Feb. 14, 2025

Why Not Wednesday (Recorded LIVE on 2-12-25)

Why Not Wednesday (Recorded LIVE on 2-12-25)

Lets talk about what's really going on in these relationships. Story time...So lets break it down! Ummm Yeah someone's feeling just Might Hurt after this.

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Lets talk about what's really going on in these relationships. Story time...So lets break it down! Ummm Yeah someone's feeling just Might Hurt after this.

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S S S S.

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S say, Hey, what's up? Everybody is big called on

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with this might her podcast coming to you live from Like, oh,

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I don't know where the fuck you wanted to come

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live from. That's where we're live from, mainly somewhere in Jersey.

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I'm not gonna tell you where, but somewhere in Jersey,

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you know what I mean. You aren't bringing my co host,

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Lady g.

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How you I'm great? How are you?

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I'm good? I'm good. How's everything been?

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Everything's great as usual?

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Yeah, you're always always always you know what I.

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Mean, It's always great.

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That's good. That's good. How was your your last two weeks?

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They've been pretty good. Had some hand surgery, you know what,

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just the regular stuff.

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Going on, you know, just just just regular dunk thought

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that shit, right?

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Yeah?

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Yeah, wow, hand surgery, Yeah, oh what happened?

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No, just carpal tunnel, you know, finally getting things.

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Taken care of.

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See, that's what happens when you get older. If you

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don't take care of things when you're young, you know,

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you get to a point in your life where it's

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like enough is enough. So I'm trying to be here

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for my kids, for my grandkids, so just making sure

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I get the bumps, the bruises, the scrapes, the pain,

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getting them all.

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Fixed, you know, right right, I get it. Yeah, I understand.

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So just taking care of myself, that's.

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All that that that's that's the best thing you could do,

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you know what I mean, take care of you at

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some point. You know, some.

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People just st ain't there. They keep ended up in

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the hospital and not taking care of themselves.

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And you know, yeah, I wonder who you're talking about.

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I don't know.

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M hmm, I don't know. Maybe somebody I.

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Know, possibly, possibly.

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Well, hopefully TG is is out there. She's having some

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technical difficulties and can't make it tonight. Dubbs is Actually

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he'll be late. He'll be late as usual. But I

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can tell you what he I can tell you exactly

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what he's doing right now. He's having an argument, not

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an argument, but there's uh uh hectic, crazy debate exactly,

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That's exactly what it is. It's a debate with highest tolerance.

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Remember highest tolerance. They're they're going they're going at it

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over Philadelphia super Bowl, and I means being a Jets

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fan and you know, highest tolerance being a Philly fan

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and They're just going at it back and forth, and

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I have him on a on a thread, a text thread,

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and it just keeps buzzing and buzzing and buzzing and buzzing.

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And every time I look at them arguing with each other. Wow, yeah,

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I gotta tell the when he when he shows up,

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we just gotta gotta make sure, you know. But since

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he's gonna be late, I don't wanna. I don't wanna,

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you know.

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What I mean.

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Let me talk about what's going on with me. Last

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's two weeks. Everything has been cool. Everything, everything's been,

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you know, pretty good, not too bad. Life has been

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sunshines and rainbows good. You know. I'm pretty I'm pretty

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sure that uh, you know, the the Philly fans are

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grateful for the Super Bowl. They beat They beat the

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living shadow of the Kansas City.

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Man.

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I mean, I'm not going to deny that. I mean,

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they they beat the living crap out of them, you

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know what I mean. And I wasn't too happy with it.

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But what I'm not out because Philly beat my team

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to get to the super Bowl.

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Oh well, they sucky played so yeah, well you know,

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they did not play a good game.

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I'm sorry. Yeah, Washington did not play a good game.

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You're right, You're right. I'm just proud of it. I'm

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probably I'm proud of them. I'm proud that they got

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as far as they did. I to be honest, I

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wasn't expecting much of them this year with a rookie quarterback.

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But they did great. You know, they did really well.

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I'm just happy that they got where they went. So

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it is what it is, you know. I'm glad that

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they got that far, and I'm to look forward to

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some more you know, seasons. You know. So with that

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being said, let's let's move on. I was just still

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doing whatever he's doing, so okay, here when he gets here,

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I will say this. I will say that we have

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the best fans. We have the best fans.

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Why because they don't fall off a polls.

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No, I don't mean, I don't mean. I'm talking about

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our fans.

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Oh, okay, our fans on the show.

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Yeah, not only fans, our fans of the show. We

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have the greatest fans. So I get I get an

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email from, of course, the fan of the show, and

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it goes it's it starts off with the first email.

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It said, Dear Big C, I was wondering if the

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show has a mailing address. I was wondering if I

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can mail you something? Sorry, right back, I'm like, well,

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we don't have like a PO box or anything. But

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you know, why do you want the address? What are

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you gonna send? I mean, I don't know if it's

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a bomb or a fucking anthrax and shit like that.

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I mean, I don't know who the fuck these people are,

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you know what I mean? So I don't know what

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it is there sendence, so you know, I get a

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second I get a second email after asking those questions

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like what is it?

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Oh?

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Look who decided to show up at the arguing with

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highest tolerance? Hold on? Yo? All right, I was I

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was just telling. I was just telling Lady g we're

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discussing a fan that we got the greatest fans. A

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fan of the show emailed, and I'm just discussing what

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it is. The fans said, so be patient and just listen.

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All right, you good? Where you going?

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And I'll move my car man?

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Oh all right? So all right. So after after the

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fans of the show wanted the address, I was like,

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you know, what do you want it for? What are

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you gonna send? Stuff like that.

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So.

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I get I get a second email after all those

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questions and fans said, truth be told. I'm a fairly

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new fan. I just happened to find I just happened

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to find your podcast in my search. See. I was

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in a very very dark place and was suffering in

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silence with depression. My life was yeah, my life was

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crumbling right under my feet. I felt as if I

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was in quicksand and losing everything, including myself. Then I

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found this Might Hurt podcast. I didn't realize this was

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a live show for a little while, but I started

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listening and bounced around and bounced around a bit. That's

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when I discovered you guys do a live show. I

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started watching on YouTube. At first, I just listened. Not

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long after, I kept coming back to listen and found

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myself smirking, then smiling, and I surprised myself when I

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started laughing. I was in such a lonely place. I

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didn't remember what I was, what it was like to laugh.

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Big C, Lady, G Dubs, the Dawn, and TG you

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all made me laugh again. I started chatting with you

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guys during the live shows, and now I feel part

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of it. Now I feel like I'm part of the crew.

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Just kidding. I just hope you know what I mean.

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So this is the this is the funny part now,

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So so this is what this is all right, hold

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on grab it. So I'm sending this calendar with stickers

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so you can mark your good days. And I brought

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one for myself too. To start to I brought one

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for myself too. The story on the show about the

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calendar was more about a couple of rewarding with stickers

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and stuff. Maybe I should reward myself too by giving

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myself a sticker for good days. Why not send the

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show a calendar too. In previous episodes, Big C shared

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his affinity for Marvel movies, and that's why I sent

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a Marvel calendar. You guys are the best, well except

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for doves. That goes on and on and sometimes I

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don't know about what. But in all seriousness, from the

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bottom of my heart, thank you for bringing the laughter

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back into my life. Love your fan. Guess which one midnight?

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That's something. But what I do to you?

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Why yeah, I see and you know.

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Now you know, I I just I just want to

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say that, you know, I really greatly appreciate the calendar

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and the fucking and you gotta see the stickers. The

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stickers have have smiley faces. I saw an the other

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ones have comic book bang.

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I guess.

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The knockouts like these are the bad days and ship.

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Cordon got a special fan because he gets the calendar

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and the stickers.

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So so.

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Thank you, you know, min, that's awesome.

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Yeah, we appreciated.

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I'll have to say thank you. But you said, it's like, why.

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What they said?

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She said and over you know, she she was trying

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to because I ended up. I ended up saying I

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wanted the address, so I so, and then she ended

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up the midnight was I'm not gonna I'm not gonna

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say her name, but she's actually from your Negative Woods lady.

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G oh, yeah, she's down that way and.

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You know she.

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South Jersey, Yeah, all the way down there. I'm not

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I'm not gonna put an information out there, but thank

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you very much. And I want to say, you know,

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thank you to the fans, because this isn't the first

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time you know that that we've actually you know, received

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praise from fans, you know, and and just for just

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for that, like like I said, I told her, I

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told her to give me an address because I am

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going to send her this might hurt podcast T shirt.

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You are so lucky, Midnight, because I haven't gotten anything

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yet and I'm actually on the show.

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I gotta I gotta order more T shirts because there's

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another there's another fan. There's another fan that's actually I

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didn't know that the that the fan page on Facebook

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has this, but there's a top fan badge that's given

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to the to the most active fan on the fan page.

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Okay, so.

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I want to give a shout out to Christina Christina

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Andrea for being a top fan on the fan page.

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You are also gonna get a T shirt. Just hit us,

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hit up the show with your address and stuff, and

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we'll get that out to you.

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A s a p oh here look, oh you're so

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sweet Midnight.

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So that's that's what that's what we're gonna do. We're

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gonna get some get get the get the merch out

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we're gonna send. I got I got stickers, land, I

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got all types of merchant ship we're going to send

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out to you guys, and thank you, thank you for

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being fans. I mean, we we do this for the fans.

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You know what I'm saying. We do this because yeah, knows.

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We don't get paid for it, all.

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Right, very true, But we do it for the love

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of the pan. We do it for the love. You

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know what I'm saying. I mean, it's that. That's what

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it's about to me, you know what I'm saying. I

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mean just being able to help, being able to have

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you know, people come in and listen and saying that,

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you know, we we we help them smile, we help

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them laugh. It makes us feel good, you know what

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I'm saying. It's it's a good thing.

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And it helps us too. Of course, we're human, you know.

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We sometimes we gotta let it out too.

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You're absolutely right, You're absolutely right.

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And people don't listen to me in real life.

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Oh man. So yeah, man, that's that's that's great, you know.

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I I'm just glad that I'm gonna so if this

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is a good show, I'll put a smiley face on

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the calendar for today, and if it's if it's a

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bad show, I put one of the Zach bamboom, one

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of those things on the on the calendar. And you

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know that that's what it is. So with that being said,

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let's move on. So, So, mister Phoenix, how was your

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last two weeks.

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It was I you know what I'm saying, Like I

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had to move my car for no reason because I'm

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parked on Kennedy Like like you know what means, it's

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kind of like raining and whatever. But like, you know what,

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there's no parking, you know what I'm saying, Like like

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some parking authority person called me.

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Oh they called you.

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Yeah, you know what I'm saying. The red of my ship,

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my table would have actually called, like you have to

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go in your car. I'm like, where park is somewhere?

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Why don't do it like that?

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Yeah, Like the problem is there's no freaking parking anywhere. See.

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I hate you know, I hate this. I hate this place.

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Bro.

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Yeah, don't get me, don't get me started. Man, I

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don't get about the park thing.

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Man.

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Other than that, I mean, I mean, you know last

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two's supposed tood you know what I'm saying, Like, like

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you know that Kencha Lamar halftime show was banging.

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That's the only thing I'm talking about when.

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When not even when not even touch it because you

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know we're off the radar, manly.

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That's his back up, his back up thing, Yeah, my

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back of stuff. Let me know. And like you know,

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like some you know, saying something some jackass decide like

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you know, the double park, like too close to my car.

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Mm hmmm, that made that that Yeah, that's cause for

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a being So I have. I've gotten other emails one yep,

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one asking we're gon we're gonna do We're gonna do

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a little bit of storytime. But that's a little later.

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But I got two other emails and there they're one

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one is one is pretty interesting. Well, they're both interesting,

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but this one's pretty damn interesting.

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Interesting.

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Yeah, I know they're Yeah, I understand that this this

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one's not not well, you know, well whatever, I'll read it.

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I never I never felt the need for sex. I

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never felt the need or feeling for sex. But it's

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very important to my boyfriend, which I understand. How do

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I navigate this. We've had many conversations, but I don't

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know how to at it through to him that I

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have never felt the feeling. I have never found a

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want for sex in my life or get turned on.

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I dated a guy when I was sixteen for two

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years and he never had and we never had sex.

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He didn't because of his religious background. I was I

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was totally fine with that. I went to college, had

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guys over, but never felt the need to hook up,

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the hookup feeling. When I was nineteen, I had a

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boyfriend for two years and we had sex. Oh, we

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had we had sex. It was my first time, but

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I never hold on. I can't even see that shit. See,

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that's why I was gonna get old. I never had

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the feeling of being horny. I started dating my current

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boyfriend that I've been friends with for years, and he's amazing.

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I have to force myself to want to because I

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know it's very important to him. We've talked about this

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many times, but I don't know how to explain clearly

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that it's not him. I just never feel the need

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for any sexual activity, and I don't want to have

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I don't want to have very hard time bringing this

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up to him all the time. Hold On, I've never

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fantasized about I've never hold on, bro, I've never fantasized

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about other men or women. I get anxious when we

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cuddle or kiss for too long because I expect it

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to lead to asking for sex, and when I say no,

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nine times out of ten, it disappoints him. For obvious reasons.

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I'm not considering breaking up with him? Am I a

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sexual or something?

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Do I have?

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Do I navigate my extreme lack of sex drive while

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how do I? How do I navigate my extreme lack

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of sex drive while being with the man I truly love?

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Doc thought, I Yeah, what's up?

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So?

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Yeah, that is what they call a form of a sexuality.

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It's when people just they don't have the interest or

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are not really physically attracted to sex or for sure

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what they call him aces yeah, asexual. So and that's

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not necessarily anybody's fault. I mean, there are definitely ways

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to navigate it, one of them being, you know, clear

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communication because as adults especially, we have to make our

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own choices. And although it's not something that you choose

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or do on your own, it is it is a thing.

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So I mean, it is a conversation that you have

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to have and then coming to maybe to a compromise,

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you know, what would be acceptable for you as a

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possible asexual human being, and what's okay for them as

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far as you know the amount they're willing to handle

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not getting it, you know. So it's about a communication.

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Because we're different, We're not going to find people just

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like us. The thing is we have to find that

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people who are willing to love us in spite of that,

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but also be willing to come to that middle ground,

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because it's not fair for him to go without constantly,

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and it's not fair for you to have to feel

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like every time you guys have this emotional bond or

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this kiss or something, that it's always going to lead

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to that physical sexual action. So definitely has to have

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you know, have to have a talk. And as much

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as it might hurt, sometimes these things hurt, you've got to. Yeah,

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you've got to accept because that for some people, and

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I think I've mentioned it on the show before. You know,

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I was seeing someone who for them a must for them,

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something that was like they could not go without. It

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was having provocative photographs every day. And for me, that's

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something that is against my comfort level. That's something that flow. Yeah,

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Like for me, that was it was really challenging my

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moral aptitude, my moral feelings, and I was feeling very

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unsafe and so as an much as I like this person,

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I had to basically say, you know what, because I

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respect you, and because I respect your needs and your wants,

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and you're telling me that for you, this is a need,

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then I'm just gonna have to say that I can't

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be the one to fulfill that because that's not a

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need to me. And actually it causes me. I can't

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say it makes me, because nobody can make me feel anything,

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but it causes me to feel uncomfortable and unsafe. And

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no one should have to feel unsafe in any kind

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of a relationship, whether it's platonic, monogamous, non monogamous, whatever.

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And we just have to be able. And I think

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that's where we've gone wrong. We don't accept people for

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where they are. And even more recently, you know, you

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can love people and not be with them because it's

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not good for you. Yeah, well you can't say toxic

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because what's.

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You know what you know what like I'm only speaking,

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I'm speaking from my experience, you know, like the toxic people,

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you know, like as much as.

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You want to love them, but you know what I'm saying,

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but you can't be with them you love them from afar. Yeah, yeah,

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that is true, and leave it there, you know, because like, yeah,

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but there are a lot.

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Of different type of relationships.

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Yeah true, not just like damn, but but damn, you

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know what being you know, like being a sexual is like,

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it's like it's that like some type of like.

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It's an orientation.

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Is it an orientation or is it like does that

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something to do with the mental or something like I'm

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actually asking the question. I'm not, you know, trying to

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throw nothing out there, none out of curiosity. Is it

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like it's like a hormonal like misbalance or like like.

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Nobody really knows what causes a sexuality, but it's someone's

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sexual orientation. Some people are just not born with the

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ability to sexually be attracted to anyone or want to

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be in a sexual relationship.

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So so is is that kind of along the lines

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as well as a sapio sexual?

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Do you know what?

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Do you know what a sapio sexual?

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Isy's somebody who's attracted to.

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Intellect.

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Intellect, Yeah, yeah, I mean everybody has their preferences, so

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that that is an orientation too.

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I currently have never met anyone in my field of work.

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I've currently not met anyone who identifies as a sapio

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sexual as an orientation per se. Oh TG's here.

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Wow, what's up?

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You know that that's just been more of that's just

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been more of an attraction and not necessarily an orientation.

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Save your sexual like like like you know what I'm

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saying from my understanding, Yeah, you know, like it's like

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you know what it's like, it's like you're trying to

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see what a woman's that intellectually or vice versa, and

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you know you get attracted by you know what I'm saying,

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just how their mind works, right, you know, like how

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like their thorough process everything, right.

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Yeah, So something that it's something that i've actually yeah.

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Look at the cat.

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Speaking.

