June 1, 2025

Mental Health Awareness Month (Recorded LIVE on 5-28-25)

Mental Health Awareness Month (Recorded LIVE on 5-28-25)
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It's the last Wednesday of the month. Tonight we'll be discussing the importance of Mental Health Awareness. Also we'll be discussing whatever pops up throughout our time together. As always we encourage or fans tuning in to get involved with the discussion and Speak your mind about the topic's at hand.

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Hey, what's up? Everybody? It's been called on whether this

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might hear podcast coming to you live. I want to

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bring my co host the episode Informative, Intuitive, Intelligent, all

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that good stuff by doctor Lady g Hi. Hello, Oh

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I'm here. All right?

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Everybody was up.

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I was kind of like, oh, I'm here, I'm here. Yeah,

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all right, So here we are again. It's Mental Health

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Awareness month and we can't. We can't go the whole

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month without speaking on it. You know how we do here.

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So how was how was your last couple of weeks?

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They've been okay, they've been okay, busy, busy, but they're good.

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They're good.

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Okay, that's good. Good to know that things are going good.

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You know what I'm saying. I mean, it's always always

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a bright spot when things are okay, right, yeah, okay.

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So with that being said, I'm I'm I'm doing I'm

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doing pretty good. I mean I'm good. Family is good,

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kids are good, of course, everybody's every everybody's good. I mean,

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you know, you gotta you gotta be have a little

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bit of oomph, be signed this good behind this good stuff,

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you know what I mean.

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But you know what I have to admit today is

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one of those days that it's okay to not be okay.

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You know, it's it's definitely okay not to be okay,

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but it's not okay to not be okay and not

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want to talk about it because you know, you have

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people that care and people that want to help and

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want to, you know, do what they can do to

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live up the situation, you know what I mean?

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Yeah?

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Yeah, So.

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What can Charles Saint do for you? How you feeling?

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What's up?

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What can who.

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Charles Saint? That's that's my spy name. You didn't know that.

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I didn't tell you that. That's my international spy name, Charlest.

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So whenever I go up to the to the bar,

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or to to a desk and they say, who the

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hell are you, I say the name Saint, Charles Saint

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double O nine.

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You are a mess?

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Am I am?

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I really?

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Yes, yes, but I'm a good mess though, you know

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I'm I'm a pretty darn good mess. Somebody's mess.

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But oh yeah, somebody's mess.

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I'm somebody's mess, you know what I mean. So anyway,

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I have I haven't aviwer email, but I'm actually waiting

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for TG to get in here because this one is

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specifically for her. It's yeah, it's it's uh, it's right

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up her alley, so to speak. So she'll she'll, she'll

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get a kick out of it. I got a kick

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out of it when I read it. So, but let's

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talk a little bit about Mental Health Awareness Month. As

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we all know, mental health is a really really big

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deal to us here at the show. We believe that

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mental health shouldn't have a stigma on it, and apparently

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in some places it still does. Nobody understands what it

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means to be mental. Had to be aware of what

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mental health is, and we got something new going on

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on the on the page too, So everything that now,

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I don't I don't have to hit anything on the screen.

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You can see the screen, right, DYG. You can see

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that the the messages are popping up on the screen now,

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oh at the bottom.

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But they're really little.

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Yeah they do look a little little. But as as

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people start commenting, it'll start lifting up more and more

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and more. So it'll pop up. And if if you

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can't see it, I'll just I'll just put it on

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the screen. No big deal. But I'm a big believer

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that what's up mike Vic oh Man, Mike Vic, Mike

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Vick is a trooper, I'll tell you that. But we

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all believe here in the show that I'm a big

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believer in checking on your strong friends, on your checking

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on your friends, that you know there that always you know,

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there for everyone, who's always available for everyone, you know

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to everyone, and that it's important to check on those

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that check on you because you never know what their

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struggles are, you know, And it's important to show love

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to those people, you know what I mean, show love

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to and also show love to yourself, because if you

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don't love yourself, it's it's it's terrible. It's it's terrible.

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If you don't love yourself right, you know, you gotta

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you gotta find it within you to love you and

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to love others and to be able to help one

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another and pull one another out of there there's slumps.

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I'm gonna put on the bottle of the screen the

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number to the Mental Health Suicide and Crisis Hotline. So

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there it is. There's the information you need and you

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can text or call, go to their website and you know,

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get the help you need. So I want to give

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a shout out to the dubs. He had surgery again

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and he's he's recovering right now. He's not one hundred

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percent sure if he's gonna make it in or not,

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but he's gonna say, he said, I'll try, right, but

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we'll see, we'll see if we see him tonight whatever. So,

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but uh, all right, so let me hold on. I

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had had a bunch of my dog took it. The

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dog takes your homework.

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Yeah, you got homework, have homework.

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But but anyway, I had this whole thing set up here.

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Now the paperwork I had is gone, So now I

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gotta off the top of the head.

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Now I'm good with that.

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I know. Sometimes it's hard for people to express how

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they truly feel about what they're going through, you know.

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And sometimes.

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Don't blame IV.

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Sometimes it's it's difficult to express what one person its

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struggle is. Yeah, and when when someone is going through

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a struggle and they look like they're not, but you

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don't know what's going on in the inside. So it's

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good to ask questions, you know, it's good to to

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to talk about what it is, you know, to show

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your support for one another, you know what I mean. Yeah,

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And I think it's important to be able to speak

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on those struggles, because the more you speak about what

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you did, you're going through, the more your friends and

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whoever it is that care about you can understand what

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you're going through and they can find ways to help you,

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you know. And I just think that in today's society,

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it's it's difficult for people because people are afraid of

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what they don't understand. So if they don't understand what

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it is that you're going through, you know, it's right

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away it's like, what's your problem? What the fuck is

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going on? Why are you going Why? Why are you

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putting yourself through this? You know? Why? Why is it

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you're you're you're going through what you're going through? Can't

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you just snap out of it?

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Well, it's not that it's not that easy.

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If if it was that easy, I mean, did the

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world be a much better a much better place, you

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know what I'm saying? And yes, mental health is one

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real thing. And and people are people are afraid of it,

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you know, and and and and and it's true. They

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people don't want to feel vulnerable, you know. People don't

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want to feel like they're going to be criticized and

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they're gonna be talked about, and they're gonna be pointed

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at like, oh, you're the you're the crazy one, or

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you're the one that nobody you know, nobody really wants

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to suck around, will to deal with or whatever. You know,

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I completely understand nobody wants to feel like they're a

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burden to anyone else, you know what I'm saying.

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So, yeah, something else I want to say. Ye, sometimes

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in that we do things, like we're all human and

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so we do things, and sometimes I don't think we

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realize how that affects not just us, but others. Right,

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Like like I did something today and it's something I

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do all the time, right, and and I told the

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person that I did it, and it upset them, you know,

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and I understand, I understand why. And the funny thing

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is like I'm not sorry that I did it, because

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I did it from my own safety, from my own security,

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from my peace of mind, you know. But I also

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felt that I needed to hear the other person and

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their point of view, you know, like because they were upset,

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and so I needed to hear them to be upset, right,

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And I understood and I respected that they were upset.

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It didn't change that because of things that impact our

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mental health. It didn't change that I still needed to

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do it and and that you know, I did it

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for me and my safety, my security, but also in

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the long run, I also think I did it for

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that person. And so that's something I'm sitting with right now,

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and and that does impact like mental health the way

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I feel right now being on the show.

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You know, I'll hold your thought one second. Just let

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me Yeah, TG, you good?

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Yeah, I mean you can't hear me. Ye, I don't

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have my headphone, so I'm just using my phone.

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All right, So go ahead, lady, G. What's up?

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I mean, that's that's just it. It's like, yeah, that's all

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just I'm I'm not sorry that I did what I

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had to do to protect my mental health to protect me,

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but I am sorry that what I needed to do

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potentially hurt somebody else, you know.

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I mean, I completely understand that, you know, doing what

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you have to do to keep your peace and your

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sanity intact is important. You know what I'm saying. I

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understand that, and that's and that's something that everyone at

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some point in their life should realize that being at

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peace and knowing that you're in a safe space within

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yourself is important. Yeah, you know, and you know you

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shouldn't you really shouldn't feel too bad. I mean, I

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know you don't like when you say you don't like

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the fact that you hurt someone.

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Yeah, but.

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Sometimes you know, yes, yeah, just like just like Melissa said,

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sometimes you have to love yourself more. Yeah, you know.

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I mean it's like I'm always saying, you know, things

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that are meant to be will always be, and things

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that aren't, you know, because we need to be our

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genuine selves, you know, and we need to do what

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what helps us. I guess I guess I just I

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don't want to say I assumed, but I guess I

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thought being honest about it and letting them know would

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open a conversation, you know, about wanting to trust and

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you know, just sometimes you have to be selfish. Yeah,

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I mean that's true too, that's true too.

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Yeah.

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But also I don't do anything without respecting and accepting

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the consequences for what I do, like I'll take accountability

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for it.

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I mean, I mean, I don't. I don't want to pry,

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but can can you want to talk about what happened?

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Or you want to like, you know, I know you're

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going through it. But I mean, if you want to,

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you want to share, you can. If not, it's okay,

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I understand. Yeah, no, I know, because I'll be honest

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with you. You you really, you really don't sound yourself.

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You don't sound like Lady g You sound like you know,

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I don't know what I could tell something a little defeated.

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Yeah.

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Well, and at the same time, right after I had

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the conversation with the person, right and you know, you

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guys know me, I'm a thinker. I'm always thinking. And

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I happened to have been driving at the time, so

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ye know, I was just contemplating. And wouldn't you know,

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as soon as I hang up the phone, I get

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a flat tire and it's pouring rain outside. And then

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as I pull over to check out the tire, something

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hits my windshield and cracks it.

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What the fuck is going on here?

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I know? And I guess because you know, you guys know,

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I'm kind of like a loner, like I really don't

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I don't have friends and stuff like that.

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Hey, I don't like that comment.

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Well, oh yeah, just in the moment, in the moment

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where I was okay, in the moment where I was

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mentally emotionally, you know, like it was just like dag trish,

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look at me, look at me giving people's names away.

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It was just like wow. And then to pull over,

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have a flat tire. It's pouring rain, and I mean

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it chose that very moment to like pour down, like

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open up and pour down.

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Uh.

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And then my windstreal cracks. So I get out to

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change the tire, and I mean, ain't nothing wrong. I've

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changed tires. It was just that moment. And the funny

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thing is so many people passed see me in the ground,

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like trying to change the tire whatnot, and nobody stops.

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But I guess, out of iron like irony, I texted

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the person that I had just hurt, and I took

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a picture of the tire, and I.

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Was like, I guess, yes, I was like, I guess

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I got. I was like, I guess I got what

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I deserved, and and I thought it was kind of

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funny though, even though like I said, I'm not sorry

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I did it, and I don't think that I did

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anything wrong, but I could definitely see how what I

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did hurt them, or at least upset them. Not necessarily

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hurt them, but like upset them, made them angry, and

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I'm not sure i'll ever know which one it was,

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you know, but uh so I just texted them that

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I was like, I guess I got what I deserved.

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And so I got wet, and of course, as soon

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as I'm done changing the tire, and of course I

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have work clothes on, so they're not like sweatshirt and jeans.

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It's dress pants and a very flimsy blouse.

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And no jacket. So the guy stops, he's like, you

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need help. I'm like, no, I'm good. I just I

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got I'm over, like I just finished and whatnot. And

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then that person texts me back and they actually offered

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to come help me, and they're like I was already

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because I got lost while I was on the phone

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with them, because you know, like I was talking and

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I wasn't paying attention, so I ended up getting lost

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like an hour and a half further away from my house.

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So it was just like things at that very moment

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just started piling on and piling on, talk about mental health,

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like struggle, like crisis, right, And they actually texted me

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at that moment and asked if I needed help, and honestly,

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I was like, how are like, how am I going

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to get help? First of all, you live already an

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hour and a half away from me, and if I'm

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an hour and a half away from my house, that's

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like a two hour drive at least. So I'm like,

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you know, I just finished. I wouldn't want to do that,

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you know, to anybody. But then it had me wondering, like,

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are they just that nice of a person or you know,

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has a little bit of time passed and now I

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don't know, maybe they're not so as mad as they were.

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I don't know, I don't know, but I thought it

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was really nice that they did that, that they offered.

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But you know, I had already finished and I wasn't

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going to make anybody drive out here in this rain,

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especially because I had already changed it, and you know whatnot.

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So like right now, I'm just I'm just feeling a

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little stuck, a little torn, a little you know, like,

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am I right? Am I wrong? Am I just human?

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You know?

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Well, first of all, you're just human? Right, yeah, You're

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just human? You know what I mean? I mean, you

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can't you can't really beat yourself up and fool yourself

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or doing what you feel you needed to do to

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protect you yourself, you know what I mean.

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Yeah, And I mean the truth is we don't really

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know each other well. So I mean it's not like

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we were friends or close or anything like that. And

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this is like, you know, like a bad hurt, you know.

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Like a.

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Betrayal or anything, because we don't know each other that well.

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You know. But you guys know me, I just don't

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like to I don't like to hurt anybody, not on

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purpose anyway. Wow, you know, but our our our traumas,

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our baggages are and I'm and you guys know like

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I'm good, you know, like I've done my work to

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heal and and do all those things. So it's not

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about that. But it's about like what our experiences, uh

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teach us, you know, about what we want in our

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life and what we don't want in our our life.

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And so you know, it's just a part of who

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we become, you know. And it's not about punishing anybody.

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It's not about you know, it's just about you know, again,

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like they said, being selfish and making sure that we're okay,

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because if we're not okay, nobody else is going to

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be okay either. Yeah, because we can't care for people

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if we don't care for ourselves, right, you.

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Know, absolutely, yeah, it's all about it's about peace of mind, yeah,

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you know, and being in that safe space within yourself,

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you know. And what some people don't understand also is

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that when you get yourself involved with someone, or even

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if you're just communicating with someone, talking someone whatever, it.

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Is, friends, family, everybody.

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Yeah, whatever it is. But I mean, but I mean,

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I mean, I mostly mean as far as like dating

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or seeing someone, as being with someone or whatever, getting

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getting to know someone, you have to understand that. I

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think I said this before but I don't remember. But

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there their life experiences and and and their life doesn't

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start when you meet them, right right, they have an

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entire lifetime of experiences, hurts, traumas that come with me,

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especially at our age. I'm not I'm not aging myself.

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I'm just saying that we all know that we're old.

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So but I'm just saying that it doesn't.

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You maybe.

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What you mean, TG what you.

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Mean, don't don't don't don't don't do that anyway.

