00:51:00.039
and it feels like moments, that's chemistry.

808
00:51:00.579 --> 00:51:00.800
Right.

809
00:51:00.840 --> 00:51:05.579
Like you were saying, like with rock. Oh my gosh. Yeah,

810
00:51:05.699 --> 00:51:06.960
in a minute, in a minute.

811
00:51:06.980 --> 00:51:12.070
Because he is physically attractive. However, he doesn't turn on

812
00:51:12.090 --> 00:51:17.030
the lights upstairs. He doesn't get the chemistry moving because,

813
00:51:17.050 --> 00:51:17.670
you know.

814
00:51:17.730 --> 00:51:20.610
According to DGTG, she doesn't get them. Wow.

815
00:51:21.329 --> 00:51:32.340
Yeah. But also, here's another, for instance, okay. James Gandolfini,

816
00:51:32.400 --> 00:51:37.159
who played Tony Soprano in The Sopranos, I never really

817
00:51:37.199 --> 00:51:41.769
thought he was the best looking guy. But Tony Soprano,

818
00:51:42.869 --> 00:51:47.389
the boss, there was something about that power. There was

819
00:51:47.429 --> 00:51:53.579
something about the way he took control that made him attractive.

820
00:51:54.659 --> 00:51:56.380
There were a lot of women who were like, oh,

821
00:51:56.420 --> 00:51:58.440
that Tony. And a lot of people were like, ew, really?

822
00:51:58.519 --> 00:52:02.780
Tony Soprano? But It was the character. It was how

823
00:52:02.820 --> 00:52:06.219
he took charge. It was how, you know, the power

824
00:52:06.260 --> 00:52:09.559
behind him and his and the character itself.

825
00:52:10.039 --> 00:52:11.079
I just noticed something.

826
00:52:11.559 --> 00:52:12.039
What's that?

827
00:52:12.739 --> 00:52:16.059
You said if you were talking, if you were having

828
00:52:16.079 --> 00:52:18.280
a conversation with The Rock, like, you know, The Rock,

829
00:52:18.320 --> 00:52:21.260
you said The Rock. Then you said Dwayne. You said

830
00:52:21.300 --> 00:52:25.300
Dwayne is the one that keeps you sick. So what

831
00:52:25.340 --> 00:52:29.829
about if he was The Rock? If you were talking

832
00:52:29.849 --> 00:52:32.429
to The Rock and Dwayne are two completely different people.

833
00:52:32.679 --> 00:52:38.460
No, because I want to body slam The Rock naturally

834
00:52:39.000 --> 00:52:40.639
because it's wrestling.

835
00:52:41.219 --> 00:52:42.659
And unless he's going to be.

836
00:52:42.559 --> 00:52:46.289
Like, let me smell what's going on down there.

837
00:52:46.809 --> 00:52:52.130
That's a difference. Then The Rock can do whatever he

838
00:52:52.190 --> 00:52:52.650
wants to be.

839
00:52:52.769 --> 00:52:52.989
Yeah.

840
00:52:54.449 --> 00:52:58.250
Emotional for you baby.

841
00:52:59.670 --> 00:53:00.550
Not for me.

842
00:53:01.369 --> 00:53:05.730
But like i mean there's just like like lead you

843
00:53:05.769 --> 00:53:08.679
just said about that connection in your in your minds

844
00:53:08.760 --> 00:53:12.360
like i forgot the name of the word uh is

845
00:53:12.380 --> 00:53:15.980
it like a paleo something like a person who loves

846
00:53:16.460 --> 00:53:20.460
um smart people who could have.

847
00:53:19.579 --> 00:53:23.329
That be a sexual thank you cbo sexual Definitely.

848
00:53:23.389 --> 00:53:25.510
Like, that's a turn on to me. Like, you can

849
00:53:25.550 --> 00:53:27.889
have a real conversation. Like, you know what the fuck

850
00:53:27.929 --> 00:53:32.480
you're talking about? Oh, man, we can debate. We can argue.

851
00:53:32.619 --> 00:53:32.980
Yes.

852
00:53:33.159 --> 00:53:37.840
For me, that's like, oh, I like this. This turns

853
00:53:37.920 --> 00:53:41.320
me on. Like, to me, that would bring on something.

854
00:53:41.539 --> 00:53:43.400
What does that say? I'm not putting my glasses on.

855
00:53:43.440 --> 00:53:46.630
But the chemistry part comes after. Physical attraction is the

856
00:53:46.710 --> 00:53:48.869
initial thing for you to talk to someone.

