Aug. 2, 2024

Oh Really!? That's How You Feel!?

Oh Really!? That's How You Feel!?

Yeah this is how we really feel! Let's agree to disagree. Just remember that at some point THIS MIGHT HURT!!

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Yeah this is how we really feel! Let's agree to disagree. Just remember that at some point THIS MIGHT HURT!!

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Bert Bert.

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Hey, what's good everybody? Here's big call on. Oh that

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this might her podcast coming to you live from wherever

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the fuck we're live from. It is what it is.

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I don't know. We're just here to do what we do,

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and that's to inform you, talk shit with you. Whatever

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the fuck else goes on, it just goes on. And

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bringing one of my co hosts, the Lovely Lady g

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what's good?

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Hey, what's up?

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How are you good?

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It's been a minute.

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Yeah, it's been a minute.

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Everything's great as usual.

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That's usual. Right, that's a good thing. That's really a

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good thing. Yeah. Hell yeah. I I was down in

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South Carolina for a little while. Is it in some

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friends and family and stuff out there, you know, doing

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you know, doing the doing the traveling around thing, you know,

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checking things out, making sure things are good. You know. So,

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how how you've been? I mean, it's it's been a

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little bit. It's been a while.

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Yeah, I'm good. I'm always good.

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Uh.

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My life's fairly boring. I just work, take care of

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you know what I need to take care of at home,

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and maintain positive attitude and keep it going.

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Yeah, that's that's that's what it is. That's what you

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gotta do, right.

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Yeah, I'm highly blessed and favorite.

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All right, that's it, God's favorite. Yeah, one of them,

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one of them bad. That's what's up. So there's a

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couple of things we're going to discuss tonight. Is there

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anything that is going on or anything you might want

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to bring up or talk about. This is a couple

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of things I want to discuss, but I want to

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give you the floor. Dob say he'll be here, just

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to give them some time.

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Yah.

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You know, well, there's there's always stuff going on in

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my life, but uh, you know, nothing in particular.

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You know, all right, that sounds good. You know, it's

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it's always good when there's anything going on, you know

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what I mean, Because if you got shit going on,

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sometimes it's it's not good ship, you know what I'm saying.

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So no, it is good ship.

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I've always got stuff going all right.

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Cool? So all right, the first the first topic, it

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isn't I mean, we're gonna start off like, we're not

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gonna get heavy till a little later mm hmm. But

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I want to start off like, so, I don't know

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if you are do you consider yourself to be a

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romantic woman?

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I do, I do, But I've also learned, you know,

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at the older age, that you have to go with

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the times, the flow. You have to meet each situation

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where you're at. Even though I find myself to be

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a romantic person, that doesn't mean that my idea of

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romance is the same idea that other people have of romance.

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So I do, I do. I do think that I am. However,

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that's in my own, you know, my own idea of

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what romance is.

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All right, all right, so what's what what do you

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consider to be in your eyes? Something that well, what's

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give me two romantic gestures that are important to you?

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Okay, Well, I tend to be a little bit more

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old school. So when someone you know comes to my

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door to pick me up if we're going somewhere, uh,

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I do appreciate the chivalry thing opening doors, and I

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do think that that's romantic. And dancing like just random

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like dancing in the living room, or I find romance spontaneous, right,

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you know, it doesn't always have to be planned.

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Okay, that that makes that makes plenty of sense. So

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so if if you would, if you would, if you

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were dancing, all right, why don't you give me a

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track or two that you would love to dance to

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with someone special. There was two tracks you had in

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mind right now that you would love to just be

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in the middle of your living room just you know,

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there's some candles lid and you know, some slow music.

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What was it? What? What was it? What would it?

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What would you be listening to?

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Uh? Well, I love music, so it would be a

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lot of things, but that pop in my head right now.

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One song is These Arms of Mine by Otis Redding.

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That's dope track.

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Yeah, and uh what else would the other one be?

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Maybe some old new.

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Addition not Candy Girl, right, it would be.

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Can't Stop the Yes, it can't Stop the rain.

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Okay, that's that's a that's a pretty good one. Yeah,

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definitely not this is the end because that would mean

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get any relationship is pretty much over goodness, So it's

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just the end. There's not one that you want to

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be dancing to.

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But yeah, romantic stuff Otis Redding some edit games, right,

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you know, but like I'm like dancing in general, So

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something in the living room. I think it's pretty romantic,

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you know. Okay, I think dancing, dancing, Yeah.

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I think think think thinking, yeah, yeah, yeah, I get it,

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all right. So for me, one track would definitely be

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I Only Have Eyes for You by the Flamingos, Oh, okay,

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that one. And to Be with You by Joe Cuba.

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I don't think I've heard that one.

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You got to listen to that one. Write that down

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right now, write it down somewhere. To Be with to

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Be with You by Joe Cuba. You know who Joe

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Cuba is, though, right.

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No, no, never never heard of him.

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Joe Cuba is from his his He's This track came

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out I think in sixty something, but he was one

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of the first Puerto Ricans two to sing tracks in

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English and in Spanish. Okay, all right.

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So well, considering not Peruvian and not Puerto Rican, I

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don't all right, I don't want to know no.

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All right now. But Joe Cuba, Joe Cuba's dope. Jo

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Heber is dope. He's yeah, He's got a lot of

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nice a lot of nice music. So to Be with

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You by Joe Cuba and I Only Have Eyes for

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You by the Flamingos, those would be those would be

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my two tracks.

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Okay, Yeah, So.

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If that pops on, I'm definitely I'm swaying. I'm like,

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you know, just you know, swaying back and forth. That's

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as that's that's as far as I go.

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You know, that sucks at your age.

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Can't flow. I can't can't sway that much at my tip.

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Over goodness, oh shit, no.

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But but I can move more than that. Can definitely

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move more than that.

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When when you talk about stuff like that, like it's

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just it just it hits close for me because the

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whole idea of like getting older and how your body

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doesn't work like it used to. So I was in

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the gym yesterday or no, this morning actually, and I'm

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trying this new workout thing, and so the funny thing is,

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I felt so not dumb, but just kind of like,

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you know, people always think, even though it may or

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may not be the truth, that people are looking at them.

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And uh so it had something to do with weights.

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But my knees are not great, right, you know, and

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so it involved doing some like squatting and bending at

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the knees and you know, lifting weights and things like that.

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And I'm thinking to myself, oh my gosh, I feel

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like my knees are about to give out. So I

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can't imagine what other people are watching while I'm trying

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to do these new little workout things right and and

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feel like my my knees are about to give give out.

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On me, damn.

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And I wasn't even and I wasn't and not just that,

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like the pain, like just the because even when I

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come down the steps, you know, like I it's not

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even that they crack or nothing like that. It's just

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like there's this this twinge or this pain where when

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I go to bed my knee it feels like my

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whole knees going to give out. I'm like, man, I'm

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not out of spring chicken, but I'm not old enough

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for knee replacements yet.

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No, definitely not, definitely not Wow, Yeah, I mean you know,

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but staying active is definitely key to it. Also, yeah,

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you know, trying to say I active, keep the body moving,

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you know, a body emotion stays emotion.

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Yeah, five days a week, five am.

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Yeah. Wow, good for you.

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Hey, I got to keep this, you know, I put

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it this way, being a single woman and you know,

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having been married already, you know, having a life, a

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career and all that stuff. I think we failed to

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realize that although we have an idea of who we're

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looking for are we actually becoming or are we actually

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doing and making the same type of effort to be

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that person for the other person? You know. So it's

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like we're looking for all of these things, but are

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we doing anything to be that person for somebody else?

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You know? Good fucking question. All right? So yeah, wow,

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that is that is true?

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Yeah, I mean I don't know that. I don't know

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that me going to the gym is gonna, you know,

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help the way I look or any of that kind

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of stuff.

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It will help the way you feel, though.

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Yes, it'll help the way I feel. It's me making

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sure that I am taking care of myself right right,

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Because it's like, if I'm looking for a man who

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worries about his health, make sure he takes like he

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goes to all his doctor's appointments, takes his medication. Because again,

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I'm those spring chickens. So I'm not looking for spring chickens,

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you know, I'm looking for the you know.

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Looking for a chicken. You're looking for a rooster.

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Yeah, then yeah, but that was getting ready to say that.

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I was like, I'm looking a little more for a

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seasoned rooster, right, So, but at the same token, I

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have been in situations where the dude has health issues

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or stuff like that, which in of itself is not

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an issue, because as we get older, that's to be seen.

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My issue is you have these issues. I'm telling you

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by being here with you that I am willing to go,

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you know, ride or die with you on those things. However,

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if you are not doing anything for yourself, like if

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you're not going to your doctor's appointments, if you're not

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taking your medication, if you're not eating healthy you know,

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and I'm not talking like this strict lifestyle because there

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are a lot of people that just are are just

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way too nutty for me. But if you're not at

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least trying to be here for us as a couple

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or us as a family, you know, that's concerning because

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then that tells me that you don't care enough about us,

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us or the relationship to be here, you know, to

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want to You're allowing your ego and your pride or

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just your lack of wanting to be around to control

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the thing. So it's like, how can I expect to

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be with a partner that is healthy, regardless of any

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health issues they may have, who is taking care of

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their stuff who wants to be here for us to

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enjoy this time together as we get older if I

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myself am not willing to do the same. Right. So,

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like I said, going to the gym five days a

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week is not right now. It's got a multifaceted reason.

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Part of it is, you know, I have a seventeen

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year old daughter, you know, and she's a cheerleader and

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all this stuff, and I don't want her to continue

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unhealthy habits, you know, I want her. I want her

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to be healthy. I want her to love the skin

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that she's in, no matter what that skin looks like.

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So it's like, at least, if she's doing something for herself,

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she doesn't necessarily have to look like people think she

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needs to look. But at least she can help contribute

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to a healthier life and a longer life. So not

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just for myself, but also for her, to help to

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be a good example for her and to support her

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in her journey, you know, of trying to be healthy

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and maybe lose some weight, and you know, but that's

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not an emphasis for me. My thing is if I

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don't lose a pound, I'm okay, partially because I mean, yes,

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then I'd be like I'm working hard and nothing's happening.

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But for the most part, at least I'm contributing to

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my overall well being. And if I want that, yeah,

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and if I want that from somebody, I also need

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to be willing to do that to be that for them,

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you know. And that's you know, health wise, emotionally, because

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what I have found is I think I'm a fairly

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positive person.

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I think you are.

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Oh, thank you. Uh, you know I like to I don't.

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I don't think I practiced that that positive. Uh, the

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toxic positivity, you know, where it's like you just have

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everything bad that happens in your life, you just have

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to think positive.

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No.

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I honestly believe that you have moments when you're not okay,

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and it's okay to not be okay, right. But my

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overall general thing is when I wake up in the morning,

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the first thing I do is say thank you for

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another day.

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Uh.

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It gives me another opportunity to wipe, write whatever has

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been wrong, to do it all again. Because I don't

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know that any of us really know the purpose or

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our purpose per se. Because you know, I know, some people,

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especially people I work with in the you know, the

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place that I work. People are very jaded, like, what's

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the point, What's the point of being here? What's the

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point of life? We were born to die. If that's

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the way you look at it, I mean, legitimately, I

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guess that is correct. However, you're here for something, for

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a reason. My thing is, it's not about how you

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get here how you leave, it's what happens in the middle.

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Just because you're here doesn't mean you have to be miserable,

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but fulfilled. Fulfill each day with things that cause you joy, happiness,

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you know, and and and all those kinds of things.

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So my my goal in life is just to wake

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up on the days that I'm giving a new opera

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tunity and make it the best that I can. So,

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even though bad things happen throughout the day, when somebody

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says have a good day, I actually I actually changed

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the way I looked at things, Like before I used

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to say, I'll try right, because bad things happen every day,

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whether it's a big bad thing or a little bad thing.

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Things happen, you know, inconveniences, people cut you off, you know,

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like life is not perfect. It's not meant to be

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perfect because without the trials you can't appreciate the good

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things you actually have.

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Sobs.

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So when I stopped saying i'll try and started saying

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I will, it actually changed the way I felt and

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the way I saw things. So when somebody says have

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a good day, I'm like, you know what, I will

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have a good day. Why because it's not that nothing

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bad will happen, but I get to choose how I see,

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how I see those things happening. Am I going to

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allow it to ruin my life?

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Day?

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Because you know, I grew up. I grew up in

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the inner city where.

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Lady, Lady G, just give me one second, old your

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thought and me let doves inside real quick. Then you

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can continue. Give me one.

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Second now now, now it really starts.

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Yeah, hold on all right, all right, look up.

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Now you're all muffled.

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Yeah, you're muffled.

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Now hold up, y'ah, hold up, all.

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Right, just do what you gotta do. Lady G was

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speaking ahead, continue you know.

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So and see that I'm so old. I just forgot

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my chain of something.

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No, no, you were talking about. You know when people

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say have a good day, yeah.

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I say that I will, you know, because I get

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to choose whether something's going to ruin my day or not.

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And something something's always going to happen. You know. Again,

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somebody's gonna cut me off.

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In traffic, that's when you kill them. Oh my goodness,

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A good day right after.

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Yeah, But but I I can't control what other people say,

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do feel, but I can control how I my my

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outlook on things. And so my thing is every day

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might not be beautiful, but something beautiful does happen each day,

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and I choose to focus on those things instead of

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allowing one or two little negative or you know, setbacks

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ruined my whole entire day, right, because there are different

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facets to my day. Like I'm not just an employee.

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I am a I'm a woman, I'm a mother, I'm

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a sister, you know, like I'm a friend, and I

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can't I can't be bleeding all over people who didn't

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cut me.

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Absolutely, you're right, yeah, absolutely right. That that's that was.

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That was a great piece. Thanks It really was.

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It was.

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It made a lot of it made a lot of

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it made a lot of sense. It made. It was

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a great point. It was a great point prop show.

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Oh my god, this this segment of Lady G's you know,

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thing here was brought to you by let me start,

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it was brought to you by cheerwine, zero sugar. This

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is this is the Southern Is that Southern ship that

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I bring up from from down there. They don't sell

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this stuff up here, so I have to get it

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from down there and sneaking across the border from state

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to states. So brought to you the drink cheer wine.

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All right, anyway, now dubbs, welcome. How you've been bro tired?

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Oh?

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Tired? Yeah that happens sometimes, man, Yeah, but like just

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five thirty this month, so tired. Okay? So next, hold on,

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hold up?

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Is this supposed to rain? Because like my pack is

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on fire, bro, Like I didn't want to I didn't

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want to get up a ship.

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Yeah, they're saying something about them the swims tomorrow, but

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I don't know, I knew it. Just look at the

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weather man. The weather will tell you you got it

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on your.

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I am no need to look at it. I am

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the weather, trust me. I was just wondering, you know,

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I just want to make sure they're supposed to rain

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the ship because I'm feeling you know what I'm saying,

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Like I'm feeling the heavy right.

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Now oh all right, mm hmm, okay, is there anything

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that that's going on? You want to talk about anything

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you got going on? You want to you want to

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know any topic you want to get on real quick,

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so I could we can speak on it, and you know,

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I gotta go things, you know? All right?

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Not? Hold hold up though?

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What's up?

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Rop it? Donnie? You in the fucking up man?

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How's he fucking up?

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Yo? You can't. You can't just be Iron Man and

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doctor Dom at the same time.

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Oh do I have to explain it? Nah?

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I mean I get it, but still I don't like it?

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All right, Well, when you watch the movies, you're gonna

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be like holy ship.

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Oh by the way, oh wait wait wait real quick.

