Oct. 25, 2024

Taco Bout It Tuesday Vol #2 (Recorded LIVE on 10-22-24)

Taco Bout It Tuesday Vol #2 (Recorded LIVE on 10-22-24)

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That's right!! It's Taco Bout Tuesday!!! We want to Taco Bout it...You want us to Taco Bout it....You'll mos def hear us Taco Bout it BUT always remember That no matter what we Taco Bout at some point THIS MIGHT HURT!!!

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Ye say, hey, what's up?

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Everybody? This Big Cold on My Herd podcast going to

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you live from you know how we do from where

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we go live from you know how it is. They

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bringing my co host Lady G. What's good, Lady G?

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What is up my people?

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How are you?

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I'm awesome. I'm great.

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That's good. That's good to hear. It's always good to

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hear what you're doing. Good away every day, all day,

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all day. Yeah, So how was how was your week?

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Tuesday to well, Tuesday to tuesdays.

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Yes, last week I had surgery, so I was unfortunately

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not there with you all, but it's been good. Uh,

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surgery in my hand is healing. Everything's going well. Life

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is life in right now. But everything's good. I cannot complain.

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That's what's up. That is what's up. Oh yeah, yeah,

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So hold on second here, all right, let's get that

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going down there. So I want to talk about a

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little bit about So last week we we talked a

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little bit about like some mental health stuff and everything,

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and how.

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Are you going to talk about mental health stuff? And

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I ain't there.

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That's that's why, that's why we didn't talk much about it.

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Because our our our our mental health genius, our mental

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health goddess wasn't in the building, you know how it is,

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So if we talked a little bit about it, but

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then we we switched over to some other things because

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we know that's your expertise, you know, I mean, and

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I wanted to we talked about so I want I

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want your take on it. We talked a little bit

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about how first responders need to be trained better when

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it comes to dealing with people with metal health issues,

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because because sometimes you get into a situation, you get

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into a situation where they're they're not trained properly and

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things just go sideways. So what's your take on that?

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Let me bringing dubs real quick. Hold on, okay, dog,

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yeah what man? Hold on?

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Let's Rachel. Does the boss got you on the lock again?

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You already know.

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She got she got the London bridges falling down?

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Oh yeah, crip walking to it?

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Oh gosh. All right, So lady lady geez on the mic.

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She's got something to say.

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Hey, first off, at your hand.

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Hello, it's it's actually doing a lot better than I

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thought it would.

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It's sore.

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Yeah, can you hear me?

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Yeah? Yeah, you know what, we can.

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Hear you it's actually, yeah, it's doing a lot better

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than I thought it would. It's sore, but I can

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like move your fingers. You know, I got this bandage

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on until Halloween. Uh, but it's it's doing good. It's

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doing good. I cannot complain.

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All right, So we all know what.

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And I appreciate all the love that was.

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Sent to me, so I no doubt. But like we

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all know what what got you here? You know the

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proper technique of bitch slapping. You failed, you know what,

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you know, so like so like, you know what, let

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this be a lesson to you. You know, you don't

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open handling smack people. That shows a little bit of respect.

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We got to back at it. It's the ultimate respect,

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and that does more damage to their face unless to

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your hand.

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You know what does Today today, I'm feeling good, I'm

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gonna let you have that.

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I'm just saying. I'm just saying, you know, like you know,

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maybe you'll learn wax on wax off. Yeah.

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So so so lady you were saying.

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All right, so that is definitely definitely I'm on board

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about that because and it's and you know what, it's

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not even just first responders, it's all places all areas,

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you know, the police, the emergency medical all places need

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to have some kind of training, some type of mental

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health training that even even if it's to recognize mental

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health issues, it should be mandatory because nowadays, hey, t

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nowadays it's pretty much everybody you know. Mental health is

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really those unseen disabilities and all those things. And we're

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no longer in that place in our lives where when

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you think about alcoholism or addiction or mental health, we're

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seeing now that it is not like it used to be,

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where when you think of an alcoholic or an addict

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or somebody with mental health issues, you think about the

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worst case scenario. The people standing on the corner, you know,

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just acting them up. People who are nodding off in

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the middle of the street, you know, people who are

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running up and down the streets, screaming and young. That's

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not what it is, guys. So we need to be

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able to train our first responders, our police, our court system,

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even the paroles, the probations, the prisons. We need to

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be able to train these people to recognize when someone

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has a mental health struggle so that they can at

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least get them to a safer place, a safer opportunity

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to actually get the help that they need, because what

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happens is when they're not trained at all and they

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don't even they can't even spot it, people get hurt.