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Today someone told me, I was I look like I'm

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in my thirties. I was like, I'll tell you.

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I would. I would take it too.

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Yeah.

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People tell me that all the time. I'm like, oh

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I wish.

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Yeah when I when I when I tell people sometimes

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old and they're like, what the fuck out of here?

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No, because you'd be using them filters.

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Bro.

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Right now, this is, this is what it is.

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They're more like they're like, oh, you're not sixty.

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You will oh the same time.

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Nah.

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But like I was saying, that, their life doesn't start

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when they meet you. Everything, every every hurt, every trauma,

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everything that they've gone through is there when you meet them.

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It's all about how they want to pursue and go

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about expressing and telling you and sharing with you. You

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know what what it is those traumas, know those things

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were you know what I mean?

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Or are.

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You can't You can't expect someone to just show up

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and I'm here, let's start all over, let's start.

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You know.

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It's no, it doesn't. It doesn't happen that way. Everybody

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has baggage at disease, you know, and sometimes it pops up,

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sometimes it doesn't. Sometimes you share, sometimes you don't.

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But I I don't know how to keep my mouth shut.

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I always got to share.

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Yeah, Well I'm not saying you keep your mouth shut.

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I'm just saying that, you know, it's important that you

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share because when you share, you get if you get feedback,

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sometimes you get you know what I'm saying.

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And the funny thing is like people don't want to

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be lied to, absolutely, and so you try, you know,

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so to prove to them that you don't want to

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lie to them and you are transparent. Then they're like,

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I wish you would have just did it and not

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told me.

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Like, look, no, no, I want to know what's up.

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Oh damn.

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I mean you don't have to. But I'm just saying,

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I mean, you know, I don't know, you can speak

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on it. You don't have to speak on I'm just saying.

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Oh my god, no, I mean I don't mind because

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to me, like I said, to me, it's not a

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bad thing, you know.

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But so all right, So so you guys know that.

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I'm single, and so uh in this dating world, in

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this dating pool, people not just women, but people need

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to be careful. So anybody that actually wants to meet

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in person all this stuff, and you know, I have

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a teenage daughter and you know, uh, not everybody knows

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what I do for a living. But you guys do.

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So I run a background check.

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On somebody, oh man.

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And I run a background check on everybody who wants to.

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Friends us.

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Do you think I haven't run background checks on you guys?

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Did my? Did? Did me? And did my?

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My?

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Me? Being on the on the federal list? Come up?

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I ain't gonna all right, but yes, I want background

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checks on everybody in my life. And yes, yes, part

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of that is trauma based.

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Absolutely, and and and.

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I don't lie about that, Like I am self aware.

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I I take full responsibility for my stuff, for my baggage,

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for my you know, insecurity, for whatever.

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But also against baggage or insecurity. I just think that's

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you protecting yourself. Yeah, because you can't trust people. They're

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unfortunately a lot of people out there lying. So I

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would rather know up front so I don't waste my time.

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Yes, And so there's that part of me that is like,

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are they upset because I found stuff out? Oh well huh?

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I said, oh well yeah right, huh. I mean it

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comes with it. You if you do a background check

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on somebody and shit pops up and you see things

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you know you could tell them, you know, I do

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this to you know, for myself.

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And I did. I did.

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But then when you want to divulge.

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They felt like it was a betrayal of their trust

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and they were like, you didn't give me a chance

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to tell you, right, And I was like, you know, okay,

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that you know that is possible, that is definitely possible.

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But at the same time, like that's why I'm telling

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you that I did it, because I don't. I don't

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want to lie to you. I don't want to hide,

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you know, like you're asking for you're asking for someone

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in your life to be honest and to be loyal

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and to be your ride or die and and so

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that's what I'm trying to do, right And because I

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could have easily not said anything and just known and

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just known what I know. But on top of it all,

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it's not even like private it's like public information, right right,

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you know, like just google yourself and be surprised at

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what you find.

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You know, how many Charles Saints are out there nowadays?

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You can try googling me.

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And yeah, you put you're gonna.

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Find wow, a lot of Yeah. But but it's look

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look me. So when you if you if you do

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that to someone as far as running the background check

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and doing you're doing that stuff just to make sure

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you don't end up with convicted murderer, yeah, or a rapist,

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a molester, right, you know what I'm.

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Saying, and a wife beater.

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Domestic violence, you know what I'm saying, DV cases and

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stuff like that. You gotta you gotta do that stuff. Yeah,

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you know what I mean. I mean, do you know

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and now if if he got a speeding ticket, a

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couple of speeding tickets, you know what I'm saying, it

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went to jail for not paying form or child support,

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and it went to jail for not paying child sport.

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There's a couple of red flags there. But I mean,

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you know, I mean, he's not not any fella.

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He's not.

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Right, He's not a He's not one of them.

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He's just a human being that don't know to pay

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his stuff.

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You know what I'm saying. But I don't I'm not

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going to pry too much. But I'm thinking you found

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something you didn't like.

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No, not necessarily, I just found something, so I questioned it.

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Mmmm, he got offended big time? Right?

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Well, I mean I don't think it was. I don't

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know if it was offended. I don't know if it

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was her. I don't know if it was angry, but

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it kind of I guess it triggered him to be like,

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I'm not a child and I don't need this in

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my life. And I'm like, what, like, like, I respect it,

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I understand it. But at the same time, you're telling

477
00:34:45.639 --> 00:34:48.239
me I didn't give you a chance, but you didn't

478
00:34:48.280 --> 00:34:49.360
give me one either.

479
00:34:49.840 --> 00:34:55.320
Right, yeah, yeah, Because you know, if somebody says to me, well, look,

480
00:34:55.360 --> 00:34:57.559
I ran a background check on you, the first thing

481
00:34:57.559 --> 00:35:00.679
I'm going to say is I hope you did not

482
00:35:01.880 --> 00:35:04.440
see the file on the bodies they found in the park.

483
00:35:07.599 --> 00:35:11.079
Please tell me, you know what I'm saying. I mean,

484
00:35:12.280 --> 00:35:17.000
but let's let let's ask let's ask the community. People

485
00:35:17.079 --> 00:35:19.679
the community, yes, the people of the chat. Would you

486
00:35:19.800 --> 00:35:22.360
be offended if someone did a background check on you

487
00:35:22.840 --> 00:35:27.639
and then told you that they did? And well, we'll

488
00:35:27.679 --> 00:35:30.320
talk as you know, they they line up and say

489
00:35:30.360 --> 00:35:32.719
whatever they're going to say if they do. But yeah,

490
00:35:32.719 --> 00:35:34.760
if somebody ran a background check on you before they

491
00:35:34.840 --> 00:35:37.639
they wanted to get involved with you? What what? What?

492
00:35:37.639 --> 00:35:39.239
What do you think of that? How do you? How

493
00:35:39.280 --> 00:35:40.199
do you guys handle that?

494
00:35:41.440 --> 00:35:41.800
All? Right?

495
00:35:41.920 --> 00:35:47.039
I'm good I'm a good girl. So except you know,

496
00:35:47.119 --> 00:35:49.079
unless there's some sex videos out there, I don't know

497
00:35:49.079 --> 00:35:50.559
what about Oh.

498
00:35:54.199 --> 00:35:59.519
Oh ship, I'd never tell TG No, I think I would.

499
00:35:59.239 --> 00:36:07.800
Not just playing video. Oh no, don't say that. I'm

500
00:36:07.800 --> 00:36:10.400
not probably of the poly program over here.

501
00:36:12.119 --> 00:36:15.320
Program anyway.

502
00:36:15.679 --> 00:36:21.039
So but yeah, I mean, yeah you wanna let's let's

503
00:36:21.320 --> 00:36:24.119
let let's talk about it. I mean, anybody can run

504
00:36:24.159 --> 00:36:26.559
the background check on anybody, you know what I'm saying,

505
00:36:26.840 --> 00:36:29.880
especially if it's public, especially if it's let's see what

506
00:36:29.920 --> 00:36:30.840
this one says.

507
00:36:33.280 --> 00:36:36.039
Before you do it, so as to be transparent on

508
00:36:36.119 --> 00:36:42.719
my part. Yeah, but then that's like, that's almost like

509
00:36:46.079 --> 00:36:55.360
I don't know, it's like the only reason you're telling me. Now, Okay,

510
00:36:55.360 --> 00:36:57.280
we're in it. Let's talk about it, as long as

511
00:36:57.320 --> 00:37:02.199
you come correct exactly. And I thought I was. I

512
00:37:02.199 --> 00:37:05.199
don't know, I thought I was coming correct, but I

513
00:37:05.199 --> 00:37:05.920
think you did.

514
00:37:06.000 --> 00:37:07.719
And I just I don't like his reaction.

515
00:37:07.960 --> 00:37:11.440
I would reaction, Yeah.

516
00:37:12.119 --> 00:37:15.320
Yeah, his reaction. I would be like, really, all right, bro, Like,

517
00:37:15.760 --> 00:37:18.079
let me let you think that over so that tomorrow,

518
00:37:18.119 --> 00:37:24.639
when you read that again, you realize how stupid it was. Yeah,

519
00:37:25.880 --> 00:37:28.920
Because then a few minutes later you're you're okay to help,

520
00:37:29.039 --> 00:37:32.360
So maybe you know, he just has to like sit

521
00:37:32.440 --> 00:37:35.159
on it for a minute and realize that it really

522
00:37:35.199 --> 00:37:39.679
isn't that big a deal, because it isn't. Let's just

523
00:37:39.719 --> 00:37:42.760
be clear, it is not a big deal. Unfortunately in

524
00:37:42.800 --> 00:37:46.119
today's day and age, in this dating world, it's what

525
00:37:46.239 --> 00:37:47.079
people need to do.

526
00:37:48.480 --> 00:37:52.719
Yeah, yeah, you know.

527
00:37:53.239 --> 00:38:02.760
And and as a woman especially, I need a minute

528
00:38:03.280 --> 00:38:08.400
to take that in. Yeah, exactly, like he reacted instead

529
00:38:08.480 --> 00:38:11.760
of like processing, and I mean, I'm.

530
00:38:11.599 --> 00:38:15.440
Okay, it comes if he comes back later and it's like,

531
00:38:15.480 --> 00:38:18.719
you know what, I needed a minute. Yeah, you know,

532
00:38:19.119 --> 00:38:23.000
but but I don't know. I don't know. I guess

533
00:38:23.000 --> 00:38:25.400
I just have to Well we'll see.

534
00:38:26.119 --> 00:38:30.039
Yeah, it's on to the next if not.

535
00:38:30.880 --> 00:38:34.920
But that's the thing. I wasn't even looking when this

536
00:38:34.960 --> 00:38:35.960
person came along.

537
00:38:36.719 --> 00:38:37.960
Well that's how things happen.

538
00:38:38.840 --> 00:38:41.440
Yeah exactly. It's just just just pops up. People just

539
00:38:41.480 --> 00:38:45.440
come in and out. Yeah, you know, it's it's fun.

540
00:38:45.480 --> 00:38:50.519
It's fucked up as as it is. I mean, you

541
00:38:50.519 --> 00:38:53.039
you gotta you gotta, you gotta protect yourself. And then,

542
00:38:53.199 --> 00:38:54.800
like like you said, you have a you have a

543
00:38:54.840 --> 00:38:56.559
teenage daughter, and you you don't want to want to

544
00:38:56.559 --> 00:38:58.440
make sure you know it's the person come into your life.

545
00:38:58.559 --> 00:39:00.519
Isn't one of those feelings, you know what I'm saying.

546
00:39:01.599 --> 00:39:03.039
I mean, you got you want to make sure you

547
00:39:03.079 --> 00:39:04.800
don't want to put anybody else in danger.

548
00:39:05.400 --> 00:39:05.920
That's fair.

549
00:39:06.840 --> 00:39:11.920
And I told him, I was like, hey, I'll be uh,

550
00:39:11.960 --> 00:39:14.760
you know, ask me what you want, I'll provide you

551
00:39:14.920 --> 00:39:18.000
my record. I'll provide you what you need because again

552
00:39:18.119 --> 00:39:23.840
I'm trying to establish trust and transparency. So it's like,

553
00:39:24.079 --> 00:39:27.320
just ask you want a copy of you know whatever. Okay,

554
00:39:28.400 --> 00:39:34.920
I don't dish it if I can't take it. You know, Look,

555
00:39:35.000 --> 00:39:39.840
no one wants to relive their mistakes. But but but believe.

556
00:39:39.519 --> 00:39:42.480
It or not, But who's mistakes?

557
00:39:42.519 --> 00:39:46.880
Like, yeah, we're not reliving the mistakes, but the choices

558
00:39:46.920 --> 00:39:49.920
we make in our mistakes contribute to who we are

559
00:39:50.000 --> 00:40:03.920
as people. Yeah, exactly, they won't because I can't. I

560
00:40:03.920 --> 00:40:07.400
mean I've talked about like different situations on here and

561
00:40:07.440 --> 00:40:13.760
how people go this extra mile to create these fake lives,

562
00:40:15.400 --> 00:40:18.440
like they just be doing too much for something that

563
00:40:18.480 --> 00:40:22.480
they're not getting anyway. So it's like, dude, you don't

564
00:40:22.519 --> 00:40:24.480
have to put up this fake life for me. You

565
00:40:24.559 --> 00:40:28.320
still ain't getting none like just because you try to,

566
00:40:28.559 --> 00:40:31.599
you know, inform me or try to lull me into

567
00:40:31.679 --> 00:40:38.880
this positive thing doesn't mean you're getting anything. So yeah,

568
00:40:38.960 --> 00:40:43.559
so I mean it's like, why create.

569
00:40:43.280 --> 00:40:51.280
These Get over yourself? Man? Okay, I've done embarrassed and.

570
00:40:54.119 --> 00:40:58.239
Maybe maybe that could have been it, you know, like he.

571
00:40:58.320 --> 00:41:04.960
Felt, Oh man, the ego was hit. Get over yourself

572
00:41:07.679 --> 00:41:09.760
is here? So I need to know.

573
00:41:10.840 --> 00:41:14.000
Yeah, Douves would be all over this. Oh my gosh,

574
00:41:15.840 --> 00:41:16.880
how do you know he's not?

575
00:41:17.639 --> 00:41:20.320
He would be calling him a simp? You know, because.

576
00:41:23.719 --> 00:41:24.400
That is true.

577
00:41:24.960 --> 00:41:25.679
That is true.

578
00:41:26.960 --> 00:41:31.079
That is true. Yeah, but yeah, you got you got.

579
00:41:31.079 --> 00:41:33.199
You gotta protect yourself and your family and your people

580
00:41:33.239 --> 00:41:35.920
and your state of mind, your your peace of mind.

