Dec. 6, 2024

The Pre-Thanksgiving Shenanigans Episode Of 2024 (Recorded LIVE on 11-27-24)

The Pre-Thanksgiving Shenanigans Episode Of 2024 (Recorded LIVE on 11-27-24)

We'll discuss the things we're thankful for and not so thankful for as well as whatever else come to the forefront of this years Pre-Thanksgiving Shenanigans Episode Of 2024!! Please be warned that at some point This Might Hurt!!

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We'll discuss the things we're thankful for and not so thankful for as well as whatever else come to the forefront of this years Pre-Thanksgiving Shenanigans Episode Of 2024!! Please be warned that at some point This Might Hurt!!

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The US says.

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Yes, Hey, except everybody. It's a big holdly on of

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this my HERD podcast, not everything. Adjust a minute, what's up?

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How's everybody doing. We're coming to you live from use

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your imagination. You know how it is, you know how

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we do it. I want to do a sound check

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real quick. I don't have any of my co hosts

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here yet. So anybody who's listening or watching the show

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right now, can you confirm that you hear me? Can

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anybody confirm that they hear me? Anybody? Can you hear me?

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I mean, I'm assuming you can hear me. I'm just

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gonna assume you can hear me. Hi, mannight, can you

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hear me? I'm not sure yet, all right, so I'm

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just trying to make sure I could. All right, Thank

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you very much. I appreciate it. Thanks. So with that

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being said, this is the twenty twenty four This Might

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her Podcast pre Thanksgiving Shenanigan's episode, and none of my

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co say yeah yet. So I guess for now it's

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it's all about me, just about me right now. Okay,

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so let's let's start off with some some bullshit, I

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guess you know. Let's see we have so all right,

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So what what is everyone grateful for? What is it about,

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you know, the holidays that makes you feel the way

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you feel? Do you feel sad around the holidays? Do

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you feel happy and giddy? Do you feel pissed off?

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Like what the fuck? I hate the fucking holidays? Or

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do you love the holidays? You know? Whatever? But what

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is it that has you feeling the way you feel

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about hollidays? Let's start off with thanksgiving? What do you

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what are you thankful for? What are you grateful for?

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What is it about? What is it going on in

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your life that has you feeling grateful and thankful? Well,

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as far as I'm concerned, I'm I'm grateful. I'm thankful

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for my children. You know, I'm very thankful for my children.

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I have great kids. The kids, the kids are just

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fucking amazing. There's there's nothing, there's nothing that that I

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There's nothing, there's nothing I can complain about. I got

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great kids, I got great grandkids, you know what I mean. Like,

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it's it's just it's it's a it's a great feeling

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to know that, you know, I I had a hand

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in and helping them become, you know, the adults that

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they are today, you know what I'm saying. Not only that,

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but they love me once they're not to love you

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know what I mean? What if they're not to love

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about about me? You know? I think, I think that

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I'm a I'm a great father, i think I'm a

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great granddad, And I'm grateful and thankful for having them

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all in my lives in my life, you know, because

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I don't know where I would be and what I

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would be doing with myself if I didn't have, you know,

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my kids as a part of my life, you know,

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I mean, it's it's an amazing thing to be a parent,

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you know, two, to watch them grow and become the

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adults that they are now, and knowing that you know

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you you did your best to stick by them and

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make sure that they stood on the right path. And

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it could be bumpy being a parent. The road can

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be bumpy at times, but don't ever let that change

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the fact that you still are a parent. You know,

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it's it can be. It can be difficult knowing that

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you know your kids are struggling and your relationship with

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them is struggling, But to be real about it, as

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long as you continue to communicate with them and show

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them that you care and that you love, you love them,

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and you know you're you're you'll always be there for

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them regardless. You know, they'll they'll always love you. You know,

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they'll always you know, look for you. And I want

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to spend time with you. And you know, that's just

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that's just how it is, you know, And that's that's

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part of the that's part of that's part of life

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and part of being a parent, you know. And I

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never I'll never want to I'll never want to change

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that about my life, you know. So with that being said,

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none of my co hosts say here yet. Still I'm surprised,

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But the show must go on, right, the show must

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go on. So let's talk about relationships. I want to

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talk about a little bit about some relationships. I actually

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have a fan advice question, but I'm gonna wait until

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later on a little bit later on to discuss that.

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But I want to I want to say something about

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some relationships. You know, sometimes sometimes sometimes in relationships, you

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find yourself struggling to you find yourself struggling internally, you know,

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you find yourself going through things that you wish people understood,

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especially your partner, you know, And sometimes you struggle, you know,

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knowing that or feeling you're not knowing not us that's wrong,

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Feeling that you know your your your partner doesn't have

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your back, or feeling like your partner doesn't understand and

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you know, you you find yourself struggling with that notion.

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You know, but in all realness and in all actuality,

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if you don't communicate that to your partner, how is

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your partner even gonna know that you're struggling with all

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these things. That's why communication is actually pretty damn important

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in a relationship. You know, if you can't, if you

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can't communicate, what's the purpose of being with someone who

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who you you say you love and care for. You

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gotta be you gotta you gotta have some kind of community.

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You gotta have some kind of of a feel that

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you know, you can trust in your partner enough to

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know that they'll have your back, you know. And and

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also another thing too, Stop stop the competing in relationships.

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Competition in relationships, and it doesn't it Sometimes competition happens

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when you don't even realize it's happening, you know what

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I mean? Because competition in relationships, I mean, your woman's

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success is your success, all right, and your success is

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her success. You know what I mean? Like, why the

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fuck are you guys competing with one another?

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Oh?

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I make more money than you do? Or you know,

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I cook more than you do, or I do more

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laundry than you do, or I sweep the floor more

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than you do. I don't give a fuck what you do.

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You know what I'm saying. Yeah, I could do all

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that shit too, but we should be doing it together,

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not competing against one another to figure out who's doing

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more of what. You know what I mean? Stop competing

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because it's it's relationships. Aren't that complicated. They're not that

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fucking complicated, you know what I mean. I mean, think

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about it. Two people can lift the couch together, you

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get it. Two people together can lift up a couch.

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One person doing it alone might not be able to,

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but together.

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You can.

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So stop the fucking bullshit, stop the competing. Work together,

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and maybe you should have worked the fuck out, you

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know what I mean. You gotta work together, you know,

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because if you if you don't work together in the relationship,

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she's just not gonna work out. You just might as

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well fucking pack your bags and keep it moving. Seriously,

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pack your fucking bags and keep it moving. If it's

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not working, if you can't communicate, and if you can't

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work together, keep it moving. You know what I mean,

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that's actually a pretty dope passtag. Thank you for the

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comment teamwork makes dreams work. That's dope. I get that.

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I get that. I'm I'm, I'm I thank you. I

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appreciate the comment. Yeah, it's true, teamwork makes dream work.

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That that that's that's that right there is actually what

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it's all about. Team work and if you want your

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dream to work, you need to have teamwork. That's so

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fucking I gotta remember that hashtag. I'm gonna write that

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ship down, pure it up. I'm gonna write that ship down.

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That's actually a pretty dope hashtag. Thank you very much,

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Thank you very much for that, for that. I appreciate that,

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you know, And that's how it should be. You shouldn't.

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You shouldn't, you should not. You really shouldn't feel that

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you're alone in this ship, you know what I mean?

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You really shouldn't be in a relationship if you feel alone,

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what's what's the purpose?

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Then?

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At that point, what actually happens to a person that

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feels there alone? When they're not. I mean, I don't understand.

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I don't understand what people are doing these days, you know,

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and kind of think about it. I want to ask

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you a question. I'm gonna ask the fans of whoever's listening,

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whoever's watching, I'm gonna ask you a question. What's the

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biggest what's your biggest reason? Okay, what's your biggest reason

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for let's see no, let me let me, let me,

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let me, let me. Let me rephrase that, let me

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rephrase that. I'm sorry, I'll not forget. Let's not let's

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not go there. I don't want to go there. But

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I'm gonna I'm gonna tell you that. What's this? Okay,

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I got in the comment here. Most people today don't

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know how to work together. It's to fight again. It's

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all the outside ship. I've been there, done that, and

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get tired of fighting. So you settle at times. All right,

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I see, I see where you're going with that. And

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the problem. The problem is, all right, So the problem

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is that when the outside world see what you gotta

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do is in your in your relationship. This is this

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is how I feel. It is my opinion. Now I'm

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gonna I'm gonna be honest. I'm gonna bena be straightforward

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with you. This is my opinion. When you're in a

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relationship with someone, you know what I'm saying, and it's

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and it's you and your and your dude, or you're

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you and your lady or whatever it is, you have

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to form a two handed circle a too, a two

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handed two person circle. What that means is you and

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your partner are your own circle. You can't let the

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outside ship fuck with your circle. You can't allow people

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to come in to your into your circle and fuck

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it up. If you can't have that that bond, you

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know what I'm saying, You can't. If you can't form

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that circle without all the outside nonsense, it's never gonna work,

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you know what I'm saying. I mean and another thing too,

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You should never you should never settle, especially if they're

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red flags. If they're fucking flags all over the place.

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You know what I'm saying, You gotta you gotta, you gotta,

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you gotta nip that ship in the bud. You know

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what I'm saying. Nip that ship in the butt and

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be like, listen, you know you have the two in

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your red flags. I can't I can't allow this ship

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to continue, you know what I'm saying. I mean, it's

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it's hard enough building a foundation with someone. It's hard

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enough to understand what someone else is going through at times.

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But you can't lose yourself in that process. You always

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have to stay who you are. So what you do

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is you get your partner sit down, like, listen, listen

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to me. If this is going to work, we have

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to form a bond with one another. We have to

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form a circle within ourselves and don't allow all the

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outside nonsense to come to fuck in and fuck your

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whole program up, especially when you love someone. When you

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love someone and you care about someone enough, you know,

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you can't allow the outside nonsense to come in and

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disrupt what you have. And you can't go out there

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telling people your business too, because that allows them into

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your circle. You understand I'm trying to say, Like, once

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you start, once you start telling people, listen, oh I

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got a problem with this dude, or you know this,

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or my lady or my or you know whatever, and

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this is what we're going through. And you're allowing someone in.

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You're opening the door for someone to come into your circle.

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You know what I mean, so whenever, whenever you you're

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out there with your with with with your person, you

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know understand that what you guys go through, you have

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to go through it together, work on it together. And

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if and if the other your partner isn't willing to

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work at it, your partner isn't willing to to diminish

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some of the bullshit that you're going through, then it's

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it's time. Is you can't settle, You can't settle for

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less than what you feel your worth, Know your worth,

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know your worst in the relationship, you know what I mean.

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Don't sit there and and and and look at the

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red flags and like, don't don't don't sit there like

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this it's a red flag. Don't sit there like that.

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Don't sit there and say to yourself, up, just another

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red flag. I'll deal with it. I'll fucking you know,

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just let it ride. No, you can't fight for your relationship,

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you know what I mean. I mean, it's not it's

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not difficult and it's not hard to fight for what

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you feel you deserve. It's not that complicated to fight

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for what you deserve right or wrong. Right, if you

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feel you deserve a partner, that's gonna you know, build

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that foundation with you, you know, build something that that

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it's for use two two to build upon together. You know,

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because the foundation, the foundation has been has been put down.

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Now it's up to you and your partner to discard

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what it is you don't want in the in in

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your on your foundation and add to the foundation. You

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know what I mean?

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Hold on.

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I agree this relationship I'm in is very low key.

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Photos here and there, but no one can be in

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my business. I agree, your worth is real. Took me

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a long time to love me. I will never settle

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it again. I'm glad I caught this live. You're amazing.

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I appreciate, thank you, thank you. I appreciate, I appreciate,

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I appreciate the comment. You know what I'm saying. I

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appreciate the fact that you're listening. You know what I'm saying.

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We love our fans, We love we we love everybody.

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You know what I'm saying. I really appreciate, we appreciate you.

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You know what I mean. We appreciate, we appreciate the

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love and support from all the fans. And you know

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we would we wouldn't be here, we wouldn't do what

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we'd be doing. What we've been doing without you, guys,

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So thank you, you know, appreciate it. So, like I

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was saying, the foundation has been put down, so it's

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up to you and your partner to be able to

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discard what you don't want on it. Don't well you

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don't want to be built on it, what you want

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built on it, you know. So you got to take

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the time and and you take the time and the

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effort to put in to build this foundation, you know

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what I'm saying. And I gotta tell you, I gotta

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tell you, I'll be honest with you. I don't know

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where the fuck my cold, sir. I hope everybody's all right,

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because I just hope everybody's good because I'm I'm I'm

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really shocked that there's no one here but me right now.

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But that's that. That's cool. That's cool. Y'all get to

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hear me run my mouth and talk my ship. You know,

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you just just not wash me, hold my hand and

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laugh and ship most of the time. But anyway, that's

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neither that. That's neither here nor that. So now I'm

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going to get to I'm want to get to the

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fan advice question. So hold on another question here, Okay,

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so what do you do when the communication doesn't work?

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You've expressed your needs and it feels like you're not

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being heard. Okay, So as far as as what do

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you do when the communication doesn't work, Sometimes people don't.

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They don't they don't know how to communicate. Because if

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they're not, if they don't know how to communicate with you,

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there's some kind of you know, wall, some kind of obstruction,

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you know what I'm saying. And when there's when there's

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a lack of communication in a relationship, you know, there

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needs to be some kind of conversation. You know, you

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the person who who is the communicator, has to be

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able to first of all, understand your partner. Understand that

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if if they're not if the communication isn't working, get

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them to a point where the communication. Get your partner

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to a point where they understand what you're trying to say,

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because understanding and communication go hand in hand, you know

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what I'm saying, Because in order to in order to

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to communicate certain things, your partner needs to understand what

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you're trying to say. If they have no if they

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have no understanding about what what what it is you're

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trying to communicate. Then there there's that's definitely a red

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flag that tells me that either that tells me that

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either your partner or whoever it is, hold the hold on,

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hold up, hold the hold up. Words don't mean all right,

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Words don't mean shit. Actions speak loud. Nine ninety people

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in a relationship. All they do is talk and lie.

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No.

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Actions don't tell me, show me that's You're absolutely right,

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you're absolutely right. But I mean, if you want someone

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to show you something, you know what I'm saying. I mean,

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I'm pretty sure. Uh, I mean you you you want

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to know what's going on. You definitely want to know

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what's going on. I can tell you, you know what

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I'm saying, what I'm about to do. I can tell

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you and show you what I'm about to do. You

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know what I'm saying. But if it's if it's not,

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if it's not known you know what what is about

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to happen, then you could be you can be simply

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be caught off guard. It all depends, It all depends.

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There are people out there that that that that feel

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that words don't mean ship, which is true. A lot

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of words don't mean shit. I can fucking sit here

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and I can say to you I care about you.

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I can say that ship from here to to to

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till the end of time. But if I don't take

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the time to show you that I care about you,

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what fucking good is it? You're absolutely correct, You're right.

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And if you're if if you're sitting there listening to

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someone blab away, you know what I'm saying, trying trying

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to to get you to understand that communication needs to

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be had, communication needs to be understood, and you're not

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understanding where they're coming from, You're not understanding what it

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is they're trying to say. What's the fucking use? At

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some point understanding needs to be part of what you're communicating.

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And also, as far as J. L. Garcia is concerned,

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don't tell me, show me. And that makes a lot

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of sense too, because when you're trying to communicate with

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someone and you want them to understand, you know what

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I mean, show them, show them what you're getting at,

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show them what it is you're trying to accomplish in

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this relationship, you know what I mean. It's not that

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it's not that complicated. Showing somebody something and telling somebody

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something are definitely two different things. But you need to

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do both with some people. Some people just don't understand

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what the fuck it is you're trying to get at,

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you know, And and that's that's just that I'm I'm really,

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I'm really, I'm really caught off guard here because I'm

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I'm just called a little bit off guard. I'm just

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I'm just saying, I'm I love I love all the

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all the all the chat in the chat room I got,

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I love it. Keep bringing it on, keep bringing it.

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Let me get to this, let me get to this

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fan advice. So we gotta, we gotta. We got an email.

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I'm a fan of the show, and it reads this.

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My handwriting is fucking chicken scratch. I didn't get to

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print the fucking thing out, so I had to fucking

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scribble it out right. We went on a double date

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and she got drunk and she started running her mouth.

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She started running her mouth about our sex issues to

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our friend that we were on a double date with.

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How should I handle the situation and how should I

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let her know that it was fucked up what she did?

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All right?

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So all right, hold on, I gotta the most people

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don't realize that we don't take the opportunity to do

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a personal inventory about themselves. Do a personal inventory about themselves.

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Most people don't realize that we don't take the opportunity

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to do a personal inventory about themselves. Okay, yeah, you're right,

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a personal personal inventory should be done. Hell you, everyone's

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to know why. You gotta get that mental roller deck

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is going. You gotta get that you got. You gotta

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do an inventory about shit. You know what I'm saying.

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The voices, the voices in my head, the voices in

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my head, they do an inventory all the time. The

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voices in my head, they always do an inventor and

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they always let me know how many fucks to give

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I have left. Sometimes I don't have any, Sometimes I

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have a few, sometimes I don't have any at all,

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and sometimes I have one or two. So if they

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don't do the inventory and how many fucks I have

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to give, it's up to you to fuck around and

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find out there you have it. But anyway, back to this,

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back to this. So, so you go on a double

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date and your lady starts drinking and gets sloppy and

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starts running her mouth about your sex life. That is

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pretty fucked up. Like I said, you know, you first

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of all, when you have when you have that bond

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that you know two handed or handed circle, what the

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fuck it is to two couples four hands a circle?

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Whatever you know, you have your thing. You should never

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gossip about your person. Never ever gossip about your person ever.

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If you really feel like you need to gossip about

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your partner to your friends and to your family and

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to whoever the fuck else, always remember that once you

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push shit out there like that about them, once you

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start running your mouth about them, it's out there. That's it.