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I'm sorry, I'm sorry, lady, sorry about that.

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So something that I actually just recently found out about

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myself is you know, I am something that is considered

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uh of the population have this uh I don't know

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what you would call it, this thing where it's called HSP,

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which is highly sensitive personality, highly sensitive person right. And

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so although it doesn't lead to any type of orientation

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or any of that per se, it's about people having

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their own their own gifts, their own.

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Struggles, their own things. Right.

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So just like we have to choose about this whole

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asexual thing, it's like you have to respect somebody and

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where they are. So just learning pretty much something that

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I probably should have loaned years and years ago. You know,

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having been in the field I was in, you know,

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I'm just now finding this. And it came by someone

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saying that I was emotionally intense, right, So I was

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like really, and and they're like, yeah, yeah, you're just

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so emotionally intense, Like it doesn't bother me. But I

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could see how some people wouldn't want to put in

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the energy it takes, you know, to kind of be

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a part of your life. And and so I really

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had to research that for myself.

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I had to.

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I had to do some research, you know, And so

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I did that, and I'm telling you, it was like

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reading my own story understanding understanding highly highly sensitive personality.

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So it's a lot of empathic people are part of that,

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but it's literally twenty percent of the population where they

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have this heightened sensitivity emotionally to things. So just like

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the eighty percent of the world, they have happy moments,

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they have sad moments, they you know, you have all

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those different emotions. But for me, it was almost like

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being ultrasensitive to those things. So like, my happies are joyous,

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my sads are horrible. The fact that I actually cry

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when I'm angry, you know, like, yeah, moments in my

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life that I'm like, why am I like this? What

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am I doing wrong? Only to find out I'm not

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doing anything wrong because that's all Yeah, this is something

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that is me, Like it's my makeup. It's not something

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I'm choosing. And so like with that person and the asexuality,

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it's not something that you can just turn off. It

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is literally a part of your inner workings, your inner

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person you're born with. Yeah, and it's something that you

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don't have to beat yourself up about, but you definitely

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have to create boundaries and create what works for you

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and then finding and then finding that other person in

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your life that's willing to do that work with you

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and maybe it helps them in some way to be

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more self controlling, you know. Of theirs.

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I have a question when when let's just say, you know,

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you're you're You're in a room with crowded people, right,

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and there's that one person that's giving off a bad vibe,

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and does that change your whole mood?

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Like you know, like like you know, like like let's

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just say, you know, like for instance, right, like we're all.

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Having a good time and just walks in the room.

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That's what I want to say.

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What happens now, Like you know, like first, right, like

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you could be on the train or whatever, right, you

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just be walking by. Then all of a sudden, there's

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that one person that you know, like you know, you

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just glanced at it. You just glass at this person

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and all of a sudden, like you feel their vibe

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and it just changes your mood, you know, like all

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of a sudden.

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You know, like like you know, like you're like hm hm,

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00:32:55.839 --> 00:32:58.160
you know, like like that does that happen to you?

478
00:32:59.680 --> 00:32:59.880
Yeah?

479
00:33:00.400 --> 00:33:03.160
But the thing is, if you know, like it's about

480
00:33:03.759 --> 00:33:08.680
knowing what triggers you what doesn't. My thing is it

481
00:33:08.759 --> 00:33:12.880
comes with a high sense of integrity. Right, So for instance,

482
00:33:12.920 --> 00:33:15.119
I'll give you a perfect example about the train. So

483
00:33:15.200 --> 00:33:17.799
when I'm on the train. We all know that on

484
00:33:17.920 --> 00:33:21.160
the trains there's no smoking, no drinking, you know, none

485
00:33:21.200 --> 00:33:27.640
of that nonsense. So someone who has hsp when someone

486
00:33:27.720 --> 00:33:31.920
gets on the train with a lit cigarette or you

487
00:33:32.000 --> 00:33:35.880
know they're smoking their bud, or one guy even got

488
00:33:35.960 --> 00:33:38.200
on the train and he popped open, you know, can

489
00:33:38.279 --> 00:33:44.160
of beer. Right, there's something in me that bothers me.

490
00:33:44.599 --> 00:33:50.640
It makes me not angry, but disappointed in the situation,

491
00:33:51.480 --> 00:33:55.160
and it just it bugs me. It bugs me because

492
00:33:55.319 --> 00:33:58.079
and again people are like, you need to loosen up, right,

493
00:33:58.559 --> 00:34:00.759
And I've had so many people on my life saying

494
00:34:00.799 --> 00:34:03.319
you need to loosen up, you need to take it easy.

495
00:34:03.839 --> 00:34:06.559
But and I'm thinking, but I am easy, like I feel,

496
00:34:06.880 --> 00:34:10.199
I don't feel stressed. I don't you know, I'm very cool,

497
00:34:10.280 --> 00:34:14.039
calm and collected people's I guess I'm one of those

498
00:34:14.199 --> 00:34:19.280
that other people's moods. I feel vibes, like I can

499
00:34:19.360 --> 00:34:24.480
feel people's moods, but it doesn't affect my mood because

500
00:34:24.519 --> 00:34:28.719
I have control over my stuff, you know, Like you know,

501
00:34:28.800 --> 00:34:34.079
if TG comes on and she's like extra laughy and

502
00:34:34.679 --> 00:34:38.159
you know, a little extra bubbly, that might be contagious

503
00:34:38.199 --> 00:34:42.119
for me. But if Corleon comes on and he's just annoyed,

504
00:34:43.960 --> 00:34:47.960
his annoyance doesn't it doesn't cause me to be annoyed.

505
00:34:48.400 --> 00:34:50.840
But I can pick up that feeling. I feel what

506
00:34:51.000 --> 00:34:54.119
he feels or what he's expressing. So I do pick

507
00:34:54.199 --> 00:34:57.920
up people's feelings. But I'm at a place because of

508
00:34:58.000 --> 00:35:01.559
my profession that I I've learned to be in a

509
00:35:01.639 --> 00:35:03.159
little bit of control.

510
00:35:03.039 --> 00:35:04.079
Of what I do about it.

511
00:35:06.039 --> 00:35:09.159
But again there's that that yeah, but there is that

512
00:35:09.320 --> 00:35:10.519
high sense of integrity.

513
00:35:10.599 --> 00:35:13.000
So it's like that's what makes you good for your job.

514
00:35:14.719 --> 00:35:19.519
See, like, yeah, my job is great, but when I

515
00:35:19.639 --> 00:35:22.159
come home, my job is not going to love me.

516
00:35:22.480 --> 00:35:23.880
My job is not going to marry me.

517
00:35:25.480 --> 00:35:26.360
Because we love you.

518
00:35:26.840 --> 00:35:29.360
Yeah, we love you, but as far as marriage not

519
00:35:29.800 --> 00:35:31.039
you know, but we love you anyways.

520
00:35:31.440 --> 00:35:31.679
Wow.

521
00:35:32.079 --> 00:35:36.920
Wow, And and.

522
00:35:39.960 --> 00:35:41.199
You know what, I can marry you.

523
00:35:41.320 --> 00:35:44.159
And I just you know what, I just want to

524
00:35:44.199 --> 00:35:46.719
say this, you know, thank god, lady g it's not

525
00:35:46.800 --> 00:35:47.519
Batman or Bruce.

526
00:35:47.719 --> 00:35:49.800
But he doesn't have Bruce Wayne money or she's like

527
00:35:49.840 --> 00:35:52.360
Batman or not because that same person that's smoking that

528
00:35:52.519 --> 00:35:55.079
popped up in that cann of beer when he gets off,

529
00:35:55.800 --> 00:35:57.119
when he gets off, you know what I'm saying, she

530
00:35:57.119 --> 00:35:59.800
would have turned the dark Knight just as a servant breakers.

531
00:36:00.679 --> 00:36:05.199
You know what I'm saying, Like, thank God, thank God,

532
00:36:05.599 --> 00:36:07.079
thank god you don't have Bruce Layne money.

533
00:36:07.719 --> 00:36:10.320
Well, I'm glad you share that because some of the

534
00:36:10.400 --> 00:36:14.840
things that you brought up. Actually, I am an EmPATH myself,

535
00:36:15.199 --> 00:36:19.519
and I don't know, I'll look into it more. I

536
00:36:19.559 --> 00:36:25.239
don't think I'm that sensitive though, but but I do.

537
00:36:25.840 --> 00:36:30.519
I'm very emotional and I get very when I'm angry,

538
00:36:30.800 --> 00:36:34.159
I get very upset, like and I'm crying, and like

539
00:36:34.400 --> 00:36:37.119
if I can't control that, there's just I think it's

540
00:36:37.239 --> 00:36:40.559
just there's just a lot coming out, Like when there

541
00:36:40.800 --> 00:36:45.559
is anger, it's like very hard feelings, whether it's extremely

542
00:36:45.679 --> 00:36:50.679
happy I cry or very angry cry. So I think

543
00:36:50.719 --> 00:36:55.199
it's it is possibly even just a reaction of the body.

544
00:36:55.360 --> 00:36:59.199
It's just letting go, because like if you don't and

545
00:36:59.320 --> 00:37:02.079
you hold that in, you might just fucking explode.

546
00:37:02.199 --> 00:37:02.360
Low.

547
00:37:02.519 --> 00:37:03.639
Yeah, You're gonna blow up.

548
00:37:04.000 --> 00:37:06.480
Or have a freaking heart attack. Literally, So it's like

549
00:37:07.280 --> 00:37:10.360
you This is why I think it's important to kill

550
00:37:10.440 --> 00:37:14.440
this stigma around mental health. Why it's important for us

551
00:37:14.519 --> 00:37:19.239
to keep having these conversations about different personalities, different people,

552
00:37:19.480 --> 00:37:22.800
different you know, mental illnesses and what they look like,

553
00:37:23.159 --> 00:37:28.480
and you know what what's available to help people, and uh,

554
00:37:28.760 --> 00:37:32.840
you know that there there are resources, there are people

555
00:37:32.880 --> 00:37:37.639
who care, there is support out there, there's medications. If

556
00:37:37.679 --> 00:37:41.800
there isn't medications, there are people. Uh, there's a lot

557
00:37:41.920 --> 00:37:46.280
of things available to people. And men need to stop

558
00:37:47.480 --> 00:37:51.840
this bullshit of feeling less than or weak if they

559
00:37:51.960 --> 00:37:55.559
show emotion. It's bullshit, Like you're a human fucking being.

560
00:37:56.159 --> 00:37:59.840
And human beings have real emotions. People get angry, people

561
00:38:00.000 --> 00:38:03.679
get upset, people get depressed. Doesn't mean they have depression.

562
00:38:04.039 --> 00:38:08.000
But these things happen, like there are things that weren't

563
00:38:08.079 --> 00:38:11.960
in life that bring us to our knees. Okay, like

564
00:38:12.320 --> 00:38:16.639
it happens. All of us have stories for days because

565
00:38:17.079 --> 00:38:21.039
we've lived life, we've struggled. We know what it's like

566
00:38:21.639 --> 00:38:25.400
to hit rock bottom and what it feels like though

567
00:38:25.519 --> 00:38:28.639
to get the best back up and do what you

568
00:38:28.760 --> 00:38:33.880
gotta fucking do. And it does help to have a friend,

569
00:38:34.039 --> 00:38:36.239
and it does help. Even if it's somebody that you

570
00:38:36.480 --> 00:38:41.639
message on messenger, it is still a conversation that is

571
00:38:41.800 --> 00:38:47.480
being had on being heard in some way, Like talk

572
00:38:47.639 --> 00:38:51.320
to your friends, Like I feel like I'm nervous for

573
00:38:51.400 --> 00:38:54.920
the younger generation, I don't know, like I feel like

574
00:38:55.400 --> 00:39:00.280
the internet has ruined things, so like all these iber

575
00:39:00.360 --> 00:39:04.559
bullying and stuff like that. But like talk to your

576
00:39:04.639 --> 00:39:08.599
friends or someone you love, like someone you know you

577
00:39:08.719 --> 00:39:11.480
can trust. There are people out there who love you

578
00:39:11.599 --> 00:39:15.280
and care about you, and and it's okay, but we

579
00:39:15.360 --> 00:39:18.440
should go back to that asexual thing because it's really

580
00:39:18.599 --> 00:39:19.480
interesting to me.

581
00:39:19.719 --> 00:39:23.159
But go ahead, does real quick? You know what you said,

582
00:39:23.320 --> 00:39:25.239
rock just hitting the rock bottom. All of us hit

583
00:39:25.280 --> 00:39:28.400
the rock bottom. Yes, but have you ever hit the

584
00:39:28.480 --> 00:39:29.559
rock bottom of someone else?

585
00:39:31.280 --> 00:39:33.039
Will you stop? No?

586
00:39:33.199 --> 00:39:38.360
I'm serious, I'm serious, I'm serious. I was there. I

587
00:39:38.559 --> 00:39:43.760
was there, Yo, I was there, you know Yo. It

588
00:39:43.920 --> 00:39:47.199
was so disrespectful. It was funny. I felt bad for

589
00:39:47.280 --> 00:39:49.960
the girl, but it was funny. We were young.

590
00:39:50.400 --> 00:39:53.599
We were young, just wanted, you know, because because you

591
00:39:53.639 --> 00:39:55.480
know what, all of her was rock bottom. I was like, yeah,

592
00:39:55.599 --> 00:39:57.239
you know, always hit rock bottom, but none of us

593
00:39:57.280 --> 00:39:59.920
ever hit the rock bottom. Oh he hit the rock bottom.

594
00:40:01.440 --> 00:40:01.599
You know.

595
00:40:01.840 --> 00:40:04.400
He told some girl to lift her hands up and

596
00:40:04.679 --> 00:40:07.360
he was like, for what and he does the rocket.

597
00:40:09.079 --> 00:40:11.880
She's like, but what saved her?

598
00:40:12.000 --> 00:40:12.119
Right?

599
00:40:13.039 --> 00:40:15.440
What saved her? Pretty much? It wasn't like on the ground,

600
00:40:15.760 --> 00:40:17.239
you know what I'm saying. It was on top of

601
00:40:17.320 --> 00:40:26.760
like snow. But you know, yeah, problems, that's what she

602
00:40:26.920 --> 00:40:27.079
was like.

603
00:40:27.480 --> 00:40:28.000
She was like my.

604
00:40:31.760 --> 00:40:33.920
I was like, I was like, yo, what are you doing?

605
00:40:35.639 --> 00:40:36.679
Oh my lord?

606
00:40:37.440 --> 00:40:41.360
But you know what that's drugs and alcohol do to people.

607
00:40:41.920 --> 00:40:45.920
But but but you know what that the whole sexual

608
00:40:45.960 --> 00:40:47.480
thing is pretty you know what I'm saying, it's it's

609
00:40:47.519 --> 00:40:48.480
pretty interesting, you.

610
00:40:48.519 --> 00:40:51.159
Know, like like you know, like not how do you

611
00:40:51.320 --> 00:40:52.199
how do you maneuver that?

612
00:40:52.880 --> 00:40:54.239
Sexual orientation?

613
00:40:54.840 --> 00:40:55.519
Is fun?

614
00:40:56.159 --> 00:41:04.039
It's it's so interesting, it's so fluid. There is oh man,

615
00:41:04.119 --> 00:41:09.360
there's so much fun stuff. But listen, a sexual person like,

616
00:41:10.599 --> 00:41:15.840
they don't have that want that kind of intimacy. Intimacy

617
00:41:15.920 --> 00:41:18.880
for them is different, and it's different for each person.

618
00:41:19.400 --> 00:41:22.159
Some people don't like to be touched at all, and

619
00:41:22.639 --> 00:41:27.119
they actually are in a relationship with someone who may

620
00:41:27.199 --> 00:41:30.280
be asexual as well. Obviously that's going to work. The

621
00:41:30.360 --> 00:41:36.199
best is a relationship where both are the same sexual orientation. Right,

622
00:41:36.480 --> 00:41:44.159
So I'm curious if this person is open to possibly

623
00:41:44.480 --> 00:41:49.719
having an open relationship because you are not going to

624
00:41:49.760 --> 00:41:52.960
fulfill that need for him, and you shouldn't have to

625
00:41:53.320 --> 00:41:57.519
because that's kind of just going against how you are

626
00:41:57.760 --> 00:41:59.960
and how you feel and who you are as a person.

627
00:42:00.480 --> 00:42:04.280
So why put yourself in that type of scenario if.

628
00:42:04.159 --> 00:42:07.199
You can help who you love? Because can we be real,

629
00:42:07.880 --> 00:42:10.440
you can't help who you love, Like there are some

630
00:42:10.639 --> 00:42:13.840
people out there, I feel like I have multiple soulmates.

631
00:42:14.760 --> 00:42:21.760
You understand this, okay, Like, look, yeah, it's not like

632
00:42:22.760 --> 00:42:27.119
I don't know, it's more like an emotional level or

633
00:42:27.480 --> 00:42:31.960
an intellectual level. There are people who meet certain needs

634
00:42:32.039 --> 00:42:35.679
of mind, like we all have specific needs in relationships,

635
00:42:36.159 --> 00:42:39.199
and we get that. I'm a married woman, but I'm

636
00:42:39.239 --> 00:42:44.119
in an open relationship and this is unique and different.

