Feb. 5, 2025

Welcome Back Wednesday (Recorded LIVE On 1-29-25)

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Nay, except everybody, this big cold on of this my

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every podcast, coming to you live like we always do.

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It's been a while, it's been a minute, it's been

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over a month, to be honest with you, but may

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bring hi. Co hosts Stady G the One, the Only Lady.

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Hello when I snows me hinting?

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What's up?

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Not much? Same old stuff, no and exciting. Yeah right, yeah,

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happy new year for at least not be that, you know,

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all that great stuff.

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Yeah we missed, we missed all that where we're late,

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but yeah we're we're back, you know, yeah, most definitely,

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most definitely. So how you been? How's how's the thought

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of doing good?

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Good?

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Every day I get up, it's a good.

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Day, that's right. That's how you gotta look at it.

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That's how you gotta That's how you gotta view it. Right.

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And I got little and I got little things, you know,

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keep keep life going.

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Well, that's good. That's awesome. Can I if anything better? Right?

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Yeah? And you can ask, but that only you ain't

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in it.

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That Jack doesn't mean you're gonna get it. You know

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what I mean, I get it. I understand completely. So

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it's twenty twenty five New year's coming gone, Christmas is

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coming gone. Everything is a midnight what's up? Oh? Thank you?

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Ah, that's so sweet. We've been missed.

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We appreciate that. Yes, yeah, well, thank you very much.

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We really appreciate it. We really appreciate it. Gotta gotta

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gotta love those fans, you know what I mean. They

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keep us going, They keep us going. So since you

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live the area, I'm gonna give some props, and props

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is due. I don't want to do this, but I

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have no choice, you know what I'm saying. I mean,

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it's hello, Heather, how you doing. The Eagles did that thing?

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Yes, we did.

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Eagles did that thing?

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Man?

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I mean, oh, I mean not guess.

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I thought about you all day. Corleo. I was like,

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he gotta be hurting.

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Yeah, what happened in Washington? Yo? Oh good, Mitchelle, thank you,

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thank you, thank you. Appreciate it. Back to this one.

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But big see what happened to Washington. I'll tell you

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what happened to Washington.

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They it was fun. Yeah.

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I'm not gonna make any goddamn excuses. I can sit

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here and talk all the shit I want to talk,

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but the fact of the matter is it was a

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rough game. You know what I'm saying. Philly came in

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and handle business. It was in their house. I mean,

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they have to handle business, you know what I mean.

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There's there's no offens or buts about it. You can't.

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You gotta handle business in your house, you know.

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Yeah.

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But you know, with every win, there's always got to

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be those knuckleheads who do something stupid. Yeah, and a

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poor young person died. Really yeah, he was because Philly

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always does it big when we when we win and whatnot.

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And he was climbing up on light poles and stuff

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and he fell and passed away. So there's always got

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to be and he was young. He was young, like

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like nineteen, I think, you know, man, So to see that,

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people always say I'm extra, but you know, those consequences

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people don't think about. Absolutely have some fun.

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But now, just now that that was because they won.

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Imagine imagine that game, and.

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And we've had stuff like that on South Street and whatnot,

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where people just they they tore the streets up when

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they lost.

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Yeah that's crazy.

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But it was a good game, it was you.

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Know, yeah, yeah, it was it was it was all right, Yeah,

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it was all right.

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So but true fans win to lose.

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Oh absolutely, absolutely, yeah, absolutely all day. It's this.

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Yeah, that definitely. I mean you got to think about

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the families of that young man, and you know they're

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just their tragedies, but the tragedies that can be prevented,

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you know.

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Yeah, that's.

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Just I mean, I digress.

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All right, all right, all right, all right, So I

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got a couple of things to talk about here. Let's

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get it moving. Let's keep it moving. Waiting on PG

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Love to join us in a bit. Doub Don should

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be here soon, so let's go with Let's let's start

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off with a couple of situations. Now, we got some

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we got some stories here we're going to talk about.

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It's not story time, but it's some stories. And we

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want the fans of the show that are listening and

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watching to give us their opinions and their thoughts besides

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what we say and what we think and our opinions

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and stuff on these on these stories. Now, I'm gonna

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read them, so bear with me. I I can read,

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but it's kind of it's it's kind of dark. So

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I'm gonna try. And yeah, I should have some kind

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of little light here, but I don't. But it is

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what it is, all right, this is this is Let

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me see the other topics.

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Piach the dog to hold your flashlight.

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Yeah, where where is she? Let me see she's somewhere

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around there. As long as she's not barking, it's all good,

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all right. So my boyfriend and I have been together

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for a little over three years. A couple of years ago,

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he told me, in the middle of an argument, probably

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that things were so bad with his past girlfriend that

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he got a calendar that he put stickers on every

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time they had a good day. I think he was

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making the point that he and I don't have don't

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have that many bad days. I can only speculate. I

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really don't remember the full context. I don't think he

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remembered telling me about this. A couple of weeks ago,

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he presented me with a calendar and a pack of

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stickers and presented it to me with that same idea.

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I remembered what he had told me and asked him directly,

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what did you What did you do this? Because you

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did it with your ex He didn't really acknowledge it.

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So I had been sitting here with this calendar on

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my desk for weeks, not knowing what to do with it.

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On the other hand, the calendar was thoughtful, had kittens

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on it. At least he was nice enough to get

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something that, you know, she might like. Wow, they had

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kittens on it, and the general idea of marking good

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days doesn't seem too bad. But knowing he had done

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it with more than two of his other girlfriends gave

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me a lot of weird feelings. Not because it's an

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ex I'm not jealous. It just feels patronizing. It feels

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indicative of a negative pattern in his life. I can't

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quite explain it, and that's part of the issue. I

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feel guilty for not putting it up because he put

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He did put something thoughtful behind it, but I'm just

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not comfortable. I dropped a few hints that I wasn't

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comfortable with it. Like I said, I don't know about

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the stickers, but hanging up the calendar would be nice

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because they had kittens on it. We've had a really

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good week. Today he came into my office, opened the

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calendar and put six or seven stickers on it and said,

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I really don't want to rain on your sticker idea.

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Though she said no, she said, I really don't want

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to rain on your sticker idea, and I proceeded to

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directly explain he kind of acted like it was ridiculous

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and that I would feel, oh, I would feel that way,

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and made it out to be like I was jealous,

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which I can see why it came across that way. Yeah,

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I lost my place. See that's what happened.

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But I think that's I think that in itself describes everything.

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I don't even think you have to finish the story.

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But but needless to say, she said that he's done

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it before with his ex girlfriends. He's always done it

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with his ex girlfriends. And they got into an argument

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and he didn't put any stickers on the days they

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had arguments, the only stickers that they had good days on.

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And she she wasn't sure how to handle the situation

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because she felt like he was he was he was

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patronizing her, and you know, just it's it's weird. It's weird.

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It's like me weird because like as as a therapist,

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as you know, as a psychologist and whatnot, Like I

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could see how the gist of it might be a

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good idea, but only if it was like a mutual

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what can we do right? One he's recycling a previously

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done exercise, and he let her know that it was

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previously done with other couples, you know, with his other relationships.

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So that's number one. Number two, who's the one that

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gets to decide? It sounds like he's a kindergarten teacher

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creating a reward chart, and you believe it or not,

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that is exactly what he's doing. He's creating, you know,

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a reward chart. But it's like, for what is the purpose?

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Because again, we come up with ideas, we come up

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with with things, and I have to admit I may

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have been guilty of this at some point in my

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life too. It's like we come up with these ideas

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is because we find ourselves in these these places. Uh yeah,

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do we go get ice cream? If we get so

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many stickers?

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You like?

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You know, but you have to ask what is what?

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What was your intent with this exercise? You know, what

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were you hoping to accomplish? And two why are we

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Because I can't speak for all women, but I know

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me as a woman, I and I think just because

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I'm a leo, I want to be you know what,

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don't even go there. I want to be special, you know,

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like I don't want to be doing the same thing

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that you were doing with everybody else. I mean, I

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know things are going to be repeated and all that.

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But.

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Something like that, that that's not something you want to

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be another person in line for, right, you know. And

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and again I just gotta I gotta ask what was

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the intent? What was what was your hope? Because I mean,

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who decides when it was a good day and when

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it was a bad day? You know, Corleone, I can

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fight with you all day and it's still gonna be

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a good day.

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Absolutely, Yeah, well it's always gonna be a good day.

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So many questions, so many questions about that one right there.

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Yeah.

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So I mean concept, the concept itself, you know, like

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when you're a couple and you're coming to uh like

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ideas ideas of how we can make things work, and

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but that that requires both people to contribute, you know, right.

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Yeah, So I'm not Yeah, I'm not. I don't Yeah,

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I don't understand. Why the fuck you're not a man?

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Yeah?

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Yeah, I mean to get a calendar and just here's

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your gold sticker. I mean, what the fuck you like?

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She said? Is it a reward chart?

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Yeah?

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Yeah?

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Who wants to be a repeat. Listen, listen, let me

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tell you something that's like you and your ex had

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a favorite restaurant, and now when we have a special occasion,

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you want to take me to that same restaurant.

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Well maybe they got good fucking wings.

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Okay, well we're gonna have to but for our special thing,

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know you, then we go. Now we have to find

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our own special place. Yes, unique in your own way.

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And if there is an issue, yes, we do need

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to talk about it and again sometimes again. Because I

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did marriage you know, I was a marriage and family

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therapist almost twenty years. It's like, yes, it it does

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behoove you to find some tools that will be helpful

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in figuring out, you know, what's going on. Like, for instance,

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I had a conversation.

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That one second. Let me bring you in.

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Okay, tg lo, now we we're on. We're on some

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just catch up, catch up? What are you talking about?

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I got a calendar. I'm going to put stickers on

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for you, just gold golden stickers. So at the end

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of the week you get ice cream.

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Oh oh see, like the concept, the concept this sweet,

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but it's like what is the purpose?

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You know? Like yeah, oh so let me just run

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her up real quick. Yeah, so we got got got

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a story, chick says. This woman says her boyfriend gave

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her a calendar. He explains to her that he's done

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this before with his ex girlfriends. He gives them, he's

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given them a calendar and on the good days, he

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put stickers on the days that were good, and no

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stickers on the days that were bad.

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And let me let me follow up with that, Oh

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you put sticker. He was putting stickers on this calendar

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for when they had good relationship days, and then no

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stickers if they had a bad relationship day, like an

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argument or something, you know. And it came up with

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this all by himself, no consultation or nothing. And so

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she's like, well, thanks for the calendar, but I'm not

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sure how I feel about this whole exercise. Uh. And

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the fact that again it's something he did with previous relationships.

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Yeah, that's why they're axes.

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Yes, if you do what you've always done, you're gonna

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get what you always got.

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So you just doomed it words.

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Yeah that's so weird.

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Yeah, it's like, all right, gold star, here you go.

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We had a good day.

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Yeah. Oh wait, that star is not deserved.

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I mean, every day is different, and like there's so

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many reasons why people get into arguments, and sometimes they're

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not even big arguments, like it's just stupid shit and

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you get over it or whatever, little tip for tat things.

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But right, but like to value every day a certain

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way on your relationship, that's just strange.

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That's that's that's a way to look at it, you

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know what I mean?

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I mean, yeah, like what is he doing like counting

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back on like how many good days?

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Like oh we were good on you know?

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Well, I think he I think what Cole said was

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that he was trying to prove to her that they

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have more good days than that. But my thing is, regardless,

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what what are we doing about these no star days?

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Like are we actually doing something too?

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Is there some kind of communication like kind of communication?

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Does it just count as a no star day we failed?

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Or like are I mean, what's the grating system exactly?

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You know, is it eighty to ninety percent?

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What's happened?

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We got a GPA for each semester exactly? Oh ipp

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in the party? I need a gold star? Oh my god,

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that's hilarious.

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Oh shit, Yeah, but I mean it's it's it but

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the fact that he said to her, I've done this

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with my exes, and now I'm gonna do this with you.

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As soon as you say I did this with my

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ex I'm gonna say, well, then that's next right there.

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Yeah, that didn't work that didn't work out.

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So by Felicia, oh man, you know ec Yeah, it's like, yeah,

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it is weird. It is a weird, a weird situation. Yeah.

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So now I'm gonna go to the second story, okay,

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and I have to read this one. This one TG

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will be here for and she can give me a

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gold sticker if I read it correctly. All right, So

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all right, so I'm I'm a twenty eight year old male.

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There is wrong. We don't need to be reading about

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no twenty eight year old males. Thanks, Derek Sack hasn't

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even dropped yet.

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Man, all right, all right, so jacket, all right, I'm

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a twenty eight year old male. I've been living with

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my girlfriend who's thirty one, for almost two and a

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half years now, and I'm feeling really stressed, stressed out

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about the relationship dynamic. Here's the situation. I moved into

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her apartment with the initial agreement of splitting the bills,

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housework expenses and rent and whatever else. Months go by

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and the intimacy dies completely, so almost nonexistent at this point.

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No cuddles, no hugs, no kisses, no sex. As time

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goes on, I feel like I'm doing everything for my

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partner and I'm still not having my needs met. We

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both work full time jobs. I have a pretty chill

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work schedule. Some days I work four hours, some days

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I work nine hours, while she works a full eight

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hour plus day every day. Most of the time. After work,

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I tidy up the apartment. I buy her favorite bottle

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of wine, I make her dinner or order food, and

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then put on her favorite crime drama for us to

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sit and enjoy. I try my best to go out

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of my way, above and beyond whatever is possible to

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support her. I make her feel loved in every way that.

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I can, except for the fact that you have to

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split the bills. What the heck is that about?

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All right?

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Right, on the other hand, she is. In the other hand,

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she's in mindor debt from school and other things, so

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afterwards she seems stressed and overwhelmed. I don't ask her

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for much. I just want to be there for her

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and in return, I want to have some genuine connection

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with her. In the past few months, I've been feeling

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like my needs have been extremely neglected. We have not

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had section over four months. It's not okay with me.

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I believe relationships are supposed to go both ways, and I,

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unfortunately have not been on the receiving end. The past

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few times I've tried to initiate sexual advances with her,

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she flat out and said she's not in a mood

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or not tonight, and I have just given up on

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making more attempts at the risk of me feeling inadequate

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and embarrassed. I have tried to bring up my feelings

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on multiple occasions, and her reaction is that I'm nagging.

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I'm nagging her, and that I always point out the

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things that she does wrong, and I never look at myself.

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I never look at myself right. And then all right,

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I feel like I I cannot have a conversation with

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her explaining that I have needs and expectations, and I

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am really hurt over the fact that she isn't willing

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to reciprocate supporting me and making me feel heard. It's

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frustrating to stay.

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The least where a reverse relationship?

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Where where else am I supposed to turn for my

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needs to be met? What else can I do beyond

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communicating my feelings with her? How long do I have

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to keep on putting up with the relationship, this relationship dynamic?