581
00:41:35.960 --> 00:41:37.559
You want to make sure that you're not rolling with

582
00:41:37.599 --> 00:41:40.880
somebody who's gonna get pulled over and let me check

583
00:41:40.920 --> 00:41:43.719
your your ID and guns get drawn. Like yo, who

584
00:41:43.719 --> 00:41:47.840
we were looking for you on the fucking floor the rest?

585
00:41:48.239 --> 00:41:52.000
Who are you? Who are you? You're an accomplished funk.

586
00:41:51.840 --> 00:41:55.840
That ship, you know what I mean?

587
00:41:58.800 --> 00:42:01.639
That's crazy. You don't want any of that ship not

588
00:42:01.719 --> 00:42:08.760
in your life, you know, I mean, I I feel

589
00:42:08.880 --> 00:42:13.360
I feel like you know, running running running background checks

590
00:42:13.480 --> 00:42:16.199
is a normal thing these days too, you know what

591
00:42:16.199 --> 00:42:20.559
I'm saying. I mean, you could, ladies, she said, she

592
00:42:20.679 --> 00:42:22.039
done ran that ship on all of us.

593
00:42:22.079 --> 00:42:23.440
So there you go.

594
00:42:23.960 --> 00:42:31.119
You know, all my alias has probably popped up. She

595
00:42:31.760 --> 00:42:34.159
finally realized that my last name is Goldberg.

596
00:42:39.920 --> 00:42:47.159
You're Jewish, narrow wonder that, Oh.

597
00:42:46.800 --> 00:42:55.320
Man, maybe the problem really wasn't me you, oh man.

598
00:42:55.559 --> 00:42:57.639
But no on the real though, you know, I mean,

599
00:42:57.679 --> 00:43:00.360
it's it's it's hard, It's it's really hard.

600
00:43:01.000 --> 00:43:01.119
You know.

601
00:43:01.239 --> 00:43:03.599
I think when you find when you finally find someone

602
00:43:03.679 --> 00:43:08.199
that that you you vibe with, you know, and there

603
00:43:09.000 --> 00:43:11.360
they don't have a record, I think you hold on

604
00:43:11.440 --> 00:43:18.320
to them, you know what I mean, because sometimes you know,

605
00:43:18.440 --> 00:43:22.519
you you go, you go through through different people and

606
00:43:22.519 --> 00:43:27.599
you realize that everyone at some point, oh oh she

607
00:43:27.639 --> 00:43:28.440
didn't pay her bill.

608
00:43:29.920 --> 00:43:30.800
I'm still here.

609
00:43:31.599 --> 00:43:37.519
Not you, she didn't pay.

610
00:43:37.360 --> 00:43:39.559
Her I thought I left For a second.

611
00:43:39.559 --> 00:43:42.400
I was like, oh, like.

612
00:43:42.519 --> 00:43:44.400
Doc thought I didn't pay her WiFi bill.

613
00:43:46.800 --> 00:43:48.599
Remind me I gotta pay mine too, So.

614
00:43:51.280 --> 00:43:55.199
Oh ship But but but but I mean, you know,

615
00:43:55.239 --> 00:43:57.400
when you when when you do that stuff when you're dating,

616
00:43:57.400 --> 00:44:00.280
when you're dating someone is seeing someone, you know that

617
00:44:00.440 --> 00:44:02.840
there needs to be there needs to be more than

618
00:44:03.039 --> 00:44:07.760
just compatibility. You know what I'm saying. There needs to

619
00:44:07.800 --> 00:44:10.400
be more than just okay, we have these things in common.

620
00:44:11.559 --> 00:44:14.199
You know, there needs to there needs to be levels

621
00:44:14.239 --> 00:44:19.039
of you know, awareness and compatibility. You know what I mean.

622
00:44:20.000 --> 00:44:21.679
You just you just you just can't walk down the

623
00:44:21.679 --> 00:44:23.360
street look at somebody and say, you know what it's

624
00:44:23.400 --> 00:44:25.599
all about you and me. Let's go now. I don't

625
00:44:25.639 --> 00:44:29.199
work that way because you need to. You need to,

626
00:44:30.199 --> 00:44:34.920
you know, be able to check on somebody and see

627
00:44:34.920 --> 00:44:40.480
what they're about, you know. And and I got an email

628
00:44:40.599 --> 00:44:48.639
for you. Okay, all right, So before before we get

629
00:44:48.679 --> 00:44:52.000
into that, how have you been, Like, what's up with you? You're good?

630
00:44:52.119 --> 00:44:52.920
Like what's going on?

631
00:44:54.760 --> 00:44:59.159
I've I've had a crazy month and worked a lot

632
00:44:59.199 --> 00:45:07.199
of extra hour and dealt with some bs. Uh, But

633
00:45:08.599 --> 00:45:12.639
I am good. My birthday's coming, so I'm really happy

634
00:45:12.840 --> 00:45:17.559
and excited. I'm off Friday to Monday. I'm I'm just

635
00:45:17.599 --> 00:45:23.760
gonna eat whatever I want, wherever I want. Okay, Oh

636
00:45:23.800 --> 00:45:24.760
that's my plan.

637
00:45:25.400 --> 00:45:27.079
That and it sounds like a good plan.

638
00:45:27.360 --> 00:45:29.599
I'm good. I'm basically gonna try and take advantage of

639
00:45:29.679 --> 00:45:35.800
whatever free shit I can get this weekend, Like if

640
00:45:35.800 --> 00:45:39.239
they're giving me something, I'm going to get it. So

641
00:45:39.679 --> 00:45:42.800
I'll have a checklist and maybe I'll keep tabs on

642
00:45:42.800 --> 00:45:44.800
the Facebook and be like here we go. I did this,

643
00:45:45.920 --> 00:45:48.880
but there is a bunch of stuff. So I'm like, yeah,

644
00:45:49.039 --> 00:45:56.320
I need to get my free shit and just chill. Basically,

645
00:45:56.960 --> 00:46:00.920
all right, sounds good. Yeah, I'm too old for anything

646
00:46:00.920 --> 00:46:01.840
else these days.

647
00:46:02.000 --> 00:46:05.000
So I told you said you were thirty something.

648
00:46:05.920 --> 00:46:08.880
Yeah, but you know what the body feels it it's hurting.

649
00:46:12.280 --> 00:46:16.840
Oh man. Yeah, I was having some what I'm having

650
00:46:16.840 --> 00:46:20.679
some back issues. My mid my mid back is a

651
00:46:21.360 --> 00:46:25.000
a not back there. Check this shit out. I went

652
00:46:25.119 --> 00:46:28.960
to go for a fucking MRI, right yeah, And I

653
00:46:29.000 --> 00:46:31.920
told them specifically I need an open air MRI. I'm

654
00:46:31.960 --> 00:46:35.239
a bigger dude, you know what I'm saying. Right, And

655
00:46:35.920 --> 00:46:40.199
I get there, no open MRI, and the nerve of

656
00:46:40.239 --> 00:46:42.840
these people try to squeeze me into that fucking machine.

657
00:46:43.480 --> 00:46:44.679
The worst, It's the worst.

658
00:46:45.159 --> 00:46:47.119
I was like, what are you doing? She was like,

659
00:46:47.239 --> 00:46:51.480
raise your arm, raise your other arm above your head,

660
00:46:52.159 --> 00:46:54.559
and they're trying to squeeze me into this machine. I'm like, yo,

661
00:46:54.639 --> 00:46:56.760
I'm not going into the fucking machine and stop it.

662
00:46:56.760 --> 00:47:00.679
Already I'm like, no, it's not going to happen. So

663
00:47:00.760 --> 00:47:02.760
now I gotta, I gotta, I gotta call this place

664
00:47:02.800 --> 00:47:06.000
in in in Clifton. They haven't opened them right over there,

665
00:47:06.039 --> 00:47:07.679
and I gotta make an appointment, and I gotta do

666
00:47:07.719 --> 00:47:09.920
all this other ship and everything. So I gotta get

667
00:47:09.960 --> 00:47:12.159
that that that not worked out in my back, yo,

668
00:47:12.239 --> 00:47:15.800
because it's it hurts. They got me on the proxy

669
00:47:15.800 --> 00:47:18.639
and and uh flexio flexo something like that.

670
00:47:19.880 --> 00:47:22.320
Yeah, you need to find out first what it is,

671
00:47:22.840 --> 00:47:26.159
if it is something, and then you physical therapy will

672
00:47:26.159 --> 00:47:27.519
probably be the best route.

673
00:47:28.280 --> 00:47:32.960
Yeah, hold on one second, back No, not her?

674
00:47:34.119 --> 00:47:39.719
Oh damn. We were in the clear now yo.

675
00:47:41.760 --> 00:47:42.280
Yeah, what up?

676
00:47:42.280 --> 00:47:44.480
Man? What's up?

677
00:47:44.559 --> 00:47:46.480
You know? Bro?

678
00:47:49.360 --> 00:47:50.400
Hold on, I'll be back.

679
00:47:51.599 --> 00:47:51.880
Hell.

680
00:47:51.920 --> 00:47:59.320
First off, real good man, I don't feel the pain

681
00:47:59.360 --> 00:48:01.960
that much at all. This ship is actually working.

682
00:48:03.199 --> 00:48:05.440
Good. That's that's it's doing what it's supposed to.

683
00:48:05.480 --> 00:48:09.360
Do, right yeah, man, Like like yo, you know what, yo?

684
00:48:09.440 --> 00:48:11.320
You know what I'm actually testing? You know what I'm saying,

685
00:48:11.320 --> 00:48:12.679
Like like I was the guy you want then to

686
00:48:12.719 --> 00:48:16.159
go outside, walk to the car or whatever. But I

687
00:48:16.159 --> 00:48:18.920
didn't notice that there's like like the other injury popped up,

688
00:48:19.280 --> 00:48:22.079
you know, what I'm saying, like like.

689
00:48:22.320 --> 00:48:36.760
The like, uh he froze. Okay, she's gone, he froze.

690
00:48:38.199 --> 00:48:42.199
Lady g she disappeared. She didn't pay her WiFi bill,

691
00:48:43.719 --> 00:48:49.199
so that leavest me for now. Oh he's back. Yeah,

692
00:48:49.199 --> 00:49:03.400
you're frozen. This is ridiculous. Yeah anyway, so oh okay,

693
00:49:04.719 --> 00:49:08.920
people keep we have a room, a separate room where

694
00:49:08.760 --> 00:49:11.440
the co hosts and stuff popping and out and I

695
00:49:11.519 --> 00:49:16.159
have to let them in. You're good now, yeah.

696
00:49:16.000 --> 00:49:16.599
Man, I'm good?

697
00:49:16.639 --> 00:49:16.800
Bro?

698
00:49:17.960 --> 00:49:18.559
What's call it?

699
00:49:19.119 --> 00:49:19.519
Like?

700
00:49:19.519 --> 00:49:20.199
Like you know what?

701
00:49:20.320 --> 00:49:24.239
So I had the Wi fi connected and like for

702
00:49:24.280 --> 00:49:26.480
some reason, like the more the more, like you know,

703
00:49:26.800 --> 00:49:27.679
like you know.

704
00:49:27.599 --> 00:49:28.480
How Wi fi are?

705
00:49:29.480 --> 00:49:30.119
Yeah, what's up?

706
00:49:30.159 --> 00:49:31.039
Guys? What's going on?

707
00:49:33.559 --> 00:49:36.679
Yeah? So we're talking about, you know what, the fun

708
00:49:36.800 --> 00:49:38.559
we're talking about you in the room the whole damn time.

709
00:49:38.559 --> 00:49:39.880
You know, we were talking about.

710
00:49:39.880 --> 00:49:42.639
Of course of course you know like of course I

711
00:49:42.639 --> 00:49:44.039
did you know what I mean?

712
00:49:44.119 --> 00:49:46.639
Like, so, what's your what's your take on it? What

713
00:49:46.679 --> 00:49:49.519
do you what do you think about people doing background

714
00:49:49.639 --> 00:49:52.480
checks on people? And like I mean, look.

715
00:49:52.599 --> 00:49:54.400
I mean look, you know what, I've got nothing to odd.

716
00:49:54.440 --> 00:49:56.039
So you know what, before you do the background check,

717
00:49:56.039 --> 00:49:59.559
I'll tell you about it myself, right, like I have

718
00:49:59.679 --> 00:50:01.400
nothing hid, you know what I'm saying. And besides that,

719
00:50:01.440 --> 00:50:03.039
you google my name, you're gonna, you know what I'm saying,

720
00:50:03.039 --> 00:50:04.519
You're gonna find some ship.

721
00:50:05.880 --> 00:50:07.719
But let me tell you the story first.

722
00:50:07.480 --> 00:50:09.920
Before you go google the name. Though, give me, yo,

723
00:50:09.960 --> 00:50:11.920
you know what, Give me that grace period. You know

724
00:50:11.960 --> 00:50:13.519
what I'm saying, because like, all right.

725
00:50:13.440 --> 00:50:15.760
So you think you think a grace period should be given?

726
00:50:16.559 --> 00:50:17.960
Yeah, you know what I'm saying, Like, if a grace

727
00:50:17.960 --> 00:50:20.400
period is not given, then then you know what I'm saying, Like,

728
00:50:21.079 --> 00:50:22.079
I don't means you know what I'm saying.

729
00:50:22.119 --> 00:50:22.360
Run that.

730
00:50:22.400 --> 00:50:26.280
You know what I'm saying. Run the name, you know, like,

731
00:50:29.199 --> 00:50:36.679
but I can't. I got nothing to hide at all. Right, Okay, yo,

732
00:50:36.800 --> 00:50:38.639
how is it? How is it dawn there at June

733
00:50:39.119 --> 00:50:40.760
and it's fifty degrees?

734
00:50:41.840 --> 00:50:47.000
Yeah it happens like that makes Yeah?

735
00:50:47.039 --> 00:50:47.480
You know what else?

736
00:50:47.519 --> 00:50:48.960
You gotta make sense? You know what it's gotta be

737
00:50:49.000 --> 00:50:52.599
made sense of? What's up? Do you know that an

738
00:50:52.599 --> 00:50:56.719
egg is still fried chicken? Make it makes sense?

739
00:50:58.079 --> 00:51:00.239
Also eggs is an aboard defeating.

740
00:51:03.199 --> 00:51:05.559
I don't know what to tell you, but fried chicken

741
00:51:05.920 --> 00:51:08.480
and agis still fried chicken.

