March 13, 2025

What's Good Wednesday (Recorded Live On 3-5-25)

What's Good Wednesday (Recorded Live On 3-5-25)

Big Corleone and the crew are at it again. They're back with Non-Stop Insight, advice and straight out Shenanigans. It's all Real fun, Real Life and Real Talk and If that doesn't hurt, well keep in mind that This Might Hurt!!!

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Big Corleone and the crew are at it again. They're back with Non-Stop Insight, advice and straight out Shenanigans. It's all Real fun, Real Life and Real Talk and If that doesn't hurt, well keep in mind that This Might Hurt!!!

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Ys, Hey, what's up everybody? It is being call on

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for this Might Herd podcast. Come to you live from

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you know how we do where we come where live

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from in Jersey, PA, South Jersey. I'm not going to

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say Central Jersey because there is no Central Jersey, you

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know how it is. Let me bring in my co host,

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the lovely Lady g Oh, how are you?

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I'm great?

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How are you?

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I I'm good. I'm good, you know, just just chilling

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and doing what we do here at the show. You know, So,

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how how's your how's your last two weeks been?

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Uh, they've been great.

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Just getting some learning on and you know, fixing things

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in life, trying to be a better person, you know.

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All the good stuff.

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Yeah, that is good stuff, good stuff, great stuff. So

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we're gonna have TG. Should be here shortly, Simon Phoenix

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should be here shortly, so we'll see how things go

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with that tonight. But I want to start off with

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nothing political, nothing religious, even though that's all the that

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that's the talk of the town right now, everything that's

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going on in politics and religion and all that other stuff.

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But here at the show, we don't do that. But

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you know, we're here to help you, give you knowledge,

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give you advice, give you whatever it is you feel

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you need in your day to day life, whatever it is.

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Doc Thought is in the building to do. So you

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have fans, let me tell you, Yes, you do. And

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and I don't know why. That's why I put the

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email addresses at the bottom of the screen so you

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guys can directly, you know, hit up your favorite host.

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But you have you have, so you have some fans.

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I'm telling you, don't don't sleep on the Doc Thought.

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I is on top of things here. You know how

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we do. You know TG has a couple sibn Phoenix,

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don't have any really anybody who has something to say

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about about him. It's it's in a negative light, and

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don't want to go there. They just think he's too brash.

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When he gets he'll let him defend himself. They think

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he's too brash and he's too too much sometimes And

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I'm like, but you know, sometimes the world needs to

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know how people really feel, you know what I'm saying.

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So that that is, that is what it is. You

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know what I mean? And maybe he might not show

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up tonight. Let's see hold on one second. Let me

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just all right, Well, he won't be showing up tonight.

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Just got that notification. Okay, so it's just gonna be

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me and the ladies, lucky mean lucky me. Right, all right,

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so first things first, we have some emails we got

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to get to, and I don't know if I should

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if we should wait for TG, but I'll start off

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with one and we'll I guess she'll. I have a

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feeling she'll show up while we're talking about this one.

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It's usually gonna get going, gets good. She pops up, mmhmm. Yeah.

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All right, So here it is. You know, my birthdays

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next week?

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Snay, yeah, early birthday.

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Yeah, I'm gonna be I'm gonna be old, but I

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feel great and I just want everyone to know that, right.

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You really make sixty look good?

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Hey, hey, hey, hey, I make a pretty damn good

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sixty year old, don't I.

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You're still sexy at sixty.

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Yeah, yeah, that's sixty. That's so funny. Gonna be, we're

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gonna be. We're gonna be making millions of dollars by

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the time I'm sixty. We're gonna be making a lot

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of money at this So all right, so here we go.

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Let's start off with this one. I have been with

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my boyfriend for ten years, and I'm considering throwing in

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the towel. All right, let's see what we got here.

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She's a thirty two year old female. I moved away

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from my friends and family to move in with my boyfriend,

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who's thirty six. As soon as I moved in, he

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pressured me to get a job and start contributing. I

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was fine with that, and I got a job and

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have had a stable job ever since. He ended up

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losing his job because he had disagreements with his boss.

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We moved into a different state and started over. He

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found some work, but it was not much. I have

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gone to school and work towards a career, and I'm

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doing pretty good. He has not had a stable job

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since we started dating. He works three to five months

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out of the year and not even forty hours a week.

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Right now, I pay for everything mortgage, food bills, et cetera.

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When I bring up When I bring it up to

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him that our financial situation is not fifty to fifty

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or even sixty forty, he gets mad and says I

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care more about money. I'm frustrated because I have to

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clean up after him, think of things to have to

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do for dinner, et cetera, et cetera. It's not just

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financial either, financials either. He gets very irritated with me,

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and I feel like I walk on eggshells and do

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whatever I can so he doesn't have to have a

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temper tantrum. He's also mentioned how he's in a better

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mood when he has sex, and he treats me so

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much better if I give in. Also, I feel like

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there's so much I can't do because if it isn't

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done the way he thinks is the correct way, then

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it won't work. I haven't been in a lot of relationships,

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but I really don't feel what I have going on

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is healthy. Is this situation worth working through? Or is

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it my time to walk away? Thank you for this email?

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Speak speak.

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All right.

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Ultimately, the thing is, if you were in a relationship

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and you're not feeling fulfilled, whether it you know on

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some level spiritually, emotionally, physically, anytime you're in a relationship,

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you should not have to feel like you're walking on

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eggshell and people, No, relationships are not easy.

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They require work.

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But when you feel like you're being stifled, you're not

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able to grow. You know, there's constant turmoil that's very toxic,

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and people don't realize even if it's worked for you

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for a while, you know, this is just how you

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guys are. Doesn't necessarily mean it's healthy. Right, So when

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you can't genuinely be yourself, then you're pretending to be

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someone that you're not, and that doesn't work long term.

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You know, the logistics of the matter, you know, moving in,

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contributing all that kind of stuff. I mean, that's definitely uh,

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whatever you guys have agreed on, right, But a lot

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of times people fail to have these really hard and

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tough conversations before they move in with each other, before

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they get married, right before they.

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Become you know, exclusive.

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And you know we've talked about stuff like that before, Corleone,

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you know how you were saying, having having those those

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conversations about you know, intentional expectations, and you know, like

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if we don't talk about expectations beforehand.

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It's all about the uncommunicated expectations as what yeah brings up.

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Yeah, because we have to stop thinking that everybody is

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the way that we are, that everybody was raised the

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way we are, you know, you know, as men and women,

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we could be in the same situation and see it

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very differently. So corleone, what what to you might be

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clean to me as a woman might not be clean

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right right, and and vice versa. What what I see

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as dirty or disorganized to you might be totally normal.

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So it's about understanding one another.

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And relationships, no matter what relationship is, whether it's a friendship,

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a romantic relationship, of marriage, should never feel like it's

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one sided.

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Yeah, how do you? How do you? How do you

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maneuver a relationship that makes you feel like you're walking

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on eggshells?

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Yeah?

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And and that then the the reality is that you

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can't because there will always be the one person, always

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feeling unvalued, un you know, fulfilled. And so the excuses

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that he uses about you know, he does better or

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feels better when he has sex. I mean, that's all

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fine and dandy if that's the way he functions, but

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if it's not fulfilling her in any way, then it

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doesn't work. Ultimately, she's gonna have to make that choice

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is it worth it for her?

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You know?

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I talk a lot of times about sometimes, you know,

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especially depending on culture, sometimes the idea of settling for

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less than what you want or need just for the

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just for the having of a relationship. Not being alone

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causes a lot of issues, a lot, a lot of problems.

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No one should ever be in a relationship just not

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to be alone, because you know, there's a saying in Spanish,

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and you know that's that's basically like and I say

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this every day even as a divorced single woman.

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You know, I would so.

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Rather be on my own and at least decently happy.

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I mean, it can be a lonely time, but those

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are few and far between. But I would rather be

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happy alone than really really miserable with someone else, because

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you know, that's that's not a good life to live.

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The fact that the guy is not even able to

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hold a job.

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And yeah, that that's a big bad flag.

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That is a big red flag. Not being able to

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hold a job, only feeling good when he's having sex,

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working three to five months out of a year.

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That that's unacceptable.

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That's just you know, and how do you how do

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you how do you tell a woman when you get

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into a relationship, I mean, not into a relationship, but

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you're in a relationship. But how do you tell a woman, oh, yeah,

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come live with me. She moves in and right away

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she moves in, You're like, boom, this is what you

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gotta do. But not fulfilling your end of the bargain.