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Whether it's yeah, whether it's the patient or the first responder,

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it doesn't matter. People get hurt because someone has something

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that they can't control, and all of a sudden, cops

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are starting to pull out the guns, and you know,

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it just turns into a bloodbath that is so unnecessary

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and could have definitely been dealt with, taken care of,

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and all of that if they had just been able

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to recognize the signs. So that's that's my take on

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all that. But they're taking these programs away actually, you

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know a lot of them, a lot of them are

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removing these programs from a lot of the mainstream places

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because they don't want to deal with them. You know,

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they're they're what do you call that, they're farming it

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out to other like nonprofits and and nothing wrong because

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the nonprofitists are the ones who really get into the

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nitty gritty and the down in the dirty. However, when

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you totally act like it doesn't exist, you you know,

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that's where we're going to run into problems. You know,

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even if you have one or two staff members that

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are able to address the the a media issue, you know,

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because it's a big it's a big deal, and people

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it's it's it's unseen. It could be the people standing

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right next to you. It could be one of us,

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and people would never know because it's not something you

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could look at somebody and say, oh, you know they're bipolar.

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Oh they got schizophrenia. It doesn't work that way anymore.

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You know. It's it's it's it's being more recognized, treated more,

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you know, and people are actually living long and healthy

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lives with the struggles of mental health. And we are

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not are disable ability just because someone has addiction. You know,

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some strong out addicts, some people, I mean they will

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always be addicts, but some of them are in recovery.

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You know.

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It's it's not the alcoholic on the corner. They can't

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you know, straighten up their words. Even if they do sober.

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They will always be an addict. However, that's not their identity.

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And people with mental health, you are not bipolar. You

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are not schizophrenic. You are someone who struggles with the issue.

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Go ahead, the earth is bipolar. Why can't I be bipolar?

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You could be as bipolar as you want to be,

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Doves you And you know what, just I think I

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think Doves would be bipolar just despite somebody.

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Yeah I will. Yeah. Well that's that. That's a big

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that's a big issue these days, like trying to get

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these people trained too to handle those situations that are

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that involve people with mental illness. You know what I mean? Yeah, yeah,

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h m hm. But is you know what I'm saying

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the oven No.

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I unfortunately had to start the show in my car

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and now I have a ride to my destination.

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All right, all right, so you we're gonna hear you

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tracking along your your walkway.

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Maybe maybe I'll just sit here for the front of it.

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So so so yeah, man, So I got I got

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a question that we got we got from a from

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a fan of the show. I'm gonna read it out

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and then we're gonna talk about it, all right. So

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it says you are out with with your lady at

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a fancy restaurant and have to walk two blocks to

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get back to your hotel. Her feet are killing her

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in her high heeled shoes, and she doesn't want to

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walk back in them. What do you do about it?

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So hold on before you say anything, Doves, I know

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where this is going. Hold on, God, hold on. So women,

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since you know we got to two women in here,

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you got blocks to go. You're wearing high heels, you

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know what I'm saying, and you can't walk anymore. Your

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feet are killing you. You got a strong dude next

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to you. Let's let's let let's go around the room

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and we can talk about you know what it is

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you think would happen or what do you what should

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happen or whatever. Let's start with doves. Let's get this

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out the way.

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Man. Man, First off, you know what, look if she

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packs niakers with her right, you're staying two blocks a

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weight or like or like some some sort of blocks

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or slippers or whatever. And she knew it first of

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why the hell you're gonna wear shoes that you know what?

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That's gonna hurt? You know what I'm saying. What I'm

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saying like the world is not a freaking runaway, you

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know what I mean, Like nobody cares about us but us.

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You know what I'm saying, Like the fuck so you know,

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like your feet hurting? Oh well, oh, but you know

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what We'll take our time walking, you know, like you'll

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be all right. I want to sit down. We sit down.