742
00:51:11.280 --> 00:51:13.639
Like like, yo, you know what, a woman, A woman

743
00:51:13.639 --> 00:51:15.639
probably invented fro chicken because like she was like too

744
00:51:15.719 --> 00:51:17.199
lazy to be freed in the Roman soldiers.

745
00:51:17.519 --> 00:51:19.440
She's just gonna dip this bitch and oil.

746
00:51:20.079 --> 00:51:23.639
You're all weird. Back to my car in the rain,

747
00:51:24.599 --> 00:51:27.440
I just passed the frog you pass?

748
00:51:27.639 --> 00:51:29.280
Yo? What the fuck are they doing to the cokies

749
00:51:29.320 --> 00:51:29.960
and Puerto Rico?

750
00:51:30.039 --> 00:51:30.199
Yo?

751
00:51:30.800 --> 00:51:31.480
What happened?

752
00:51:32.159 --> 00:51:36.400
Yo? I heard that there there's a bunch of people

753
00:51:36.440 --> 00:51:39.079
coming to visit or people buying properties out there there.

754
00:51:39.599 --> 00:51:45.599
They're they're they're spraying the cookies man with pesticides and

755
00:51:45.599 --> 00:51:46.480
ship killing them.

756
00:51:46.559 --> 00:51:49.519
Yeah, that should be irregal.

757
00:51:51.119 --> 00:51:52.400
You know, the colonizers.

758
00:51:53.239 --> 00:51:56.039
Yeah, that's crazy. When I heard that show at those

759
00:51:56.039 --> 00:51:59.960
fucking frogs along without those frogs, they ain't Puerto Rico exactly.

760
00:52:00.880 --> 00:52:02.519
How the hell are you gonna try and kill then

761
00:52:02.519 --> 00:52:07.599
indigenous animal? That's crazy? Anyway. Did you hear about the

762
00:52:07.639 --> 00:52:09.800
ship going on down the seaside over the weekend?

763
00:52:10.800 --> 00:52:11.239
No? What?

764
00:52:12.280 --> 00:52:12.519
Yeah?

765
00:52:12.679 --> 00:52:16.239
There was like twelve stabbings and somebody got shot and

766
00:52:16.280 --> 00:52:18.360
they were thirty something dudes.

767
00:52:18.559 --> 00:52:23.440
Like, yo, you know what, nobody got shot? You know

768
00:52:23.440 --> 00:52:24.800
what I'm saying? Like that was this room when someone

769
00:52:24.840 --> 00:52:29.079
got stabbed. But I mean, yo, but but but hold

770
00:52:29.159 --> 00:52:31.000
up though, you know what I'm saying, because like to me,

771
00:52:31.039 --> 00:52:34.199
it's like like we've seen the same ship when we

772
00:52:34.199 --> 00:52:35.559
were down there. You know what I'm saying, the same

773
00:52:35.639 --> 00:52:37.079
thing when we were down there. You know what I'm

774
00:52:37.079 --> 00:52:39.480
saying the whole time. It's just that we wasn't We

775
00:52:39.519 --> 00:52:39.840
wasn't on.

776
00:52:39.880 --> 00:52:41.199
You know what I'm saying. We wasn't on that time.

777
00:52:41.199 --> 00:52:44.199
And then like you know when we.

778
00:52:44.480 --> 00:52:47.239
When we when we went down there, we went down

779
00:52:47.280 --> 00:52:48.679
there the chill. We didn't go auf there a while

780
00:52:48.679 --> 00:52:50.280
hout and act the fucking fool though.

781
00:52:51.159 --> 00:52:55.559
Because yo, another thing too, because because yo, you know what, yo,

782
00:52:55.599 --> 00:52:57.519
you know what we knew that, you know what I'm saying,

783
00:52:58.679 --> 00:53:00.440
Like like you know what I'm saying, like the the

784
00:53:00.480 --> 00:53:03.360
history of that area, you know what I'm saying. Like

785
00:53:03.480 --> 00:53:07.159
first off, we went down there when bail was a thing.

786
00:53:07.280 --> 00:53:08.519
You know what I'm saying, Where like if you got

787
00:53:08.519 --> 00:53:10.400
locked up on the more day weekend, you ain't seen

788
00:53:10.400 --> 00:53:12.320
the judge on Tuesday. So we had that ship in

789
00:53:12.360 --> 00:53:14.599
month for a long time ago. And then like you know,

790
00:53:15.039 --> 00:53:18.000
Barnagat is not too far from seaside and Barnagat.

791
00:53:18.039 --> 00:53:20.920
You know what I'm saying was a KKK stronghold back

792
00:53:20.960 --> 00:53:27.119
in the day. So but yo, that's what it was.

793
00:53:27.280 --> 00:53:29.239
You know what I'm saying, that's mentality I went down

794
00:53:29.280 --> 00:53:29.480
there with.

795
00:53:29.800 --> 00:53:31.679
So I stood the funk out out the way man,

796
00:53:32.360 --> 00:53:34.199
you know, like, because Yo, you know what the last

797
00:53:34.239 --> 00:53:36.119
thing I wanted to be locked up is. I want

798
00:53:36.159 --> 00:53:37.440
the last thing I want to do is be locked

799
00:53:37.480 --> 00:53:38.239
up in Ocean County.

800
00:53:39.599 --> 00:53:42.920
Yeah, that is true to this email.

801
00:53:43.199 --> 00:53:46.760
Oh this email. Oh man, all right, check this ship out.

802
00:53:47.159 --> 00:53:48.679
You know what, I might have to turn the light

803
00:53:48.719 --> 00:53:50.920
on for this one because I can't see the print.

804
00:53:51.400 --> 00:53:51.760
Hold on.

805
00:53:53.119 --> 00:53:55.280
All our eyes are like a mess.

806
00:53:55.519 --> 00:53:59.639
All right, here we here we go. All right. So

807
00:54:01.400 --> 00:54:05.599
I've been seeing this woman for the past couple of months.

808
00:54:07.119 --> 00:54:17.119
From the beginning, there was crazy chemistry between us, intellectually, emotionally, physically.

809
00:54:19.039 --> 00:54:24.400
What are you doing? All right, chill out, Okay.

810
00:54:26.119 --> 00:54:29.880
I'll switch I'll switch it to the other one. All right, yeah, man,

811
00:54:29.920 --> 00:54:33.800
like it was too high, okay.

812
00:54:33.159 --> 00:54:36.480
All right. So intellectually, emotionally, physically we had a long

813
00:54:36.800 --> 00:54:40.119
we have we had We've had long, honest talks about

814
00:54:40.159 --> 00:54:45.079
everything from childhood trauma to our weirdest dreams, and yeah,

815
00:54:45.239 --> 00:54:49.960
we've slept together more than once. And it wasn't and

816
00:54:50.000 --> 00:54:55.880
it wasn't just sex. It just it felt real. We connect.

817
00:54:55.880 --> 00:55:00.639
We connected, at least at least I at least I

818
00:55:00.719 --> 00:55:04.480
felt we did. I was starting to think this can

819
00:55:04.559 --> 00:55:08.880
actually become something serious. But then she set me down

820
00:55:08.960 --> 00:55:15.440
and told me she's polyamorous. She wasn't weird about it. Actually,

821
00:55:15.840 --> 00:55:19.519
she was super respectful and upfront. She told me she's

822
00:55:19.559 --> 00:55:24.719
always she's always been this way, that she believed love

823
00:55:25.039 --> 00:55:30.880
and connection shouldn't be confined to just one person. She

824
00:55:31.159 --> 00:55:34.079
even mentioned that she's still seeing a couple of these people,

825
00:55:35.599 --> 00:55:39.000
though she said she's really those She said she's really

826
00:55:39.039 --> 00:55:44.079
into me, And now I'm stuck. I'm not naive. I

827
00:55:44.119 --> 00:55:48.239
know relationships can look kind of weird these days, but

828
00:55:48.360 --> 00:55:52.599
this is new territory for me. I've always believed in monogamy,

829
00:55:53.639 --> 00:55:57.760
that and two people against the world kind of love.

830
00:55:58.880 --> 00:56:00.559
That's the kind of love I'm looking for, the two

831
00:56:00.599 --> 00:56:03.679
people against the world. I don't know if I'm just

832
00:56:03.800 --> 00:56:08.719
being closed minded, or if I'm compromising something in my

833
00:56:08.920 --> 00:56:14.000
core to who I am by trying to adjust the

834
00:56:14.079 --> 00:56:17.599
sex is great, the connection is real, but I don't

835
00:56:17.639 --> 00:56:22.000
know if I can share, and definitely don't want to

836
00:56:22.079 --> 00:56:25.960
pretend it's okay. I just don't want to pretend I'm

837
00:56:26.000 --> 00:56:28.519
okay with it and just keep just to keep her around.

838
00:56:29.599 --> 00:56:33.280
So here's the question. Has anyone ever fallen for someone

839
00:56:33.280 --> 00:56:38.280
who's polyamorous when you're wired to monogamy? How do you

840
00:56:38.400 --> 00:56:43.320
handle the jealousy, the insecurity, or even just a confusion.

841
00:56:44.199 --> 00:56:47.199
I'm trying to be open minded, but I also don't

842
00:56:47.199 --> 00:56:50.159
want to lie to myself just because I'm scared to

843
00:56:50.239 --> 00:56:53.480
lose her. How do you know if this kind of

844
00:56:53.519 --> 00:56:56.639
relationship is something you can grow into or if you're

845
00:56:56.800 --> 00:56:57.880
just not built for it?

846
00:56:59.239 --> 00:57:10.679
All right, that's beautiful, great question. Let's unpack in what

847
00:57:10.840 --> 00:57:14.840
he was saying already. He is uncomfortable with it, like

848
00:57:15.440 --> 00:57:19.239
he would much prefer He wants a bonnie and clad situation, right,

849
00:57:19.280 --> 00:57:22.599
He wants his ride or dies. What he's saying, me

850
00:57:22.719 --> 00:57:26.119
and her against the world type thing. But you're not

851
00:57:26.159 --> 00:57:32.719
going to get that with a poly person. So if

852
00:57:32.800 --> 00:57:41.000
you want to give it a try, then communication needs

853
00:57:41.000 --> 00:57:51.039
to be very open and honest. And and and I

854
00:57:51.079 --> 00:57:56.199
would say to him, like the jealousy is is natural,

855
00:57:56.639 --> 00:58:01.119
like it's natural to be jealous of someone of someone

856
00:58:01.119 --> 00:58:05.280
else or or just someone else getting the time with

857
00:58:05.599 --> 00:58:12.760
your person. But it takes a big level of trust

858
00:58:13.079 --> 00:58:20.599
and love for someone to be okay, because in a

859
00:58:20.679 --> 00:58:23.280
poly love, you know at the end of the day,

860
00:58:23.320 --> 00:58:29.159
that person is coming back to you, right like it will,

861
00:58:29.280 --> 00:58:35.239
it'll it's always going to be between you and and

862
00:58:35.280 --> 00:58:38.360
that person. But it also like it all depends because

863
00:58:38.400 --> 00:58:41.719
there's different ways of doing things. People do things differently, right,

864
00:58:42.519 --> 00:58:48.480
maybe she, you know, she is somebody who wants a husband,

865
00:58:48.519 --> 00:58:50.920
but she wants to have other partners. Maybe she wants

866
00:58:51.000 --> 00:58:54.679
him to have other partners, like it really all depends.

867
00:58:54.880 --> 00:58:59.000
But if he wants that kind of love between two people,

868
00:58:59.159 --> 00:59:01.960
like I'm gonna tell you right now, this isn't for everybody,

869
00:59:02.400 --> 00:59:06.920
it really is it. It takes a lot of understanding

870
00:59:07.119 --> 00:59:11.800
and patience and trust, and if you don't have that

871
00:59:13.599 --> 00:59:20.440
then it's doomed. So I don't think that he should

872
00:59:20.480 --> 00:59:26.239
pursue something with her because I feel like he wants more,

873
00:59:26.920 --> 00:59:30.039
And I don't think you should go into something hoping

874
00:59:30.079 --> 00:59:33.880
someone will change. So you need to accept someone for

875
00:59:33.960 --> 00:59:36.760
who they are. If you can't accept for who she is,

876
00:59:37.360 --> 00:59:41.159
how she is. Then you know, even though you had

877
00:59:41.159 --> 00:59:45.880
a connection and everything was great, that's great, but it's

878
00:59:45.960 --> 00:59:50.719
surface level at this point, and the real deal is greater,

879
00:59:51.039 --> 00:59:58.639
bigger than he was expecting. And it seems like, you know,

880
00:59:58.760 --> 01:00:02.599
maybe he can't handle it. That's totally okay. Like, like

881
01:00:02.639 --> 01:00:05.599
I said, this ship ain't for everybody. It really isn't.

882
01:00:07.400 --> 01:00:10.000
I'm just reading the comments so well, you cannot change

883
01:00:10.039 --> 01:00:12.480
who you are, what you believe in. If you continue

884
01:00:12.960 --> 01:00:16.039
with her, then you and all her other planmates are

885
01:00:16.039 --> 01:00:18.760
going to end up together. Let yourself more and stay

886
01:00:18.760 --> 01:00:22.320
true to your beliefs. Those insecurity are not gonna go away.

887
01:00:22.599 --> 01:00:25.559
You give yourself time and see how you feel.

888
01:00:26.360 --> 01:00:28.679
He really sounded like he was really gonna sacrifice his

889
01:00:28.760 --> 01:00:30.639
morals for a piece of ass.

890
01:00:31.559 --> 01:00:33.639
Say that it's not a piece of ass for me.

891
01:00:33.800 --> 01:00:35.440
That very clear that it isn't.

892
01:00:36.400 --> 01:00:37.079
But that's the whole.

893
01:00:37.159 --> 01:00:39.679
But at the end of the day, I mean, I mean,

894
01:00:39.719 --> 01:00:41.440
all right, you know what from you know what I'm saying,

895
01:00:41.719 --> 01:00:44.159
I'm gona speak a little you know, niggers if you will.

896
01:00:45.440 --> 01:00:46.920
Yeah, I'm gonna let my girl cup, you know what

897
01:00:46.920 --> 01:00:48.719
I'm saying, go out. You know what I'm saying. Get

898
01:00:48.760 --> 01:00:50.639
you know what I'm saying. Get you know what I'm saying,

899
01:00:50.719 --> 01:00:52.760
Join a game, bang and come home and be like, hey, babe,

900
01:00:52.760 --> 01:00:53.320
how's your day.

901
01:00:53.400 --> 01:00:56.920
That's not what it is? Not bro, No, that's not

902
01:00:56.960 --> 01:01:00.960
what I No, that's not not gang.