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That's just the that's just the guy wanting someone to

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take over his responsibilities because I'm sorry, you know, and

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I'm not talking about you know a lot of people

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say it's old school and you're back, you know, you're

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dating yourself and all this stuff. But human nature, and

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it's not just about upbringing. I mean, upbringing is what

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helps men and women to have their values.

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But a man's natural.

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You know, state of mind, is providing, you know, taking

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care of protecting, providing. You know, men are hunter gatherers

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and women are are the nurturers.

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You know.

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That's that was what we were initially created for. The

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man too, you know, was put in charge of all

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of the animals and beasts on the earth, you know,

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and and women you know, and and again not getting religious,

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but the whole idea of what a man provides.

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For a woman, the woman multiplies right.

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Yeah, thought, okay, TG, Hi, what's good? Thought I was talking?

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I heard all right?

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You know, so it's like a guy provides the food

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and then the woman multiplies it into a dinner. The

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guy provides money, and she turns it into a flourishing account.

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He buys the house and she turns it into a home.

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He gives her a seed and she turns it into children.

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You know, like that, there's a natural give and take.

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I think you're going to say when you said see

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it that you're going to say, weed.

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Oh gosh, that's.

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You know me.

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No.

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But but yeah, I think I think you're You're absolutely right.

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I mean, being in a relationship where you have to

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you know, both people.

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Got to be fed.

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One can't be starving and the other one, you know,

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well fed. That doesn't work.

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So do you think it's time for her to to

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boat out and throw in a towel and start over.

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Uh?

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My advice would be, I think she needs to recognize

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her own value and what she deserves, uh uh, beyond

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what she's receiving. However, people are not gonna do anything

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about their situation unless they are one truly tired and

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two prepared prepared to do things on their own. So

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it's not gonna work if she's not ready to do it.

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So I don't really want to give, you know, advice

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of what I think she should do. But from what

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I see, uh, I just see toxicity in a one

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way relationship that she's never gonna feel fulfilled in, never

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gonna be happy with, and and he's really not valuing

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what she brings to the table, and he's not providing

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anything that she needs.

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She's gonna be bad.

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You like touching that kitty, don't you?

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I do?

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Oh my god, it's so sweet.

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She loves petting the kitty you got, Nie. But yeah,

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if you can't, you can't expect to literally maintain a

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household and a and a and a fam. I don't

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know if they have kids or whatever, but if you're

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if you're running it not even fifty fifth, not even

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sixty forty, you know, And it's just, you know, it's.

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Just it's just not do the I don't even do

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the fifty to fifty. They should both be given their best,

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their one hundreds that whatever that looks like.

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I mean, if I come home, listen to me, if

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I come home, yeah look that, yeah, yeah, listen to me.

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If I come home and I'm and I'm fit, I'm

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not at one hundred. I want I would I would

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hope that my lady would put a hand on my

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shoulder and say I got you. Just do what you

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gotta do to keep.

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Enough in themselves to say this is what I need,

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this is what I want.

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Yeah, exactly. And if you can't be open and have

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that type of communication, then there's no reason, there's no

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there's no there's no way, there's no way it works out.

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There's no way it works out, you know. I just

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I just feel I just feel like my my personal opinion,

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tell this dude straight out, like, listen, bro, if you can't,

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if you can't hold your own anymore, I'm out. And

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if he chooses not to do what he has to

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do to make things right and correct them, well, because

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it looks like she's being the.

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Man right now.

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Oh yeah, wait, what's up thing?

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Oh yeah, it was so we had it was an email.

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This woman said that she moved in with her boyfriend

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and right away he moved he moved her in. He

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was like, you gotta get a job, you gotta you know,

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hold your own whatever, whatever, and she she's been doing everything.

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The guy's only been able to hold a job three

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or five months out of the year. He only he

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only feels good when he has sex, and she feels

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like it's time for to throwing the towel, and we're

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just talking about it, she said, She said, it's not

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even sixty forty, it's not fifty to fifty. She feels

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like he's walking on nakeshells all the time. And yeah,

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so it's it's a bad situation. So my personal opinion

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is if the guy, if he sit him down, have

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a conversation with him, give him that opportunity to correct it.

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If the guy and it doesn't seem like he's gonna

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because if he hasn't, it's been ten years. So if

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he hasn't done it already, he's not gonna do it.

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What you can't hear me?

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No, I heard say that again? How many years?

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Ten? Now?

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Goodbye?

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Yeah, exactly. If he's if it's been ten years and

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he's not holding up his end of the bargain, showing

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you who he.

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Is, you've accepted it, he's not changing.

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No, and she's enabled that until now.

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Yep, Yeah, absolutely absolutely.

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Sometimes the only people we can blame about our bad

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relationships are ourselves because.

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We allow it.

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Listen, listen, I know, I know I was. I was

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in a relationship that was I felt like I was

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walking on glass, not even fucking eggshells. Man, it was terrible,

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and I had I got out. It took a long time,

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but I got out. But you know what I mean.

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So it's possible to get out and and realize that damn,

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you know, I I finally see who I am, I

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find see my worth. I finally see that I mean

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something to myself as well as other people, you know

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what I mean. So it's possible to to to throw

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on a towel and say fuck you, I'm out.

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Yeah, but you gotta love yourself first.

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If you don't love yourself, of course, loving.

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Yourself, love you, then ain't nobody else.

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I love me some me, all right, I love me

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some me. You know what I mean? I do. I

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love me. I love me some cordion man, you know.

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And and and if if I didn't, I wouldn't. I

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wouldn't be able to do the things I do. You know.

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I'm like, sometimes I feel like Rick Flair, Oh my god, yeah,

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sometimes I do.

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I'm Rick Flair.

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I'm no, I'm not going to grow a mullet. That's

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what I can't. I can't grow anything. At this point, you.

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Could wear you could rock mulletwig.

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Yeah, yeah. At this point, if I try to rock anything,

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it's I'm lucky I can rock this, you know what

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I'm saying. But but yeah, sometimes I feel sometimes I

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feel great, sometimes I feel outstanding. Sometimes I feel I

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feel like like damn, you know, I get this this

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rush sometimes and then sometimes I feel like damn. But

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most of the time I'm starting to get I'm starting

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to get into my groove, you know what I mean.

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My birthdays next week, and it's like, yo, you know

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what's uping?

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It's crazy.

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So anyway, that was that and this one the next email.

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Let's see what we have here. Oh, I think TG

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is gonna love this one.

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Go for TG.

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I think you'll love this one. I'll save that one. No, No,

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I'm gonna say the best one for last. You should Yeah,

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all right. My partner doesn't seem to want to marry me. Okay,

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what do I do? All right? My partner doesn't seem

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to like the idea of marriage, at least not with me.

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We have been together for just under four years, and

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I have made it clear that marriage is something that

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I want to be, that I want he and I

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to experience. Sometimes I say that one day he Sometimes

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I think that he will one day proposed to me.

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But on the other hand, he gets angry if the

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topic ever comes up. Most times when I ask him

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about the future, he responds with I'm not sure, or

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I have too much going on right now, it's not

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a good time to talk about it. Our relationship is

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healthy in every other aspect than this. We don't often argue.

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Our families get along, we live together, travel together, and

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I want to spend the rest of my life with him,

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But it seems like he is unsure of me. I

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know I would pick him in any situation. I just

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don't know if he would pick me. I don't want

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to give him an ultimatum, and the idea of leaving

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to find love somewhere else seems like a long shot

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to me. Is it worth staying or is it better

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to leave it in the hopes that I can find

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the type of love but with someone who makes me

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feel more secure than insecure? All right, and this is

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going to go to TG what you can.

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So what I'm hearing is is she wants marriage, but

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he doesn't. So she has an expectation to get married

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to this man, but it seems like he doesn't. That

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was the first thing she said, right like, he doesn't

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want marriage, So she has her answer right there. If

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that is something you're seeking, if that is something that

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you want in your partner, then wouldn't you want your

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partner to want the same thing as you like?

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Right?

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I feel like you deserve for someone to pick you.

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And if he's not picking you, then you know, why

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are you there? Ask yourself why you're staying there? What

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are your reasons? Is it because it's been four years,

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Because that's not a reason to stay. It's up to

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that person what they want to do. But if you

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have an expectation of marriage in a relationship, then your

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partner should know that and hopefully they're on the same page.

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If not, like I just don't. I don't see a

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point in like hoping or going back and forth, or

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maybe I wouldn't want somebody to say maybe to me

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if that's what I want, So I want someone who's

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shure and certain of me. If they're not, then then

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they're not the person. They're not my person. So don't

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you want your person?