637
00:42:44.199 --> 00:42:46.480
I'm not going to go into details about it but

638
00:42:46.760 --> 00:42:50.800
my situation. But what I'm saying is, if you love

639
00:42:50.880 --> 00:42:54.920
this person this much and they are willing to accept

640
00:42:55.199 --> 00:42:58.519
you as you are and be okay with not having

641
00:42:58.599 --> 00:43:01.960
sex with you or not being intimate in those ways

642
00:43:02.039 --> 00:43:06.000
with you, would you be willing to allow him to

643
00:43:06.119 --> 00:43:11.360
have that with someone else? Now there's boundaries and rules

644
00:43:11.800 --> 00:43:20.679
around that. How No, no, bro, what are you talking about?

645
00:43:20.760 --> 00:43:25.079
The guy is getting girls, yo?

646
00:43:25.239 --> 00:43:28.480
But still you know what she's a No, she's not.

647
00:43:29.559 --> 00:43:30.159
She would be.

648
00:43:32.320 --> 00:43:32.559
In this.

649
00:43:33.440 --> 00:43:35.880
This is what an open relationship is.

650
00:43:43.320 --> 00:43:46.760
Oh my lord, you know what I'm playing.

651
00:43:47.440 --> 00:43:51.559
You better be playing. I'm about to drive far to

652
00:43:51.639 --> 00:43:55.280
put a foot up an ass. Okay, still broken?

653
00:43:55.360 --> 00:43:55.559
Hush?

654
00:44:00.000 --> 00:44:02.800
Oh yeah, that's what I This is what I say

655
00:44:02.880 --> 00:44:06.760
to that person. I wonder if you would be open

656
00:44:06.800 --> 00:44:10.679
to something like that, because you are very it's very

657
00:44:11.599 --> 00:44:17.840
capable or a capability to have love for just one

658
00:44:18.000 --> 00:44:27.280
person and just have sex with other people. Because because

659
00:44:28.800 --> 00:44:31.360
because men are more capable of doing this than women.

660
00:44:31.480 --> 00:44:34.519
But you guys can cut off emotional connections with sex

661
00:44:34.880 --> 00:44:37.320
because sometimes it is a need that's being fulfilled for

662
00:44:37.440 --> 00:44:40.239
both parties that that happens.

663
00:44:41.119 --> 00:44:48.679
So from a personal standpoint of course, like what, I

664
00:44:48.719 --> 00:44:50.840
don't think I'll be able to do something but my

665
00:44:50.960 --> 00:44:52.679
age now, you know, I'm saying where I'm at right now,

666
00:44:52.719 --> 00:44:56.599
I don't think i'll be able to to Like you know.

667
00:44:57.440 --> 00:45:01.079
You can't handle one woman, Okay, you don't need another.

668
00:45:01.320 --> 00:45:02.599
We're not talking about you.

669
00:45:03.519 --> 00:45:06.519
I'm not not I'm saying. I'm saying, like you know, well,

670
00:45:06.519 --> 00:45:07.519
I mean back then.

671
00:45:07.480 --> 00:45:14.360
I mean, I'm talking about a healthy, mature relationship. I

672
00:45:14.480 --> 00:45:17.360
am not talking about someone who's in a relationship and

673
00:45:17.440 --> 00:45:20.960
is cheating. I'm talking about someone that you may think

674
00:45:21.000 --> 00:45:25.000
this is crazy mutual understanding. And my husband and I

675
00:45:25.960 --> 00:45:28.840
talk to each other about our dates or people that

676
00:45:28.960 --> 00:45:32.360
we're seeing or whatever. And I've met some of them

677
00:45:32.400 --> 00:45:39.280
and he's met some of my mind some yeah some Okay,

678
00:45:40.639 --> 00:45:43.559
I mean my story is even crazier. So but we're

679
00:45:43.559 --> 00:45:45.880
not going to get into that because that's another show.

680
00:45:46.039 --> 00:45:48.719
It's this whole thing we listen and we don't judge,

681
00:45:49.079 --> 00:45:55.800
that's right, because I feel that I have I feel

682
00:45:55.960 --> 00:45:59.920
that he and I have enough trust and respect any

683
00:46:00.000 --> 00:46:00.440
each other.

684
00:46:01.960 --> 00:46:08.880
We understand our relationship and what it is and and

685
00:46:09.159 --> 00:46:14.719
he and likes and as long as we are honest

686
00:46:15.480 --> 00:46:21.559
with the other person, because I never lie. I always

687
00:46:21.599 --> 00:46:23.960
put it out there. And if a person is uncomfortable

688
00:46:24.000 --> 00:46:27.400
with that and it's happened, then they say, because some

689
00:46:27.519 --> 00:46:29.880
people don't understand it, like you two are going what?

690
00:46:30.719 --> 00:46:36.159
Because it is not a norm that people, let me

691
00:46:36.239 --> 00:46:38.199
tell you over here out here in PA a lot

692
00:46:38.280 --> 00:46:44.280
of polly life, that's not that's a big thing. Like polygamy.

693
00:46:45.159 --> 00:46:45.679
Is a thing.

694
00:46:46.760 --> 00:46:49.360
And I mean, I don't know if you want to

695
00:46:49.400 --> 00:46:52.199
divulge in this, but it's fucking interesting too, man, Like

696
00:46:52.679 --> 00:46:55.440
it is very capable. There are people out there. I

697
00:46:55.559 --> 00:46:58.000
think I'm one of those people who's very capable of

698
00:46:58.119 --> 00:46:59.440
loving more than one person.

699
00:47:00.960 --> 00:47:01.159
Hmm.

700
00:47:01.519 --> 00:47:02.480
Can I ask you a question?

701
00:47:04.800 --> 00:47:04.920
How?

702
00:47:05.119 --> 00:47:09.360
How how do you? How do you find yourself loving

703
00:47:09.920 --> 00:47:12.559
more than one person? Are you? Are you right now

704
00:47:12.639 --> 00:47:13.519
in love with two people?

705
00:47:14.519 --> 00:47:14.719
Yes?

706
00:47:17.039 --> 00:47:19.880
How do you? How do you maneuver that?

707
00:47:20.599 --> 00:47:24.159
But I imagine that they both serve different purposes in

708
00:47:24.280 --> 00:47:24.840
your life?

709
00:47:25.519 --> 00:47:25.880
Bingo?

710
00:47:28.320 --> 00:47:31.079
They fulfill different needs in my life.

711
00:47:31.679 --> 00:47:33.880
So you love one because of this and you love

712
00:47:33.960 --> 00:47:34.719
the other because of that.

713
00:47:36.559 --> 00:47:39.400
All right, now, I have a question. I have a question.

714
00:47:39.400 --> 00:47:42.159
You know what I'm saying, serious ship, Is it possible

715
00:47:42.199 --> 00:47:44.280
that you just love one and lust the other?

716
00:47:45.119 --> 00:47:45.360
Nope?

717
00:47:45.840 --> 00:47:49.000
Because you know what, lest sometimes because I'm not I'm

718
00:47:49.039 --> 00:47:51.360
just saying because I know, I know the difference love

719
00:47:51.400 --> 00:47:51.800
and lust.

720
00:47:52.519 --> 00:47:54.719
I know when I'm wanting and I just want to

721
00:47:54.800 --> 00:47:57.679
get you know what, when I.

722
00:47:57.800 --> 00:48:01.440
Love someone, I'm just asking because like because like you

723
00:48:01.519 --> 00:48:03.079
know what, in this day and age, like a lot

724
00:48:03.119 --> 00:48:05.239
of a lot of people not I'm not saying us,

725
00:48:05.880 --> 00:48:07.679
but a lot of people confuse you know what I'm

726
00:48:07.679 --> 00:48:11.039
saying lust for love like you know, like like you know,

727
00:48:11.119 --> 00:48:13.119
like like for instance, like a lot of like like

728
00:48:13.440 --> 00:48:17.000
men out here, maybe the end their dick dictate their heart,

729
00:48:17.360 --> 00:48:18.000
you see what I mean.

730
00:48:19.079 --> 00:48:22.559
When but if they can ask themselves the question what

731
00:48:22.679 --> 00:48:25.360
would I do without this person? Or what can I

732
00:48:25.480 --> 00:48:27.920
not do without this person? That's going to tell them

733
00:48:28.079 --> 00:48:29.119
is this love or lust?

734
00:48:30.360 --> 00:48:30.519
You know?

735
00:48:30.760 --> 00:48:30.800
Like?

736
00:48:32.960 --> 00:48:35.519
Yeah, So then that's that's them being immature and not

737
00:48:35.679 --> 00:48:40.320
being able to think deeper about the things that people fulfill,

738
00:48:42.760 --> 00:48:47.079
you know, especially women. We have we have very complex

739
00:48:48.400 --> 00:48:51.800
uh things about our emotions and about our physical and

740
00:48:52.559 --> 00:48:56.960
about our needs and sometimes and it is totally possible. Again,

741
00:48:57.880 --> 00:49:00.599
almost twenty years I was a marriage and family therapist,

742
00:49:01.400 --> 00:49:04.360
and so I've not only seen it, but even you know,

743
00:49:04.559 --> 00:49:09.199
have experienced some of these things myself. You know, I

744
00:49:09.599 --> 00:49:15.159
personally am a monogamous person. I don't I don't practice

745
00:49:15.239 --> 00:49:17.480
polygamy or any of that kind of stuff, but I

746
00:49:17.559 --> 00:49:22.760
can definitely see how and why people do live their

747
00:49:22.800 --> 00:49:26.519
lives that way. And each of us as individuals have

748
00:49:26.679 --> 00:49:29.679
to do what works for us, what makes us happy,

749
00:49:29.800 --> 00:49:33.480
what makes our partners happy, and not everybody can do

750
00:49:33.760 --> 00:49:38.039
what TG does. You know, some people try, but they're

751
00:49:38.159 --> 00:49:41.480
not good at it, you know, because I just don't

752
00:49:41.519 --> 00:49:45.599
think they truly totally understand what that entails, you know,

753
00:49:45.800 --> 00:49:50.280
And it's about expectations and the honesty, you know, Like

754
00:49:50.400 --> 00:49:53.440
people don't understand that when you're truly honest with somebody

755
00:49:53.480 --> 00:49:57.599
about something, you can hurt for a moment and be fine,

756
00:49:58.199 --> 00:50:01.239
where when you continue to live the is perpetual lie

757
00:50:01.440 --> 00:50:04.360
after lie after lie. You can be monogamous with somebody,

758
00:50:04.719 --> 00:50:09.199
but if they're lying to you, if they're lying to

759
00:50:09.320 --> 00:50:13.400
you that is home so much more damaging than actually

760
00:50:13.519 --> 00:50:16.679
loving two people who are totally honest between the three

761
00:50:16.760 --> 00:50:20.760
of them. You know, like, it's just about to what

762
00:50:21.000 --> 00:50:25.639
extent are you willing to go to understand each person's

763
00:50:25.920 --> 00:50:32.000
wants versus their needs, your own goals for life. It's

764
00:50:32.119 --> 00:50:33.679
just a lot deeper of a question.

765
00:50:35.519 --> 00:50:36.559
I'm like, what's happening?

766
00:50:37.000 --> 00:50:38.000
Because stuff went.

767
00:50:37.880 --> 00:50:39.000
Out and then came back in.

768
00:50:42.000 --> 00:50:45.000
Yeah. And the funny thing is this is part of

769
00:50:45.079 --> 00:50:47.800
what came up with me finding out about my HSP.

770
00:50:48.719 --> 00:50:52.360
Was like people could not understand how I could have

771
00:50:52.519 --> 00:50:58.280
these deep seated conversations with people. I'm horrible at small

772
00:50:58.400 --> 00:51:02.880
talk makes me uncomfortable. I don't know how to do it.

773
00:51:03.880 --> 00:51:06.840
It's just basic. So it's like all of these little things,

774
00:51:07.039 --> 00:51:10.239
especially with the stuff that TG's bringing up, that had

775
00:51:10.360 --> 00:51:14.840
me looking into and being evaluated for this stuff. You know, like,

776
00:51:14.960 --> 00:51:17.480
what does that mean to be a highly sensitive person?

777
00:51:17.960 --> 00:51:19.880
And no, it doesn't mean that I cry at the

778
00:51:19.960 --> 00:51:21.960
drop of the hat. It's so much deeper than that.

779
00:51:22.519 --> 00:51:24.480
It's the fact that you know, I come on here

780
00:51:25.519 --> 00:51:29.360
and sometimes when you guys are all laughing and keep

781
00:51:29.440 --> 00:51:32.519
kicking in and everything, I don't get it, you know.

782
00:51:32.719 --> 00:51:35.039
And it's not because I don't want to. It's just

783
00:51:35.199 --> 00:51:35.679
not in me.

784
00:51:36.400 --> 00:51:38.280
Some of the things that we talk about, which is

785
00:51:38.360 --> 00:51:40.440
I think what makes the four of us so good

786
00:51:40.519 --> 00:51:46.280
together is that each one of us has our place,

787
00:51:47.119 --> 00:51:51.800
our perspectives, our roles. You know, me and TG are women,

788
00:51:52.440 --> 00:51:56.360
but we're two different women and two different professions, with

789
00:51:56.480 --> 00:52:01.480
two different life experiences. But on on on most things,

790
00:52:01.679 --> 00:52:04.840
you know, we're in agreement. Uh. And then we bring

791
00:52:05.760 --> 00:52:08.400
light to the things that the other may not know about.

792
00:52:08.440 --> 00:52:11.079
And the same thing with Corleone and Dubs. You know,

793
00:52:11.239 --> 00:52:14.760
all four of us bring perspectives that are good to

794
00:52:14.880 --> 00:52:19.719
be heard out for the for the people that we

795
00:52:19.840 --> 00:52:24.199
talk to, you know, for for our audience, you know,

796
00:52:24.320 --> 00:52:26.719
and to I come on here and I'm real about it,

797
00:52:27.039 --> 00:52:30.679
you know, I'm not afraid to say this is me. Uh,

798
00:52:31.360 --> 00:52:33.599
this is what I do, this is how I feel.

799
00:52:34.119 --> 00:52:36.119
I never feel bad that I'm not laughing at the

800
00:52:36.159 --> 00:52:39.480
stuff you guys laugh at sometimes, because that's just not me.

801
00:52:40.000 --> 00:52:42.760
It's it's and it's not that I don't think it's funny.

802
00:52:42.840 --> 00:52:44.840
Some of the stuff I think it's hilarious. I just

803
00:52:45.119 --> 00:52:47.480
it doesn't touch me the way it touches everybody else.

804
00:52:48.159 --> 00:52:55.719
I don't want to, yeah, but at the same time, I.

805
00:52:55.880 --> 00:52:59.119
Know that nobody would want to live like to, you know,

806
00:52:59.239 --> 00:53:03.000
being transparent, and I know a lot of people won't

807
00:53:03.079 --> 00:53:08.679
understand it, but I live a daily life of perpetual sadness.

808
00:53:09.360 --> 00:53:13.719
I'm not depressed. It's just my heart hurts every single

809
00:53:13.840 --> 00:53:17.079
day for one thing or another. And I know it's

810
00:53:17.159 --> 00:53:20.400
hard to explain. It was hard for me to even understand.

811
00:53:20.519 --> 00:53:22.159
And for a long time, I was like, what is

812
00:53:22.199 --> 00:53:25.519
wrong with me? Why do I fear this? I felt

813
00:53:25.559 --> 00:53:30.239
like I was in utter despair right and couldn't understand why.

814
00:53:30.840 --> 00:53:32.480
You know, it's actually part of what led me to

815
00:53:32.639 --> 00:53:35.360
church and all those different things. But the truth is,

816
00:53:35.519 --> 00:53:39.440
it is a thing, and it's twenty percent of the population.

817
00:53:40.320 --> 00:53:45.039
And that made me feel Hello, Heather, that made me

818
00:53:45.119 --> 00:53:47.280
feel a little bit safer to know that I'm not

819
00:53:47.679 --> 00:53:52.360
I'm not by myself. You know, it was painful to

820
00:53:52.440 --> 00:53:55.559
find out that, you know, eighty percent of the world's

821
00:53:55.599 --> 00:53:57.559
not going to get me, it's not going to understand me,

822
00:53:58.000 --> 00:54:02.559
and it definitely saw us down the pool of eligible

823
00:54:02.639 --> 00:54:08.440
bachelors for me. But you know, I'm a very hopeful

824
00:54:09.000 --> 00:54:12.719
you know, positive person, you know. But I I honestly

825
00:54:12.800 --> 00:54:16.599
live every single day in my life in physical heartache.

826
00:54:17.039 --> 00:54:19.519
And and that's not something I know that other people

827
00:54:19.599 --> 00:54:22.679
want to deal with, you know. But I also I

828
00:54:22.840 --> 00:54:25.559
celebrate who I am and and that I feel this

829
00:54:25.679 --> 00:54:29.920
way because I tell you this, It's guaranteed. If I

830
00:54:30.000 --> 00:54:32.559
ever told you I loved you, you would never you

831
00:54:32.639 --> 00:54:34.960
would never doubt it, you know.

832
00:54:35.639 --> 00:54:36.159
Mm hmmm.

833
00:54:37.719 --> 00:54:38.960
So I know that who I am.

834
00:54:39.239 --> 00:54:40.880
Yeah, I know who that I am. That who I

835
00:54:40.960 --> 00:54:48.000
am is special, definitely unique. But I also have to

836
00:54:48.079 --> 00:54:50.800
learn to navigate the world like everybody else. I know.