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We don't have money for couple's therapy? Are my feelings

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justified or feeling like I should consider taking a break

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for this relationship? I genuinely don't know what to do

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or where to turn. I love this woman to death,

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but I also cannot keep living my life.

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Like this agreed four months that's wrong with you?

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Yeah, but okay, even beyond that. So he's talking about

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all the things that he does for her, But the

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thing is was that did they have that discussion about

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expectations and all of those things in the beginning? Like, yeah,

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I'm sure they didn't, and you know not that everybody

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subscribes to love languages, But it's that whole thing about

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you're loving somebody the way you want to be loved,

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but are you loving them the way they want to

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be loved? So he feels like he's overextending himself. But

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has she expressed that that's what she wants? That that's

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what she needs. And I'm sorry, but you could cook

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all the meals you want. That has nothing. That is

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a totally separate thing from our sex life. Like I

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don't gauge my sex life based on how many things

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you do for me, and it a lot of women,

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not all, But that's not how I feel loved and valued.

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You know, just because you clean something or just because

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you pick up Hello, you live there too, that's just

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as much your responsibility as his mind. They're not doing

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me no favors, right, you know. Now if you see

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me doing it and you help me with it, that's

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that's valuable. But that's only valuable to me. You got

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to know what she's thinking, you know, and find out

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what her reason is for not wanting to be intimate,

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because she may have a valid reason. Everybody's feelings are valid,

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so he's when he says, are my feelings valid? Of

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course they're valid, but so with hers. Have we even

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discussed if she has feelings about any of this? Or

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you know, like, what are these conversations that that is

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he talking to her or is he talking at her?

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Right? I mean maybe maybe maybe, Like like this is

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only one side of the story. Yeah, you know, his

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feet is thinking bed. I mean maybe that's the problem.

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I mean, maybe he doesn't know how to wipe his ass.

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I don't know. Maybe he does know how to take

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a shower and he doesn't.

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And it smells like something died, you know, like oh boy,

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he burbs and it's a beef hot dog.

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I mean, I don't know, you know what I'm saying.

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I mean, it could be a whole lot of different things.

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Living with somebody and being in a relationship with somebody.

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If they stinking you haven't said something that's bullshit.

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Well if the woman isn't, you know, if she if

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she ain't standing up for herself, I could see that happening.

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Yeah, I mean, yes, if someone's not standing up for themselves.

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But that's kind of weird that you would want to

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be with somebody who's smelling.

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I'm like, you either address it or I'm out right.

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So I don't know. I just take the whole thing

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of like, this is what happens prior to people cheating,

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Like they they try so hard on their end or

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I think they're doing everything they need to be doing

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for the relationship to be better. But it's it could

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just be assumptions being made of what is going to

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make this relationship better, And it sounds to me like

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something is going on with her that she isn't voicing

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because or he's not hearing, because that.

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Could be possible too, just not hearing.

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Yeah, Like we're talking four months of no intimacy, like no,

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and you live with this person, Like I just I

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feel like I'm not saying no, I am saying that

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in a real relationship there needs to be multiple levels

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of intimacy, not just sex, but when there is no

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kind of intimacy and a person's needs aren't being met

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in any way in a relationship, and he says that

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he's voiced it and she's like take you'd been like whatever,

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You're just like okay. So I feel like maybe he

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is trying to let her know and she's not trying

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to hear it. So if you're trying and there's no resolve,

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there's nothing coming back from that other person, And that's

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sometimes it sit down and say listen, I don't think

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this is working out because like I need more than

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what you're giving me. You're not telling me what's going

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on on your end. Obviously something's up, but like I'm

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not here for a roommate. I'm here for a relationship.

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So because it sounds like he feels like a roommate right.

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Now, I'm sorry, but I'm going to go back to

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my original comment TG and I know that we don't

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all feel the same, but it sounded from the very

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beginning the way you guys set things up it was

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a roommate situation. Because I'm sorry, it's a roommate situation

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if we're both paying half the bills.

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Like no, I think that's kind of the norm these

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days because it is so expensive.

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I he Yo, you know what that is? Another being, bro,

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you know what I'm saying, Like, Yo, you know what

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he she realized four months ago that she was nothing

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in relationship pervod. What I'm saying, rying that long ass?

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Let it bro, man up, you know what I'm saying.

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That's what.

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Scooter.

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Maybe she's noise that.

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Work street, baby, leave that ship outside.

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Damn, it's sounding like a helicopter was I'm like, it's

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got like a pup punt going on.

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What the heck hold on? Let me just tell him that.

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It's I thought he was on like a little a

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little scooter or something.

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Motorcycle or something.

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You know, yeah, his son's motorcycle. That's what he's saying.

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Now they say't the time of place for that? Now,

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come on, Oh my lord, you were you were saying something,

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you were saying.

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Sorry, sorry, No, I mean, like.

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I said, I know everybody doesn't agree, and maybe that

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is kind of the norm.

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But it's.

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It's us having expectations of people without expressing those expectations

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or even agreeing on being in those situations. So you know,

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it's like whatever, I mean, whatever they decide is what

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they decide. But you know, yes, I gotta, I.

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Gotta you used to handle this. I gotta handle some

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very back. Okay, all right, I'll be back.

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We got it to you.

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You to handle it. Oh damn. Okay.

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So yes, but it's that's it's an unfortunate thing right now.

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But that is the case where in the households it

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is two people trying to work together to to you know,

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pay things. I know of relationships where the husband pays

478
00:33:15.160 --> 00:33:20.480
for the mortgage or whatever and then the white helps

479
00:33:20.559 --> 00:33:25.599
with whatever bills and stuff like that. But I'm doing

480
00:33:25.640 --> 00:33:30.279
all this crap by myself because it's ridiculously hard to

481
00:33:30.359 --> 00:33:30.559
do it.

482
00:33:30.640 --> 00:33:32.279
By yourself. It's just so.

483
00:33:33.799 --> 00:33:38.559
It's it's not doable. The reality is it's it's it's

484
00:33:38.759 --> 00:33:41.440
not doable right now in our country to live on

485
00:33:41.519 --> 00:33:47.880
your own. Like, uh, rent prices are extremely high, groceries

486
00:33:47.920 --> 00:33:53.240
are extremely high. Yas is ridiculous, Like every expense that

487
00:33:53.480 --> 00:33:59.480
we need is expensive, and our wages are not showing Yeah,

488
00:33:59.480 --> 00:34:03.319
they're not showing up that way. So it's like where

489
00:34:04.240 --> 00:34:08.800
I believe what did they say? We're still like I

490
00:34:09.039 --> 00:34:12.360
think in the nineties or the beginning of the two

491
00:34:12.400 --> 00:34:16.599
thousands is when it was like seven dollars the federal

492
00:34:17.159 --> 00:34:23.320
minimum wage and it's still it is so and it's

493
00:34:23.440 --> 00:34:28.519
crazy because the government right now definitely does not want

494
00:34:28.599 --> 00:34:30.559
to raise the minimum wage.

495
00:34:31.159 --> 00:34:36.039
So so it's the government right now is just all

496
00:34:36.119 --> 00:34:40.239
over the place. Yeah, I was telling Corleone, I was like,

497
00:34:42.880 --> 00:34:45.760
all this stuff that's been happening just within the last week,

498
00:34:46.320 --> 00:34:49.480
you know, got me in tears. You know, you're involving

499
00:34:49.639 --> 00:34:53.679
children and all this other stuff. It's just it's crazy

500
00:34:53.960 --> 00:34:58.480
and it's frustrating, and it really leads people to sit

501
00:34:58.599 --> 00:35:00.800
down and say, what what is happening?

502
00:35:01.519 --> 00:35:05.599
Not everyone, unfortunately, a lot of people eat that propaganda

503
00:35:05.760 --> 00:35:09.800
up and are quick to want to deport people and

504
00:35:10.519 --> 00:35:14.880
not care like I've seen videos of people blatantly being

505
00:35:15.119 --> 00:35:19.920
like I don't give a fuck that you're your family's

506
00:35:19.960 --> 00:35:20.719
being torn apart.

507
00:35:20.800 --> 00:35:24.199
You shouldn't be here. And it's interesting because.

508
00:35:24.280 --> 00:35:27.119
A lot of people don't what's going on here? Nothing

509
00:35:27.800 --> 00:35:29.920
about here?

510
00:35:31.360 --> 00:35:33.599
Did I did? I just did? I just hear something

511
00:35:33.639 --> 00:35:34.599
I wasn't supposed to hear.

512
00:35:35.440 --> 00:35:41.639
We're talking about families and then we're talking about families

513
00:35:42.000 --> 00:35:47.519
literally how families are being torn apart because people don't

514
00:35:47.679 --> 00:35:50.239
understand immigrants.

515
00:35:49.920 --> 00:35:57.239
And what can consist of an illegal immigrant or undocumented.

516
00:35:58.320 --> 00:36:03.800
But they're they're removing children that have legal status.

517
00:36:04.280 --> 00:36:09.119
My whole thing is the going to schools. I don't understand,

518
00:36:10.280 --> 00:36:11.599
Like that's one.

519
00:36:11.519 --> 00:36:14.400
Thing, is like the wait before you continue, just not

520
00:36:14.559 --> 00:36:17.039
want to say one thing. Yes, I'm gonna give you

521
00:36:17.320 --> 00:36:18.280
five minutes on this.

522
00:36:22.199 --> 00:36:22.760
Five minutes.

523
00:36:23.320 --> 00:36:27.320
We're not we're not taking sides. We're just stating the

524
00:36:27.519 --> 00:36:29.199
facts that are happening.

525
00:36:29.320 --> 00:36:33.360
Right This is becoming like, this is what's happening in

526
00:36:33.440 --> 00:36:37.559
our country right now. Brown people are being looked at

527
00:36:38.360 --> 00:36:43.599
and taken without and then asking questions later. That's not

528
00:36:43.800 --> 00:36:51.119
okay because illegal undocumented migrants. Immigrants that happen come from

529
00:36:51.280 --> 00:36:56.239
all over, so they are racial profiling with this. If

530
00:36:56.360 --> 00:37:01.960
you have legit criminals, then you have warrant judicial warrants

531
00:37:02.119 --> 00:37:05.800
that you're giving to wherever to get these people showing

532
00:37:05.920 --> 00:37:10.440
up at schools, children schools to scare the ship out

533
00:37:10.480 --> 00:37:12.400
of kids and families.

534
00:37:12.599 --> 00:37:14.400
That's not how you do this.

535
00:37:14.960 --> 00:37:17.760
It's like around them up and then ask questions later.

536
00:37:18.159 --> 00:37:24.960
Puerto Ricans like American they're American citizens, Uh, needing to

537
00:37:25.079 --> 00:37:29.800
have ida on that, Like, yeah.

538
00:37:30.360 --> 00:37:30.840
That happened.

539
00:37:30.880 --> 00:37:33.480
You want the why not not suns out? You know

540
00:37:33.480 --> 00:37:36.400
what I'm saying, because Yo, you know what, Yeah, that's

541
00:37:36.400 --> 00:37:38.559
the plan play out. Then who the hell is gonna

542
00:37:38.559 --> 00:37:40.320
be working in the poms Nobody?

543
00:37:40.400 --> 00:37:41.039
This is the thing.

544
00:37:42.320 --> 00:37:47.199
It's gonna be bad. It's America US big time. And

545
00:37:47.440 --> 00:37:54.400
and those migrant workers they pay taxes, so like they

546
00:37:54.480 --> 00:37:59.159
already showed, I forgot how many billions of dollars undocumented

547
00:37:59.719 --> 00:38:04.880
under documented immigrants make for this country in taxes and

548
00:38:05.000 --> 00:38:10.199
they have no rights. Okay, they're giving us money, but

549
00:38:10.320 --> 00:38:14.760
they're not getting the rights of being a citizen. So

550
00:38:15.280 --> 00:38:19.280
I think it's important for people to understand information and

551
00:38:19.440 --> 00:38:23.559
not have misinformation and understand that a lot of the

552
00:38:23.920 --> 00:38:27.719
people that are here are here legally because they came

553
00:38:27.840 --> 00:38:32.559
here under asylum or visa or something else that got

554
00:38:32.639 --> 00:38:35.079
them into the country and they and it takes a

555
00:38:35.320 --> 00:38:38.679
lot of time. The issues in our government is the

556
00:38:39.119 --> 00:38:40.960
structure for immigration is broken.

557
00:38:42.039 --> 00:38:43.039
They have to fix that.

558
00:38:44.119 --> 00:38:47.800
And it's not about detaining people or throwing them back

559
00:38:47.840 --> 00:38:50.920
to their countries, because that's not how it works.

560
00:38:51.639 --> 00:38:54.199
You know, you have right you have to be from

561
00:38:54.239 --> 00:38:59.079
your work right around. You know what I'm saying. Look

562
00:38:59.119 --> 00:39:01.760
at that that Trump's wife. You know what I'm saying.

563
00:39:02.599 --> 00:39:07.079
You know, like, according to what he wants with birthright citizenship,

564
00:39:07.519 --> 00:39:11.159
then his son Baron doesn't belong here, and neither does Milania.

565
00:39:11.360 --> 00:39:13.199
Goodbye exactly.

566
00:39:13.760 --> 00:39:16.920
That makes no sense, Like you want to get rid

567
00:39:16.960 --> 00:39:21.920
of birthright citizens Like what these people have been here.

568
00:39:23.199 --> 00:39:25.079
Some of us have been here forever. You know what

569
00:39:25.119 --> 00:39:29.039
I'm saying. We've lived our lives, we become citizens or whatever.

570
00:39:29.119 --> 00:39:31.400
It is, Like, it's just crazy.

571
00:39:32.639 --> 00:39:35.400
Did you hear that the ICE was raiding the reservations.

572
00:39:36.599 --> 00:39:38.639
Yes, this is what I'm saying. They are going after

573
00:39:38.760 --> 00:39:40.360
brown people and that's not cool.

574
00:39:40.760 --> 00:39:42.639
That hell, yo, you know what that is that you

575
00:39:42.679 --> 00:39:43.440
know what that's crazy.

576
00:39:43.760 --> 00:39:46.360
So my plan is this, right when I'm like out

577
00:39:46.400 --> 00:39:48.400
of Elizabeth or you know, take a should out of

578
00:39:48.400 --> 00:39:50.280
berger Line, I see Ice, I'm gonna look, I'm gonna

579
00:39:50.280 --> 00:39:54.400
start running right and then like you know, when they

580
00:39:54.480 --> 00:39:55.760
chase me whatever the right.

581
00:39:56.519 --> 00:39:59.719
Like why you're running, I'm like, you know what I mean?

582
00:40:00.239 --> 00:40:02.159
And when I asked me question, But yo, nigga, look,

583
00:40:02.199 --> 00:40:03.960
I'm just ran to my car because I forgot something.