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You know that that Pull movies on YouTube right now?

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Like someone uploaded it right now?

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All right, I'm like check it, well check it? You

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have what what what you have on your on your thing,

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on your firestick, the no diddy, the the TV thing.

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It's it's there. I watched it again, so you can

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you can. And it's a great, great, great visual copy

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of it, so you can watch it on whenever you

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want to watch it. So with that being said, I

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have a question for Lady G. Yes, all right, now

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I don't want to you.

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Can I take your hand and hold? Can I take

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your hand? Holy macrimony, matrimony macarone cheese with cheese?

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Is it baked with bacon?

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Oh? Yeah, bacon. There's always bacon evolved.

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Oh gosh, that's why you'll be having sky high blesterole.

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All right, so Lady G, please make this make what

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all right? Why is it a woman can sense when

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her man is cheating on her with women's intuition, but

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can't use that same woman's intuition to sense or fear

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when her man is struggling or is not feeling himself.

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Make it makes sense? Women's intuition. This is This is

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a big deal because women seem to seem to think

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they can sense everything, especially when they're being done wrong.

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But when a man or her man isn't himself or

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struggling with certain things, they will not pick up on it.

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Make it make sense?

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You know what? Women consents everything? Right for that slap

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across the face, For that slap across the face. You

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know what I'm saying.

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You know what I'm saying. Don't bring my pot roast.

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Flashbacks, flashbacks? You know what I'm saying, not burning my

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pot roast.

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Yes, she's on the roll today, let her do.

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All right. So my first statement is, don't for a

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second think that she doesn't feel or think something is off.

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All right. Number two, my personal opinion again, and my

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opinion only reflects my opinion and of nobody else. And

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it is not, you know, the end all be all.

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When it's about sensing that somebody's doing you wrong or whatever,

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that's because that impacts your your entire relationship. It impacts

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how you continue right when somebody's off or not off.

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Guys are not detail oriented people. They are you know,

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you guys are the hunter gatherers. You're you're you know,

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it's like solution focused type people. And for the most part,

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and of course this is not all you know, I

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cannot generalize, but usually when you ask a man what's

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going on, because you have that intuition, the answer is nothing.

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Right now, I'm good, everything's good. Because sometimes you get

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into the ego, the mato. You know, you don't want

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to let nobody know something's going on or you don't

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want to share it. Right, So I'm not gonna throw

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I mean, yeah, women are not gonna throw themselves under

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a bus continuously asking what's up? What's up? What's up?

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If you're not gonna tell them right number two. And

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I know this is gonna be unpopular with some people,

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very unpopular with some people. But it's not necessarily someone

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else's job. And I'm not just talking about women, but

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it's not somebody else's job to sense or divine that

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something is wrong with you. That's why they call it communication. Personally,

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I could, I could definitely feel that something might be

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off with my my partner, but I'm not necessarily going

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to push on them because clearly if they wanted to share,

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they would, right. And I'm not just going because that

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can get annoying too when somebody's always saying are you okay?

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Is everything all right?

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You know?

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That can that can get old real quick. So my

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thing is, if there's something going on, why, So that's

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my question, Why do I have to divine it? Why

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do I have to sense it? Why can't I trust

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in our relationship enough for you to tell me?

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Because you're a woman, and that's it, that's it.

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Welcome to the discussions, discussion, No, because I because if

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the was on the other foot, you would say the

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same thing, Well, why why don't you know that something's

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wrong with me? Why why aren't you showing up?

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I need this or you must think you must think

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them be muting like I'm professor X or something. No,

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that's not how it goes.

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Well then, but then, but then, now, what she's trying

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to say is what you just The point you just

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proved is that you can't read minds, So how are

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you supposed.

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To know that you're supposed to know something's wrong?

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So you just answered pretty much made her point.

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You see, it's like this, right, you know what I'm saying.

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It's like, all right, so with the women, right, here's

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a test. You go, put her in the kitchen. Right

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if the food comes out shitty, that does something wrong

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with her? Oh my goodness, that's serious. You know what

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I'm saying. If the cooking is off whatever, You know

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what I'm saying, don't beat her. You know what I'm saying.

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What if she don't cook?

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That she's worthless?

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So then what makes a man worthless when he can't

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do what?

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When he can't get his dick card? I don't know,

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I don't you got all this?

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The dish does, but yeah, I know.

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What makes a man worthless?

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The only thing, The only thing that makes a man

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worthless is himself. The same thing for a woman, The

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only thing that makes a woman worthless is herself.

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Because do you know what a woman? If a woman

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can't cook, If a woman can't cook, you know what? Yeah,

482
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you know what she? You know what she? Yeah, she's

483
00:30:35.000 --> 00:30:38.039
worth something. But guess what a red light and grad

484
00:30:38.240 --> 00:30:42.519
water is worth something too, and they're both equivalent.

485
00:30:43.720 --> 00:30:45.519
All that made no sense to me.

486
00:30:45.720 --> 00:30:50.519
But okay, uh, you know what quote quote onto that

487
00:30:51.160 --> 00:30:52.119
every woman was.

488
00:30:52.160 --> 00:30:54.119
Not put on this earth to cook, just like every

489
00:30:54.200 --> 00:30:57.680
man was not put on this earth to take out

490
00:30:57.720 --> 00:30:58.160
the trash.

491
00:30:58.759 --> 00:31:02.279
Okay, every woman on this earth is put on this

492
00:31:02.400 --> 00:31:03.119
earth to cook.

493
00:31:03.240 --> 00:31:03.759
And that's it.

494
00:31:04.359 --> 00:31:04.400
No.

495
00:31:05.759 --> 00:31:07.599
I could, I could cook, and I could wish it up.

496
00:31:08.079 --> 00:31:11.200
Yeah, let me tell you something. Any man who's and

497
00:31:11.279 --> 00:31:13.160
if you don't know how to cook, if he's willing

498
00:31:13.279 --> 00:31:16.359
to try, Hey, that goes a long way with me.

499
00:31:16.559 --> 00:31:22.359
I'm all about again. I was telling at the beginning to.

500
00:31:22.440 --> 00:31:27.119
Me, I'm very old, you know what I mean. I

501
00:31:27.240 --> 00:31:28.799
hope you know that I'm just telling to sit the

502
00:31:28.839 --> 00:31:32.839
rough feathers right. Oh yeah, job, that's my job like

503
00:31:32.960 --> 00:31:33.599
I'm supposed to.

504
00:31:33.640 --> 00:31:37.480
That's that's that's your purpose? Here? Does that's your purpose?

505
00:31:37.559 --> 00:31:37.680
Here?

506
00:31:38.680 --> 00:31:42.759
I get it. I take nothing personally because I give

507
00:31:42.839 --> 00:31:45.799
no one power over my emotions. All right?

508
00:31:46.079 --> 00:31:49.559
So all right, so real quick, so now now that

509
00:31:49.880 --> 00:31:54.759
we we we so what are all right, lady g

510
00:31:55.039 --> 00:32:01.119
what are five things that a man?

511
00:32:03.039 --> 00:32:03.279
What? What?

512
00:32:03.480 --> 00:32:05.920
What are five things a woman looks for and a

513
00:32:06.039 --> 00:32:08.480
man in a relationship?

514
00:32:09.000 --> 00:32:11.960
Give me five things that's different for every woman?

515
00:32:12.720 --> 00:32:14.440
All right? So let's say you what what are the

516
00:32:14.559 --> 00:32:16.920
five things you are looking for?

517
00:32:17.759 --> 00:32:18.079
Okay?

518
00:32:18.200 --> 00:32:21.119
And a man for a relationship, marriage, whatever it is?

519
00:32:21.759 --> 00:32:26.359
Okay. So, like I have mentioned before, someone who is

520
00:32:26.559 --> 00:32:31.079
willing to put work into themselves to be the best,

521
00:32:31.279 --> 00:32:35.279
the best version of them right right, somebody who has

522
00:32:37.039 --> 00:32:44.000
dreams and aspilations mm hmm. Not just a communicator, but

523
00:32:44.079 --> 00:32:45.720
an effective communicator.

524
00:32:46.400 --> 00:32:46.519
Right.

525
00:32:50.519 --> 00:32:54.200
I know we don't talk about you know, politics, religion,

526
00:32:54.279 --> 00:32:58.160
all that. But the man for me has got to

527
00:32:59.039 --> 00:33:01.519
not just know God, have a relationship with him. So

528
00:33:01.720 --> 00:33:08.599
he's got to be a God fearing man. And the

529
00:33:08.799 --> 00:33:20.000
last thing, so it's communication, care for himself. He's gotta

530
00:33:20.160 --> 00:33:20.920
he's gotta.

531
00:33:20.720 --> 00:33:21.160
Have a.

532
00:33:23.680 --> 00:33:28.319
Good head on his shoulders. You know, like, uh, be

533
00:33:28.480 --> 00:33:31.559
about something, have some knowledge. You know, he doesn't have

534
00:33:31.680 --> 00:33:35.480
to be part of mensa or anything, but he has

535
00:33:35.519 --> 00:33:38.240
to be able to carry a conversation and be caring, you.

536
00:33:38.319 --> 00:33:45.599
Know, right, that makes that makes that sense, Yeah, because.

537
00:33:45.400 --> 00:33:50.119
If I if we can't carry on conversations that that's

538
00:33:50.160 --> 00:33:53.799
a big part of relationships. It's not just having sex

539
00:33:53.880 --> 00:33:57.519
with people. It's that's only a small part of a

540
00:33:57.839 --> 00:34:04.400
true relationship, you know. You know, just like they say love,

541
00:34:04.519 --> 00:34:09.360
love isn't isn't a It's not just a feeling. Real

542
00:34:09.519 --> 00:34:13.199
love is an action. It's it's a choice. It's something

543
00:34:13.239 --> 00:34:17.639
that you're choosing to do. You know, a lot of

544
00:34:17.760 --> 00:34:20.679
reasons why marriages, you know, are headed the way they're

545
00:34:20.719 --> 00:34:23.400
headed is because again we live in this canceled culture.

546
00:34:25.840 --> 00:34:34.199
And thank you, Debbie, I see that trust, honesty, open communication, loyalty. Confidence, Yeah,

547
00:34:34.360 --> 00:34:38.360
strong confidence. Yeah. They got to believe in themselves because

548
00:34:39.599 --> 00:34:42.480
you know, you can't be to somebody what you're not,

549
00:34:43.079 --> 00:34:45.400
you know what they're not willing to be for you.

550
00:34:45.800 --> 00:34:47.880
And you know, so yeah, you gotta you gotta have

551
00:34:47.960 --> 00:34:54.159
some confidence in yourself, you know, because I've done me personally,

552
00:34:54.199 --> 00:34:56.239
I've done a lot of work on me and so

553
00:34:57.280 --> 00:35:00.519
I can't. Hey, Dove, you make it to much noise.

554
00:35:00.559 --> 00:35:03.719
Bro, you're my bad scratching my beard? Yeh Like I'm sorry.

555
00:35:06.039 --> 00:35:09.159
You know, I'm not looking. I'm not looking for anybody

556
00:35:09.239 --> 00:35:12.719
to take care of me. I can do that. I

557
00:35:12.760 --> 00:35:20.199
wouldn't mind. I wouldn't mind. Hold Thank you so much, Dabby.

558
00:35:20.800 --> 00:35:25.199
I'm why are you.

559
00:35:26.800 --> 00:35:27.480
You're at me?

560
00:35:28.760 --> 00:35:30.760
I'm on please.

561
00:35:31.880 --> 00:35:38.239
I'm an outpha I'm a man. Hear me? Raw? You

562
00:35:38.519 --> 00:35:45.000
are you are? You know?

563
00:35:45.159 --> 00:35:47.119
Like I said, I'm not I'm not looking for superman.

564
00:35:47.239 --> 00:35:50.119
I'm not looking for you know, money bags. I'm not looking.

565
00:35:51.719 --> 00:35:54.719
Can I say something real quick? I mean you always do.

566
00:35:55.719 --> 00:35:59.119
I mean you know what though, like I hope you know,

567
00:35:59.840 --> 00:36:02.159
I hoping not. You know what I'm saying. I mean,

568
00:36:03.079 --> 00:36:06.760
because let's let's keep it. You know, I'm gonna keep

569
00:36:06.760 --> 00:36:10.519
it out. It is like dudes today, like how they

570
00:36:10.639 --> 00:36:13.039
act like like I see them, how they act online

571
00:36:13.119 --> 00:36:16.760
or whatever, and I'm like, I'm like, wow, you are

572
00:36:16.800 --> 00:36:19.960
truly you know what I'm saying. You truly exemplify what

573
00:36:20.119 --> 00:36:22.400
it means to have a beating vagina for a heart,

574
00:36:23.679 --> 00:36:29.119
you know, Like, so you got this mad because this

575
00:36:29.320 --> 00:36:32.719
girl right here. Then your advances and you calling her

576
00:36:32.719 --> 00:36:34.400
a bitch and all that stuff, like you're just going

577
00:36:34.480 --> 00:36:35.880
off for all. You know what I'm saying, all the

578
00:36:35.960 --> 00:36:38.800
handles on going off the handles and stuff, you know,

579
00:36:38.960 --> 00:36:43.440
like acting like you know, how can I say this,

580
00:36:44.639 --> 00:36:48.199
acting like a real bitch, like a bitch asking So

581
00:36:48.280 --> 00:36:49.199
that's what we're doing, huh?

582
00:36:50.039 --> 00:36:50.480
You know, like.

583
00:36:52.079 --> 00:36:54.159
Like you know what, that's why, like you know, like

584
00:36:54.280 --> 00:36:56.440
and then you know, like like they'll get into it

585
00:36:56.559 --> 00:36:58.599
with me and whatever, and then I have to tell them.

586
00:36:58.639 --> 00:37:00.679
I'm like, yo, you know what, you ain't even have

587
00:37:00.800 --> 00:37:04.519
the man your mom is. If that's the case, I'm like,

588
00:37:04.559 --> 00:37:07.079
you know, the next relationship you get involved with that's

589
00:37:07.119 --> 00:37:09.360
gonna be considered a lesbian relationship for her because you've

590
00:37:09.440 --> 00:37:11.719
damaged of a bitch. Let me guess she's gonna eat

591
00:37:11.760 --> 00:37:17.840
you out. Huh. Like these dudes are these these these

592
00:37:17.960 --> 00:37:20.760
these dudes, you know what I'm saying, Like these dudes today,

593
00:37:20.800 --> 00:37:24.000
they're too sensitive, you know, like like you know, like

594
00:37:24.079 --> 00:37:25.639
I mean, I mean, yo, you know what, It's one

595
00:37:25.679 --> 00:37:28.960
thing to be sensitive, but then you know what I'm saying,

596
00:37:29.480 --> 00:37:31.199
it's at some point, you know, I mean, like if

597
00:37:31.239 --> 00:37:34.119
you're on line or whatever. If you're online and some

598
00:37:34.280 --> 00:37:37.800
girl just like doesn't want to deal with you, at

599
00:37:37.880 --> 00:37:39.519
least has some of the core im surprised to be

600
00:37:39.599 --> 00:37:40.880
like all right, you know what I'm saying, be a

601
00:37:40.920 --> 00:37:42.360
man about it, but like, okay, you know what I'm saying,

602
00:37:42.360 --> 00:37:45.719
to learn how to take rejection. Yeah, most most these men,

603
00:37:45.840 --> 00:37:47.119
most of these men out here don't know how to

604
00:37:47.159 --> 00:37:52.840
take rejection. But the exactly but they can't take it.