837
00:54:51.440 --> 00:54:53.639
I'm telling you, we're gonna do it a bachelor at

838
00:54:53.840 --> 00:54:59.079
for you on this So is that happen eventually? I

839
00:54:59.239 --> 00:55:00.400
think it needs to happen.

840
00:55:00.599 --> 00:55:03.559
I'm gonna go find me a help group I need

841
00:55:03.639 --> 00:55:05.639
to join. I need to join a support group.

842
00:55:07.320 --> 00:55:07.559
Wow.

843
00:55:09.519 --> 00:55:10.800
Too overwhelmed by that one.

844
00:55:12.159 --> 00:55:15.760
Oh boy, I can only handle one of me.

845
00:55:19.960 --> 00:55:26.880
My daughter says it. She just turned eighteen. Congratulates to her, Yeah, congrats. Yeah. No,

846
00:55:27.239 --> 00:55:29.760
And she says to me, Mom, sometimes you are just

847
00:55:30.440 --> 00:55:36.519
so extra. I'm like, all right, so go get you

848
00:55:36.599 --> 00:55:38.400
another mother. She's like, no, I'll keep you.

849
00:55:38.519 --> 00:55:39.039
I'll keep you.

850
00:55:42.280 --> 00:55:42.559
To you.

851
00:55:44.239 --> 00:55:50.559
Wow, but I have to say, like I like when

852
00:55:50.599 --> 00:55:52.639
you were saying that we each bring something like I do.

853
00:55:53.480 --> 00:55:56.119
Doubs drives me crazy obviously, but I kind of do

854
00:55:56.360 --> 00:55:58.719
like when he says the things he says because there

855
00:55:58.880 --> 00:56:02.159
are people in the population who feel that way, and

856
00:56:02.280 --> 00:56:04.960
I guess for me, it gives me an opportunity to

857
00:56:05.079 --> 00:56:11.719
set them straight. So I I think, yeah, I'm talking

858
00:56:11.760 --> 00:56:13.480
to everyone, I'm not really talking to them.

859
00:56:13.960 --> 00:56:17.199
Yeah, First, I think, you know.

860
00:56:17.239 --> 00:56:21.599
First of all, real quick, you know, I purposely say

861
00:56:21.639 --> 00:56:25.159
the things that I say. You know, you know what,

862
00:56:25.800 --> 00:56:26.039
you know what?

863
00:56:26.280 --> 00:56:28.039
First off? You know what I speak my mind because

864
00:56:28.119 --> 00:56:31.239
like like you know what, this is who I am.

865
00:56:31.320 --> 00:56:33.199
Like you know what, there's certain things that I don't understand.

866
00:56:33.639 --> 00:56:35.880
That's why I listen. And then there's certain things that

867
00:56:35.960 --> 00:56:38.039
I think, like come on, man, this is so bro

868
00:56:38.800 --> 00:56:41.639
you know, like like I'm sorry, you know what I mean,

869
00:56:41.760 --> 00:56:46.119
Like like you know, like like you know, like it's

870
00:56:46.199 --> 00:56:49.159
like you know, like it's just certain things that it's

871
00:56:49.239 --> 00:56:52.440
like come on, man, yeah, you know what I'm saying,

872
00:56:52.519 --> 00:56:54.840
Like you're making a dishard when it give be this

873
00:56:54.960 --> 00:56:59.559
simple why you know what I'm saying? Like why why

874
00:56:59.679 --> 00:57:03.000
why do we feel the need to make things complicated?

875
00:57:03.239 --> 00:57:06.639
Like one plus one is two, is not eleven, But

876
00:57:06.719 --> 00:57:08.360
why do we have to Like you know what I'm saying.

877
00:57:08.280 --> 00:57:10.079
One one plus one equals one.

878
00:57:10.199 --> 00:57:20.440
Bro, that's a new man. But you're gonna understand something, Dubs.

879
00:57:20.880 --> 00:57:23.079
You've been in your little corner of the world for

880
00:57:23.239 --> 00:57:27.760
however long, right, And what's easy to you might not

881
00:57:27.880 --> 00:57:30.079
be easy for other people, and what's hard to you

882
00:57:30.360 --> 00:57:32.760
might not be hard to other people. Like I've had

883
00:57:32.840 --> 00:57:34.960
plenty of people say to me, why do you have

884
00:57:35.039 --> 00:57:36.719
to make it so hard? And I'm like, what are

885
00:57:36.760 --> 00:57:39.360
you talking about? You haven't even seen the stuff that

886
00:57:39.400 --> 00:57:43.119
I'm not saying, Like you think this is so hard

887
00:57:43.400 --> 00:57:47.639
just to say I'm sorry to me that comes second nature,

888
00:57:48.639 --> 00:57:52.280
you know, or or something like a man cry please

889
00:57:52.519 --> 00:57:54.960
that's simp, Like every time you call somebody a simp

890
00:57:55.559 --> 00:57:57.280
And I'm like, yeah.

891
00:57:57.400 --> 00:58:00.840
Yes, no, you know what, that's the cry. But like

892
00:58:01.440 --> 00:58:03.119
it's like what you're what I'm saying?

893
00:58:03.599 --> 00:58:03.960
Period?

894
00:58:04.159 --> 00:58:04.360
Yeah?

895
00:58:04.480 --> 00:58:04.920
Last week?

896
00:58:05.000 --> 00:58:05.280
Period?

897
00:58:05.360 --> 00:58:05.519
Yeah?

898
00:58:05.559 --> 00:58:08.039
Last week? You know I did you want to why

899
00:58:08.440 --> 00:58:09.480
you want to?

900
00:58:09.599 --> 00:58:09.760
Why?

901
00:58:09.840 --> 00:58:12.880
Because like, yo, you know what you know, Like if

902
00:58:12.920 --> 00:58:15.119
you're noticing some ship, you know what I'm saying of

903
00:58:15.199 --> 00:58:18.239
that caliber, and you and you and you. You know

904
00:58:18.239 --> 00:58:20.079
what I'm saying. You're here like asking why, like bro,

905
00:58:20.320 --> 00:58:22.719
like like make a move, do something. Man, don't don't

906
00:58:23.599 --> 00:58:25.280
why you even writing up while you were writing a

907
00:58:25.360 --> 00:58:25.920
fucking letter.

908
00:58:27.639 --> 00:58:31.679
They don't know the answer. That's why someone writes here.

909
00:58:32.440 --> 00:58:36.360
They want to hear other persons people, and now they

910
00:58:36.480 --> 00:58:38.679
have they can be in an open relationship.

911
00:58:38.800 --> 00:58:42.000
So they're like like like, Yo, you know what, I

912
00:58:42.159 --> 00:58:44.000
understand you. I'm saying how the hard works. You know

913
00:58:44.000 --> 00:58:45.239
what I'm saying. But at some point, you know, I

914
00:58:45.280 --> 00:58:47.039
mean like like, yo, you know what, you gotta put

915
00:58:47.039 --> 00:58:47.840
your mind before ya.

916
00:58:47.960 --> 00:58:48.079
You know.

917
00:58:48.159 --> 00:58:50.920
See, that's the situation where you put your mind before

918
00:58:51.000 --> 00:58:51.320
the heart.

919
00:58:52.400 --> 00:58:52.840
Period.

920
00:58:53.559 --> 00:58:55.639
You know what I'm saying, period man, because like because

921
00:58:55.639 --> 00:58:57.400
it's like, Yo, you know what at that point, you

922
00:58:57.440 --> 00:59:00.199
know what I'm saying. You're saying, Yo, I was this

923
00:59:00.280 --> 00:59:02.440
woman one that I love myself. I'm like, oh my god,

924
00:59:02.519 --> 00:59:03.639
here we go, man, Like yo.

925
00:59:03.760 --> 00:59:07.239
Learn yo, love yourself first. Bro. That's you know, that's

926
00:59:07.239 --> 00:59:08.719
the reason why I called it. That's the reason why

927
00:59:08.719 --> 00:59:08.960
I said.

928
00:59:09.000 --> 00:59:11.719
That's some simp ship I understand, but.

929
00:59:11.880 --> 00:59:13.320
That's the reason why I said, Yo, That's the reason

930
00:59:13.320 --> 00:59:15.280
why I said some simp ship because no, you know what,

931
00:59:15.920 --> 00:59:18.840
if you're not loving yourself, how to fuck you know

932
00:59:18.880 --> 00:59:20.559
what love is if you expect you know what I'm saying.

933
00:59:20.920 --> 00:59:23.880
If you do, you know, get there? Though, How did

934
00:59:23.920 --> 00:59:26.639
you get to loving yourself? You were not born that way,

935
00:59:27.719 --> 00:59:28.119
you were not.

936
00:59:29.079 --> 00:59:32.199
Yourself a straight jacket. Maybe forced me to hug myself

937
00:59:32.239 --> 00:59:34.599
and that's some ship that person.

938
00:59:34.840 --> 00:59:36.280
Got into their straight jacket.

939
00:59:36.360 --> 00:59:39.559
Yet, Okay, yo, no, I'm serious, you know what, And

940
00:59:39.639 --> 00:59:41.760
that's the first time I embraced myself because I was

941
00:59:41.840 --> 00:59:42.199
forced to.

942
00:59:42.559 --> 00:59:44.079
But other than that, but you know what I'm saying.

943
00:59:44.320 --> 00:59:47.119
But other than that, other than that, you know what,

944
00:59:47.639 --> 00:59:50.880
After Yo, after numerous attempts of suicide, I decided that, Yo,

945
00:59:50.920 --> 00:59:52.440
you know what, maybe I should love myself.

946
00:59:53.599 --> 00:59:56.000
Yeah. That's to say to you that, like what if

947
00:59:56.039 --> 00:59:59.960
somebody called you a quitter, I'm still here?

948
01:00:00.199 --> 01:00:00.599
Who quit?

949
01:00:01.920 --> 01:00:02.360
Apparently?

950
01:00:02.440 --> 01:00:02.599
You know?

951
01:00:03.920 --> 01:00:06.840
No, I didn't say that you did. But you're calling

952
01:00:06.920 --> 01:00:09.880
somebody else assent based on their emotions and the way

953
01:00:09.920 --> 01:00:13.679
they expressed them. You're very open, You're very hold on.

954
01:00:13.920 --> 01:00:17.320
You are very open about the amount of times that

955
01:00:17.440 --> 01:00:20.519
you have attempted suicide, and thank you Lord, that you

956
01:00:20.639 --> 01:00:25.960
have not completed God. However, that might lead other men

957
01:00:26.320 --> 01:00:29.639
or other people to believe that you're a quitter and

958
01:00:29.760 --> 01:00:31.679
that you like to take the easy way out. Now

959
01:00:31.719 --> 01:00:34.800
you and I both know to make that decision is

960
01:00:34.960 --> 01:00:41.239
not easy, all right, It is not easy. No, I

961
01:00:41.320 --> 01:00:43.280
think all of us have at least thought about it,

962
01:00:43.400 --> 01:00:45.599
if not attempted, at least once in our lives.

963
01:00:46.239 --> 01:00:48.000
So yes, we totally understand that.

964
01:00:48.119 --> 01:00:51.199
But there are others who haven't gotten to that precipice

965
01:00:51.920 --> 01:00:53.559
who are calling you know who.

966
01:00:53.400 --> 01:01:04.719
Who I've right this town right now, dollars.

967
01:01:04.519 --> 01:01:15.519
Work are exactly.

968
01:01:14.280 --> 01:01:16.599
We got, we got we gotta laughing.

969
01:01:17.159 --> 01:01:21.599
Yeah, yeah, right, look at she does, looking at.

970
01:01:23.840 --> 01:01:27.519
I laugh. It's just unfortunately, it's that high integrity thing

971
01:01:28.239 --> 01:01:32.519
that I never understood that now I'm better understanding. It's

972
01:01:32.679 --> 01:01:37.960
like where the people that we would tell on ourselves

973
01:01:38.000 --> 01:01:40.639
if we stole something, we would be the ones bringing

974
01:01:40.719 --> 01:01:45.320
it back talking about I'm sorry I took it like,

975
01:01:45.679 --> 01:01:47.440
but it's just it's something.

976
01:01:49.239 --> 01:01:56.559
Like what I said, if it's free, it's for me.

977
01:01:59.360 --> 01:02:01.800
If it's but I'm not going to steal.

978
01:02:02.320 --> 01:02:06.800
Behold, behold, this three hundred dollars jacket doesn't have a

979
01:02:06.880 --> 01:02:09.039
tag if it's for me.

980
01:02:10.639 --> 01:02:15.360
So that's what I'm saying, like only the population. So

981
01:02:16.000 --> 01:02:18.199
it's not that I don't want to. I just don't

982
01:02:18.280 --> 01:02:22.440
really have that ability, you know, you know, I'm I'm

983
01:02:23.719 --> 01:02:28.519
you know, maybe that's why, you know my career started

984
01:02:28.559 --> 01:02:31.880
out in law enforcement. I don't know, you know, like

985
01:02:33.519 --> 01:02:37.840
I don't know that's some thirty years ago, because that's

986
01:02:37.880 --> 01:02:41.880
what that's what My undergraduate was, criminal justice.

987
01:02:42.199 --> 01:02:46.119
Thirty years ago. Yeah, Nico came out thirty years ago.

988
01:02:46.719 --> 01:02:47.159
What was that.

989
01:02:49.880 --> 01:02:51.360
He was talking about. He's talking about an album.

990
01:02:52.000 --> 01:02:55.000
Yeah, I'm saying, you know what I'm saying, you know what?

991
01:02:55.079 --> 01:02:56.480
The you know what the fact that you know what

992
01:02:56.480 --> 01:02:58.639
I'm saying, you told about thirty years ago and I

993
01:02:58.719 --> 01:03:00.320
was and I was getting kicked out, and like my

994
01:03:00.360 --> 01:03:01.719
second high school says a lot.

995
01:03:04.039 --> 01:03:10.679
You start law enforcement, you start my parents. My parents

996
01:03:10.719 --> 01:03:12.320
got tired of my ship, was signing me down in

997
01:03:12.360 --> 01:03:20.559
Miami at the time. Memories, memories, I still, I still.

998
01:03:20.360 --> 01:03:23.559
I still have one more email. I can, I can.

999
01:03:24.320 --> 01:03:26.000
I can read to you guys. If you want to

1000
01:03:26.039 --> 01:03:32.800
hear it, go for this. One says I told my

1001
01:03:32.920 --> 01:03:36.920
boyfriend I loved him right after we had sex. How

1002
01:03:37.079 --> 01:03:38.280
badly did I mess up?

1003
01:03:39.119 --> 01:03:39.320
Big?

1004
01:03:41.400 --> 01:03:44.280
I never told somebody you loved them in that And

1005
01:03:44.719 --> 01:03:47.039
now guys are so weird about that.

1006
01:03:47.159 --> 01:03:48.159
It's so stupid.

1007
01:03:48.280 --> 01:03:50.280
But yees don't just don't do that.

1008
01:03:51.320 --> 01:03:56.679
Yeah, she told so. To paraphrase, she said that they

1009
01:03:56.719 --> 01:03:59.199
were hanging out over to his crib. They've been together

1010
01:03:59.280 --> 01:04:03.480
for a little while, and they had sex. They had

1011
01:04:03.519 --> 01:04:05.440
a great time. They would enjoying each other and all

1012
01:04:05.480 --> 01:04:08.880
this other ship. And then after she also she also

1013
01:04:11.000 --> 01:04:15.159
put in parentheses that they climax together mm hmmm. And

1014
01:04:16.440 --> 01:04:21.039
after that and after that they just laid there and

1015
01:04:21.119 --> 01:04:22.679
she said, oh baby, I love you.

1016
01:04:23.599 --> 01:04:28.079
And then yeah, that moment, that was the moment. Though,

1017
01:04:28.320 --> 01:04:31.400
guys do ship like that too, so it should be forgiven,

1018
01:04:32.039 --> 01:04:35.079
like people say, stupid ship when they come.

1019
01:04:36.320 --> 01:04:40.079
So, she she said. After after everything was done, and

1020
01:04:40.199 --> 01:04:42.320
then she got you know, they hung out for a while.

1021
01:04:42.440 --> 01:04:44.079
She left. She pulled over to the side of her

1022
01:04:44.079 --> 01:04:46.400
own and said, what the fuck did I just do?

1023
01:04:48.519 --> 01:04:49.559
That happened.

1024
01:04:50.960 --> 01:04:51.760
Like every movie.

1025
01:04:52.760 --> 01:04:54.679
Yeah, we all say stupid shid like you know what

1026
01:04:54.679 --> 01:04:57.960
I'm saying. Moms would be like congratulations your single mother,

1027
01:04:58.400 --> 01:05:08.280
you know, just like I'm just around, just like I

1028
01:05:08.360 --> 01:05:10.360
was just playing now like like like you know what

1029
01:05:10.840 --> 01:05:11.159
I mean?

1030
01:05:12.960 --> 01:05:17.679
Yo? Yo, you know what? It's worse right when or

1031
01:05:17.760 --> 01:05:19.920
like you know what I'm saying, Like there was.

1032
01:05:19.920 --> 01:05:22.719
A question she goes, she wants to know did she

1033
01:05:22.880 --> 01:05:25.840
not mean it? I mean if she's having regrets over

1034
01:05:25.920 --> 01:05:27.079
saying I don't think she did.