584
00:40:04.760 --> 00:40:06.400
Give some leeway for all. You know what I'm saying.

585
00:40:07.360 --> 00:40:10.000
You know, my fellow Browns, my fellow Browns, get people.

586
00:40:10.039 --> 00:40:12.360
You know I'm saying, bounce. I'm serious, bro, you know.

587
00:40:12.360 --> 00:40:12.719
What I'm saying.

588
00:40:13.000 --> 00:40:17.079
Ice agents took three women, uh the other day because

589
00:40:17.079 --> 00:40:20.280
they were speaking Spanish and they're they're all citizens, yo.

590
00:40:20.440 --> 00:40:24.679
They just they detained the Puerto Rican veteran.

591
00:40:24.639 --> 00:40:28.800
Yeah in Jersey likework.

592
00:40:28.519 --> 00:40:31.599
Yeah and Nork or whatever, right, and like yo, the

593
00:40:31.880 --> 00:40:34.239
the funny thing about it is that I was at

594
00:40:34.280 --> 00:40:36.679
the van to drink good Yo.

595
00:40:36.760 --> 00:40:38.480
I was at the I was at the v.

596
00:40:38.559 --> 00:40:41.519
A today right not yo, yo. You know what it's

597
00:40:41.559 --> 00:40:43.760
a taboo subject. But yo, you know what's happening right now?

598
00:40:43.840 --> 00:40:45.119
We can you know what I'm saying, dance around the

599
00:40:45.159 --> 00:40:48.079
whole ship. I'm not going on that.

600
00:40:48.199 --> 00:40:51.639
We're not We're not We're not going to do this,

601
00:40:51.920 --> 00:40:52.320
but Yo.

602
00:40:52.320 --> 00:40:54.400
It's happening. Bro, you know what I'm saying, like like yo,

603
00:40:54.440 --> 00:40:56.880
you know what? You know what I'm saying, like like Yo,

604
00:40:56.920 --> 00:40:58.960
you know what I mean. We could come by all

605
00:40:59.039 --> 00:41:00.360
we want. You know what I'm saying, but because going

606
00:41:00.400 --> 00:41:02.159
to hit, we're not gonna. We're not gonna talk about

607
00:41:02.159 --> 00:41:05.679
the as well were we Well, we're we're gonna ship.

608
00:41:07.159 --> 00:41:09.480
I think it's hard though, to combay all this ship

609
00:41:09.639 --> 00:41:15.639
when it's affecting our people like as apanic person I

610
00:41:15.840 --> 00:41:16.320
have real.

611
00:41:19.440 --> 00:41:22.400
Yeah, well that's that's affects.

612
00:41:22.440 --> 00:41:24.559
Putting that on anything you could get.

613
00:41:26.960 --> 00:41:34.280
What crying, you know for five years and no relationship.

614
00:41:34.800 --> 00:41:35.920
No, this is not okay.

615
00:41:36.719 --> 00:41:41.159
Look you know what, We're gonna do a show justifying her,

616
00:41:41.320 --> 00:41:44.719
like can we play the match game. Let's find three

617
00:41:45.639 --> 00:41:51.480
acceptable bachelors. Okay, we're gonna grill them and question the

618
00:41:51.559 --> 00:41:54.119
ship out of them, and then she gets to choose

619
00:41:54.199 --> 00:41:59.519
which one. I'm telling this will be amazing. Actually, you

620
00:41:59.599 --> 00:42:02.760
know what you want to talk about real life changes

621
00:42:03.000 --> 00:42:03.360
right here?

622
00:42:05.159 --> 00:42:06.400
You should.

623
00:42:08.800 --> 00:42:09.760
Then goes the hell.

624
00:42:12.400 --> 00:42:14.320
God is going to give you a high five? Girl?

625
00:42:14.440 --> 00:42:18.119
You have no idea call leone Like like that story

626
00:42:18.119 --> 00:42:19.639
you're read that. You know what I'm saying, Is that truth?

627
00:42:19.800 --> 00:42:19.920
Is that?

628
00:42:20.239 --> 00:42:22.199
Is that like fan fiction? Or is that true story?

629
00:42:22.239 --> 00:42:26.840
Because like, yo, you know what you know what man like?

630
00:42:27.039 --> 00:42:28.760
First off, you know what I'm saying, he needs like

631
00:42:29.079 --> 00:42:31.039
strong male guidance. You know what I'm saying, because like,

632
00:42:32.360 --> 00:42:36.679
ain't no way, ain't no way at that age. You

633
00:42:36.679 --> 00:42:37.880
know what I'm saying. Both of them are not You

634
00:42:37.920 --> 00:42:40.079
know what I'm saying. Intimate. You know what I'm saying.

635
00:42:40.119 --> 00:42:42.800
At this point, he's a roommate. You know what I'm saying.

636
00:42:43.119 --> 00:42:43.599
That's one.

637
00:42:43.920 --> 00:42:46.440
Secondly, Secondly, you know what i'm saying, like unless you

638
00:42:46.440 --> 00:42:49.000
know what I'm saying, she has a medical condition. You

639
00:42:49.039 --> 00:42:51.559
know what I'm saying like that, You know what I mean,

640
00:42:51.679 --> 00:42:53.559
Like come on, bro, you know And one more thing,

641
00:42:54.760 --> 00:42:56.280
obviously you know what I'm saying, like he like he

642
00:42:56.320 --> 00:42:58.320
didn't you know what I'm saying right to part where

643
00:42:58.320 --> 00:43:00.840
it was like you know what I'm saying at some

644
00:43:00.920 --> 00:43:02.039
point you know what I'm saying. I'm thinking that you

645
00:43:02.119 --> 00:43:04.559
know she's banging a coworker.

646
00:43:04.199 --> 00:43:06.199
Or something that's right.

647
00:43:06.360 --> 00:43:08.840
You see what I mean? You know what I mean?

648
00:43:09.000 --> 00:43:11.440
Like like, Yo, you know what I mean. You know

649
00:43:11.440 --> 00:43:13.480
what I'm saying. You gotta look at it from every angle.

650
00:43:13.960 --> 00:43:14.519
You know what I'm saying.

651
00:43:15.400 --> 00:43:19.320
But Yo, you know what I'm saying, Like Yo, the

652
00:43:19.400 --> 00:43:20.840
way this do you know what I'm saying something? You

653
00:43:20.840 --> 00:43:24.840
know what I'm saying, like really expressed himself. Man's like, oh,

654
00:43:25.079 --> 00:43:25.639
I see why.

655
00:43:25.719 --> 00:43:30.119
You know what I'm saying. So you're not the dominant

656
00:43:30.199 --> 00:43:37.760
person in the relationship. You're the bitch. Oh my god, Yo?

657
00:43:37.920 --> 00:43:42.119
You know no, No, Yo, that as serious. You know

658
00:43:42.119 --> 00:43:42.519
what I'm saying.

659
00:43:42.559 --> 00:43:43.880
Like like like Yo, you know what you know what

660
00:43:43.920 --> 00:43:46.519
I'm saying, Like you can make lesson still be more,

661
00:43:47.159 --> 00:43:47.840
you see what I mean?

662
00:43:48.119 --> 00:43:50.039
But like Yo, you know what man like like see

663
00:43:50.119 --> 00:43:50.639
like should let that?

664
00:43:50.760 --> 00:43:50.840
Yo?

665
00:43:51.000 --> 00:43:51.400
Yo? Yo?

666
00:43:51.440 --> 00:43:53.039
You know what should like that? Push me off? Is

667
00:43:53.119 --> 00:43:54.920
like you know what I'm saying, because like Yo.

668
00:43:55.239 --> 00:43:57.079
Be vulnerable and sharing their feelings.

669
00:43:57.320 --> 00:43:59.239
But at the same time, Yo, at the same time,

670
00:43:59.599 --> 00:44:02.280
like Yo, such a dominance somewhere.

671
00:44:02.360 --> 00:44:02.519
Man.

672
00:44:02.800 --> 00:44:04.199
You know what I'm saying, Like stand on your own,

673
00:44:04.239 --> 00:44:05.559
you know what I mean? Like like, Yo, you know

674
00:44:05.639 --> 00:44:07.679
what the way this dude came off, is like I

675
00:44:07.920 --> 00:44:09.960
need her No, bro, we need your sell first.

676
00:44:10.320 --> 00:44:10.920
You know what I'm saying.

677
00:44:11.280 --> 00:44:13.800
Now, what if you know what I'm saying, What if

678
00:44:14.360 --> 00:44:18.079
Homegirl realizes that he loves her more than he loves himself.

679
00:44:18.639 --> 00:44:22.519
You women hate that ship because you know what, you

680
00:44:22.639 --> 00:44:28.360
women hate that shit. Let's let's be honest, love.

681
00:44:28.320 --> 00:44:31.760
Himself and still be vulnerable and sensitive.

682
00:44:31.840 --> 00:44:34.039
No, yes, yes, yes, but yo, you know what the

683
00:44:34.119 --> 00:44:35.760
way that letter came off because I was listening to

684
00:44:35.840 --> 00:44:38.599
that ship, I'm like, Yo, this does sound like a

685
00:44:38.679 --> 00:44:39.280
fucking simp.

686
00:44:39.360 --> 00:44:41.960
Yo, Like you know what, like I love I love

687
00:44:42.039 --> 00:44:43.440
her more than I love myself.

688
00:44:43.559 --> 00:44:44.960
Bro, you know what I'm saying, Like, Yo, you know what,

689
00:44:45.599 --> 00:44:49.079
more than any she figured more than anything.

690
00:44:49.159 --> 00:44:50.360
You know what I'm saying. You know what I'm saying.

691
00:44:50.360 --> 00:44:52.440
It sounds like more than himself telling each other.

692
00:44:53.159 --> 00:44:56.920
Say things like that. You know, I could appreciate a

693
00:44:57.039 --> 00:44:59.760
man who could actually be vulnerable like that and is

694
00:45:00.119 --> 00:45:06.119
actually literally what is wrong is in his relationship. I'm

695
00:45:06.199 --> 00:45:09.480
not even like it's just reading too much into it

696
00:45:09.599 --> 00:45:11.280
because he was pretty clear.

697
00:45:11.920 --> 00:45:14.199
From how from from from how I took it and

698
00:45:14.320 --> 00:45:17.000
sounding like yo, you know what, like like you know,

699
00:45:17.079 --> 00:45:19.880
like she figured out, Yo, she figured out that.

700
00:45:19.920 --> 00:45:22.320
You know what I'm saying, like, oh, this it was

701
00:45:22.360 --> 00:45:24.239
like a getover. You know what I'm saying. I don't

702
00:45:24.239 --> 00:45:27.440
read any comments, easy peasy, you know what I mean.

703
00:45:27.559 --> 00:45:29.400
It's a get over. You know what I'm saying. Like

704
00:45:29.519 --> 00:45:30.840
that's the way that let it came out. That's what

705
00:45:30.920 --> 00:45:31.760
I was like, Yo, is that real?

706
00:45:32.519 --> 00:45:34.400
You know what I'm saying, because ain't no way you

707
00:45:34.440 --> 00:45:36.039
know I'm saying like, Yo, you know wait, first off,

708
00:45:36.320 --> 00:45:38.079
twenty eight that's the trauma of your life.

709
00:45:38.360 --> 00:45:40.360
You should be t bagging vinces in the club or something.

710
00:45:40.519 --> 00:45:42.639
Oh my god, you know what I'm saying. The fuck?

711
00:45:44.559 --> 00:45:47.360
You know, I cannot believe that you have go make

712
00:45:47.400 --> 00:45:48.760
some horrible or something.

713
00:45:48.840 --> 00:45:49.360
You know what I'm saying.

714
00:45:49.639 --> 00:45:53.719
And you're talking this trash, bro, because.

715
00:45:53.480 --> 00:45:55.239
Yo, yes I can talk this trash. You want to

716
00:45:55.239 --> 00:45:57.320
know why this is all SATs high.

717
00:46:02.679 --> 00:46:05.199
Here?

718
00:46:05.280 --> 00:46:05.800
It hurts?

719
00:46:05.880 --> 00:46:07.760
It's why not not?

720
00:46:08.679 --> 00:46:09.960
But for real though, you know what I'm saying like

721
00:46:10.079 --> 00:46:11.840
like yeah, like yeah, you know what, listen to that.

722
00:46:11.960 --> 00:46:14.039
I'm like, yo, you know what, See that's the problem.

723
00:46:14.039 --> 00:46:15.440
You know what I'm saying, Like like yo, you know

724
00:46:15.519 --> 00:46:19.320
what like like listen to it. It came out like, oh,

725
00:46:19.400 --> 00:46:21.280
well listen me. You know what I'm saying, Like, bro,

726
00:46:21.480 --> 00:46:22.440
look you know what I'm saying.

727
00:46:22.880 --> 00:46:24.559
I don't know if it came over as oh, whoa

728
00:46:24.719 --> 00:46:25.559
was me? I think you can.

729
00:46:25.800 --> 00:46:27.239
That's how you know, That's how I do.

730
00:46:27.360 --> 00:46:29.239
That's how you're trying to tell me. You're trying to

731
00:46:29.280 --> 00:46:32.800
tell me that that you're you're you know, you got

732
00:46:32.920 --> 00:46:34.840
you have a lady that that that's that work doing

733
00:46:35.000 --> 00:46:39.000
things and ship right and you chill and and you

734
00:46:39.079 --> 00:46:41.639
know you're doing, you're cleaning up a little bit, you're cooking,

735
00:46:41.719 --> 00:46:42.960
you're clean, you doing, you know what I'm saying. And

736
00:46:43.480 --> 00:46:49.119
and she come you mind it pays you no mine? Yo?

737
00:46:49.199 --> 00:46:49.440
You know what?

738
00:46:49.639 --> 00:46:51.280
Not that part. You know what I'm saying, Like, Yo,

739
00:46:51.360 --> 00:46:53.039
you know what? Not right there?

740
00:46:53.039 --> 00:46:54.719
You know what I'm saying. There's the player's son that yo,

741
00:46:54.800 --> 00:46:57.599
you know what. She's probably occupied somewhere else.

742
00:46:59.039 --> 00:47:00.480
You know what I'm saying. And she's paying, you know,

743
00:47:00.599 --> 00:47:01.920
mind to do and all that. You know what I'm saying.

744
00:47:01.960 --> 00:47:04.239
So like, what is there to discuss what I'm saying?

745
00:47:04.400 --> 00:47:05.639
At some point, you know what I'm saying, you need

746
00:47:05.679 --> 00:47:08.119
to go find out the truth, you know, because like

747
00:47:09.159 --> 00:47:11.079
there is no you know what I'm saying, There is

748
00:47:11.199 --> 00:47:14.320
no like yeah, you know, no, bro, you know what

749
00:47:14.360 --> 00:47:15.840
I'm saying, Like, Yo, you know what her mind is

750
00:47:15.880 --> 00:47:17.599
somewhere else, you know what I'm saying.