605
00:37:53.480 --> 00:37:55.519
You know what I'm saying, and and and and to

606
00:37:55.639 --> 00:37:58.199
me and and and to me. You know what I'm saying,

607
00:37:58.280 --> 00:38:02.239
like like you know, like see this men, this woman,

608
00:38:02.320 --> 00:38:04.519
and then there's a bitch. You know what I'm saying.

609
00:38:04.760 --> 00:38:06.960
A bitch. You know what I'm saying is a you know,

610
00:38:07.079 --> 00:38:12.039
sexual word for either a female or a male to end.

611
00:38:12.280 --> 00:38:14.920
You know what I'm saying. Today and today's climates, there's

612
00:38:15.000 --> 00:38:17.360
more males that go into that category than females, do

613
00:38:20.079 --> 00:38:22.639
you know, Like I see it, you know, like like

614
00:38:22.719 --> 00:38:25.440
I'm like Jesus Christ, you know what I'm saying, Like,

615
00:38:25.519 --> 00:38:28.039
you know what I'm saying, You're not even in Hispanic,

616
00:38:28.119 --> 00:38:31.840
you're her Panic. You know what I'm saying, Like, bro,

617
00:38:32.079 --> 00:38:36.519
like you're not even a hymn. You're her? You know, like,

618
00:38:36.679 --> 00:38:38.280
how is it you know what I'm saying, Like, how

619
00:38:38.320 --> 00:38:40.280
you have a male name? Would you acting like the Karen?

620
00:38:41.119 --> 00:38:42.599
But yet you know you want to act like you know,

621
00:38:42.760 --> 00:38:44.840
like you're like you're do you know what I'm saying?

622
00:38:45.719 --> 00:38:47.159
And all say, all, you know what I'm saying, like

623
00:38:47.360 --> 00:38:50.599
some alpha dude. Man, you ain't known alpha man? First off,

624
00:38:50.639 --> 00:38:54.679
you know what anybody anybody out here like, you're an alpha. No,

625
00:38:54.800 --> 00:38:57.199
you're not my No, you're not my guy. You're a beta.

626
00:38:57.920 --> 00:39:00.320
You know what I'm saying. It's such a bitch up.

627
00:39:00.880 --> 00:39:01.679
You are a beta.

628
00:39:03.719 --> 00:39:05.519
You have to put it out there that you are

629
00:39:05.719 --> 00:39:07.800
something more than likely you're.

630
00:39:07.719 --> 00:39:11.079
Not, you know, like because men don't have to and

631
00:39:11.239 --> 00:39:13.039
and and and the thing is, you know what I'm saying.

632
00:39:13.360 --> 00:39:15.519
And the thing is right like they'll put on this

633
00:39:15.599 --> 00:39:17.800
show and whatever up until you know what I'm saying.

634
00:39:17.840 --> 00:39:20.159
You walk upon them and threatened, and you know what

635
00:39:20.159 --> 00:39:22.000
I'm saying, to slap the ever living dogs shit out

636
00:39:22.039 --> 00:39:25.400
of them. And the first thing they're doing is, yeah,

637
00:39:25.400 --> 00:39:28.760
they're talking tough because it's a crowd, but they're secretly

638
00:39:28.800 --> 00:39:29.719
calling nine one one.

639
00:39:32.119 --> 00:39:34.559
You know, so too doubs, I pose the same question

640
00:39:34.760 --> 00:39:38.639
to you. What are the five things a man wants

641
00:39:39.360 --> 00:39:42.519
from a woman? Your your opinion? This is coming from

642
00:39:42.559 --> 00:39:46.719
you now in a relationship slash marriage or whatever you

643
00:39:46.840 --> 00:39:50.639
fucked up? You know, five things, bro, Just five, not

644
00:39:50.800 --> 00:39:52.119
fucking fifteen.

645
00:39:52.280 --> 00:39:55.320
To be a sex leave to be conquered by me.

646
00:39:55.559 --> 00:39:59.360
And I'm just playing all the suicide bro all just society.

647
00:40:00.559 --> 00:40:03.480
Five things. How about you know what I'm saying. We

648
00:40:03.559 --> 00:40:05.159
put five things on the one real quick.

649
00:40:05.840 --> 00:40:08.159
Just vibe with me, period.

650
00:40:09.280 --> 00:40:10.880
Okay, you know what I'm saying like this, like yo,

651
00:40:10.960 --> 00:40:12.719
you know what this you know what I'm saying. Let

652
00:40:12.800 --> 00:40:17.320
every other point will be something, you know, like if

653
00:40:17.360 --> 00:40:20.719
I could vibe with you, you know, like through and

654
00:40:20.840 --> 00:40:23.119
through and we see each other eye the eye for

655
00:40:23.239 --> 00:40:27.360
the most part, then everything else you know what I'm saying,

656
00:40:27.840 --> 00:40:30.400
will just follow through Like it's it's like, yo, you

657
00:40:30.440 --> 00:40:33.960
know what, I'm not looking for five things. I don't

658
00:40:34.000 --> 00:40:37.239
want five things. I want everything, but like the main

659
00:40:37.320 --> 00:40:40.519
two things, vibe with me. Let me see if I

660
00:40:40.559 --> 00:40:45.119
get along with you, you know, like I mean, obviously

661
00:40:45.159 --> 00:40:46.800
you know what I'm saying. In my situation that I'm

662
00:40:46.840 --> 00:40:48.679
in right now, it all started off off of a

663
00:40:48.840 --> 00:40:52.039
vibe like we just hung out and we just started

664
00:40:52.079 --> 00:40:55.760
talking right back, you know. The next thing, you know,

665
00:40:55.800 --> 00:40:57.519
it's like four in the morning. I'm like, holy shit,

666
00:40:57.840 --> 00:41:00.000
you know what I'm saying. I can't believe we talked

667
00:41:00.079 --> 00:41:02.800
each other's ear off for the past seven hours. Yeah,

668
00:41:03.320 --> 00:41:04.280
that's how shit starts.

669
00:41:04.960 --> 00:41:06.840
And then why.

670
00:41:08.639 --> 00:41:14.800
Two years later? But now and now I have this

671
00:41:14.920 --> 00:41:17.760
little bossy ass baby telling me what to do. She'd

672
00:41:17.800 --> 00:41:20.320
be acting like she'd be running my world. Bro. She does,

673
00:41:20.440 --> 00:41:24.599
she does, Yes, she does. I know. That's why, Like

674
00:41:24.639 --> 00:41:27.920
I'm up since five thirty in the morning because I'm

675
00:41:27.960 --> 00:41:30.280
scared when she gets up she's gonna end up like

676
00:41:30.320 --> 00:41:34.960
assaulting me like she always does. Do you know what

677
00:41:35.039 --> 00:41:37.039
it feels like to be assaulted by a fourteen by

678
00:41:37.119 --> 00:41:41.639
fourteen month old? They only like like straight slaps and

679
00:41:41.800 --> 00:41:43.239
pokes in her eyes, you know what I'm saying, Like

680
00:41:43.320 --> 00:41:44.039
ye have the saying.

681
00:41:44.000 --> 00:41:47.880
Wwe But you would do anything for her?

682
00:41:49.960 --> 00:41:52.400
Yeah, man, she slaps slapping the ship out of me.

683
00:41:52.559 --> 00:41:56.119
Yeah he's got she's got you whipped man.

684
00:41:57.199 --> 00:41:59.920
Yeah, of course she does. But you know what I'm

685
00:42:00.320 --> 00:42:02.440
but but you know what though, like besides that, you know,

686
00:42:02.559 --> 00:42:04.920
like It's very simple man, like just vibe you know,

687
00:42:05.039 --> 00:42:09.360
like like you know, let you know what, like I

688
00:42:09.440 --> 00:42:11.360
want to see if I can I want to see

689
00:42:11.440 --> 00:42:13.320
like you know what I'm saying, like like all right,

690
00:42:13.519 --> 00:42:16.960
you know what, people understand my humor. That's that's the

691
00:42:17.840 --> 00:42:19.800
That's a start, you know what I'm saying, Like if

692
00:42:19.840 --> 00:42:22.639
you get my humor, that's a start. But then, like

693
00:42:22.760 --> 00:42:25.079
you know, I want to see what happens when you

694
00:42:25.159 --> 00:42:26.920
when I switch it up on you. You know what

695
00:42:26.920 --> 00:42:30.320
I'm saying, like when the humor stops being humor and

696
00:42:31.559 --> 00:42:33.280
you know, it would be like a very deep conversation

697
00:42:35.159 --> 00:42:37.159
and you know what, And then all honestly, like I

698
00:42:37.320 --> 00:42:41.519
like to initiate ship like that and if and if

699
00:42:41.599 --> 00:42:44.159
you know what I'm saying, and if like the female

700
00:42:45.400 --> 00:42:47.960
could carry on, could like pick up like you know,

701
00:42:48.159 --> 00:42:50.360
like like pick the ball up off the ground and

702
00:42:50.440 --> 00:42:54.199
just start running with it, I'm all in. I like

703
00:42:54.320 --> 00:42:57.440
you like that to be honest mm hmmm. Intrigue me.

704
00:42:58.199 --> 00:43:00.400
Intrigued me with something that you know I'll probably won't know,

705
00:43:01.199 --> 00:43:03.320
you know, like like like like you know what, force

706
00:43:03.440 --> 00:43:05.280
me to force me to go to my phone and

707
00:43:05.360 --> 00:43:06.360
google some ship up.

708
00:43:08.880 --> 00:43:12.039
So so if you were saying something about you know,

709
00:43:12.199 --> 00:43:14.960
men being straight bitches and all that kind of stuff.

710
00:43:15.719 --> 00:43:18.320
Yeah, for the most part. So so in.

711
00:43:20.199 --> 00:43:26.440
In the current climate of people right now, relationships, you know,

712
00:43:26.559 --> 00:43:30.440
and all this kind of stuff. So you said it's

713
00:43:30.480 --> 00:43:34.880
a vibe, right, So in the current climate, at least

714
00:43:34.920 --> 00:43:39.440
the dating climate, the pool, Yo, the pool is pissy.

715
00:43:39.639 --> 00:43:43.000
Let me tell you the pool. The pool right now

716
00:43:43.119 --> 00:43:46.280
is a bunch of divorce seas. I hate to say it.

717
00:43:46.480 --> 00:43:49.280
You know what I'm saying, divorced season. Just like people

718
00:43:49.320 --> 00:43:50.679
who you know what I'm saying, people who are still

719
00:43:50.679 --> 00:43:51.800
trying to you know what I'm saying, Like half of

720
00:43:51.840 --> 00:43:54.559
it is deforced, these who have trust issues because of

721
00:43:54.880 --> 00:43:58.960
whatever happened in past relationship, and half is just with

722
00:43:59.199 --> 00:44:03.000
people that you know, they never grew up. They just

723
00:44:03.119 --> 00:44:04.920
grew down, you know, like.

724
00:44:05.000 --> 00:44:08.519
The matured and all that kind of stuff. But what

725
00:44:08.679 --> 00:44:13.800
it is is again, it's it's become this thing where

726
00:44:14.400 --> 00:44:20.719
people identify themselves, their their value based on whether they're

727
00:44:20.760 --> 00:44:24.519
in a relationship or not. Right, So, they're in relationships

728
00:44:24.559 --> 00:44:27.519
for the sake of not being alone or lonely, so

729
00:44:27.599 --> 00:44:32.639
they're making the wrong choices. And then because we are

730
00:44:32.880 --> 00:44:36.519
so hurt, you know, hurt people, hurt people because we

731
00:44:36.639 --> 00:44:39.679
are so hurt, we spend so much time hurting other people,

732
00:44:39.800 --> 00:44:42.679
and then it becomes this vicious cycle. Right, people just

733
00:44:42.760 --> 00:44:45.400
keep hurting and hurting and hurting. So then when somebody

734
00:44:45.440 --> 00:44:50.719
who's actually worth the time entered the energy to put

735
00:44:50.840 --> 00:44:56.159
into them, people can't believe that they're worthy that.

736
00:44:57.159 --> 00:44:57.320
You know.

737
00:44:58.599 --> 00:45:00.719
I had somebody tell me the other day, and I

738
00:45:00.800 --> 00:45:03.079
can't believe it because I've known this person for years

739
00:45:05.039 --> 00:45:08.480
that they felt that I was out of their league, right,

740
00:45:09.559 --> 00:45:13.920
And I'm like, I'm not out of anybody's league, because,

741
00:45:13.960 --> 00:45:16.679
first of all, if you're in my life, then that

742
00:45:16.800 --> 00:45:20.280
means you have value in my life. You know, I

743
00:45:20.360 --> 00:45:23.679
am no better, no worse than anybody else. I am

744
00:45:23.960 --> 00:45:27.039
choosing on the people that I keep, you know, like

745
00:45:27.159 --> 00:45:31.639
the company that I keep, you know. So it's like, yeah,

746
00:45:31.840 --> 00:45:35.800
so if you're in my life, then you're in my league.

747
00:45:36.159 --> 00:45:36.280
Right.

748
00:45:36.960 --> 00:45:41.920
So you're basically saying, because I might be a little

749
00:45:41.960 --> 00:45:47.320
bit intimidating or have thoughts and opinions things that you

750
00:45:47.920 --> 00:45:53.960
yourself are afraid of, you could potentially, I don't know,

751
00:45:54.599 --> 00:45:55.519
lose the greatest thing.

752
00:45:56.639 --> 00:46:00.760
Look, you know what, you know what is probably because

753
00:46:00.800 --> 00:46:03.000
of like, you know what I'm saying. I like him

754
00:46:03.039 --> 00:46:06.639
telling you that automatically, he's telling you that I put

755
00:46:06.679 --> 00:46:09.719
you in a higher standard than from the other woman

756
00:46:09.760 --> 00:46:16.440
I to mess with. That's what he's trying to tell you. Yeah,

757
00:46:16.480 --> 00:46:18.800
you know what I'm saying, like like like like all right,

758
00:46:20.079 --> 00:46:22.480
like like like all right, you know what. See the

759
00:46:22.559 --> 00:46:24.440
girls I messed with, they can stand on the soap

760
00:46:24.480 --> 00:46:26.079
box right here, but you got to stand at that

761
00:46:26.119 --> 00:46:29.440
pulldihum over there. That's why I'm placing you. Why, That's

762
00:46:29.480 --> 00:46:32.000
why he meant. That's why he said that. You know,

763
00:46:32.360 --> 00:46:32.760
I guess.

764
00:46:33.920 --> 00:46:36.000
But my thing is me as a person, right, And

765
00:46:36.079 --> 00:46:39.239
I was saying this to uh for Leon earlier. So

766
00:46:40.760 --> 00:46:46.480
the way I see life, my outlook on life. Come

767
00:46:46.559 --> 00:46:49.079
on you and your noise.

768
00:46:50.400 --> 00:46:52.960
Oh I'm sorry. I was like I was, you know,

769
00:46:53.119 --> 00:46:55.480
like I've been very sensitive, Like I think I took

770
00:46:55.480 --> 00:46:58.440
the wrong pills and like my nipples be getting extra sensitive.

771
00:47:00.079 --> 00:47:03.199
Plan has that got to do with your phone?

772
00:47:03.360 --> 00:47:06.480
Bro? I know?