903
01:01:02.400 --> 01:01:05.159
Hold hold up, hold a hold up, yo, I just

904
01:01:05.199 --> 01:01:06.079
have to let that round off.

905
01:01:06.320 --> 01:01:07.760
But you know what I'm saying, just to be ignorant,

906
01:01:07.800 --> 01:01:09.880
you know, I mean seriously, though, you know what I'm saying, Like,

907
01:01:10.800 --> 01:01:12.480
if this man is.

908
01:01:12.480 --> 01:01:13.599
You know what I'm saying, like, Yo, you know what

909
01:01:13.679 --> 01:01:15.159
he sounds like, he's morally conflicted.

910
01:01:15.639 --> 01:01:18.840
You know what I'm saying, Like if it's morals, ain't

911
01:01:18.840 --> 01:01:19.920
you know what I'm saying, If he has you know

912
01:01:19.960 --> 01:01:21.840
what I'm saying, if it's morals, is not built on

913
01:01:22.039 --> 01:01:25.639
that part where like you know what I'm saying, like, yeah,

914
01:01:25.679 --> 01:01:29.280
you know what, you know, I'm willing to give it

915
01:01:29.320 --> 01:01:31.559
a try, but like you already know that you're gonna

916
01:01:31.599 --> 01:01:33.480
be jealous and all that stuff. Don't even don't even

917
01:01:33.480 --> 01:01:35.760
bother man, because like you know what I'm saying, Like

918
01:01:37.639 --> 01:01:38.840
you're gonna do you know what I'm saying, You're gonna

919
01:01:38.880 --> 01:01:40.000
drive yourself crazy doing it.

920
01:01:40.119 --> 01:01:42.960
I don't think it's a moral's thing. He's open to

921
01:01:43.639 --> 01:01:49.079
her life and understanding it. I just think that when

922
01:01:49.280 --> 01:01:52.400
but when you want something, if you want a certain

923
01:01:52.480 --> 01:01:55.840
kind of relationship and that's what you're seeking, then that's

924
01:01:55.840 --> 01:01:59.719
what you should do. But if if he's if this

925
01:01:59.800 --> 01:02:02.119
girl means that much to him that he wants to

926
01:02:02.159 --> 01:02:05.679
give this a try, then have a conversation with her first,

927
01:02:05.760 --> 01:02:09.280
see what that is like, what what does her ship

928
01:02:09.599 --> 01:02:13.880
entail like? Who is she seeing? And what what is like?

929
01:02:14.039 --> 01:02:16.559
How does she see the future? What is it that

930
01:02:16.599 --> 01:02:19.920
she wants? You know? And if her answers are not

931
01:02:19.960 --> 01:02:22.320
equating with anything that you can align to or be

932
01:02:22.400 --> 01:02:27.000
okay with, then there's your answer, like it's and it's okay,

933
01:02:27.239 --> 01:02:31.079
Like it's unfortunate that you made a connection with this person,

934
01:02:31.840 --> 01:02:34.400
but they're not your person.

935
01:02:36.519 --> 01:02:38.760
Wait wait hold wait wait wait wait wait.

936
01:02:38.840 --> 01:02:42.079
I just thought about something right now, right because I've

937
01:02:42.119 --> 01:02:44.199
done a plenty of times. I was a I was

938
01:02:44.239 --> 01:02:46.639
in multiple partly you know what I'm saying, relationships. It's

939
01:02:46.639 --> 01:02:47.840
just that my partner didn't know it.

940
01:02:48.239 --> 01:02:51.400
No, that's not the same ship. Okay, there's a level

941
01:02:51.480 --> 01:02:58.360
of trust and respect and a relationship, cheating, there's.

942
01:02:58.559 --> 01:03:01.199
Cheating on their know what I'm saying back then, you

943
01:03:01.239 --> 01:03:04.599
know what I'm saying, Like, yo, you you know what

944
01:03:05.400 --> 01:03:08.360
I mean? I mean, you know what if you want

945
01:03:08.440 --> 01:03:09.000
to make it.

946
01:03:09.199 --> 01:03:11.719
Down to that you were just being a player and

947
01:03:11.800 --> 01:03:13.880
they didn't know about each other, that's different.

948
01:03:14.679 --> 01:03:16.960
Yeoh, you know, like I'm just saying, you know, like

949
01:03:17.079 --> 01:03:18.280
I was like, wait, wait a minute, you know what,

950
01:03:18.880 --> 01:03:21.000
but but but but tg.

951
01:03:21.039 --> 01:03:23.679
Don't you think? Hold on, dumbs, Hold on a second,

952
01:03:24.199 --> 01:03:26.880
don't you think. Don't you think because he said that

953
01:03:27.000 --> 01:03:28.960
they've been seeing each other for a couple of months,

954
01:03:29.559 --> 01:03:31.880
do you think this is something she should have explained

955
01:03:31.920 --> 01:03:32.800
to him prior.

956
01:03:33.760 --> 01:03:33.800
No?

957
01:03:34.719 --> 01:03:38.400
No, no, because it's a couple of can mean different things.

958
01:03:38.519 --> 01:03:40.159
What if they saw each other once a week? What

959
01:03:40.280 --> 01:03:42.800
if they you know, are they talking on the phone?

960
01:03:42.960 --> 01:03:46.119
How serious is it? In two months? It could just

961
01:03:46.280 --> 01:03:48.280
be like I see you here and there and talk

962
01:03:48.360 --> 01:03:50.599
to you and stuff like, you don't know the extent

963
01:03:50.880 --> 01:03:55.119
of the relationship. Two months doesn't mean ship. In two months,

964
01:03:56.079 --> 01:03:58.559
you better not be telling yourself you love someone, okay,

965
01:03:58.880 --> 01:04:03.400
because no, you need to really get to know somebody,

966
01:04:03.559 --> 01:04:05.800
and in two months you don't really know that person.

967
01:04:09.800 --> 01:04:11.760
She said, the past couple of months. Yeah, I don't

968
01:04:11.760 --> 01:04:13.880
know how many how many months has been.

969
01:04:14.039 --> 01:04:18.519
A couple of months. It's it's it's new. It's obviously

970
01:04:18.639 --> 01:04:23.039
a new thing because they're kind of contemplating, so it's

971
01:04:23.159 --> 01:04:26.800
new and it's new for them. But I wish them luck,

972
01:04:26.920 --> 01:04:30.800
like if they want to pursue that, Like you want

973
01:04:30.840 --> 01:04:33.440
to try to be open and be open, but you

974
01:04:33.519 --> 01:04:36.000
know you're going to need to understand what it entails

975
01:04:36.159 --> 01:04:36.960
and what it is.

976
01:04:38.239 --> 01:04:45.159
Yeah, communication, understanding, transparency, all that shit needs to come

977
01:04:45.199 --> 01:04:45.800
into play.

978
01:04:46.280 --> 01:04:48.079
Right, I mean, this should be in all relationships.

979
01:04:48.159 --> 01:04:51.079
But you know, when it's absolutely.

980
01:04:51.280 --> 01:04:53.800
Something like this, I mean, it really has to be

981
01:04:54.039 --> 01:04:58.079
very open and you just there can't be hiding in

982
01:04:58.199 --> 01:05:00.840
lying because then it be come something else.

983
01:05:01.719 --> 01:05:06.199
Right, Absolutely, absolutely, And I think and I think also

984
01:05:08.480 --> 01:05:14.239
dealing with a relationship like that, I think you have

985
01:05:14.440 --> 01:05:19.320
to be able to understand what another's needs and wants

986
01:05:20.199 --> 01:05:25.440
and how the inner workings of the way she deals

987
01:05:25.480 --> 01:05:28.039
with it is. Because apparently she's the one with the

988
01:05:28.159 --> 01:05:31.840
multiple multiple dudes, you know what I'm saying. I don't

989
01:05:31.880 --> 01:05:37.079
know if the other dudes that she's with, it could

990
01:05:37.119 --> 01:05:40.440
it could be, it could be one whole fucking ship

991
01:05:40.519 --> 01:05:43.079
show over there. I don't know what you know, what

992
01:05:43.119 --> 01:05:44.679
I'm saying, it could be. It could be one whole

993
01:05:44.719 --> 01:05:53.840
big fucking exactly, you know, fucking fucking fuzzy walls and fucking.

994
01:05:54.239 --> 01:05:58.559
I mean, they're women who have two boyfriends. They live

995
01:05:58.639 --> 01:06:04.880
in the house together, like you know, sometimes they sleep

996
01:06:04.920 --> 01:06:07.599
with just one in the same in the bed or whatever,

997
01:06:08.559 --> 01:06:11.519
and they'll fuck the other person sometimes or whatever.

998
01:06:11.800 --> 01:06:11.840
Like.

999
01:06:13.000 --> 01:06:17.559
But again, these three people are agreeing to this, and again,

1000
01:06:18.760 --> 01:06:23.679
these people are fulfilling specific needs for each other. That's

1001
01:06:23.800 --> 01:06:25.639
why it makes sense.

1002
01:06:25.480 --> 01:06:28.119
For them, right, And he has to understand.

1003
01:06:32.639 --> 01:06:35.760
What all that should have been discussed from day one.

1004
01:06:39.000 --> 01:06:41.000
I mean, I don't know, I don't know the extent

1005
01:06:41.400 --> 01:06:47.280
of the conversation. I don't know if he like it

1006
01:06:47.360 --> 01:06:50.079
could have been like a hooking up thing for all

1007
01:06:50.159 --> 01:06:53.559
we know, and you know, he got to know her

1008
01:06:53.639 --> 01:06:56.400
more and more and in the process. Again, I don't

1009
01:06:56.440 --> 01:06:58.239
think two months is a lot of time. I feel

1010
01:06:58.239 --> 01:07:03.159
like people are like looking at this, like, again, we

1011
01:07:03.280 --> 01:07:09.400
don't know the extent of the relationship, and I don't

1012
01:07:09.519 --> 01:07:11.719
I don't know. I don't know many people who are

1013
01:07:11.840 --> 01:07:15.039
like dating every fucking day, see each other every day

1014
01:07:15.480 --> 01:07:18.559
or like you know, multiple times a week or whatever.

1015
01:07:18.719 --> 01:07:20.880
Like people have jobs, people have shit going on.

1016
01:07:23.440 --> 01:07:29.639
But yeah, yeah, I mean and me personally, you know,

1017
01:07:29.880 --> 01:07:35.239
I can't do that shit, you.

1018
01:07:35.280 --> 01:07:38.679
Know to jel you know what, Yeah, you know what,

1019
01:07:38.760 --> 01:07:39.320
I can't do it.

1020
01:07:39.320 --> 01:07:40.840
You know what I'm saying, Like, because believe it or not,

1021
01:07:41.480 --> 01:07:44.159
I got to draw the line somewhere, you know what

1022
01:07:44.159 --> 01:07:46.280
I'm saying, Like my morals will take over man, Like

1023
01:07:47.159 --> 01:07:49.599
like yo, you know what I mean Now, probably back then,

1024
01:07:49.760 --> 01:07:51.599
like twenty years ago, I wouldn't give a shit out,

1025
01:07:51.599 --> 01:07:54.159
but like gay, you know what, let's go to a

1026
01:07:54.239 --> 01:07:54.800
party together.

1027
01:07:54.880 --> 01:07:56.480
But now it's like different, you know what I'm saying,

1028
01:07:56.559 --> 01:08:03.320
Like like you know, like what the hell I mean?

1029
01:08:05.280 --> 01:08:08.400
Yeah? So you really you really, you really gotta and

1030
01:08:08.639 --> 01:08:10.199
and there's a lot a lot of things that that

1031
01:08:10.719 --> 01:08:13.719
a lot of the inner workings of this type of relationship. Man,

1032
01:08:13.800 --> 01:08:17.359
you know, I mean, you have to be able to

1033
01:08:18.399 --> 01:08:20.840
to be open. You gotta be able to be like listen, babe,

1034
01:08:20.880 --> 01:08:23.239
I'm gonna go spend the night in John's house. I'm

1035
01:08:23.279 --> 01:08:24.840
not gonna spend it with you tonight. I'm going to

1036
01:08:24.880 --> 01:08:27.800
go with the John's crib and then Thursday, I'll be

1037
01:08:27.880 --> 01:08:31.960
over at Mike's crib and then I'll come by your

1038
01:08:32.039 --> 01:08:32.760
house Saturday.

1039
01:08:33.800 --> 01:08:34.439
You know what I mean.

1040
01:08:35.000 --> 01:08:37.880
Schedule and this is where you fit in this schedule.

1041
01:08:38.319 --> 01:08:41.680
Yeah, that that's I can't that that wouldn't be me. Now,

1042
01:08:42.319 --> 01:08:45.399
that would not be me. I am not part. I

1043
01:08:45.479 --> 01:08:48.960
will never be part of a poly program, especially a

1044
01:08:49.039 --> 01:08:51.399
poly schedule. That's not it's not it.

1045
01:08:51.800 --> 01:08:52.079
I don't know.

1046
01:08:52.479 --> 01:08:55.159
I can't because I tell you something right now, you

1047
01:08:55.239 --> 01:08:57.159
will have to run a background check on me if

1048
01:08:57.199 --> 01:08:59.640
you ever me in that kind of situation. You know

1049
01:08:59.680 --> 01:09:02.319
what I'm saying, that's what the background background check.

1050
01:09:02.520 --> 01:09:04.960
We only need background checks, you know what I'm.

1051
01:09:06.439 --> 01:09:08.520
Word because that that would that would not be me

1052
01:09:08.680 --> 01:09:09.560
man some something.

1053
01:09:10.520 --> 01:09:13.640
Yeah, that's just you know what I'm saying, like like

1054
01:09:13.720 --> 01:09:16.479
you know what personally, like I can't do.

1055
01:09:16.560 --> 01:09:21.039
That, you know, like because because because like me personally,

1056
01:09:21.600 --> 01:09:24.880
like if you try and if I knew, if I

1057
01:09:25.119 --> 01:09:28.640
knew that the woman I was seeing I cared about

1058
01:09:28.680 --> 01:09:31.640
and then it was with some other dude on Thursday

1059
01:09:31.720 --> 01:09:34.479
and then another dude Saturday. But I'm waiting to Sunday

1060
01:09:34.520 --> 01:09:37.159
to see her. I would be fucking bouncing off the

1061
01:09:37.239 --> 01:09:40.399
fucking walls. I'll be bouncing off. Ivy would be like,

1062
01:09:40.479 --> 01:09:42.680
what the fuck is going on with this motherfucker?

1063
01:09:42.720 --> 01:09:42.880
Man?