751
00:47:17.880 --> 00:47:20.920
It could be somewhere else or with someone. You know

752
00:47:20.960 --> 00:47:22.199
what I'm saying. It's not a good look.

753
00:47:23.400 --> 00:47:26.440
I mean, it's an assumption you're making, yes, for you

754
00:47:27.400 --> 00:47:30.880
have that conversation with her to know exactly you know

755
00:47:30.920 --> 00:47:31.360
what I'm saying.

756
00:47:31.559 --> 00:47:33.239
So instead of writing this letter, you know what I'm saying,

757
00:47:33.400 --> 00:47:34.440
go have that conversation.

758
00:47:35.239 --> 00:47:39.400
But that's what people asking advice do. They kind of

759
00:47:39.440 --> 00:47:41.440
put it out there and then ask for advice, or

760
00:47:41.519 --> 00:47:42.400
we wouldn't.

761
00:47:42.000 --> 00:47:43.000
Have feel.

762
00:47:44.320 --> 00:47:46.599
And from what I you know, like he felt like

763
00:47:46.679 --> 00:47:48.800
he was trying to have the conversation.

764
00:47:50.639 --> 00:47:52.800
Opinion like we like we do when we go to

765
00:47:52.880 --> 00:47:54.440
the doctor and we don't.

766
00:47:54.320 --> 00:47:55.000
Like what they say.

767
00:47:56.000 --> 00:47:58.519
Well, you know what I mean. I mean, you know

768
00:47:58.559 --> 00:47:59.280
what four months?

769
00:47:59.320 --> 00:48:00.639
I mean, it's time for you to get on your

770
00:48:00.679 --> 00:48:04.000
interest and start you know, like you know what I'm saying, like,

771
00:48:04.079 --> 00:48:06.199
see what she's doing over time but not getting paid

772
00:48:06.239 --> 00:48:06.400
for it?

773
00:48:08.079 --> 00:48:08.440
Mm hmm.

774
00:48:11.400 --> 00:48:12.599
Talk the person.

775
00:48:14.519 --> 00:48:17.239
Because in thinking this person is cheating.

776
00:48:17.280 --> 00:48:20.760
I think that's stupid. I think you should go.

777
00:48:23.320 --> 00:48:25.679
No, he needs to just have a conversation with her

778
00:48:26.280 --> 00:48:30.000
and talk to her and tell her these things, and

779
00:48:30.119 --> 00:48:34.119
if she ain't hearing him or giving anything back, then

780
00:48:34.440 --> 00:48:38.239
that should be a sign for him to go. That's it. Like,

781
00:48:39.079 --> 00:48:42.000
it's not good to make assumptions and and pick and

782
00:48:42.159 --> 00:48:45.800
choose what you want and then be like, oh, it

783
00:48:45.880 --> 00:48:47.639
could be this, It could be a million things. It

784
00:48:47.679 --> 00:48:51.440
could be that she's fucking depressed and she's not it

785
00:48:51.519 --> 00:48:55.760
could be that she's suffering, she's not talking.

786
00:48:57.360 --> 00:48:58.880
But as a person, you know what I'm saying, that's

787
00:48:58.920 --> 00:49:02.480
trying to figure it out. You gotta expect everything. The

788
00:49:02.599 --> 00:49:04.519
last thing you the last thing. The last thing I

789
00:49:04.639 --> 00:49:06.679
want to do is get blindsided. The same thing with

790
00:49:06.760 --> 00:49:09.119
everybody else. You know what I'm saying, the last thing,

791
00:49:09.199 --> 00:49:09.320
you know.

792
00:49:09.760 --> 00:49:12.599
But if you go looking to be blindsided, then you're

793
00:49:12.760 --> 00:49:14.960
practically guarante true.

794
00:49:15.000 --> 00:49:16.960
But you know what, though, it's always good to have

795
00:49:17.119 --> 00:49:19.079
you know what I'm saying, even you know, even the

796
00:49:19.119 --> 00:49:21.199
things that can hurt you in mind, it's always good

797
00:49:21.239 --> 00:49:23.039
to like, all right, you know what I'm saying. You

798
00:49:23.079 --> 00:49:25.079
know what I'm saying, like, look at every option you

799
00:49:25.239 --> 00:49:27.920
no stone unturned, you see what I mean?

800
00:49:31.119 --> 00:49:34.000
I don't see the point of investigating, right.

801
00:49:34.079 --> 00:49:37.280
So so so so dumb. Just telling me that you

802
00:49:37.400 --> 00:49:44.079
would rather sit and and think about your your your

803
00:49:44.199 --> 00:49:47.719
lady doing some shit with somebody else in your head

804
00:49:48.000 --> 00:49:50.480
and not confronted her about it. That's what you're saying.

805
00:49:51.360 --> 00:49:53.280
Oh hell no, I'm in front of her. Funk that.

806
00:49:53.559 --> 00:49:54.840
You know what I'm saying, Like like, Yo, you know what,

807
00:49:55.239 --> 00:49:57.280
but what it says.

808
00:49:57.119 --> 00:49:59.239
That's not the case. Like then then what do you do?

809
00:49:59.440 --> 00:50:01.880
You invested gated and you want to hand no, you

810
00:50:01.960 --> 00:50:03.800
know what that that then?

811
00:50:03.840 --> 00:50:05.400
Yell, you know what, it's either talk what I'm saying,

812
00:50:05.400 --> 00:50:06.239
forever hold your piece.

813
00:50:06.280 --> 00:50:07.639
You know what I'm saying, because like, yo, you know what,

814
00:50:08.119 --> 00:50:10.519
if you're gonna forever hold your piece, I'm gonna start

815
00:50:10.519 --> 00:50:11.119
packing my ship.

816
00:50:11.719 --> 00:50:13.679
But what if she comes when she says, but that's

817
00:50:13.719 --> 00:50:15.480
not the case, baby, Like this is what's up? Like

818
00:50:15.559 --> 00:50:17.519
this is this isn't what's going on? We haven't? You

819
00:50:17.519 --> 00:50:17.920
know what I mean?

820
00:50:18.119 --> 00:50:20.599
Alright, the fucking say something? You know what I'm saying.

821
00:50:21.679 --> 00:50:23.039
You fucking say something?

822
00:50:23.079 --> 00:50:23.320
You know what?

823
00:50:24.480 --> 00:50:29.639
First off, you know you don't know how that professor, Yo,

824
00:50:29.800 --> 00:50:33.199
doing that professor reminds, bro. You know what I'm saying, struggle,

825
00:50:33.440 --> 00:50:35.400
you gotta you gotta do I.

826
00:50:35.400 --> 00:50:38.639
Look like all right, you know what though he should know? Yo?

827
00:50:38.719 --> 00:50:38.960
You know what?

828
00:50:39.239 --> 00:50:41.760
You know what I'm saying, Like, Yo, does anybody reminds here?

829
00:50:41.960 --> 00:50:44.199
You know what I'm saying. Do we have teleconnected powers?

830
00:50:44.599 --> 00:50:44.639
No?

831
00:50:45.360 --> 00:50:48.880
Speak? You know what I'm saying, Speak what's on your mind?

832
00:50:49.239 --> 00:50:49.320
Yo?

833
00:50:49.440 --> 00:50:49.800
Lay it out?

834
00:50:49.800 --> 00:50:51.400
You know what I'm saying, even if it hurts, lay

835
00:50:51.440 --> 00:50:54.880
it out, you know, save me the trouble from you

836
00:50:54.920 --> 00:50:55.320
know what I'm.

837
00:50:55.159 --> 00:50:57.400
Saying, like trying to figure out, Oh why why?

838
00:50:57.639 --> 00:50:57.679
No?

839
00:50:58.519 --> 00:50:59.280
Lay it out? That's it?

840
00:51:00.239 --> 00:51:03.280
So? So what what if the rolls are reversed? You

841
00:51:03.360 --> 00:51:06.280
won't giving her no dick, right, you weren't going ahead

842
00:51:06.280 --> 00:51:08.480
and you aren't giving her anything. And she come to

843
00:51:08.519 --> 00:51:10.719
you and she's and she's trying to figure out what

844
00:51:10.800 --> 00:51:15.440
the problem is and you you, you really can't communicate

845
00:51:15.480 --> 00:51:18.079
it because you don't know how to communicate it. You

846
00:51:18.119 --> 00:51:18.599
know what I'm saying.

847
00:51:18.639 --> 00:51:21.119
I tell her yo, you know what yah? Yah, I'll

848
00:51:21.119 --> 00:51:21.559
tell her yo.

849
00:51:21.639 --> 00:51:24.079
Look, you know what you know what I'm saying. First off,

850
00:51:24.119 --> 00:51:26.960
you know what me right now I'll communicate anything.

851
00:51:27.119 --> 00:51:28.480
You know what I'm saying. If I'm hurt, I'll let

852
00:51:28.519 --> 00:51:31.079
it be known. If I'm bothered, I'll let it be known.

853
00:51:31.519 --> 00:51:35.079
You know what I'm saying. I let it be known. Now,

854
00:51:35.119 --> 00:51:37.039
you know what I'm saying. I don't. I don't internalize

855
00:51:37.079 --> 00:51:39.159
it no more. You know what I'm saying. For what

856
00:51:39.639 --> 00:51:43.760
you know? That's gonna make me a better person? You know?

857
00:51:43.920 --> 00:51:45.079
Like you know what I'm saying.

858
00:51:45.119 --> 00:51:46.880
Ship like that and that makes everyone bitter, you know

859
00:51:46.880 --> 00:51:48.719
what I'm saying, because like they always want to keep

860
00:51:48.760 --> 00:51:49.000
things in.

861
00:51:49.119 --> 00:51:51.280
No, man, you gotta let it out. You know what

862
00:51:51.280 --> 00:51:53.599
I'm saying. You gotta let it out. You can't be yo. Yo,

863
00:51:53.679 --> 00:51:55.760
you know what? You know what I'm saying, Like, who

864
00:51:55.840 --> 00:51:56.199
wants yo?

865
00:51:56.280 --> 00:51:56.559
You know what.

866
00:51:58.119 --> 00:51:59.440
I learned, Yo? I learned that.

867
00:51:59.480 --> 00:52:01.519
You know what I'm saying, walking around like Yellowstone ready

868
00:52:01.519 --> 00:52:03.119
to erupt every time it's not a good look.

869
00:52:03.800 --> 00:52:04.360
You know what I'm saying.

870
00:52:04.360 --> 00:52:07.599
Because if you're thinking she's doing it behind your back,

871
00:52:07.599 --> 00:52:08.400
and that's not the case.

872
00:52:09.039 --> 00:52:09.679
But yo, you know what.

873
00:52:10.400 --> 00:52:12.000
Therefore, you know what I'm saying. He needs a man

874
00:52:12.119 --> 00:52:15.000
up an ass. You know what I'm saying, He got

875
00:52:15.039 --> 00:52:16.440
a man up and ask you know what I'm saying, like, Yo,

876
00:52:16.480 --> 00:52:18.400
you know what? You know what I'm saying like instead

877
00:52:18.400 --> 00:52:20.119
of like, oh yeah I do this that and the

878
00:52:20.159 --> 00:52:21.679
third cut that ship off. You know what I'm saying,

879
00:52:21.679 --> 00:52:23.679
real quick, ask like, Yo, why you stop? Yeah, we

880
00:52:23.800 --> 00:52:26.519
need to talk. You know what I'm saying. You gotta

881
00:52:26.519 --> 00:52:29.639
throw the curveball, bro. You know what I mean, like

882
00:52:30.079 --> 00:52:31.400
you can't. You know what I'm saying, You can't keep

883
00:52:31.400 --> 00:52:34.039
you know what I'm saying, pampering her? Throw the curveball

884
00:52:34.119 --> 00:52:36.639
real quick. You know what I'm saying. Once you guys

885
00:52:36.679 --> 00:52:38.480
get to talking or whatever, you know what I'm saying.

886
00:52:38.480 --> 00:52:40.119
All right, you know what I'm saying, Like now, all right,

887
00:52:40.440 --> 00:52:41.559
then you know what I'm saying.

888
00:52:41.599 --> 00:52:44.840
I don't think I don't think it's pamp.

889
00:52:44.920 --> 00:52:48.119
I just think he he's trying to show her that

890
00:52:49.320 --> 00:52:51.800
stop showing her for a minute. Stop showing up.

891
00:52:52.719 --> 00:52:55.960
Yo, She'll start talking, sot'll start the women.

892
00:52:56.239 --> 00:52:59.360
Let the women chime in on that part. What happens

893
00:52:59.400 --> 00:53:03.960
when the guys stops showing that, you know, his appreciation,

894
00:53:04.199 --> 00:53:06.679
I'm not appreciation, but he stops showing you that he

895
00:53:06.800 --> 00:53:08.840
gives a ship. What happens then?

896
00:53:10.159 --> 00:53:10.679
MM hmmm.

897
00:53:11.239 --> 00:53:13.719
I said for a minute, for a minute, stop showing

898
00:53:13.760 --> 00:53:16.880
for a minute. That's you know what I'm saying. She's

899
00:53:16.920 --> 00:53:18.800
gonna talk because.

900
00:53:18.559 --> 00:53:21.639
You know what, it's good to see. What if she notices?

901
00:53:22.079 --> 00:53:26.639
Why not exactly? You know what I'm saying. Now, If

902
00:53:26.679 --> 00:53:28.760
she don't notice, then yo, you know what.

903
00:53:29.719 --> 00:53:31.639
Then you're really really appreciation Then.

904
00:53:32.280 --> 00:53:34.239
Then you know what? Then you know what that says

905
00:53:34.320 --> 00:53:36.519
at all? Yeah, you know what I'm saying. Yo.

906
00:53:36.599 --> 00:53:38.840
You know what, then you're not You're not You're not

907
00:53:38.960 --> 00:53:41.679
in a relationship no more. That's just your roommate that

908
00:53:41.760 --> 00:53:42.840
you're happen to share a bed with.

909
00:53:43.400 --> 00:53:43.800
Mm hmm.

910
00:53:44.519 --> 00:53:46.039
You know what I'm saying, sleeping cousins. You know what

911
00:53:46.039 --> 00:53:51.239
I'm saying to sit yourself related? All right?

912
00:53:52.280 --> 00:53:53.599
You know what I'm saying, like like yo, you know what,

913
00:53:53.719 --> 00:53:55.960
it's foul, but that's what it is. You know what

914
00:53:56.000 --> 00:53:58.079
I'm saying, like like, yo, you know what you can't

915
00:53:58.159 --> 00:54:00.719
keep you know what I'm saying, try to like you know, like, oh,

916
00:54:00.840 --> 00:54:01.199
look at.