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It's out there, especially if you're talking about your sex

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life with your friends. First of all, shit like that

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should not be told or spoken about ever to anyone,

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because that's allowing the nonsense to come into your life,

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to come into your relationship. Not your life, well your

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life too, but come into your relationship. You don't want

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that shit. You don't ever want fucking anyone to know

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what your what your sexual issues are. It's like if

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you it's like, you go ahead and your lady was drinking, right,

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what the fuck was she drinking? She must have been

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really fucked up. If she's talking to another couple about

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your sexual issues. I mean, I don't know what the fuck.

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You know, she could have possibly be saying, but it

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sounds to me like you're pretty upset about it. I'm

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not gonna. I didn't write everything down that that you

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wrote because I kind of I kind of understood where

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you were going. But you should never you should never

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run your mouth about your partner.

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Man.

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It's fucking terrible. It's terrible. Never run your mouth about

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your partner, especially when it comes to intimate shit. Okay,

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especially when it comes to intimacy. You should never take

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that shit to therapy. You know what I'm saying, Take

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that shit to therapy. You know what I'm saying, take

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that shit to fuck can forget it. I already know

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who the fuck this is. You know what I'm saying.

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It's terrible that you could sit there and comment, but

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you can't sit there and handle your business. Right, I'm

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not gonna. I'm even gonna. I'm not even gonna put

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your comment on the screen. Be you got some fucking

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nerve anyway, anyway, Yeah, never talk Never talk shit about

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your partner.

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Man.

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That's not only the disrespectful, but it's respectful. It's disrespectful

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to your fucking relationship. All right, hold on I'm gonna

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bring in lady g now, doc doorter.

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Hello, Hi, Sorry, I'm late.

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I was dealing with some teenage angst.

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Okay, okay, so how how are you good?

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I heard you cursing? What's going on?

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I mean it's it's it's popping here tonight?

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Here? Where is everybody else?

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Gg? Love was stopping for Thanksgiving stuff? Should be here

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in a bit. And and Doves is I don't know

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what's up with Dubs. He's not I guess he's not

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feeling well or whatever.

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Okay, well I ain't. You ain't gotta worry about me

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shopping for no Thanksgiving stuff?

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Uh?

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Why is that just me and myself?

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And I a word?

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Yeah?

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Damn? Oh hold on, we got some here. This might

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be an unpopular opinion, but okay, actually let me let

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me just give you what.

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You were doing. Yeah, I'm sorry.

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Guys, it's cool. No, because there was a we got

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a comment like an email and the guy fan he

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wanted he wanted to ice. He said him and his

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lady went out on a double date. She got his

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drunk and started running her mouth about their sexual issues.

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Oh so he wanted some kind of advice on how

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to how to handle that. So well, I hold on,

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just really quick, let me do this.

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Oh there's there's.

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Oh man, sick as a dog right now?

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Then why are you here dying?

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Because you know what, if I'm gonna die, I'd rather

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die with you guys than die.

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But you know, all right, so so so all right,

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so whatever yeah right, yeah, mute, m yeah, think whenever

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you're gonna throw up or something. So he wanted some

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advice on how to handle this. You, so I was

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what I was saying was it's not it's not cool.

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All right, hold on, we got the unpopular opinion. But

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you should be a man. You should be mad enough

467
00:37:15.039 --> 00:37:19.119
to handle the situation appropriately, meaning you should be able

468
00:37:19.159 --> 00:37:23.400
to handle the conversation, change the conversation and speak to

469
00:37:23.440 --> 00:37:24.679
your partner privately.

470
00:37:25.199 --> 00:37:29.480
I'm with you midnight because number one, first of all,

471
00:37:29.519 --> 00:37:33.480
and only, I really hate to say that, I'm familiar

472
00:37:33.519 --> 00:37:39.960
with this type of a situation. The thing is, if

473
00:37:39.960 --> 00:37:43.360
she's saying something, it's because there's an issue.

474
00:37:43.480 --> 00:37:44.480
There's a problem.

475
00:37:45.119 --> 00:37:48.960
So number one, are you handling the business at hand?

476
00:37:51.599 --> 00:37:54.679
Number two, Yeah, you should be able to have this

477
00:37:54.719 --> 00:37:58.920
conversation with your partner. And I mean, if she's not

478
00:37:59.000 --> 00:38:02.719
receptive to that, then you need to be thinking about

479
00:38:03.760 --> 00:38:10.519
why she definitely needs a talking to. Not only is

480
00:38:10.599 --> 00:38:17.239
it disrespectful, but it's also self damaging. Every couple needs

481
00:38:17.239 --> 00:38:20.880
a healthy and safe space to express themselves in a

482
00:38:20.920 --> 00:38:26.880
comfortable space. True. True, Yeah, So I mean it also

483
00:38:26.960 --> 00:38:29.760
depends on what kind of relationship you have, you know,

484
00:38:32.079 --> 00:38:40.400
time and place, definitely. Yeah. But also at the same time,

485
00:38:40.519 --> 00:38:43.639
people are different, right, and so what one person feels

486
00:38:43.679 --> 00:38:47.320
is inappropriate, somebody else might actually be okay with. So

487
00:38:47.360 --> 00:38:51.960
it all depends Hey, tgy, So it all depends on

488
00:38:52.400 --> 00:38:55.119
your relationship. I mean, and that's the thing. We can

489
00:38:55.159 --> 00:38:59.400
give whatever advice we like to, but we don't know

490
00:38:59.440 --> 00:39:02.360
the relationship. We don't know if that's something that's always

491
00:39:02.440 --> 00:39:08.800
been that way. Yeah, but that's where community midnight, that's

492
00:39:08.800 --> 00:39:12.960
where communication comes in again. Some some couples are good

493
00:39:13.000 --> 00:39:15.599
with that. Some couples are like, yeah, I don't care,

494
00:39:15.639 --> 00:39:19.360
it doesn't bother me. Other people are like, no, keep

495
00:39:19.400 --> 00:39:24.800
everything that we do private and confidential. But also if

496
00:39:24.840 --> 00:39:28.000
you're communicating with one another, that wouldn't even be an.

497
00:39:27.920 --> 00:39:37.920
Issue, right, absolutely, absolutely, Yeah, So I'm gonna be honest

498
00:39:37.920 --> 00:39:39.559
with you. I'm gonna be honest with all, for all

499
00:39:39.599 --> 00:39:43.960
three of y'all. I was. I started, I did, I did.

500
00:39:43.960 --> 00:39:50.480
The first half hour, I was fucking drowning. I was

501
00:39:50.519 --> 00:39:55.159
fucking drowning. I was like, oh my god. I was like, Yo,

502
00:39:55.280 --> 00:39:58.480
where is everybody? I was like help in my head,

503
00:39:58.519 --> 00:40:00.159
I was screaming. The voices in my head will like.

504
00:40:00.199 --> 00:40:01.599
YO, where the fuck is everybody?

505
00:40:01.639 --> 00:40:05.280
Oh my god, you better say something quick. I was.

506
00:40:05.360 --> 00:40:06.480
I was. I did a pretty good.

507
00:40:06.440 --> 00:40:10.400
Job, though, I just I just have to go on

508
00:40:10.440 --> 00:40:15.079
YouTube and I shot to a message to let you know,

509
00:40:16.400 --> 00:40:19.239
you know what I'm saying that let's call it. I'm not,

510
00:40:19.320 --> 00:40:21.800
you know, like I'm not. I'm out of it right now.

511
00:40:22.360 --> 00:40:26.559
But I'm here, all right.

512
00:40:26.880 --> 00:40:28.880
So so what I what I wanted, what I wanted

513
00:40:28.920 --> 00:40:30.920
to do was actually I wanted to I wanted to

514
00:40:30.960 --> 00:40:35.320
start the show bye bye. I did it myself, actually,

515
00:40:35.639 --> 00:40:38.320
but I wanted to go around the room and and

516
00:40:38.519 --> 00:40:43.639
ask everybody what it is, you know, Thanksgiving being tomorrow,

517
00:40:43.639 --> 00:40:46.840
what it is they're thankful for? You know what I'm saying.

518
00:40:47.599 --> 00:40:51.119
So I'm gonna start. I could, I could. I can

519
00:40:51.199 --> 00:40:55.719
see that that TG wants to get in on the

520
00:40:55.719 --> 00:41:00.880
conversation so badly, so what do you think before and

521
00:41:00.960 --> 00:41:03.519
let's let's keep it non political.

522
00:41:06.320 --> 00:41:14.239
Easy. Oh my god. First I was going to say

523
00:41:14.239 --> 00:41:26.960
black men, definitely, thankful for them. Uh, I don't know.

524
00:41:27.920 --> 00:41:30.079
There's a lot of things to be thankful for. I

525
00:41:30.079 --> 00:41:33.679
guess I'm just thankful to be alive at this point.

526
00:41:35.760 --> 00:41:43.880
That's That's where I'll leave it. I'm alive, thankful, alive, here,

527
00:41:43.920 --> 00:41:44.719
still here.

528
00:41:47.519 --> 00:41:51.599
So yeah, all right, I got cool. That's cool. That's cool.

529
00:41:52.760 --> 00:41:54.960
Lady G. What are you thankful for?

530
00:41:57.360 --> 00:42:02.079
Well, I'm actually thankful for my life. H No matter

531
00:42:02.119 --> 00:42:06.599
how bad I think or feel things are, I know

532
00:42:06.719 --> 00:42:12.599
they could be so much worse. I'm thankful for my children,

533
00:42:13.199 --> 00:42:19.039
my granddaughter. I am thankful for everything that's ever happened

534
00:42:19.079 --> 00:42:22.920
in my life, good, bad, or indifferent, because at the

535
00:42:23.000 --> 00:42:25.039
end of the day, it's all made me the person

536
00:42:25.079 --> 00:42:28.960
that I am. So I'm just, you know, kind of

537
00:42:29.000 --> 00:42:33.360
like TG, I'm thankful I get to see another thanksgiving.

538
00:42:33.800 --> 00:42:37.280
You know, there's a lot going on in this world

539
00:42:37.400 --> 00:42:43.480
right now. Yeah, I'm just I'm just thankful for the day.

540
00:42:44.679 --> 00:42:49.280
Nice. Nice Simon Phoenix, what about you.

541
00:42:50.440 --> 00:42:54.119
I'm thankful for Walmart sales. I'm thankful for the PS

542
00:42:54.239 --> 00:43:03.880
five I'm just playing. I'm just playing. Yeah yeah, but yeah,

543
00:43:03.880 --> 00:43:05.960
before I am thankful that we want to Walmart today

544
00:43:06.000 --> 00:43:07.960
because yo, we got the mister Racial doll for the baby.

545
00:43:08.760 --> 00:43:10.440
It was the last one two hours to get it.

546
00:43:10.519 --> 00:43:15.679
Now we snatched it or whatever, like, yo, not because

547
00:43:15.679 --> 00:43:17.519
because because you know what, we went there for food

548
00:43:17.559 --> 00:43:19.440
and stuff, right, so that you know what I'm saying.

549
00:43:19.440 --> 00:43:21.440
I was like, yo, you walk around real quick, and

550
00:43:21.440 --> 00:43:23.320
I saw it was Rachel doll. That was the last one,

551
00:43:23.360 --> 00:43:26.119
and I'm like, I ain't coming for that. But then

552
00:43:26.159 --> 00:43:29.679
I was like, my daughter loves miss Rachel. We're taking it.

553
00:43:31.000 --> 00:43:34.920
Snatched it, right. But besides that, I mean, no, honestly,

554
00:43:35.320 --> 00:43:38.280
I'm thankful that that, Like my family and friends are good,

555
00:43:39.159 --> 00:43:41.960
you know, everything positive and negative, you know what I'm saying.

556
00:43:41.960 --> 00:43:44.320
I'm even thankful for the negative stuff because it ships

557
00:43:44.599 --> 00:43:48.199
ship stuff there. I'm thankful for the negative because how

558
00:43:48.239 --> 00:43:50.400
would you know what positive it is? We'd been through

559
00:43:50.400 --> 00:43:54.280
nothing negative? Like it's like having people, you know, how

560
00:43:54.599 --> 00:43:56.159
why would you know what piece is? We didn't if

561
00:43:56.199 --> 00:43:57.360
you didn't never experienced war.

562
00:43:58.920 --> 00:43:59.440
Mm hmmm.

563
00:44:00.400 --> 00:44:03.960
All right, So I'm thankful for that, and you know,

564
00:44:04.239 --> 00:44:06.360
I pray for my people that locked to some tolerance. Tomorrow,

565
00:44:07.440 --> 00:44:11.719
Tomorrow's the day, you know what I'm saying, take your pills.

566
00:44:11.760 --> 00:44:14.880
It's a small it's a small price to pay for salvation,

567
00:44:15.440 --> 00:44:19.639
but you will pay, yes, you will. And I'm thankful

568
00:44:19.639 --> 00:44:21.880
for my toilet because my toilet is going to be

569
00:44:21.920 --> 00:44:23.960
on fire tomorrow, right.

570
00:44:25.599 --> 00:44:32.440
Guy, Seriously, take some medicine.

571
00:44:30.559 --> 00:44:35.400
You know, like I'm thankful for ice cream, small price

572
00:44:35.440 --> 00:44:42.639
to paper for salvation. You know, after tomorrow it's gonna

573
00:44:42.639 --> 00:44:48.960
be a twenty four hour poopa thon bro bro Bro.

574
00:44:49.079 --> 00:44:51.440
You know, by the time I'm done. If anyone's seen

575
00:44:51.480 --> 00:44:53.199
the Game of Thrones, the iron throwne is going to

576
00:44:53.239 --> 00:44:53.840
be the toilet.

577
00:45:00.480 --> 00:45:02.440
I'm just I'm just gonna really quick go over what

578
00:45:02.480 --> 00:45:04.559
I said, because I did this in the beginning of

579
00:45:04.599 --> 00:45:10.480
the show. I'm grateful and thankful for my children, for

580
00:45:10.639 --> 00:45:17.840
my grandchildren. I'm I'm I'm I'm so grateful, thankful and

581
00:45:17.920 --> 00:45:23.960
proud of the kids, the grandkids, the fact that I'm

582
00:45:24.000 --> 00:45:27.400
a part of their lives, the fact that they're a

583
00:45:27.400 --> 00:45:33.519
part of mine, you know. And I'm just I'm grateful

584
00:45:33.639 --> 00:45:36.199
for for every everything I have. Right now, you know

585
00:45:36.239 --> 00:45:39.599
what I'm saying, and you guys especially you know what

586
00:45:39.639 --> 00:45:42.800
I'm saying, especially for coming through at the right time,

587
00:45:42.880 --> 00:45:47.039
because I was I was like, yo, I got I

588
00:45:47.079 --> 00:45:50.199
was like, I have I have I have ship that

589
00:45:50.199 --> 00:45:52.960
that that we're going to talk about and discuss. But

590
00:45:53.320 --> 00:45:55.880
I started to I was like, yo, I gotta slow

591
00:45:55.920 --> 00:45:57.320
it down. I gotta slow it down. I gotta I

592
00:45:57.360 --> 00:45:59.320
gotta fill up this time because they're not here with

593
00:45:59.360 --> 00:46:01.679
me right now. Oh my god. But I did a

594
00:46:01.719 --> 00:46:05.960
good job. You guys would be proud. So with that,

595
00:46:06.039 --> 00:46:09.000
with that, with that being said, this is this is

596
00:46:09.320 --> 00:46:13.280
this is something else that I wanted to talk about

597
00:46:13.320 --> 00:46:19.599
right quick, right besides besides that is it, this is

598
00:46:19.639 --> 00:46:27.239
my This is my question. Is it controlling okay to

599
00:46:27.320 --> 00:46:29.719
have standards for yourself in a relationship?

600
00:46:31.480 --> 00:46:35.840
No, because your standards are what you are and are

601
00:46:35.880 --> 00:46:42.280
not willing to put up with. Basically, that's again communication.

602
00:46:42.440 --> 00:46:46.599
I'm gonna say that every day you have to have

603
00:46:46.639 --> 00:46:50.559
standards because if you don't have standards, then people are

604
00:46:50.599 --> 00:46:50.960
just going to.

605
00:46:50.960 --> 00:46:53.199
Be crossing all over you everywhere.

606
00:46:55.320 --> 00:46:57.840
What is that teaching? Oh no, no, we aren't talking

607
00:46:57.840 --> 00:47:03.239
about Yeah, like, you have to have standards. Now, how

608
00:47:03.440 --> 00:47:07.760
strict your standards are is up to you, there has

609
00:47:07.800 --> 00:47:12.159
to be compromise. But the thing is, that's that's what

610
00:47:12.199 --> 00:47:16.280
relationships are about. It's about two people who fit together.

611
00:47:16.719 --> 00:47:23.760
All right. So so say, for instance, you decide you're

612
00:47:23.800 --> 00:47:29.119
going to be exclusive, like say, for instance, if you're

613
00:47:29.119 --> 00:47:34.880
going to be in an exclusive relationship, right, So is it

614
00:47:34.920 --> 00:47:40.559
is it controlling to have expectations? Especially?

615
00:47:40.840 --> 00:47:40.880
No?

616
00:47:41.119 --> 00:47:47.599
No, let me finished, let me finish boy, all right?

617
00:47:47.800 --> 00:47:52.360
So all right, so it's not especially if you if

618
00:47:52.400 --> 00:47:57.320
you're going to prioritize a person in multiple ways. It's

619
00:47:57.400 --> 00:48:01.679
not you're saying that, it's not. It's not controlling.

620
00:48:03.440 --> 00:48:06.199
No, Because again, each of us has to be self

621
00:48:06.280 --> 00:48:10.480
aware enough I see U TG. Each one of us

622
00:48:10.559 --> 00:48:14.760
has to be self aware enough about ourselves to be

623
00:48:14.840 --> 00:48:17.840
able to communicate and put out on the table what

624
00:48:18.159 --> 00:48:23.480
our expectations are, and the same for the other person.