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You know what I'm saying, massage your feet? Nah, not

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in public? What I look like, you know, like the

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end of the day, you know what I'm saying, Like, Hm,

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she should have been a little you know, you know,

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proactive and but like flats or like you know, or

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like some type of like you know, like running shoes

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like and she knew the shoes were gonna fit. You

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know what I'm saying, be uncomfortable, yo. Doctor shows, bro,

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doctor show. Yeah, you know what I mean, like doctor shows,

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you know, like you'll be all right. And besides that,

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don't expect me to carry you. I got a fucked

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up back. I ain't carrying shit. What I'm saying, you

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know what. We spend the night on the street.

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Then hopefully she's she's standing next to someone who doesn't

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have back issues.

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Hey, it is what it is like, yo. You know,

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I'll even pay the doe here carrier.

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Really quick. I didn't see that we had comments in

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the in the chat room referring to the mental health thing.

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So this was the first one.

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Hey, we'll touchdown.

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No, why would someone need to wear a symbol because

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they have a disability. That's ridiculous. I don't, like, I

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don't understand why it would be necessary for a group

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of people to need ID where the rest of the

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world wouldn't need a specific ID stay something. I mean,

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if I'm deaf, then obviously they usually do have something

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that says that they're deaf. If a person is blind,

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I mean, or even if we're talking mental illnesses, like

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we can't also assume that everyone who has a mental

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illness is going to freak the fuck out or whatever.

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But the point being before, I think what you guys

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were saying with like police should not be handling crises,

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mental health crises situations like there should definitely be and

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there are in some towns. They're starting this program where

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they're not having the police be the ones to respond

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to specific things. But if they feel like it's a

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mental health thing, then they have, like I guess they

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would call them first responders or first crisis responders, who

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would be the ones to go out and try to

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diffuse or handle the situation. If it's an elevated situation,

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then I guess the police should get involved. But I

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think that if you have the right people who work

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with people in this bubble. I guess you could say

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or circle then they would know best how to handle

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it and it wouldn't have to always escalate violence, if

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that makes sense. So, like, I don't know, I feel

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some type of way that I would need to have

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some kind of id stating my mental illnesses to someone

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Like I kind of feel like I don't feel like

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that's something that I have to put out there all

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the time unless a real crime is committed.

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Germany TG should Does that mean that Dubs needs to

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wear a badge that says I'm an asshole and other

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people have to wear badges to say they're idiots.

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I mean, there would be so many idiot and asshole

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badges out we wouldn't know what to do, first of all,

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and then there would have to be multiple badges because

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you could be more than one thing. You could be

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an asshole and a idiot. So so it's like, no, Like,

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I think that we have an issue and a lot

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of stigmas surrounding mental illness, and people need to get educated,

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and people need to and the right people need to

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be out there fighting the fight and trying to show

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police officers and other responders how they should handle these situations,

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because there are people out there that teach. There are

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public speakers that go out there and they show people

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how to de escalate, you know what I'm saying, Like

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there's a whole thing about it. But people have to

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give a shit too and not treat everyone like they're

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out to kill you.

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Right, like or that there's something wrong with them as

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a human being.

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Right anybody ever? Anybody ever heard of eleanor Bumpers In

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the eighties in New York. She was an old lady

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in a project going through like a mental health crisis,

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and the cops just like ran up in the house

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and she's just like holding a knife, you know what

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I'm saying, Like she was a kitchen holding I think

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she was a kitchen holding knife and it blew her away,

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you know, like like like like you know what, you know,

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like before these cops are go on mental health, cause

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they need to check their mental health themselves.

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Right, Yeah, that should also be a requirement though, Like

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I know that they forced, especially nowadays when there's traumatic

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things that happen and an officer sees things that's very

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you know, traumatic, or they shoot their gun it's mandatory

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for them to do therapy sessions. But when your heart

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is not in it and you don't see a problem

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and you're being forced to do some are something Are

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you really benefiting and getting something out of that? That's

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becaues thing.

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And because of the stigma, they're never honest about right

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what they're going through when those situations happen.

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It's like they feel that there are people who feel

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the need that they have to say certain things right

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and it's crazy because you're allowed to feel these things.