917
00:54:01.159 --> 00:54:02.840
Me, look at me for attention, to see what I'm

918
00:54:02.880 --> 00:54:03.320
done for people?

919
00:54:03.440 --> 00:54:04.760
No, bro, you know what I'm saying, Like, Yo, you

920
00:54:04.800 --> 00:54:06.320
know what if you're not if you as a man

921
00:54:06.360 --> 00:54:08.480
in getting that intention. Now you know what I'm saying

922
00:54:08.519 --> 00:54:11.000
and trying to figure out why stop doing it?

923
00:54:11.119 --> 00:54:13.599
Real quick? See if she notices, if she don't notice

924
00:54:13.639 --> 00:54:16.679
that ship, then you know what I'm saying. You know

925
00:54:16.760 --> 00:54:17.360
where you stand?

926
00:54:19.079 --> 00:54:19.199
You know?

927
00:54:19.960 --> 00:54:22.119
I bet you, yo, I bet you real quick. You know, Like,

928
00:54:22.639 --> 00:54:24.280
let's just say you know what I mean, like you

929
00:54:24.360 --> 00:54:26.239
know whatever. You know I'm saying when he starts packing

930
00:54:26.280 --> 00:54:29.360
his ship or whatever. Oh, now you want to talk,

931
00:54:30.840 --> 00:54:32.920
you know what I'm saying. And at some point you

932
00:54:32.960 --> 00:54:36.840
know what I mean, like it just sounds yo, you

933
00:54:36.880 --> 00:54:37.880
know what? Yeah, you know what I'm saying. It just

934
00:54:38.119 --> 00:54:40.599
it just sounds toxic, you know what I'm saying, Like, yo,

935
00:54:40.639 --> 00:54:42.280
you know what? You know what I'm saying. The toxicity

936
00:54:42.360 --> 00:54:43.920
ain't even got to be verbal, you know what I mean.

937
00:54:44.280 --> 00:54:48.719
It's that quiet shit that kills the most. Yeah, yeah,

938
00:54:50.960 --> 00:54:52.239
you know, like shit, you know what I'm saying, Like

939
00:54:52.320 --> 00:54:53.760
like yo, you know what, Like just the other day

940
00:54:53.760 --> 00:54:55.559
and I smacked over ahead with a frying pan because

941
00:54:55.559 --> 00:54:57.400
you know what I'm saying, you know, like I'm throwing

942
00:54:57.440 --> 00:54:59.840
the cross Samsung and be like, yo, my dishwash is broken.

943
00:55:00.199 --> 00:55:02.639
You know what I'm saying, she's acting up. You know,

944
00:55:02.920 --> 00:55:05.480
I mean cooking breakfast for the baby. You know what

945
00:55:05.519 --> 00:55:07.920
I'm saying, cast iron, you know what I'm saying, concussing

946
00:55:08.000 --> 00:55:10.039
all whatever. I still got up and I was say, yo,

947
00:55:10.800 --> 00:55:12.519
you know what I'm saying. My daughter hits harder than you.

948
00:55:13.119 --> 00:55:15.239
You know what I mean? All woozy and ship all right?

949
00:55:15.400 --> 00:55:18.719
So yo, So we communicate though, even if it's even

950
00:55:18.760 --> 00:55:24.440
if domestically violent, got tired, sat tired, satired.

951
00:55:25.400 --> 00:55:27.119
I have to say that because people actually believe me.

952
00:55:27.960 --> 00:55:31.280
It's not it's uh sarcasm.

953
00:55:34.559 --> 00:55:36.519
Not too but like but when I seriously though, you

954
00:55:36.519 --> 00:55:37.920
know what I'm saying, like like yo, you know what

955
00:55:38.440 --> 00:55:42.119
see like see that's the reason why like like stuff

956
00:55:42.199 --> 00:55:43.719
like that pisses me off. You know what I'm saying,

957
00:55:43.760 --> 00:55:46.880
because it's like, yo, you know what it's like, you're

958
00:55:46.920 --> 00:55:51.239
doing all this, you know what I'm saying, and you

959
00:55:51.320 --> 00:55:53.239
all you want is her attention and she pays you

960
00:55:53.320 --> 00:55:56.119
no attention? Right, and it's that silence. Should that be

961
00:55:56.239 --> 00:55:57.039
killing you? You know what I'm saying.

962
00:55:57.039 --> 00:56:00.119
I felt that. I felt that what it's like and

963
00:56:00.199 --> 00:56:03.800
a woman know what I'm saying. I felt that ship yo, Yo,

964
00:56:04.079 --> 00:56:04.320
you know what.

965
00:56:05.519 --> 00:56:06.039
I'm a team.

966
00:56:06.360 --> 00:56:10.280
I'm gonna tell you woman something on why we don't speak.

967
00:56:10.519 --> 00:56:12.480
You know what I'm saying, because yo, you know what.

968
00:56:13.159 --> 00:56:15.400
It's two words. You know what I'm saying, and it's

969
00:56:15.440 --> 00:56:17.840
real simple pride and ego. You know what I'm saying.

970
00:56:18.440 --> 00:56:22.360
And it's stupid and it's stupid. Wait wait, I'm not

971
00:56:22.400 --> 00:56:25.360
even done. It's stupid. But you know what I'm saying.

972
00:56:25.480 --> 00:56:26.360
How we were brought up.

973
00:56:26.360 --> 00:56:27.559
You know what I'm saying, Like a lot of us,

974
00:56:27.599 --> 00:56:29.960
you know what I'm saying, don't know how to swallow

975
00:56:30.000 --> 00:56:32.599
our pride of ego. You know what I'm saying, Yo,

976
00:56:32.679 --> 00:56:34.159
I'm learning. You know what I'm saying, Like, Yo, when

977
00:56:34.199 --> 00:56:39.280
I'm bothered, I speak on them, you know. You know, like, oh,

978
00:56:39.440 --> 00:56:40.719
you know what I'm saying. You know what I'm saying,

979
00:56:40.760 --> 00:56:42.599
Like like I don't even care, Like, yo, you're math

980
00:56:42.639 --> 00:56:43.159
for no reason.

981
00:56:43.239 --> 00:56:44.800
I don't care. Let me be mad real quick and

982
00:56:44.880 --> 00:56:46.239
I'll get over it. You know what I'm saying. That's it,

983
00:56:47.800 --> 00:56:52.519
you know, Like, yeah, I get it, Yeah, I know.

984
00:56:55.239 --> 00:57:03.840
You all right, I got this one. Ay, it's all right.

985
00:57:05.079 --> 00:57:07.639
My best friend stuck with my cheating acts and try

986
00:57:07.679 --> 00:57:08.079
to hide it.

987
00:57:11.960 --> 00:57:15.639
I'm not even you know, but yeah, first off, first off,

988
00:57:15.760 --> 00:57:20.159
you know what I'm saying. First Off, hold on, hold on?

989
00:57:21.199 --> 00:57:23.000
Did a man write this or a woman wrote this?

990
00:57:23.280 --> 00:57:25.079
Woman wrote it? Yeah?

991
00:57:25.119 --> 00:57:25.360
You know what?

992
00:57:25.760 --> 00:57:28.559
Cut them both off? They deserve each other, all right,

993
00:57:29.119 --> 00:57:32.000
So here goes, that's your best run.

994
00:57:32.679 --> 00:57:35.840
Yeah. I feel like I mean some kind I feel

995
00:57:35.880 --> 00:57:38.719
like I'm some kind of sick joke. I don't even

996
00:57:38.800 --> 00:57:42.400
know how to process this. The two people I trusted

997
00:57:42.440 --> 00:57:45.599
the most completely betrayed me, and one of them is

998
00:57:45.719 --> 00:57:48.519
standing here acting like I should be happy for her.

999
00:57:49.679 --> 00:58:00.519
Let's back up, yo, yo system.

1000
00:58:03.000 --> 00:58:05.440
Right, you said this was her a her ax was

1001
00:58:05.480 --> 00:58:05.840
a cheater?

1002
00:58:06.840 --> 00:58:13.679
Right, So twenty six show female and shed all right?

1003
00:58:14.079 --> 00:58:16.800
So she let me back up. My ex and I

1004
00:58:16.960 --> 00:58:20.280
broke up a year ago after I found out he

1005
00:58:20.400 --> 00:58:24.199
had been cheating on me for months, and not just

1006
00:58:24.360 --> 00:58:28.000
with one girl. He had a he had a whole rotation.

1007
00:58:28.719 --> 00:58:29.000
Damn.

1008
00:58:29.320 --> 00:58:33.239
When I finally dumped his lying ass, I was shattered.

1009
00:58:34.239 --> 00:58:39.360
But at least I had my best friend, Emily. Yeah,

1010
00:58:39.440 --> 00:58:43.199
damn Emily she was. She was furious at him, called

1011
00:58:43.320 --> 00:58:47.599
him a narcissistic asshole, swore she'd never even looked in

1012
00:58:47.719 --> 00:58:51.840
the direction again. She was the one who I told

1013
00:58:52.639 --> 00:58:56.280
that told me I deserve so much better. Fast forward

1014
00:58:56.360 --> 00:59:04.039
till last week. Ever started acting off distant, canceling plans,

1015
00:59:04.679 --> 00:59:08.119
taking forever the text back, and when she did, she

1016
00:59:08.440 --> 00:59:13.159
was dry. I figured maybe she was stressed out or

1017
00:59:13.320 --> 00:59:17.159
dating someone new, but something in my gut told me

1018
00:59:17.599 --> 00:59:23.360
she was hiding something. Then a mutual friend casually mentioned

1019
00:59:24.159 --> 00:59:29.000
seeing her at a bar with my ex, just the

1020
00:59:29.079 --> 00:59:34.119
two of them. My stomach dropped. I texted Emily immediately,

1021
00:59:35.199 --> 00:59:39.400
where the fuck are you and are you with this guy?

1022
00:59:39.679 --> 00:59:43.519
Or were you with him the other night? It took

1023
00:59:43.559 --> 00:59:46.960
her hours to reply. Then she hit me with yeah,

1024
00:59:47.039 --> 00:59:50.960
I ran into him. It was totally random. We just

1025
00:59:51.119 --> 00:59:55.440
caught up for a second. In quotations, he put bullshit.

1026
00:59:57.960 --> 01:00:00.599
At this point, I knew something was up, so I

1027
01:00:00.719 --> 01:00:04.639
decided to do some digging, and that's when I found

1028
01:00:04.679 --> 01:00:08.679
out the real story. And I'm not not from Emily

1029
01:00:09.360 --> 01:00:13.920
but from someone else. Apparently she had been seeing him

1030
01:00:13.960 --> 01:00:18.599
for weeks and wasn't and it wasn't some random running.

1031
01:00:19.280 --> 01:00:22.960
She had been sneaking around sleeping with the same guy

1032
01:00:23.119 --> 01:00:27.039
who destroyed me while pretending to be my best friend.

1033
01:00:28.559 --> 01:00:32.639
I was shaking with rage, and when I confronted her,

1034
01:00:33.239 --> 01:00:36.519
she didn't even give her didn't or I didn't even

1035
01:00:36.519 --> 01:00:38.559
give her time to weasel out the weasel whole way

1036
01:00:38.559 --> 01:00:41.440
out of this one. I just looked at her with

1037
01:00:41.599 --> 01:00:45.039
her eyes and said, how long have you been fucking

1038
01:00:45.119 --> 01:00:51.119
my ex? Her face went pale. At first, she tried

1039
01:00:51.199 --> 01:00:56.039
to fake the fake innocent act. What are you talking about?

1040
01:00:57.960 --> 01:01:02.480
So I told her everything I knew well. She opened

1041
01:01:03.360 --> 01:01:08.239
and closed her mouth like a fish. Then she finally

1042
01:01:09.719 --> 01:01:13.679
died and said, I was going to tell you, Oh,

1043
01:01:13.760 --> 01:01:18.920
you were going to tell me like when after the honeymoon,

1044
01:01:19.000 --> 01:01:23.800
phased after you got engaged, or maybe if you ended

1045
01:01:23.880 --> 01:01:28.599
up after I ended up a bridesmaid. Then she hit

1046
01:01:28.679 --> 01:01:32.880
me with I knew this is going to sound crazy,

1047
01:01:34.159 --> 01:01:42.119
but he's really changed. Mm hmm, I almost I almost laughed. Changed.

1048
01:01:43.159 --> 01:01:45.679
The same guy who lied to my face every day

1049
01:01:45.760 --> 01:01:50.119
for months, the same guy who swore was faithful while

1050
01:01:50.239 --> 01:01:54.880
texting other girls in the bed. That guy changed. I

1051
01:01:55.079 --> 01:01:57.400
asked her if she actually gave a damn about me,

1052
01:01:58.000 --> 01:02:01.679
about how she held me while I cried over him,

1053
01:02:02.199 --> 01:02:06.599
about how she ranted about how disgusting he was, how

1054
01:02:06.719 --> 01:02:10.239
she swore she'd never give him she'd never looked in

1055
01:02:10.280 --> 01:02:15.079
his direction, and you know what she said, I do,

1056
01:02:15.440 --> 01:02:20.679
but people make mistakes. You know what, at that point,

1057
01:02:20.880 --> 01:02:24.639
I couldn't even look at her. I walked out, Nah

1058
01:02:24.719 --> 01:02:29.440
bro that hold up, hold up, it's not done. I'm winning.

1059
01:02:29.679 --> 01:02:31.000
Hold happened in TG?

1060
01:02:31.159 --> 01:02:31.599
I think she.

1061
01:02:33.400 --> 01:02:39.480
All right? So now and now and now she's blown

1062
01:02:39.679 --> 01:02:48.079
hold on here she is, man, all right, son, all right,

1063
01:02:48.880 --> 01:02:52.400
because now she's blowing up my phone, apologizing, saying she

1064
01:02:52.519 --> 01:02:55.159
never meant to hurt me, that she didn't plan for

1065
01:02:55.280 --> 01:03:00.880
this to happen. That love is complicated, yo, that's no. No,

1066
01:03:01.519 --> 01:03:07.239
lust is complicated, betrayal is complicated. This this is just disgusting.

1067
01:03:07.840 --> 01:03:09.679
I don't think I can ever look at her the

1068
01:03:09.760 --> 01:03:13.119
same way again. But we've never been friends since we

1069
01:03:13.239 --> 01:03:15.519
were in pre We've been friends, we've been in preschool.

1070
01:03:16.320 --> 01:03:18.360
This hurts so much. I don't know how I can

1071
01:03:18.480 --> 01:03:22.039
go on, go on, or if I can even forgive her,

1072
01:03:22.639 --> 01:03:25.840
How do I get the picture of them together out

1073
01:03:25.880 --> 01:03:26.440
of my head?

1074
01:03:27.679 --> 01:03:29.000
Well? You know what I mean?