625
00:48:24.360 --> 00:48:28.159
It's when you put those things on the table, only

626
00:48:28.199 --> 00:48:30.880
you can decide whether you're willing to live with the

627
00:48:30.920 --> 00:48:37.000
other person's expectations. If not, then that's possibly that person

628
00:48:37.119 --> 00:48:41.599
is not compatible with you. Because everybody has their own values,

629
00:48:42.400 --> 00:48:46.960
their own priorities. Like for me, consistency is a big

630
00:48:47.079 --> 00:48:52.119
deal for some people, it's not so for me. That

631
00:48:52.320 --> 00:48:55.039
is an expectation that I put down on the table

632
00:48:55.079 --> 00:48:59.039
because it's really an important value to me. Now, if

633
00:48:59.079 --> 00:49:02.599
somebody can't meet I'm not trying to be controlling. It

634
00:49:02.639 --> 00:49:05.000
has nothing to do with being controlling. It's about what

635
00:49:05.079 --> 00:49:08.639
I need, what I want, what I prefer. If that

636
00:49:08.719 --> 00:49:13.000
person can't meet that need, that's up to them to

637
00:49:13.079 --> 00:49:19.360
decide that this relationship wouldn't be for them, and vice versa.

638
00:49:19.559 --> 00:49:22.360
TG I don't know.

639
00:49:22.400 --> 00:49:26.440
I just think the question is weird. I don't understand it, honestly,

640
00:49:26.960 --> 00:49:30.679
Like it doesn't make sense to me, like controlling in

641
00:49:30.719 --> 00:49:33.639
what way there has to be a specific thing that

642
00:49:33.719 --> 00:49:38.639
you're asking to think something is controlling because everybody has

643
00:49:38.840 --> 00:49:46.679
boundaries and everybody has, like she said, expectations or standards

644
00:49:46.760 --> 00:49:49.360
or whatever you want to call it. A the other

645
00:49:49.400 --> 00:49:52.239
person that you're with. Can you have too many?

646
00:49:52.639 --> 00:49:52.880
Yes?

647
00:49:53.440 --> 00:49:56.880
Can some of them be ridiculous? Surely? Are there women

648
00:49:56.920 --> 00:50:01.039
out there that have ridiculous expectations? Yes? And a lot

649
00:50:01.079 --> 00:50:07.320
of really good men get overlooked because they see they

650
00:50:07.320 --> 00:50:12.000
don't see past certain things that they may want specifically.

651
00:50:12.559 --> 00:50:17.639
And I think that, like relationships of any kind, even friendships,

652
00:50:17.679 --> 00:50:22.440
take work, like the communication runs both ways. If you're

653
00:50:22.519 --> 00:50:26.159
not talking to each other, then are you really friends?

654
00:50:26.599 --> 00:50:29.960
You know what I'm saying, Like there there has to

655
00:50:30.039 --> 00:50:37.519
be a level of uh, I guess understanding to know

656
00:50:37.840 --> 00:50:41.880
if you're compatible with somebody in that sense, like if

657
00:50:43.880 --> 00:50:47.280
like I don't think someone even if you're exclusive, if

658
00:50:47.320 --> 00:50:51.519
you need to be checking in what someone constantly, like

659
00:50:51.719 --> 00:50:53.880
regardless or even if I'm married and I have to

660
00:50:53.920 --> 00:50:55.960
be checking in with someone constantly, that to me's a

661
00:50:55.960 --> 00:51:01.480
red flag, Like there's are in things I don't know,

662
00:51:01.719 --> 00:51:05.360
Like that's why I'm asking, Like what are you asking specifically,

663
00:51:05.440 --> 00:51:12.559
because that's such a broad question, like controlling can be

664
00:51:14.079 --> 00:51:16.880
like what does that mean to you? Like I need

665
00:51:16.920 --> 00:51:20.400
to know more, I guess to be able to truly

666
00:51:20.760 --> 00:51:22.119
answer the question.

667
00:51:22.880 --> 00:51:23.880
Right, Okay.

668
00:51:25.800 --> 00:51:33.199
Expectations like expectations, man, like they I think that they

669
00:51:33.360 --> 00:51:34.679
think they kind of like you know what I'm saying,

670
00:51:34.679 --> 00:51:38.159
put a lot of pressure. That's why, like you know, like,

671
00:51:38.159 --> 00:51:39.480
like you know what I'm saying, Like I don't expect

672
00:51:39.480 --> 00:51:43.719
from nothing. You know what I'm saying, Surprise me, you

673
00:51:43.760 --> 00:51:44.280
know what I'm saying.

674
00:51:44.800 --> 00:51:46.639
Are you serious? You're lying?

675
00:51:46.760 --> 00:51:51.559
Though everyone has expectations of some God, you you have

676
00:51:51.639 --> 00:51:55.320
expectations that the person is either going to be affection

677
00:51:55.559 --> 00:51:58.719
or not if you're having or not.

678
00:52:00.119 --> 00:52:02.079
Night so many things.

679
00:52:02.320 --> 00:52:05.840
Yeah, that's surprising me, that's all. You know what I'm saying.

680
00:52:06.320 --> 00:52:18.039
No cool, He's basically just but sure you would saying

681
00:52:18.159 --> 00:52:21.559
nonsense of like she has to be like this, looking

682
00:52:21.679 --> 00:52:25.440
like this, doing this, have.

683
00:52:24.480 --> 00:52:28.440
A car, that's all that's always to get. But like

684
00:52:29.079 --> 00:52:30.760
you know what I'm saying, But like but like yo,

685
00:52:30.840 --> 00:52:33.239
you know what man, Like that's all some superficial ship though,

686
00:52:34.559 --> 00:52:36.119
you know what I'm saying, Like that's just for optics,

687
00:52:36.119 --> 00:52:37.679
you know what I mean, Like that's just like, oh, I

688
00:52:37.679 --> 00:52:39.360
want to have a trophy walking out of my arm

689
00:52:39.400 --> 00:52:40.719
in the street and ship, you know what I mean?

690
00:52:40.760 --> 00:52:42.840
Like that don't even mean that, don't mean nothing today,

691
00:52:43.480 --> 00:52:45.559
you know what I'm saying, Because like, you can look

692
00:52:45.599 --> 00:52:47.760
good all you want, but twenty years from now, you

693
00:52:47.920 --> 00:52:49.519
know what I'm saying, You're gonna look like dog shit

694
00:52:49.679 --> 00:52:50.480
like everybody else.

695
00:52:51.000 --> 00:52:53.000
You know what. I hear a lot of guys say

696
00:52:53.039 --> 00:52:58.199
that that, you know, even like the Tiktoks and on

697
00:52:58.800 --> 00:53:01.800
the we All book and all that stuff. I hear

698
00:53:01.840 --> 00:53:05.119
all these guys talking about how I hate men you know,

699
00:53:05.239 --> 00:53:08.920
men should you know, value these certain types of women

700
00:53:09.320 --> 00:53:15.159
and all this kind of stuff. But that's not necessarily.

701
00:53:15.039 --> 00:53:19.280
About the Red Hill community. So what you know, there's

702
00:53:19.320 --> 00:53:22.440
a yes, there was a community called the Red Hill community,

703
00:53:22.559 --> 00:53:25.519
right that you know what I'm saying that that they

704
00:53:25.599 --> 00:53:27.280
faked it to they make it trying to talk like

705
00:53:27.320 --> 00:53:29.320
the alpha males, but like if you really got to

706
00:53:29.360 --> 00:53:31.880
call yourself out all the time, you're more like a

707
00:53:31.920 --> 00:53:34.719
beta male to me, you know what I'm saying, Like

708
00:53:34.719 --> 00:53:37.400
like you know, like you're more like you know, like

709
00:53:37.679 --> 00:53:40.920
like you're talking this alpha stuff, but you're a bitch.

710
00:53:41.159 --> 00:53:42.880
You know what I'm saying, Like I see right through you.

711
00:53:42.880 --> 00:53:44.719
You know what I'm saying, just by the minute, just

712
00:53:44.760 --> 00:53:46.840
by the way you talk, like you know, like these

713
00:53:46.840 --> 00:53:49.440
are guys I think they think they're the smartest ones

714
00:53:49.480 --> 00:53:52.880
in the room when they're not. You know what I'm

715
00:53:52.880 --> 00:53:55.039
saying is that you know, like they split like this.

716
00:53:55.239 --> 00:53:57.320
You had a rhetoric about you know what I'm saying,

717
00:53:58.480 --> 00:54:00.800
how to be a better man, how to be alpha male?

718
00:54:00.880 --> 00:54:03.880
You know what I'm saying, how you know, high value bullshit.

719
00:54:03.639 --> 00:54:05.280
Blah blah blah blah blah.

720
00:54:05.440 --> 00:54:09.360
Right, and yet they turned around. You know what I'm saying,

721
00:54:09.400 --> 00:54:11.679
They know they you know what, they call each other slims,

722
00:54:11.920 --> 00:54:14.559
they call people slims. Somewhat I would just to turn

723
00:54:14.599 --> 00:54:17.599
around and pregnate you know what I'm saying, only fan,

724
00:54:17.800 --> 00:54:21.440
only fan, you know what I'm saying, women? You know,

725
00:54:21.559 --> 00:54:28.199
so like who's something there? You know, like so like yeah,

726
00:54:28.400 --> 00:54:30.840
that that's what you probably heard it from. But like

727
00:54:32.360 --> 00:54:36.079
but like you know what, like like you know, like

728
00:54:36.079 --> 00:54:39.559
like see, like what messes things up today is that

729
00:54:41.199 --> 00:54:45.639
it's everyone Like most people are vain, you know what

730
00:54:45.639 --> 00:54:48.320
I mean, Like they just look at beauty from what

731
00:54:48.360 --> 00:54:50.239
it is at the outside, like, yeah, that's a beautiful house,

732
00:54:50.280 --> 00:54:53.480
but inside of all the prepity mm hmm. I think

733
00:54:53.840 --> 00:54:55.639
of that plenty of times. With that.

734
00:54:56.400 --> 00:54:58.760
So so with that, with that, with that being said,

735
00:54:58.920 --> 00:55:01.960
you know what I'm saying, with that, feeding off of that,

736
00:55:03.679 --> 00:55:05.519
what do you think is the biggest reason for the

737
00:55:05.599 --> 00:55:09.840
failures in relationships? I mean lack of.

738
00:55:09.719 --> 00:55:14.519
Communication and people are not committing, they're not doing the work.

739
00:55:14.840 --> 00:55:21.480
When it gets hard, they run away. Okay, they're not

740
00:55:21.519 --> 00:55:24.400
willing to do a real relationship.

741
00:55:25.039 --> 00:55:27.480
Does not does it not? All leads down to a

742
00:55:27.519 --> 00:55:29.760
lack of communication, though yeah, but.

743
00:55:29.599 --> 00:55:33.480
I think I think personally that's a lack of effort too.

744
00:55:34.159 --> 00:55:37.000
I think I don't think. I don't think it's cheating.

745
00:55:37.239 --> 00:55:44.920
Cheating that that's one thing. Finances that's another thing. Even

746
00:55:45.159 --> 00:55:50.639
even a death or something can can cause issues. And

747
00:55:50.719 --> 00:55:58.320
communication is definitely a problem. But uncommunicated expectations.

748
00:55:57.559 --> 00:56:02.000
Yes, are even bigger, are even bigger. Instance, somebody might

749
00:56:02.079 --> 00:56:04.079
have like, like I said, like I was talking about

750
00:56:04.119 --> 00:56:08.119
the consistency my expectation. I'm not saying you need to

751
00:56:08.159 --> 00:56:10.440
talk to me every five minutes, but I need you

752
00:56:10.519 --> 00:56:13.400
to be consistent if you if we're gonna talk on

753
00:56:13.440 --> 00:56:16.599
a daily basis, then we need to keep up that

754
00:56:16.719 --> 00:56:19.239
daily basis. It could be five minutes, it could be

755
00:56:19.280 --> 00:56:22.800
an hour, it doesn't matter. But all of a sudden,

756
00:56:22.840 --> 00:56:26.039
you're gonna go days without speaking to me. First of all,

757
00:56:26.480 --> 00:56:28.559
if you say you like me or you're in love

758
00:56:28.599 --> 00:56:30.960
with me or whatever, and you can go days.

759
00:56:30.599 --> 00:56:34.159
Without talking to me, your season, honey.

760
00:56:34.239 --> 00:56:42.119
Yes, yeah, my season is done seasoning. Yeah, my season's over.

761
00:56:42.760 --> 00:56:45.400
I have a question. What happens if he's lost in

762
00:56:45.400 --> 00:56:46.199
a pine balance?

763
00:56:46.280 --> 00:56:46.440
Right?

764
00:56:46.800 --> 00:56:49.119
You know what I'm saying, He's being chased by two mobsters, right.

765
00:56:49.440 --> 00:56:53.480
You know what, let me tell you something. I could

766
00:56:53.559 --> 00:56:58.480
tell you stories of people, like the stories people have

767
00:56:58.719 --> 00:57:02.679
told me that I literally have to sit back and

768
00:57:02.719 --> 00:57:06.360
be like, really, are are you absolutely that?

769
00:57:07.440 --> 00:57:07.519
Like?

770
00:57:07.760 --> 00:57:10.880
Are you that unlucky that your life is just life?

771
00:57:10.920 --> 00:57:11.480
In like that?

772
00:57:11.880 --> 00:57:11.960
Like?

773
00:57:13.880 --> 00:57:14.760
Yo, you know what?

774
00:57:15.760 --> 00:57:17.760
Please please share some I want to laugh.

775
00:57:19.920 --> 00:57:21.719
We'll do we'll do a storytime in a bit. But

776
00:57:21.760 --> 00:57:27.039
I want to talk about these uncommunicated expectations.

777
00:57:26.440 --> 00:57:29.719
Yes, all right, I think.

778
00:57:29.559 --> 00:57:30.920
You need to be specific.

779
00:57:31.719 --> 00:57:34.599
Yeah, you have to say I expect you know whatever

780
00:57:34.639 --> 00:57:37.199
it might be, So it could be uh, your level

781
00:57:37.239 --> 00:57:38.199
of affection.

782
00:57:39.320 --> 00:57:39.639
For me.

783
00:57:40.920 --> 00:57:44.119
I feel like I have a lot of good qualities,

784
00:57:45.119 --> 00:57:52.159
but one that I truly truly struggle with is oh

785
00:57:52.159 --> 00:57:56.440
thank you Valerie. Uh one that I true truly truly

786
00:57:56.480 --> 00:57:58.400
struggle with. And I think it has a lot to

787
00:57:58.400 --> 00:58:03.280
do with my inattentive ADHD is I am messy. I

788
00:58:05.039 --> 00:58:07.599
I as much as I try, as much as I

789
00:58:07.639 --> 00:58:12.039
put things into place, as many tools as I use,

790
00:58:12.840 --> 00:58:19.000
I am disorganized. Right, So the expectation that could really

791
00:58:19.360 --> 00:58:25.079
mess up a relationship because my expectation is if that

792
00:58:25.199 --> 00:58:29.119
is something that's truly important to you, I'm gonna still

793
00:58:29.159 --> 00:58:33.119
give my effort. But I'm also hoping and expecting that

794
00:58:33.199 --> 00:58:35.840
if that's a number one thing for you, that you're

795
00:58:35.840 --> 00:58:38.920
gonna help me to maintain that that I'm not gonna

796
00:58:38.920 --> 00:58:43.280
be doing that all by myself. But also, like I

797
00:58:43.320 --> 00:58:48.679
had talked about when I was married, I cook and

798
00:58:48.800 --> 00:58:51.519
clean whatever I clean. I do whatever I do out

799
00:58:51.599 --> 00:58:57.039
of love, affection, care. Right, But once it becomes someone's expectation,

800
00:58:58.400 --> 00:59:01.480
that is difficult for me, you know, because it's like

801
00:59:01.880 --> 00:59:04.960
I like to be led in a relationship. I like

802
00:59:05.079 --> 00:59:06.480
the man to.

803
00:59:06.079 --> 00:59:09.000
To lead lead you to the kitchen. Right.

804
00:59:09.599 --> 00:59:12.400
No, you know what, don't even start. That's the first

805
00:59:12.440 --> 00:59:15.199
time I have ever heard you say that.

806
00:59:15.800 --> 00:59:26.880
That's a thing to say. He threw us off completely, Wow.

807
00:59:27.000 --> 00:59:28.159
Because you didn't let me spinis.

808
00:59:28.639 --> 00:59:30.079
You set yourself up.

809
00:59:34.840 --> 00:59:35.360
I didn't.

810
00:59:38.920 --> 00:59:43.800
That was that was to shad.

811
00:59:51.400 --> 00:59:53.760
All right right around? All right?

812
01:00:00.320 --> 01:00:00.960
Oh my god?

813
01:00:02.960 --> 01:00:08.360
But leading, Yes, No, feel free to continue your conversation.

814
01:00:14.440 --> 01:00:16.480
It's a Ananigans show. We have to have some kind of.

815
01:00:19.119 --> 01:00:22.840
Shenana against We have shenanigans all the time.

816
01:00:26.360 --> 01:00:26.880
The show.

817
01:00:27.000 --> 01:00:32.119
From so, I'm very quiet because I'm trying to be

818
01:00:32.199 --> 01:00:35.519
nice to let people speak. Okay, I'm a nice person.

819
01:00:39.480 --> 01:00:41.719
What's funny is I say that in the background? My look?

820
01:00:41.880 --> 01:00:49.800
My husband laughs, that's what's funny. I know, He's like, yeah, right,

821
01:00:49.880 --> 01:00:56.840
bitch uh I feel yes, I already don't even know

822
01:00:56.880 --> 01:00:59.840
what we were talking about because of the laughing stuff.

823
01:01:01.199 --> 01:01:01.719
And I have.