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And I think I also think the fact that she's

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thinking and saying that I know in every situation I'll

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choose him, but I don't know if he'll choose me.

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Just this shear fact that you're questioning it and you're

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insecure in it. I feel like you are getting your answer.

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Ask him straight up if you want, but I guess

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be prepared for an answer. It might not be what

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you want. You might not get an answer the way

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you want it because it depends. It sounds like this

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person beets around the bush to begin with. So right,

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so take that as your answer. That is your answer

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right there, right.

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Yeah.

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The reality is people who really want to be with

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people are not going to make excuses, right yeah.

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Yeah, I mean in all in all reallestness, if a

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man and it's just coming from a man, you know,

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if a man doesn't want it, he should just be

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like listen, you know. Yeah, I don't. I don't think

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marriage is for me, you know, I don't. I don't

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think marriage is something I want to do. Maybe I

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I want to just live in cahoots if you be married, yeah,

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you know what I mean.

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I don't want comfortable, you know.

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I would, I would me. I've never been married. I've

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never been married, and sometimes I think to myself, you know,

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I would like to try it. One day, if some

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if somebody would you know what I mean, like I

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want to have I want to have a party. You

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know what I'm saying.

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You just want to have a party.

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No, No, I mean I'm serious, like one. I would

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like to one day, you know, I want. I want.

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I want the house and I want the grandkids and

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the kids to come over. I want to be sipsting

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on my porch, sipping on some sweet tea and a

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Mason jar and just you know what I'm saying, like

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with vodka. Ended of course, but gosh, you know, drink

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that's my point.

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That was my point.

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Wait, wait a minute, sweet tea does not have to

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have sugar in it. Let's get it straight. That's have vodka.

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Oh my god, Oh my god, sweet tea with water.

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This might as well just this might as well. Just

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drink the vodka forget about thee right. But I would,

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I would, really, I would. I would. I would like

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to get married one day. I'm not gonna front. I'm not.

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I'll be sitting here lying if I said I wouldn't,

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I don't. I don't. I'll never want to get married.

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That's not true. I'm lying. If I say I don't

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you know, I understand, I hear that, you know. Uh,

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you know, I just feel like that that's just how

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That's just how I feel, you know. And and to

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be in a relationship and not knowing what the future holds,

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as far as that's concerned, is disturbing to some people,

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you know what I mean. You can sit there and

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then and and and talk about it all you want,

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and and ask about it all you want. But if

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you keep getting you keep getting this, you know what

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I mean, like, what are you what are you supposed

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to do? What are you supposed to do? If if

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the conversation keeps being ignored? I don't know, I think

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I think you know, this dude, isn't isn't about that

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life you did? I mean, I just think he's all

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about just living, living in the situation he's in.

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If it ain't broke, don't fix it.

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Yeah. Yeah, Well some people feel that way, you know.

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If you don't want.

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That, yeah, then you need to do something about it.

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You know. I mean, it's it's terrible sometimes when people

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That's what I'm talking.

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About, people settling. They settle because they're either afraid to

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be alone, don't love themselves enough or you know, I

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think that they'll never do better or don't deserve better.

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And it's a lie.

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That's a lie.

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It is a lie.

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Everyone deserves happiness, and that looks different for everybody.

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Let me tell you something, not everybody. There's some people

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that that can go five fucking kite and kick rocks,

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you know what I'm saying. But there are some people

477
00:32:22.599 --> 00:32:24.599
that do deserve to be happy. You know, there's some

478
00:32:24.599 --> 00:32:27.640
people that deserve to have what they want and deserve

479
00:32:27.759 --> 00:32:32.240
to have the kind of life that that's worth living.

480
00:32:32.400 --> 00:32:35.319
You know what I'm saying. I mean, shit, you have

481
00:32:35.400 --> 00:32:38.880
to have a life worth living towards that.

482
00:32:39.039 --> 00:32:41.480
It's got to be worth the life you want to live.

483
00:32:41.640 --> 00:32:45.000
And maybe you know, for for some people again, like

484
00:32:45.039 --> 00:32:48.160
some people choose not to be parents because that's the

485
00:32:48.200 --> 00:32:51.799
life that they want to live for whatever reason, and

486
00:32:51.799 --> 00:32:55.960
and they are entitled and allowed to have that. But

487
00:32:56.000 --> 00:32:59.160
when somebody gives you their truth, you have to accept it.

488
00:32:59.200 --> 00:33:02.799
Don't keep looking at the potential of what if or

489
00:33:02.920 --> 00:33:06.519
down the road things will change. Well they might not.

490
00:33:06.799 --> 00:33:07.519
This is what I.

491
00:33:07.440 --> 00:33:10.119
Want now, So let's assume that that's going to continue

492
00:33:10.160 --> 00:33:12.960
on for the rest of my life. But no people

493
00:33:13.079 --> 00:33:17.279
want to think that they can change other people and

494
00:33:17.279 --> 00:33:18.119
and mold them.

495
00:33:18.000 --> 00:33:19.400
To what they want them to be.

496
00:33:19.480 --> 00:33:20.319
And it doesn't work.

497
00:33:22.400 --> 00:33:24.920
So they broke them all when they made me. I'll

498
00:33:24.920 --> 00:33:25.839
tell you that right now.

499
00:33:26.079 --> 00:33:26.960
And why is that?

500
00:33:28.000 --> 00:33:28.440
Because?

501
00:33:28.599 --> 00:33:28.799
Man?

502
00:33:30.559 --> 00:33:35.519
Because man, I'm I'm that dude. Yo, I mean you know, yes,

503
00:33:35.559 --> 00:33:40.640
i am, I'm that dude. It's saying it's right that dude.

504
00:33:42.640 --> 00:33:45.759
I'm feeling. I'm in a good mood. I'm in a

505
00:33:45.759 --> 00:33:51.720
great mood. Yeah, I'm in a very good mood today. Awesome.

506
00:33:52.519 --> 00:33:59.599
But but this, but this last email is it's crazy.

507
00:34:00.599 --> 00:34:01.880
I had to read it twice.

508
00:34:02.519 --> 00:34:03.920
He loves the crazy ones.

509
00:34:04.160 --> 00:34:07.400
I yeah, I had to. I read it twice before

510
00:34:07.440 --> 00:34:11.119
I realized that it was what it says. What it

511
00:34:11.159 --> 00:34:18.159
says it says? Oh boy, yeah, all right, here we go,

512
00:34:18.159 --> 00:34:20.079
go for it right.

513
00:34:20.760 --> 00:34:23.360
It's like my anxiety got crazier just now.

514
00:34:25.960 --> 00:34:29.719
My gay friend tried to sleep with my husband. How

515
00:34:29.719 --> 00:34:30.400
do I move on?

516
00:34:32.599 --> 00:34:32.719
All?

517
00:34:32.840 --> 00:34:33.000
Right?

518
00:34:34.079 --> 00:34:35.760
Okay, okay, Yeah.

519
00:34:36.119 --> 00:34:38.000
The title pretty much sums it up.

520
00:34:39.480 --> 00:34:41.639
I think the gay part has anything to do with it.

521
00:34:41.679 --> 00:34:45.239
The fact that anybody's trying to sleep with your friend.

522
00:34:45.039 --> 00:34:47.480
Sleep with your if any any any Yeah, my gay

523
00:34:47.519 --> 00:34:49.360
best friend tried to sleep with my husband.

524
00:34:49.760 --> 00:34:52.679
Yeah, anybody wants to buy and it doesn't matter.