1075
01:03:29.039 --> 01:03:30.960
You know what, if you got your friends in preschool that,

1076
01:03:31.159 --> 01:03:32.960
then you shouldn't know she was a slut to begin with.

1077
01:03:33.639 --> 01:03:37.199
I'm saying, like, no, I'm serious that yo. You know what, Yo,

1078
01:03:37.239 --> 01:03:38.679
you know what she could do with some I'm saying

1079
01:03:38.719 --> 01:03:41.079
grimes like that. I'm saying you should have known.

1080
01:03:42.400 --> 01:03:45.159
Say I'm gonna say something different. I don't think it's grimy.

1081
01:03:45.519 --> 01:03:49.800
Like she made a choice, Like she knew who this

1082
01:03:49.960 --> 01:03:55.159
dude was, she knew all about that, and she still

1083
01:03:55.320 --> 01:04:00.920
chose to engage in something with that man. Uh, Like

1084
01:04:01.480 --> 01:04:04.119
she's a grown ass woman and she made that choice.

1085
01:04:04.199 --> 01:04:08.440
Now that check this happened to, she has to just say,

1086
01:04:08.599 --> 01:04:11.480
like what are her boundaries? If this is a deal

1087
01:04:11.599 --> 01:04:15.440
breaker for her of a friendship, then why it's unfortunate

1088
01:04:15.519 --> 01:04:17.800
that your friend did this? But better that you know now,

1089
01:04:18.480 --> 01:04:23.239
better that this is out, now change you know what

1090
01:04:23.320 --> 01:04:25.880
I'm saying. Yeah, and if it if it hurts you

1091
01:04:26.039 --> 01:04:29.400
that much, yeah, But if it hurts you that much,

1092
01:04:29.519 --> 01:04:33.360
then maybe maybe this doesn't need to be your friend

1093
01:04:33.800 --> 01:04:36.280
and that chapter needs to be closed and you need

1094
01:04:36.400 --> 01:04:40.039
to move on, which, well, be the better person, bigger

1095
01:04:40.119 --> 01:04:41.639
person and just none.

1096
01:04:42.280 --> 01:04:43.880
Yeah, you know what, beat a bigger person after you

1097
01:04:44.000 --> 01:04:45.320
beat the ship out of her? You know what I'm saying,

1098
01:04:45.360 --> 01:04:49.639
Like like no, no, no, no, no no no no

1099
01:04:49.760 --> 01:04:53.199
no no no no no no, no, No, you know what,

1100
01:04:53.320 --> 01:04:53.800
get mad?

1101
01:04:54.920 --> 01:04:55.039
Yo?

1102
01:04:55.119 --> 01:04:56.800
You know what, Yo? You know what it's not about

1103
01:04:56.840 --> 01:04:59.159
to do. You know what I'm saying. That's the principle.

1104
01:05:00.000 --> 01:05:04.760
You know what I mean. It doesn't matter. You know

1105
01:05:04.800 --> 01:05:06.760
what I'm saying. So you know what you get. You

1106
01:05:06.920 --> 01:05:11.519
know it doesn't It's principality damage, not tea, not all.

1107
01:05:11.519 --> 01:05:14.079
Your society, all your society. You know what I'm saying.

1108
01:05:14.119 --> 01:05:16.760
Like like, yo, you know what all your society? You

1109
01:05:16.760 --> 01:05:17.599
know I'm saying satire?

1110
01:05:17.599 --> 01:05:17.960
You know what I mean?

1111
01:05:18.039 --> 01:05:20.800
Like I don't, I don't you know, I'm just joking around,

1112
01:05:20.840 --> 01:05:22.559
but like seriously, man, like that's messed up, you know,

1113
01:05:22.760 --> 01:05:25.400
like that best friend. You know what I'm saying, your

1114
01:05:25.440 --> 01:05:28.360
best quote unquote best friend and stuff. Man, Like bro,

1115
01:05:29.320 --> 01:05:30.920
you know what, yo?

1116
01:05:31.039 --> 01:05:31.280
You know what?

1117
01:05:31.679 --> 01:05:33.840
Like like Yo, you know what, I don't see friendships?

1118
01:05:33.840 --> 01:05:36.239
You know what I'm saying, Like you know what I'm saying, bombing.

1119
01:05:36.280 --> 01:05:39.159
You know it's not gonna happen. You know what I'm

1120
01:05:39.159 --> 01:05:42.000
saying because like because like yo, you know what, Like

1121
01:05:42.079 --> 01:05:44.360
with dudes, you know what I'm saying, Like with like

1122
01:05:44.679 --> 01:05:48.360
us men, something like that happened. We banging you up

1123
01:05:48.400 --> 01:05:50.519
right then and there I'm saying, the women we find out,

1124
01:05:50.519 --> 01:05:51.719
you know what I'm saying, we banging you up. You

1125
01:05:51.719 --> 01:05:53.480
know I'm saying, not because of the you know what

1126
01:05:53.519 --> 01:05:56.920
I'm saying, but back then, not because you You know

1127
01:05:56.920 --> 01:05:58.199
what I'm saying, you bag my chick. You know what

1128
01:05:58.199 --> 01:06:00.800
I'm saying, because like times, you know what I'm saying,

1129
01:06:00.800 --> 01:06:02.679
we want You're saying, we have that mentality. It's like,

1130
01:06:02.719 --> 01:06:04.400
all right, you know what I'm saying that at the

1131
01:06:04.480 --> 01:06:07.119
end of the day. Uh, she wasn't my girl. It

1132
01:06:07.280 --> 01:06:09.599
was just my turn what I'm saying, But you should

1133
01:06:09.679 --> 01:06:11.920
know better what I'm saying because we because we treat

1134
01:06:12.000 --> 01:06:12.960
came up in a month together.

1135
01:06:13.280 --> 01:06:14.599
I will never do that to you, but you're gonna

1136
01:06:14.599 --> 01:06:17.400
do this to me say less. You know what I'm saying.

1137
01:06:18.599 --> 01:06:21.960
You know what I'm saying, Like we're gonna have to go, well, yo,

1138
01:06:22.000 --> 01:06:23.559
you know what, We're gonna have to go somewhere discreet

1139
01:06:23.639 --> 01:06:26.199
and let our hands do the talking. And then after that,

1140
01:06:26.280 --> 01:06:27.079
you know what I'm saying, We've done.

1141
01:06:27.119 --> 01:06:28.360
We've done. You know what I'm saying.

1142
01:06:29.079 --> 01:06:31.840
Yes, guys, women and men aren't inferent in that way.

1143
01:06:31.960 --> 01:06:35.840
When we fight, we fight for life and it's probably, yeah,

1144
01:06:35.880 --> 01:06:40.480
you know whatever, it doesn't matter. But what it is

1145
01:06:41.360 --> 01:06:43.800
when you find out who your real friends are though,

1146
01:06:43.840 --> 01:06:47.159
when you start sleeping into your thirties, that's when you

1147
01:06:47.320 --> 01:06:50.840
start seeing who got your back and who doesn't. So

1148
01:06:51.039 --> 01:06:53.880
see this as a blessing because it is because this

1149
01:06:54.039 --> 01:06:55.519
person should.

1150
01:06:57.480 --> 01:07:00.599
And now you can move on.

1151
01:07:02.880 --> 01:07:05.599
But it's pain. It's a painful blessing, of course, and.

1152
01:07:05.639 --> 01:07:10.719
It's gonna hurt. But you know, people made choices here.

1153
01:07:11.199 --> 01:07:13.599
And look, if she stays friends with her, then she's

1154
01:07:14.199 --> 01:07:17.000
still gonna be wrapped up in the drama of the

1155
01:07:17.079 --> 01:07:19.719
bullshit of this man because now he's with her friend.

1156
01:07:20.239 --> 01:07:22.440
Like who wants that? I know I wouldn't want that.

1157
01:07:22.880 --> 01:07:25.679
So what she's gonna be calling her bitching about that

1158
01:07:25.880 --> 01:07:28.519
dude a girl I told you about her already, Like

1159
01:07:28.559 --> 01:07:31.599
why are you coming to me? So it's just it's

1160
01:07:31.760 --> 01:07:34.320
just not a good situation. So I hope that she

1161
01:07:35.039 --> 01:07:39.280
cut ties with both of them and you know, find

1162
01:07:39.320 --> 01:07:39.880
better friends.

1163
01:07:41.719 --> 01:07:45.960
Yeah, see friends, but this might her podcast.

1164
01:07:46.079 --> 01:07:50.639
We are your friends, that's right, and we bitch up for.

1165
01:07:50.760 --> 01:07:54.039
You because at some point we'll tell you something that will.

1166
01:07:53.960 --> 01:07:55.760
Hurt, that's right, and then.

1167
01:08:00.480 --> 01:08:02.719
We hurt your feelings is because you know what I'm saying,

1168
01:08:02.760 --> 01:08:05.519
it's for your own good. Bring back bullying sometimes.

1169
01:08:06.199 --> 01:08:09.159
God now we already have enough for that.

1170
01:08:10.480 --> 01:08:13.760
No, you know what bully I mean, just just think

1171
01:08:13.800 --> 01:08:13.920
of it.

1172
01:08:14.000 --> 01:08:16.439
Think of it like this, all right. So it was

1173
01:08:16.479 --> 01:08:20.039
a year so since they were together. But I mean

1174
01:08:20.439 --> 01:08:23.359
despite the fact that, I mean, they were together for

1175
01:08:23.680 --> 01:08:26.079
for for two and a half years, she said. And

1176
01:08:26.159 --> 01:08:28.880
then yeah, we were split up for a year and

1177
01:08:28.920 --> 01:08:30.319
then all of a sudden you find out your best

1178
01:08:30.359 --> 01:08:31.920
friends for yo, you know what, who you were with

1179
01:08:32.039 --> 01:08:33.000
for two and a half years.

1180
01:08:33.079 --> 01:08:34.680
I mean, there is no despite the fact, you know,

1181
01:08:34.720 --> 01:08:35.960
you know what I'm saying, Like like, yo, you know what.

1182
01:08:36.039 --> 01:08:37.239
It's a loyalty test, bro.

1183
01:08:38.560 --> 01:08:40.319
You know what I mean, Like you failed the test

1184
01:08:41.000 --> 01:08:43.600
of course. Oh yeah, but flying Fellers, I'm not looking

1185
01:08:43.600 --> 01:08:47.439
at I'm never looking at it. Hey, yo, yo, you

1186
01:08:47.520 --> 01:08:49.159
know what she was like, I would never look at

1187
01:08:49.199 --> 01:08:49.680
his direction.

1188
01:08:49.920 --> 01:08:55.119
I'll just look at his erection, you like, Like like, yo,

1189
01:08:55.199 --> 01:08:56.800
you know what you know what I'm saying, Like, I mean,

1190
01:08:57.439 --> 01:08:59.239
I wanted to be on fly on the wall right

1191
01:08:59.399 --> 01:09:01.800
when when you at each other, because I'll expect her

1192
01:09:01.800 --> 01:09:03.720
to say I kind of step the phone lands on

1193
01:09:03.800 --> 01:09:07.119
his deck. You know what I'm saying, Like, hear that excuse,

1194
01:09:07.800 --> 01:09:10.239
that's that that that excuse sounds more feasible than you

1195
01:09:10.239 --> 01:09:10.760
know what I'm saying.

1196
01:09:11.000 --> 01:09:12.439
What I'm a bullshit excuse she gave.

1197
01:09:13.680 --> 01:09:17.359
That's like, oh my god, bro, that's disgusting, man, I mean,

1198
01:09:19.600 --> 01:09:21.760
how can you call somebody your your your best friend,

1199
01:09:21.920 --> 01:09:23.960
especially be a friend since since preschool?

1200
01:09:24.760 --> 01:09:27.880
I mean, and she felt bad about it, right because

1201
01:09:27.880 --> 01:09:29.520
she didn't tell her so she knew she was doing

1202
01:09:29.560 --> 01:09:30.000
something wrong.

1203
01:09:30.199 --> 01:09:30.319
Right.

1204
01:09:33.600 --> 01:09:34.880
You know what I'm saying, You kiss on the cheek

1205
01:09:34.920 --> 01:09:36.520
after you don't give that niggahead and ship. You know

1206
01:09:36.560 --> 01:09:43.039
what I'm saying, disgusting, yeahographic yeah, no problem, It's hard.

1207
01:09:43.760 --> 01:09:50.279
You know, not all jumps aside all right until that moment. Yeah,

1208
01:09:50.359 --> 01:09:53.000
but like like seriously though, all jumps aside, right like

1209
01:09:53.840 --> 01:09:56.079
like see, I mean, you know what I'm saying. Like

1210
01:09:56.199 --> 01:09:57.479
the only reason why, like you know what I'm saying,

1211
01:09:57.640 --> 01:09:59.399
all of us could talk on it is because, like

1212
01:09:59.479 --> 01:10:02.239
you know, we we've been at the receiving that and

1213
01:10:02.319 --> 01:10:03.199
we've been after giving that.

1214
01:10:03.479 --> 01:10:04.119
You know what I'm saying.

1215
01:10:04.479 --> 01:10:08.479
Pause, you know what I'm saying, Like you know, well,

1216
01:10:09.239 --> 01:10:11.439
you know I can't speak for everybody, but I know that,

1217
01:10:11.560 --> 01:10:13.960
you know, I've been at the receiving them some things,

1218
01:10:14.880 --> 01:10:16.479
and I've been at the giving under some things. And

1219
01:10:16.760 --> 01:10:19.760
sometimes it's been vote you know, like so like I

1220
01:10:19.880 --> 01:10:22.680
understand the situation, you know what I'm saying, Like and

1221
01:10:22.800 --> 01:10:24.039
it sucks, you know what I'm saying, because like at

1222
01:10:24.039 --> 01:10:26.279
the end of the day, man, it's like it's like

1223
01:10:27.479 --> 01:10:30.119
you let your you know what I'm saying, You let

1224
01:10:30.159 --> 01:10:30.479
your luck.

1225
01:10:30.520 --> 01:10:32.840
You know what I'm saying. So like that, yo, that yo,

1226
01:10:32.920 --> 01:10:34.039
that right there, you know what I'm saying.

1227
01:10:34.359 --> 01:10:36.119
After a year later, that right there should tell you

1228
01:10:36.560 --> 01:10:38.720
that he's been that she's been lusting your man ever

1229
01:10:38.840 --> 01:10:43.920
since y'all hooked up, you know, necessarily.

1230
01:10:44.000 --> 01:10:47.319
Hold on, hold on, but hold on a minute for them,

1231
01:10:47.600 --> 01:10:50.279
for them to to to hook up.

1232
01:10:51.199 --> 01:10:52.079
She's been using.

1233
01:10:54.079 --> 01:10:56.479
At some point she had to thought about him in

1234
01:10:56.520 --> 01:10:59.079
that in that sense, don't you.