773
00:47:07.119 --> 00:47:10.639
So you know, I was basically saying that the person

774
00:47:10.719 --> 00:47:14.559
that I am now, right, So all of the adversities,

775
00:47:14.840 --> 00:47:17.280
all of the hard times, everything in my life, good,

776
00:47:17.360 --> 00:47:21.480
bad and different has molded me and created me into

777
00:47:21.559 --> 00:47:24.400
the woman that I am today, right, and for that

778
00:47:24.719 --> 00:47:27.440
I am grateful. So that means I have no regrets,

779
00:47:27.800 --> 00:47:30.840
I have no animosity, and I have let go of

780
00:47:30.960 --> 00:47:32.760
all of the things that do not serve a purpose

781
00:47:32.800 --> 00:47:35.960
in my life. The anger I have forgiven not because

782
00:47:36.000 --> 00:47:38.719
people deserved it, but because I deserve the peace. So

783
00:47:38.960 --> 00:47:41.000
I've done my work on me. I've done all of this,

784
00:47:41.159 --> 00:47:43.000
so I'm in a place in my life where I

785
00:47:43.079 --> 00:47:44.760
know what I need, I know what I want. I

786
00:47:44.880 --> 00:47:49.480
am not perfect. I don't want perfect. I want real,

787
00:47:49.880 --> 00:47:53.239
I want genuine right. I want somebody. I want a

788
00:47:53.320 --> 00:47:57.000
man who can be vulnerable with me, even though he

789
00:47:57.119 --> 00:47:59.599
may not be able to be outside in the world.

790
00:48:00.239 --> 00:48:02.920
I want to be that safe space. You know, and

791
00:48:03.079 --> 00:48:06.800
and Corleon, you had said something about a woman who

792
00:48:06.840 --> 00:48:10.199
can be a man's peace. Right. The unfortunate thing is

793
00:48:10.880 --> 00:48:12.679
somebody cannot be your peace.

794
00:48:13.400 --> 00:48:13.440
You.

795
00:48:15.000 --> 00:48:17.280
Yeah, you have to be at peace with yourself.

796
00:48:17.840 --> 00:48:18.440
She can.

797
00:48:20.159 --> 00:48:23.920
Nurture the piece, she can help you maintain your peace,

798
00:48:24.360 --> 00:48:26.519
but she would be your peace or.

799
00:48:29.119 --> 00:48:30.440
That I say, peace of mind?

800
00:48:31.199 --> 00:48:34.719
Oh you did you? Did? You? Did? People say that

801
00:48:34.800 --> 00:48:38.280
all the time though, or you know what, when you

802
00:48:38.320 --> 00:48:40.199
don't find peace within her. You know what I'm saying,

803
00:48:40.239 --> 00:48:41.519
You just leave and find you know what I'm saying,

804
00:48:41.559 --> 00:48:44.039
peace within yourself. Well, you have to.

805
00:48:44.519 --> 00:48:46.320
And that's the thing. I think that's where we go

806
00:48:46.480 --> 00:48:50.239
wrong though, is we're depending on other people to be

807
00:48:50.480 --> 00:48:54.199
something for us instead of coming to the table as

808
00:48:54.400 --> 00:48:58.559
that and meeting someone who is also at that place

809
00:48:59.079 --> 00:49:02.400
so that you can maintain that together, not create it,

810
00:49:02.480 --> 00:49:05.559
but maintain it because you have to bring something to

811
00:49:05.679 --> 00:49:08.039
the table. They have to bring something to the table.

812
00:49:08.400 --> 00:49:10.840
And that's why I said, right now, my my season

813
00:49:10.960 --> 00:49:14.559
of life is becoming the woman that I want a

814
00:49:14.679 --> 00:49:17.440
man to be for me. So if I want something

815
00:49:17.519 --> 00:49:19.239
for me, I have to be willing to do the

816
00:49:19.280 --> 00:49:19.880
same for them.

817
00:49:20.360 --> 00:49:22.400
So you know, like.

818
00:49:23.920 --> 00:49:26.559
What I you know, and see, see that's why how

819
00:49:26.679 --> 00:49:28.800
I know I'm getting old because I go from the

820
00:49:28.920 --> 00:49:30.679
thing and then I forget what I was what I

821
00:49:30.800 --> 00:49:34.960
was saying because you know why something Yes, it is

822
00:49:35.119 --> 00:49:38.000
definitely my ads not not not.

823
00:49:38.519 --> 00:49:41.199
You know what. Now I'm listening and I'm like, I'm like, yo,

824
00:49:41.239 --> 00:49:43.239
you know what, See like this is like you know

825
00:49:43.280 --> 00:49:46.639
what I'm saying, this is just what's being said right

826
00:49:46.679 --> 00:49:49.719
now is as you know, what I'm saying, Like I

827
00:49:49.800 --> 00:49:52.519
think all of us are going through it on that part,

828
00:49:52.639 --> 00:49:56.760
like you know, like it's not about rediscovering, it's about

829
00:49:56.840 --> 00:49:59.360
you know, but but in the way it is, you

830
00:49:59.400 --> 00:50:00.960
know what I'm saying. The way it is because like

831
00:50:01.599 --> 00:50:04.360
because like sometimes you know, sometimes like you know what

832
00:50:04.360 --> 00:50:07.880
I'm saying, the identity we have is with our ex

833
00:50:08.000 --> 00:50:11.280
partners and stuff. Ye see me see me, like none

834
00:50:11.280 --> 00:50:12.679
of my relationships has to no more than you know

835
00:50:12.679 --> 00:50:14.440
what I'm saying, no longer than five years. So I

836
00:50:14.760 --> 00:50:16.599
really didn't care, you know what I'm saying. My identity

837
00:50:16.679 --> 00:50:21.880
was all over the place, all right, So like I'll

838
00:50:21.920 --> 00:50:25.440
have a child, you know this, and you know, but

839
00:50:25.639 --> 00:50:27.679
and now I'm sure that this is gonna be my

840
00:50:27.760 --> 00:50:33.360
identity forever in a day and I'm all right with that.

841
00:50:33.719 --> 00:50:36.400
And I'm good with that, and that's the important thing, you.

842
00:50:36.440 --> 00:50:39.280
Know, Like I'm okay with that, you know, Like like

843
00:50:39.360 --> 00:50:43.159
you know, I'm okay with with you know what I'm saying.

844
00:50:43.199 --> 00:50:47.400
Like with annoying someone who is trolling them as ship,

845
00:50:48.199 --> 00:50:51.079
it's fun for me. I get trolled on too, you know,

846
00:50:51.239 --> 00:50:54.880
like you know, like my daughter she yells at me,

847
00:50:54.960 --> 00:50:57.239
I can't eat ice cream and peace. No more, you know,

848
00:50:57.400 --> 00:51:01.679
like I can't eat nothing. That's someone she has teeth,

849
00:51:01.840 --> 00:51:05.639
she bites me. You know, I'm getting used to this abuse,

850
00:51:06.760 --> 00:51:10.400
get used to this, you know, like you know, you

851
00:51:10.480 --> 00:51:12.159
know at this at this point, you know what I'm

852
00:51:12.159 --> 00:51:15.360
saying with my daughter in charge. Right, it's fun. But

853
00:51:15.480 --> 00:51:17.880
it's like I almost have Stockholm sundrome.

854
00:51:18.800 --> 00:51:19.519
You have purpose?

855
00:51:19.639 --> 00:51:23.559
Do they? Ten of they? Ten of my hostage situation.

856
00:51:24.519 --> 00:51:29.239
This little, this little cute, adurable young lady seems to

857
00:51:29.280 --> 00:51:33.360
be grasping at my heartstrings. However, just when I go

858
00:51:33.440 --> 00:51:36.679
give her a hug, she slaps me because.

859
00:51:36.440 --> 00:51:41.239
She don't want you to get too whooped. Yeah, she

860
00:51:41.400 --> 00:51:42.519
needs you to still be the man.

861
00:51:44.760 --> 00:51:48.039
She slaps me. She google gud guys me. Yeah, I'm

862
00:51:48.079 --> 00:51:53.760
telling you man like, like you know what, Oh yeah,

863
00:51:53.800 --> 00:51:55.719
but this is fun, man like, it really is.

864
00:51:56.360 --> 00:51:59.280
It's just that, you know, people would give it a chance.

865
00:51:59.480 --> 00:52:03.360
That's the thing. If people would would stop sitting in

866
00:52:03.440 --> 00:52:07.360
their egos, stop sitting in their pain, and not give

867
00:52:07.480 --> 00:52:09.639
up on what is out there, they'll find it. So

868
00:52:09.760 --> 00:52:11.840
what I was saying about me as a person is

869
00:52:12.719 --> 00:52:15.760
because I'm in the season of my life, I tend

870
00:52:16.280 --> 00:52:20.920
to shine, not literally shine, but like on the inside.

871
00:52:21.239 --> 00:52:24.239
If somebody just kind of cracked me open, they'd have

872
00:52:24.320 --> 00:52:28.400
to put on sunglasses, all right, because the love that.

873
00:52:28.440 --> 00:52:32.039
I have, that's not that's not that's not the kind

874
00:52:32.079 --> 00:52:37.679
of sexual just but but but but you know what though,

875
00:52:37.760 --> 00:52:39.519
but but but you know what though, But you know

876
00:52:39.599 --> 00:52:44.440
what my thoughts come on. I just wanted to attribute

877
00:52:44.440 --> 00:52:47.480
I just want to help you with your ADHD. Well,

878
00:52:47.519 --> 00:52:49.000
I actually want to help your ADHD.

879
00:52:49.800 --> 00:52:51.679
You can't. That's why I take.

880
00:52:53.400 --> 00:52:55.559
But I'm doing a good job because you lose a focus.

881
00:52:57.280 --> 00:52:58.159
Dubs one.

882
00:53:00.159 --> 00:53:05.639
Power, bro, you ain't got that power. I'm shy. So

883
00:53:05.760 --> 00:53:08.440
I'm so shiny that I have a tendency. And this

884
00:53:08.639 --> 00:53:11.159
is something that I had to realize. I have a

885
00:53:11.280 --> 00:53:17.599
tendency to attract the broken and the emotionally unavailable. But

886
00:53:17.719 --> 00:53:22.039
that's because I am nurturing, I am loving. I have

887
00:53:22.119 --> 00:53:25.320
a big heart. I'm not afraid. I'm not afraid to

888
00:53:25.440 --> 00:53:33.079
use it exactly, and so I attract people who need care, love,

889
00:53:33.920 --> 00:53:38.039
you know, who need that extra attention who haven't received it.

890
00:53:38.199 --> 00:53:38.320
Right.

891
00:53:38.960 --> 00:53:45.440
But it's my job to understand the difference between a

892
00:53:45.599 --> 00:53:51.039
partner and a project, right, which is what makes it

893
00:53:51.079 --> 00:53:55.559
difficult in my dating world right because I'm looking for

894
00:53:55.719 --> 00:54:00.400
my equal and although there is nothing wrong with the

895
00:54:00.480 --> 00:54:03.719
people that I do attract other than the fact that

896
00:54:03.920 --> 00:54:07.719
they themselves are hurting and suffering, it is not my

897
00:54:08.039 --> 00:54:11.280
job to be the healer. It is my job to

898
00:54:11.360 --> 00:54:14.320
be the supporter. But I need you to come to

899
00:54:14.519 --> 00:54:17.280
me healed. I need you to come to me whole

900
00:54:18.760 --> 00:54:21.159
so that I can help you maintain that and you

901
00:54:21.360 --> 00:54:24.920
help me maintain mine. The problem is people are being

902
00:54:25.000 --> 00:54:27.639
with each other just for the sake of not being alone,

903
00:54:27.960 --> 00:54:32.480
lonely or bored. I think so they're making bad choice.

904
00:54:33.000 --> 00:54:34.880
You know something, You're right, Yah, you're right.

905
00:54:34.880 --> 00:54:36.400
You know what I'm saying, because like yo, you know what,

906
00:54:36.960 --> 00:54:38.840
once upon a time, each and every one of us

907
00:54:39.039 --> 00:54:43.039
was scared to be alone until until it became that

908
00:54:43.199 --> 00:54:45.960
point of us have no choice but to be alone,

909
00:54:46.400 --> 00:54:49.360
because you know what, Like I could tell you what

910
00:54:49.480 --> 00:54:52.000
me like, I always had a backup playing you know

911
00:54:52.000 --> 00:54:55.920
what I'm saying. Somebody was my but somebody was you know,

912
00:54:56.159 --> 00:54:59.440
my safety and that and then I stopped using people

913
00:54:59.519 --> 00:55:01.599
at safety. That's and I'm like, you know what, if

914
00:55:01.599 --> 00:55:04.920
I'm gonna fall, let me enjoy the fall. Then period,

915
00:55:05.800 --> 00:55:07.719
and believe me, you know what I'm saying, it was something,

916
00:55:07.960 --> 00:55:11.880
It was something I had to do so after like

917
00:55:11.920 --> 00:55:13.840
you know what I'm saying, like really know what you

918
00:55:13.880 --> 00:55:16.039
know what I'm saying, what the pain was like, because

919
00:55:16.119 --> 00:55:18.440
like I was, because like you know what, have a

920
00:55:18.480 --> 00:55:21.239
safe thing that's you always delayed the inevitable. M h.

921
00:55:22.400 --> 00:55:26.920
You know you're always delayed the inevitable, Like you're delaying

922
00:55:27.320 --> 00:55:31.920
that time with yourself, you know. Like, so backup plans,

923
00:55:31.920 --> 00:55:33.199
you know what I'm saying, They sound good, you know

924
00:55:33.199 --> 00:55:35.920
what I'm saying at the opening page or whatever, But

925
00:55:36.880 --> 00:55:38.320
when you get down, like you know what I'm saying

926
00:55:38.440 --> 00:55:40.559
to the end of the chapter, the back of plans

927
00:55:41.000 --> 00:55:43.880
just no better than than what you just came out of.

928
00:55:44.559 --> 00:55:48.199
Because even though they even though your backup plan has

929
00:55:48.239 --> 00:55:52.519
good intentions for you, you don't have good intentions for

930
00:55:52.559 --> 00:55:55.519
your back up plan because you're being this person as hell.

931
00:55:55.599 --> 00:55:58.800
You know what, You're just a bench player, you know

932
00:55:58.800 --> 00:56:00.480
what I'm saying. You're the six man or the team.

933
00:56:00.719 --> 00:56:02.400
You know what I'm saying. You know what I mean,

934
00:56:02.519 --> 00:56:04.559
Like I just pulled God the best because my start

935
00:56:04.639 --> 00:56:12.559
is acting up, you know, and it it's you know what.

936
00:56:12.719 --> 00:56:16.159
It stunts the growth of a person in general. Like

937
00:56:16.320 --> 00:56:19.320
never mind if it's a man or a female or

938
00:56:19.559 --> 00:56:23.760
a woman. It's stunted, emotionally, stunt your growth as a person.

939
00:56:25.000 --> 00:56:27.679
So if you're gonna fall, go ahead, fall, you know,

940
00:56:27.920 --> 00:56:30.400
just make sure that you know the people around you.

941
00:56:31.599 --> 00:56:33.480
They'll be there to pick you up and help you

942
00:56:33.559 --> 00:56:34.760
and you know, help you go through it.

943
00:56:37.599 --> 00:56:39.840
Okay, that makes a lot of sense. But that was

944
00:56:39.880 --> 00:56:44.960
a good point. So mhm, I'm proud of you, dugs.

945
00:56:44.960 --> 00:56:45.440
That was good.