525
00:34:52.719 --> 00:34:55.239
And this is this is this is yeah my gay

526
00:34:55.239 --> 00:34:59.639
best friends. Yeah, so all right. So anyway, so the

527
00:34:59.719 --> 00:35:04.559
title pretty much sums it up. Saturday night, my husband,

528
00:35:05.199 --> 00:35:09.239
best friend, and I went out for drinks. My husband

529
00:35:09.239 --> 00:35:13.840
and I got unusually drunk, to the point where he

530
00:35:13.880 --> 00:35:18.320
blacked out. In our five years together, he has never

531
00:35:18.400 --> 00:35:24.000
blacked out, and he can drink anyway. I ended up

532
00:35:24.039 --> 00:35:29.800
passing out on the living room floor. Oh god, when

533
00:35:30.039 --> 00:35:33.920
when we got home, we're just hanging out. At the

534
00:35:34.119 --> 00:35:37.480
end of the night, my husband says he also fell

535
00:35:37.480 --> 00:35:41.880
asleep and woke up with my friend on top of him,

536
00:35:42.000 --> 00:35:45.760
kissing him and trying to have sex with him. My

537
00:35:46.920 --> 00:35:49.960
husband pushed him off, woke me up and told me

538
00:35:51.400 --> 00:35:56.039
it was time for bed. My friend left, and I

539
00:35:56.119 --> 00:35:59.320
got really upset at my husband for one thing to

540
00:35:59.360 --> 00:36:04.559
go upstairs, and so he went without me. My friend

541
00:36:05.360 --> 00:36:09.960
said by to me, acted like everything was normal. He

542
00:36:10.079 --> 00:36:15.880
even texted me the next morning about about something totally

543
00:36:16.400 --> 00:36:21.159
unrelated again and acting like nothing happened. I'm having a

544
00:36:21.159 --> 00:36:26.280
lot of feelings. I'm angry and disgusted in my friend,

545
00:36:26.920 --> 00:36:30.880
who I invite into my home to violate my husband

546
00:36:31.199 --> 00:36:36.199
and my marriage. I'm sad and I feel guilty. I

547
00:36:36.280 --> 00:36:41.199
can't look at my husband without a flurry of emotions

548
00:36:41.239 --> 00:36:44.679
bubbling up. I don't know what to say or do

549
00:36:45.440 --> 00:36:50.400
that friendship is obviously over now, But how do I

550
00:36:50.440 --> 00:36:53.960
help my husband through this? And how do I stop

551
00:36:54.800 --> 00:36:59.760
the intrusive thoughts that have me questioning everything?

552
00:37:02.519 --> 00:37:07.280
Mhm? What is I'm curious? Why is she questioning everything? Like?

553
00:37:07.360 --> 00:37:16.199
It sounds like so her heart took advantage of took

554
00:37:16.280 --> 00:37:20.079
advantage of her husband. It didn't go anywhere because he

555
00:37:20.199 --> 00:37:25.239
stopped it, woke her up, told her let's go to bed,

556
00:37:26.559 --> 00:37:32.920
and then he told her right basically what happened. And

557
00:37:35.159 --> 00:37:39.519
it wasn't like he was he was very drunk. If

558
00:37:39.519 --> 00:37:42.039
he was like passed out on the floor, so was

559
00:37:42.079 --> 00:37:48.599
she and her friend is on top of him. Like

560
00:37:48.719 --> 00:37:54.960
the only thing you should be worried about is why

561
00:37:55.079 --> 00:37:58.880
you got friends that are like that? Like you need

562
00:37:58.960 --> 00:38:03.360
to do better with your friendship. I don't know what

563
00:38:03.480 --> 00:38:08.159
to say, Like, but her husband did the right thing,

564
00:38:08.400 --> 00:38:12.320
like he told her right away. He you know, I

565
00:38:12.360 --> 00:38:17.280
feel bad, you know, but if he feels like he

566
00:38:17.400 --> 00:38:20.840
needs to talk to somebody. Then he should go talk

567
00:38:20.880 --> 00:38:25.599
to somebody about it. I don't know if.

568
00:38:26.840 --> 00:38:36.880
Oh, my god, is that who I think it is? Oh,

569
00:38:36.920 --> 00:38:38.320
he needs to show up in some way.

570
00:38:40.199 --> 00:38:43.199
But I think I think it's it's it's it's terrible.

571
00:38:43.400 --> 00:38:49.199
It's terrible. Way you're laying there drunk, you know, and

572
00:38:49.280 --> 00:38:52.280
everything's okay. You wake up some dude kissing you and

573
00:38:52.360 --> 00:38:55.840
rubbing on you, and what.

574
00:38:54.880 --> 00:38:59.719
What if it was a chick, you automatically would be like, bitch,

575
00:39:00.079 --> 00:39:04.920
what the fuck? I'm done? So it's the same exact thing.

576
00:39:07.320 --> 00:39:10.760
Nowhere is her husband? Why, like is she thinking that

577
00:39:10.880 --> 00:39:13.320
he might know? Like why would you think that? It

578
00:39:13.400 --> 00:39:16.719
seems like your friend literally took advantage of a situation

579
00:39:18.000 --> 00:39:22.639
and that was not good. And maybe now he needs

580
00:39:22.719 --> 00:39:25.599
to talk to somebody about it. But other than that, like,

581
00:39:26.840 --> 00:39:30.679
what are you questioning your friend sucked? That was fucked up?

582
00:39:30.960 --> 00:39:33.559
Yeah, you know what I mean, Like, it's really fucked up.

583
00:39:34.480 --> 00:39:37.280
It's really fucked up. I mean, how do you? How

584
00:39:37.320 --> 00:39:40.880
do you? And then she's talking about she's talking about

585
00:39:40.880 --> 00:39:43.320
intrusive thoughts, like what kind of intrusive thoughts did she

586
00:39:43.360 --> 00:39:43.960
possibly have?

587
00:39:44.559 --> 00:39:44.800
Right?

588
00:39:45.119 --> 00:39:50.159
Like what would have happened if something had happened.

589
00:39:50.320 --> 00:39:52.320
Maybe it didn't right, but it did.

590
00:39:52.400 --> 00:39:56.000
It Like he put a stop to it when he

591
00:39:56.079 --> 00:39:59.679
realized what was going on and then got her up

592
00:39:59.719 --> 00:40:02.239
to go to bed. So to me, I feel like

593
00:40:03.400 --> 00:40:05.920
that right there meant like he was very uncomfortable with

594
00:40:05.920 --> 00:40:07.119
the situation.

595
00:40:07.159 --> 00:40:15.199
Right right right, I mean drunk or not, some dude

596
00:40:15.599 --> 00:40:18.119
tries doing something like I'm gonna lump his ass the

597
00:40:18.119 --> 00:40:18.880
fuck up right there?

598
00:40:19.360 --> 00:40:21.239
You're straight, like, so.

599
00:40:24.719 --> 00:40:26.880
It's it's it could just be.

600
00:40:27.280 --> 00:40:31.159
The simple fact that her gay friend was attracted to

601
00:40:31.440 --> 00:40:35.239
him from the get anyway. So I don't think she

602
00:40:35.280 --> 00:40:39.119
should think, oh, does he think he's gay? And that's why. No,

603
00:40:39.440 --> 00:40:44.159
it seems like he was trying to take advantage of

604
00:40:44.559 --> 00:40:48.719
of that like a situation of someone, and that's not good.

605
00:40:48.880 --> 00:40:50.920
And you gotta you gotta think to yourself, how long

606
00:40:50.960 --> 00:40:55.440
has he been attracted to you know what I'm saying,

607
00:40:55.519 --> 00:40:56.320
like like were.

608
00:40:56.119 --> 00:40:57.480
You waiting for this moment?

609
00:40:57.960 --> 00:41:01.199
Right? And she also said, wait, well she not. Now

610
00:41:01.280 --> 00:41:04.119
my mind is going So she said, he drinks a lot,

611
00:41:04.239 --> 00:41:08.239
but he's never blacked out right before? What if he

612
00:41:08.360 --> 00:41:09.599
roofied that motherfucker?

613
00:41:10.519 --> 00:41:11.679
Like who else.

614
00:41:13.079 --> 00:41:19.639
Slip them a mickey? To slip them a mickey. Oh

615
00:41:19.679 --> 00:41:23.400
my lord, you know, I mean, damn, she was like

616
00:41:23.519 --> 00:41:25.599
he passed out And my husband's never passed out and

617
00:41:25.639 --> 00:41:26.280
he drinks a.

618
00:41:26.239 --> 00:41:32.760
Lot, right right, right, So it was he was very

619
00:41:32.840 --> 00:41:34.800
vulnerable situation.

620
00:41:35.920 --> 00:41:36.159
Yeah.

621
00:41:37.559 --> 00:41:39.840
But my thing is is like, what kind of friend

622
00:41:39.840 --> 00:41:43.119
did he think she was that he could try something

623
00:41:43.199 --> 00:41:43.559
like that?

624
00:41:44.000 --> 00:41:44.280
Right?

625
00:41:44.519 --> 00:41:44.679
Well?

626
00:41:44.719 --> 00:41:47.320
That's the thing. I think that Like what we were

627
00:41:47.360 --> 00:41:50.440
just saying, like, there's it sounds like there was a

628
00:41:50.519 --> 00:41:52.360
traction there before or something.