824
01:01:02.000 --> 01:01:05.800
ADHD too, so oh it was the messy and being

825
01:01:05.920 --> 01:01:09.920
there for the person. So piggying back off of that

826
01:01:10.199 --> 01:01:16.400
actually is like love languages, right, Like everybody has a

827
01:01:16.480 --> 01:01:20.719
specific love language, and I think it's important for your

828
01:01:20.760 --> 01:01:24.679
partner to know what your love language is because if

829
01:01:24.840 --> 01:01:28.639
you are someone who expects gifts, if you are someone

830
01:01:28.679 --> 01:01:35.960
who expects affection or being thought of or whatever they are,

831
01:01:36.039 --> 01:01:40.880
because there's a few, right, like, your partner should be

832
01:01:40.960 --> 01:01:44.840
able to know that. And also what does it look

833
01:01:45.079 --> 01:01:51.719
like to help me? Like I suffer from you know,

834
01:01:52.039 --> 01:01:57.719
depression and PTSD and anxiety and a bunch of stuff,

835
01:01:58.599 --> 01:02:04.440
and that one is crazy, so it's too crazy as

836
01:02:04.480 --> 01:02:09.239
living together that doesn't help, But it's having a partner

837
01:02:09.440 --> 01:02:15.920
who knows what support looks like what does it mean

838
01:02:16.039 --> 01:02:18.840
for me to be able to support you when you're

839
01:02:18.960 --> 01:02:23.159
crying and you're upset? Do I come to you, do

840
01:02:23.320 --> 01:02:27.119
I hold you? Or maybe you're somebody who wants space,

841
01:02:28.000 --> 01:02:30.880
you want to like go through it on your own,

842
01:02:31.079 --> 01:02:34.079
and when you're ready, you come to me and talk

843
01:02:34.119 --> 01:02:37.679
about it. So I think those are things that people

844
01:02:38.480 --> 01:02:42.239
don't talk about enough. And also sex, people don't talk

845
01:02:42.280 --> 01:02:44.199
about what they want in bed, and that's why I

846
01:02:44.280 --> 01:02:47.760
let people cheat too, because you're only talking about how

847
01:02:47.880 --> 01:02:51.599
nasty you want it in the bedroom, And the truth is,

848
01:02:51.880 --> 01:02:57.000
like you should your partner should be that sexual partner

849
01:02:57.079 --> 01:03:00.639
for you too. Like I never understand people who are

850
01:03:00.719 --> 01:03:07.360
with somebody and like they want certain things in the bedroom,

851
01:03:08.360 --> 01:03:15.199
but like I guess their partner doesn't, and yet they

852
01:03:15.360 --> 01:03:19.199
go out and look for it from someone else because

853
01:03:19.239 --> 01:03:22.880
their partner doesn't want to do it. And I'm like, why,

854
01:03:22.920 --> 01:03:25.880
looks like you got that bitch though, because it doesn't

855
01:03:25.960 --> 01:03:29.239
make sense to me that you will be with somebody

856
01:03:29.920 --> 01:03:33.960
who doesn't want to fulfill the needs that you have

857
01:03:34.400 --> 01:03:39.119
in these different ways. Emotionally, supporting and sexually, those are

858
01:03:39.320 --> 01:03:44.559
very important in an intimate relationship and having intimacy outside

859
01:03:44.639 --> 01:03:47.599
of sex. These are all things I think that are

860
01:03:47.760 --> 01:03:53.039
like really important when we're talking about having a meaningful

861
01:03:53.159 --> 01:03:58.079
relationship with somebody, if it's gonna be a committed relationship,

862
01:03:58.159 --> 01:04:00.280
then you're going to continue to work on Then both

863
01:04:00.320 --> 01:04:04.639
people need to understand what that looks like. And if

864
01:04:04.719 --> 01:04:08.360
one person has these crazy ass expectations any other person's

865
01:04:08.440 --> 01:04:11.599
like but like, oh, I didn't know that, Like I'm

866
01:04:11.639 --> 01:04:14.800
not okay with that, you know, Like these are conversations.

867
01:04:14.880 --> 01:04:20.800
I'm like, yeah, maybe you he's really cute and you

868
01:04:20.880 --> 01:04:23.559
know you like the way you look when you're with him,

869
01:04:24.280 --> 01:04:29.239
or certain things about him and in bed, But outside

870
01:04:29.320 --> 01:04:36.639
of that, what I saw that bed, No, I was

871
01:04:37.079 --> 01:04:40.800
I wander, my eyes wander. I am not looking at

872
01:04:40.880 --> 01:04:48.239
anyone specifically, don't be like lie. So I just think

873
01:04:48.280 --> 01:04:51.199
it's important, Like I think these are things like also,

874
01:04:51.559 --> 01:04:54.519
these these are the mistakes that I've made in the past.

875
01:04:54.840 --> 01:04:58.960
So it's like now going forward, it's like, I know

876
01:04:59.159 --> 01:05:01.159
what I want in my partner. You know, I need

877
01:05:01.199 --> 01:05:05.199
a partner who's understanding, a partner who gets that.

878
01:05:05.639 --> 01:05:05.840
You know.

879
01:05:06.119 --> 01:05:09.719
I'm not lazy. I just I have moments and and

880
01:05:09.920 --> 01:05:13.320
things are hard for me. Like sometimes I can't admit

881
01:05:13.400 --> 01:05:17.400
that to myself, Like this ship is a lot harder

882
01:05:17.559 --> 01:05:19.400
for me than I thought it was going to be.

883
01:05:20.079 --> 01:05:34.079
Like keeping what does that say? Not you? But yeah,

884
01:05:34.239 --> 01:05:37.719
I don't know like, I don't get how people have

885
01:05:37.840 --> 01:05:43.440
this expectation of having this long lasting, loving relationship when

886
01:05:43.679 --> 01:05:47.159
they both are not willing to put in what each

887
01:05:47.320 --> 01:05:53.440
partner needs in that relationship. And can finances kill a relationship, yes,

888
01:05:53.639 --> 01:05:58.800
because that's a big part of having a life together,

889
01:05:59.639 --> 01:06:02.599
so well obviously that's important too, like being on the

890
01:06:02.719 --> 01:06:07.079
same page with shit, If you're both spenders and nobody

891
01:06:07.159 --> 01:06:09.719
saves money, y'all fucked, so.

892
01:06:10.519 --> 01:06:14.719
Like you know, what, what's your name? What's your credit score?

893
01:06:15.199 --> 01:06:15.360
Right?

894
01:06:16.119 --> 01:06:19.639
Like, but that also shouldn't be like the reason why

895
01:06:19.719 --> 01:06:21.960
you shouldn't be with somebody if somebody has like a

896
01:06:22.079 --> 01:06:26.000
low credit score and they have a job at like

897
01:06:26.639 --> 01:06:29.440
some mediocre place or whatever, Like, who gives a fuck?

898
01:06:29.559 --> 01:06:34.159
This person is working, they're doing something, they are trying.

899
01:06:34.400 --> 01:06:37.360
If you talk to this person and this person talks

900
01:06:37.519 --> 01:06:40.960
ambitiously like they have plans or they actually want to

901
01:06:41.039 --> 01:06:43.559
do things, that's the person I want to keep talking

902
01:06:43.639 --> 01:06:47.000
to because it's telling me that they are not happy

903
01:06:47.159 --> 01:06:50.800
and content where their life is now. So that to

904
01:06:50.920 --> 01:06:55.199
me says like, oh they want more, so that that

905
01:06:55.280 --> 01:06:58.159
would make me in turn happy, Like, well, shit, well

906
01:06:58.199 --> 01:07:01.679
they want more. They know that I want more. Let's

907
01:07:01.800 --> 01:07:04.639
keep digging in and seeing where this goes. I feel

908
01:07:04.679 --> 01:07:07.880
like people don't do that enough. But T but TG.

909
01:07:08.239 --> 01:07:11.599
At the same time, there are some people who talk

910
01:07:11.719 --> 01:07:14.840
that game but don't really mean it, like like a

911
01:07:14.880 --> 01:07:15.320
lot of like.

912
01:07:15.320 --> 01:07:18.679
I agree with, okay, but the communication has to be honest.

913
01:07:19.639 --> 01:07:23.320
Yes, honesty, that's the thing, because I've heard plenty of

914
01:07:23.440 --> 01:07:27.360
people talk about ambition and then it's like they spend

915
01:07:27.400 --> 01:07:29.159
the next six months sitting on a sofa.

916
01:07:29.800 --> 01:07:33.119
Action speak louder than words. Right, Oh yeah, so we

917
01:07:33.360 --> 01:07:37.920
say I say this unfortunately I'm bringing it up. But

918
01:07:38.400 --> 01:07:41.800
even with Trump, he's showing you who he is. People

919
01:07:41.920 --> 01:07:46.079
are showing they show you who you they are. We

920
01:07:46.360 --> 01:07:50.800
choose to ignore it. There's so many unfortunate people out there.

921
01:07:51.559 --> 01:07:53.679
We got like these women that are with these guys

922
01:07:53.760 --> 01:07:57.840
that are severe red flags or women with severe red flags,

923
01:07:57.880 --> 01:08:01.800
and it's like, what are you doing? Like this isn't good.

924
01:08:02.079 --> 01:08:05.239
And I know because I've done it myself, Like I've

925
01:08:05.280 --> 01:08:08.039
gotten scammed not once but twice and it's not even

926
01:08:08.119 --> 01:08:13.519
something I talk about because it really fucked me up.

927
01:08:14.360 --> 01:08:20.159
So it's like it's important to communicate, and you know,

928
01:08:20.800 --> 01:08:23.159
also be careful of people who love bomb.

929
01:08:23.800 --> 01:08:25.239
There are people out.

930
01:08:25.079 --> 01:08:27.880
There who love to tell you that, oh you're the one.

931
01:08:28.640 --> 01:08:31.760
Ooh you're you know, you're special, You're you know. I

932
01:08:31.840 --> 01:08:35.159
can see us being like, way too soon, you telling

933
01:08:35.199 --> 01:08:37.119
me you loved me a couple of days after we met.

934
01:08:37.239 --> 01:08:41.279
I'm like, calm down, like what, Like, we don't even

935
01:08:41.399 --> 01:08:46.239
know each other. So it's important to communicate and be

936
01:08:46.399 --> 01:08:50.600
honest with the communication. Obviously, you can't be talking shit

937
01:08:51.439 --> 01:08:53.960
and then not do anything about it. You have to

938
01:08:54.039 --> 01:08:57.119
come through in some way. And like you said before

939
01:08:57.439 --> 01:09:00.680
with the cleaning, and I get it. I mess as hell.

940
01:09:01.319 --> 01:09:04.680
My husband's room looks like a crime scene. Like no,

941
01:09:05.319 --> 01:09:08.720
like dexter like clean, you know what I'm saying, Like

942
01:09:08.840 --> 01:09:13.000
everything has its Please, if there was like something on

943
01:09:13.239 --> 01:09:15.680
the floor, you could see it from a mile away

944
01:09:15.840 --> 01:09:19.920
because it shouldn't be there, you know. And my room

945
01:09:20.079 --> 01:09:24.479
is a shit show. So it's and it's tough because

946
01:09:24.479 --> 01:09:27.680
it affects me too. It affects you seeing your masking it.

947
01:09:28.000 --> 01:09:31.399
And it gets overwhelming, right, And that's the issue is

948
01:09:31.479 --> 01:09:35.680
the cycle, Right, it gets overwhelming and then and then

949
01:09:35.880 --> 01:09:38.399
I could, I could, I could be like, bitch, you

950
01:09:38.520 --> 01:09:39.560
did this, but she didn't.

951
01:09:39.640 --> 01:09:40.239
She didn't do it.

952
01:09:41.039 --> 01:09:44.600
I'm self aware and I take ownership of my bad stuff,

953
01:09:45.279 --> 01:09:48.159
and that's one of the things, is my mess. And

954
01:09:48.279 --> 01:09:51.800
I have good intentions, I really do, just like you do.

955
01:09:52.039 --> 01:09:55.000
Like you were saying, good intentions to do more, and

956
01:09:55.119 --> 01:09:57.359
I'm doing it little by little. It's not happening as

957
01:09:57.520 --> 01:10:00.960
fast as I wanted to happen, but I'm getting there.

958
01:10:01.039 --> 01:10:03.000
And then when I do do the things, I remind

959
01:10:03.079 --> 01:10:06.880
myself like, see how good this feels? Like this does

960
01:10:07.000 --> 01:10:10.520
feel better. So it's like I think, too, we have

961
01:10:10.720 --> 01:10:14.199
crazy expectations for ourselves, Like I have this expectation that

962
01:10:14.279 --> 01:10:17.239
in one weekend, miraculously I'm going to clean my whole

963
01:10:17.319 --> 01:10:19.159
room and all my boxes are going to be gone.

964
01:10:19.279 --> 01:10:23.920
Like no, this is like years of shit. So it's

965
01:10:24.399 --> 01:10:26.359
it's like, no, you have to just take it a

966
01:10:26.439 --> 01:10:30.239
day at a time and just try something. I feel

967
01:10:30.439 --> 01:10:33.800
I'm a big believer that if you're trying something a

968
01:10:33.880 --> 01:10:38.800
little bit every day, just something anything, getting up, showering, whatever,

969
01:10:38.960 --> 01:10:41.960
it is, as long as you're getting up and trying

970
01:10:42.039 --> 01:10:47.159
to do the things that matters, you know. See, I

971
01:10:47.319 --> 01:10:48.680
shut up, and now I've talked.

972
01:10:49.760 --> 01:10:56.680
There you go, yeah, GG spoke, Yes.

973
01:10:57.199 --> 01:10:59.079
I didn't even read any of the comments, and then

974
01:10:59.079 --> 01:11:01.439
I'm afraid to go read them and then somehow leave

975
01:11:01.840 --> 01:11:04.399
because I've done that too many times when I'm on

976
01:11:04.520 --> 01:11:10.800
the phone. And then I told that I didn't pay

977
01:11:10.880 --> 01:11:14.000
my bills, and I'm like, well, maybe I didn't, maybe

978
01:11:14.039 --> 01:11:15.000
I did it this time.

979
01:11:15.960 --> 01:11:17.960
I don't know if I paid my bills this time.

980
01:11:19.079 --> 01:11:23.560
Oh man, all right, So that that that that was

981
01:11:23.760 --> 01:11:25.479
very clear, very precise.

982
01:11:26.159 --> 01:11:26.239
And.

983
01:11:28.800 --> 01:11:31.800
Yeah, it's I think it's important with the controlling. It's

984
01:11:31.880 --> 01:11:34.800
knowing the red flags. Though, what what does controlling look

985
01:11:34.920 --> 01:11:35.279
like to you?

986
01:11:36.359 --> 01:11:39.880
You know, like like we were saying, yeah, and that's

987
01:11:39.920 --> 01:11:43.600
the purpose of the communication and putting those expectations out there.

988
01:11:44.159 --> 01:11:45.920
I have an example though, and I think I talked

989
01:11:45.920 --> 01:11:49.960
about it before someone that I had met, and.

990
01:11:51.760 --> 01:11:54.800
You know, like we really didn't talk.

991
01:11:56.680 --> 01:12:02.039
Yeah, expectations do fluctuate, you know, somebody that I was

992
01:12:02.119 --> 01:12:06.239
talking to, and we really didn't have the opportunity to

993
01:12:06.399 --> 01:12:10.840
have an expectation conversation only because he worked in a

994
01:12:10.920 --> 01:12:15.399
whole other state and would only come back home once

995
01:12:15.479 --> 01:12:21.479
every couple of months or whatever. But expectations are what

996
01:12:21.720 --> 01:12:26.720
each individual needs once and you know requires So he

997
01:12:27.439 --> 01:12:30.399
one of his expectations, and of course we eventually got

998
01:12:30.439 --> 01:12:37.399
there because he kept asking he wanted daily pictures, you know,

999
01:12:38.239 --> 01:12:44.199
so like for him, that was an expectation, and it

1000
01:12:44.359 --> 01:12:47.359
was like, you know, they start to become provocative and

1001
01:12:47.640 --> 01:12:50.439
things like that, And for me, that's a no go.

1002
01:12:51.279 --> 01:12:52.560
That's that's a.

1003
01:12:53.119 --> 01:12:56.600
I'm not putting any any body parts or nothing out

1004
01:12:56.640 --> 01:12:59.720
there on the internet, sending them via text or none

1005
01:12:59.760 --> 01:13:00.680
of that kind of stuff.

1006
01:13:03.319 --> 01:13:10.159
Yeah, I don't have a red flag. I'm going to

1007
01:13:10.239 --> 01:13:12.680
roll that through. When I hear any red flag ship,

1008
01:13:12.720 --> 01:13:14.039
I'm gonna be like yeah.

1009
01:13:17.000 --> 01:13:19.680
And and so you know, for him, he's like, well

1010
01:13:19.760 --> 01:13:24.680
that that is what I require of a relationship. Is

1011
01:13:24.800 --> 01:13:28.920
because I work in another state and don't see you know,

1012
01:13:29.039 --> 01:13:30.399
whoever I'm talking.

1013
01:13:30.159 --> 01:13:35.920
To, you don't have trust me, because that's literally what

1014
01:13:36.079 --> 01:13:36.640
he's saying.

1015
01:13:37.399 --> 01:13:40.000
No, he's saying that he wants provocative pictures of me

1016
01:13:40.199 --> 01:13:42.720
more than once a day so he can take care

1017
01:13:42.760 --> 01:13:45.600
of whatever he needs to take care of. The issue

1018
01:13:45.800 --> 01:13:53.720
is I have issues taking provocative pictures and sending them

1019
01:13:53.760 --> 01:13:56.039
the people. For me, that's a no go. That's not

1020
01:13:56.359 --> 01:14:00.159
like that's a hard line for me. That's that's that

1021
01:14:00.279 --> 01:14:06.319
borderline abusive to me, and he could not, and there

1022
01:14:06.439 --> 01:14:07.520
was no compromise.

1023
01:14:08.159 --> 01:14:11.199
You know, I don't care who lives o the country.

1024
01:14:11.760 --> 01:14:12.640
Yeah you were not.

1025
01:14:13.000 --> 01:14:17.159
You can store, we could, we can even be married.

1026
01:14:17.319 --> 01:14:20.479
I'm not sending you pictures of my boobs, my butt,

1027
01:14:20.680 --> 01:14:24.520
none of that stuff, because anything can happen at any

1028
01:14:24.600 --> 01:14:29.520
time and those pictures find their way onto the world

1029
01:14:29.600 --> 01:14:32.800
wide web of the dark whatever.