857
00:53:56.329 --> 00:53:58.449
I mean, I'm talking about, for instance, I'm just going

858
00:53:58.469 --> 00:54:00.039
to agree to disagree on that.

859
00:54:00.159 --> 00:54:03.559
But yeah, because for me, it's like if you're in

860
00:54:03.619 --> 00:54:03.940
front of.

861
00:54:03.920 --> 00:54:08.440
Something, it's totally different to be texting, talking, video chatting

862
00:54:08.559 --> 00:54:11.860
and being in person. OK, and to really get to

863
00:54:11.940 --> 00:54:15.679
know someone, you need to be in person because we

864
00:54:15.719 --> 00:54:19.889
can all talk shit via text or on the phone.

865
00:54:20.469 --> 00:54:23.469
or show you what you want in a video fucking chat.

866
00:54:23.889 --> 00:54:24.250
Okay.

867
00:54:24.309 --> 00:54:27.849
But the reality is when you meet that person, that's

868
00:54:27.909 --> 00:54:31.409
when you know, like, not only am I physically attracted

869
00:54:31.449 --> 00:54:36.090
to this person, like, damn, he's hot, but also we

870
00:54:36.170 --> 00:54:36.969
have chemistry.

871
00:54:37.010 --> 00:54:40.170
There's something going on there. Also, it's not just you.

872
00:54:40.389 --> 00:54:44.019
Typically it's something that's picked up, but you feel it

873
00:54:44.280 --> 00:54:48.000
with the other person. Lady G, would you agree with that?

874
00:54:48.119 --> 00:54:53.530
Like it's a, Almost like I can feel like something

875
00:54:53.590 --> 00:54:54.570
is coming off.

876
00:54:56.010 --> 00:54:56.230
Yes.

877
00:54:56.309 --> 00:54:58.369
Whether it's pheromones or whatever.

878
00:54:58.389 --> 00:54:58.909
Yeah.

879
00:54:58.949 --> 00:55:01.670
A good example is like when you meet people.

880
00:55:02.679 --> 00:55:06.599
on like a website, like a dating site or something

881
00:55:06.639 --> 00:55:07.039
like that.

882
00:55:07.860 --> 00:55:11.050
You get into, it starts off simple. Hey, how you doing?

883
00:55:11.610 --> 00:55:16.050
But then the conversation starts to get more interesting, deeper.

884
00:55:16.130 --> 00:55:21.050
You talk about different things. That is the chemistry. That is, wow,

885
00:55:21.130 --> 00:55:22.489
we have something in common.

886
00:55:22.570 --> 00:55:25.489
Wow, I really like what they said about that.

887
00:55:26.909 --> 00:55:30.309
And so you can have this great chemistry and then

888
00:55:30.349 --> 00:55:33.820
you meet in person And the chemistry and the attraction

889
00:55:33.880 --> 00:55:34.469
is different.

890
00:55:36.179 --> 00:55:40.239
Then it goes from, oh, shit.

891
00:55:41.739 --> 00:55:46.340
Basically. Yeah, I agree. I agree, obviously, right?

892
00:55:46.380 --> 00:55:48.559
Because there have been people who have fallen in love

893
00:55:48.820 --> 00:55:52.880
online and stuff like that. So there definitely is that, like,

894
00:55:53.659 --> 00:55:55.679
words are powerful. Let's say that.

895
00:55:55.920 --> 00:55:56.840
Words are powerful.

896
00:55:56.860 --> 00:56:00.650
And if used correctly with someone, can definitely make or

897
00:56:00.690 --> 00:56:06.119
break something. So, but I think it really does matter, like,

898
00:56:06.219 --> 00:56:06.909
in person.

899
00:56:07.150 --> 00:56:07.730
What does it say?

900
00:56:08.329 --> 00:56:11.369
It says, write and the initial thing to get you

901
00:56:11.429 --> 00:56:13.250
to start the physical attraction.

902
00:56:13.269 --> 00:56:18.090
I mean, let's be real.

903
00:56:18.110 --> 00:56:19.860
When we're looking on dating sites, the first thing I'm

904
00:56:19.880 --> 00:56:21.599
looking at is, like, is he fuckable?

905
00:56:21.619 --> 00:56:22.340
Okay.

906
00:56:22.400 --> 00:56:22.659
Yeah.

907
00:56:22.840 --> 00:56:23.579
And then.

908
00:56:23.800 --> 00:56:24.380
Oh, my God.