629
00:41:54.199 --> 00:41:55.440
Yeah, but is she what.

630
00:41:55.760 --> 00:41:58.159
What made well? Also, what made him think he can

631
00:41:58.239 --> 00:41:59.119
do that?

632
00:41:59.119 --> 00:42:02.199
That's what I'm saying. What type of woman is she?

633
00:42:02.360 --> 00:42:02.480
Like?

634
00:42:02.639 --> 00:42:06.000
Is she somebody who condones that with other people? So

635
00:42:06.079 --> 00:42:09.679
he thought it would be cool if if he we

636
00:42:09.719 --> 00:42:10.599
don't have enough.

637
00:42:11.079 --> 00:42:13.760
Yeah, I think I think I'm gonna write back to.

638
00:42:13.719 --> 00:42:20.400
Them to give more details. We need more exactly what

639
00:42:20.559 --> 00:42:23.039
there's more questions now.

640
00:42:23.400 --> 00:42:26.760
Yeah, because because you think think about it, right, just

641
00:42:26.719 --> 00:42:32.840
let's look at it this way. What gave him? All right?

642
00:42:33.079 --> 00:42:36.960
What gave him the thought that that was okay? First

643
00:42:36.960 --> 00:42:46.800
of all? Second, why why would he why would he

644
00:42:46.920 --> 00:42:48.400
just get up and say, babe, let's go.

645
00:42:48.480 --> 00:42:51.679
Upstairs and make a big deal.

646
00:42:52.039 --> 00:42:54.159
Exactly like you found some dude on top of you,

647
00:42:54.239 --> 00:42:56.039
trying to make out with you and bumping on you

648
00:42:56.079 --> 00:42:58.400
and ship you don't just get up and say, babe,

649
00:42:58.480 --> 00:43:01.599
let's go upstairs. And she was like she couldn't move,

650
00:43:01.679 --> 00:43:05.960
So you just went upstairs yourself? I mean, no, something

651
00:43:06.239 --> 00:43:06.559
something that?

652
00:43:08.199 --> 00:43:10.960
What if that? That's the thing? What if you're it

653
00:43:11.039 --> 00:43:16.360
makes you uncomfortable? Like not everyone reacts with hitting people.

654
00:43:16.719 --> 00:43:20.440
Or in my house, I would at least be yelling

655
00:43:20.480 --> 00:43:22.360
at them like you got to go.

656
00:43:22.519 --> 00:43:24.880
But he did get the fuck up out.

657
00:43:24.719 --> 00:43:29.599
Of here, didn't Didn't it say something about him telling

658
00:43:29.679 --> 00:43:34.440
him to leave? I thought he he didn't tell him

659
00:43:34.440 --> 00:43:34.840
to leave.

660
00:43:36.239 --> 00:43:38.440
My husband pushed him off, woke me up and told

661
00:43:38.440 --> 00:43:43.400
me it was time for bed. Friend left. I got

662
00:43:43.440 --> 00:43:47.159
really upset at my husband for wanting to go upstairs,

663
00:43:47.199 --> 00:43:48.480
so he went upstairs without me.

664
00:43:51.519 --> 00:43:53.920
Yeah, so the dude just left. He didn't tell him

665
00:43:53.960 --> 00:43:54.280
to leave.

666
00:43:54.679 --> 00:43:55.559
Yeah, he just left.

667
00:43:55.599 --> 00:43:58.280
We don't have enough unless he was telling her to

668
00:43:58.280 --> 00:44:02.119
go to bed, you know, so something else could happen.

669
00:44:02.320 --> 00:44:08.960
Oh no, oh no, oh no.

670
00:44:09.519 --> 00:44:11.679
Because I've bake my wife up and be like you

671
00:44:11.760 --> 00:44:13.079
need to tell your boy to get.

672
00:44:13.039 --> 00:44:13.960
Up out of here.

673
00:44:15.840 --> 00:44:16.039
Yeah?

674
00:44:16.119 --> 00:44:23.239
Word, Yeah, So maybe that's why the friend left. Like

675
00:44:23.639 --> 00:44:29.800
we don't know, yeah, what was said right in this situation?

676
00:44:30.400 --> 00:44:35.360
I mean it's it's yeah, I need more info, need

677
00:44:35.360 --> 00:44:36.119
a lot more info.

678
00:44:36.480 --> 00:44:39.320
So based on that, we cannot come to a conclusion.

679
00:44:39.639 --> 00:44:42.039
Yes, we cannot come to a conclusion of this story

680
00:44:42.800 --> 00:44:44.239
until we get more information.

681
00:44:44.960 --> 00:44:47.280
Correct, there will be a part two.

682
00:44:48.360 --> 00:44:53.079
Yeah, it will definitely be a part two. So anyway,

683
00:44:53.079 --> 00:44:54.840
I didn't ask, I didn't tg. I didn't ask you

684
00:44:54.920 --> 00:44:58.480
how your last two weeks been. I'm sorry, Oh yeah,

685
00:44:58.519 --> 00:45:00.760
that's not Yeah, yeah, you know what, Forget I asked

686
00:45:00.800 --> 00:45:07.639
that question. Forget, I asked that question. And let's let's

687
00:45:07.920 --> 00:45:14.119
let's move on. Yeah, I don't, I don't. I don't condone.

688
00:45:14.760 --> 00:45:21.440
I wouldn't want anybody, you know, m hmm. I wouldn't. No, no, no, no,

689
00:45:21.320 --> 00:45:28.119
no no no. I I feel I would feel like

690
00:45:28.119 --> 00:45:33.000
like the completely violated, Like I would, I would feel

691
00:45:34.480 --> 00:45:39.039
like what the fuck? You know what I'm saying? You know?

692
00:45:39.199 --> 00:45:43.239
All right? So okay, hold on, I mean I'm looking

693
00:45:43.239 --> 00:45:47.199
through the email to see if there was a yeah,

694
00:45:47.239 --> 00:45:50.480
anything else on it, because we got we got I

695
00:45:50.519 --> 00:45:51.599
got a lot of emails here.

696
00:45:52.360 --> 00:46:19.320
Oh let me see no, oh wow, that's that's that's

697
00:46:19.840 --> 00:46:20.519
that's not it.

698
00:46:23.320 --> 00:46:26.039
That's definitely not it. All right, here we go, here

699
00:46:26.039 --> 00:46:33.840
we go, here we go, here we go. All right,

700
00:46:34.119 --> 00:46:42.639
So all right, so she says, all right, she did

701
00:46:42.719 --> 00:46:47.800
she did say something else, she said, She said, oh,

702
00:46:47.880 --> 00:46:51.039
and just to let you know, my husband isn't getting it.

703
00:46:51.119 --> 00:46:53.920
I told him how you would feel if I told

704
00:46:53.920 --> 00:46:56.480
you I woke up to one of your friends trying

705
00:46:56.519 --> 00:46:59.079
to stick his dick in me while I was asleep.

706
00:47:00.119 --> 00:47:02.280
And he said, I don't think of it like that,

707
00:47:05.039 --> 00:47:11.000
and and and she, yeah, that's all she said that

708
00:47:11.119 --> 00:47:12.960
he said that I don't think of it that way.

709
00:47:18.599 --> 00:47:22.280
I think I think the husband really feels, you.

710
00:47:22.239 --> 00:47:24.440
Know, violated.

711
00:47:24.719 --> 00:47:29.480
Yeah, yeah, and he's feeling some kind of way like

712
00:47:31.800 --> 00:47:34.519
you know, she's she said, she just said, like I

713
00:47:34.519 --> 00:47:39.119
said to him that what if you woke up and

714
00:47:39.159 --> 00:47:41.440
you know, one of your friends was trying was trying

715
00:47:41.679 --> 00:47:44.280
to have sex with me, how would you feel? And

716
00:47:45.119 --> 00:47:46.880
she just he just he just said to her that

717
00:47:46.920 --> 00:47:49.480
I don't think of it that way. So maybe her

718
00:47:49.559 --> 00:47:51.039
husband has some hidden.

719
00:47:52.440 --> 00:47:55.119
I'm not even taking I'm not getting that at all.

720
00:47:55.440 --> 00:47:59.280
No, No, what do you what are you getting out

721
00:47:59.280 --> 00:47:59.480
of it?

722
00:48:01.400 --> 00:48:06.119
I'm getting that this person was violated and doesn't know

723
00:48:06.119 --> 00:48:08.000
how to deal with it because he's that man.

724
00:48:10.039 --> 00:48:12.960
Wow, that's that's terrible.