1030
01:14:33.359 --> 01:14:36.239
Crazy and not even not with my job.

1031
01:14:36.479 --> 01:14:41.319
Heck no, So anyway, you know, So he got to

1032
01:14:41.359 --> 01:14:43.760
a point where like, well, that's what I need, That's

1033
01:14:43.800 --> 01:14:50.000
what I require in a committed relationship. And I was like, well,

1034
01:14:50.119 --> 01:14:53.079
as much as I like you, if that is something

1035
01:14:53.119 --> 01:14:55.720
that you like, if that's one of your requirements to

1036
01:14:55.920 --> 01:14:58.720
have a relationship with somebody, then I am not the

1037
01:14:58.840 --> 01:15:02.079
person for you, because I will disappoint you on a

1038
01:15:02.199 --> 01:15:07.239
daily basis. Because for me, my requirement is that someone

1039
01:15:07.359 --> 01:15:14.199
has to respect my sexual boundaries. That's and that's what He.

1040
01:15:14.279 --> 01:15:16.840
Might be a masochist because like hear me out real

1041
01:15:16.960 --> 01:15:19.279
quick right for you to be sunning, you know, saying

1042
01:15:19.760 --> 01:15:24.439
sexual photos or whatever. He wants to self mutilate himself

1043
01:15:24.520 --> 01:15:26.560
in the bathroom. He wants to beat his show that

1044
01:15:26.760 --> 01:15:30.199
as in money, you know what I'm saying, So you

1045
01:15:30.239 --> 01:15:31.760
know what you probably you know what I'm saying. That

1046
01:15:31.920 --> 01:15:35.079
is the bugger dad, you know, like I'm sorry I.

1047
01:15:35.119 --> 01:15:38.760
Did because he was a self professed professed narcissist.

1048
01:15:38.800 --> 01:15:42.880
I was like, oh he boom, there is m It

1049
01:15:43.079 --> 01:15:44.079
is a control thing.

1050
01:15:45.720 --> 01:15:52.000
Yeah, definitely not me. Well, like I was saying before,

1051
01:15:52.159 --> 01:15:54.800
I cook and do all these things out of love,

1052
01:15:54.920 --> 01:15:58.319
out of care. But I draw the line like my

1053
01:15:58.479 --> 01:16:02.319
expectation is I do it because I want to. And

1054
01:16:02.439 --> 01:16:04.880
if I'm not able or maybe a day I don't

1055
01:16:04.920 --> 01:16:07.920
feel like it that if you're hungry, you're gonna help

1056
01:16:07.960 --> 01:16:11.680
pick up the slack. But the first time you come

1057
01:16:11.800 --> 01:16:16.159
home and you're like, where's my food will be the

1058
01:16:16.239 --> 01:16:18.880
last time I do it for you, because then it

1059
01:16:19.000 --> 01:16:20.560
goes what.

1060
01:16:20.760 --> 01:16:24.279
He's gonna be. He's gonna be like what the fuck?

1061
01:16:25.079 --> 01:16:26.520
You know what I'm saying, So like like like.

1062
01:16:26.800 --> 01:16:32.800
That's why it's important to communicate the expectations because I'm

1063
01:16:32.800 --> 01:16:34.640
a human being who has a job too.

1064
01:16:35.479 --> 01:16:38.399
No absolutely like like like like you know what, like

1065
01:16:38.520 --> 01:16:43.359
there's days where my girl cooks, and then there's days

1066
01:16:43.359 --> 01:16:45.520
where I cook. Yes, I know how to cook.

1067
01:16:46.479 --> 01:16:48.560
I was gonna say, and then the next day everyone

1068
01:16:48.680 --> 01:16:49.760
has diarrhea.

1069
01:16:52.600 --> 01:16:54.239
High blood pressure either one of the two. But it

1070
01:16:55.159 --> 01:16:58.039
goes good and going down you know now. But like

1071
01:16:58.119 --> 01:17:00.119
you know, like like you know what I'm saying it

1072
01:17:00.279 --> 01:17:02.760
like then then there are days there's days where I'm like, yo,

1073
01:17:03.159 --> 01:17:06.119
I'm going to cook. But then like like whether tonight's

1074
01:17:06.159 --> 01:17:08.560
fucking me up right now, like they didn't coming with

1075
01:17:08.640 --> 01:17:10.800
her that be about to get it's like really like

1076
01:17:10.920 --> 01:17:13.520
you know, like I feel like my nerves ting on

1077
01:17:13.640 --> 01:17:17.279
my spine right now. Right there's things like today where

1078
01:17:17.319 --> 01:17:20.199
I'm like, I cooking ship matter of.

1079
01:17:20.199 --> 01:17:24.680
Fact, under those shades tgs roll my eyes. She don't

1080
01:17:24.720 --> 01:17:26.600
get three. Yeah, she's.

1081
01:17:28.640 --> 01:17:29.119
She's looking like.

1082
01:17:31.000 --> 01:17:33.159
Under the shade she's doing the undertaking. She's like die,

1083
01:17:33.399 --> 01:17:34.079
die died.

1084
01:17:35.520 --> 01:17:39.800
Oh my god, you don't have to take this.

1085
01:17:41.279 --> 01:17:44.199
Oh my goodness, but like noah, but like you know,

1086
01:17:44.319 --> 01:17:47.680
like like you know what like and honestly, you know

1087
01:17:47.680 --> 01:17:49.359
what I'm saying, Like you know, I'm you know, listen,

1088
01:17:49.399 --> 01:17:51.439
I may come off as a show ministic pig or whatever,

1089
01:17:51.479 --> 01:17:52.319
but I'm far from that.

1090
01:17:52.760 --> 01:17:55.279
Like you know, you're playing a part.

1091
01:17:57.079 --> 01:18:00.680
Someone has someone has to be a villain, and I'm

1092
01:18:00.720 --> 01:18:03.560
good for it, you know, what I'm saying, like like

1093
01:18:04.159 --> 01:18:06.119
like you know what, as long as Coleel knows me

1094
01:18:06.640 --> 01:18:08.840
and every story that he heard about me coming from

1095
01:18:08.920 --> 01:18:12.720
some female, I was the villain, right And you'd be like, yo, doves,

1096
01:18:12.720 --> 01:18:14.600
did you do it? I'm like, of course not. Now

1097
01:18:14.680 --> 01:18:16.479
he's smiling and he's like, man, you fucked up.

1098
01:18:16.520 --> 01:18:16.600
Bro.

1099
01:18:16.800 --> 01:18:23.439
I'm like, I'm like bro like, but but all jokes.

1100
01:18:23.479 --> 01:18:26.159
You know what I'm saying, Like, oh, that was back then.

1101
01:18:26.199 --> 01:18:28.680
You know what I'm saying, Like like like like back then,

1102
01:18:28.760 --> 01:18:32.159
you know, like I truly believe that you know that

1103
01:18:32.439 --> 01:18:33.800
you know what I'm saying. I get what I want

1104
01:18:33.840 --> 01:18:35.520
to and that was it. You know what I'm saying.

1105
01:18:35.640 --> 01:18:37.439
It's all about me, me, me, me me. You know

1106
01:18:37.479 --> 01:18:39.399
what I'm saying. What about my feelings? I used to

1107
01:18:39.399 --> 01:18:43.039
tell you know what I'm saying, You'll put a condom

1108
01:18:43.039 --> 01:18:45.399
money harder fucking feelings. You know what I'm saying, Like

1109
01:18:45.920 --> 01:18:47.600
now you know what I'm saying. Like now, it's like,

1110
01:18:47.680 --> 01:18:49.800
you know, it's a lot different because you know what

1111
01:18:50.000 --> 01:18:51.279
I saw. You know what I'm saying. I've seen the

1112
01:18:51.359 --> 01:18:54.840
damage that I've done, but I've also received the damage

1113
01:18:54.880 --> 01:18:58.279
that I inflicted. You know, so like when so like

1114
01:18:58.399 --> 01:19:01.960
you know what, whoever's whoevers like up in our age

1115
01:19:02.000 --> 01:19:03.880
bragg and still trying to do the same thing that

1116
01:19:03.960 --> 01:19:06.680
they were doing fifteen twenty years ago. You know what

1117
01:19:06.680 --> 01:19:08.920
I'm saying, You haven't learned your lesson. You know what

1118
01:19:08.960 --> 01:19:13.680
I'm saying, because like when it hits you, you know

1119
01:19:13.680 --> 01:19:15.960
what I'm saying, When it hits you, it's going to

1120
01:19:16.039 --> 01:19:18.600
hit you hard. Like like you know, like when you're

1121
01:19:18.640 --> 01:19:21.239
twenty in, when you're single, you're having a good time.

1122
01:19:21.279 --> 01:19:24.479
When you're thirty in your single, you're a bachelor. When

1123
01:19:24.520 --> 01:19:27.239
you're in your forties and your single, nigga, you lonely.

1124
01:19:27.800 --> 01:19:30.159
Hey hey hey there are people out there who are

1125
01:19:30.279 --> 01:19:32.000
forty and single. Don't be different.

1126
01:19:32.199 --> 01:19:39.840
No, okay, hold up, but you but you're still hold

1127
01:19:40.159 --> 01:19:40.960
still doing.

1128
01:19:40.840 --> 01:19:43.760
The same things and having I get that.

1129
01:19:44.079 --> 01:19:45.399
I mean, but that's different.

1130
01:19:45.520 --> 01:19:49.520
I mean you'll get what you get then if it's

1131
01:19:49.680 --> 01:19:52.319
like that, because if you're not going to grow as

1132
01:19:52.399 --> 01:19:57.119
a person, then you're not going to have the opportunity

1133
01:19:57.239 --> 01:19:58.960
to have those relationships.

1134
01:20:00.239 --> 01:20:01.960
You know, like like yo, you know what, Like I

1135
01:20:02.039 --> 01:20:07.399
had to like you know, really really like you know

1136
01:20:07.439 --> 01:20:11.399
what I'm saying, Like like really take like a like

1137
01:20:11.479 --> 01:20:14.439
a like a flashback mind trip of all that. You

1138
01:20:14.479 --> 01:20:16.079
know what I'm saying, all the foulship that I've done

1139
01:20:16.680 --> 01:20:18.520
but done also, you know what I'm saying, in return,

1140
01:20:19.000 --> 01:20:20.439
I also have to look at all the foulship that

1141
01:20:20.560 --> 01:20:22.479
was done to me. And I looked at you know

1142
01:20:22.479 --> 01:20:23.800
what I'm saying. I looked at it. I'm like, yeah,

1143
01:20:24.479 --> 01:20:27.039
it evens out. You know what I'm saying, Like I

1144
01:20:27.159 --> 01:20:30.640
had it coming. You know, I can admit that. Most

1145
01:20:30.760 --> 01:20:33.319
dudes can, you know, like they won't. They won't have

1146
01:20:33.640 --> 01:20:36.920
no man out here will probably ever admit that. Yo,

1147
01:20:37.119 --> 01:20:39.880
I had that one coming, you know what I'm saying,

1148
01:20:40.439 --> 01:20:43.199
because you know what, their pride and their ego won't

1149
01:20:43.239 --> 01:20:45.560
let them do that, you know what I'm saying. That's

1150
01:20:45.600 --> 01:20:48.159
why they're still bitter. That's why they're still you know,

1151
01:20:48.239 --> 01:20:51.159
walking around like you know, yo, it's all about the benches,

1152
01:20:51.239 --> 01:20:54.359
blah blah blah, Like Yo, it should be all about you.

1153
01:20:54.479 --> 01:20:57.199
You know what I'm saying, you're freaking your icy hot bro.

1154
01:20:57.359 --> 01:20:58.319
You're too old for this ship.

1155
01:20:58.359 --> 01:20:58.479
Bro.

1156
01:20:59.039 --> 01:21:02.199
You know what I'm saying, Like chill out, you know,

1157
01:21:02.359 --> 01:21:07.399
like pridate, ego and a man usually destroys everything besides

1158
01:21:07.439 --> 01:21:11.880
that probably always comes before the fall, you know, and

1159
01:21:12.039 --> 01:21:16.000
like and and you know what from all the ship

1160
01:21:16.039 --> 01:21:17.479
that I'll be talking, you know what I'm saying outside

1161
01:21:17.479 --> 01:21:19.760
to side, you know, like the kingdom is what it is,

1162
01:21:19.880 --> 01:21:26.319
but with doctor Queen, the whole kingdom falls. So you know,

1163
01:21:26.479 --> 01:21:29.600
like I realized that like a long time ago, I

1164
01:21:29.680 --> 01:21:31.760
just needed to write. You know what I'm saying, queens

1165
01:21:31.800 --> 01:21:32.640
to be on the chessboard.

1166
01:21:33.960 --> 01:21:36.479
So is she standing next to you with the shotgun?

1167
01:21:40.279 --> 01:21:42.840
It has had to make sure you just want you

1168
01:21:42.920 --> 01:21:44.159
just wanted to make sure you said it.

1169
01:21:45.479 --> 01:21:47.640
Yeah, you know what I'm saying like like like you know,

1170
01:21:47.760 --> 01:21:51.720
she's giving me that look you say, one more stay,

1171
01:21:51.760 --> 01:21:53.119
one more slick ship. You know what I'm saying. And

1172
01:21:53.119 --> 01:21:54.640
I'm gonna smack you upside the head of But like

1173
01:21:55.119 --> 01:22:02.800
feminism rules real quick, is you know, like you know,

1174
01:22:04.640 --> 01:22:06.439
and it's not it's not that it's not that one

1175
01:22:06.479 --> 01:22:09.920
of those Amazon it's those like cast Iron that's the.

1176
01:22:13.079 --> 01:22:14.199
Season ones.

1177
01:22:15.159 --> 01:22:18.600
Yeah you know, like like you know the one like

1178
01:22:18.720 --> 01:22:19.119
you know, like.

1179
01:22:21.399 --> 01:22:24.920
You know, yeah, you don't want to say something too

1180
01:22:24.960 --> 01:22:26.279
slick standing there right there?

1181
01:22:27.560 --> 01:22:29.479
All right, all right, I won't say that, Okay, I'm sorry,

1182
01:22:32.039 --> 01:22:33.640
Well she said for me to say that she's the

1183
01:22:33.720 --> 01:22:38.159
bestest thing ever. No, no, no, I'm sorry, I'm playing.

1184
01:22:42.000 --> 01:22:43.840
Yeah, But like so it's all about it's all about

1185
01:22:43.920 --> 01:22:48.439
telling your partners specifically what it is you you you

1186
01:22:48.600 --> 01:22:49.960
want and you expect.

1187
01:22:50.279 --> 01:22:54.359
Yeah, and being and being honestly genuine about that. Like,

1188
01:22:55.199 --> 01:22:58.840
I just don't get it why people spend uh, you know,

1189
01:22:58.840 --> 01:23:00.399
I don't want to just say guys, because I know

1190
01:23:00.479 --> 01:23:03.039
there are women who do it too, But people spend

1191
01:23:03.239 --> 01:23:07.520
so much time and energy lying and trying to fool

1192
01:23:07.640 --> 01:23:13.000
the other person into getting things. It's like, why put

1193
01:23:13.119 --> 01:23:15.520
so much energy into that when you can just tell

1194
01:23:15.600 --> 01:23:18.239
them straight up what it is you're looking for so

1195
01:23:18.319 --> 01:23:19.960
that they can tell you yes or no, and then

1196
01:23:20.000 --> 01:23:25.720
you keep it moving forward. Why why? Because tell me?

1197
01:23:27.600 --> 01:23:30.680
Because you know what they want to specifically from you.

1198
01:23:31.439 --> 01:23:34.279
You know what I'm saying, So like they're testing the

1199
01:23:34.319 --> 01:23:35.960
waters to see how you know what I'm saying. See

1200
01:23:35.960 --> 01:23:38.319
what when maneuvers and averages they're gonna take to.

1201
01:23:38.359 --> 01:23:51.000
Getting Why go because their assholes except that their assholes.

1202
01:23:52.960 --> 01:23:55.520
An asshole is going to do some ship like that

1203
01:23:55.880 --> 01:24:00.439
string somebody along, play with their feelings, get caught let's

1204
01:24:00.680 --> 01:24:02.720
let somebody get caught up in you and then like

1205
01:24:02.880 --> 01:24:04.239
disappear or whatever.

1206
01:24:04.399 --> 01:24:06.079
Like see, they're trying to play with your feelings so

1207
01:24:06.079 --> 01:24:07.319
they can play with other things.

1208
01:24:07.720 --> 01:24:14.000
Right, It's just it's it's hard because some people lie to.

1209
01:24:14.119 --> 01:24:15.640
Run and.

1210
01:24:17.840 --> 01:24:18.520
Speaks.

1211
01:24:20.239 --> 01:24:22.119
I'm one of those men.

1212
01:24:23.000 --> 01:24:23.359
Mm hmm.

1213
01:24:24.920 --> 01:24:27.920
I've always said that my father is the type of

1214
01:24:28.119 --> 01:24:32.479
man that I fear most in my life because he's

1215
01:24:32.560 --> 01:24:34.760
one of those. As soon as he opens his mouth,

1216
01:24:34.880 --> 01:24:38.800
whatever he's saying, somebody is ready to believe it. And

1217
01:24:38.920 --> 01:24:42.560
he he looks you dead in your face with all

1218
01:24:42.600 --> 01:24:47.920
the emotion and what we call ga with everything in

1219
01:24:48.079 --> 01:24:51.760
him and and and it's just lying to your face.

1220
01:24:53.359 --> 01:24:53.560
You know.

1221
01:24:54.399 --> 01:24:56.600
Yeah, some people are just pathological liars.

1222
01:24:56.920 --> 01:25:00.840
Like that's some people just got you know what. You know,

1223
01:25:01.319 --> 01:25:03.119
I call that line you know, back in the day,

1224
01:25:03.199 --> 01:25:05.640
used to call it. Damn, that's some game ship right there.