1035
01:05:28.159 --> 01:05:29.960
No, you know what?

1036
01:05:30.559 --> 01:05:31.000
Now you know what?

1037
01:05:31.519 --> 01:05:31.760
You know what?

1038
01:05:32.559 --> 01:05:35.159
And she pulled over like, yo, what the what the

1039
01:05:35.199 --> 01:05:36.000
fuck did I just say?

1040
01:05:36.360 --> 01:05:37.880
And you're thinking about it all the way and that's

1041
01:05:37.920 --> 01:05:40.760
the only thing you're thinking about, you know what I'm saying, yo,

1042
01:05:40.960 --> 01:05:42.519
Just more regrets about what the.

1043
01:05:42.559 --> 01:05:45.760
Guy is thinking. Yeah, it's like she could have meant it.

1044
01:05:45.920 --> 01:05:47.880
But then she's like, oh, crap, did I just mess

1045
01:05:47.920 --> 01:05:49.440
it up? Because he ain't yet.

1046
01:05:49.960 --> 01:05:52.360
Oh no, by the way, he didn't say it back.

1047
01:05:52.920 --> 01:05:54.800
Right, Okay, I'm sure he didn't.

1048
01:05:54.840 --> 01:05:56.960
He didn't say it back, and that's why.

1049
01:05:56.960 --> 01:05:59.480
He's second guessing it. Yeah, he didn't say it.

1050
01:05:59.519 --> 01:06:01.519
Back, correct, she wrote that.

1051
01:06:01.800 --> 01:06:03.599
Yeah, But like but but like yo, you know what,

1052
01:06:04.039 --> 01:06:05.920
but like yo, you know what? When one you know

1053
01:06:05.960 --> 01:06:07.920
what I'm saying, Like when have you ever you know

1054
01:06:07.960 --> 01:06:10.559
what I'm saying? So that's something you know what I'm saying?

1055
01:06:10.599 --> 01:06:13.239
Says something like that, you know, like I mean me,

1056
01:06:13.320 --> 01:06:15.280
you know what I'm saying, Like it took me a

1057
01:06:15.320 --> 01:06:18.000
while to be like, yo, the fuck like you know

1058
01:06:18.039 --> 01:06:19.519
what I'm saying. Then and and then yo, you know

1059
01:06:19.599 --> 01:06:20.920
what I'm thinking about that ship?

1060
01:06:20.960 --> 01:06:21.679
I'm like, do I do?

1061
01:06:21.800 --> 01:06:22.039
I not?

1062
01:06:22.960 --> 01:06:25.239
You see what I mean? So it takes it takes

1063
01:06:25.320 --> 01:06:27.159
us a while, you know what i mean, Like not

1064
01:06:27.280 --> 01:06:30.760
all of even you know what I'm saying to even

1065
01:06:30.800 --> 01:06:32.079
like you know what I'm saying, trying to express that

1066
01:06:32.119 --> 01:06:34.440
you know what I'm saying that you know what I'm saying.

1067
01:06:35.119 --> 01:06:36.880
It takes us a while, like you know what I'm saying,

1068
01:06:36.880 --> 01:06:40.000
compute everything. It's like you know what because like you

1069
01:06:40.079 --> 01:06:42.039
know what, like you said, lady G like you know

1070
01:06:42.039 --> 01:06:44.320
what I'm saying. Yo, women are complex, Yes, you guys are,

1071
01:06:44.480 --> 01:06:48.800
but you're vocal. We're complex too, But like we've seemed simple.

1072
01:06:49.840 --> 01:06:52.119
You know what I'm saying, Like, for instance, you know

1073
01:06:52.119 --> 01:06:54.360
what I'm saying, the simplicity of of us men be

1074
01:06:54.519 --> 01:06:56.000
like what you want for dinner?

1075
01:06:56.920 --> 01:06:59.440
I make a sandwich? Who cares? You know what I'm saying.

1076
01:06:59.639 --> 01:07:01.480
We're not asking for like a t bone steak.

1077
01:07:01.480 --> 01:07:03.519
You know what I'm saying, or a freaking you know

1078
01:07:03.559 --> 01:07:07.360
what I'm saying, freaking you know, like a thors You

1079
01:07:07.360 --> 01:07:10.519
know what I'm saying, thors hammer, you know what I mean.

1080
01:07:10.920 --> 01:07:13.440
And Thorst hammers that big ass stick that's like sixty pounds.

1081
01:07:13.480 --> 01:07:15.280
This ship that you have throat. You know that you're

1082
01:07:15.320 --> 01:07:16.599
not asking for that, you know what I mean? Like,

1083
01:07:17.039 --> 01:07:18.440
it's basically not at a ten times?

1084
01:07:18.480 --> 01:07:20.159
What do you want for ye? Where you off with dinner?

1085
01:07:20.639 --> 01:07:23.719
What do you feel like making? You know what I'm saying?

1086
01:07:24.840 --> 01:07:26.480
Like shit, you know what I'm saying. I'm good enough

1087
01:07:26.519 --> 01:07:27.599
for the comedy man.

1088
01:07:27.679 --> 01:07:30.000
But when somebody asked you a question is because they

1089
01:07:30.119 --> 01:07:32.719
actually want to know, not because they want to hear

1090
01:07:32.800 --> 01:07:35.159
you say, well, what do you feel like making?

1091
01:07:35.800 --> 01:07:35.920
Now?

1092
01:07:37.320 --> 01:07:39.239
But I felt like making I wouldn't even ask you.

1093
01:07:39.360 --> 01:07:42.039
I just make it and say eat it right now?

1094
01:07:42.440 --> 01:07:42.760
Not now?

1095
01:07:42.840 --> 01:07:45.079
See you know what? Now hold on, let me finish,

1096
01:07:45.199 --> 01:07:47.239
Let me finish. You know what I'm saying. The simplicity

1097
01:07:47.280 --> 01:07:50.880
of men and the outside will be something like what

1098
01:07:50.960 --> 01:07:53.519
do you want to? Yeah, what do you want? Robin Nudas?

1099
01:07:53.519 --> 01:07:56.119
Who cares? You know what I'm saying, Like, we don't

1100
01:07:56.159 --> 01:07:57.280
care about that? You know what I'm saying, like, but

1101
01:07:57.360 --> 01:07:58.840
when it comes to the heart, you know what I'm saying.

1102
01:08:00.239 --> 01:08:02.480
You know what some what I'm saying, but like most

1103
01:08:02.519 --> 01:08:03.039
of us don't.

1104
01:08:03.719 --> 01:08:06.199
How do you know that, bro?

1105
01:08:06.800 --> 01:08:10.800
You know you speak from Bubb's point of view, right,

1106
01:08:12.639 --> 01:08:15.199
I know a lot of men who expect a dinner

1107
01:08:15.880 --> 01:08:19.479
when they come home, or that would prepare her to

1108
01:08:19.600 --> 01:08:21.359
have a home cooked meal, or would want to go

1109
01:08:21.439 --> 01:08:27.199
out there. There are people out there still want cook food,

1110
01:08:27.359 --> 01:08:29.680
cooked food or ordering you together.

1111
01:08:30.880 --> 01:08:33.279
Oh yeah, you know what I'm saying. Oh yeah, Susan,

1112
01:08:33.880 --> 01:08:36.680
Brenda beal Brenda pot roast. You know I'm saying. I

1113
01:08:36.840 --> 01:08:38.479
take off my shirt and show your wife, beat, I'll

1114
01:08:38.479 --> 01:08:42.159
show you what a white beer is. Like, nah, man, Like, why.

1115
01:08:42.119 --> 01:08:45.039
Does that have to be fifties for someone to cook

1116
01:08:45.079 --> 01:08:49.279
a meal at home, especially for their family? Like that's

1117
01:08:49.800 --> 01:08:53.560
actually a way to save money? Is so expensive? Right now?

1118
01:08:53.680 --> 01:08:54.479
Have you conquers?

1119
01:08:55.479 --> 01:08:57.279
And that's why I said, you know, and that's why

1120
01:08:57.359 --> 01:08:59.199
I said, yo, make some morom and noudles. I don't.

1121
01:08:59.560 --> 01:08:59.920
I don't care.

1122
01:09:00.039 --> 01:09:02.760
But it might be cheaper to go to fucking McDonald's

1123
01:09:02.840 --> 01:09:05.920
to eat, honestly, at some points, than it is to

1124
01:09:06.079 --> 01:09:11.319
buy certain ingredients to make food at home McDonald's. Yeah,

1125
01:09:11.319 --> 01:09:16.720
I could get a five dollar meal there, But what

1126
01:09:16.800 --> 01:09:18.720
did that say? Because I couldn't read it. A lot

1127
01:09:18.760 --> 01:09:19.279
of men want.

1128
01:09:21.199 --> 01:09:23.960
Yes, because yes, because we want to make our man happy.

1129
01:09:24.039 --> 01:09:26.279
We don't want to hear I don't care or whatever,

1130
01:09:26.680 --> 01:09:27.840
just saying and that's right.

1131
01:09:28.359 --> 01:09:30.159
It's the same thing like they're like, oh, babe, what

1132
01:09:30.199 --> 01:09:31.560
do you where do you want to go to eat?

1133
01:09:31.920 --> 01:09:34.479
And she and turn goes on, I don't know what

1134
01:09:34.560 --> 01:09:37.199
do you want to eat? You know, like like make

1135
01:09:37.279 --> 01:09:40.960
a decision, make a choice. I hate when people do that.

1136
01:09:41.560 --> 01:09:45.119
So look at that however, yo, but yo, you know

1137
01:09:45.159 --> 01:09:48.840
what I mean. People love it, Yo, But hold on.

1138
01:09:49.079 --> 01:09:50.359
You know what I'm saying, like like, yo, you know

1139
01:09:50.439 --> 01:09:52.079
I'm getting. You know what I'm getting.

1140
01:09:52.079 --> 01:09:52.560
You know what I'm saying.

1141
01:09:53.079 --> 01:09:55.760
If I'm in saying though, like like I'm just saying,

1142
01:09:55.800 --> 01:09:57.279
like example, you know what I'm saying, all right, some

1143
01:09:57.840 --> 01:09:59.119
men you know what I'm saying, since you know.

1144
01:09:59.600 --> 01:10:02.319
I have to like you know, whatever's right from you

1145
01:10:02.439 --> 01:10:04.479
speak for some you know what I'm saying.

1146
01:10:04.960 --> 01:10:05.359
You know what?

1147
01:10:05.600 --> 01:10:08.279
Some men you know what I mean? They rather you

1148
01:10:08.359 --> 01:10:09.880
know what I'm saying, like they don't care what what

1149
01:10:10.079 --> 01:10:11.000
to eat. You know what I'm saying.

1150
01:10:11.239 --> 01:10:13.800
But when it comes to like things that happen to

1151
01:10:13.840 --> 01:10:15.800
do with the heart, you know what I'm saying, there's

1152
01:10:15.880 --> 01:10:18.199
like a million of more questions, the wrong through the.

1153
01:10:18.199 --> 01:10:20.880
Head or whatever I have to hear. I love you

1154
01:10:21.560 --> 01:10:25.840
exactly because yo, you know what that's you. You know

1155
01:10:25.880 --> 01:10:27.960
what I'm saying. That's the eternalized part. That's the complex

1156
01:10:28.039 --> 01:10:35.600
part about it. You know, like that's just you know what, No, no.

1157
01:10:40.640 --> 01:10:43.960
Like you No, no, Yo, you know what we're talking about.

1158
01:10:44.319 --> 01:10:45.439
When it comes to like, you know what I'm saying,

1159
01:10:45.479 --> 01:10:48.199
that I love you part, we keep it inside. You

1160
01:10:48.239 --> 01:10:49.439
ain't talking about the food no more.

1161
01:10:50.800 --> 01:10:52.920
We're talking about the same I love you And.

1162
01:10:54.760 --> 01:10:57.920
The only reason I broke that saying because the food,

1163
01:10:59.000 --> 01:11:00.760
but because they know the only reason why I bought

1164
01:11:00.800 --> 01:11:02.560
the food part, because the food parts are like a

1165
01:11:02.640 --> 01:11:05.760
lot more simple when it comes to that I love

1166
01:11:05.840 --> 01:11:07.319
you part, You know what I'm saying.

1167
01:11:07.439 --> 01:11:11.800
For us, it only took once for you to get

1168
01:11:11.880 --> 01:11:16.520
hurt for you to be more careful with that. Right

1169
01:11:16.600 --> 01:11:19.119
With women, we have to go through it over and

1170
01:11:19.319 --> 01:11:22.560
over and over again and pick ourselves back up and

1171
01:11:22.680 --> 01:11:26.239
put our pieces back in different ways shape.

1172
01:11:26.039 --> 01:11:27.760
And that's what makes you guys better than us.

1173
01:11:29.199 --> 01:11:33.680
But apparently, but apparently being better than you guys doesn't

1174
01:11:33.720 --> 01:11:34.600
help us at all.

1175
01:11:36.199 --> 01:11:40.720
When it comes when you know what, Now here's the

1176
01:11:40.760 --> 01:11:42.159
thing that I said it before, I say it again

1177
01:11:42.159 --> 01:11:44.279
because like, like you know what I understand from myself

1178
01:11:44.359 --> 01:11:45.960
and and I'm kind of seeing that a lot of

1179
01:11:46.000 --> 01:11:49.560
people too, you know what I'm saying. Like, the minute

1180
01:11:49.560 --> 01:11:51.000
a man gets hurt, you know what I'm saying, not

1181
01:11:51.159 --> 01:11:54.159
only does his heart is broken, his ego is broken too.

1182
01:11:54.239 --> 01:11:56.479
And like, for some reason, our ego means a lot,

1183
01:11:57.079 --> 01:11:59.560
you know what I'm saying. Our ego means a lot

1184
01:12:00.119 --> 01:12:01.800
some fucking reason, I don't know.

1185
01:12:02.560 --> 01:12:03.119
You know what I'm saying.

1186
01:12:03.560 --> 01:12:05.520
I'll try to you know what I'm saying, pridate ego,

1187
01:12:05.560 --> 01:12:07.560
you know what I'm saying, follows that heard that hard ship.

1188
01:12:08.880 --> 01:12:10.119
So it's like, you know what, when it comes to

1189
01:12:10.199 --> 01:12:12.680
that emotional women have to continue to go hold on.

1190
01:12:12.800 --> 01:12:15.600
Don't cannot finish, y y'all cannot finish though, like like

1191
01:12:15.840 --> 01:12:18.880
like when it comes to yo, you know what, yo?

1192
01:12:18.960 --> 01:12:19.199
You know what?

1193
01:12:19.279 --> 01:12:20.800
When it comes to that though, when it comes to

1194
01:12:20.920 --> 01:12:23.840
that part though, it comes to that part though, it's

1195
01:12:23.920 --> 01:12:26.199
like you know what I'm saying, Like we don't you

1196
01:12:26.239 --> 01:12:27.399
know what I'm saying, Like we don't know how to

1197
01:12:27.439 --> 01:12:30.319
communicate that part. You know, you see what I'm saying,

1198
01:12:30.399 --> 01:12:31.960
Like we really don't know you know what I'm saying,

1199
01:12:31.960 --> 01:12:35.960
because like it's like an emotion that you know that

1200
01:12:36.039 --> 01:12:39.000
we barely try to touch on, like unlike unlike women,

1201
01:12:39.119 --> 01:12:40.199
you know what I'm saying. That's why I said, you

1202
01:12:40.199 --> 01:12:42.640
guys are better than us. You guys touch on every angle,

1203
01:12:42.960 --> 01:12:45.880
every aspect of the emotional feel like we don't.

1204
01:12:47.600 --> 01:12:52.399
I don't know who say I love you the second

1205
01:12:52.479 --> 01:12:57.000
time they've met you. I've met men who uh love

1206
01:12:57.159 --> 01:12:59.119
bomb and use love as a.

1207
01:12:59.199 --> 01:13:03.880
Means to get in what they will and use as

1208
01:13:03.920 --> 01:13:04.359
a means.

1209
01:13:05.279 --> 01:13:08.640
Yeah, but that's what I'm saying. So it does get

1210
01:13:08.720 --> 01:13:13.119
thrown around a lot sometimes and for the wrongs. So

1211
01:13:14.000 --> 01:13:16.079
it can't be like, oh, we don't really say it.

1212
01:13:16.359 --> 01:13:17.680
There are a lot of guys out there who do

1213
01:13:17.920 --> 01:13:21.560
and they don't mean it. So I think that and

1214
01:13:21.680 --> 01:13:24.479
it can be used as a tool, which is disgusting

1215
01:13:24.640 --> 01:13:29.359
really because like you want to fuck, then just say

1216
01:13:29.439 --> 01:13:32.560
that and you don't need to tell someone you love them.

1217
01:13:32.800 --> 01:13:35.800
They don't realize that sometimes if you just say what

1218
01:13:36.000 --> 01:13:40.479
you want and let us make our choice, things will

1219
01:13:40.520 --> 01:13:43.119
be so much easier than if you go through all

1220
01:13:43.159 --> 01:13:45.880
of this rigmarole about trying to say this.

1221
01:13:47.720 --> 01:13:48.479
Rigam role.

1222
01:13:50.840 --> 01:13:58.319
I thought. I thought. I was like, what, that's what

1223
01:13:58.399 --> 01:14:10.000
I was like? Number hold on though, seriously, that's like

1224
01:14:10.159 --> 01:14:12.319
my first time. Hey, new word of the day for me?