1064
01:09:43.319 --> 01:09:45.920
I mean i'd be I'd be bugging the fuck out, Yo,

1065
01:09:47.239 --> 01:09:48.640
I'd be bugging the fucking.

1066
01:09:50.840 --> 01:09:52.520
Excuse me real quick, you guys, hear that noise?

1067
01:09:54.039 --> 01:09:54.359
Noise?

1068
01:09:54.640 --> 01:09:58.800
I don't hear nothing, all right, but sounds like a horner.

1069
01:09:58.600 --> 01:10:00.640
Like a car horn is going off, right, I'm like,

1070
01:10:01.760 --> 01:10:03.560
that's what I'm looking around. I'm like, just because you know,

1071
01:10:03.600 --> 01:10:09.439
I'm in the park and stud and like, all right,

1072
01:10:09.520 --> 01:10:10.680
there's a car all right, never mind?

1073
01:10:11.880 --> 01:10:16.319
Yeah, yeah, but I don't. I can't. I can't do it. Man,

1074
01:10:17.399 --> 01:10:19.199
if you're not, if you're not going to be, if

1075
01:10:19.199 --> 01:10:26.359
you're not going to be Bonnie to my Clyde, I don't.

1076
01:10:26.399 --> 01:10:26.920
I don't want it.

1077
01:10:28.039 --> 01:10:28.960
I don't want it.

1078
01:10:29.880 --> 01:10:30.520
I don't want it.

1079
01:10:31.039 --> 01:10:31.960
I don't need it.

1080
01:10:33.119 --> 01:10:36.840
I don't need it either, you know what.

1081
01:10:36.920 --> 01:10:40.039
I just want to say, like, I don't know what

1082
01:10:40.119 --> 01:10:41.960
happened to Lady G but I hope you're okay.

1083
01:10:43.000 --> 01:10:45.760
And she was kind of she was kind of off today.

1084
01:10:45.840 --> 01:10:47.399
She was kind of off to that feel bad like

1085
01:10:49.840 --> 01:10:54.279
WiFi went off and the bill on time. I don't know,

1086
01:10:56.720 --> 01:11:00.279
I hope she's good. But anyway, yeah, that was that

1087
01:11:00.479 --> 01:11:04.399
was that was that was good. Yeah, it was a

1088
01:11:04.439 --> 01:11:09.279
good one. It wasn't It wasn't, you know, anything too crazy.

1089
01:11:10.359 --> 01:11:16.000
But yeah, that's that's that's how that's how it is.

1090
01:11:16.960 --> 01:11:19.760
I got so many emails I just had. I saw

1091
01:11:19.840 --> 01:11:24.880
this one and I was like, TG, I said, she'll

1092
01:11:24.920 --> 01:11:25.439
be able.

1093
01:11:25.319 --> 01:11:29.399
To I'm glad that when you see anything relating to Polly.

1094
01:11:29.199 --> 01:11:40.279
Relationships speaking answer that not an expert of any kind,

1095
01:11:40.399 --> 01:11:41.359
but yeah.

1096
01:11:42.600 --> 01:11:42.680
He.

1097
01:11:44.680 --> 01:11:50.199
Actually got the cross report. Oh yeah, so so what

1098
01:11:50.279 --> 01:11:55.920
do you call it? On the Doorsteck Parkway, Like May ninth,

1099
01:11:56.359 --> 01:11:59.319
I'm driving. Something told me not to take the parkway,

1100
01:11:59.600 --> 01:12:01.880
but I just wanted to go home because, like, you

1101
01:12:01.920 --> 01:12:03.640
know what I'm saying, Like I wanted you know what

1102
01:12:03.680 --> 01:12:05.399
I'm saying. I wanted to do the Walmart shopping.

1103
01:12:05.800 --> 01:12:07.199
You know, I wanted to feel like a man's man,

1104
01:12:07.199 --> 01:12:08.800
you know what I'm saying, despite the fact that you know,

1105
01:12:08.920 --> 01:12:11.159
like it's raining and I'm in pain and stuff. I

1106
01:12:11.239 --> 01:12:13.039
wanted to feel like, you know, I'm contributing this stuff

1107
01:12:13.079 --> 01:12:16.920
to the family. So I hit the parkway right and

1108
01:12:17.039 --> 01:12:18.479
something told me, it's like, you know what I'm saying,

1109
01:12:18.479 --> 01:12:20.680
I had like a real uneasy feeling. I'm telling my girl,

1110
01:12:20.720 --> 01:12:22.920
I'm like, yo, something telling me to get the whole

1111
01:12:22.960 --> 01:12:28.479
off the parkway man. You know, like so everything's bottlenecked,

1112
01:12:28.479 --> 01:12:30.600
you know what I'm saying. And like that uneasy feeling.

1113
01:12:30.359 --> 01:12:32.319
Didn't go away, and I'm like, you know what, I'm

1114
01:12:32.359 --> 01:12:34.920
gonna get off right here on on, you know what

1115
01:12:34.960 --> 01:12:36.359
I'm saying, in Bloomfield whatever.

1116
01:12:36.560 --> 01:12:38.520
And I just cut through and just hit twenty one,

1117
01:12:38.920 --> 01:12:42.560
no biggie. So I get to the lane I'm about

1118
01:12:42.560 --> 01:12:46.319
to exit, and all of a sudden, boom. I was like, shit,

1119
01:12:46.439 --> 01:12:49.079
I know it just didn't get hit. And it was

1120
01:12:49.119 --> 01:12:52.279
a yo, it was a pretty decent hit. I was like,

1121
01:12:53.119 --> 01:12:55.079
I was like, yo, I know, I just didn't get hit.

1122
01:12:55.199 --> 01:12:55.319
Man.

1123
01:12:55.720 --> 01:12:59.079
So like I pulled to the side or whatever, right

1124
01:13:00.359 --> 01:13:03.039
and I see another car pull over behind me. I

1125
01:13:03.199 --> 01:13:05.520
was like, no fucking way, man, Like I'm like, yo,

1126
01:13:06.359 --> 01:13:09.239
this this can't be happening, man, you know what I'm saying.

1127
01:13:09.359 --> 01:13:12.279
And mind you, like two days before that, I had

1128
01:13:12.319 --> 01:13:14.479
got the confirmation that my surgery is gonna be on

1129
01:13:14.560 --> 01:13:16.920
the twenty first, which was last week. So I was

1130
01:13:17.000 --> 01:13:20.000
like all happy, and then this happens, and I'm like,

1131
01:13:20.119 --> 01:13:24.079
of course this will happen, right, So I get out

1132
01:13:24.399 --> 01:13:26.439
and like my like my back is like you know

1133
01:13:26.439 --> 01:13:27.920
what I'm saying, Paul, you know what I'm saying, Like

1134
01:13:28.199 --> 01:13:29.960
you know, the driver's side of my stuff is like

1135
01:13:30.760 --> 01:13:32.079
like dented in, and you know what I'm saying, And

1136
01:13:32.720 --> 01:13:34.800
like some of us popped up and my trunk dropped,

1137
01:13:36.079 --> 01:13:37.239
and I'm here looking at the lady.

1138
01:13:37.279 --> 01:13:40.800
I'm like, you know what I'm saying. I was like, Yo,

1139
01:13:40.840 --> 01:13:42.720
what happened? You know what I'm saying? Like like first

1140
01:13:42.800 --> 01:13:45.199
I was mad, right, and in my mind, in my mind,

1141
01:13:45.239 --> 01:13:46.760
you know what I'm saying. I saw myself slapping the

1142
01:13:46.920 --> 01:13:49.920
dogs shit out her, right, but accidents happened.

1143
01:13:50.479 --> 01:13:52.319
So at first I was mad, but I was like

1144
01:13:52.520 --> 01:13:54.800
what happened? And she was like no, you know, like

1145
01:13:54.880 --> 01:13:57.560
go because because the person in front of me kept

1146
01:13:57.600 --> 01:13:57.880
on like.

1147
01:14:00.079 --> 01:14:02.479
Checking, bro, and.

1148
01:14:02.600 --> 01:14:05.359
Like mind we bottle necked. We are bottle neck on

1149
01:14:05.439 --> 01:14:06.239
the on the parkway.

1150
01:14:06.319 --> 01:14:06.399
Bro.

1151
01:14:07.119 --> 01:14:08.479
You know what I'm saying, Like it's three o'clock. You

1152
01:14:08.520 --> 01:14:10.840
know what I'm saying, like like three fifteen around there,

1153
01:14:11.199 --> 01:14:12.800
and you know what I'm saying, Like the parkways, like

1154
01:14:12.840 --> 01:14:14.800
you know what I'm saying, like jammed up, like from

1155
01:14:15.520 --> 01:14:17.920
from the exit to from the two eighty exit all

1156
01:14:17.960 --> 01:14:19.159
the way up to like you know what I'm saying,

1157
01:14:19.199 --> 01:14:20.840
like from East Arm to the two eighty that.

1158
01:14:20.960 --> 01:14:23.199
Part that's that the orange is always like.

1159
01:14:23.279 --> 01:14:26.359
That, yeah, always, and now and and yo, you know what,

1160
01:14:26.520 --> 01:14:28.680
and then like you know, you know, look at the time.

1161
01:14:28.720 --> 01:14:30.119
It's three o'clock on a Friday. Where you know what

1162
01:14:30.119 --> 01:14:37.279
I'm saying, teachers, everybody, Yeah, exactly. So you know, she

1163
01:14:37.439 --> 01:14:38.520
was telling me that, you know what I'm saying. She

1164
01:14:38.640 --> 01:14:40.279
was like, Yo, you know, I saw opening over here,

1165
01:14:40.359 --> 01:14:42.079
so I want to go. You guys were going then

1166
01:14:42.079 --> 01:14:43.920
all of a sudden you stopped it and it was

1167
01:14:43.960 --> 01:14:45.880
too late. I was yeah, because I got in front

1168
01:14:45.880 --> 01:14:49.239
of me stopped. So you know, like it was you

1169
01:14:49.279 --> 01:14:51.039
know what I'm saying, Like it wasn't her fault. You know, well,

1170
01:14:51.279 --> 01:14:54.359
I mean accidents happened, right, So I tried to back

1171
01:14:54.439 --> 01:14:56.800
up my car and lo and behold man, like the

1172
01:14:57.119 --> 01:15:01.439
impact must have my whole like backing up system, right,

1173
01:15:05.279 --> 01:15:11.119
you know, so, and ain't my car It's not me.

1174
01:15:14.359 --> 01:15:16.279
Back there from my fault, you know what I'm saying,

1175
01:15:16.319 --> 01:15:20.880
Like you know, autographs, nah, you know what I'm saying.

1176
01:15:21.159 --> 01:15:24.760
So like so like what happened was you know, you

1177
01:15:24.800 --> 01:15:26.119
know what I'm saying, she must have like my whole

1178
01:15:26.159 --> 01:15:28.560
parking system and stuff, right, and then like you know,

1179
01:15:29.920 --> 01:15:31.479
you know that that was like one thing, and then

1180
01:15:31.560 --> 01:15:32.800
like another thing was like you know what I mean,

1181
01:15:32.880 --> 01:15:36.880
Like my mom had like surgery, right, but she kept

1182
01:15:36.920 --> 01:15:41.479
on bleeding out right up until the point where like

1183
01:15:41.520 --> 01:15:43.239
she passed out in the bathroom and then we have

1184
01:15:43.319 --> 01:15:44.159
to rush into the hospital.

1185
01:15:44.239 --> 01:15:46.199
This is like all happened within the days of each other.

1186
01:15:47.399 --> 01:15:48.880
And then they had to keep it for a couple

1187
01:15:48.920 --> 01:15:52.159
of days because she lost a lot of blood. You know,

1188
01:15:52.239 --> 01:15:54.720
she takes blood in this and he told us all

1189
01:15:54.760 --> 01:15:58.800
that stuff, so you know, like she needed She ended

1190
01:15:58.880 --> 01:16:01.640
up getting a blood trans for you man like and

1191
01:16:01.760 --> 01:16:03.079
then like you know, we bring our home and she

1192
01:16:03.159 --> 01:16:06.319
couldn't walk, you know because like you know, her legs

1193
01:16:06.359 --> 01:16:09.279
and stuff. And then the final day we end up

1194
01:16:09.279 --> 01:16:11.000
taking her back to the hospital. I was like, yo, girl,

1195
01:16:11.479 --> 01:16:13.039
you know what I'm saying, Like, like yo, you know what,

1196
01:16:13.159 --> 01:16:15.000
talk about some mental health stuff. I'm like yo, and

1197
01:16:15.720 --> 01:16:17.399
I'm here like keeping this all in and stuff.

1198
01:16:17.399 --> 01:16:22.479
I'm like, bro, this is not it so for every

1199
01:16:22.520 --> 01:16:24.960
good thing that was happening, like three bad things were happening,

1200
01:16:26.039 --> 01:16:27.239
and I just like, you know what I'm saying, Like

1201
01:16:27.319 --> 01:16:29.000
onto mental health stuff. I'm like, yo, you know what,

1202
01:16:29.039 --> 01:16:31.199
I'm about to get surgery soon, and all this bullshit

1203
01:16:31.319 --> 01:16:31.720
is happening.

1204
01:16:32.119 --> 01:16:32.239
Right.

1205
01:16:33.680 --> 01:16:37.720
So the day of my surgery, right, I was gonna

1206
01:16:37.720 --> 01:16:39.199
have my son, you know what I'm saying, drive me.

1207
01:16:39.239 --> 01:16:40.359
But I was like, yo, you know what, I'm just

1208
01:16:40.359 --> 01:16:42.279
gonna give him. I'm saying, give him, give him a

1209
01:16:42.319 --> 01:16:43.119
rest time or whatever.

1210
01:16:44.279 --> 01:16:48.960
No, biggie, I go. You know, I go to surgery,

1211
01:16:49.000 --> 01:16:51.800
I'll wake up. I'm like, yeah, I'm ready to go home.

1212
01:16:52.119 --> 01:16:53.920
You know what I'm saying. Like I'm hungry. First off,

1213
01:16:53.960 --> 01:16:57.920
I'm hungry, you know what I mean. So I'm hungry.

1214
01:16:58.000 --> 01:17:01.239
I'm thirsty. So like I come outside and see my son,

1215
01:17:01.479 --> 01:17:06.680
my sons like I've gone to an occident. I'm I'm like, damn.