1225
01:25:06.199 --> 01:25:08.680
But not I really wasn't, you know what I'm saying

1226
01:25:08.720 --> 01:25:12.920
games like saying the truth? Like yo, listen, I'm you

1227
01:25:13.000 --> 01:25:14.720
know what I'm saying. I want to do this standard

1228
01:25:14.720 --> 01:25:17.000
therapy done. You're not. You're not. That's it, you know

1229
01:25:17.039 --> 01:25:19.520
what I'm saying, No hard feelings, you know we got

1230
01:25:19.600 --> 01:25:24.520
fun tonight or whatever. What does fund mean? Whatever happens

1231
01:25:24.560 --> 01:25:26.039
happens for both adults.

1232
01:25:27.439 --> 01:25:29.399
You know what, but that's bs. Just because you're an

1233
01:25:29.399 --> 01:25:30.560
adult doesn't mean.

1234
01:25:31.439 --> 01:25:35.279
But you know what, we used to say that we're grown.

1235
01:25:35.800 --> 01:25:38.399
I'm sorry, Yes I am grown, but that doesn't mean

1236
01:25:38.600 --> 01:25:41.880
I'm going around given every time Dick and Harry what

1237
01:25:41.960 --> 01:25:42.760
I've got to offer.

1238
01:25:43.399 --> 01:25:47.399
And you know, because a woman like you, a woman

1239
01:25:47.560 --> 01:25:50.039
like you, a woman like you get more respect, I

1240
01:25:50.119 --> 01:25:51.840
believe it, or not a lot.

1241
01:25:51.800 --> 01:25:55.399
More myself, even though I've been the biggest slut in

1242
01:25:55.439 --> 01:25:55.840
the world.

1243
01:25:56.479 --> 01:25:57.439
Oh, I'm not saying.

1244
01:26:01.399 --> 01:26:03.640
Yea, you know what, like like I ain't shame with nobody,

1245
01:26:03.680 --> 01:26:04.920
you know what I'm saying, But like I'm saying from

1246
01:26:04.960 --> 01:26:09.640
a man's perspective, like you know, like if like like

1247
01:26:09.880 --> 01:26:12.600
like yo, you know what I mean. You know what

1248
01:26:12.640 --> 01:26:14.239
I'm saying. You can help me out on this one

1249
01:26:16.399 --> 01:26:19.760
because back then, you know what I'm saying, Like if

1250
01:26:20.479 --> 01:26:21.840
we got with a girl, you know what I'm saying,

1251
01:26:21.840 --> 01:26:24.119
we had You know what I'm saying, legs up like

1252
01:26:24.199 --> 01:26:27.039
a freaking feel little post you know, within the like

1253
01:26:27.199 --> 01:26:30.279
past like three hours or whatever you do you have,

1254
01:26:30.600 --> 01:26:36.600
it's like because I'm an extreme person, That's what I'm saying,

1255
01:26:37.399 --> 01:26:40.760
you know, Like like like yo, you know what, I

1256
01:26:40.960 --> 01:26:42.319
like to be the villain on here a little bit.

1257
01:26:42.760 --> 01:26:46.439
You know this is it's too much, So I'm sorry,

1258
01:26:46.640 --> 01:26:49.800
but yo, you know what, like all right, what's what's

1259
01:26:50.079 --> 01:26:53.680
just if you know what? Yoh, you know what like

1260
01:26:53.880 --> 01:26:56.000
like like in three hours or whatever, right, like you

1261
01:26:56.039 --> 01:26:59.800
know what I'm saying, Like it's like, you know, recreational use.

1262
01:27:00.279 --> 01:27:00.880
You know what I'm saying.

1263
01:27:01.520 --> 01:27:04.319
I mean, but they're they're back in the day too,

1264
01:27:04.479 --> 01:27:06.560
Like it just depends where you were in your life

1265
01:27:06.640 --> 01:27:11.000
and stuff. And if if it's as long as it's consensual,

1266
01:27:11.439 --> 01:27:16.840
then fine, but it's not then the problem I'm saying.

1267
01:27:17.199 --> 01:27:19.159
But but see, now here's the thing though, like like

1268
01:27:19.199 --> 01:27:23.760
you know what I'm saying, like contracts when mm the

1269
01:27:23.840 --> 01:27:29.680
p Diddy contracts. But but like yo, all jokes aside though,

1270
01:27:29.720 --> 01:27:33.640
I mean, you know, like it shows like you know

1271
01:27:33.640 --> 01:27:35.680
what I'm saying, like where you're at mentally and spiritual,

1272
01:27:35.760 --> 01:27:37.560
like you said, you know what I'm saying, like you're

1273
01:27:37.600 --> 01:27:39.279
going to attract what's you know what I'm saying, what

1274
01:27:39.720 --> 01:27:41.479
what you're feeling at that moment? But you know what

1275
01:27:41.479 --> 01:27:43.159
I'm saying, the type of mood you're in in that moment.

1276
01:27:43.640 --> 01:27:45.199
You know what I'm saying, Like if you're going through

1277
01:27:45.199 --> 01:27:47.199
you know what I'm saying, Like like, let me give

1278
01:27:47.199 --> 01:27:49.279
you a perfect example, Right, I was getting in trouble

1279
01:27:49.319 --> 01:27:51.560
up here, so my mom's shut me down the floorid right,

1280
01:27:51.920 --> 01:27:54.880
and I'm at the same people down there that I

1281
01:27:55.319 --> 01:27:57.000
was hanging out with up here, because you know what

1282
01:27:57.560 --> 01:27:59.159
your spirit attracts what you know what.

1283
01:27:59.159 --> 01:28:02.640
I'm saying, wherever you are and what it is that

1284
01:28:02.760 --> 01:28:06.439
you want that, yeah, exactly, and you're gonna go with

1285
01:28:06.560 --> 01:28:10.159
what you know, like what's comfortable too, Like if that's

1286
01:28:10.239 --> 01:28:12.680
what means you're comfortable and this is what you then

1287
01:28:12.760 --> 01:28:13.399
that's what you're.

1288
01:28:13.279 --> 01:28:16.159
Gonna look for, you know. And like, yo, you know

1289
01:28:16.199 --> 01:28:17.880
what most people don't you know what I'm saying. Most

1290
01:28:17.880 --> 01:28:21.159
people don't understand. It's like you know, like from that

1291
01:28:21.439 --> 01:28:23.239
from that point, you know what I mean, Like, you

1292
01:28:23.359 --> 01:28:25.239
are who you attract at that moment. You know what

1293
01:28:25.279 --> 01:28:27.159
I'm saying. Thing. You know what I'm saying. You could

1294
01:28:27.199 --> 01:28:28.359
change you know what I'm saying. You could change that.

1295
01:28:28.399 --> 01:28:30.199
You know what I'm saying. Within the next five ten minutes.

1296
01:28:31.039 --> 01:28:33.960
What I'm saying, you gotta do switching mind set. Yeah,

1297
01:28:34.640 --> 01:28:38.680
do something different, like exactly, do something different, think different,

1298
01:28:39.159 --> 01:28:41.039
you know what I'm saying, or like yo, like like

1299
01:28:41.119 --> 01:28:41.520
I said, but.

1300
01:28:41.560 --> 01:28:43.680
See, I don't know that I can agree with that

1301
01:28:43.960 --> 01:28:47.359
because like, and I've tried this so many times. My

1302
01:28:47.560 --> 01:28:55.039
personality I'm loving, caring, you know, spiritual, religious, whatever you

1303
01:28:55.119 --> 01:28:55.760
want to call it.

1304
01:28:56.520 --> 01:28:58.000
You're intimidated to most dudes.

1305
01:29:00.039 --> 01:29:00.960
Am I intimidating?

1306
01:29:02.119 --> 01:29:06.840
Because oh you know what? First off, you know what

1307
01:29:06.840 --> 01:29:12.239
I'm saying. You talk with like this type of command

1308
01:29:12.319 --> 01:29:14.039
that you know what I'm saying in a good way,

1309
01:29:14.600 --> 01:29:16.399
In a good way, I'm you know I'm saying like

1310
01:29:16.479 --> 01:29:20.479
I'm not. You know, that's good to know exactly you

1311
01:29:20.479 --> 01:29:20.960
know what I'm saying.

1312
01:29:21.000 --> 01:29:25.039
So but then why why do I attract the broken

1313
01:29:25.279 --> 01:29:27.600
and emotionally unavailable?

1314
01:29:29.560 --> 01:29:34.159
I think partially is because it fulfills a need, you know,

1315
01:29:34.359 --> 01:29:39.319
Like I realized this recently with a friendship I have.

1316
01:29:40.039 --> 01:29:43.640
Is like it's nice to be needed in certain ways

1317
01:29:43.720 --> 01:29:46.840
when you could fulfill the need. This This makes sense,

1318
01:29:47.039 --> 01:29:54.239
am I? Because like we can say, look, we can't

1319
01:29:54.239 --> 01:29:57.920
speak for other people what they're thinking and what they're doing.

1320
01:29:58.720 --> 01:30:03.600
But I feel like this could be maybe you don't

1321
01:30:04.640 --> 01:30:12.920
love you enough in certain ways that's allowing you to

1322
01:30:13.079 --> 01:30:21.159
continually go for something. Like I stopped myself completely and

1323
01:30:21.600 --> 01:30:25.319
became more open instead of going to what I was

1324
01:30:25.359 --> 01:30:29.680
attracted to necessarily in the beginning, it was more about

1325
01:30:29.880 --> 01:30:34.159
like giving people a chance and seeing where things went,

1326
01:30:34.439 --> 01:30:37.199
and if I wasn't attracted and there was no chemistry

1327
01:30:37.279 --> 01:30:40.119
or whatever, then you move forward. But I think sometimes

1328
01:30:40.199 --> 01:30:43.520
we kind of get stuck in our ways of what

1329
01:30:43.680 --> 01:30:47.319
we like or what we think we're attracted to, and

1330
01:30:47.439 --> 01:30:52.760
then we kind of like don't give others a chance

1331
01:30:52.880 --> 01:30:57.840
that maybe it could be something. However, I will say

1332
01:30:58.000 --> 01:31:02.279
online dating is really hard, and with everything that we've

1333
01:31:02.319 --> 01:31:04.840
talked about with the whole like just people not being

1334
01:31:04.920 --> 01:31:06.920
honest and shit like that, it is hard to find

1335
01:31:07.000 --> 01:31:11.680
honest people. But when you find someone who is, I

1336
01:31:11.800 --> 01:31:15.399
feel and then there's a good connection there because it's

1337
01:31:15.520 --> 01:31:18.600
like the people they attract each other in that way.

1338
01:31:19.239 --> 01:31:21.680
Yeah, And I'm great with the boundary think because once

1339
01:31:21.760 --> 01:31:24.279
I start to see that there are those red flags

1340
01:31:24.399 --> 01:31:30.840
that insecurity stuff, yeah, I know, uh, those insecurities and

1341
01:31:30.920 --> 01:31:33.000
all that, I'm like, I'm sorry, I'm.

1342
01:31:32.880 --> 01:31:35.920
Not for you, like, but it's it's what do you

1343
01:31:36.039 --> 01:31:39.159
What do you mean though? Like what insecurities?

1344
01:31:40.560 --> 01:31:44.680
Okay, we all have insecurities. I don't feel like anyone

1345
01:31:44.720 --> 01:31:48.479
should put their insecurities out on blast. But I'm just saying,

1346
01:31:48.600 --> 01:31:52.840
like we all at some point think we're not good

1347
01:31:52.960 --> 01:31:56.479
enough for whatever, even for ourselves. We're our worst critics.

1348
01:31:56.600 --> 01:32:00.600
We never speak to ourselves the way would talk to

1349
01:32:00.720 --> 01:32:01.640
someone we love.

1350
01:32:02.720 --> 01:32:04.159
Yeah, we're compassionate.

1351
01:32:04.439 --> 01:32:06.399
One of the things, like somebody wrote a comment and

1352
01:32:06.640 --> 01:32:08.640
I was like, that could be a whole show. Honestly,

1353
01:32:08.840 --> 01:32:12.159
just mindfulness and the way you talk to yourself, because

1354
01:32:12.840 --> 01:32:15.439
it is one of those things I learned years ago

1355
01:32:16.199 --> 01:32:20.800
that like, it completely changes your perspective and that's also

1356
01:32:20.920 --> 01:32:24.640
what allows you to see and be more open to things.

1357
01:32:25.479 --> 01:32:28.680
So I don't know, it's just it's so crazy to

1358
01:32:28.840 --> 01:32:35.279
me how simple yet not certain things are. But we

1359
01:32:35.520 --> 01:32:38.279
just get so fucking used to doing the same thing

1360
01:32:38.439 --> 01:32:41.720
over and over again, and it becomes what we know,

1361
01:32:42.800 --> 01:32:47.800
and it's scary sometimes and hard to get out and

1362
01:32:47.920 --> 01:32:52.079
do something different or you know, try instead of saying

1363
01:32:52.840 --> 01:32:58.199
like I suck or whatever. It's like, all right, this

1364
01:32:58.319 --> 01:33:02.600
didn't work out, But I love the fact that I

1365
01:33:02.880 --> 01:33:06.760
actually tried, you know what I'm saying. So it's it's

1366
01:33:06.840 --> 01:33:11.000
all about language, how you speak to yourself and the

1367
01:33:11.079 --> 01:33:13.520
way you you start looking at things, and then it

1368
01:33:13.600 --> 01:33:17.760
becomes easier to start seeing more positive ship, to start

1369
01:33:18.359 --> 01:33:22.640
looking at things a little more differently to get you

1370
01:33:23.119 --> 01:33:25.520
to a better place mentally and.

1371
01:33:25.640 --> 01:33:30.479
Be there, lady ge, I was going to say, you

1372
01:33:30.560 --> 01:33:34.199
know what, maybe you're a tracting dudes who think they're alphas, right,

1373
01:33:35.359 --> 01:33:37.520
but they're really beata, you know what I'm saying, So

1374
01:33:37.640 --> 01:33:38.079
like you so.

1375
01:33:39.720 --> 01:33:43.720
So so, so you know what, when I start calling,

1376
01:33:45.720 --> 01:33:46.680
they approach.

1377
01:33:46.359 --> 01:33:49.399
You, they approach you on some like you know, like

1378
01:33:49.520 --> 01:33:52.119
some big dog stuff, right, but like you still see

1379
01:33:52.159 --> 01:33:52.920
the puppy in them.

1380
01:33:53.600 --> 01:33:57.920
Yeah, So I mean you know, and that's like that

1381
01:33:58.239 --> 01:34:02.119
nurturing side of you too, and that I do know

1382
01:34:02.439 --> 01:34:03.199
that that you know.

1383
01:34:03.279 --> 01:34:08.199
You attract people that your spirit speaks to. So because

1384
01:34:08.239 --> 01:34:11.880
I am loving and caring, I do understand that I'm

1385
01:34:11.920 --> 01:34:15.720
going to attract a more caring or vulnerable type of dude.

1386
01:34:16.279 --> 01:34:19.039
But then, like also, like Dov's was saying, you know

1387
01:34:19.680 --> 01:34:22.600
the guy who comes off as you know, I'm an alpha,

1388
01:34:22.800 --> 01:34:25.159
I'm strong, I do this I'm a man. I do

1389
01:34:25.279 --> 01:34:32.880
all that. Yeah, it through YouTube, you know, like it's

1390
01:34:32.960 --> 01:34:36.119
because deep down inside, they don't love themselves and they

1391
01:34:36.239 --> 01:34:39.800
don't think that they're worthy. And when they come to me,

1392
01:34:40.159 --> 01:34:42.159
you know, I'm like, listen, I know who I am,

1393
01:34:42.439 --> 01:34:45.119
I know what I want. And when I start calling

1394
01:34:45.159 --> 01:34:49.479
them out on the discrepancies between their words and their actions,

1395
01:34:50.600 --> 01:34:54.600
then you know, things fall apart because it's like I

1396
01:34:54.720 --> 01:34:57.760
need the genuine I need the real you know, come

1397
01:34:57.840 --> 01:35:00.199
at me with the real stuff. We can work it,

1398
01:35:00.840 --> 01:35:03.319
but come at me with that fake. You know, I'm

1399
01:35:03.359 --> 01:35:04.800
a man. I do all this.

1400
01:35:07.159 --> 01:35:13.680
And then not be that. I get bored quickly. But

1401
01:35:13.800 --> 01:35:21.560
that's okay. So then you need somebody who's gonna you know, yeah, guy, look,

1402
01:35:21.640 --> 01:35:23.359
I don't know. I feel like you and I need

1403
01:35:23.399 --> 01:35:31.359
to talk on the side. But that's another thing I need.

1404
01:35:31.439 --> 01:35:34.640
Somebody can handle putting people in their place without hurting them.

1405
01:35:35.800 --> 01:35:38.760
Yeah exactly.

1406
01:35:39.439 --> 01:35:43.680
I mean, how do you do that? Put people in

1407
01:35:43.760 --> 01:35:44.760
your place without hurting them.

1408
01:35:45.399 --> 01:35:49.720
Oh there's a way. Well, verbally, it could be verbally,

1409
01:35:49.840 --> 01:35:52.399
it could be physically, it could be just a.

1410
01:35:52.479 --> 01:35:57.720
Look you know what, you know what, in a way

1411
01:35:57.760 --> 01:36:00.600
that's impossible because you know, what physically gonna end up her.

1412
01:36:00.680 --> 01:36:04.119
The words hurt more though, you know, words of weapons

1413
01:36:04.159 --> 01:36:04.880
of master struc.

1414
01:36:05.079 --> 01:36:05.920
You can't take back.

1415
01:36:07.359 --> 01:36:10.039
Yeah, but I don't mean when I say putting somebody

1416
01:36:10.119 --> 01:36:12.520
in there. First of all, when you're putting someone in

1417
01:36:12.720 --> 01:36:15.960
their place, it's because they're too big for their bridges.