909
00:56:24.519 --> 00:56:26.000
Right. Stop it.

910
00:56:28.050 --> 00:56:30.239
What else did he say?

911
00:56:30.550 --> 00:56:34.329
I like to read their bio. If they put absolutely

912
00:56:34.869 --> 00:56:39.170
no fucking, like, not even trying, just whatever, I might

913
00:56:39.210 --> 00:56:42.309
not really be interested then. Unless he's really hot. Then

914
00:56:42.349 --> 00:56:43.829
I'll be like, okay, let me see what he has

915
00:56:43.849 --> 00:56:47.690
to say. But usually he doesn't have anything to say.

916
00:56:48.289 --> 00:56:51.510
So we move on. But, I mean, we all go

917
00:56:51.550 --> 00:56:52.530
by attraction.

918
00:56:52.630 --> 00:56:56.050
If he doesn't have anything in his bio, I swipe left.

919
00:56:56.650 --> 00:56:58.530
Yeah, like, I mean, if you're not willing to at

920
00:56:58.590 --> 00:57:01.309
least give me a little something. Or the ones that

921
00:57:01.349 --> 00:57:03.230
I can't stand are the ones that are bitching and

922
00:57:03.269 --> 00:57:03.909
complaining like.

923
00:57:04.309 --> 00:57:07.510
Oh, you women, this, that. Really? That's what you want

924
00:57:07.570 --> 00:57:08.130
on your bio?

925
00:57:08.170 --> 00:57:10.679
You want to bitch and complain about online dating and

926
00:57:10.719 --> 00:57:12.500
the women that you've been meeting and stuff like that?

927
00:57:12.539 --> 00:57:13.960
That sounds like a you problem.

928
00:57:15.199 --> 00:57:16.159
All right. Yeah.

929
00:57:16.579 --> 00:57:19.719
Like, why are you putting that in a bio, weirdo?

930
00:57:21.679 --> 00:57:26.659
TG, you're bugging, yo. Anyway. All right. So this is

931
00:57:26.679 --> 00:57:29.699
what we're going to do for the last couple, because,

932
00:57:29.719 --> 00:57:31.320
you know, a couple minutes, you know, we're going to

933
00:57:31.340 --> 00:57:34.639
just cut it a little bit. So I want, we're

934
00:57:34.659 --> 00:57:35.920
all going to do, all of us are going to

935
00:57:35.940 --> 00:57:36.159
do this.

936
00:57:36.780 --> 00:57:37.139
Oh, God.

937
00:57:37.940 --> 00:57:38.360
Three.

938
00:57:38.880 --> 00:57:39.840
That's too many.

939
00:57:40.099 --> 00:57:45.440
Three red flags. What are your ultimate three red flags

940
00:57:45.530 --> 00:57:51.510
that will definitely get you to be like, no, absolutely not.

941
00:57:52.750 --> 00:57:55.110
You got to get to step in. You don't have

942
00:57:55.130 --> 00:57:57.500
to go home. Well, you got to get the fuck

943
00:57:57.539 --> 00:58:00.260
up out of here. Three red flags, and let's start

944
00:58:00.280 --> 00:58:00.940
with Lady G.

945
00:58:00.960 --> 00:58:03.659
I don't know.

946
00:58:04.519 --> 00:58:06.519
One red flag would be.

947
00:58:07.550 --> 00:58:11.690
If he talks any sexual conversation on the first date.

948
00:58:12.750 --> 00:58:14.489
Okay. That's definitely a red flag.

949
00:58:15.269 --> 00:58:15.630
Yeah.

950
00:58:18.210 --> 00:58:19.489
Another red flag.

951
00:58:23.530 --> 00:58:24.239
If he has.

952
00:58:26.030 --> 00:58:29.670
Nothing good to say about the mother of any of

953
00:58:29.730 --> 00:58:30.289
his children.

954
00:58:32.909 --> 00:58:33.139
Hmm.

955
00:58:33.449 --> 00:58:34.909
That's an interesting one.

956
00:58:35.659 --> 00:58:35.940
Yeah.

957
00:58:36.139 --> 00:58:38.480
Because, I mean, what if the relationship... Oh, yeah, you

958
00:58:38.500 --> 00:58:39.920
shouldn't talk about... Yeah, I get it.

959
00:58:39.940 --> 00:58:40.219
All right.

960
00:58:40.239 --> 00:58:40.699
No, no, no.

961
00:58:40.780 --> 00:58:42.900
It's not even about the previous relationship.