1235
01:10:59.119 --> 01:11:00.960
Think, Yeah, you know what I'm saying, because like, yo,

1236
01:11:01.000 --> 01:11:04.479
you know what, things don't generally happen, you know, not

1237
01:11:04.680 --> 01:11:07.399
like that, you know, because like yo, you know what, like.

1238
01:11:09.520 --> 01:11:10.840
You know, like the woman you know I'm saying the

1239
01:11:10.880 --> 01:11:12.119
woman I know, you know what I'm saying.

1240
01:11:12.159 --> 01:11:14.119
Like some of most of them, you know, like they

1241
01:11:14.119 --> 01:11:17.359
would never toss that threshold ever, you know, and I

1242
01:11:17.439 --> 01:11:17.960
was you know what I'm saying.

1243
01:11:17.960 --> 01:11:18.920
I respect that, you know what I'm.

1244
01:11:18.760 --> 01:11:21.800
Saying, but like like yo, you know what she yo,

1245
01:11:21.960 --> 01:11:23.399
you know what that woman you know what I'm saying,

1246
01:11:23.439 --> 01:11:27.079
that homegirl must to like was secretly feeling him and

1247
01:11:27.199 --> 01:11:29.399
not saying that, and she probably treated him extra mean.

1248
01:11:29.760 --> 01:11:32.399
Trust me, I've experienced that before. And the NeSSI you know,

1249
01:11:32.560 --> 01:11:35.239
you know, like later on you know, like I'm having

1250
01:11:35.279 --> 01:11:37.000
a one night stay with one of my friends.

1251
01:11:37.079 --> 01:11:40.760
Like it's crazy, you know, like you know you said.

1252
01:11:40.840 --> 01:11:45.039
Say that, and it makes me think, none, what the

1253
01:11:45.119 --> 01:11:51.000
heck my god, my daughter's godmother was thinking when you know,

1254
01:11:51.279 --> 01:11:51.479
you know.

1255
01:11:51.479 --> 01:11:53.800
What that's that's that's probably you know what, that's probably

1256
01:11:53.880 --> 01:11:57.079
what That's probably what it is, you know, And it's

1257
01:11:57.159 --> 01:11:59.039
messed up is because like you know what I'm saying,

1258
01:11:59.079 --> 01:12:02.479
like it's it's really yo, it's it's foul, you know

1259
01:12:02.520 --> 01:12:04.000
what I'm saying, Like I have like yo, you know what,

1260
01:12:04.159 --> 01:12:08.119
Like I'm not gonna I'm not gonna you know what

1261
01:12:08.159 --> 01:12:11.800
I'm saying, like like sit here and not speak on it.

1262
01:12:11.840 --> 01:12:13.399
You know what I'm saying like say her not say

1263
01:12:13.439 --> 01:12:14.960
how I feel about it. That ship is foul all

1264
01:12:15.520 --> 01:12:17.760
all around. It's like it makes you want You're saying

1265
01:12:17.920 --> 01:12:18.920
like it makes you think.

1266
01:12:18.960 --> 01:12:20.720
I'm like, all right, you know what? You guys hooked up?

1267
01:12:21.199 --> 01:12:22.800
So how long? You know what I'm saying, Like you've

1268
01:12:22.800 --> 01:12:24.279
been lusted them? Saying you did? You guys have been

1269
01:12:24.359 --> 01:12:27.600
lusting each other? You know what I mean? Like how long?

1270
01:12:27.720 --> 01:12:28.239
What I'm saying, like.

1271
01:12:29.840 --> 01:12:31.800
The question is the question is this too? The question

1272
01:12:31.960 --> 01:12:35.640
is this despite the fact, I mean they did they

1273
01:12:35.680 --> 01:12:38.039
did do what they did? They put they together and

1274
01:12:38.279 --> 01:12:40.119
she didn't tell her, She kept it a secret. She

1275
01:12:40.199 --> 01:12:43.520
knew she was wrong. But can you.

1276
01:12:45.159 --> 01:12:45.800
You can't.

1277
01:12:45.880 --> 01:12:48.720
You can't justify doing what you did. That's one thing.

1278
01:12:49.000 --> 01:12:53.439
No, no justification, bro, like ya, you know what you

1279
01:12:53.600 --> 01:12:55.399
have to you have to you have to wonder.

1280
01:12:56.039 --> 01:12:56.680
You know what I'm saying.

1281
01:12:58.319 --> 01:13:00.119
There's no statues of limitations on that, bro.

1282
01:13:00.640 --> 01:13:02.119
I was just that's that. That's why I was trying

1283
01:13:02.159 --> 01:13:04.680
to go with it. I mean, you can be with

1284
01:13:04.800 --> 01:13:11.399
someone for so many years split up and there's there

1285
01:13:11.399 --> 01:13:13.439
shouldn't be any one of your friends near.

1286
01:13:13.520 --> 01:13:17.520
Anyone you know with no ever like like, yo, you

1287
01:13:17.600 --> 01:13:20.199
know what you like like, yo, you know what. You

1288
01:13:20.239 --> 01:13:22.000
know what I'm saying, Like like Corleone, you know what,

1289
01:13:22.159 --> 01:13:26.119
like you know, like you know what I'm saying, Like

1290
01:13:26.399 --> 01:13:27.920
like with me, like you like you know how I

1291
01:13:27.960 --> 01:13:30.000
get that you know what I'm saying, Like once you've

1292
01:13:30.039 --> 01:13:31.600
been with one of my Once you've been with one

1293
01:13:31.640 --> 01:13:32.800
of my boys. You know what I'm saying. I don't

1294
01:13:32.840 --> 01:13:34.439
look at you as that. You know what I'm saying,

1295
01:13:34.479 --> 01:13:36.319
Like no, you know what I'm saying. It's it's an

1296
01:13:36.399 --> 01:13:39.239
automatic no because you know what I don't.

1297
01:13:39.239 --> 01:13:42.600
You know what I'm saying. I don't. It's it's broke,

1298
01:13:42.680 --> 01:13:43.760
it's you know what I'm saying. You know what I'm

1299
01:13:43.760 --> 01:13:45.880
saying with us as bro code. You know what I mean?

1300
01:13:46.039 --> 01:13:48.880
Like like if you just know you know what I'm saying,

1301
01:13:48.920 --> 01:13:51.439
like that shit is weird, you know what I mean,

1302
01:13:51.520 --> 01:13:53.640
Like it's weird, but like you know, like like a

1303
01:13:53.720 --> 01:13:55.319
lot of people don't have more like don I'm saying

1304
01:13:55.319 --> 01:13:56.520
that type of morals. You know what I'm saying at

1305
01:13:56.520 --> 01:13:57.880
the end of the day is about your morals.

1306
01:13:58.680 --> 01:13:59.239
You know what I'm saying.

1307
01:13:59.640 --> 01:14:03.520
So this's and another thing, you know, and another thing too.

1308
01:14:03.520 --> 01:14:05.000
You know what I'm saying, like I'm thinking about it

1309
01:14:05.079 --> 01:14:05.960
right now, my bad bro.

1310
01:14:06.359 --> 01:14:06.640
But like.

1311
01:14:08.560 --> 01:14:11.199
Homegirl, and she's you know what I'm saying, she's been

1312
01:14:11.239 --> 01:14:13.079
out with a bar with her whatever. She you know

1313
01:14:13.079 --> 01:14:14.760
what I'm saying, Let's just stay her friend is loose

1314
01:14:14.800 --> 01:14:18.640
and she condones that ship, right and she you know

1315
01:14:18.680 --> 01:14:20.039
what I'm saying, And let's just say you know, like

1316
01:14:20.239 --> 01:14:21.720
like yo, you know if you don't know the dynamics

1317
01:14:21.760 --> 01:14:23.680
of the friendship, right, but like let's just say you

1318
01:14:23.720 --> 01:14:23.840
know what.

1319
01:14:23.800 --> 01:14:26.720
I mean, Like, that's the hell of a dynamic.

1320
01:14:27.479 --> 01:14:28.680
You're true, but like you know what I'm saying. The

1321
01:14:28.720 --> 01:14:32.159
actually like how this person really is what I'm saying. Besides,

1322
01:14:32.159 --> 01:14:33.560
you know what I'm saying, helping over with her? Ax,

1323
01:14:33.720 --> 01:14:35.199
you know what I mean, we don't know you know

1324
01:14:35.199 --> 01:14:37.359
what I'm saying, Like, and she's loose with it. If

1325
01:14:37.399 --> 01:14:38.960
she's loose with it, you know what I'm saying. And

1326
01:14:39.079 --> 01:14:40.720
you condone that, you're still you know what I'm saying,

1327
01:14:40.720 --> 01:14:42.399
he's still her friend. You know what I'm saying. What

1328
01:14:42.560 --> 01:14:43.880
makes you think she ain't gonna be loose with you

1329
01:14:43.920 --> 01:14:46.119
know what I'm saying with her ship. That's the way

1330
01:14:46.119 --> 01:14:48.479
you have to look at it. Even though I ask

1331
01:14:48.520 --> 01:14:49.600
your friend, you know what I'm saying, you don't want

1332
01:14:49.600 --> 01:14:51.119
to look at it that way, you know what I'm saying, Like, nah,

1333
01:14:51.199 --> 01:14:51.520
she can't.

1334
01:14:51.560 --> 01:14:53.159
You know what, you have to expect the unexpected on

1335
01:14:53.319 --> 01:14:56.159
every angle, and it's foult you.

1336
01:14:56.159 --> 01:14:58.840
Should you shouldn't. You shouldn't have to, you shouldn't expect.

1337
01:14:58.560 --> 01:15:03.279
You But but yo, you're right, right, You're right, you shouldn't.

1338
01:15:03.479 --> 01:15:06.079
But you know what, based on her personality, you know

1339
01:15:06.119 --> 01:15:08.760
what I'm saying, and she's like loose with it like that,

1340
01:15:08.960 --> 01:15:10.960
and you should expect it in a way.

1341
01:15:13.319 --> 01:15:16.199
I think that's I don't think. I don't think.

1342
01:15:16.359 --> 01:15:18.600
Yeah, like my best friend could be a whole and

1343
01:15:18.680 --> 01:15:22.640
I would never expect her across that line, right, yeah,

1344
01:15:22.760 --> 01:15:25.439
but yo, you know what, that's her problem, But I

1345
01:15:25.479 --> 01:15:27.640
would never expect that.

1346
01:15:28.239 --> 01:15:32.359
I'm yo, Yo, have boundaries, Okay, I guess be for

1347
01:15:32.439 --> 01:15:33.960
the hose and I'm like.

1348
01:15:36.760 --> 01:15:45.840
We have hold on though, like like look, you know what,

1349
01:15:45.960 --> 01:15:47.239
Like what I'm trying to say, is this right?

1350
01:15:47.960 --> 01:15:49.720
If like let's just say, you know what I'm saying,

1351
01:15:49.760 --> 01:15:51.079
Like it's like a group of girls, like you know

1352
01:15:51.119 --> 01:15:53.039
what I'm saying, they all like hung out with and

1353
01:15:53.640 --> 01:15:55.680
she's done it to. You know what I'm saying somebody

1354
01:15:55.720 --> 01:15:58.239
in the group. You're not exempt, you know what I'm saying,

1355
01:15:58.239 --> 01:16:00.159
because she could do that to someone in the group.

1356
01:16:00.159 --> 01:16:01.920
Like you got to do, we would be friends.

1357
01:16:02.239 --> 01:16:05.119
We probably wouldn't be friends with that person if they

1358
01:16:05.199 --> 01:16:07.520
were like that, and you would be calling your friend

1359
01:16:07.600 --> 01:16:10.239
now too, because we don't stay got to be like,

1360
01:16:10.600 --> 01:16:14.319
oh you aren't homegirls a man? Oh ain't he good looking?

1361
01:16:14.479 --> 01:16:15.319
Oh yeah you should?

1362
01:16:15.439 --> 01:16:20.079
No, we doing that like that's kind of weird to

1363
01:16:20.279 --> 01:16:21.760
even it's city.

1364
01:16:22.239 --> 01:16:25.800
But at the same time, though, you know what I mean,

1365
01:16:26.359 --> 01:16:27.800
you know what I'm saying, Like like like I said,

1366
01:16:27.840 --> 01:16:29.399
you know what I think of you, I'm saying that

1367
01:16:29.439 --> 01:16:31.199
I'll talk things as all possibilities.

1368
01:16:32.479 --> 01:16:35.119
You know what I'm saying, all possibilities because.

1369
01:16:34.880 --> 01:16:35.199
You know what.

1370
01:16:36.840 --> 01:16:38.479
I said. You're an overthinker, aren't you?

1371
01:16:40.640 --> 01:16:42.520
Yo? Every angle? You know what I'm saying, because like, yo,

1372
01:16:42.520 --> 01:16:44.000
you know what, you don't want to be surprised or not?

1373
01:16:44.800 --> 01:16:48.520
Uh huh, you know what. I hate surprised.

1374
01:16:48.640 --> 01:16:51.039
That's why I know we can't control it.

1375
01:16:51.359 --> 01:16:53.399
Like you know, no, I don't you know what I'm saying.

1376
01:16:53.439 --> 01:16:55.479
But but but but you know what, though, like sometimes

1377
01:16:55.520 --> 01:16:57.439
you know, you know what I'm saying, like I want

1378
01:16:57.439 --> 01:16:59.279
to be prepared for it, see what I mean?

1379
01:16:59.600 --> 01:17:04.039
I mean obviously want to be prepared to Sometimes it

1380
01:17:04.239 --> 01:17:05.159
just happens.

1381
01:17:07.000 --> 01:17:07.399
Does happen?

1382
01:17:07.479 --> 01:17:10.119
Why? Why live you? Why live your life like that though?

1383
01:17:11.239 --> 01:17:14.600
Because it's why is not fun?

1384
01:17:15.199 --> 01:17:16.119
Because I have nothing to do.

1385
01:17:16.319 --> 01:17:18.560
You shouldn't live your life constantly in that type.

1386
01:17:18.399 --> 01:17:20.399
Of thought that, But I do, though. You want to

1387
01:17:20.439 --> 01:17:22.079
know why because I have nothing but time on my

1388
01:17:22.159 --> 01:17:23.039
hands right now.

1389
01:17:25.199 --> 01:17:26.479
Crocheting or something.

1390
01:17:27.119 --> 01:17:27.239
Yo.

1391
01:17:27.359 --> 01:17:29.479
You know what I was thinking about that? Make a

1392
01:17:29.560 --> 01:17:33.079
mother thro Yo? No, I'm serious. You know what I'm saying.

1393
01:17:33.199 --> 01:17:37.720
I'm serious, you know, like it doesn't just have like

1394
01:17:38.079 --> 01:17:39.800
like yo, you know what I was really thinking about that?