1225
01:14:12.600 --> 01:14:13.279
What does that mean?

1226
01:14:16.079 --> 01:14:20.800
After someone dies? And thers?

1227
01:14:20.840 --> 01:14:25.920
I know that part? What the hell one?

1228
01:14:26.000 --> 01:14:27.159
And on, etceterac.

1229
01:14:28.039 --> 01:14:30.159
Yeah, it's another one of those words.

1230
01:14:31.399 --> 01:14:33.439
Yeah, it is, because you're rid of the day.

1231
01:14:34.000 --> 01:14:38.479
I have experienced men jump through and I don't understand

1232
01:14:39.159 --> 01:14:43.520
jump through hoops after hoop after hoop talking about women

1233
01:14:43.600 --> 01:14:48.760
are difficult jumping through hoops just to get in the panties.

1234
01:14:49.000 --> 01:14:51.239
And I'm like, dude, if you would have just said

1235
01:14:51.279 --> 01:14:53.960
that's what you wanted from the door, what would have

1236
01:14:54.039 --> 01:14:54.720
been the problem.

1237
01:14:55.359 --> 01:14:59.520
I ain't gonna lie read that to a woman saying.

1238
01:14:59.319 --> 01:15:01.720
I just want to I'm asking because if that's what

1239
01:15:01.920 --> 01:15:04.119
men just want, they should just say that. But if

1240
01:15:04.159 --> 01:15:05.479
a woman said that, then.

1241
01:15:05.439 --> 01:15:11.199
What, oh, then you're a hoe? Obviously, Why do I

1242
01:15:11.319 --> 01:15:13.399
want to even waste time with that? But I will

1243
01:15:13.479 --> 01:15:17.760
say this, Okay. I'm in a group for women. It's

1244
01:15:17.800 --> 01:15:20.640
a private group. There are things that get shared in there,

1245
01:15:20.680 --> 01:15:24.479
and I see the things that meant say on dating apps,

1246
01:15:25.279 --> 01:15:28.640
and a lot of them it's just sex. And they

1247
01:15:28.800 --> 01:15:31.279
just put it out there and say it. But you

1248
01:15:31.359 --> 01:15:35.359
know what, I would rather you do that because then

1249
01:15:35.399 --> 01:15:38.000
I know straight up what this is about. And then

1250
01:15:38.359 --> 01:15:41.800
because if I'm searching for someone, I'm not gonna waste

1251
01:15:41.920 --> 01:15:45.199
time with you. So I know these women get annoyed

1252
01:15:45.199 --> 01:15:47.680
and upset about it, but I'm like, dude, let it be,

1253
01:15:48.359 --> 01:15:52.760
because let them be honest, let them put it out

1254
01:15:52.800 --> 01:15:56.600
there and make fools of themselves. And it may work

1255
01:15:57.119 --> 01:15:59.960
for some people, but it won't work for the majority

1256
01:16:00.359 --> 01:16:02.399
because that's what a lot of people are not looking for.

1257
01:16:02.560 --> 01:16:07.439
That. So wait, But see that you saved so much time, right,

1258
01:16:07.479 --> 01:16:09.640
because I'm one of those that if that's what you're

1259
01:16:09.680 --> 01:16:13.119
looking for, you can keep swiping because I ain't the one, right,

1260
01:16:13.720 --> 01:16:17.760
but somebody tell me right from the door that's what

1261
01:16:17.920 --> 01:16:20.000
I want, so that I can say yes or no

1262
01:16:20.159 --> 01:16:22.479
now so you can move on to the next. Right,

1263
01:16:22.760 --> 01:16:25.119
I don't have time to be wasting because I'm actually

1264
01:16:25.279 --> 01:16:32.359
looking I'm actually looking for a partner, okay, Somebody that

1265
01:16:32.600 --> 01:16:37.000
I oh, my goodness, Somebody that I can build with,

1266
01:16:37.319 --> 01:16:40.359
Somebody I can depend on, that I can trust, that

1267
01:16:40.439 --> 01:16:43.279
I can feel safe. That's what I'm looking for. If

1268
01:16:43.319 --> 01:16:47.119
that's going to hold on, just say it the door

1269
01:16:47.560 --> 01:16:49.600
so that I can go ahead and tell you thank you,

1270
01:16:49.720 --> 01:16:52.079
but no thank you, and we can keep it moving.

1271
01:16:52.159 --> 01:16:54.239
You don't waste your time. I don't waste mine because

1272
01:16:54.279 --> 01:16:56.439
I'm not getting any younger and I don't have time

1273
01:16:58.079 --> 01:17:00.760
to be sitting here going through the moments with you

1274
01:17:01.640 --> 01:17:05.279
if you have no Bob Marley said it best. Coward

1275
01:17:05.399 --> 01:17:07.840
is a man that awakens the fire in a woman's

1276
01:17:07.920 --> 01:17:11.439
heart with no intention of loving her. Okay. And so

1277
01:17:11.800 --> 01:17:15.800
my thing is stop being a coward and just say

1278
01:17:15.880 --> 01:17:18.119
what it is so that I can say it's not

1279
01:17:18.279 --> 01:17:20.239
what I want, or yes, it is what I want,

1280
01:17:20.479 --> 01:17:21.640
and we could keep it moving.

1281
01:17:22.560 --> 01:17:25.680
Yep, And that's said it best. I don't want to

1282
01:17:25.760 --> 01:17:31.319
make you mad, no, no, no, yes, yes, yes.

1283
01:17:33.000 --> 01:17:33.840
The back.

1284
01:17:35.600 --> 01:17:39.319
I just I'm just king you know what I mean?

1285
01:17:39.680 --> 01:17:42.000
What do you mean, Jessica, don't you have to test

1286
01:17:42.079 --> 01:17:44.399
the waters before you know which one's best for you?

1287
01:17:44.800 --> 01:17:45.920
What do you mean sexually?

1288
01:17:46.680 --> 01:17:46.840
Now?

1289
01:17:47.079 --> 01:17:48.199
Are we talking to other things?

1290
01:17:48.239 --> 01:17:53.239
Like, I think that if me for you, for you specifically,

1291
01:17:53.439 --> 01:18:00.079
if you are looking for a partner, then yeah, I

1292
01:18:00.279 --> 01:18:03.119
would think I would hope that at some point, if

1293
01:18:03.159 --> 01:18:05.439
the relationship got serious, that you were going to be

1294
01:18:05.560 --> 01:18:12.880
trying this on before moving forward. I'm just or maybe

1295
01:18:12.880 --> 01:18:17.640
I'm asking that question. Is that something that you would do?

1296
01:18:17.760 --> 01:18:18.600
Are you talking to me?

1297
01:18:19.359 --> 01:18:19.920
Yes, I am.

1298
01:18:20.159 --> 01:18:25.560
I'm asking you that if you were dating someone, If

1299
01:18:25.640 --> 01:18:31.039
you were dating someone, seriously, are you going to test

1300
01:18:31.119 --> 01:18:40.680
the waters? Because would it do you? Like, wouldn't you

1301
01:18:40.800 --> 01:18:44.239
want to know if they are compatible to you in

1302
01:18:44.359 --> 01:18:44.720
that way?

1303
01:18:45.439 --> 01:18:57.960
Well it's kind of hard, okay, because again I'm pulled

1304
01:18:58.000 --> 01:18:59.000
in so many different ways.

1305
01:18:59.000 --> 01:18:59.760
I'm an overthinker.

1306
01:19:00.520 --> 01:19:03.640
So my thing is the one person without getting to

1307
01:19:03.760 --> 01:19:08.600
know others. Oh yeah, I mean unless i'm like legitimately

1308
01:19:09.439 --> 01:19:13.479
not like exclusive with somebody I'm dating whoever, and I

1309
01:19:13.640 --> 01:19:16.439
make that known. See, that's my thing. I'm a communicator.

1310
01:19:16.520 --> 01:19:18.760
I tell people that unto until I.

1311
01:19:18.800 --> 01:19:21.640
See that that See that's the bullshit right there, man,

1312
01:19:22.319 --> 01:19:24.920
because see with like like me, see this is the

1313
01:19:25.000 --> 01:19:26.600
thing I wasn't gonna I.

1314
01:19:26.720 --> 01:19:30.079
Was I was question I know, I was listening.

1315
01:19:30.760 --> 01:19:36.279
I was listening and this, look, man, I I don't

1316
01:19:36.439 --> 01:19:43.840
have what I don't I don't have the the mental

1317
01:19:43.920 --> 01:19:49.319
capacity to sit there and deal with multiple women.

1318
01:19:50.439 --> 01:19:52.960
Okay, that's okay, say deal?

1319
01:19:53.119 --> 01:19:53.760
What do you mean?

1320
01:19:54.439 --> 01:19:57.560
Like like when when when people talk about dating dating?

1321
01:19:57.640 --> 01:20:00.319
I can't stand the fucking word dating because to me,

1322
01:20:00.479 --> 01:20:03.399
dating means you're just gonna try ship on. You're just

1323
01:20:03.479 --> 01:20:06.000
gonna try and see who works best for you and

1324
01:20:06.119 --> 01:20:07.920
at the end pick the one that's best for you.

1325
01:20:08.279 --> 01:20:11.800
What happens to everybody else that you you were seeing?

1326
01:20:12.359 --> 01:20:14.880
What if someone what if what if one of them

1327
01:20:15.479 --> 01:20:18.560
were feeling you and you're not feeling them, then you

1328
01:20:18.640 --> 01:20:21.119
gotta let them go. What's the purpose of dealing with

1329
01:20:21.239 --> 01:20:24.119
multiple people when at some point this might hurt. But

1330
01:20:24.239 --> 01:20:27.760
at some point you're gonna have to let everybody else

1331
01:20:27.840 --> 01:20:30.800
go and stay with the one that you. Somebody gets

1332
01:20:30.880 --> 01:20:32.439
hurt in that in that situation.

1333
01:20:32.199 --> 01:20:34.079
But that's gonna happen even if you just deal with

1334
01:20:36.960 --> 01:20:40.119
Even if I'm just dealing with one person, if him

1335
01:20:40.159 --> 01:20:42.800
and I don't click, we don't click, whether I'm.

1336
01:20:42.640 --> 01:20:45.279
With just him, then you keep that at that point,

1337
01:20:45.319 --> 01:20:47.359
you keep it moving. But why deal with? Why? Why?

1338
01:20:47.439 --> 01:20:51.600
Why sit there? And put so many people through a

1339
01:20:51.720 --> 01:20:53.479
fucking application process.

1340
01:20:54.319 --> 01:21:01.119
You gotta I'm not I'm not Barbie, So I'm not

1341
01:21:01.199 --> 01:21:02.520
going like she.

1342
01:21:02.600 --> 01:21:06.560
Got a fucking binds.

1343
01:21:08.600 --> 01:21:12.560
All right, I'm choosing him at the d hired.

1344
01:21:17.479 --> 01:21:20.279
Until all.

1345
01:21:21.039 --> 01:21:24.600
You have to get to know people first, right If

1346
01:21:24.720 --> 01:21:27.760
I like and it depends on each person, So me personally,

1347
01:21:28.000 --> 01:21:31.960
when I'm dating, that means i'm gonna I'm not I'm

1348
01:21:32.000 --> 01:21:35.439
not exclusive with one person. If I'm just dating, you know,

1349
01:21:35.640 --> 01:21:39.279
so if someone else happens to ask me out, I'm

1350
01:21:39.319 --> 01:21:42.479
not gonna say no. But at the same token, if

1351
01:21:42.560 --> 01:21:46.720
I feel that something is moving in a specific thank

1352
01:21:46.760 --> 01:21:50.000
you midnight. If I feel like something is moving in

1353
01:21:50.119 --> 01:21:52.680
a closer thing, then I'm going to try to lessen

1354
01:21:53.399 --> 01:21:58.760
the other interactions more. Right again, I'm a very transparent person.

1355
01:21:58.880 --> 01:22:02.319
I'm a very honest and open Like, if I feel

1356
01:22:02.399 --> 01:22:04.439
something's not working, I'm going to say this is not

1357
01:22:04.600 --> 01:22:09.439
working for me. It's the way things flow.

1358
01:22:09.560 --> 01:22:11.199
Not every situation is the same.

1359
01:22:11.920 --> 01:22:14.359
Like, okay, so if it was you were dubs, right,

1360
01:22:15.239 --> 01:22:17.039
I've known you guys for you or I'm going to

1361
01:22:17.239 --> 01:22:20.640
say you two TG, I'm not going to discriminate. I've

1362
01:22:20.720 --> 01:22:25.359
known you I've known you. I've known you guys for

1363
01:22:26.199 --> 01:22:30.239
you know, a long period of time. Right, So if

1364
01:22:30.439 --> 01:22:34.000
if one of us says, you know what, I would

1365
01:22:34.119 --> 01:22:36.960
like to date you, we've known each other, so I

1366
01:22:37.079 --> 01:22:39.760
may not so that our connection is going to be

1367
01:22:39.800 --> 01:22:41.520
a little bit deeper than if I just met you

1368
01:22:41.640 --> 01:22:44.680
for a date. Right, So I'm probably not going to

1369
01:22:44.720 --> 01:22:46.880
be talking to other people because you've known me long

1370
01:22:47.000 --> 01:22:49.359
enough that if you actually, you know, put your foot

1371
01:22:49.399 --> 01:22:51.960
forward and say you know what, I'm interested in you,

1372
01:22:52.199 --> 01:22:55.079
because we already went through that get to know you stage,

1373
01:22:55.760 --> 01:22:58.760
So it might be before we become exclusive.

1374
01:22:58.840 --> 01:23:03.079
School need to fucking TG's ply program over there.

1375
01:23:07.920 --> 01:23:10.319
Oh my god, Polly program.

1376
01:23:16.840 --> 01:23:20.800
That's a different situation. But when you're just meeting people,

1377
01:23:20.880 --> 01:23:23.720
all right, And I'm talking this because you know, I've

1378
01:23:23.760 --> 01:23:26.479
been on these dating sites. I'm on these dating sites,

1379
01:23:26.600 --> 01:23:30.640
not really actively, but I'm on them. The thing is,

1380
01:23:31.119 --> 01:23:32.840
these are total strangers.

1381
01:23:33.640 --> 01:23:33.760
Right.

1382
01:23:34.319 --> 01:23:38.000
If I'm just limiting to one person and then I

1383
01:23:38.119 --> 01:23:41.159
never see them again after the first date, I pretty.

1384
01:23:40.880 --> 01:23:46.439
Much you know, Yeah, you don't put.

1385
01:23:48.119 --> 01:23:52.560
You can't because again, no matter what, somebody is always

1386
01:23:52.720 --> 01:23:57.199
going to get hurt. But it's again the communication.

1387
01:23:57.439 --> 01:24:00.680
I don't think they have to if there is community cation. No,

1388
01:24:01.239 --> 01:24:07.159
I think that when dating means like talking to people

1389
01:24:07.239 --> 01:24:08.039
and getting to know that.

1390
01:24:08.399 --> 01:24:10.479
Jessica, I have been out with some of those people

1391
01:24:10.640 --> 01:24:15.800
and it's it's I'm talking to somebody. I'm sure somebody

1392
01:24:15.880 --> 01:24:17.600
has pissed in the dating pool.

1393
01:24:18.720 --> 01:24:25.199
It was like twenty if any if anybody from plenty

1394
01:24:25.239 --> 01:24:27.800
of fish. You know what I'm talking about, twenty of

1395
01:24:27.880 --> 01:24:29.920
fish man like like, yo, you know what?

1396
01:24:31.359 --> 01:24:35.359
H five years? In my five years since my divorce,

1397
01:24:36.399 --> 01:24:41.880
I have experienced plenty of fish, cheese spot uh tender

1398
01:24:42.800 --> 01:24:44.680
match up?

1399
01:24:45.720 --> 01:24:46.119
What is it?

1400
01:24:46.439 --> 01:24:46.840
Upward?

1401
01:24:47.279 --> 01:24:48.159
Christian mingle?

1402
01:24:48.840 --> 01:24:51.319
E harm oh, Christian mingle? Did you did you see

1403
01:24:51.359 --> 01:24:57.159
my screen ning? Not even Jesus in the streets? Is

1404
01:24:57.199 --> 01:24:57.720
in the sheets?

1405
01:25:00.000 --> 01:25:02.439
I saw that.

1406
01:25:09.640 --> 01:25:11.960
I don't know. I don't know what made me think

1407
01:25:12.359 --> 01:25:14.920
that being on a Christian site because I'm looking for

1408
01:25:15.039 --> 01:25:17.560
a Christian man. I don't know what in the world

1409
01:25:17.720 --> 01:25:19.439
made me think that they were going to be any

1410
01:25:19.560 --> 01:25:20.680
different than any other.

1411
01:25:21.720 --> 01:25:22.359
I believe it.

1412
01:25:22.840 --> 01:25:23.840
I believe it.

1413
01:25:24.079 --> 01:25:27.119
You know what you know what yo and not about?

1414
01:25:27.119 --> 01:25:29.199
Then let me let me say something real funny. I

1415
01:25:29.359 --> 01:25:34.640
even uh matched with my own biological brother. It was

1416
01:25:34.840 --> 01:25:38.279
like and was like, who the heck put him on

1417
01:25:38.399 --> 01:25:39.560
a Christian website?