725
00:48:15.599 --> 00:48:20.960
Because if it was the other way around, Ah, there

726
00:48:20.960 --> 00:48:24.559
would have been a fight or police could have gotten

727
00:48:24.559 --> 00:48:31.360
involved or whatever. But majority, as we all know from SVU,

728
00:48:31.480 --> 00:48:33.960
the majority of victims don't report their crimes.

729
00:48:35.480 --> 00:48:38.159
All right, all right, here I got another email. This

730
00:48:38.000 --> 00:48:44.800
is this is another one? All right? So I used

731
00:48:44.840 --> 00:48:48.320
to think my wife, I used to think my girlfriend

732
00:48:48.719 --> 00:48:53.800
was nagging. I just I'm just realizing now that I

733
00:48:53.840 --> 00:48:58.039
did not respect her concerns. Now that I've realized this,

734
00:48:58.199 --> 00:49:03.239
how do I change the behavior? All right? Here's the

735
00:49:03.280 --> 00:49:06.679
body of it. I often don't use the word nagging

736
00:49:07.440 --> 00:49:11.480
in my head because I falsely think that it's just

737
00:49:11.519 --> 00:49:16.599
a dirty word that only shitty partners use. So instead

738
00:49:17.199 --> 00:49:18.320
the things.

739
00:49:20.199 --> 00:49:20.360
You know.

740
00:49:20.559 --> 00:49:25.280
Instead, I think of things like she's neurotic, or a

741
00:49:25.320 --> 00:49:29.280
control freak, or being too hard on me, which is

742
00:49:29.320 --> 00:49:36.320
even worse. But somehow it's kept me distant, distant from

743
00:49:36.360 --> 00:49:41.159
her and lying to myself about what I'm doing. It

744
00:49:41.239 --> 00:49:44.000
creates a cycle where she tells me not to do

745
00:49:44.079 --> 00:49:48.679
something or ask me to do it differently. I apologize,

746
00:49:49.079 --> 00:49:53.079
but internally I don't see where she's coming from or

747
00:49:53.119 --> 00:49:58.559
think about why she actually cares. I get defensive in

748
00:49:58.639 --> 00:50:02.639
my head myself why I don't do it, why I

749
00:50:02.679 --> 00:50:06.800
did it, and twisting it into her for not understanding

750
00:50:06.880 --> 00:50:11.760
why I did it in the first place. Sometimes I

751
00:50:11.840 --> 00:50:18.199
explain my reasoning, which gets respectfully but firmly shut down,

752
00:50:19.679 --> 00:50:22.519
and then I play the victim and think I'm being

753
00:50:23.239 --> 00:50:29.920
invalidated when I repeat the behavior. She's upset because I

754
00:50:29.960 --> 00:50:34.440
clearly don't listen or take it seriously enough to change.

755
00:50:35.159 --> 00:50:39.880
To change last time, I feel a growing resentment for

756
00:50:40.000 --> 00:50:44.920
being criticized all the time. It's so toxic and it's

757
00:50:45.000 --> 00:50:48.760
hurting our relationship so much. I do love her and

758
00:50:48.880 --> 00:50:52.320
have respect for her, but in the moment, I think

759
00:50:52.320 --> 00:50:55.519
of myself and throw her under the bus. Does she

760
00:50:55.760 --> 00:50:58.119
deserve that? How can I change it?

761
00:51:00.039 --> 00:51:02.960
First of all, there's not enough information in that email

762
00:51:03.159 --> 00:51:08.639
either because we can't blanket statement behavior and things you're doing,

763
00:51:09.199 --> 00:51:13.880
because it could literally be that you are fucking someone

764
00:51:14.119 --> 00:51:18.519
and that's the behavior of what. Or it could be

765
00:51:18.679 --> 00:51:22.719
that you're like leaving dishes everywhere and not putting them

766
00:51:22.760 --> 00:51:27.559
in the stink or so what is it? So? Yeah,

767
00:51:27.559 --> 00:51:30.960
the bitch could be nagging, but I don't know because

768
00:51:31.599 --> 00:51:36.320
I don't know right, this has to be specific. But

769
00:51:36.440 --> 00:51:40.400
if you're feeling like shit's toxic, then maybe it is.

770
00:51:40.840 --> 00:51:44.679
And I don't you know, And if you're feeling this

771
00:51:44.760 --> 00:51:49.280
kind of way, maybe this isn't your person. Again. People

772
00:51:49.360 --> 00:51:51.920
need to stop being so afraid to leave people.

773
00:51:52.119 --> 00:51:53.280
Just go just.

774
00:51:54.960 --> 00:51:57.320
Get a fucking something.

775
00:51:57.480 --> 00:52:01.679
Because I'm about the just leaving people, because that's how

776
00:52:01.679 --> 00:52:04.800
we got to where we are. But having these conversations

777
00:52:04.840 --> 00:52:09.440
before you get in it with people, like asking these

778
00:52:09.719 --> 00:52:13.440
questions that you think are embarrassing or stupid or whatever,

779
00:52:13.559 --> 00:52:16.039
like these are the facts of life.

780
00:52:16.519 --> 00:52:19.159
I need to know. When you sleep, do you fart?

781
00:52:19.920 --> 00:52:20.599
I need to know.

782
00:52:23.199 --> 00:52:24.199
I'm pretty sure we all do.

783
00:52:27.079 --> 00:52:27.840
But I mean, I'm.

784
00:52:27.719 --> 00:52:30.119
Talking about stuff like that, like when you eat, do

785
00:52:30.199 --> 00:52:32.159
you eat with your mouth open? When you take off

786
00:52:32.239 --> 00:52:33.719
the you know, when you brush your teeth, do you

787
00:52:33.840 --> 00:52:37.239
leave the cap off? Stupid stuff like that, when you spend,

788
00:52:37.400 --> 00:52:38.639
when you.

789
00:52:38.199 --> 00:52:40.280
Right, when you go to the store, do you like

790
00:52:40.360 --> 00:52:43.280
go to the cheaper places and you look for deals

791
00:52:43.599 --> 00:52:45.320
and get coop and stuff?

792
00:52:45.800 --> 00:52:50.239
Or do you got to be name brands exacts exactly? Yeah,

793
00:52:50.320 --> 00:52:54.880
these are these are conversations. Do you want kids? Do

794
00:52:55.079 --> 00:52:58.000
you want to get married? Uh?

795
00:52:58.119 --> 00:53:02.400
Do you like to be tagged on my Facebook? Whatever?

796
00:53:03.039 --> 00:53:07.360
Yeah? Do you like drugs? Do you like alcohol? Like?

797
00:53:07.519 --> 00:53:09.320
Are you?

798
00:53:09.440 --> 00:53:13.960
These are all like yeah, if we're gonna be in

799
00:53:14.239 --> 00:53:19.599
a confined space together, we have to be able to

800
00:53:19.599 --> 00:53:23.599
get along and kind of have more things in common

801
00:53:24.000 --> 00:53:25.199
than differences.

802
00:53:26.000 --> 00:53:29.119
And the thing like do you believe in sex before marriage?

803
00:53:29.199 --> 00:53:34.559
That's a big deal, huge, huge, And and like again,

804
00:53:34.880 --> 00:53:39.800
do you want marriage? Huge? Like these are things that

805
00:53:40.960 --> 00:53:44.360
you should know of, Like what are the fucking people

806
00:53:44.400 --> 00:53:47.239
talking about? For real? Because if we're getting in a

807
00:53:47.360 --> 00:53:52.880
real relationship, why isn't that conversation having like being I

808
00:53:52.920 --> 00:53:54.039
don't get that.

809
00:53:54.039 --> 00:53:57.679
You know why? Because when I have those conversations, they're like, oh,

810
00:53:57.719 --> 00:53:59.880
you're too much. You need to loosen up and just

811
00:54:00.079 --> 00:54:00.880
go with the flow.

812
00:54:01.400 --> 00:54:03.280
Yeah, because you know the flow?

813
00:54:04.199 --> 00:54:05.599
Yeah, you have no intention.

814
00:54:06.199 --> 00:54:09.159
Well, it depends, It really depends on the season.

815
00:54:14.280 --> 00:54:18.519
It's tax season, right, we're all in love.

816
00:54:18.800 --> 00:54:24.679
We're all in love, right now, get that child tax credit.

817
00:54:24.679 --> 00:54:25.199
We're all.

818
00:54:30.519 --> 00:54:33.039
I want to talk about taxes. It's another trigger. We

819
00:54:33.039 --> 00:54:33.800
can't even go.