946
00:56:45.519 --> 00:56:51.840
Bro Bro Bro Bro family. I've learned a lot from

947
00:56:51.880 --> 00:56:56.320
my mistakes, bro, like a lot, like a lot, you know,

948
00:56:56.440 --> 00:56:57.920
Like I'm gonna you know, you know what, I'm in

949
00:56:58.000 --> 00:57:01.280
a hostage situation right now. You know, these two these

950
00:57:01.280 --> 00:57:03.679
two women have me hostage, and I think it's a

951
00:57:03.719 --> 00:57:06.840
lifetime thing. And I'm okay, I'm okay. I'm okay with

952
00:57:06.960 --> 00:57:10.800
my Stockholm syndrome. Son, you feel me. I'm okay being

953
00:57:10.840 --> 00:57:13.320
a hostage. I'm okay.

954
00:57:14.800 --> 00:57:19.400
I just I just that's fantastic. So let me.

955
00:57:20.559 --> 00:57:22.760
I'm joking around with the Stockholm syndrome things like yo,

956
00:57:22.880 --> 00:57:25.000
let me stop, man, But like you know what I'm saying.

957
00:57:25.000 --> 00:57:31.039
Me, I'm gonna go over my five things real quick,

958
00:57:32.960 --> 00:57:38.079
and let's let's see how this goes. All right.

959
00:57:39.039 --> 00:57:40.880
She gotta be a Marvel fan. She got to be

960
00:57:40.920 --> 00:57:44.920
a Commander fan. She must love that pool or else.

961
00:57:47.960 --> 00:57:50.280
I just I'm just go ahead.

962
00:57:51.199 --> 00:57:55.800
So I was, I was talking about this earlier, but

963
00:57:57.039 --> 00:58:04.400
definitely a man wants my for me. I want peace now,

964
00:58:04.480 --> 00:58:07.960
I know, I said, I said, you know you thought

965
00:58:08.000 --> 00:58:09.960
I said, you know, I want a woman to give

966
00:58:10.000 --> 00:58:13.559
me peace now. I want peace of mind, knowing that

967
00:58:14.360 --> 00:58:17.760
I don't have to worry about certain things, or I

968
00:58:17.840 --> 00:58:23.039
don't have to. I don't have to stress over certain

969
00:58:23.119 --> 00:58:26.559
things because I trust you enough. You know, your loyal,

970
00:58:26.639 --> 00:58:29.960
your honest, just straightforward. You know what I'm saying, peace

971
00:58:30.000 --> 00:58:35.679
of mind. Uh, the kind of atmosphere where we'll both

972
00:58:35.719 --> 00:58:38.840
be happy, you know, a place to relax and think,

973
00:58:39.719 --> 00:58:47.880
you know, share, plan and reach out and conquer the

974
00:58:47.920 --> 00:58:50.920
world together. You know what I'm saying, fulfill the purpose

975
00:58:52.039 --> 00:59:01.199
of to help fulfill that purpose that that we can

976
00:59:01.280 --> 00:59:09.039
both share together without stress, problems, things we can take

977
00:59:09.119 --> 00:59:12.480
care of together. You know what I'm saying. Unders two

978
00:59:12.719 --> 00:59:13.559
is understanding.

979
00:59:14.519 --> 00:59:14.760
You know.

980
00:59:16.880 --> 00:59:19.719
I want someone to understand me. You know what I'm saying.

981
00:59:20.960 --> 00:59:24.920
I want somebody to understand my capacity, my nature, my calling.

982
00:59:25.800 --> 00:59:29.280
You know somebody who's gonna be able to that's just gone.

983
00:59:33.000 --> 00:59:36.840
You know, understand my likes, my dislikes. You know somebody

984
00:59:36.880 --> 00:59:40.679
who's gonna understand what I go through on a day

985
00:59:40.719 --> 00:59:46.639
to day basis. You know what I mean. Let me

986
00:59:46.679 --> 00:59:52.000
see encouragement. You know what I mean. I might not,

987
00:59:53.159 --> 00:59:58.840
I might not always say it, but a man needs

988
00:59:59.280 --> 01:00:02.039
a man like like me needs some encouragement sometimes.

989
01:00:02.840 --> 01:00:06.800
You know what I mean, Bro, Everyone needs encouragement. It's

990
01:00:06.800 --> 01:00:08.440
not it's not only a man of female.

991
01:00:08.519 --> 01:00:11.880
I want to hold on. Let me let me feel

992
01:00:12.000 --> 01:00:13.239
my best, my bad.

993
01:00:14.239 --> 01:00:16.880
I love all this show, I love all this my bad.

994
01:00:17.039 --> 01:00:23.840
So I want I want. I want my words to

995
01:00:24.039 --> 01:00:27.960
mean something to to someone. You know what I'm saying.

996
01:00:28.000 --> 01:00:33.960
I want what I say two to resonate. You know

997
01:00:33.960 --> 01:00:34.480
what I'm saying.

998
01:00:37.519 --> 01:00:37.719
You know.

999
01:00:40.280 --> 01:00:44.360
I want to. I want to be able to to

1000
01:00:44.480 --> 01:00:49.000
be too. How do I say it? I want no,

1001
01:00:49.239 --> 01:00:50.760
I know, I definitely want to be I want to

1002
01:00:50.800 --> 01:00:54.480
be heard. I want to be count I don't want

1003
01:00:55.079 --> 01:00:57.159
I want to see I start to I get the

1004
01:00:57.239 --> 01:00:58.960
stutter when I want to want to say so much

1005
01:00:59.039 --> 01:01:06.039
at one time. It's to adhd you believe, you know,

1006
01:01:06.239 --> 01:01:09.360
the kind of ship like like, honey, I know you're trying.

1007
01:01:09.840 --> 01:01:14.920
I love you. I see the sacrifice of encouragements, encouragement,

1008
01:01:15.039 --> 01:01:17.880
our future. Thank you. You know what I said, Encourage

1009
01:01:17.880 --> 01:01:20.280
the baby. You can do it? You Yeah, like encouragement,

1010
01:01:20.320 --> 01:01:22.719
that's what That's what I said. That's my number three encouragement.

1011
01:01:23.079 --> 01:01:26.320
But I'm just saying, just giving you examples, right, But you.

1012
01:01:26.440 --> 01:01:29.280
Also have to understand that that comes with actions. Cordeon,

1013
01:01:29.480 --> 01:01:31.719
Like you can't just say the words. You got to

1014
01:01:31.800 --> 01:01:32.800
show them those words.

1015
01:01:33.159 --> 01:01:34.000
No, I know.

1016
01:01:34.239 --> 01:01:39.079
But what I'm trying to say is that for me personally, yep,

1017
01:01:39.559 --> 01:01:42.840
because I'm the kind of I'm the hold up, oh.

1018
01:01:44.440 --> 01:01:49.119
Killing me, My bad, because I have just thought about something, all.

1019
01:01:49.079 --> 01:01:52.599
Right, so hold hold up. So you know, I think

1020
01:01:54.599 --> 01:01:58.880
I think a man can really cherish and love a

1021
01:01:58.960 --> 01:02:05.039
woman to the fullest who was very encouraging, you know

1022
01:02:05.079 --> 01:02:08.320
what I'm saying, and and wants them to succeed, wants

1023
01:02:08.400 --> 01:02:12.199
them to be able to to reach their goals and

1024
01:02:12.320 --> 01:02:17.480
be able to you know, look back and say, you

1025
01:02:17.559 --> 01:02:17.800
know what.

1026
01:02:19.679 --> 01:02:20.119
She was.

1027
01:02:20.440 --> 01:02:22.360
She was my she was my rock and all this

1028
01:02:23.440 --> 01:02:27.119
I I I succeeded because I had the encouragement from

1029
01:02:27.199 --> 01:02:30.639
someone who loves me enough to stand by me and

1030
01:02:32.840 --> 01:02:37.920
help me get through the struggles that I had to

1031
01:02:38.000 --> 01:02:40.599
get to where I am today. You know what I'm saying.

1032
01:02:40.679 --> 01:02:43.840
I mean, I could, I can do that. But it's

1033
01:02:43.960 --> 01:02:49.400
also the kind of thing where if you have that

1034
01:02:49.639 --> 01:02:54.440
encouragement and you have that that that backup you know

1035
01:02:54.440 --> 01:03:00.840
what I'm saying, to the backup motivation kind of like

1036
01:03:01.000 --> 01:03:04.000
kind of like the motivation, not many motivation, because motivation,

1037
01:03:04.559 --> 01:03:06.880
you know, I can motivate myself to do ship.

1038
01:03:07.039 --> 01:03:12.199
But I think if it's it's half half, Yeah.

1039
01:03:12.159 --> 01:03:15.719
Well you got to understand something, Corleon, If you don't

1040
01:03:15.760 --> 01:03:18.480
have that in yourself, she can't do that.

1041
01:03:18.880 --> 01:03:19.239
She can't.

1042
01:03:19.400 --> 01:03:23.679
But but but I'm not I'm not saying. What I'm

1043
01:03:23.760 --> 01:03:32.519
trying to say is yeah, that sucked up. But I

1044
01:03:32.599 --> 01:03:36.639
think what I'm trying to say is that I can

1045
01:03:36.800 --> 01:03:37.760
believe in myself.

1046
01:03:38.400 --> 01:03:38.719
Mm hm.

1047
01:03:39.239 --> 01:03:42.840
You know what I'm saying. I I know that there's

1048
01:03:42.920 --> 01:03:46.920
ship I have that I need to accomplish, you know

1049
01:03:46.920 --> 01:03:50.400
what I mean? But and you will always good to

1050
01:03:50.559 --> 01:03:54.119
have that cheerleader, you know what I'm saying, Like somebody

1051
01:03:54.199 --> 01:03:56.039
to be like, damn baby, you know, you know you

1052
01:03:56.079 --> 01:03:58.320
could do this ship. This is this is all you like,

1053
01:03:58.440 --> 01:04:01.519
this is you could do this ship. You know what

1054
01:04:01.519 --> 01:04:06.000
I'm saying, if I if I fail at something, you know,

1055
01:04:06.559 --> 01:04:09.599
I know, to pick myself up and take what i've

1056
01:04:09.760 --> 01:04:12.440
what what made, and take what I what what was,

1057
01:04:12.800 --> 01:04:17.199
take the failure, apply it and move forward. You know

1058
01:04:17.199 --> 01:04:21.320
what I'm saying. I learn from my mistakes, pick myself up,

1059
01:04:21.440 --> 01:04:25.440
and move forward. I know that. But it's always good

1060
01:04:25.519 --> 01:04:32.719
to have that support, you know, from someone who who's

1061
01:04:32.760 --> 01:04:36.320
gonna sit there and say to you, damn man, you

1062
01:04:37.559 --> 01:04:41.039
you know you stumbled, but you picked yourself up and

1063
01:04:41.159 --> 01:04:44.360
you're doing it. Baby, you know you you you know,

1064
01:04:44.599 --> 01:04:48.360
like reassurance. Sometimes it's good to be reassured that you

1065
01:04:48.519 --> 01:04:51.000
you're on the right track, you know what I'm saying.

1066
01:04:51.079 --> 01:04:56.159
I mean, And then I only have four to be

1067
01:04:56.280 --> 01:05:00.800
honest with you. But affection and you care like you

1068
01:05:00.880 --> 01:05:03.360
want somebody to be affectionate with you. You know what

1069
01:05:03.360 --> 01:05:03.719
I'm saying.

1070
01:05:03.760 --> 01:05:06.719
You want you not in the summertime. Not in summertimes.

1071
01:05:06.719 --> 01:05:14.679
Too high for that ship, noah, bro, you nah, it's too.

1072
01:05:16.400 --> 01:05:23.719
Yeah. Well, care and affection that's that's that's pretty much

1073
01:05:23.840 --> 01:05:29.280
what it is so cold, like like, you know what

1074
01:05:29.920 --> 01:05:30.400
hold up?

1075
01:05:30.440 --> 01:05:30.519
Bro?

1076
01:05:30.679 --> 01:05:36.360
Peace of mind, understanding, encouragement, affection and care.

1077
01:05:37.119 --> 01:05:39.320
You know what, I have a bone to pick with

1078
01:05:39.400 --> 01:05:42.639
you dog? What happened to pillaging? What happened to pillaging

1079
01:05:42.719 --> 01:05:44.960
someone that you could chop bodies with? You know what

1080
01:05:44.960 --> 01:05:47.719
I'm saying? Like like, yo, you know what? Did you get? Soft?

1081
01:05:47.760 --> 01:05:49.920
Don't mean bro? Like like what's up with you? No?

1082
01:05:50.039 --> 01:05:51.679
I didn't get I didn't get solved. I'm the one

1083
01:05:52.480 --> 01:05:59.719
Paul did did hold on? Yeah? All right, So now

1084
01:06:00.079 --> 01:06:05.000
that now that that has been said, I had I

1085
01:06:05.159 --> 01:06:13.440
had gotten an email from someone from a fan of

1086
01:06:13.519 --> 01:06:21.559
the show that wanted my opinion on how she should

1087
01:06:21.639 --> 01:06:29.000
deal with a past relationship. So I went, I went

1088
01:06:29.199 --> 01:06:33.199
scouring throughout the internet looking for some things that I

1089
01:06:33.320 --> 01:06:39.199
can throw together. And this is what I pretty much

1090
01:06:39.280 --> 01:06:41.400
came up with. Right, So I had it. I had it,

1091
01:06:41.559 --> 01:06:44.440
literally And it took me forever to type this shit

1092
01:06:44.519 --> 01:06:48.440
out because I don't it doesn't I don't know. I

1093
01:06:48.559 --> 01:06:50.920
just had a hard time. But this is what I

1094
01:06:51.199 --> 01:06:58.880
what I think. All right? So all right, so I

1095
01:06:59.039 --> 01:07:02.000
know I know when you're with someone for so long,

1096
01:07:02.519 --> 01:07:06.360
when you're with someone that you've either been married to

1097
01:07:06.679 --> 01:07:10.280
or with someone for so many years, however long your

1098
01:07:10.360 --> 01:07:17.840
relationship has lasted. You know, I know it hurts. It's

1099
01:07:17.880 --> 01:07:21.119
a very strange feeling. How someone can be in your

1100
01:07:21.159 --> 01:07:25.400
life for months or maybe even years, and then one day,

1101
01:07:25.440 --> 01:07:31.039
all of a sudden, they're not daring anymore. Maybe the

1102
01:07:31.119 --> 01:07:37.599
relationship ended on good terms, or maybe it was completely catastrophic.

1103
01:07:38.519 --> 01:07:42.599
Either way, it's still morning either way.

1104
01:07:43.880 --> 01:07:48.280
It's so bizarre how relationships can change the how relationships

1105
01:07:48.320 --> 01:07:56.840
can change you rapidly. So you may not be at

1106
01:07:57.079 --> 01:07:59.360
you may not be at peace of what happened between

1107
01:07:59.360 --> 01:08:04.840
the both of you, and that's perfectly fine. But sometimes

1108
01:08:04.880 --> 01:08:08.519
the end of a relationship can literally literally be one

1109
01:08:08.559 --> 01:08:11.400
of the hardest things you go through in life. Which

1110
01:08:11.480 --> 01:08:17.840
is true certain relationships that you go through that you have,

1111
01:08:18.239 --> 01:08:21.920
whether it's it was months, days, years, or whatever, something,

1112
01:08:22.039 --> 01:08:24.960
you always carry something from that relationship.

1113
01:08:27.039 --> 01:08:28.880
But you know, but you know what, though, real quick,

1114
01:08:29.359 --> 01:08:31.439
if you've been with them for like, like let's say

1115
01:08:31.439 --> 01:08:33.239
you know you've been with them for like ten years,

1116
01:08:33.880 --> 01:08:37.079
like that's you know what I'm saying, Like the healing

1117
01:08:37.119 --> 01:08:38.560
process is going to take longer than that.