1216
01:17:07.119 --> 01:17:09.840
You know what I'm saying. I'm like, a yo, you

1217
01:17:09.880 --> 01:17:12.760
know what's try to go home. So we get in

1218
01:17:12.840 --> 01:17:15.239
this car and whatever he turns it on. We start,

1219
01:17:15.279 --> 01:17:18.359
like you know what I'm saying, not not we even

1220
01:17:18.479 --> 01:17:20.159
we ain't even pull out the freaking on park a

1221
01:17:20.199 --> 01:17:24.680
lot of the surgical center and I see smoke and

1222
01:17:24.720 --> 01:17:25.720
I smell the radiator.

1223
01:17:25.760 --> 01:17:29.760
I'm like, I'm in your mind. I'm still I'm high

1224
01:17:29.800 --> 01:17:33.520
as ship still before because like defending on the anesthesia.

1225
01:17:33.640 --> 01:17:35.439
But you know, I looked at them. I was like,

1226
01:17:35.920 --> 01:17:39.479
I'm like, bro, you cracked your radiator. Man. I was like, yo,

1227
01:17:39.520 --> 01:17:40.680
you know what, you got to pull this over.

1228
01:17:41.199 --> 01:17:43.600
So I'll call corleone because you know what I'm saying,

1229
01:17:43.640 --> 01:17:45.560
Like the surgical center was like right next to his house,

1230
01:17:46.319 --> 01:17:50.039
probably like three miles now, and I told him what happened,

1231
01:17:50.880 --> 01:17:53.680
so you know, you know, like a good brother, you

1232
01:17:53.720 --> 01:17:55.119
know what I'm saying, Like you know what, like a

1233
01:17:55.199 --> 01:17:55.600
good friend.

1234
01:17:55.640 --> 01:17:57.560
Like his name is State Farm, because like a good

1235
01:17:57.600 --> 01:17:58.560
front State Farm is there.

1236
01:17:59.039 --> 01:18:05.239
So so we ended up we ended up like trying

1237
01:18:05.279 --> 01:18:10.800
to trying to go and come, oh it's a fire alarms.

1238
01:18:12.720 --> 01:18:21.680
You comment on the screen, Bro, Yo, you know what

1239
01:18:22.479 --> 01:18:25.600
that's that's the hospital right there. We ended up taking

1240
01:18:25.680 --> 01:18:27.560
her back, you know what I'm saying, And it kept

1241
01:18:27.600 --> 01:18:31.399
her till and they kept her till what they was

1242
01:18:35.640 --> 01:18:39.039
that Saturday. No way, she came home that Monday. My fault.

1243
01:18:39.520 --> 01:18:41.079
She came home that Monday because like, you know what,

1244
01:18:41.239 --> 01:18:44.319
she started walking around, you know, she started walking around

1245
01:18:44.319 --> 01:18:44.960
and stuff.

1246
01:18:44.720 --> 01:18:46.720
So you know it was good, you know what I mean,

1247
01:18:46.840 --> 01:18:48.439
Like it was good. And then like.

1248
01:18:50.079 --> 01:18:51.880
That Tuesday past, of course I want to go visit

1249
01:18:51.960 --> 01:18:53.720
my mom. You know, like then I have to like

1250
01:18:53.800 --> 01:18:56.640
do things, you know, prep for the surgery. So once

1251
01:18:56.680 --> 01:18:58.079
they you know what I'm saying, once they came by,

1252
01:18:58.800 --> 01:19:01.680
and you know, I want to get surgery, and then

1253
01:19:01.720 --> 01:19:03.600
my son gets into an accident and then like you know,

1254
01:19:04.319 --> 01:19:06.039
fast forward to that. You know, like his car was

1255
01:19:06.159 --> 01:19:10.079
gonna make it so corleon't have to drive me home, right,

1256
01:19:10.560 --> 01:19:12.439
and I'm high as ship, you know what I'm saying.

1257
01:19:12.479 --> 01:19:16.880
Oh oh, and the bed frame, you know what I'm saying, busted,

1258
01:19:17.359 --> 01:19:19.880
you know what I'm saying. So I'm like, you know,

1259
01:19:20.000 --> 01:19:23.079
everything's happening, you know what I'm saying on that day,

1260
01:19:23.239 --> 01:19:26.119
right And the first thing in my mind I'm saying

1261
01:19:26.159 --> 01:19:29.399
to myself is, thank God the span all is working man,

1262
01:19:29.479 --> 01:19:32.760
because because Joe does it. Thank God, you know what

1263
01:19:32.760 --> 01:19:35.000
I'm saying, the anesthes of fethanol is working right now,

1264
01:19:35.079 --> 01:19:38.479
because like everything that's going that could go wrong went

1265
01:19:38.560 --> 01:19:41.359
wrong that day. But yet, you know what i made it.

1266
01:19:41.479 --> 01:19:42.960
But yeah, I made it work because Yoe, you know

1267
01:19:43.000 --> 01:19:44.880
what the men, the men. I walked inside, you know

1268
01:19:44.880 --> 01:19:48.319
what I'm saying, and saw my daughter and like her

1269
01:19:48.359 --> 01:19:53.119
face that glit up that that I'm like that right there,

1270
01:19:53.239 --> 01:19:55.399
like you know what I'm saying, Like like everything else

1271
01:19:55.520 --> 01:19:56.920
was null and void. I was like, you know what,

1272
01:19:57.239 --> 01:20:00.800
everything else, I'm gonna wing it now, you know, like

1273
01:20:00.880 --> 01:20:02.439
I wasn't even supposed to be outside the final of

1274
01:20:02.439 --> 01:20:04.119
the day of my surgery and stuff, but like seeing

1275
01:20:04.159 --> 01:20:06.840
how my seeing how my lady was struggling, Like you know,

1276
01:20:07.000 --> 01:20:09.840
like like the minute I got home, it's like I'm na.

1277
01:20:09.720 --> 01:20:11.039
Catered to you and the baby, this, that and the

1278
01:20:11.079 --> 01:20:14.640
third blah blah blah blah. Right, I woke up early

1279
01:20:14.720 --> 01:20:18.560
that next morning, right, and you know, I went to go,

1280
01:20:18.680 --> 01:20:20.760
do you know what I'm saying, you know, show up

1281
01:20:20.760 --> 01:20:22.239
with my parents house real quick, let them, you know,

1282
01:20:22.319 --> 01:20:25.520
let them see me so they're not worried. And I

1283
01:20:25.560 --> 01:20:29.039
get yelled at, Right, you're not supposed to be outside. Bah,

1284
01:20:29.399 --> 01:20:31.479
he is supposed to be festive blah blah blah blah.

1285
01:20:31.720 --> 01:20:44.039
I'm like whatever, so hold on, you know what they

1286
01:20:44.079 --> 01:20:47.199
were supposed to keep My mom right, like real shit,

1287
01:20:47.199 --> 01:20:48.520
they were supposed to keep my mom like you know,

1288
01:20:48.880 --> 01:20:51.680
like like it was two doctors. I was like determining

1289
01:20:51.720 --> 01:20:56.119
whether my mom left or she stayed right one like

1290
01:20:56.199 --> 01:20:57.880
you know what, Like one doctor was like, oh nah,

1291
01:20:57.960 --> 01:21:04.119
you know what call it? She's good, right, but like she.

1292
01:21:04.159 --> 01:21:06.680
Couldn't really walk, yo, Like I have to like literally

1293
01:21:06.800 --> 01:21:09.960
fire fireman carry her up the stairs, you know, like

1294
01:21:10.039 --> 01:21:11.800
mind you like my mom is four eleven, you know

1295
01:21:11.800 --> 01:21:13.840
what I'm saying, she's like in her seventies and stuff.

1296
01:21:14.199 --> 01:21:17.000
And to see her like struggling crime, you know what

1297
01:21:17.000 --> 01:21:18.039
I'm saying, Like like yo.

1298
01:21:18.239 --> 01:21:23.319
Wait hold on, hold on, they let her go like that, yeah, bro.

1299
01:21:23.479 --> 01:21:25.279
Like I was like, yeah, I was confused about it,

1300
01:21:25.640 --> 01:21:27.439
you know what I'm saying. Like I was like that

1301
01:21:27.680 --> 01:21:29.960
you know what I'm saying, You're not gonna like something's

1302
01:21:30.000 --> 01:21:33.239
not right here right I said it.

1303
01:21:33.439 --> 01:21:35.800
You know what I'm saying, you.

1304
01:21:35.880 --> 01:21:39.199
Talk about did you talk about getting a nurse?

1305
01:21:39.279 --> 01:21:39.479
Phil?

1306
01:21:40.880 --> 01:21:42.359
Bro? You know what when yo?

1307
01:21:42.479 --> 01:21:43.760
You know what I was like, Yo, you guys are

1308
01:21:43.760 --> 01:21:46.439
gonna swallow your pride, you know what I'm saying, Like

1309
01:21:46.640 --> 01:21:49.239
I know you know you know, like this is like

1310
01:21:49.520 --> 01:21:50.920
it's been your too for so long.

1311
01:21:51.560 --> 01:21:53.079
You know, we do this, we do that, if we

1312
01:21:53.439 --> 01:21:55.880
if we driver, if we need to drive far, we

1313
01:21:56.039 --> 01:21:58.520
call you the stands that I get that part, But

1314
01:22:00.000 --> 01:22:01.720
you guys gonna have to like you know, like get

1315
01:22:01.760 --> 01:22:03.920
a homemade health or something. So like right now that

1316
01:22:03.960 --> 01:22:05.920
you know what I'm saying, like that they're talking about that,

1317
01:22:06.439 --> 01:22:07.520
right they're even there.

1318
01:22:07.520 --> 01:22:09.199
They're even talking about move like you know what I'm saying,

1319
01:22:09.199 --> 01:22:11.880
the possibility of move into a to a building with elevators,

1320
01:22:12.840 --> 01:22:15.600
you know, like to see the citizen homeless stuff. But see,

1321
01:22:15.680 --> 01:22:16.720
the thing is, you know what I'm saying, Like I

1322
01:22:16.800 --> 01:22:19.960
feel bad because like like when it comes to like yo,

1323
01:22:21.359 --> 01:22:24.039
you know how YO call especially you know how I

1324
01:22:24.079 --> 01:22:24.680
am with my parents.

1325
01:22:24.720 --> 01:22:25.800
You know what I'm saying. I joke around, you know,

1326
01:22:26.000 --> 01:22:28.399
like talk ship to their face or whatever. Get slapped

1327
01:22:28.600 --> 01:22:32.119
to this day right by my mom a little four eleven.

1328
01:22:32.159 --> 01:22:34.000
You know what I'm saying. You know what I'm saying,

1329
01:22:35.039 --> 01:22:36.560
but joking with jokingly and stuff.

1330
01:22:36.640 --> 01:22:38.840
Right, but like you know how I am with them, man,

1331
01:22:38.960 --> 01:22:41.800
Like like you know, like if I could do whatever

1332
01:22:41.840 --> 01:22:43.239
it takes, you know I'm saying, I'm gonna do whatever

1333
01:22:43.279 --> 01:22:43.640
it takes.

1334
01:22:44.319 --> 01:22:46.720
So like they're talking about like like you know what

1335
01:22:46.760 --> 01:22:48.920
I'm saying, like possibly moving to a senior citizen building

1336
01:22:48.920 --> 01:22:52.359
and stuff. You know what I mean, because like you know,

1337
01:22:52.680 --> 01:22:54.680
but see what happened was like with my mom right

1338
01:22:56.399 --> 01:23:03.359
the the home nurse king and she thought that it

1339
01:23:03.479 --> 01:23:04.840
was something with her, you know what I'm saying, Like

1340
01:23:05.039 --> 01:23:18.239
because she had blood cloths before. Mm hmmmm mmm. I can't,

1341
01:23:18.359 --> 01:23:21.560
y know, I don't know for somebody all right now

1342
01:23:21.600 --> 01:23:28.720
I'm seeing it. No, that's what they're doing right now,

1343
01:23:29.119 --> 01:23:30.920
you know what I'm saying. Like they got physical therapy

1344
01:23:30.960 --> 01:23:34.520
in the house right now, you know, like you know what,

1345
01:23:34.720 --> 01:23:38.600
Like I think she has like Medicaid de sign medican.

1346
01:23:39.000 --> 01:23:43.359
I don't know, it depends makes a difference.

1347
01:23:44.640 --> 01:23:49.039
But but but like but like you know what when

1348
01:23:51.279 --> 01:23:53.279
when like the home health nurse was like why did

1349
01:23:53.359 --> 01:23:56.119
you even discharge? You go back? So they send her

1350
01:23:56.159 --> 01:23:58.840
back and whatever and come to find out that you

1351
01:23:58.840 --> 01:24:00.039
know what I'm saying, They ran her test with I

1352
01:24:00.039 --> 01:24:01.880
ever see shot blood classes like yo everything that she

1353
01:24:02.000 --> 01:24:04.399
didn't have blood clots or whatever, but her magnesium was

1354
01:24:04.920 --> 01:24:08.479
low and like the thing, you know what I'm saying,

1355
01:24:08.520 --> 01:24:10.000
and like you know what I'm saying, Magnesium is what.

1356
01:24:10.119 --> 01:24:11.399
You know, what I'm saying causes. You know, I'm saying

1357
01:24:11.399 --> 01:24:13.960
brings about heart attacks. I didn't know that, like low magnesium.

1358
01:24:14.000 --> 01:24:14.560
You know what I'm saying.

1359
01:24:14.720 --> 01:24:17.640
I didn't know about that. You know, you learn something

1360
01:24:17.680 --> 01:24:20.600
every day. So they kept it for that, They kept

1361
01:24:20.640 --> 01:24:24.600
it for the weekend. Oh hell though, if I'm gonna

1362
01:24:24.640 --> 01:24:26.279
put my mom in a home, and if I'm gonna

1363
01:24:26.279 --> 01:24:28.199
put my parents in the home, it's gonna be my home.

1364
01:24:29.279 --> 01:24:31.199
You know, Like I don't care like y'all drive me crazy.

1365
01:24:31.239 --> 01:24:32.279
I don't give a shit. You know what I'm saying.

1366
01:24:32.399 --> 01:24:33.640
At the end of the day, I still love you,

1367
01:24:34.479 --> 01:24:37.159
you know, like, nah, man, you know what I mean,

1368
01:24:37.279 --> 01:24:41.159
Like like there's too much hard, there's too much like

1369
01:24:41.239 --> 01:24:44.079
you know, videos of you know what I'm saying of

1370
01:24:44.199 --> 01:24:45.760
like elderly is getting.

1371
01:24:45.520 --> 01:24:46.199
Like you know, a beauty.