820
00:54:33.760 --> 00:54:37.639
There there either. All right, this is going to be

821
00:54:37.639 --> 00:54:41.920
the last email of the night. All right, so here

822
00:54:41.960 --> 00:54:43.880
we go. This will be the last one and then

823
00:54:43.920 --> 00:54:48.519
we'll we'll discuss this one. This one seems pretty pretty

824
00:54:48.880 --> 00:54:52.400
pretty decent. Not that the other ones weren't. They just

825
00:54:53.199 --> 00:54:56.239
they just weren't we need them to be. But this

826
00:54:56.280 --> 00:55:02.679
one's interesting. I've been seeing someone for over a year.

827
00:55:04.119 --> 00:55:07.840
We have a pretty decent relationship, and we get along

828
00:55:07.880 --> 00:55:14.280
pretty well. We have our moments where we argue, but

829
00:55:14.360 --> 00:55:21.079
it's never over anything crazy. Sometimes I feel he doesn't

830
00:55:22.400 --> 00:55:27.599
value my opinion, or he doesn't value or take what

831
00:55:27.679 --> 00:55:32.960
I say too seriously when I need him to. Here

832
00:55:33.039 --> 00:55:40.159
is the dilemma. He has children, they're adults, and they

833
00:55:40.239 --> 00:55:44.800
still don't know about me. The thing is that I

834
00:55:44.880 --> 00:55:48.199
want to plan things with his children. I want to

835
00:55:48.239 --> 00:55:50.039
do things with him and his children. I want to

836
00:55:50.079 --> 00:55:57.960
be involved in their lives, and my old eyes hold on.

837
00:55:59.719 --> 00:56:01.679
I want to be in the lives of him and

838
00:56:01.719 --> 00:56:05.360
his children. I love this man very much. He talks

839
00:56:05.400 --> 00:56:08.159
about his children all the time, and I want to

840
00:56:08.159 --> 00:56:11.400
be a part of his world. So how do I

841
00:56:11.519 --> 00:56:17.119
go around getting him to understand that being a part

842
00:56:17.119 --> 00:56:19.159
of his world, being being a part of his children's

843
00:56:19.199 --> 00:56:22.199
lives as well is it a red flag that he

844
00:56:22.199 --> 00:56:24.800
doesn't want me to meet his children or he hasn't

845
00:56:24.840 --> 00:56:28.880
told them about me. What can I do to make

846
00:56:28.880 --> 00:56:33.440
the situation better for him to be able to tell

847
00:56:33.480 --> 00:56:36.960
his children. He tells me that the reason why he

848
00:56:37.039 --> 00:56:39.679
hasn't said anything to his children is because we fight

849
00:56:39.760 --> 00:56:42.480
a lot. But I don't see us fighting all the time.

850
00:56:43.320 --> 00:56:46.320
I see us fighting and bickering over things, but he

851
00:56:46.400 --> 00:56:52.320
feels that he needs time to make sure that we

852
00:56:52.480 --> 00:56:57.000
have something sturdy before he tells his children anything about me.

853
00:56:57.840 --> 00:57:00.960
I hope this isn't too much much for you, guys.

854
00:57:01.599 --> 00:57:06.519
I just want my relationship to be good and wholesome.

855
00:57:07.639 --> 00:57:12.119
So hopefully the advice you give me I can take

856
00:57:12.159 --> 00:57:15.079
and move forward with and apply it to what it

857
00:57:15.119 --> 00:57:16.920
is I need to do well.

858
00:57:16.960 --> 00:57:18.199
She answered her own question.

859
00:57:18.400 --> 00:57:20.360
I was going to say, he told you, Yeah, he

860
00:57:20.440 --> 00:57:21.880
told her he's.

861
00:57:21.679 --> 00:57:24.639
Not sure that they are for one another.

862
00:57:25.440 --> 00:57:29.360
Speaking as a parent, nobody gets to meet my kids

863
00:57:29.480 --> 00:57:33.599
unless I'm sure that me and this person are serious

864
00:57:33.719 --> 00:57:35.079
and going to be committed.

865
00:57:35.559 --> 00:57:37.679
Because children, children.

866
00:57:37.440 --> 00:57:39.840
Well it doesn't matter how old they are. There adults, yeah.

867
00:57:39.800 --> 00:57:40.840
There still are kids.

868
00:57:41.199 --> 00:57:44.159
They're a privilege, not a right. Just because we're seeing

869
00:57:44.199 --> 00:57:46.840
each other or daity doesn't give you the right to

870
00:57:47.039 --> 00:57:47.880
know my kids.

871
00:57:49.599 --> 00:57:52.440
When when I'm sure that this is something that I want.

872
00:57:52.320 --> 00:57:54.800
To be a part of long term, that's when I'm

873
00:57:54.800 --> 00:57:57.840
going to involve the loves of my life and expose

874
00:57:57.920 --> 00:58:00.480
them to you. Again, no matter how old they are,

875
00:58:00.800 --> 00:58:03.639
They're not even gonna know about you until I'm sure

876
00:58:03.679 --> 00:58:08.199
about you. So you know, he told her, I'm just wondering.

877
00:58:09.079 --> 00:58:12.280
She has to respect that though, and then take that

878
00:58:12.519 --> 00:58:16.960
as so, are you willing to put in more effort

879
00:58:16.960 --> 00:58:19.639
and time. What's on one who's still not sure about

880
00:58:19.679 --> 00:58:20.559
you a year in?

881
00:58:21.079 --> 00:58:22.400
Right? Yeah?

882
00:58:22.480 --> 00:58:24.239
Because that's a big deal too.

883
00:58:24.639 --> 00:58:28.880
And if you feel right and if you haven't had

884
00:58:28.920 --> 00:58:35.159
those conversations that we then it's time to go. I

885
00:58:35.199 --> 00:58:38.280
think everyone today just needs to go.

886
00:58:40.280 --> 00:58:43.239
Because if if it's been a year and you're still

887
00:58:43.280 --> 00:58:50.679
not sure about.

888
00:58:43.840 --> 00:58:50.920
It, said, yeah, like, what are this is? This is

889
00:58:51.000 --> 00:58:55.760
my thing? I'm recognizing. I don't know if it's a

890
00:58:55.800 --> 00:59:01.000
woman thing, but uh, y'all are not listening to what

891
00:59:01.159 --> 00:59:06.800
he is giving and putting out. It's very frustrating when

892
00:59:06.840 --> 00:59:12.480
I hear complaints women make and stuff like that, because

893
00:59:12.639 --> 00:59:17.159
I'm just like, well, he's telling you actions. You know

894
00:59:17.239 --> 00:59:21.320
the phrase actions speak louder than words, and it's still

895
00:59:21.559 --> 00:59:25.360
very true. Like someone can say a lot, but what

896
00:59:25.400 --> 00:59:30.599
they show is the action. That's what matters. So pay

897
00:59:30.679 --> 00:59:34.880
attention to that and listen to your gut because your

898
00:59:34.880 --> 00:59:36.880
guy's gonna guide you and tell you even if you

899
00:59:36.880 --> 00:59:40.840
don't want to hear it, it's there for a reason.

900
00:59:41.280 --> 00:59:46.440
Like they're telling you straight up, this is what it is. Right,

901
00:59:46.960 --> 00:59:53.039
you're not going to change that. You're not, you know, like,

902
00:59:53.159 --> 00:59:56.440
I don't know if it's something that we were taught

903
00:59:56.519 --> 01:00:00.599
by society or whatever, that we are the one that's

904
01:00:00.599 --> 01:00:04.519
gonna change him and make him this great man. No,

905
01:00:04.719 --> 01:00:07.559
like he is a great man or he fucking isn't.

906
01:00:07.679 --> 01:00:11.239
Like that's what it is, and maybe he needs to

907
01:00:11.320 --> 01:00:14.239
grow to be a great man, but that doesn't mean

908
01:00:14.360 --> 01:00:16.519
that it's you that's gonna make that happen.

909
01:00:17.400 --> 01:00:21.360
Yeah, that's a man for somebody else and just not

910
01:00:21.480 --> 01:00:26.000
for you, right, because whoever he is somebody, that's what

911
01:00:26.079 --> 01:00:26.920
they want.

912
01:00:28.480 --> 01:00:34.400
Yeah, Yes, that's that's that's what it is. That's what

913
01:00:34.440 --> 01:00:37.719
it is. I mean, do you consider that a red flag?

914
01:00:37.760 --> 01:00:37.960
Though?