1118
01:08:40.920 --> 01:08:43.600
Try twenty two yeah, anyway.

1119
01:08:43.359 --> 01:08:46.439
Listen, listen, you know what listen you know what the

1120
01:08:47.079 --> 01:08:50.640
like like you know, like and that situation. I was

1121
01:08:50.720 --> 01:08:55.159
there for that person's situation, right, and all I kept

1122
01:08:55.199 --> 01:08:56.680
on telling this person was like, Yo, you know what.

1123
01:08:57.119 --> 01:08:59.159
I know it feels wrong. I know you feel empty,

1124
01:08:59.159 --> 01:09:01.600
but Yo, you're doing the right and you know so

1125
01:09:02.399 --> 01:09:07.199
like like you know, like like I don't know, yo,

1126
01:09:07.760 --> 01:09:09.880
like this relationship things. There's relationship things. You know what

1127
01:09:09.880 --> 01:09:11.399
I'm saying, My bad, My bad if I keep on

1128
01:09:11.479 --> 01:09:13.199
cutting you off because I just took a painkiller that

1129
01:09:13.239 --> 01:09:16.239
got me feeling open right now, because I'm paining right now,

1130
01:09:17.199 --> 01:09:21.119
right the relationship thing like like you know, like there's

1131
01:09:21.119 --> 01:09:23.600
a lot of things that you know that that you

1132
01:09:23.680 --> 01:09:25.159
know like that, like you know what I'm saying, Like

1133
01:09:25.239 --> 01:09:28.800
it's a lot of toxic ship I've done right the

1134
01:09:28.920 --> 01:09:32.199
hour gaslight and everything and all that stuff, and I

1135
01:09:32.319 --> 01:09:35.079
look back at it now and I regret it, you know,

1136
01:09:35.199 --> 01:09:37.319
like like I regret you know, hurting the people that

1137
01:09:37.399 --> 01:09:42.399
didn't deserve to get hurt, but I don't regret doing

1138
01:09:42.479 --> 01:09:43.760
people dirty who deserved it.

1139
01:09:44.960 --> 01:09:55.920
M So, oh all right, So you have so you've

1140
01:09:55.960 --> 01:09:58.479
made a lot of memories with this person. You know

1141
01:09:58.479 --> 01:10:02.479
what I'm saying, You made good ones, there's bad ones.

1142
01:10:05.800 --> 01:10:09.520
Some some of the memories are hard to disregard and

1143
01:10:09.560 --> 01:10:12.399
get rid of, you know what I'm saying. I know

1144
01:10:12.600 --> 01:10:17.119
looking at the memories can be hard. You may wish

1145
01:10:17.239 --> 01:10:21.600
you could forget them. But instead of forgetting them, maybe

1146
01:10:21.640 --> 01:10:23.920
you should try and focus of what came out from

1147
01:10:24.000 --> 01:10:28.640
the relationship, what came out of it. First of all,

1148
01:10:30.000 --> 01:10:33.800
you came across this person's path for a reason. They say,

1149
01:10:33.880 --> 01:10:36.720
every person you meet in your life is for a reason.

1150
01:10:38.880 --> 01:10:41.760
Sometimes it's a positive thing, sometimes it's a negative thing.

1151
01:10:42.920 --> 01:10:48.760
You know, maybe you you're one of those kinds of

1152
01:10:48.840 --> 01:10:54.439
people that cross someone who may understand them in a

1153
01:10:54.479 --> 01:10:57.880
way someone else has never understood them, and vice versa.

1154
01:10:59.720 --> 01:11:02.399
Maybe you encourage one another to be strong or to

1155
01:11:02.560 --> 01:11:07.680
embrace who they genuinely are as a person, or maybe

1156
01:11:07.720 --> 01:11:11.800
your relationship with them open your eyes and their eyes

1157
01:11:11.840 --> 01:11:14.800
to a truly what to what you truly needed in

1158
01:11:14.960 --> 01:11:23.520
your own life. Ah So, regardless of what the reasoning was,

1159
01:11:24.600 --> 01:11:30.399
it's okay to acknowledge those things, you know. It's okay

1160
01:11:30.520 --> 01:11:34.399
to acknowledge that. It's okay to acknowledge that a person

1161
01:11:34.720 --> 01:11:41.199
means or meant something to you. It's also okay that

1162
01:11:41.319 --> 01:11:44.119
they're not in your life anymore. It's all right. You

1163
01:11:44.159 --> 01:11:46.359
know what I'm saying. You you you live, you learn,

1164
01:11:46.439 --> 01:11:49.960
you move forward. You don't, you don't, you try not

1165
01:11:50.039 --> 01:11:55.239
to dwell. You just look at it as an experience,

1166
01:11:55.840 --> 01:11:59.720
something you went through, something, whether or not it was

1167
01:12:00.399 --> 01:12:03.439
a good breakup or bad breakup, whatever it is. You

1168
01:12:04.600 --> 01:12:10.680
move forward. You take from that relationship and you work

1169
01:12:10.760 --> 01:12:15.640
on the next one in a way that you know

1170
01:12:17.000 --> 01:12:22.119
you won't make the same mistake. What a lot of

1171
01:12:22.159 --> 01:12:26.319
people don't understand is that not every relationship we encounter

1172
01:12:26.920 --> 01:12:32.159
will last a lifetime. That's something people don't understand that

1173
01:12:32.359 --> 01:12:36.399
sometimes you get into a relationship with someone and it's

1174
01:12:36.439 --> 01:12:41.880
not always meant to be a lifetime relationship. You know

1175
01:12:41.920 --> 01:12:44.239
what I'm saying. Sometimes people come into your life. They

1176
01:12:44.319 --> 01:12:48.319
come in and they spend some time with you, and

1177
01:12:48.439 --> 01:12:52.800
they go. They serve their purpose in your life. They

1178
01:12:52.960 --> 01:12:57.600
showed you what it is they're about and what it

1179
01:12:57.760 --> 01:13:02.800
is that what was important for them. How do I

1180
01:13:02.880 --> 01:13:07.840
say it? I'm not trying to say, all right, so.

1181
01:13:11.760 --> 01:13:14.920
A reason, a season or a lifetime, everyone that comes

1182
01:13:14.960 --> 01:13:18.000
into your life has a purpose. You get the purpose,

1183
01:13:18.359 --> 01:13:21.720
you learn, the lesson you keep it going, keep it moving.

1184
01:13:21.880 --> 01:13:26.359
Exactly what you need to do is like I said,

1185
01:13:26.479 --> 01:13:29.239
take what you learned in the relationship and move forward

1186
01:13:29.279 --> 01:13:32.920
in your life knowing that there are other relationships that

1187
01:13:33.680 --> 01:13:36.479
will give you exactly what you always wanted and dreamed for,

1188
01:13:37.039 --> 01:13:39.760
dreamed of and more so, you're gonna come across people

1189
01:13:40.119 --> 01:13:42.760
that are gonna give you the things that you've always wanted,

1190
01:13:43.600 --> 01:13:45.399
that are going to give you the things that you've

1191
01:13:45.439 --> 01:13:51.199
always you know, needed to learn. And you know you

1192
01:13:52.680 --> 01:13:55.239
you learned from that. You know you it's it's it's

1193
01:13:55.319 --> 01:14:04.119
it's so you're not always going to feel the same

1194
01:14:04.159 --> 01:14:08.319
way forever. When it comes to the end of a relationship.

1195
01:14:11.520 --> 01:14:14.279
You will continue to move forward. You will continue to

1196
01:14:14.399 --> 01:14:18.560
grow with every day that passes. You know what I'm saying.

1197
01:14:18.720 --> 01:14:24.960
So if if you're in a relationship with someone and

1198
01:14:26.439 --> 01:14:29.359
it's not it's not working out, it's for a reason,

1199
01:14:30.279 --> 01:14:37.199
you know, Take all right, So you get.

1200
01:14:37.520 --> 01:14:38.279
My, my, my.

1201
01:14:39.159 --> 01:14:42.600
The most important thing is sometimes the people you wanted

1202
01:14:42.800 --> 01:14:46.039
as a part of your story are only meant to

1203
01:14:46.079 --> 01:14:51.920
be a chapter. So you can go, you can go

1204
01:14:52.079 --> 01:14:59.920
through life and through relationships and have that person now

1205
01:15:00.119 --> 01:15:04.560
continue to be in your life or a part of

1206
01:15:04.640 --> 01:15:10.760
your story, and when it finally ends, you close that

1207
01:15:10.920 --> 01:15:18.720
chapter and start another one. I think that if you

1208
01:15:19.199 --> 01:15:25.840
try hard enough to work on yourself after the relationship

1209
01:15:25.960 --> 01:15:30.279
is over with the things that went wrong with it,

1210
01:15:31.680 --> 01:15:35.039
you'll learn that you are a better person after that

1211
01:15:36.800 --> 01:15:43.520
because you didn't. You didn't lose yourself while losing the relationship.

1212
01:15:45.720 --> 01:15:51.039
I think that if you love someone and you care

1213
01:15:51.079 --> 01:16:01.479
about someone, it doesn't it doesn't mean that it has

1214
01:16:01.560 --> 01:16:07.760
to be the end and all of your life. I mean,

1215
01:16:08.239 --> 01:16:10.159
people come in and out of your life all the time.

1216
01:16:10.960 --> 01:16:14.399
It's just how you deal with certain things in certain

1217
01:16:14.439 --> 01:16:22.159
relationships that make you who you are. You know, there

1218
01:16:22.199 --> 01:16:24.239
are people that come into your life for a reason.

1219
01:16:26.079 --> 01:16:27.119
Are you cooking doves?

1220
01:16:27.159 --> 01:16:30.760
What the fuck are you doing? Bro? Bro? I got

1221
01:16:30.800 --> 01:16:33.439
that beast on cup? I want to drinking water.

1222
01:16:36.279 --> 01:16:38.560
I just that's all right, I just I just I

1223
01:16:38.720 --> 01:16:39.800
just keep hearing sho.

1224
01:16:40.760 --> 01:16:42.880
Yo, my bad. Yo. You know what everything that you're saying,

1225
01:16:42.960 --> 01:16:45.960
man like, Yo, you know what I'm like. I'm I'm here,

1226
01:16:46.039 --> 01:16:47.439
like you know what I'm saying, not in my head

1227
01:16:47.520 --> 01:16:51.159
like a freaking bible head collectible at a Yankee stadium,

1228
01:16:51.279 --> 01:16:55.600
like with my Donzel voice, my nigga. You know what

1229
01:16:55.640 --> 01:16:58.680
I'm saying, because like Yo, it's true though, like like yo,

1230
01:16:58.760 --> 01:17:01.079
another thing too. I mean, I like to add in

1231
01:17:01.760 --> 01:17:04.359
when the pain comes, embrace it. Don't run away from

1232
01:17:04.399 --> 01:17:06.560
it because you know what, the more you're running away

1233
01:17:06.560 --> 01:17:08.279
from it the heart of the beating you want to get.

1234
01:17:08.800 --> 01:17:12.279
I know because regardless, regardless of what the reasoning was

1235
01:17:12.399 --> 01:17:16.159
behind the end of the relationship, it's okay to acknowledge that,

1236
01:17:16.720 --> 01:17:18.840
you know what I'm saying, To acknowledge that the person

1237
01:17:18.960 --> 01:17:21.800
meant a lot to you, that's that that's okay. It's

1238
01:17:21.840 --> 01:17:24.239
okay to do that, you know what I'm saying. It's

1239
01:17:24.359 --> 01:17:30.039
also okay too, to understand that they aren't going to

1240
01:17:30.119 --> 01:17:34.479
be in your life anymore. Embrace the fact that the

1241
01:17:34.560 --> 01:17:39.600
relationship is over. You learn from it, and you can

1242
01:17:39.680 --> 01:17:43.039
take what you what you've learned and apply it to

1243
01:17:43.159 --> 01:17:45.920
your future. You know what I mean. It's mistakes happen,

1244
01:17:46.640 --> 01:17:49.560
People do stupid shit, you know what I'm saying.

1245
01:17:49.560 --> 01:17:52.279
You build yourself also, build yourself up, like you know

1246
01:17:52.279 --> 01:17:56.640
what I'm saying, Like like yo, you know what necessity necessity.

1247
01:17:56.840 --> 01:17:59.520
Necessity is always the mother of invention. Man, you know

1248
01:17:59.520 --> 01:18:02.359
what I'm saying, so like if there's something that you

1249
01:18:02.560 --> 01:18:06.960
that you need to necessitate within yourself, reinvent yourself.

1250
01:18:08.199 --> 01:18:10.880
Exactly about that exactly, you know, like like.

1251
01:18:10.920 --> 01:18:12.560
Yo, you know what, small things you know what I'm saying,

1252
01:18:12.640 --> 01:18:15.760
Like like yo, weather, whether it be superficial ship like

1253
01:18:15.840 --> 01:18:20.520
going shopping or like small things like you know, changing

1254
01:18:20.560 --> 01:18:22.520
like a little habit. You know what I'm saying, Like

1255
01:18:22.640 --> 01:18:25.159
do something like like you know what, at the end

1256
01:18:25.159 --> 01:18:27.439
of the day, like make everything be all about you.

1257
01:18:28.680 --> 01:18:30.560
You know, yeah, it's gonna be hard because you know,

1258
01:18:31.560 --> 01:18:32.920
you know, you know what I'm saying, Like a person

1259
01:18:33.319 --> 01:18:36.800
won't be used to that. But a little by little,

1260
01:18:36.800 --> 01:18:38.359
you know what I'm saying, like surround yourself like you know,

1261
01:18:38.560 --> 01:18:40.840
like with like you know what I'm saying positive people.

1262
01:18:41.079 --> 01:18:43.000
And I don't mean Magic Johnson. I'm talking about like

1263
01:18:43.039 --> 01:18:50.399
positive people though you know, like yeah, I just wanted

1264
01:18:50.439 --> 01:18:55.560
to be a jerk. I'm sorry the jerk, but but

1265
01:18:55.680 --> 01:18:57.520
but like yo, you know what, like like everything was

1266
01:18:57.600 --> 01:19:00.000
everything yourself was on point, you know what I'm saying,

1267
01:19:00.039 --> 01:19:03.399
because like yo, you know what, See that's something that

1268
01:19:03.520 --> 01:19:06.279
I wish I would have done. You know what I'm saying.

1269
01:19:06.520 --> 01:19:10.279
But me, you know, like when when I when I

1270
01:19:10.319 --> 01:19:14.560
saw ship coming to an end? Right, I never you

1271
01:19:14.640 --> 01:19:16.439
know what I'm saying. I never was the one playing

1272
01:19:16.439 --> 01:19:17.720
the violin of the Titanic.

1273
01:19:18.119 --> 01:19:19.880
Nah, I was a kid.

1274
01:19:20.359 --> 01:19:23.680
How was that dude talking about my wife?

1275
01:19:23.760 --> 01:19:24.000
Is good?

1276
01:19:24.039 --> 01:19:26.119
It's just me and my children hopping onto you know

1277
01:19:26.159 --> 01:19:28.319
what I'm saying, hopping onto the life saving? What's that?

1278
01:19:28.399 --> 01:19:29.600
What's that dude's name? Titanic?

1279
01:19:29.680 --> 01:19:30.439
That did that bullshit?

1280
01:19:31.800 --> 01:19:32.479
I forgot to do?

1281
01:19:32.800 --> 01:19:35.159
Yeah? Yeah, yeah, the actor's name, but you know.

1282
01:19:36.880 --> 01:19:41.479
His name was. I forgot the actor's name. I'm not

1283
01:19:41.560 --> 01:19:42.720
gonna front got it.