1418
01:25:41.840 --> 01:25:50.479
Oh my god, I'm like something, please, oh my Lord,

1419
01:25:54.039 --> 01:25:55.199
forgive us, father for.

1420
01:26:01.319 --> 01:26:01.560
I was.

1421
01:26:05.359 --> 01:26:10.159
The sentence match.

1422
01:26:15.880 --> 01:26:16.279
Can't be.

1423
01:26:17.880 --> 01:26:19.880
No stop, that's crazy.

1424
01:26:20.640 --> 01:26:24.359
That's I hope you're making this spot up man, because this.

1425
01:26:32.560 --> 01:26:33.199
My profile.

1426
01:26:35.880 --> 01:26:36.479
You should.

1427
01:26:38.239 --> 01:26:42.399
Your brother the father. Why have you forsaken by.

1428
01:26:44.520 --> 01:26:44.640
Yo?

1429
01:26:45.560 --> 01:26:46.520
That's insane.

1430
01:26:46.840 --> 01:26:46.960
Bro.

1431
01:26:49.039 --> 01:26:50.840
I'm not I'm not trying to laugh at your pain,

1432
01:26:50.920 --> 01:26:56.520
but like like, yes, yo, yo, but imagine, imagine you

1433
01:26:56.560 --> 01:26:57.039
know what I'm saying.

1434
01:26:57.520 --> 01:27:00.720
You like you forget you know what I'm saying, matching

1435
01:27:00.800 --> 01:27:04.479
up and you're like, wow, this is great. You're like

1436
01:27:04.680 --> 01:27:05.279
wait what.

1437
01:27:09.239 --> 01:27:09.359
Bro?

1438
01:27:09.880 --> 01:27:17.720
That is like so heartbreakingly funny. I know that, yo.

1439
01:27:17.800 --> 01:27:21.319
The I can see what yo? Yo? What is the

1440
01:27:21.439 --> 01:27:22.359
match on that though?

1441
01:27:23.359 --> 01:27:23.840
What do you mean?

1442
01:27:25.800 --> 01:27:26.000
Yes?

1443
01:27:26.039 --> 01:27:28.960
I mean my bad? The percentage of that to your brother?

1444
01:27:29.159 --> 01:27:30.720
You know what I mean? Like the percentage on that

1445
01:27:31.680 --> 01:27:32.399
that That's what I'm saying.

1446
01:27:32.520 --> 01:27:36.560
Oh, I don't know, but we were a sixty percent

1447
01:27:36.760 --> 01:27:39.720
match and he popped up and him and I are

1448
01:27:40.119 --> 01:27:43.880
so different, oh lord. But my thing that made it

1449
01:27:43.960 --> 01:27:46.800
funny was finding him on a Christian app. I'm like, yeah,

1450
01:27:46.800 --> 01:27:52.479
you have got to be kidding me. I honestly, I

1451
01:27:52.600 --> 01:27:55.399
don't know that. I well not really catfished.

1452
01:27:55.479 --> 01:27:56.119
I mean I have.

1453
01:27:58.079 --> 01:28:02.920
Because I usually because of this HSP, I actually think,

1454
01:28:04.039 --> 01:28:06.600
thank you midnight. I'm glad I can be friend you.

1455
01:28:11.760 --> 01:28:14.680
I have a tendency to be able to pick up

1456
01:28:14.760 --> 01:28:18.880
when people are being disingenuine, so I tend to catch

1457
01:28:18.920 --> 01:28:23.760
them pretty quickly. I have never personally been catfished as

1458
01:28:23.800 --> 01:28:26.119
far as like when I go out on the date

1459
01:28:26.319 --> 01:28:30.760
one because I'm not one to quickly go out with somebody.

1460
01:28:30.880 --> 01:28:33.520
I don't quickly give my phone number, I don't quickly

1461
01:28:33.640 --> 01:28:37.680
do anything because one for.

1462
01:28:37.760 --> 01:28:39.479
That, for that very reason, right.

1463
01:28:40.399 --> 01:28:43.199
And also, there are a lot, I mean, there are

1464
01:28:43.199 --> 01:28:45.600
a lot of fake profiles, a lot, a lot, a lot.

1465
01:28:47.159 --> 01:28:51.479
But if you're telling me that you are the one

1466
01:28:51.960 --> 01:28:56.560
in the military, yeah, yeah, But if you're telling me

1467
01:28:57.279 --> 01:29:02.640
that you're a Latino and and you know you speak

1468
01:29:02.680 --> 01:29:05.840
perfect English and you've only been here for you know,

1469
01:29:06.000 --> 01:29:11.119
a couple of months, and and no, no, if you're

1470
01:29:11.119 --> 01:29:13.239
speaking perfect English and you've only been here a couple

1471
01:29:13.279 --> 01:29:16.520
of months, you're either using a translator. Or if you

1472
01:29:16.640 --> 01:29:19.399
tell me that you're a white, a white guy with

1473
01:29:19.520 --> 01:29:21.760
blond hair, blue eyes, and you don't.

1474
01:29:21.600 --> 01:29:22.279
Know how to spell.

1475
01:29:22.680 --> 01:29:23.600
That's a red flag.

1476
01:29:25.279 --> 01:29:26.079
Just a lot of things.

1477
01:29:27.319 --> 01:29:28.600
Some people don't know how to spell.

1478
01:29:29.640 --> 01:29:33.279
Yeah, it's not that but but but you know what

1479
01:29:33.399 --> 01:29:35.960
I mean, degree and you can't.

1480
01:29:37.399 --> 01:29:39.279
There there you know?

1481
01:29:39.520 --> 01:29:44.039
And and all right, that's spell the thing, right, And

1482
01:29:44.119 --> 01:29:47.399
this day and age of auto check autocorrect, you still

1483
01:29:47.439 --> 01:29:48.279
a lot of spell.

1484
01:29:48.760 --> 01:29:54.560
Yeah, right, It's just it's usually just that right, yeah.

1485
01:29:54.680 --> 01:29:57.399
Like So, I mean, I've been pretty lucky with the

1486
01:29:57.479 --> 01:30:02.359
catfishing thing. And again, because of my line of work,

1487
01:30:03.319 --> 01:30:06.840
I have a tendency to be suspicious of people. So

1488
01:30:06.960 --> 01:30:09.920
I tend to do my due diligence, background checks and

1489
01:30:10.199 --> 01:30:11.159
all that good stuff.

1490
01:30:12.920 --> 01:30:18.079
So where were you like four years ago? In my life?

1491
01:30:19.079 --> 01:30:23.079
Holy shit, I've been.

1492
01:30:23.399 --> 01:30:26.680
I've been blessed in that way that my you know,

1493
01:30:26.840 --> 01:30:32.600
my my work and my personality. I guess I tend

1494
01:30:32.680 --> 01:30:35.800
to do because I know what I want for my future,

1495
01:30:36.039 --> 01:30:40.079
and so I I don't take people at their word.

1496
01:30:40.520 --> 01:30:43.520
Actions speak louder than words. So but I also do

1497
01:30:43.720 --> 01:30:47.319
my due diligence and I do some checks and I so, yes,

1498
01:30:47.399 --> 01:30:49.359
I know how much you owe your baby's mama.

1499
01:30:50.239 --> 01:30:52.920
Yeah, I know how many charges.

1500
01:30:52.600 --> 01:30:58.359
You've got on your record. I know what your mother's

1501
01:30:58.439 --> 01:31:00.640
and father's name is, I know where you grew up,

1502
01:31:02.520 --> 01:31:04.720
so I know all that. Most of the times before

1503
01:31:04.760 --> 01:31:06.560
I agree to go out with somebody, I know all

1504
01:31:06.600 --> 01:31:07.960
of that before I even meet them.

1505
01:31:08.359 --> 01:31:09.680
That kind of feels like cheating.

1506
01:31:10.520 --> 01:31:13.960
Yeah, no, it ain't cheating, you know what I'm saying,

1507
01:31:14.439 --> 01:31:17.239
because you know what not everyone.

1508
01:31:19.079 --> 01:31:20.159
As to find.

1509
01:31:21.359 --> 01:31:24.800
But I don't even use my work resources.

1510
01:31:26.359 --> 01:31:28.199
I don't know. I like, this is why I don't

1511
01:31:28.279 --> 01:31:30.439
like the Internet, but I do at the same time

1512
01:31:30.560 --> 01:31:34.439
because yes, for safety reasons, I can understand that now,

1513
01:31:35.079 --> 01:31:37.319
But at the same time, it just kind of feels

1514
01:31:37.399 --> 01:31:41.840
fucked up because judgment is being made without knowing a story.

1515
01:31:43.000 --> 01:31:46.039
So well, that's where I'm coming from.

1516
01:31:46.279 --> 01:31:49.199
I could see that. But at the same token, if

1517
01:31:49.239 --> 01:31:57.119
the person who's doing that is being oh whoa, I mean, Damna, Jessica, Okay,

1518
01:31:57.239 --> 01:31:58.119
you have to read well.

1519
01:31:58.159 --> 01:31:59.279
I think I can read it now.

1520
01:31:59.560 --> 01:32:02.279
I met a guy on Facebook his picks. He looked good,

1521
01:32:02.399 --> 01:32:04.720
but I did notice he wasn't smiling, so I went

1522
01:32:04.840 --> 01:32:07.680
for it. And dude's teeth were bigger than chick lits

1523
01:32:08.079 --> 01:32:08.760
and he had a.

1524
01:32:08.840 --> 01:32:11.439
Real little head with a huge built body.

1525
01:32:15.479 --> 01:32:17.840
For the date. But when he spoke, he spoke like

1526
01:32:18.000 --> 01:32:24.479
Mike Tyson, Oh no, the bill because he only had

1527
01:32:24.600 --> 01:32:27.720
three beers. I'm glad I had money. Laughed my eyes off.

1528
01:32:27.840 --> 01:32:29.720
So the next day he called me and said he

1529
01:32:29.840 --> 01:32:32.159
only did that with the bill because I told him,

1530
01:32:33.000 --> 01:32:39.279
I W I don't know what happened, went, how dare

1531
01:32:39.359 --> 01:32:40.159
you facebook?

1532
01:32:40.439 --> 01:32:42.159
You know what?

1533
01:32:42.439 --> 01:32:45.520
In that case, I would have to I don't call

1534
01:32:45.640 --> 01:32:49.199
that cat fishing, But yes, I have been fooled because.

1535
01:32:49.600 --> 01:32:51.239
I had a think for half fishing.

1536
01:32:52.279 --> 01:32:56.239
Yeah, because yeah, like I know people they'll share old

1537
01:32:56.359 --> 01:33:00.399
pictures of themselves and they're not like showing you new ship.

1538
01:33:00.560 --> 01:33:03.960
And then you see them and you're like that looks.

1539
01:33:03.800 --> 01:33:08.119
Like you like, ain't about the smiling thing?

1540
01:33:08.319 --> 01:33:08.479
Right?

1541
01:33:08.960 --> 01:33:12.800
So I did meet someone who actually I've met a

1542
01:33:12.880 --> 01:33:16.560
few people like this. I have a thing about oral hygiene.

1543
01:33:17.079 --> 01:33:21.920
People's breath, you know, their teeth, like your teeth don't

1544
01:33:23.039 --> 01:33:26.279
your teeth don't have to be straight, they don't, you know,

1545
01:33:26.399 --> 01:33:28.640
they like they don't have to be straight. They don't

1546
01:33:28.680 --> 01:33:30.479
have you know, but you have to have all of

1547
01:33:30.600 --> 01:33:35.720
them dragons, Yeah, like you have to have all your seas.

1548
01:33:36.399 --> 01:33:40.600
They have to at least be healthy, right. So I

1549
01:33:40.720 --> 01:33:45.159
have met people who had half their mouth missing, people

1550
01:33:45.279 --> 01:33:49.560
whose teeth have been so rotten. Like, I was like,

1551
01:33:49.800 --> 01:33:52.680
what the guy opened his mouth and they were all black.

1552
01:33:52.840 --> 01:34:04.279
I was like, oh no, And of course I was.

1553
01:34:04.319 --> 01:34:06.199
Trying to be you know, I was trying to be

1554
01:34:06.359 --> 01:34:11.920
nice about it, but I was like, I'm sorry, this

1555
01:34:12.119 --> 01:34:16.399
is so bad. Wow, actually had no teeth at all.

1556
01:34:19.680 --> 01:34:21.119
He trying to gummy.

1557
01:34:25.439 --> 01:34:30.880
Gumb you know what, though he probably eats really well.

1558
01:34:32.880 --> 01:34:41.319
Gums. Oh wow, to go on a date with me,

1559
01:34:41.399 --> 01:34:42.640
have to get a baby food.

1560
01:34:46.079 --> 01:34:46.359
Apple?

1561
01:34:48.399 --> 01:34:49.319
Can you paraise this?

1562
01:34:55.680 --> 01:34:56.520
Blend that ship?

1563
01:34:58.640 --> 01:34:59.439
That's crazy?

1564
01:35:00.039 --> 01:35:00.680
What do you want to eat?

1565
01:35:03.840 --> 01:35:04.960
You? Guys are so long.

1566
01:35:05.439 --> 01:35:13.640
So I love when guys portray themselves as tall, but

1567
01:35:13.760 --> 01:35:14.079
they're not.

1568
01:35:16.720 --> 01:35:18.720
Hold on, hold on, what do you consider short?

1569
01:35:20.439 --> 01:35:21.640
I anything shorter than me?

1570
01:35:22.319 --> 01:35:22.479
Yeah?

1571
01:35:22.520 --> 01:35:25.000
I got five six.

1572
01:35:25.119 --> 01:35:26.479
He's got to be at least five six.

1573
01:35:26.640 --> 01:35:27.279
And how tall you?

1574
01:35:27.840 --> 01:35:29.319
Five four yo?

1575
01:35:29.560 --> 01:35:32.039
Yo? First off, any male that's five to six is

1576
01:35:32.119 --> 01:35:33.880
nothing more than a petite woman.

1577
01:35:33.760 --> 01:35:34.000
To me.

1578
01:35:41.039 --> 01:35:45.159
Five seven. And both my guys are five to six.

1579
01:35:45.600 --> 01:35:49.199
So yo.

1580
01:35:50.079 --> 01:35:52.399
And a half technically, and they're you know.

1581
01:35:52.399 --> 01:35:54.600
What, You might as well just get us some uggs

1582
01:35:54.600 --> 01:35:56.399
and call it a day apple bottom.

1583
01:35:56.479 --> 01:36:00.479
Boots with women should not be wearing heels to begin with.

1584
01:36:00.600 --> 01:36:08.199
They're so bad for your feet. It's not pretty. They

1585
01:36:08.319 --> 01:36:10.720
got them, they got them healed things for shoes to

1586
01:36:10.840 --> 01:36:13.600
lift you up? May you a little taller? Kevin Hart

1587
01:36:13.720 --> 01:36:14.199
uses them?

1588
01:36:14.279 --> 01:36:17.119
I mean, so what, Kevin?

1589
01:36:18.760 --> 01:36:19.359
But I don't.

1590
01:36:19.640 --> 01:36:24.039
I kind of don't like that people discriminate with height

1591
01:36:24.920 --> 01:36:29.800
because I just don't feel like that should be such

1592
01:36:29.800 --> 01:36:37.920
a big thing, the preferences and having preferences. But society

1593
01:36:38.079 --> 01:36:41.720
does push that, like the man should be taller than

1594
01:36:41.760 --> 01:36:46.239
the woman, and if we see the opposite happen, we

1595
01:36:46.439 --> 01:36:51.840
are like, oh, that looks weird. I'm both. I'm not

1596
01:36:52.039 --> 01:36:55.640
against it, is what I'm saying. I think that I'm

1597
01:36:55.680 --> 01:36:58.439
saying they should any more. There are some great short

1598
01:36:58.520 --> 01:37:01.840
guys out there that are not getting love because everybody

1599
01:37:01.960 --> 01:37:03.800
wants some tall, beautiful man.

1600
01:37:04.279 --> 01:37:06.760
Let me tell you something, he sucks. Bring a short

1601
01:37:06.880 --> 01:37:08.920
man to my house that treats me the way I

1602
01:37:09.039 --> 01:37:11.479
deserve to be treated, and I will entertain it.

1603
01:37:11.840 --> 01:37:14.640
I got my list going here.

1604
01:37:15.039 --> 01:37:17.239
So all right, lady g fair enough. You know what

1605
01:37:17.239 --> 01:37:18.239
I'm saying. Do you want me to son you?

1606
01:37:19.800 --> 01:37:19.960
Oh?

1607
01:37:20.119 --> 01:37:24.000
Damn, you need a boo. See, you know what I'm

1608
01:37:24.000 --> 01:37:26.520
saying to put him in the I could not look down.

1609
01:37:28.319 --> 01:37:31.680
It's terrible. Why I love what I'm looking down and

1610
01:37:31.800 --> 01:37:33.359
he's taking care of things.

1611
01:37:42.439 --> 01:37:55.199
He's like, no, I mean I've got stories.

1612
01:37:55.319 --> 01:37:55.720
I've got.

1613
01:38:01.960 --> 01:38:05.000
Oh oh damn.

1614
01:38:05.880 --> 01:38:07.199
It's the stupidest ship.

1615
01:38:07.319 --> 01:38:08.159
But it's so funny.

1616
01:38:09.279 --> 01:38:13.239
Oh boy, but man, he talks about lit of shit.