1395
01:17:40.680 --> 01:17:42.119
But then you know I'm saying, like my hands nott

1396
01:17:42.159 --> 01:17:43.239
coordination is not you know.

1397
01:17:44.199 --> 01:17:45.720
You know, to make a blanket.

1398
01:17:45.840 --> 01:17:47.600
I know people who are really bad at sports and

1399
01:17:47.680 --> 01:17:49.119
they're great at crocheing.

1400
01:17:49.279 --> 01:17:53.399
So I'm telling you it's doable. But yes, you know

1401
01:17:53.520 --> 01:17:55.000
theods or something. I don't know.

1402
01:17:56.159 --> 01:17:58.039
I can make a fucking nod, that's easy.

1403
01:17:58.560 --> 01:18:03.680
Yeah, crochet is good. What up my neg what you're

1404
01:18:03.680 --> 01:18:04.800
doing cro Shane?

1405
01:18:08.279 --> 01:18:11.680
Making my mother fucking baking?

1406
01:18:12.880 --> 01:18:14.760
Yo, it's ming famous coming.

1407
01:18:15.840 --> 01:18:20.039
Like scarves scarves by dubs.

1408
01:18:21.359 --> 01:18:26.680
Yeah, oh my wildlife is out. Oh the wildlife is

1409
01:18:26.720 --> 01:18:28.399
out today, wildlife.

1410
01:18:28.479 --> 01:18:31.159
Oh what what are you seeing? I see deer all

1411
01:18:31.199 --> 01:18:31.680
the time here.

1412
01:18:32.279 --> 01:18:34.840
Mm hmm, alright, you know what I do?

1413
01:18:35.239 --> 01:18:37.199
You know, I was about to say something, but it's

1414
01:18:37.199 --> 01:18:39.239
gonna sound real racist. I was like, so there's two

1415
01:18:39.359 --> 01:18:42.000
raccoons running across the street. I was like, oh, raccoon

1416
01:18:42.439 --> 01:18:52.039
swiping nose swiping, right, you know, damn well swipe was

1417
01:18:52.039 --> 01:18:54.359
Puerto Rican stealing the ship.

1418
01:18:59.359 --> 01:19:03.800
He's right, he's a fox.

1419
01:19:03.720 --> 01:19:10.479
Right, No, man, you know what he he got them

1420
01:19:10.520 --> 01:19:13.359
things around his eyes, so like, you know, he's a fox.

1421
01:19:15.039 --> 01:19:17.960
He's a fox. Cool, that's it. Fox school.

1422
01:19:19.159 --> 01:19:21.039
He's probably on too much cold. That's why he got

1423
01:19:21.119 --> 01:19:23.239
ring around his eyes. Always swiping ship.

1424
01:19:26.279 --> 01:19:26.520
Ship.

1425
01:19:31.000 --> 01:19:33.399
Yeah, you know what he's got support that.

1426
01:19:33.880 --> 01:19:37.800
Oh one more thing, one more thing, you know, Donald

1427
01:19:37.800 --> 01:19:42.399
Trump sounder the order to ceasing to sist Duran.

1428
01:19:43.279 --> 01:19:46.960
He was like the door the deported.

1429
01:19:48.039 --> 01:19:48.520
Stupid.

1430
01:19:49.960 --> 01:19:53.439
That was horrible, yo, you know what.

1431
01:19:53.640 --> 01:19:54.840
You know what I'm saying, Like, like you know what,

1432
01:19:54.920 --> 01:19:57.760
little girl, y know, Trump is the type of build

1433
01:19:57.800 --> 01:20:00.159
the wall around your Mexico just because that Mexico and it.

1434
01:20:00.359 --> 01:20:03.000
You know, it to New America.

1435
01:20:04.239 --> 01:20:07.800
Yeah, right, like yeah, like like like like uh hm,

1436
01:20:09.199 --> 01:20:09.560
you know what.

1437
01:20:11.039 --> 01:20:12.359
And New America.

1438
01:20:14.600 --> 01:20:16.640
Because because you know what, I was at the v

1439
01:20:16.760 --> 01:20:18.520
A right and like they were saying that, yo, you

1440
01:20:18.560 --> 01:20:19.920
know what, there's gonna be a lot of cuts in

1441
01:20:19.960 --> 01:20:22.159
the VA and I'm like, of course there.

1442
01:20:22.079 --> 01:20:26.279
Is, you know, as if it didn't stuck already enough.

1443
01:20:26.479 --> 01:20:28.079
Right yeah exactly.

1444
01:20:28.199 --> 01:20:30.960
No, Like like you know, like he was like, oh,

1445
01:20:31.159 --> 01:20:33.359
you know, I'm saying like this person you know, was like, oh,

1446
01:20:34.039 --> 01:20:36.479
if you get like monthly benefits, what I'm saying, I

1447
01:20:36.600 --> 01:20:37.239
expect to see it.

1448
01:20:37.319 --> 01:20:38.880
Hm.

1449
01:20:39.319 --> 01:20:42.680
I'm like, bro, I'm like, yo, you know what, So

1450
01:20:43.000 --> 01:20:45.640
I gotta be outside selling the drugs now, yeah, you

1451
01:20:45.680 --> 01:20:47.279
know what I'm saying, Like like yo, that's crazy.

1452
01:20:49.239 --> 01:20:52.880
And then they're gonna poor you too, right they talked, where.

1453
01:20:52.720 --> 01:20:53.840
You gonna deport me to Brooklyn?

1454
01:20:54.159 --> 01:21:00.880
Please, like swiper.

1455
01:21:02.239 --> 01:21:04.119
The Dominican Republic take them back.

1456
01:21:07.720 --> 01:21:11.560
So with that, oh don't worry, Yeah, don't worry. I

1457
01:21:11.640 --> 01:21:13.079
hung it on my banana boat. You know, I'm saying,

1458
01:21:13.119 --> 01:21:16.560
singing the national anthem, Row row row my boat. You

1459
01:21:16.600 --> 01:21:19.880
know what I'm saying. I'm here what's daft foot?

1460
01:21:21.399 --> 01:21:24.920
All right? Yo?

1461
01:21:25.880 --> 01:21:29.479
Yo? Much a clause it? So I heard the Eagles

1462
01:21:29.520 --> 01:21:32.640
made the human sacrifice to win the Super Bowl.

1463
01:21:33.640 --> 01:21:36.560
What we already been there, done that, dubs you all?

1464
01:21:38.039 --> 01:21:39.720
Yeah, yeah, you know what.

1465
01:21:39.840 --> 01:21:41.800
Don't see you see you see you know what the

1466
01:21:41.800 --> 01:21:44.560
problem with that human sacrifice is they don't have Taylor

1467
01:21:44.560 --> 01:21:45.319
Swift on the side.

1468
01:21:46.479 --> 01:21:50.239
She's a witch in New Orleans singing the place you

1469
01:21:50.479 --> 01:21:51.880
in the place for all that mythical stuff.

1470
01:21:52.880 --> 01:21:53.079
Nah.

1471
01:21:54.000 --> 01:21:56.760
You know what I'm saying now, you know what, yo,

1472
01:21:56.880 --> 01:22:05.439
you know what she's yo? Chiefs by three? Yeah, all right, Yeah,

1473
01:22:05.479 --> 01:22:08.079
the rest are gonna help out bro with that.

1474
01:22:08.439 --> 01:22:10.159
Yeah, I know that. That's that's gonna be. That's gonna

1475
01:22:10.199 --> 01:22:11.560
be a funny game to watch.

1476
01:22:12.479 --> 01:22:17.479
No, I'm just so yeah, That's what I've been doing

1477
01:22:17.560 --> 01:22:18.119
for years now.

1478
01:22:18.239 --> 01:22:23.720
Well, with that being said, people, With that being said,

1479
01:22:26.319 --> 01:22:29.319
it was a hell of a night. We talked a

1480
01:22:29.359 --> 01:22:34.600
lot of ship, laughed at a lot of ship. Hopefully

1481
01:22:34.720 --> 01:22:37.239
none of us starts swiping to support our habits.

1482
01:22:40.680 --> 01:22:41.560
Only page tonight.

1483
01:22:45.119 --> 01:22:48.600
He's gonna open up a foot finished.

1484
01:22:49.119 --> 01:22:52.800
Page there you go on fan page as well. You

1485
01:22:52.840 --> 01:22:55.640
know what I'm saying, Like, like, yo, you know what I'm.

1486
01:22:55.479 --> 01:22:58.079
Gonna started the only Dad's page.

1487
01:22:59.039 --> 01:23:02.640
I'm the only fans set.

1488
01:23:01.880 --> 01:23:04.520
The grandfather of so many kids.

1489
01:23:08.720 --> 01:23:13.119
That is true. That is true. So I want to

1490
01:23:13.239 --> 01:23:21.560
just say that I'm glad everybody was here tonight. Glad

1491
01:23:21.600 --> 01:23:23.199
everybody was here this just to share.

1492
01:23:23.039 --> 01:23:26.760
This real quick. Rais mother.

1493
01:23:28.319 --> 01:23:28.479
Right.

1494
01:23:29.399 --> 01:23:34.600
My girl's birthday tom right. So I want to what's

1495
01:23:34.640 --> 01:23:36.960
her happy birthday? You no do it now?

1496
01:23:37.479 --> 01:23:38.079
You know what I'm saying.

1497
01:23:38.359 --> 01:23:39.319
Maybe why birthday?

1498
01:23:39.479 --> 01:23:40.680
Maybe not right?

1499
01:23:42.279 --> 01:23:42.640
Maybe not?

1500
01:23:43.079 --> 01:23:46.439
You know, like yeah, sorry, like yo, like like yo,

1501
01:23:46.520 --> 01:23:48.279
you know what, another another trip around you know what

1502
01:23:48.279 --> 01:23:51.000
I'm saying, another day trip around the sun.

1503
01:23:51.119 --> 01:23:53.319
You know what I'm saying, Like, I'm very grateful for that.

1504
01:23:55.279 --> 01:23:57.439
I'm grateful that you know what I'm saying, Like, you

1505
01:23:57.479 --> 01:23:57.960
know what I'm saying.

1506
01:23:58.319 --> 01:24:00.439
She's a mother, you know what I'm saying. And I'm

1507
01:24:00.439 --> 01:24:01.920
also grateful that I was able to hurt her up

1508
01:24:01.920 --> 01:24:07.119
with her taxes. You know, you know I said all

1509
01:24:07.159 --> 01:24:09.720
Joe aside because I always got a joke. But like, like, yo,

1510
01:24:09.760 --> 01:24:11.880
you know what, I'm grateful that you know what I'm saying,

1511
01:24:11.920 --> 01:24:15.199
Like that's someone that understands and I'm actually listening.

1512
01:24:15.239 --> 01:24:19.119
I'm actually saying, yo, you know what, I'm actually calm.

1513
01:24:19.159 --> 01:24:19.560
You know what I'm saying.

1514
01:24:19.560 --> 01:24:20.800
It's longer when I got out here. You know what

1515
01:24:20.840 --> 01:24:22.479
I'm saying, Like I feel like bust the balls, yo,

1516
01:24:23.239 --> 01:24:26.239
Like seriously, you know, like like yo, you know what?

1517
01:24:26.359 --> 01:24:28.680
Like it's satire, you know what I'm saying, Like, don't

1518
01:24:28.720 --> 01:24:30.800
you know what I'm saying. Whoever's listening, do not take

1519
01:24:31.319 --> 01:24:32.720
take my words with a grain of salt, you know

1520
01:24:32.720 --> 01:24:35.119
what I'm saying unless I say something like you know,

1521
01:24:35.960 --> 01:24:36.720
like meaningful.

1522
01:24:36.840 --> 01:24:37.439
You know what I'm saying.

1523
01:24:37.439 --> 01:24:42.279
I meant that, you know, like and that's it, you know,

1524
01:24:43.399 --> 01:24:45.039
I take kids with a grain of saut and a

1525
01:24:45.079 --> 01:24:46.520
whole margarita.

1526
01:24:50.359 --> 01:24:52.359
Yo, yo, you know what? And you're being weak about

1527
01:24:52.439 --> 01:24:53.720
used to take a tekula shot after that?

1528
01:24:56.720 --> 01:24:56.880
You know?

1529
01:24:57.199 --> 01:24:59.600
So you know what Corona line to killer shot?

1530
01:25:00.960 --> 01:25:05.479
Yeah, we gotta Yeah. So with that being said, that

1531
01:25:05.640 --> 01:25:08.439
being for the fifth time for the fifth time.

1532
01:25:08.840 --> 01:25:12.359
Although you about that person who fractured the universe for

1533
01:25:12.479 --> 01:25:29.680
the fifth time six you know, stuttering, I'm trying.

1534
01:25:29.399 --> 01:25:30.159
To I'm trying.

1535
01:25:30.479 --> 01:25:33.000
I'm trying to trying to end oh yo yo.

1536
01:25:32.960 --> 01:25:34.680
Yo, yo yo, hold on, hold on one more thing

1537
01:25:35.119 --> 01:25:38.279
more than I'm going to tell you. They was just

1538
01:25:38.319 --> 01:25:39.800
scored again. I just want to let you know. And

1539
01:25:39.880 --> 01:25:44.479
the game has been over since Sunday. So he's a man.

1540
01:25:46.199 --> 01:25:52.840
Guy at least at least I've seen three Super Bowls. Bro,

1541
01:25:53.159 --> 01:25:54.760
you weren't even alive to see one.

1542
01:25:55.920 --> 01:25:57.199
Yes, I was, Yes, I was.

1543
01:25:57.239 --> 01:26:00.520
You want, Yes, I was wanted the wh Thank god

1544
01:26:00.560 --> 01:26:03.880
for ESPN Classic Okay, thank god for NFL Classics. All right,

1545
01:26:04.039 --> 01:26:06.960
it may not being coloring, but it's colored enough. Alright,

1546
01:26:07.840 --> 01:26:11.359
So you go on YouTube, right and thank god for YouTube.

1547
01:26:11.359 --> 01:26:13.560
I can go on YouTube right now and relft something

1548
01:26:13.600 --> 01:26:14.560
that I was even there for.

1549
01:26:15.039 --> 01:26:17.000
That's right, you know what I'm saying.

1550
01:26:17.640 --> 01:26:20.920
Boom live, I watched it live. I'm old than I'm boom.

1551
01:26:24.199 --> 01:26:24.560
Boom.

1552
01:26:27.399 --> 01:26:31.800
Anyway, that's stuffs it done. Hey, Hey, that's stuff's is done.

1553
01:26:32.479 --> 01:26:36.239
That's Gigi Love, that's Lady g I'm big on. This

1554
01:26:36.319 --> 01:26:38.239
has been another episode of this my Her podcast, and

1555
01:26:38.920 --> 01:26:39.560
that at some point

1556
01:26:41.159 --> 01:26:46.479
I heard good night every boom, good night