1284
01:19:42.880 --> 01:19:45.920
Yeah, But you know what, I always would pull one

1285
01:19:45.920 --> 01:19:48.399
of his stuff until you know, like.

1286
01:19:50.439 --> 01:19:52.640
Billy Zane, Yeah, Billy.

1287
01:19:52.479 --> 01:19:54.199
Saying I pulled, I pulled the Billy's ain't all the

1288
01:19:54.319 --> 01:20:00.000
time until like you know, it got tiring. Yeah, because

1289
01:20:00.119 --> 01:20:02.520
you know what, because like me, not feeling the pains

1290
01:20:02.560 --> 01:20:04.520
has made me better either. Its way, like you can't

1291
01:20:04.600 --> 01:20:05.079
run from me.

1292
01:20:06.079 --> 01:20:08.600
Yeah, but imagine all of the bodies you left behind.

1293
01:20:10.000 --> 01:20:12.399
Yeah, that's why I regirl what I regret, you know,

1294
01:20:12.520 --> 01:20:14.359
like I hope, I hope my I hope my kids

1295
01:20:14.439 --> 01:20:16.800
don't have to like you know what I'm saying, I

1296
01:20:16.920 --> 01:20:19.079
have to like be nailed at the cross from my sins,

1297
01:20:21.079 --> 01:20:25.319
see what I mean? Mhm. If anything, I'd rather be

1298
01:20:25.439 --> 01:20:27.800
nailed at the cross from my sins. My kids don't

1299
01:20:27.800 --> 01:20:28.199
deserve that.

1300
01:20:31.119 --> 01:20:33.640
Yeah, but if that's what they learned, that's what you talked.

1301
01:20:35.800 --> 01:20:39.640
Oh listen, my son. I was like, oh, you see

1302
01:20:39.640 --> 01:20:41.159
the ship I'm doing. He's like, yeah, I said, don't

1303
01:20:41.199 --> 01:20:44.439
do it. He's like why. I'm like, you're gonna see

1304
01:20:44.439 --> 01:20:45.760
in a couple of months, this is going to end

1305
01:20:46.279 --> 01:20:47.880
and I'll and you know, I would call out the

1306
01:20:47.960 --> 01:20:52.520
demise of it too. I was like, see what I'm

1307
01:20:52.520 --> 01:20:55.520
talking about, you know, like like you know what like

1308
01:20:56.079 --> 01:20:57.800
like like you know what I'm saying, like like like

1309
01:20:58.399 --> 01:21:02.039
it was just I just didn't give myself time to

1310
01:21:02.159 --> 01:21:05.039
like heal from nothing. I just kept them moving, kept

1311
01:21:05.079 --> 01:21:06.960
them moving, kept them moving, because I was scared to

1312
01:21:07.000 --> 01:21:10.640
be alone, you know, like I was scared, you know

1313
01:21:10.640 --> 01:21:12.920
what I'm saying, Like I was scared to like, you know,

1314
01:21:13.079 --> 01:21:16.960
being in four corners of my own room where my

1315
01:21:17.039 --> 01:21:21.560
thoughts going, because like I was scared that I didn't

1316
01:21:21.560 --> 01:21:26.600
have that identity, you know, Like that's what it was.

1317
01:21:26.640 --> 01:21:28.439
You know what I'm saying, like, like you know what,

1318
01:21:29.640 --> 01:21:31.560
I got stripped of my identity? Now, who the fuck

1319
01:21:31.600 --> 01:21:34.159
am I? You know what I'm saying, Like I'm here

1320
01:21:34.279 --> 01:21:38.159
driving around and feeling lost, walking around feeling lost? Who

1321
01:21:38.239 --> 01:21:43.159
am I? You know? Like that's the reason I always

1322
01:21:43.199 --> 01:21:48.039
had a backup plan, always had a backup plan. And

1323
01:21:48.159 --> 01:21:50.000
the thing is, you know, like I'll let them know

1324
01:21:50.079 --> 01:21:53.159
what it was from the jump, but they would end

1325
01:21:53.239 --> 01:21:56.600
up catching feelings and shit and then I'm here deal.

1326
01:21:56.680 --> 01:21:59.119
But they were coming from a place of hope knowing.

1327
01:21:58.880 --> 01:22:01.800
Who you know, I let them know from the jump, yo,

1328
01:22:02.039 --> 01:22:03.319
Like like yo, you know what?

1329
01:22:03.720 --> 01:22:06.199
But see that's what that's what's going on right now

1330
01:22:06.279 --> 01:22:10.640
where people are like it's okay, because it's all right.

1331
01:22:10.760 --> 01:22:13.079
The things happen the way they happen because I let

1332
01:22:13.119 --> 01:22:15.560
them know from the door, this is what it is,

1333
01:22:15.800 --> 01:22:18.279
and this is what it's not right. But the issue

1334
01:22:18.520 --> 01:22:21.960
is when people are not totally healed, they don't hear

1335
01:22:22.079 --> 01:22:26.119
what you're telling them. They they're hoping for the potential.

1336
01:22:26.640 --> 01:22:30.359
They see potential, you see, Like, so it doesn't make

1337
01:22:30.399 --> 01:22:31.560
it okay, just.

1338
01:22:31.720 --> 01:22:34.319
No, no, no, no, no, no, no, you're right, You're right.

1339
01:22:34.359 --> 01:22:36.199
You know what I'm saying, like like, yo, you know what, Like,

1340
01:22:36.399 --> 01:22:39.079
but I did tell them from the door what it was, right,

1341
01:22:40.600 --> 01:22:43.640
maybe you know what I'm saying, Well, I'm pretty sure

1342
01:22:43.680 --> 01:22:46.199
you know what I did some ship because like I

1343
01:22:46.279 --> 01:22:47.600
was feeling good at the moment.

1344
01:22:48.199 --> 01:22:51.159
Mmm, you don't say them to believe that it could be.

1345
01:22:51.399 --> 01:22:54.640
Yeah yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, oh absolutely, Like see like

1346
01:22:55.159 --> 01:22:58.119
like you know, like with my leader right now, she know,

1347
01:22:58.279 --> 01:22:59.319
like when I told her, I was Yo, we're just

1348
01:22:59.319 --> 01:23:03.479
gonna play it out. She liked that ship he now,

1349
01:23:04.199 --> 01:23:06.920
but then again, you know what, the I wasn't gonna

1350
01:23:06.960 --> 01:23:11.359
jump into nothing unless I was sure because you know

1351
01:23:11.439 --> 01:23:12.039
what the thing was.

1352
01:23:12.479 --> 01:23:17.960
But the shout have been jumping into anything period now.

1353
01:23:18.039 --> 01:23:20.600
But see checked this out, like like you know what,

1354
01:23:20.640 --> 01:23:22.399
don't get me wrong. You know what, I love. I

1355
01:23:22.560 --> 01:23:26.439
love hanging out with him. I still do. Like that's

1356
01:23:26.479 --> 01:23:28.520
my girl now, you know what I'm saying, Like we

1357
01:23:28.600 --> 01:23:31.399
could sit down, you know, like watch TV. You know,

1358
01:23:31.560 --> 01:23:33.399
like she put me on some animation and I'm like,

1359
01:23:33.479 --> 01:23:36.920
oh interesting, you know, I'm like, oh, what how are

1360
01:23:36.960 --> 01:23:37.319
you watching?

1361
01:23:37.359 --> 01:23:37.920
Rubble Tech?

1362
01:23:38.640 --> 01:23:40.520
So it's like a find it, We're gonna watch it,

1363
01:23:40.920 --> 01:23:43.520
you know, ship like that but like but like you know,

1364
01:23:43.640 --> 01:23:47.039
like but like as far as like you know, like, oh,

1365
01:23:47.119 --> 01:23:51.279
so what are we? We're human? You know what I'm saying.

1366
01:23:51.359 --> 01:23:54.880
I'm a male, you're a female. That's how God made it.

1367
01:23:55.760 --> 01:24:00.840
So yeah, yo, you know what the thing is. The

1368
01:24:00.960 --> 01:24:02.720
reason why, like I said that I'm gonna play you know,

1369
01:24:02.840 --> 01:24:06.840
let's play it how it goes, is because like I

1370
01:24:06.920 --> 01:24:09.720
wanted to make sure, deep down of my heart that

1371
01:24:11.039 --> 01:24:13.640
you know what I'm saying, that this was you know

1372
01:24:13.680 --> 01:24:15.479
what I'm saying, Like, I'm like, I'm going to invest

1373
01:24:15.520 --> 01:24:17.560
all this time into you. You know what I mean,

1374
01:24:17.680 --> 01:24:24.000
Like not no, not no, Okay, you know what I'm saying, Yeah,

1375
01:24:24.039 --> 01:24:26.399
let's do this. And then like six months later, I

1376
01:24:26.479 --> 01:24:28.479
find myself gaslight and you trying to find a way

1377
01:24:28.479 --> 01:24:30.680
to get the fuck out of this relationship. You see

1378
01:24:30.720 --> 01:24:31.039
what I mean?

1379
01:24:31.800 --> 01:24:33.039
Yeah, but look at it this way?

1380
01:24:33.159 --> 01:24:36.279
Does I wanted to be sure yeah, you know what

1381
01:24:36.319 --> 01:24:36.560
I mean.

1382
01:24:36.640 --> 01:24:39.359
Guys, but you're doing See that's the thing. People are like,

1383
01:24:39.479 --> 01:24:42.079
let's see how this goes. But the thing is, you're

1384
01:24:42.239 --> 01:24:47.399
doing relationship actions. You're giving relationship vibes to something you

1385
01:24:47.479 --> 01:24:50.239
don't even know. You want to be a relationship that's

1386
01:24:50.279 --> 01:24:53.279
where people are going wrong. They want this instant gratification.

1387
01:24:54.119 --> 01:24:57.079
They're not waiting to know the person to see if

1388
01:24:57.159 --> 01:25:00.760
you guys are compatible. Automatically, it's like, let's have some

1389
01:25:01.039 --> 01:25:08.239
fun and we'll see what happens. Well, dude, if you

1390
01:25:08.279 --> 01:25:10.800
ain't gonna buy the damn cow, stop taking the milk.

1391
01:25:13.359 --> 01:25:16.680
I would like I can't, but first off, you know what,

1392
01:25:16.920 --> 01:25:18.720
good I won't take the milk anyway because I'm like

1393
01:25:18.840 --> 01:25:19.680
toase and tolerant.

1394
01:25:20.000 --> 01:25:20.600
How was that?

1395
01:25:21.119 --> 01:25:24.800
Whatever? Boom? I guess the last word?

1396
01:25:24.920 --> 01:25:25.880
You know me not?

1397
01:25:27.079 --> 01:25:30.199
But yo, you know what what you mean? Not? But

1398
01:25:30.279 --> 01:25:32.039
you know what Like I said that, Yeah, I said,

1399
01:25:32.119 --> 01:25:34.960
you know, like we're gonna play it how it goes,

1400
01:25:35.680 --> 01:25:40.760
because like I was confused on certain things, you know,

1401
01:25:40.920 --> 01:25:44.399
like I like being around her, but I like being single.

1402
01:25:45.399 --> 01:25:48.079
I like, you know what I'm saying. Like like like

1403
01:25:48.199 --> 01:25:51.199
part of me was ready for that. Yeah I could

1404
01:25:51.239 --> 01:25:54.239
do to stay at home ship, you know, but then

1405
01:25:54.359 --> 01:25:57.680
part of me was still like I still want to

1406
01:25:58.119 --> 01:25:59.920
be outside whenever the fun. I want to be outside.

1407
01:26:00.119 --> 01:26:06.720
That's it, you see what I mean? Yeah, just you

1408
01:26:07.039 --> 01:26:08.800
you know what, come to find out that I could

1409
01:26:08.840 --> 01:26:11.439
do both right now? But the only reason why I'm

1410
01:26:11.479 --> 01:26:15.119
indoors right now is because one, I don't like being

1411
01:26:15.159 --> 01:26:17.479
outside for my baby too long. And that's fucking weird

1412
01:26:18.239 --> 01:26:21.039
right to me, that is, you know, because I'm here

1413
01:26:21.079 --> 01:26:23.680
all the fucking time, and even the free time I

1414
01:26:23.760 --> 01:26:27.239
have to escape the house, I'd rather not. It's fucking

1415
01:26:27.319 --> 01:26:33.239
weird anyways. Two, right, you know, just you know, just

1416
01:26:33.520 --> 01:26:37.079
just let the listeners know that we live in Jersey, right,

1417
01:26:37.680 --> 01:26:41.159
But the part of Jersey I live in, like parking

1418
01:26:41.359 --> 01:26:45.840
is ridunculous, you know, like there is no parking, you know,

1419
01:26:46.000 --> 01:26:50.439
like after a certain time around here, right, I gotta

1420
01:26:50.479 --> 01:26:53.119
go park in the other town across the street. Across

1421
01:26:53.119 --> 01:26:56.560
the street is another town, right and and you know what,

1422
01:26:56.760 --> 01:26:58.439
and if I get a ticket over there, they told

1423
01:26:58.520 --> 01:27:01.760
my car, because I don't have a apertmit like parkingly

1424
01:27:01.840 --> 01:27:02.560
ridiculous out here.

1425
01:27:03.000 --> 01:27:06.800
So just be home and not be out on the street.

1426
01:27:07.840 --> 01:27:10.720
Yeah, you know, until like you know, like you know

1427
01:27:10.800 --> 01:27:13.520
what and and yo, you know what. And even if

1428
01:27:13.600 --> 01:27:16.279
you know what I'm saying, even if I did have

1429
01:27:16.399 --> 01:27:19.560
a park situation fixed, I still be home early, bro

1430
01:27:19.720 --> 01:27:27.800
your wanta wa Yes, yes, yes, as a matter of fact,

1431
01:27:27.840 --> 01:27:32.479
this has past my bedtime. That's crazy. That's crazy. How

1432
01:27:32.560 --> 01:27:35.760
like you know, having a baby with you know what

1433
01:27:35.760 --> 01:27:40.680
I'm saying, Like, you know what, my little daughter, my

1434
01:27:40.840 --> 01:27:45.079
baby girl, right, yeah, she assaults me, she slaps me.

1435
01:27:45.920 --> 01:27:48.560
I'm in the Stockholm syndrome. You know, she gave me

1436
01:27:48.600 --> 01:27:52.600
Stockholm syndrome. Whatever. Right, But it's the best, you know

1437
01:27:52.640 --> 01:27:54.279
what I'm saying, This is the best kidnapping has the

1438
01:27:54.319 --> 01:27:58.239
situation I've ever been in. You know, along with my

1439
01:27:58.399 --> 01:28:02.600
son and my daughter them all this ones, those are

1440
01:28:02.680 --> 01:28:05.760
fun hostile situations. The thing is, I didn't get along

1441
01:28:05.760 --> 01:28:11.680
with their mothers hm. So it really became like a

1442
01:28:11.840 --> 01:28:13.960
you know what I'm saying, like a hostile situation where

1443
01:28:14.000 --> 01:28:17.960
I had to jump out the windows all because you

1444
01:28:17.960 --> 01:28:19.680
know what I'm saying, they couldn't they couldn't handled me

1445
01:28:19.840 --> 01:28:25.560
cheating here and there. The nerve, the nerve, all right.