962
00:58:43.380 --> 00:58:46.059
The thing is, if you don't have anything nice to

963
00:58:46.119 --> 00:58:51.599
say about the other parent of your child, that leads.

964
00:58:51.360 --> 00:58:55.519
Me to wonder, but you chose them. You're the one.

965
00:58:55.969 --> 00:58:59.449
Who decided you wanted to take that route with that person.

966
00:59:00.070 --> 00:59:03.900
And now all of a sudden, you know, they're no

967
00:59:03.940 --> 00:59:07.590
good anymore. Just because you don't work out doesn't make

968
00:59:07.630 --> 00:59:08.769
them a piece of trash.

969
00:59:09.329 --> 00:59:11.559
I mean, they are. on the relationship ended up, you know.

970
00:59:12.179 --> 00:59:13.920
Yeah, but that's what I'm saying. Like, you can't.

971
00:59:15.800 --> 00:59:19.829
Yeah, but still, if somebody's, you know, kicking somebody's back

972
00:59:19.949 --> 00:59:22.789
in after the fact and not and not and not

973
00:59:22.829 --> 00:59:25.710
taking any accountability for their part, you know, for me,

974
00:59:25.750 --> 00:59:26.389
that's a red flag.

975
00:59:26.409 --> 00:59:35.019
All right. And the last one. Okay. But isn't that...

976
00:59:34.900 --> 00:59:37.920
That'll be a red flag that takes... That takes... That

977
00:59:37.960 --> 00:59:39.760
can go over time. Like, you have to see if

978
00:59:39.800 --> 00:59:42.969
this guy is consistent. So, it'll take... No, if you tell.

979
00:59:42.809 --> 00:59:45.670
Me you're going to call me and you don't call me.

980
00:59:46.429 --> 00:59:48.150
Or text or whatever.

981
00:59:48.170 --> 00:59:48.530
Yeah, like.

982
00:59:48.690 --> 00:59:48.949
Yeah.

983
00:59:49.010 --> 00:59:49.969
If you go to.

984
00:59:49.989 --> 00:59:52.820
Basically, if you go 24 hours, you say you like

985
00:59:52.880 --> 00:59:57.519
me and you go 24 hours and we have no conversation...

986
00:59:57.750 --> 00:59:59.710
I don't hear anything from you to me. That's a

987
00:59:59.750 --> 01:00:03.469
red flag because you don't like me enough that in

988
01:00:03.510 --> 01:00:07.210
a 24 hour period, you don't want to know anything

989
01:00:07.269 --> 01:00:08.630
about what's up with me.

990
01:00:09.300 --> 01:00:13.840
Right. Yeah. That makes sense. That makes a lot of sense. TG.

991
01:00:15.320 --> 01:00:16.119
I know you got some.

992
01:00:17.460 --> 01:00:20.019
I have like 40. I know. I know.

993
01:00:20.199 --> 01:00:20.500
Calm down.

994
01:00:20.579 --> 01:00:31.889
Uh, So for me, one of them, because I am

995
01:00:31.929 --> 01:00:37.230
an intellectual and I am politically derived in morality and stuff.

996
01:00:38.530 --> 01:00:40.809
First red flag for me is any MAGA person.

997
01:00:41.710 --> 01:00:42.010
Bye.

998
01:00:42.730 --> 01:00:43.469
Okay.

999
01:00:45.349 --> 01:00:48.309
Second red flag is if they have any DV prior

1000
01:00:48.389 --> 01:00:56.230
shit or have tumultuous relationships with baby mom.

1001
01:00:54.849 --> 01:00:56.070
Or any of that shit.

1002
01:00:57.949 --> 01:01:02.570
Um, and, and even to say bad relationships with your kids,

1003
01:01:03.789 --> 01:01:09.690
not having relationships with your kids or, uh, issues with

1004
01:01:09.730 --> 01:01:13.650
baby mom, that all like, like the whole, like, yeah,

1005
01:01:14.469 --> 01:01:17.280
those are like, to me, like the biggest things because, uh,

1006
01:01:19.559 --> 01:01:23.219
I don't know. It says a lot about, you know,

1007
01:01:23.239 --> 01:01:30.130
your past you and like how you handle things. But

1008
01:01:33.179 --> 01:01:38.780
Along the lines with Inconsistent but just like Lying Basically

1009
01:01:38.840 --> 01:01:43.000
red flags are like lying and getting caught In lies

1010
01:01:43.019 --> 01:01:46.800
or Yeah Those are big red flags.