1418
01:36:16.279 --> 01:36:19.039
I need somebody who's not going to be afraid of me,

1419
01:36:19.520 --> 01:36:23.680
who's not going to be intimidated by me, and say, listen, honey,

1420
01:36:23.800 --> 01:36:25.840
I hear what you're saying, but I need you to

1421
01:36:25.920 --> 01:36:27.399
take it down because it's.

1422
01:36:27.279 --> 01:36:33.319
Not that serious, right, you know, meeting your match.

1423
01:36:34.319 --> 01:36:37.560
Yeah, not somebody like yo, b you better, you better

1424
01:36:37.640 --> 01:36:40.239
knock it down before I knock you now, Yeah, like.

1425
01:36:42.359 --> 01:36:42.720
Thank you?

1426
01:36:43.039 --> 01:36:45.800
Oh so, so you're saying that you should have been

1427
01:36:45.800 --> 01:36:47.920
in the Olympics, by the way, you just jumped the conclusion,

1428
01:36:48.319 --> 01:36:52.039
get it, I get that, all right? All right?

1429
01:36:53.079 --> 01:36:57.399
Oh my yeah, it's crazy. It's rough out there, and

1430
01:36:57.920 --> 01:36:59.319
uh please dot it.

1431
01:36:59.479 --> 01:37:02.680
Literally they peed in the pool. This this dating pool

1432
01:37:02.960 --> 01:37:03.560
is dirty.

1433
01:37:04.640 --> 01:37:10.760
It's successful, especially especially you know what I'm saying. You

1434
01:37:10.800 --> 01:37:12.600
know what it is. I mean, don't take offense to

1435
01:37:12.880 --> 01:37:14.520
what I'm about to say. You know what I'm saying.

1436
01:37:15.039 --> 01:37:15.399
Already.

1437
01:37:15.439 --> 01:37:23.039
Yeah sore, so be it. You know what I'm saying.

1438
01:37:23.479 --> 01:37:25.960
I'm like, yo, you know what, I'm not going to

1439
01:37:26.000 --> 01:37:30.760
bite my tongue, right. You have a lot of like

1440
01:37:31.199 --> 01:37:32.920
in this day and age, like a lot of people

1441
01:37:32.960 --> 01:37:36.000
from thirty five to forty five, they're either you know

1442
01:37:36.039 --> 01:37:38.479
what I'm saying, they got you know what I'm saying, divorced.

1443
01:37:38.840 --> 01:37:40.000
You know what I'm saying, they have like a little

1444
01:37:40.000 --> 01:37:41.960
you know what I mean, They either have like little

1445
01:37:42.000 --> 01:37:46.000
trust issues or like they're trying to like navigate their

1446
01:37:46.039 --> 01:37:48.159
way back into the you know what I'm saying, into

1447
01:37:48.199 --> 01:37:50.520
the dating scene. And it's not the same as how

1448
01:37:50.560 --> 01:37:53.000
it was, like you know when it was back then

1449
01:37:53.079 --> 01:37:56.479
with us especially you know what I'm saying, with how

1450
01:37:56.560 --> 01:38:01.000
social media took took everything over, Like like yo, back then,

1451
01:38:01.039 --> 01:38:03.760
you know what I'm saying, Like before the social medium

1452
01:38:03.880 --> 01:38:06.079
is all this YouTube or whatever. You know what I'm saying.

1453
01:38:06.119 --> 01:38:07.800
Like when we met people who met people in the bar,

1454
01:38:08.399 --> 01:38:10.720
we talked to them like face to face, and I

1455
01:38:10.840 --> 01:38:13.159
was like, you know now, like you know what I'm saying,

1456
01:38:13.520 --> 01:38:16.159
you only see them. Yeah, you know what I'm saying,

1457
01:38:16.159 --> 01:38:16.520
you see them.

1458
01:38:16.640 --> 01:38:18.640
Those are the best One night stands by the way.

1459
01:38:19.800 --> 01:38:27.039
Yeah, oh my god, what the bar or the pictures.

1460
01:38:26.720 --> 01:38:29.560
On the bar at the bar, the bars.

1461
01:38:31.279 --> 01:38:33.239
Down the shore, it didn't even happen like that. So

1462
01:38:33.479 --> 01:38:36.640
no down the shore, you know what I mean, like

1463
01:38:37.000 --> 01:38:38.000
side and wild Wood.

1464
01:38:38.720 --> 01:38:41.119
No, no, that's just dirty mess down there.

1465
01:38:41.199 --> 01:38:45.039
No, no, no sea side, sea side in the nighties. Nah,

1466
01:38:45.319 --> 01:38:50.000
it was dirty TV. Nah yo yo, that's when MTV

1467
01:38:50.119 --> 01:38:52.359
Beach Hops was down there. What are you talking about?

1468
01:38:53.039 --> 01:38:53.800
You know what I'm saying, like.

1469
01:38:56.880 --> 01:39:01.600
Jersey Girl and Jersey beaches are nasty to me, except.

1470
01:39:02.720 --> 01:39:06.640
What except for anything? From why would the cap is okay?

1471
01:39:07.279 --> 01:39:09.600
Yeah, because it's all the way down here in fucking

1472
01:39:09.680 --> 01:39:10.960
Delaware and ship so.

1473
01:39:12.600 --> 01:39:14.439
And not only that, not only that, you know what

1474
01:39:14.439 --> 01:39:17.159
I'm saying. The beach is free? You know what I'm saying.

1475
01:39:19.880 --> 01:39:24.159
That actually it is not during the summer. Nothing.

1476
01:39:24.359 --> 01:39:25.479
Why free?

1477
01:39:25.840 --> 01:39:27.800
Why would it free? Why would.

1478
01:39:29.199 --> 01:39:30.359
Wow?

1479
01:39:30.560 --> 01:39:30.720
Well?

1480
01:39:30.800 --> 01:39:33.600
Yeah, what does take forever? So that I think they

1481
01:39:34.159 --> 01:39:35.119
got into account?

1482
01:39:36.119 --> 01:39:39.119
You know what, who cares? Who cares? I'd rather walk

1483
01:39:39.159 --> 01:39:41.840
the two miles. I'm not paying thirteen dollars. You know

1484
01:39:41.880 --> 01:39:43.000
what I'm saying. That going you know what I'm saying,

1485
01:39:43.039 --> 01:39:44.840
get better by crabs. You know what I'm saying, The

1486
01:39:44.920 --> 01:39:50.159
damn they're drawn the seaside. Nah that never again, never again.

1487
01:39:51.680 --> 01:39:54.000
You know, but there is a time where there were

1488
01:39:54.119 --> 01:39:55.640
needles on that beach.

1489
01:39:55.760 --> 01:40:04.119
Okay, say island far off? Why don't go never Jones Beach?

1490
01:40:05.600 --> 01:40:06.880
Jones Beach is that bad? Though?

1491
01:40:08.720 --> 01:40:10.960
I never really went to New York beaches or if

1492
01:40:11.000 --> 01:40:13.600
I did, I was a kid and I don't remember not.

1493
01:40:14.000 --> 01:40:15.600
Yo, you know what, Like I went to Jones Beach

1494
01:40:15.680 --> 01:40:17.880
one time and I was like, Yo, what is different?

1495
01:40:18.199 --> 01:40:19.880
Because I'm a Long Island That's why, you know what

1496
01:40:19.880 --> 01:40:21.800
I'm saying, Like Long Island water is like a lot

1497
01:40:21.840 --> 01:40:24.479
clean than them. You know, water is off like you know,

1498
01:40:24.720 --> 01:40:26.880
Queens of Brooklyn and stuff like, it's a lot you know,

1499
01:40:27.640 --> 01:40:36.199
it's like further out, you know. So I mean but like, yeah, man, beaches, Man,

1500
01:40:37.680 --> 01:40:38.640
why are we talking.

1501
01:40:38.439 --> 01:40:39.000
About the beach?

1502
01:40:39.119 --> 01:40:41.039
Like how did we get here? I don't even remember.

1503
01:40:41.039 --> 01:40:42.359
I'm going to tell you how we got here because

1504
01:40:42.439 --> 01:40:43.920
we got here from like one night Stands And I

1505
01:40:44.000 --> 01:40:46.079
was like, yeah, you know what, Jerseys the Jersey Show

1506
01:40:46.119 --> 01:40:47.560
was my spot the next thing.

1507
01:40:50.079 --> 01:40:53.479
Because everybody was like a visitor there, you know, was it?

1508
01:40:53.720 --> 01:40:56.640
Like I mean, you like you messed with a towny,

1509
01:40:57.000 --> 01:40:58.239
I guess then you're messed.

1510
01:40:58.439 --> 01:41:01.439
Uh nah know what? Man like like like yo, you

1511
01:41:01.520 --> 01:41:03.840
know what, you know, Like the running joke was like yo,

1512
01:41:03.880 --> 01:41:06.039
you know what, we probably got kids running around down

1513
01:41:06.079 --> 01:41:06.680
there or something like that.

1514
01:41:06.800 --> 01:41:10.439
Oh lord you probably do God help us all like you.

1515
01:41:10.439 --> 01:41:12.640
Know like that, like like that's the running joke, you know,

1516
01:41:12.840 --> 01:41:16.079
like because it just happened, you know what I'm saying.

1517
01:41:16.279 --> 01:41:19.000
It was just almost guarantee that some ship will always

1518
01:41:19.039 --> 01:41:22.359
go down, you know what I'm saying. It was almost guaranteed,

1519
01:41:22.840 --> 01:41:24.600
you know what I mean. But other than that, I

1520
01:41:24.680 --> 01:41:25.000
mean like.

1521
01:41:26.479 --> 01:41:31.279
Like not getting my Target order tonight because they closed

1522
01:41:31.279 --> 01:41:31.800
it eleven.

1523
01:41:32.279 --> 01:41:37.880
So wait a minute, So you ordered your ship from Target?

1524
01:41:38.319 --> 01:41:41.399
No, I only ordered two things from Target. I went

1525
01:41:41.479 --> 01:41:45.680
to Aldi. I had to Walmart. Target they ran.

1526
01:41:45.640 --> 01:41:51.319
Out of firstal how no, no, no, no, no, hold

1527
01:41:51.359 --> 01:41:55.479
on you, it's TJ.

1528
01:41:57.439 --> 01:42:03.119
He said. Sorry. Yes, I always do the drive up

1529
01:42:03.199 --> 01:42:07.520
at charge for like whatever. I don't go in there

1530
01:42:07.560 --> 01:42:11.039
anymore because I spend more money when I go in there,

1531
01:42:11.760 --> 01:42:17.359
So I always I always shop and do my orders

1532
01:42:17.399 --> 01:42:20.600
and pick them up for there because they don't charge

1533
01:42:20.640 --> 01:42:24.159
you extra anything like that. And they don't have a limit.

1534
01:42:24.279 --> 01:42:27.600
You could literally go there, drive up and get a

1535
01:42:27.640 --> 01:42:29.800
pack of condoms and they will bring it out to you.

1536
01:42:30.119 --> 01:42:34.560
I'm not even kidding. There's no minimum or limit, okay,

1537
01:42:35.279 --> 01:42:38.359
like this, like you can't say you're embarrassed to buy

1538
01:42:38.560 --> 01:42:42.000
things because they'll bring it out for you and nobody

1539
01:42:42.079 --> 01:42:44.640
will even know. It's not like they're gonna tell anybody.

1540
01:42:44.960 --> 01:42:49.279
So it's insane. Walmart has a minimum that you have

1541
01:42:49.479 --> 01:42:54.039
to do. Other places too, aldi if you do stuff

1542
01:42:54.079 --> 01:42:56.359
on like, the prices are different, it's not the same.

1543
01:42:57.159 --> 01:42:59.840
Like it's so weird to me. I'm like, why if

1544
01:42:59.920 --> 01:43:02.600
I'm shopping at your store, then if the price is

1545
01:43:02.680 --> 01:43:04.600
what it is there, why am I paying more money

1546
01:43:05.399 --> 01:43:08.399
for you to put it together for me? If it's free,

1547
01:43:08.640 --> 01:43:12.720
it's not free then so whatever. I just want to

1548
01:43:13.840 --> 01:43:16.640
hand it because I can't get my dam order.

1549
01:43:16.760 --> 01:43:23.760
Now you got something. Of course, my girl gets mad

1550
01:43:23.800 --> 01:43:26.079
at me when I refuse to go to Walmart, right,

1551
01:43:27.520 --> 01:43:29.960
so she asked me, so she expectations, like, yeah, what's

1552
01:43:30.000 --> 01:43:31.520
the problem if you're going for the baby. I'm like,

1553
01:43:31.560 --> 01:43:32.800
because I get lost on purpose.

1554
01:43:32.840 --> 01:43:33.800
She's like, what does that mean?

1555
01:43:34.199 --> 01:43:35.920
I'm like, I end up on I end up. You

1556
01:43:35.920 --> 01:43:38.800
know what I'm saying. Where the TVs are at, there's

1557
01:43:38.840 --> 01:43:41.520
place to be with ADHD. I'm like, I'm like, yo,

1558
01:43:41.600 --> 01:43:43.880
you know what I'm like. Do you not understand? You

1559
01:43:43.920 --> 01:43:46.600
know what I'm saying. This is our new tours of

1560
01:43:46.680 --> 01:43:53.000
russ You know what I'm saying. Yeah, remember that? So good,

1561
01:43:53.439 --> 01:43:56.279
so good as a matter of fact, as a matter

1562
01:43:56.319 --> 01:43:59.479
of fact, this all over here American Dream got to

1563
01:43:59.520 --> 01:44:02.960
towards us in the with a poll and everything. I'm

1564
01:44:03.000 --> 01:44:09.199
gonna go back and slide on that pause. But I

1565
01:44:09.319 --> 01:44:13.439
had to say that pause, like that great little segue. Yeah,

1566
01:44:13.520 --> 01:44:15.960
you know, like but but but but like yo, you

1567
01:44:16.000 --> 01:44:19.159
know what Walmart? Walmart is like toys arrested me because

1568
01:44:19.359 --> 01:44:21.319
I'm looking at the TVs right. They do have a

1569
01:44:21.359 --> 01:44:22.039
lot of stuff.

1570
01:44:23.039 --> 01:44:27.680
Yes, that's everything, like literally everything there under one roof,

1571
01:44:28.359 --> 01:44:31.159
which makes it very convenient. And I get why people

1572
01:44:31.279 --> 01:44:33.039
go there, but I hate that place.

1573
01:44:33.199 --> 01:44:36.319
I don't go there, you know what. So so so

1574
01:44:36.520 --> 01:44:38.000
so I'm going there and I'm looking at the seventy

1575
01:44:38.039 --> 01:44:40.439
five minute screen four k TV, right, and I'm like,

1576
01:44:41.159 --> 01:44:43.199
this is today and I'm like, yo, you know what

1577
01:44:44.319 --> 01:44:45.720
you got to waiting for that? You know what I'm

1578
01:44:45.720 --> 01:44:47.640
saying my passed, what was I have to pay what

1579
01:44:47.680 --> 01:44:47.840
I was?

1580
01:44:48.239 --> 01:44:48.399
Right?

1581
01:44:48.960 --> 01:44:51.239
So you know, like I text her right because you know,

1582
01:44:51.359 --> 01:44:53.520
like we actually went in together and stuff and like

1583
01:44:53.600 --> 01:44:58.159
my stomach was hurting, but the story and she was like,

1584
01:44:58.479 --> 01:45:00.199
we ain't got the money. I'm like, yo, you know one.

1585
01:45:00.520 --> 01:45:02.000
I'm like, you know, next year, right, I don't want

1586
01:45:02.039 --> 01:45:04.039
to hear ship like what I had like a south

1587
01:45:04.079 --> 01:45:05.880
put space when we got back in the car or whatever, right,

1588
01:45:06.279 --> 01:45:08.880
put the baby in whatever. And she was like, why

1589
01:45:08.880 --> 01:45:10.159
are you mad? I'm like, yo, you know what, I

1590
01:45:10.199 --> 01:45:12.960
don't want to hear ship. Come next year. She's like,

1591
01:45:13.000 --> 01:45:15.720
all right, I said, I'm getting what I want. You know,

1592
01:45:16.439 --> 01:45:19.000
if there's a pet line in the in the fucking house,

1593
01:45:19.319 --> 01:45:21.359
don't ask me questions, don't ask how it got there.

1594
01:45:21.680 --> 01:45:25.279
I got it and that's it. Just for the time

1595
01:45:25.359 --> 01:45:27.640
you told me no, fuck.

1596
01:45:28.680 --> 01:45:34.439
No, it's something like ridiculous. It'd be like, well, now

1597
01:45:34.520 --> 01:45:35.600
we have a cheetah, so.

1598
01:45:40.680 --> 01:45:42.279
Like you didn't want me to buy TV.

1599
01:45:42.720 --> 01:45:44.920
So now we have a jungle in our house.

1600
01:45:46.840 --> 01:45:49.960
You know, an.

1601
01:45:53.479 --> 01:45:55.560
Your daughter is gonna be singing that song.

1602
01:45:56.960 --> 01:46:02.119
So so on that note, Yeah, what are you guys

1603
01:46:02.159 --> 01:46:03.840
cooking that's what I want to find out.

1604
01:46:05.520 --> 01:46:11.560
Uh steak, I'm not cooking someone else's cooking, so you

1605
01:46:11.640 --> 01:46:20.159
got job. Not not not tomorrow we heavy Let's see

1606
01:46:20.640 --> 01:46:33.039
turkey breasts, steak, scalloped potatoes, baked macaroni and cheese, collared greens,

1607
01:46:34.359 --> 01:46:36.199
and some roasted vegetables.

1608
01:46:36.560 --> 01:46:39.199
You are not Spanish, I know.

1609
01:46:39.319 --> 01:46:45.199
Well, No, Thanksgiving is a white holiday, okay, and with

1610
01:46:45.800 --> 01:46:49.279
white people on the half side of the family. And

1611
01:46:49.439 --> 01:46:52.840
we went to dry turkey and I hated it all

1612
01:46:52.880 --> 01:46:55.319
the time because my poor aunt, love her to death,

1613
01:46:55.439 --> 01:46:58.079
but she could not cook a turkey is dry.