915
01:00:38.559 --> 01:00:43.400
Yes, it's yeah, because this is not what he wants.

916
01:00:43.519 --> 01:00:49.039
Because she's more into it apparently than he is, right

917
01:00:49.119 --> 01:00:51.119
because she feels like she's in the place that she

918
01:00:51.199 --> 01:00:54.159
should meet them and he doesn't.

919
01:00:55.199 --> 01:00:58.960
So and I mean personally, if it's a year, if

920
01:00:59.000 --> 01:01:01.320
it's if we get to a year and I haven't

921
01:01:01.559 --> 01:01:05.639
metric kids yet, then this relationship isn't going anywhere, because

922
01:01:06.559 --> 01:01:12.320
for me, that's not I don't agree with that. Yeah,

923
01:01:13.079 --> 01:01:14.559
because a year, I mean.

924
01:01:16.280 --> 01:01:20.079
It depends what the relationship is, how serious it is,

925
01:01:21.719 --> 01:01:24.360
if people are taking their time in that relationship to

926
01:01:24.400 --> 01:01:29.480
truly get to know one another. I'd be okay with

927
01:01:29.599 --> 01:01:34.079
waiting a while to meet someone's children because I would

928
01:01:34.079 --> 01:01:36.639
want them to be sure of me before getting me

929
01:01:36.639 --> 01:01:40.719
wrapped up and all that drama. Right at the end

930
01:01:40.760 --> 01:01:42.960
of the day, it's going to be drama because I

931
01:01:43.039 --> 01:01:47.159
am not part of that family technically.

932
01:01:51.639 --> 01:01:56.079
Well, I'm too old to be waiting a year for

933
01:01:56.119 --> 01:01:57.599
you to tell me if you're sure or not.

934
01:01:57.800 --> 01:01:58.440
That's all.

935
01:02:00.119 --> 01:02:04.440
We all all the time in the world. Oh yeah, yeah,

936
01:02:04.559 --> 01:02:06.800
And if not, then we'll be in the nursing homes

937
01:02:06.800 --> 01:02:11.639
and our little Vespa scooter thingies, fucking smacking asses along

938
01:02:11.679 --> 01:02:12.800
the hallway.

939
01:02:14.280 --> 01:02:18.199
Getting STDs and like that.

940
01:02:21.199 --> 01:02:28.079
People out there, yep, yep, pretty much, sphilis, gonorrhea, all

941
01:02:28.119 --> 01:02:29.519
the good stuff. Club media.

942
01:02:30.960 --> 01:02:35.000
Yeah yeah, all right, Well we answered a bunch of

943
01:02:35.639 --> 01:02:39.880
emails tonight. Yeah. Now I'm gonna be I'm gonna be

944
01:02:40.000 --> 01:02:47.079
gonna be straight out. I'm gonna I'm gonna definitely right

945
01:02:47.159 --> 01:02:49.719
back to these people and get more more in depth

946
01:02:50.519 --> 01:02:53.000
on what these emails, especially the one with the husband.

947
01:02:53.320 --> 01:02:56.119
I really want to know you got more questions, more

948
01:02:56.199 --> 01:03:02.840
questions than if they you know, if they'd like to

949
01:03:02.880 --> 01:03:04.639
give more than more it's not.

950
01:03:04.639 --> 01:03:09.599
That's okay, Yeah, it's okay. All right. So with that

951
01:03:09.719 --> 01:03:16.400
being said, it's an early night. It's an early night. Yeah,

952
01:03:16.400 --> 01:03:19.519
it's only ten o'clock, but that's okay.

953
01:03:21.159 --> 01:03:24.159
Feels like it's December twenty twenty six.

954
01:03:24.239 --> 01:03:28.360
Ay, yeah, it's I mean.

955
01:03:28.360 --> 01:03:35.840
Twenty twenty five. Not, it's just like I'm that here.

956
01:03:36.880 --> 01:03:42.719
I am not here. I'm definitely somewhere else. Oh my gosh.

957
01:03:43.320 --> 01:03:45.880
Okay, Trump cut off the food stamps.

958
01:03:45.960 --> 01:03:48.440
I'm not focused. I'm joking.

959
01:03:49.119 --> 01:03:51.480
That's let's not start up.

960
01:03:52.000 --> 01:03:56.519
It already hurts this my hurt, This might hurt this hurt.

961
01:03:57.480 --> 01:03:58.519
Let's go her for real.

962
01:03:59.119 --> 01:04:00.559
Listen, let's let's up.

963
01:04:02.800 --> 01:04:05.599
All right, Maybe we should just like have this might

964
01:04:05.719 --> 01:04:09.159
hurt political side podcast?

965
01:04:09.480 --> 01:04:13.079
Yeah, just one onecast that we let them know.

966
01:04:14.320 --> 01:04:16.480
Well, no, put it out there, you know, so you

967
01:04:16.519 --> 01:04:20.639
want to. I think it's I think it's good to

968
01:04:20.719 --> 01:04:26.679
share information in facts, just saying just saying.

969
01:04:27.159 --> 01:04:28.000
You know what I'm saying.

970
01:04:29.039 --> 01:04:31.039
You know what I'm saying. Life, Life is hard.

971
01:04:33.719 --> 01:04:36.360
Mm hmmm, Oh my god.

972
01:04:36.519 --> 01:04:42.719
I think I'm gonna move to Vermont. They have moose there. Yeah,

973
01:04:42.920 --> 01:04:49.320
the is it mooses? Moose? Sounds weird. Moose.

974
01:04:51.159 --> 01:04:53.840
I just ran to a bunch of moose. Yeah, that's it.

975
01:04:54.159 --> 01:04:57.480
That's it sounds wrong.

976
01:04:59.559 --> 01:05:01.639
Just fish, like all those fish.

977
01:05:02.760 --> 01:05:03.239
Yeah, you know.

978
01:05:05.239 --> 01:05:06.039
It is what it is.

979
01:05:06.639 --> 01:05:07.440
Yes, that's true.

980
01:05:07.719 --> 01:05:09.159
Or a murder of cruise.

981
01:05:11.199 --> 01:05:13.679
I know. There's some interesting English is interesting.

982
01:05:14.880 --> 01:05:18.119
Yeah, like the word knife. It's not a knife, it's knife.

983
01:05:18.679 --> 01:05:20.639
It should be it should be.

984
01:05:22.000 --> 01:05:25.159
For one day we should like just say the k

985
01:05:26.079 --> 01:05:30.880
in words like you can know you know instead of

986
01:05:30.920 --> 01:05:37.079
you know, can know? Does your can hurt? You?

987
01:05:37.159 --> 01:05:40.280
Better be careful? I slab stab you my knife.

988
01:05:45.559 --> 01:05:49.639
Oh that reminds me of a stewie with the with

989
01:05:49.719 --> 01:05:53.239
a whip. He has to say the eight.

990
01:05:55.519 --> 01:06:04.159
It's so funny, right, all right, So with that being said,

991
01:06:04.360 --> 01:06:12.280
I'm big. That's lady, that's t G love whatever however

992
01:06:12.360 --> 01:06:17.480
you pronounce it. All right, here we go and I

993
01:06:17.480 --> 01:06:22.320
and remember the name Saint Charles. That's when you tag

994
01:06:22.440 --> 01:06:26.920
down there. My my, My granddaughter says, I'm an international spy.

995
01:06:27.199 --> 01:06:31.400
So that's how I say my name. Now, yeah, she said,

996
01:06:31.599 --> 01:06:34.519
she said, Grandpa, you're an international spy. Now. I was like, okay,

997
01:06:34.519 --> 01:06:37.199
whatever you want to call me, she said, Saint Charles,

998
01:06:37.199 --> 01:06:41.559
Saint So I told I was. I told I was

999
01:06:41.559 --> 01:06:49.360
double O nine all right, all.

1000
01:06:46.400 --> 01:06:51.639
Right, not the commander, all right.

1001
01:06:53.159 --> 01:06:56.599
Yeah, So good night everybody. Thank you for coming by,

1002
01:06:56.840 --> 01:07:01.119
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1003
01:07:01.320 --> 01:07:05.199
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1004
01:07:05.400 --> 01:07:08.159
You appreciate you, We love you, and always remember that

1005
01:07:08.199 --> 01:07:09.119
at some point.

1006
01:07:09.760 --> 01:07:11.280
This might heart.

1007
01:07:12.000 --> 01:07:13.079
Good Night, everybody.

1008
01:07:13.519 --> 01:07:13.679
Night,