1011
01:01:46.420 --> 01:01:52.070
Okay What are yours? I'm gonna do that Miyagi Get

1012
01:01:52.090 --> 01:01:52.699
my hand.

1013
01:01:52.550 --> 01:01:54.670
Warm Let's see how great these are.

1014
01:01:54.570 --> 01:02:02.320
Alright First one is if you don't know how to

1015
01:02:02.360 --> 01:02:08.349
communicate with me, leave me alone. You got to know

1016
01:02:08.389 --> 01:02:14.849
how to communicate because if we can't have a conversation

1017
01:02:15.349 --> 01:02:18.820
or even the simplest type of conversation about whether it

1018
01:02:18.840 --> 01:02:23.360
be past, present, future, whatever, whether it's bullshit, whether it's

1019
01:02:23.400 --> 01:02:25.739
about whatever, whatever it is, you have to communicate. If

1020
01:02:25.780 --> 01:02:29.619
you can't communicate, I consider that a red flag. That's one.

1021
01:02:30.900 --> 01:02:32.300
Yeah, but that's kind of vague.

1022
01:02:32.550 --> 01:02:37.269
Communication, I mean, we're communicating right now. What type of communication?

1023
01:02:37.289 --> 01:02:41.150
Okay, the type of communication I'm talking about is if

1024
01:02:41.210 --> 01:02:45.170
you can't get, if we can't have the deep conversation,

1025
01:02:46.659 --> 01:02:50.980
if we can't have the kind of conversation that shows

1026
01:02:51.019 --> 01:02:55.280
who we really are, who we want to be, and

1027
01:02:55.320 --> 01:02:59.019
who we want to eventually become.

1028
01:02:59.099 --> 01:03:02.000
So communication substance it.

1029
01:03:01.920 --> 01:03:04.820
Has yeah yeah all right.

1030
01:03:04.019 --> 01:03:06.920
Pass the superficial you want more than that if they

1031
01:03:06.940 --> 01:03:07.659
can't do.

1032
01:03:07.500 --> 01:03:09.760
That right i want to be able to dig into

1033
01:03:09.780 --> 01:03:12.119
the rabbit hole you know what i'm saying yes that's

1034
01:03:12.300 --> 01:03:22.769
one two you you have to be able to to

1035
01:03:23.329 --> 01:03:27.639
to to like my cooking If you don't like what

1036
01:03:27.679 --> 01:03:29.800
I cook and how I cook, you gots to go.

1037
01:03:31.780 --> 01:03:37.579
All right? My rice, beans, teriyaki, fried chicken, chuletas, everything,

1038
01:03:37.699 --> 01:03:40.650
bang it. If you don't like my food, you gots

1039
01:03:40.690 --> 01:03:43.550
to get to stepping. I'm just playing, but for real,

1040
01:03:43.570 --> 01:03:44.670
you got to like my food.

1041
01:03:44.849 --> 01:03:48.650
I'm going to say, what if we have seen negative

1042
01:03:49.289 --> 01:03:50.889
outcomes of your cooking?

1043
01:03:50.909 --> 01:03:53.000
Then what are we supposed to do?

1044
01:03:53.039 --> 01:03:56.949
Yeah. You burnt that chuleta.

1045
01:03:57.170 --> 01:04:00.289
Don't lie. No, no, no. I overcooked it. The air

1046
01:04:00.349 --> 01:04:00.980
fryer did it.

1047
01:04:01.650 --> 01:04:02.320
No, no.

1048
01:04:03.489 --> 01:04:05.300
My rice is a little bit aguau.

1049
01:04:05.880 --> 01:04:09.059
It's like if you... No, no, no. Like, yo, if

1050
01:04:09.099 --> 01:04:11.000
you got high blood pressure and.

1051
01:04:13.500 --> 01:04:17.940
Clogged arteries and diabetes and all.

1052
01:04:17.889 --> 01:04:20.409
These things, I'm going to want to think twice about

1053
01:04:20.469 --> 01:04:21.190
eating your cooking.

1054
01:04:21.889 --> 01:04:22.670
Yeah.

1055
01:04:23.539 --> 01:04:26.480
Yeah, I would think twice, too, but I make a

1056
01:04:26.519 --> 01:04:28.039
bone teriyaki fried chicken.

1057
01:04:28.579 --> 01:04:29.579
Oh, my goodness.

1058
01:04:29.920 --> 01:04:33.829
And then, last but not least, last but not least,

1059
01:04:35.070 --> 01:04:36.750
you can't go around kicking puppies.