1446
01:28:25.760 --> 01:28:29.239
So with that, with that being said, with that being said,

1447
01:28:30.640 --> 01:28:33.079
we're gonna do it. We're gonna go around around real quick,

1448
01:28:33.760 --> 01:28:40.239
and I want, Dubbs for you to give us your

1449
01:28:40.359 --> 01:28:43.199
final thought for the night before we go the I'm

1450
01:28:43.199 --> 01:28:46.239
gonna go around the table and so you go first,

1451
01:28:46.319 --> 01:28:47.680
what's your final thought for the night?

1452
01:28:48.119 --> 01:28:50.720
Yeah, you know what, I'm gonna make it two minutes

1453
01:28:50.760 --> 01:28:50.920
at that.

1454
01:28:51.479 --> 01:28:51.600
Right.

1455
01:28:52.239 --> 01:28:55.760
Look, relationships, they're not supposed to be easy. I mean,

1456
01:28:55.840 --> 01:28:58.960
life ain't supposed to be easy. Your coworkers ain't supposed

1457
01:28:58.960 --> 01:29:00.520
to know what I'm saying. You deal with co workers,

1458
01:29:00.560 --> 01:29:05.439
they ain't easy either, right, But like, hmm, but like,

1459
01:29:05.520 --> 01:29:08.680
you know what, before you go loving somebody else, man,

1460
01:29:08.840 --> 01:29:13.800
love yourself first. You know, love yourself. Everything starts and

1461
01:29:14.000 --> 01:29:18.479
ends with you. And if you if you're the type

1462
01:29:18.520 --> 01:29:21.199
to like, you know, to be like, yeah, that's my girl.

1463
01:29:22.039 --> 01:29:26.119
But you know, but my other girl lives in another

1464
01:29:26.399 --> 01:29:30.399
eric quota way, so that don't count. Okay, fine, But

1465
01:29:30.520 --> 01:29:32.239
you know what though, at the end of the day,

1466
01:29:33.079 --> 01:29:35.880
you're gonna get jammed up, right, So when your relationship

1467
01:29:35.960 --> 01:29:39.600
does come to an end, embrace the pain, learn from

1468
01:29:39.600 --> 01:29:42.279
your mistakes, lick your wounds. You know, at the end

1469
01:29:42.279 --> 01:29:44.760
of the day, just embrace your pain. Like sometimes you

1470
01:29:44.880 --> 01:29:50.119
have to embrace things that you don't want to embrace, pain, heartbreak,

1471
01:29:51.079 --> 01:29:52.920
things that we're not that we don't want to embrace.

1472
01:29:52.960 --> 01:29:56.000
But we have to anyways, because if you don't, you're

1473
01:29:56.039 --> 01:29:58.439
gonna stunt your growth and then you're gonna be fifty

1474
01:29:58.520 --> 01:30:00.880
years old in the club and someone's gonna be like,

1475
01:30:01.039 --> 01:30:03.079
damn unk. You know what I'm saying, what you're doing here,

1476
01:30:03.560 --> 01:30:05.920
you know you're gonna be so much sugar daddy. You're

1477
01:30:06.000 --> 01:30:08.159
basically gonna be drake out of high school. You know

1478
01:30:08.199 --> 01:30:12.800
what I'm saying. Out of high school graduation, you know,

1479
01:30:13.800 --> 01:30:19.640
so like just because you get older doesn't mean you're

1480
01:30:19.680 --> 01:30:23.920
matured mentally and emotionally. Embrace that pain, man, you know

1481
01:30:23.920 --> 01:30:27.159
what I'm saying. Embrace your heartbreak. You know you learn

1482
01:30:27.199 --> 01:30:27.840
from it from there?

1483
01:30:28.479 --> 01:30:32.199
Right right, makes a lot of sense, makes a lot

1484
01:30:32.239 --> 01:30:34.239
of sense. Lady, you're up.

1485
01:30:35.199 --> 01:30:38.720
Hm hmm, Well, I mean it's similar to what Dove said.

1486
01:30:38.920 --> 01:30:44.800
Basically anything in life, the only thing you can control

1487
01:30:45.640 --> 01:30:50.800
is yourself. You can't control other people, other places, other things.

1488
01:30:51.399 --> 01:30:56.279
So make sure you are whole before you try to

1489
01:30:56.319 --> 01:30:57.600
take somebody else's half.

1490
01:31:00.960 --> 01:31:09.119
Hmmm. So question this is what what does being whole

1491
01:31:09.319 --> 01:31:14.239
mean to you? Though? What does a person how explain that?

1492
01:31:14.840 --> 01:31:22.840
Being whole basically means recognizing what you're struggling with. Start

1493
01:31:22.920 --> 01:31:25.279
the work. I mean, you don't have to be again,

1494
01:31:25.359 --> 01:31:30.479
you don't have to be a done work because hopefully

1495
01:31:30.760 --> 01:31:34.159
your process is going to be going on forever, but

1496
01:31:34.279 --> 01:31:40.199
at least recognize where you fall short, where you're strong,

1497
01:31:44.520 --> 01:31:48.840
so that you're not putting your stuff or holding someone

1498
01:31:48.920 --> 01:31:54.359
else responsible for your stuff. So you know, know what

1499
01:31:54.520 --> 01:31:57.479
your stuff is, uh, you know, kind of like what

1500
01:31:57.600 --> 01:32:01.000
Dub said, embrace your stuff because the truth is the

1501
01:32:01.079 --> 01:32:04.359
only way out of something is through it. So if

1502
01:32:04.399 --> 01:32:06.840
you keep avoiding it, it's going to keep showing up.

1503
01:32:07.800 --> 01:32:12.920
So start dealing with your stuff. Be aware. Don't be

1504
01:32:13.039 --> 01:32:17.239
afraid to own your downfalls, your you know your flaws

1505
01:32:17.880 --> 01:32:22.079
because for the right person, that's gonna be okay because

1506
01:32:22.920 --> 01:32:26.760
you're in the process of working on it. But don't

1507
01:32:27.119 --> 01:32:31.840
expect to fall into something if you're not willing to

1508
01:32:31.960 --> 01:32:33.840
do the work to fix it.

1509
01:32:35.079 --> 01:32:35.600
You know, Like.

1510
01:32:37.399 --> 01:32:39.720
Like I said, who I am for some reason. I

1511
01:32:39.720 --> 01:32:44.479
don't understand why, but I do understand why. Again, I'm

1512
01:32:44.560 --> 01:32:49.079
not asking for perfection, But if you're coming to me,

1513
01:32:49.680 --> 01:32:52.720
you can't be totally broken with none of your pieces

1514
01:32:52.760 --> 01:32:56.760
put back together. Like, at least if you come with

1515
01:32:56.880 --> 01:32:59.720
three quarters of your pieces put back together, we can

1516
01:32:59.800 --> 01:33:03.279
work with that. We can we can continue to build together.

1517
01:33:04.199 --> 01:33:07.279
But I don't want to construct a new house when

1518
01:33:07.319 --> 01:33:08.960
I'm at an age where I just need to be

1519
01:33:09.119 --> 01:33:14.319
maintaining the one that is already built. Does that make sense?

1520
01:33:14.880 --> 01:33:16.199
Yeah, it makes a lot of sense.

1521
01:33:16.640 --> 01:33:20.960
I'm too old to be constructing new construction. I need

1522
01:33:21.079 --> 01:33:23.800
to be maintaining the already built products.

1523
01:33:23.840 --> 01:33:27.920
Well, well, you know what, that's that's true, and it's

1524
01:33:28.000 --> 01:33:31.039
not true because sometimes you know, like like you could

1525
01:33:31.119 --> 01:33:35.520
maintain the product and you can go build with someone else, but.

1526
01:33:35.560 --> 01:33:37.840
Then you're not maintaining. But then, but then you're not

1527
01:33:38.000 --> 01:33:39.119
maintaining the product.

1528
01:33:39.640 --> 01:33:41.760
But yes, you can, though you a multitask.

1529
01:33:44.000 --> 01:33:46.760
If that is your intention to multitask, then you shouldn't

1530
01:33:46.800 --> 01:33:47.439
be in anything.

1531
01:33:48.359 --> 01:33:52.239
No, No, you know what, maintain yourself but also help

1532
01:33:52.279 --> 01:33:54.199
you know what I'm saying, build with another. When I

1533
01:33:54.239 --> 01:33:57.279
say maintain yourself, I maintain yourself, like in a positive,

1534
01:33:57.359 --> 01:33:57.960
healthy way.

1535
01:33:58.119 --> 01:34:01.119
That goes to what I'm saying. But that's what I'm saying.

1536
01:34:01.279 --> 01:34:04.159
I'm too old. Okay, so I'm too old to be

1537
01:34:04.279 --> 01:34:07.720
somebody's mother. I already raised the husband. I don't need

1538
01:34:07.760 --> 01:34:08.560
to raise another one.

1539
01:34:12.439 --> 01:34:17.039
Okay, that makes sense, makes sense. You don't want to

1540
01:34:17.079 --> 01:34:19.199
raise music not you know what, No.

1541
01:34:19.359 --> 01:34:21.439
It makes a lot of sense. But like I don't

1542
01:34:21.479 --> 01:34:24.000
to understand I'm saying though, like like you know, like

1543
01:34:25.760 --> 01:34:30.600
I think like the understanding that when you said that,

1544
01:34:30.680 --> 01:34:32.520
you know, like I already have this home right here,

1545
01:34:32.520 --> 01:34:35.079
why should I go build another one. What I'm trying

1546
01:34:35.079 --> 01:34:35.840
to say is like, you know.

1547
01:34:37.039 --> 01:34:40.880
No, that's not what I was saying, Dove saying that

1548
01:34:41.039 --> 01:34:44.720
when you're coming together with somebody, you need somebody who

1549
01:34:44.840 --> 01:34:47.720
already has their home built, so like they need to

1550
01:34:47.800 --> 01:34:50.680
be on their healing process. They need to know what

1551
01:34:50.800 --> 01:34:53.079
they need, know what they want, like they need to

1552
01:34:53.239 --> 01:34:56.600
be whole. And that's what you know. Corneon was asking

1553
01:34:56.680 --> 01:34:57.920
to to explain that like.

1554
01:34:59.800 --> 01:35:04.319
If or sometimes sometimes my bad, I'm sorry, but sometimes

1555
01:35:04.359 --> 01:35:06.520
you know what, you and that person don't have nothing,

1556
01:35:06.600 --> 01:35:10.399
y'all can just build together from scratch. But then you

1557
01:35:10.479 --> 01:35:12.439
know what, that would be some type of romantic novel ship.

1558
01:35:13.439 --> 01:35:15.479
That's called trauma bonding, and it's not healthy.

1559
01:35:16.880 --> 01:35:20.079
That is true. That's another thing too. But but what

1560
01:35:20.119 --> 01:35:23.119
I'm trying but oh you're talking, you're talking emotional. I'm

1561
01:35:23.119 --> 01:35:29.079
gonna talk financial. My bad. Sorry with whoops yo, my bad, yo.

1562
01:35:29.159 --> 01:35:31.399
You know what I already started thinking real estate. I'm sorry,

1563
01:35:32.039 --> 01:35:37.600
go ahead, whoopsies, whoopsie senior moment.

1564
01:35:39.399 --> 01:35:43.680
All right, lady g We'll continue. Oh you're done.

1565
01:35:46.319 --> 01:35:50.359
You guys know how I feel. Just don't be afraid,

1566
01:35:50.479 --> 01:35:54.560
Just don't be afraid of who you are, own your stuff,

1567
01:35:55.840 --> 01:36:01.640
so that whoever, whoever else comes into your life can

1568
01:36:01.720 --> 01:36:05.479
be a work in progress and not just a disaster

1569
01:36:05.800 --> 01:36:06.800
that can't be fixed.

1570
01:36:08.479 --> 01:36:14.920
Yeah, good shit, good ship. All right? So what do

1571
01:36:14.960 --> 01:36:21.840
I gotta say? Well, every person that you come across

1572
01:36:21.920 --> 01:36:25.279
in life is going to have some type of baggage,

1573
01:36:25.359 --> 01:36:30.199
especially at this age. How you handle how they handle

1574
01:36:30.279 --> 01:36:33.720
their own baggage and how you handle your own shit

1575
01:36:34.720 --> 01:36:38.520
is what's going to determine how this relationship flows, how

1576
01:36:38.560 --> 01:36:45.520
the relationship flows. Not every relationship is perfect, you know.

1577
01:36:45.720 --> 01:36:52.399
Not every relationship is built, Not every kingdom is built overnight.

1578
01:36:52.720 --> 01:36:59.960
Let's just say that strong foundations are built over time,

1579
01:37:01.720 --> 01:37:07.880
and old relationships that are strong with a strong foundation

1580
01:37:08.079 --> 01:37:13.000
are built over time. When you when you meet someone

1581
01:37:15.199 --> 01:37:20.159
you know, find out what their intentions are. Don't ask

1582
01:37:20.239 --> 01:37:22.720
them for their credit score right away, you know what

1583
01:37:22.760 --> 01:37:24.880
I'm saying, But ask them what their intentions and what

1584
01:37:24.960 --> 01:37:28.600
their goals are, what are the things that they they

1585
01:37:28.680 --> 01:37:32.720
want to achieve in their lives, Because sometimes that don't

1586
01:37:32.760 --> 01:37:35.960
coincide with what you want in your life. Don't wait

1587
01:37:36.039 --> 01:37:39.119
too long to ask the questions that need to be asked.

1588
01:37:39.920 --> 01:37:44.439
If you feel that you know this person isn't for you,

1589
01:37:44.880 --> 01:37:47.840
don't leave them there dangling. You know what I'm saying.

1590
01:37:48.039 --> 01:37:51.840
Set them free, and you know you you would hope

1591
01:37:51.880 --> 01:37:55.119
they would do the same. If you feel that you're

1592
01:37:55.119 --> 01:38:01.720
a failure at something, pick yourself up, yourself off and

1593
01:38:01.840 --> 01:38:07.520
fail forward. Take that failure, apply it to what's next.

1594
01:38:08.439 --> 01:38:13.239
Learn from your mistake and keep it moving. Don't make

1595
01:38:13.319 --> 01:38:15.680
the same mistake twice. Try not to make the same

1596
01:38:15.760 --> 01:38:19.119
mistake twice, because the only way to succeed is by failure.

1597
01:38:20.039 --> 01:38:26.920
Nobody succeeds the very first time. Fail forward, learn, apply,

1598
01:38:27.319 --> 01:38:34.720
and keep it moving. That's how winning is done. Sprinkles

1599
01:38:34.760 --> 01:38:36.479
off of winners. Keep that in mind.

1600
01:38:39.199 --> 01:38:41.560
And just.

1601
01:38:43.119 --> 01:38:45.800
Be who you are, Be who you want to be.

1602
01:38:47.640 --> 01:38:50.680
Do what you want to do, but do it respectfully.

1603
01:38:51.760 --> 01:38:55.039
I'm big Cooleon, that's Lady G that's Dubs a dawn,

1604
01:38:57.039 --> 01:39:00.439
and always keep in mind that that's on point.

1605
01:39:01.520 --> 01:39:03.359
This might hurt.

1606
01:39:03.800 --> 01:39:07.159
Good night, everybody, We'll be back soon. Have a good night,

1607
01:39:07.800 --> 01:39:12.520
chill and always remember that you know there's somebody out

1608
01:39:12.520 --> 01:39:16.840
there for everybody. You just gotta sift through all that ship.

1609
01:39:17.119 --> 01:39:19.520
And when they say I'm looking for the needle in

1610
01:39:19.600 --> 01:39:23.159
the haystack to get around that ship, pull out a magnet.

1611
01:39:23.479 --> 01:39:31.239
We're out. Good Night you