1617
01:38:14.439 --> 01:38:18.000
Man, you know what? Man like, you never.

1618
01:38:17.960 --> 01:38:21.079
Finished some stuff. But that's okay. I would let it go.

1619
01:38:22.960 --> 01:38:23.880
You had a question.

1620
01:38:24.680 --> 01:38:27.640
Yes, they'd never let me finish that, right.

1621
01:38:27.760 --> 01:38:31.319
I'm curious to know that if you would allow Like

1622
01:38:32.000 --> 01:38:34.840
if that is, I don't know what your boundaries are,

1623
01:38:35.039 --> 01:38:37.039
So I'm just curious. Okay.

1624
01:38:37.239 --> 01:38:42.199
So my history says yes, I would drive a test

1625
01:38:42.279 --> 01:38:46.279
drive the car. My desire is no. I don't want

1626
01:38:46.319 --> 01:38:53.319
to test drive the car because I'm a pretty good teacher. Hey,

1627
01:38:53.720 --> 01:38:56.119
who's better to teach somebody what I because then I

1628
01:38:56.159 --> 01:38:59.560
don't have to tell him to unlearned something.

1629
01:39:00.680 --> 01:39:00.840
You know.

1630
01:39:02.000 --> 01:39:06.680
So my heart, my life, my spirit, my religion tells

1631
01:39:06.760 --> 01:39:08.319
me I need to wait until they put a ring

1632
01:39:08.399 --> 01:39:12.119
on it. And as much as I want to, I

1633
01:39:12.199 --> 01:39:15.319
don't know. I don't know if I could I don't know.

1634
01:39:16.479 --> 01:39:20.279
My desire is not to test drive because again I

1635
01:39:20.399 --> 01:39:22.159
can teach them what I need them to know.

1636
01:39:22.560 --> 01:39:24.399
That's teachable, you know.

1637
01:39:25.359 --> 01:39:29.680
And if it's not up to size part, that's why

1638
01:39:29.760 --> 01:39:35.079
they create toys and extensions and so that stuff is fixable.

1639
01:39:35.159 --> 01:39:43.319
All of that is fixable to an extent, Yes, to

1640
01:39:43.439 --> 01:39:47.039
an extent, because if it doesn't thing I could do

1641
01:39:47.119 --> 01:39:47.439
about that.

1642
01:39:47.600 --> 01:39:50.079
Yeah, because if you have somebody who is like incredibly

1643
01:39:50.199 --> 01:39:52.960
horny and needs it all the time and that's not you,

1644
01:39:54.079 --> 01:39:56.039
then you know what I'm saying.

1645
01:39:56.439 --> 01:40:02.439
Or yeah, definitely, But again that's about conversation. Those are communications,

1646
01:40:02.520 --> 01:40:02.960
that's true.

1647
01:40:03.000 --> 01:40:05.920
These are all conversations that should be had, that really

1648
01:40:06.239 --> 01:40:06.800
be had.

1649
01:40:07.079 --> 01:40:10.439
Yes, But I am not quick to be driving a

1650
01:40:10.520 --> 01:40:13.800
car before I know if he even likes the brand,

1651
01:40:15.439 --> 01:40:17.199
you know, so because.

1652
01:40:17.439 --> 01:40:19.319
I think I would. I would want you to make

1653
01:40:19.359 --> 01:40:21.760
sure that he really likes the band and has intention

1654
01:40:22.479 --> 01:40:23.960
yes to go something.

1655
01:40:23.840 --> 01:40:29.119
Because being totally honest here on you know what, shut up,

1656
01:40:33.800 --> 01:40:36.239
I got to know that somebody can you know that

1657
01:40:36.359 --> 01:40:41.079
somebody can actually drive, you know, before they start testing

1658
01:40:41.119 --> 01:40:41.760
out the cars.

1659
01:40:48.560 --> 01:40:55.439
Oh my gosh, I learned how to drive stick actually,

1660
01:40:55.560 --> 01:40:58.439
but I don't know. I'm bad. I'm bad at it,

1661
01:40:58.560 --> 01:41:00.479
so I'll fuck up the clutch.

1662
01:41:00.600 --> 01:41:01.199
Don't let me.

1663
01:41:02.720 --> 01:41:09.159
My thing is my past, my past person who I

1664
01:41:09.399 --> 01:41:11.840
was when I was younger. You know, like all of us,

1665
01:41:11.880 --> 01:41:16.000
we all have our stories when we were younger. I

1666
01:41:16.960 --> 01:41:20.000
I didn't maybe I didn't love myself enough.

1667
01:41:20.199 --> 01:41:20.560
I don't know.

1668
01:41:22.079 --> 01:41:24.600
I had abandonment issues. My mom died when I was

1669
01:41:24.800 --> 01:41:27.920
you know, practically a teenager, so nobody was teaching me

1670
01:41:28.239 --> 01:41:32.720
nothing right, you know, low self esteem, looking for love

1671
01:41:32.760 --> 01:41:35.960
in all the wrong places. And I realized that I

1672
01:41:36.119 --> 01:41:40.119
was giving pieces of myself to people that I cannot

1673
01:41:40.159 --> 01:41:43.159
get back. And so as I get older, as I

1674
01:41:43.319 --> 01:41:46.600
learned to love myself more. You know, the truth is,

1675
01:41:46.920 --> 01:41:49.880
if it happens, it's not happening for a while, because

1676
01:41:49.960 --> 01:41:52.680
I need to know that that you're really in this.

1677
01:41:53.439 --> 01:41:58.279
We definitely have to be exclusive, you know. If it

1678
01:41:58.319 --> 01:42:03.000
doesn't work, it doesn't work. If they're unteachable, you turn

1679
01:42:03.079 --> 01:42:03.520
it back.

1680
01:42:04.039 --> 01:42:08.399
Oh yeah, we're going to.

1681
01:42:11.199 --> 01:42:12.239
Be a lot younger than me.

1682
01:42:12.960 --> 01:42:13.199
But I.

1683
01:42:14.920 --> 01:42:15.880
Could take it to leave it.

1684
01:42:16.279 --> 01:42:20.159
You know, I got got me through this far.

1685
01:42:20.600 --> 01:42:23.520
I just keep that up. But if he can love me,

1686
01:42:24.159 --> 01:42:26.359
that to me is more important to me. Right now

1687
01:42:26.439 --> 01:42:30.279
in my life than the physical stuff. If he can

1688
01:42:30.399 --> 01:42:32.720
love me and treat me the way I deserve, the

1689
01:42:32.800 --> 01:42:36.720
way I need, the way I want. You know what,

1690
01:42:36.920 --> 01:42:38.960
if I got to give it up somewhere, I'll give

1691
01:42:39.000 --> 01:42:44.039
it up there all right, I'm closer to the fifty mark,

1692
01:42:44.159 --> 01:42:45.039
so yo.

1693
01:42:47.000 --> 01:42:47.359
Over there.

1694
01:42:47.880 --> 01:42:52.199
Yo. The fact that she said, Joe, what do you

1695
01:42:52.279 --> 01:42:53.960
do we turn it back here? The first thing I thought.

1696
01:42:53.960 --> 01:42:55.319
I was, like, you don't say her bringing the nigga

1697
01:42:55.359 --> 01:42:58.680
to the store, like with the receipt here, it doesn't work.

1698
01:42:59.199 --> 01:43:07.640
Ain't working out at that point.

1699
01:43:08.079 --> 01:43:10.079
Look, if he's feeding my heart at that point, I

1700
01:43:10.199 --> 01:43:13.720
might have to go talk to TG and let her

1701
01:43:14.640 --> 01:43:16.439
talk to me about this whole policy.

1702
01:43:16.520 --> 01:43:17.680
Open, Yeah, I got you.

1703
01:43:18.000 --> 01:43:18.439
Don't worry.

1704
01:43:18.439 --> 01:43:26.359
I'll teach you how it's done. Honestly, I feel that

1705
01:43:26.760 --> 01:43:35.880
if people have real conversations about sex and what they

1706
01:43:36.119 --> 01:43:42.359
like and why, I think that's important because I feel

1707
01:43:42.680 --> 01:43:45.920
and unfortunately I know that there are men who are

1708
01:43:46.079 --> 01:43:51.039
married and they go outside of the relationship to have

1709
01:43:51.199 --> 01:43:55.640
the kind of sex they want because they don't do

1710
01:43:55.840 --> 01:43:56.880
that at home.

1711
01:43:57.199 --> 01:43:59.600
Right, But they probably also don't discuss that with the

1712
01:43:59.720 --> 01:44:02.079
white That is the problem.

1713
01:44:02.560 --> 01:44:06.159
This is the thing too. It's like well, how do

1714
01:44:06.239 --> 01:44:08.319
you know? But the thing is too for me. I

1715
01:44:08.399 --> 01:44:11.319
always would say this. This is always be my question

1716
01:44:14.039 --> 01:44:17.760
with someone who doesn't satisfy you this way or have

1717
01:44:17.960 --> 01:44:19.359
this conversation with that.

1718
01:44:19.600 --> 01:44:22.880
Like communicated expectations.

1719
01:44:23.039 --> 01:44:27.760
Please, yeah, because you know what, and yo, you know

1720
01:44:27.800 --> 01:44:30.840
what it sounds. It sounds fucked up in my opinion.

1721
01:44:31.079 --> 01:44:32.880
My opinion is that they're married.

1722
01:44:32.920 --> 01:44:34.399
You know what I'm saying, and he's you know what

1723
01:44:34.399 --> 01:44:37.119
I'm saying, like and whatever the case may be, if

1724
01:44:37.359 --> 01:44:39.720
he gets caught you know what I'm saying, if he

1725
01:44:39.760 --> 01:44:42.399
gets caught cheating and he has to go to force

1726
01:44:42.479 --> 01:44:45.800
court whatever and all that ship she automatically wins.

1727
01:44:45.840 --> 01:44:47.479
That's one second.

1728
01:44:49.279 --> 01:44:49.479
State.

1729
01:44:49.560 --> 01:44:53.920
By the way, Yeah, there's no states are different, by

1730
01:44:54.000 --> 01:44:56.439
the way, all states are different. They do.

1731
01:44:57.640 --> 01:44:59.079
But but like, yo, you know what I mean.

1732
01:44:59.880 --> 01:45:02.479
Not I told you my dud ran away with the Godmother.

1733
01:45:03.199 --> 01:45:06.319
I had no recourse and I did not win anything.

1734
01:45:07.920 --> 01:45:10.600
How would a man take a woman saying he doesn't satisfying.

1735
01:45:12.119 --> 01:45:16.039
He would the man answer that answer.

1736
01:45:18.119 --> 01:45:19.960
You exactly?

1737
01:45:20.079 --> 01:45:22.520
And your issue You first react like.

1738
01:45:25.760 --> 01:45:28.680
Okay, but that communicating.

1739
01:45:31.199 --> 01:45:34.359
Is so I'm just don't don't take that seriously. I'm

1740
01:45:34.399 --> 01:45:35.199
just goofing.

1741
01:45:40.800 --> 01:45:45.159
Ship had an edible or something, and.

1742
01:45:48.520 --> 01:45:50.279
So so the thing is like.

1743
01:45:52.359 --> 01:45:56.239
So with like with the marriage and things like that. Yeah. See,

1744
01:45:56.279 --> 01:45:58.800
that's why women are scared to communicate because there you

1745
01:45:58.920 --> 01:46:01.199
want them to be honest, but then when you're honest

1746
01:46:01.239 --> 01:46:02.880
with them, they can't handle the truth.

1747
01:46:03.239 --> 01:46:05.720
I'm just playing though that, but it's the truth.

1748
01:46:05.560 --> 01:46:07.279
Cornel, Like, that's exactly it.

1749
01:46:07.800 --> 01:46:08.000
Guy.

1750
01:46:09.000 --> 01:46:11.600
Guys say they want a woman who is loyal, a

1751
01:46:11.680 --> 01:46:14.840
woman who is honest, a woman that don't cheat. You

1752
01:46:15.000 --> 01:46:18.520
give them all of those things, and it's still not enough,

1753
01:46:18.880 --> 01:46:21.399
and you still cheat, and you still do all these

1754
01:46:21.520 --> 01:46:24.560
bad things. And you get exactly what you ask for

1755
01:46:24.720 --> 01:46:27.159
and you still don't want it. You still don't appreciate it.

1756
01:46:27.840 --> 01:46:30.119
You know, if I got exactly what I asked for,

1757
01:46:30.199 --> 01:46:32.319
I'd be great. I'd be extremely grateful.

1758
01:46:33.079 --> 01:46:38.039
You know what it because I'm calling bullshit on that.

1759
01:46:38.520 --> 01:46:41.279
You crazy, No, I'm calling bullshit on that.

1760
01:46:41.800 --> 01:46:44.720
If I got exactly what it was I was looking for,

1761
01:46:45.359 --> 01:46:52.079
I'd be fucking extremely grateful. All right, Okay, now I

1762
01:46:52.119 --> 01:46:56.239
got quite old. So somebody nobody want to say, sh

1763
01:46:57.039 --> 01:46:58.560
leave me fucking hanging out there?

1764
01:47:02.399 --> 01:47:02.439
What?

1765
01:47:03.119 --> 01:47:05.279
Sorry, everybody?

1766
01:47:06.159 --> 01:47:08.680
When I say everybody's quiet, like, all right, let's see

1767
01:47:08.680 --> 01:47:12.159
what I'm Let's put the fucking spotlight on his ass

1768
01:47:12.279 --> 01:47:14.319
now anyway.

1769
01:47:14.800 --> 01:47:18.000
Yes, oh wow, look at the time.

1770
01:47:18.239 --> 01:47:18.520
Friend.

1771
01:47:20.239 --> 01:47:26.880
Yeah, well, oh my goodness, my god. Hey, as you know,

1772
01:47:27.279 --> 01:47:30.199
today is side chick Day and side Nigga Day. I

1773
01:47:30.279 --> 01:47:32.560
hope you guys out there, you know, having your fun,

1774
01:47:33.159 --> 01:47:35.640
you know. Please don't bring no over very diseases back

1775
01:47:35.680 --> 01:47:41.399
home to your thank you. Tomorrow's Tomorrow is Valentine's Day and.

1776
01:47:41.800 --> 01:47:46.319
No tomorrow it is side Peace day.

1777
01:47:46.600 --> 01:47:50.079
Wait wait, wait, hold on, hold on, hold on Thursday.

1778
01:47:50.159 --> 01:47:57.079
Right, No, it'sday boy, all right, Tomorrow tomorrow's side.

1779
01:47:57.439 --> 01:47:58.720
I'm sorry, you know what tomorrow?

1780
01:48:00.399 --> 01:48:05.840
Yeah, tomorrow side dude, side check they you know, you know,

1781
01:48:06.000 --> 01:48:08.479
have fun, you know, like going down to the loop.

1782
01:48:08.520 --> 01:48:10.800
You know what I'm saying, treat your side, you know

1783
01:48:10.840 --> 01:48:12.800
what I'm saying. Yeah, you know what I'm saying. Just

1784
01:48:12.880 --> 01:48:15.720
wrap it up. Please don't bring home no gift that

1785
01:48:15.800 --> 01:48:18.079
keeps on givings. You know what I'm saying. They called

1786
01:48:18.159 --> 01:48:20.479
her piece for a reason. It came from her from him,

1787
01:48:20.680 --> 01:48:25.000
It came from him with him peace, remember that him peace.

1788
01:48:27.479 --> 01:48:28.119
Just wrap it up.

1789
01:48:28.960 --> 01:48:30.119
Oh my gosh.

1790
01:48:35.880 --> 01:48:43.520
Yeah, anyway, chocolate on Saturday because it'll be half off.

1791
01:48:44.600 --> 01:48:50.000
Yes, yes, shout out on my left with some tolerant

1792
01:48:50.000 --> 01:48:52.640
people that's gonna be in the trunk with Friday and

1793
01:48:52.800 --> 01:48:54.319
blowing their guts out on Saturday.

1794
01:48:55.680 --> 01:48:58.920
Shout out with with that. With that being said, thank

1795
01:48:58.960 --> 01:49:01.119
you for everybody who tuned, who joined in and chimed

1796
01:49:01.159 --> 01:49:02.000
in the chat room.

1797
01:49:02.520 --> 01:49:05.439
Yeah, thank you, thanks.

1798
01:49:06.479 --> 01:49:08.960
Yeah, today was I mean this, this is this is

1799
01:49:09.000 --> 01:49:11.039
definitely going up all over the place. I gotta cut

1800
01:49:11.079 --> 01:49:13.800
it up. And what the fuck my cameras acted up.

1801
01:49:17.359 --> 01:49:20.159
My cameras like shut the funk up with.

1802
01:49:23.439 --> 01:49:23.520
Yo.

1803
01:49:23.800 --> 01:49:27.000
So anyway, that being said, man, thanks everybody in the

1804
01:49:27.119 --> 01:49:29.640
chat room. Man, love you guys. Lady G T G

1805
01:49:29.800 --> 01:49:33.079
love AK. Signed Phoenix, I'm big hold of young and

1806
01:49:33.199 --> 01:49:39.640
always remember that at some point. This night, good night, everybody,

1807
01:49:40.079 --> 01:49:53.399
Sweet dreams, very happy tomorrow to you. Good good night everybody.

1808
01:49:54.600 --> 01:49:56.000
Good night pe