1060
01:04:38.309 --> 01:04:38.889
Oh, no.

1061
01:04:40.289 --> 01:04:42.769
Let me tell you something. Only one of those.

1062
01:04:42.510 --> 01:04:44.030
Things was serious, Corleone.

1063
01:04:44.239 --> 01:04:46.340
Oh, my gosh.

1064
01:04:47.360 --> 01:04:51.179
If you go around kicking fucking puppies, it's a wrap.

1065
01:04:51.610 --> 01:04:53.630
We're not, we're not, we're not dealing with this shit.

1066
01:04:54.070 --> 01:04:54.690
Yeah.

1067
01:04:54.849 --> 01:04:57.090
I've seen, I've seen, I've seen, let me tell you something.

1068
01:04:57.139 --> 01:04:58.260
What if it was an accident?

1069
01:05:00.760 --> 01:05:03.300
If the, if the, if the dog squeals, it's no

1070
01:05:03.340 --> 01:05:04.159
fucking accident.

1071
01:05:04.639 --> 01:05:04.880
What?

1072
01:05:04.940 --> 01:05:08.920
Sometimes things happen. If the dog goes, I could step.

1073
01:05:08.860 --> 01:05:12.409
On a cat's tail. Sometimes. Watch where the fuck you're going.

1074
01:05:12.429 --> 01:05:14.949
And you hear, you hear some screeching happening.

1075
01:05:14.969 --> 01:05:18.010
Watch where you're going. You kick, you kick puppies, don't

1076
01:05:18.050 --> 01:05:19.610
like my food and can't communicate.

1077
01:05:20.699 --> 01:05:27.820
Those are your worst Oh my god.

1078
01:05:27.440 --> 01:05:30.780
Another red flag is if Curse words come out of

1079
01:05:30.800 --> 01:05:32.119
your mouth Every other word.

1080
01:05:33.840 --> 01:05:37.340
What the fuck are you talking about Nope she's saying

1081
01:05:37.840 --> 01:05:42.019
She's saying I know what she's.

1082
01:05:41.539 --> 01:05:45.440
Saying Forget about it.

1083
01:05:48.159 --> 01:05:53.239
Oh man alright Oh This was fun. All right. So

1084
01:05:53.920 --> 01:05:59.110
with that being said, Oh, I am.

1085
01:06:00.429 --> 01:06:00.750
Yeah.

1086
01:06:00.829 --> 01:06:03.829
Wait, what are people saying? Cause you're just like, Oh,

1087
01:06:04.030 --> 01:06:05.590
you know, cutting everybody off.

1088
01:06:06.849 --> 01:06:08.639
Oh yeah. Somebody said something about language.

1089
01:06:10.000 --> 01:06:10.889
Oh, they're giving it.

1090
01:06:10.920 --> 01:06:11.219
Yeah.

1091
01:06:11.280 --> 01:06:15.260
What, what were people's, uh, nobody.

1092
01:06:15.300 --> 01:06:18.900
Well, they were just, um, the, uh, Monica was talking about,

1093
01:06:19.800 --> 01:06:24.659
Chemistry and then she said language Yeah Well you.

1094
01:06:24.619 --> 01:06:28.139
Know Maybe that's a red flag for her Yeah I

1095
01:06:28.340 --> 01:06:31.519
don't know why the fuck it bothers fucking people I

1096
01:06:31.539 --> 01:06:34.179
mean it shouldn't really bother any fucking body But us.

1097
01:06:37.179 --> 01:06:39.360
I see what you're doing there You see what I'm

1098
01:06:39.389 --> 01:06:42.650
doing there Yeah Well like I.

1099
01:06:42.530 --> 01:06:50.909
Said Oh shit Alright so With that being said This

1100
01:06:51.570 --> 01:06:55.739
is Lady G. This is TG Love. I'm Big Corleone.

1101
01:06:55.800 --> 01:06:58.119
This has been another episode of This Might Hurt Podcast.

1102
01:06:58.460 --> 01:07:01.590
Thank you for everybody for showing up. Stay tuned for

1103
01:07:01.610 --> 01:07:05.090
the next episode. And with that being said, always keep

1104
01:07:05.150 --> 01:07:10.130
in mind that at some point, this might hurt. Good night, everybody.

1105
01:07:10.150 --> 01:07:10.219
Bye.

1106
01:07:42.389 --> 01:07:42.550
Bye.

1107
01:07:42.610 --> 01:07:42.730
Bye.