1372
01:24:47.479 --> 01:24:51.079
Yeah, you know, like you know what you laying hand

1373
01:24:51.119 --> 01:24:52.640
on my mom and my dad. You know what I'm saying,

1374
01:24:52.680 --> 01:24:54.359
Like I'm laying hands on you. You know what I mean,

1375
01:24:54.520 --> 01:24:57.119
Like you know what you're You're gonna be at the

1376
01:24:57.159 --> 01:25:00.279
bottom floor, crippled for life, learn how to walk. Yeah, man,

1377
01:25:00.279 --> 01:25:07.119
don't playing with my parents? Yeah but yeah, but but

1378
01:25:07.239 --> 01:25:08.640
but yo, you know what, That's what it's been.

1379
01:25:08.680 --> 01:25:10.239
You know what I'm saying, like like, yo, you know what,

1380
01:25:10.640 --> 01:25:12.319
like my mental health you know what I'm saying, from

1381
01:25:13.159 --> 01:25:16.039
the time of the accident all the way to the

1382
01:25:16.119 --> 01:25:20.000
day of my surgery was like it was going right.

1383
01:25:20.760 --> 01:25:25.880
You know, I gotta ask my mom. You know what

1384
01:25:25.880 --> 01:25:28.159
I'm saying. I gotta ya, you know what, I really

1385
01:25:28.159 --> 01:25:29.239
got to ask my mom about that.

1386
01:25:30.239 --> 01:25:30.640
You know, Like.

1387
01:25:32.399 --> 01:25:34.119
That's interesting. I'm gonna ask my mom.

1388
01:25:34.199 --> 01:25:35.880
You know what, I'm going to talk to my parents tomorrow,

1389
01:25:36.119 --> 01:25:38.880
ask them, you know, you know, like what they get,

1390
01:25:38.960 --> 01:25:40.560
Like you know what I'm saying, like who's their insurance

1391
01:25:40.560 --> 01:25:40.920
and stuff?

1392
01:25:41.479 --> 01:25:41.640
You know?

1393
01:25:43.039 --> 01:25:44.600
But yeah, man, like after that, you know what I'm saying,

1394
01:25:44.640 --> 01:25:47.840
like like, Yo, it was like my mental health was

1395
01:25:47.880 --> 01:25:49.479
going bro, you know what I'm saying. I just didn't

1396
01:25:49.479 --> 01:25:50.239
say nothing about it.

1397
01:25:54.800 --> 01:25:57.760
You're supposed to say. You're supposed to talk about it.

1398
01:25:57.880 --> 01:26:01.079
Remember you were gonna work that, so.

1399
01:26:02.920 --> 01:26:04.960
Yo, what happened was like it was like, yo, you

1400
01:26:05.000 --> 01:26:07.920
know what happened was the whole thing. I'm like trying

1401
01:26:07.960 --> 01:26:08.840
to process.

1402
01:26:08.520 --> 01:26:11.720
Everything that was happening, right, It's like it's like doing

1403
01:26:11.800 --> 01:26:13.920
that process one thing another thing was happening.

1404
01:26:13.920 --> 01:26:15.720
I'm like, you know what I'm saying, I'm just staring

1405
01:26:15.760 --> 01:26:21.239
off like I like, I'm like, bro, Like it was like, yo,

1406
01:26:21.359 --> 01:26:22.720
is this really happening? You know what I'm saying?

1407
01:26:22.760 --> 01:26:26.000
Like nah, man, you know, and like come June third,

1408
01:26:26.039 --> 01:26:27.760
I will be without a car because I gotta take

1409
01:26:27.800 --> 01:26:28.840
the car back. You know what I'm saying, to go

1410
01:26:28.920 --> 01:26:31.199
get fixed seven grand working damage.

1411
01:26:31.439 --> 01:26:34.319
You know what I'm saying. Yeah, man, so you know

1412
01:26:34.359 --> 01:26:35.720
what I mean, like like the whole point, you.

1413
01:26:35.720 --> 01:26:37.239
Know what I'm saying, Like I can't even reverse my

1414
01:26:37.359 --> 01:26:40.000
car like properly without it stopping out of nowhere.

1415
01:26:41.239 --> 01:26:41.439
Yeah.

1416
01:26:42.760 --> 01:26:45.560
So so it was like so it was like all

1417
01:26:45.680 --> 01:26:48.800
this happening and yet you know what, my d you

1418
01:26:48.800 --> 01:26:51.359
know what I'm saying, like just seeing my daughter's face

1419
01:26:51.560 --> 01:26:52.720
just like you know what I'm saying, like kind of

1420
01:26:52.800 --> 01:26:53.720
no and void everything.

1421
01:26:54.399 --> 01:27:05.800
You know, that's power returning.

1422
01:27:06.399 --> 01:27:10.399
Yeah, you know what I'm you know what I really

1423
01:27:10.840 --> 01:27:11.279
I think.

1424
01:27:11.159 --> 01:27:13.039
That's sounding you should think you're talking about?

1425
01:27:13.119 --> 01:27:16.960
Bro? Yeah, Yo, you know what. I never thought about that,

1426
01:27:17.119 --> 01:27:20.399
you know, like you know because because yo, you know what.

1427
01:27:20.439 --> 01:27:23.239
It's like this right now when they get old, especially.

1428
01:27:23.760 --> 01:27:25.800
Yo, Yo, it's like this right, like like, you know,

1429
01:27:25.840 --> 01:27:29.359
I look at my parents right and it hurts, you

1430
01:27:29.399 --> 01:27:30.720
know what I'm saying, like I don't want to like

1431
01:27:31.479 --> 01:27:37.520
thanks coming, Melissa Robber saying goodbye to the end.

1432
01:27:38.039 --> 01:27:38.880
Melissa's gotta go.

1433
01:27:41.600 --> 01:27:44.079
Oh, twelve hours, good luck?

1434
01:27:45.319 --> 01:27:45.520
You know.

1435
01:27:47.039 --> 01:27:49.199
You know what yo, what yo? We used to keep

1436
01:27:49.239 --> 01:27:51.920
me going for like sixteen hours was met? You should

1437
01:27:51.960 --> 01:27:53.039
try it just like.

1438
01:27:55.479 --> 01:27:58.760
This place with twelve hours, man, like like, yo, you

1439
01:27:58.840 --> 01:28:02.159
know what, h yeah, I don't like I don't miss

1440
01:28:02.199 --> 01:28:02.680
those days.

1441
01:28:05.239 --> 01:28:07.079
Yeah, so so so.

1442
01:28:08.680 --> 01:28:11.439
Yeah, so I gotta, I gotta, we gotta find out

1443
01:28:11.439 --> 01:28:14.840
what happened Lady G. Man, I know, you know, I gotta,

1444
01:28:14.880 --> 01:28:15.680
I gotta reach out.

1445
01:28:20.760 --> 01:28:23.359
Yeah, what happened to Lady J.

1446
01:28:23.760 --> 01:28:24.279
That's how.

1447
01:28:27.600 --> 01:28:30.399
It's like a mystery dinner we just had.

1448
01:28:33.680 --> 01:28:36.600
Yeah, all right, so with that, yo, you.

1449
01:28:36.600 --> 01:28:39.000
Know I'm gonna pick you be hoppening in the mystery machine.

1450
01:28:41.399 --> 01:28:41.720
All right.

1451
01:28:42.319 --> 01:28:45.680
So with that being said, great episode. I'm glad everybody

1452
01:28:45.760 --> 01:28:48.000
came through. We'll have to find out what happened to

1453
01:28:48.119 --> 01:28:54.359
Lady G. Well hopefully she's she's all right. Well I'll

1454
01:28:54.399 --> 01:28:58.960
reach out to in a minute. But yeah, I'm glad, Doug,

1455
01:28:59.000 --> 01:29:00.880
I'm glad you got outside and came in and and

1456
01:29:01.000 --> 01:29:02.199
and you know, enjoined us.

1457
01:29:02.279 --> 01:29:06.960
Man, Yeah, yo, bro, you know what that comment?

1458
01:29:07.039 --> 01:29:07.479
Real quick?

1459
01:29:12.079 --> 01:29:18.800
Oh she's from drink Oh I I holler at you

1460
01:29:20.359 --> 01:29:30.760
definitely definitely like yeah, yoh oh. One more thing man, Yo.

1461
01:29:31.239 --> 01:29:32.600
They took out the staples today.

1462
01:29:32.720 --> 01:29:34.840
You know what I'm saying, My stitches and stuff, right,

1463
01:29:36.359 --> 01:29:38.159
And like I didn't feel nothing until like they got

1464
01:29:38.199 --> 01:29:39.800
to like the little part of my back. That's when

1465
01:29:39.800 --> 01:29:42.520
I felt everything. Like you know, I was like, oh, whoa, whoa.

1466
01:29:42.560 --> 01:29:45.079
I was like, Yo, hold up, you know what I'm saying.

1467
01:29:45.119 --> 01:29:48.000
And then there's yelling thers like she knows what she's

1468
01:29:48.039 --> 01:29:51.640
joking around. She was like, she's like, bro, it's not

1469
01:29:51.720 --> 01:29:54.279
your first time. I'm like, pause, you know what I'm

1470
01:29:54.279 --> 01:29:55.880
saying because you're standing behind me. I was like, you know,

1471
01:29:56.039 --> 01:29:57.079
joking around and stuff right.

1472
01:29:57.439 --> 01:29:59.399
I was like yo. I was like yo, she was like,

1473
01:29:59.479 --> 01:30:03.439
it's not gonna I was like, bro, everything, yo, you

1474
01:30:03.520 --> 01:30:05.680
know what everything that you know what I'm saying, Like

1475
01:30:06.039 --> 01:30:09.119
like like you ever you ever't like been hurt so

1476
01:30:09.279 --> 01:30:12.920
bad that your mouth got watery like you know. I

1477
01:30:13.039 --> 01:30:15.520
was like, yo, that's what it was.

1478
01:30:15.600 --> 01:30:19.920
That like like yo, sensory overload everywhere.

1479
01:30:20.319 --> 01:30:20.399
Like.

1480
01:30:21.920 --> 01:30:23.920
Yo, you know what the last three stitches right?

1481
01:30:24.039 --> 01:30:25.880
You know what I'm saying, because like because like when

1482
01:30:25.920 --> 01:30:28.920
it started healing, like the first three of the first

1483
01:30:29.000 --> 01:30:32.159
like bottom three of the of I cut right, it

1484
01:30:32.279 --> 01:30:34.439
was like deep in my it was deeply embedded than

1485
01:30:34.439 --> 01:30:36.880
my skin, so it healed around it.

1486
01:30:36.960 --> 01:30:39.560
So she had to yanked out right, and I'm like,

1487
01:30:39.960 --> 01:30:41.560
I'm like, you know what I'm saying.

1488
01:30:41.640 --> 01:30:42.880
And the third one, I was like, you know what

1489
01:30:42.880 --> 01:30:44.479
I'm saying, Like I just like I started like breaking

1490
01:30:44.560 --> 01:30:46.399
a sweat, you know what I'm saying, Like that's how

1491
01:30:46.560 --> 01:30:48.000
that's how, that's how much it hurt.

1492
01:30:48.479 --> 01:30:49.479
But I kept it down. I was like, you know

1493
01:30:49.520 --> 01:30:51.600
what I'm saying. I was like, I was like yo, h.

1494
01:30:52.520 --> 01:30:54.399
I was like, Yo, you know what I'm saying. I

1495
01:30:54.479 --> 01:30:57.039
was like, bro, you know what I'm saying. Like what

1496
01:30:57.119 --> 01:31:00.560
are you doing? She was like Yo, what it's like?

1497
01:31:00.800 --> 01:31:01.079
Like Yo?

1498
01:31:01.199 --> 01:31:02.560
She told me that the last three you know what

1499
01:31:02.560 --> 01:31:04.640
I'm saying, It was like embedded, you know what I'm saying.

1500
01:31:04.640 --> 01:31:06.720
Like it he was like around the scar and the skin,

1501
01:31:07.199 --> 01:31:08.479
the scar tiss you and all that stuff.

1502
01:31:09.000 --> 01:31:11.560
So set the yanke it out and I'm like I'm like,

1503
01:31:11.680 --> 01:31:13.439
damn man, I said, Yo, you couldn't use a cutting.

1504
01:31:13.479 --> 01:31:16.079
She was like, Yo, you're still standing right, Yo, she's

1505
01:31:16.079 --> 01:31:20.800
one of them nurses. You're still standing right. I stop complaining. Yeah,

1506
01:31:21.159 --> 01:31:23.600
you know, like I was like, ship Man, Yeah, but

1507
01:31:24.000 --> 01:31:25.880
real but hold on real quick. Yeah you know what

1508
01:31:25.880 --> 01:31:26.720
I mean, real quick?

1509
01:31:27.520 --> 01:31:27.680
Right.

1510
01:31:29.399 --> 01:31:33.399
So this is what well, this is what I gotta

1511
01:31:33.479 --> 01:31:36.600
use for the rest of my life. These things right here,

1512
01:31:37.000 --> 01:31:39.439
this charges my back. The battery in my back.

1513
01:31:40.359 --> 01:31:43.760
Wow, he's bro cool. Yeah.

1514
01:31:44.159 --> 01:31:47.199
Yeah, tell you know what when when people when people

1515
01:31:47.319 --> 01:31:49.520
be like you got a battery in your back? Yeah?

1516
01:31:49.640 --> 01:31:55.079
Literally almost a wire too, yeers like Iron Man? Yeah, yeah,

1517
01:31:55.479 --> 01:31:56.000
pretty much.

1518
01:31:56.600 --> 01:32:04.640
So with that being said, stopping by, Yeah, TG, thanks

1519
01:32:04.680 --> 01:32:06.800
for coming through, Lady G.

1520
01:32:07.800 --> 01:32:11.039
Yeah, we love y'all. Feel better and.

1521
01:32:11.720 --> 01:32:19.039
Get that WiFi bill paid and we'll be back next

1522
01:32:19.079 --> 01:32:23.960
week for the week after ye hopefully. Yeah, we'll be

1523
01:32:24.079 --> 01:32:27.840
back to keep you guys informed of the tamed and

1524
01:32:28.199 --> 01:32:28.760
Talking ship.

1525
01:32:29.800 --> 01:32:29.960
You know.

1526
01:32:30.840 --> 01:32:33.520
So once again, I'm big hole on. That's t G Love,

1527
01:32:33.640 --> 01:32:39.520
that's dub don aka signed Phoenix, Simon Phoenix. We love

1528
01:32:39.560 --> 01:32:42.960
our fans, Keep it up, keep on coming, keep talking ship,

1529
01:32:43.079 --> 01:32:45.560
keep doing what you do. Stay safe, hit us up,

1530
01:32:46.359 --> 01:32:47.159
and at some point

1531
01:32:52.800 --> 01:32:54.239
Good night, all right.