1614
01:46:59.359 --> 01:47:00.399
We don't do that.

1615
01:47:00.560 --> 01:47:04.640
That was the point of the side. Our day is

1616
01:47:05.640 --> 01:47:05.960
That's it?

1617
01:47:06.239 --> 01:47:14.479
That him up to me?

1618
01:47:15.199 --> 01:47:15.880
How dare he?

1619
01:47:16.279 --> 01:47:21.359
I was like, I was about to say, yo, her wife,

1620
01:47:22.199 --> 01:47:24.239
how tare you? Yeah?

1621
01:47:24.239 --> 01:47:26.319
They cut me up way before. They're like, fun, this

1622
01:47:26.520 --> 01:47:31.039
bitch done your holidays.

1623
01:47:32.239 --> 01:47:33.600
I have left over pizza.

1624
01:47:34.239 --> 01:47:34.600
There you go.

1625
01:47:36.239 --> 01:47:36.880
That's not cool.

1626
01:47:38.720 --> 01:47:40.319
It literally this is another day.

1627
01:47:41.079 --> 01:47:44.159
That's what happens when you're divorced and it's his year

1628
01:47:44.319 --> 01:47:48.199
to get the baby. Oh you have no family and

1629
01:47:48.319 --> 01:47:50.960
no partner. You find yourself in front of a TV

1630
01:47:51.159 --> 01:47:52.279
with leftover pizza.

1631
01:47:53.279 --> 01:47:56.159
Nah, you ain't got no friends having a party. I

1632
01:47:56.199 --> 01:48:00.760
didn't invite. I don't know anybody. You know, mack of cheese.

1633
01:48:00.800 --> 01:48:03.199
I'm in no. You know what we changing that next

1634
01:48:03.279 --> 01:48:03.640
year for you?

1635
01:48:05.119 --> 01:48:07.159
Yeah, we should do it. Y'all are coming to PA.

1636
01:48:09.840 --> 01:48:14.079
Get ready, bring your sleeping bags because I don't have

1637
01:48:14.239 --> 01:48:22.520
enough beds for everybody. So well, today you are the

1638
01:48:22.560 --> 01:48:25.640
funny guy. By the way, Bassie, you were the funny

1639
01:48:25.720 --> 01:48:28.840
guy today. He came like ready, He's like, oh, y'all

1640
01:48:28.840 --> 01:48:31.000
are going to leave me alone for a half hour. Okay,

1641
01:48:31.640 --> 01:48:33.520
I got you, I got you.

1642
01:48:34.479 --> 01:48:41.479
Oh that man needed this.

1643
01:48:43.279 --> 01:48:44.880
That's how you could age.

1644
01:48:44.640 --> 01:48:45.479
Us real quick.

1645
01:48:49.760 --> 01:48:53.319
Wait, there was a meme that said, my my actual

1646
01:48:53.399 --> 01:48:56.199
age and my back age are two different things.

1647
01:48:56.720 --> 01:48:56.880
Yo.

1648
01:48:57.159 --> 01:48:58.560
Facts. Yo, you know what.

1649
01:48:58.640 --> 01:49:00.720
You should send that to me because that is true.

1650
01:49:01.039 --> 01:49:02.439
I think I have that is true.

1651
01:49:07.239 --> 01:49:08.319
That's hilarious.

1652
01:49:10.880 --> 01:49:11.479
What are you cooking?

1653
01:49:13.000 --> 01:49:13.199
Big?

1654
01:49:13.640 --> 01:49:15.800
Are you listen? Listen?

1655
01:49:16.159 --> 01:49:17.079
Say for you?

1656
01:49:17.359 --> 01:49:19.119
Are the kids coming? Talk to us?

1657
01:49:19.680 --> 01:49:21.199
It's a big to do.

1658
01:49:22.680 --> 01:49:23.039
Be me.

1659
01:49:26.479 --> 01:49:31.479
Stuff you're not supposed to be eating. I got him,

1660
01:49:35.000 --> 01:49:40.720
get another phone call. Let's cancel the show in the hospitals.

1661
01:49:41.680 --> 01:49:46.279
He's like, but I enjoyed it in the toilet And

1662
01:49:46.479 --> 01:49:48.600
this is gonna be in the hospital just because they

1663
01:49:48.720 --> 01:49:50.039
wanted to enjoy their food.

1664
01:49:51.680 --> 01:49:55.039
This is mena, this is.

1665
01:49:55.880 --> 01:49:58.760
Yeah, you know.

1666
01:50:00.439 --> 01:50:04.239
I'm getting that preparation. H ready, do you have.

1667
01:50:04.439 --> 01:50:06.680
Are your kids coming to your house or anything.

1668
01:50:07.319 --> 01:50:11.439
We're doing one whole one. It's one whole thing good

1669
01:50:13.000 --> 01:50:14.600
but check it out, but check it out, but check

1670
01:50:14.600 --> 01:50:18.960
it out. Yes, with that being said, With that being said,

1671
01:50:22.640 --> 01:50:25.800
what's your final thought TG for the night, for tomorrow?

1672
01:50:25.840 --> 01:50:27.560
Whatever you want to say that to the fans of

1673
01:50:27.600 --> 01:50:27.920
the show.

1674
01:50:29.479 --> 01:50:29.600
Uh.

1675
01:50:30.880 --> 01:50:36.119
I hope that everyone just has a good and safe day.

1676
01:50:38.800 --> 01:50:43.239
I don't really fall it, like I don't really celebrate Thanksgiving,

1677
01:50:43.600 --> 01:50:46.479
like it isn't about Pilgrims and and like Indians and

1678
01:50:46.640 --> 01:50:52.000
chips thank you, and like it's really about jenocide and colonization.

1679
01:50:52.199 --> 01:50:55.680
But we're not going to get into that. Basically, what

1680
01:50:55.840 --> 01:51:01.239
I'm saying is like, don't don't feel bad if you

1681
01:51:01.399 --> 01:51:05.720
don't have anyone to spend time with tomorrow, because it's

1682
01:51:05.800 --> 01:51:10.920
fucking just Thursday, and thankfully and thankfully some of us

1683
01:51:11.000 --> 01:51:14.199
have off of work. And I think though it is

1684
01:51:14.239 --> 01:51:16.039
a good day to reflect of the things that you

1685
01:51:16.159 --> 01:51:19.279
are thankful for. And I do appreciate when people do

1686
01:51:19.479 --> 01:51:23.439
share that because I think it's important that we remember

1687
01:51:23.720 --> 01:51:26.800
to be grateful and thankful for those simple things that

1688
01:51:26.920 --> 01:51:30.199
we have in our lives and that we live to

1689
01:51:30.239 --> 01:51:35.439
see another day. So enjoy and eat stuff your face,

1690
01:51:36.600 --> 01:51:41.760
but please like eat breakfast and don't like not eat

1691
01:51:41.920 --> 01:51:45.800
or saved up to eat. Okay, that's not good. It's

1692
01:51:45.880 --> 01:51:50.000
not good, all right, And don't also overeat that's like

1693
01:51:50.239 --> 01:51:52.319
binging in one day and it's not good.

1694
01:51:52.439 --> 01:51:52.760
Guys.

1695
01:51:53.159 --> 01:51:57.640
Okay, okay, mom, just eat till you're happy and it's

1696
01:51:57.720 --> 01:51:59.640
just one day. You can have leftovers.

1697
01:52:00.279 --> 01:52:01.680
This dumb.

1698
01:52:03.119 --> 01:52:07.960
He shout out to Jeffrey Amherst who teach Jeffrey Amherst

1699
01:52:08.600 --> 01:52:09.720
he made this day possible?

1700
01:52:10.319 --> 01:52:11.720
Did they right?

1701
01:52:12.680 --> 01:52:12.920
Yeah?

1702
01:52:13.119 --> 01:52:17.359
He kind of did anyways, ok yeah, yeah, yeah, you

1703
01:52:17.399 --> 01:52:21.439
know what, we'll talk about that, right. What's you call it?

1704
01:52:23.359 --> 01:52:25.920
Everything that TG said? Yes, you know what I'm saying,

1705
01:52:26.119 --> 01:52:29.119
except that you know the mothering part of you know.

1706
01:52:29.199 --> 01:52:30.000
Eat, eat eat.

1707
01:52:30.039 --> 01:52:30.560
You know what I'm saying.

1708
01:52:30.600 --> 01:52:31.319
Eat in the morning.

1709
01:52:31.479 --> 01:52:33.079
Now you know what I'm saying. Just you know what

1710
01:52:33.079 --> 01:52:37.039
I'm saying. If you wake up tomorrow, I appreciate that day.

1711
01:52:37.159 --> 01:52:39.600
Every day should be every every day should be Thanksgiving

1712
01:52:39.680 --> 01:52:42.199
because you know what you're waking up. You know what

1713
01:52:42.239 --> 01:52:44.800
I'm saying. I know we're not supposed to talk about

1714
01:52:44.800 --> 01:52:47.119
religion and all that stuff, but God allowed you to

1715
01:52:47.159 --> 01:52:48.880
wake up that day. You know what I'm saying. You

1716
01:52:49.000 --> 01:52:51.880
got twenty four hours in the day. Make the best

1717
01:52:51.920 --> 01:52:55.479
of it. You know now, you know what you're gonna if.

1718
01:52:56.239 --> 01:52:57.359
If you're going to be you know what I'm saying,

1719
01:52:57.439 --> 01:53:00.279
family's house and you're drinking a little bit, man, take

1720
01:53:00.319 --> 01:53:01.359
a uber? Do you.

1721
01:53:03.000 --> 01:53:03.279
Please?

1722
01:53:03.319 --> 01:53:06.319
Take a uber? Do you? Odds are expensive, And what's

1723
01:53:06.359 --> 01:53:08.920
even more expensive is if you get to an accident

1724
01:53:09.640 --> 01:53:13.800
and you know you don't see the following day, or

1725
01:53:14.960 --> 01:53:16.840
he takes someone's life and then you're seeing it today.

1726
01:53:16.840 --> 01:53:19.520
You know what I'm saying, So don't be brave. Don't

1727
01:53:19.640 --> 01:53:22.000
you know what I'm saying, don't do that ship, Please

1728
01:53:22.720 --> 01:53:28.560
sober exactly what I'm saying. Drive carefully drops soben. You

1729
01:53:28.560 --> 01:53:30.199
know what I'm saying. Enjoy you know what I'm saying.

1730
01:53:30.359 --> 01:53:32.039
Enjoy the day. You know what I'm saying. But when

1731
01:53:32.079 --> 01:53:40.640
the Cowboys and Giants play tomorrow, Just when the Cowboys

1732
01:53:40.680 --> 01:53:43.039
and the Giants play tomorrow, man, just take a nap.

1733
01:53:43.720 --> 01:53:45.479
You know what I'm saying that's gonna be a snooze.

1734
01:53:47.840 --> 01:53:49.760
That's the equivalent of the coming.

1735
01:53:53.479 --> 01:53:59.399
Wrap that ship up, wrap it up, box.

1736
01:54:03.840 --> 01:54:04.359
It's on you.

1737
01:54:06.279 --> 01:54:11.159
Basically, my thought is, if you are spending this day

1738
01:54:11.279 --> 01:54:15.640
with with people you care about, uh, you know, cherish

1739
01:54:15.720 --> 01:54:20.399
the moment, Try not to be dramatic, put the put

1740
01:54:20.439 --> 01:54:24.279
the anger away. Just take advantage of the time you have.

1741
01:54:24.479 --> 01:54:27.680
Because times the one thing we can't get back. So

1742
01:54:29.880 --> 01:54:34.079
just enjoy yourself when you're when when you uh get

1743
01:54:34.159 --> 01:54:37.600
fed up, then it's time to go, uh leave the

1744
01:54:37.680 --> 01:54:38.720
anger outside.

1745
01:54:40.800 --> 01:54:43.600
Yeah, unless your family is a Trump supporter, then I

1746
01:54:43.720 --> 01:54:48.239
give you permission to give on the people's elbow. Damn,

1747
01:54:57.439 --> 01:54:59.119
Tomorrow is going to be a crazy day for some

1748
01:54:59.159 --> 01:55:00.920
people who are going to be with their family. So

1749
01:55:01.159 --> 01:55:08.239
shout out to those you have liquor or some people

1750
01:55:08.359 --> 01:55:11.079
need to lay off the liquor or blunt or something.

1751
01:55:11.479 --> 01:55:14.720
I mean, just yeah, stay away. When we're talking about boundaries,

1752
01:55:14.800 --> 01:55:17.319
just don't talk about shy.

1753
01:55:17.640 --> 01:55:17.960
You know what.

1754
01:55:19.279 --> 01:55:21.000
You know what, a lot of uncles are going to

1755
01:55:21.039 --> 01:55:25.880
get hurt tomorrow. You know I'm gonna tell you why,

1756
01:55:25.920 --> 01:55:29.119
because you know what they come on uncle's complete some football. Yeah,

1757
01:55:29.239 --> 01:55:31.199
I got it, you know what I'm saying.

1758
01:55:32.159 --> 01:55:32.920
You know I used to do this.

1759
01:55:33.720 --> 01:55:36.680
I ran for four touchdowns one day. I played for Polkot.

1760
01:55:37.199 --> 01:55:39.680
You know what I'm saying, Like that will not be you,

1761
01:55:40.000 --> 01:55:41.279
That's all I know.

1762
01:55:41.920 --> 01:55:43.960
We do don't know that you were.

1763
01:55:44.000 --> 01:55:47.600
Playing for your grandkids and somehow in the hospital because

1764
01:55:47.640 --> 01:55:48.039
you got.

1765
01:55:48.000 --> 01:55:52.199
No imagine me trying to do with.

1766
01:55:53.720 --> 01:55:54.279
My c O.

1767
01:55:54.880 --> 01:56:03.279
No, I'm good man man anyway, anyway, that would be

1768
01:56:03.359 --> 01:56:07.119
sucking me d That was my fu. Look but.

1769
01:56:09.640 --> 01:56:11.840
Twenty two because you keep selling all your sneakers.

1770
01:56:12.079 --> 01:56:16.680
Twenty ready down.

1771
01:56:18.960 --> 01:56:19.920
And he's on the floor.

1772
01:56:20.760 --> 01:56:28.520
Yeah, ran three steps, slipping flo like falling and you

1773
01:56:28.640 --> 01:56:32.960
can't get up. He got the light, he got.

1774
01:56:38.319 --> 01:56:41.319
Here on the ground. I'm in the park and I'm

1775
01:56:41.399 --> 01:56:43.199
falling on.

1776
01:56:43.199 --> 01:57:07.279
The ground, screaming out text sport. Yeah, looking like a

1777
01:57:07.319 --> 01:57:08.760
homicide victim on the ground.

1778
01:57:09.640 --> 01:57:10.399
The body.

1779
01:57:13.640 --> 01:57:31.600
There. Grandpa fell. He always made me cry with the

1780
01:57:31.680 --> 01:57:34.560
way you made me laugh when ship sometimes.

1781
01:57:37.039 --> 01:57:37.880
Grandpa fell.

1782
01:57:41.279 --> 01:57:43.319
They're gonna they're gonna put up one of those white

1783
01:57:43.439 --> 01:57:48.760
crosses made out of pipe, and they're gonna go visit

1784
01:57:48.840 --> 01:57:49.680
every Thanksgiving.

1785
01:57:56.720 --> 01:57:59.840
This is way, but what's god damn it?

1786
01:58:00.079 --> 01:58:00.520
All right?

1787
01:58:10.399 --> 01:58:23.520
Oh god, oh man, alright, So everybody. Lady, what was

1788
01:58:23.560 --> 01:58:24.239
your last thought?

1789
01:58:24.319 --> 01:58:25.800
You didn't you don't have any.

1790
01:58:26.119 --> 01:58:28.520
Then I started laughing and you just just went with

1791
01:58:28.600 --> 01:58:28.960
a laugh.

1792
01:58:29.079 --> 01:58:29.479
That was it.

1793
01:58:35.760 --> 01:58:43.720
Have a good day tomorrow, your food without your lady,

1794
01:58:43.840 --> 01:58:46.760
g try to have a good day tomorrow.

1795
01:58:48.920 --> 01:58:49.640
I have a good day.

1796
01:58:50.079 --> 01:58:51.359
It's gonna be a b day.

1797
01:58:51.520 --> 01:58:54.560
Did you hear she's eating pizza. That's delicious.

1798
01:58:55.640 --> 01:58:58.920
Do enjoy the fan everything. I'm gonna do what I

1799
01:58:59.000 --> 01:59:04.079
gotta do. Happy Thanksgiving and Happy Thursday?

1800
01:59:08.079 --> 01:59:09.439
Can we give? Can we see a prayer for my

1801
01:59:09.479 --> 01:59:18.199
toilet because you know, you know than.

1802
01:59:20.680 --> 01:59:29.039
I am sorry your thoughts and prayers to dumb toilet

1803
01:59:29.199 --> 01:59:31.279
tomorrow yo.

1804
01:59:32.000 --> 01:59:34.119
Yo yo, I'm gonna be. I'm gonna be on the

1805
01:59:34.119 --> 01:59:35.600
toilet scream with text support.

1806
01:59:38.399 --> 01:59:38.720
All right.

1807
01:59:39.560 --> 01:59:44.159
So that with that, with that being said, giving happy

1808
01:59:44.239 --> 01:59:47.720
Thursday and everybody, and thanks for for coming by and

1809
01:59:47.760 --> 01:59:50.159
sticking with us this whole time. Thanks for listening to

1810
01:59:50.279 --> 01:59:53.840
my bullshit for the first half hour. I appreciate it.

1811
01:59:54.199 --> 01:59:57.000
Thanks for all y'all. I'm grateful and thankful for all

1812
01:59:57.119 --> 02:00:00.239
three of y'all and and what we have here. Yeah,

1813
02:00:00.800 --> 02:00:06.560
and and well we'll be together soon and enjoy the day.

1814
02:00:06.800 --> 02:00:14.319
Always remember that at some point, this, my later yeah

1815
02:00:16.239 --> 02:00:16.439
Yeah