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You're allowed to cry as a man if if something

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really resonate hurts you in some kind of way. I

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don't like I know, I watch a lot of true

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crime shows, but I could never understand what it is

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to walk into a room where there's a dead human

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being and you see what has been done to that

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person and how the fuck you can sleep at night

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after seeing that? Because this wasn't a freaking horror movie.

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This was real life and like a person did this

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to another person. So it's like they need therapy the living.

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Horror movie, you know what, like like like working in

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the railroad or like let's say, you know, like any

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any public transportation like especially with heavy rail, if you

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hit somebody, they take you off immediately and like they

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give you like like thirty of the sixty days rest

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like pay rest. You know, like at first they're going

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to investigate, you know, like sometimes and sometimes like you know,

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like them investigating, they have to relive the situation, you know,

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over and over and over just you know, because like

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the let's the same New Jersey transfer instance, they do

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not want to be held liable for suicide, you know,

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same like the example coor Authority And I was working

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there and Coleon can tell Corleon could vouch me. I

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show him a lot of messed up videos people getting

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hit by trains, right because I worked there, I've seen

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it right, And after a while it caught up with me.

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And the situation that caught up with me the most

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was I was a Newport one day and know it

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was raining, and the train that stopped mid tunnel, like

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you heard the train stop mid tunnel and it moved

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again there to stopped again and moved again and stopped again.

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They kept on like going and kept on stopping. Now

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that train is designed the new trains of the path

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trains is designed to like if there's somebody under or

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something big under it's going to stop automatically. But the

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engineer was on his last run and the conductive was

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on their last run, so that they were just trying

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to get you know, get to the night. It was

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on a Friday night, by the way, and I decided

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to do over time. So I'm in Newport and then

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out of battery, and I looked at the track and

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I see like seventh day for the timber and boots,

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and then like you know, I looked further down and

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I'm seeing guts and I had to call that in

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and then like you know, they shut down the whole

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back and whatever, and like these guys like they just

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hopped on the sack, you know, the clean up crew,

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that's what I called them. They hopped on the track

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and you know they had their little gloves on, you know,

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the forensic suits on or whatever. They were just like

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picking parts of the man up and just throwing him

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in the bang right, and that that right there was

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a straw that broke the camel's back with me because

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you know, like I was like what seven eight years

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in over there, and I've seen people like you know,

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get fried on the third rail literally like I could

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tell you what human flesh smells like, been kneeling without

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a double you know what I'm saying. It smells like

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cheat out on without season. That's what human flesh smells like.

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Frid on the third rail, right, yeah, but yeah, yeah,

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you know what. The smell in stood on my nose

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like a week. You know, these were the conditions I

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was working on it. And it got to the point

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where like when someone, you know what I'm saying, died

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on the train, I would start laughing, you know what

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I'm saying, like like yo, you know what like and

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people start looking at me like yoll like yo, it's

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not even funny. I'm like, I'm like, you know, like

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but that was my you know what, that was my

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defense mechanism because I was tired of it, you know,

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so I just started laughing, like you know, and I

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started like really looking at life like it was a

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joke with himself, you know, like seeing that, you know,

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seeing that kid, like what was left the room on

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the track. And what makes it worse is like if

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you ever rode the Patch train and you're going to

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Jones Square, right, there's like a little turn like you know,

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like like coming from the Yorks. There's like a little turn.

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There's two tunnels, one going to hold Boken, one going

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to Jhones Square and it's a little sharp turn. It

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was raining that day, so like the story was like

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he was going he was going in between the train

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to go try to sit down, and he slipped when

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he made that turn. He fell and trying tore him

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up from from that part of the tunnel all the

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way the Jones Square like you know, like they was

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like they found body parts of him from the Jhone

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Square all like like we're talking like two train stations.

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That's and that's like three miles three four miles worth

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the track. So mhm that you know what I'm saying

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Like that right there, like you know, like it was

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like the straw that broke the camel's back, you know,

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nail the cough. And then like I really started looking

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at like the world like there was like a like

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one big joke, like you know what I'm saying, like

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life was even worth it, you know mm hmm. So

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like so like so like yo, you know what so

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that what TG was saying that you know, like to

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cry and let it out, like I feel that because

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you know what, like you hold it in, are you

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gonna do is poison yourself? You know, and then like

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there's no outlet and unless you know it, you know,

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you're gonna start having thoughts, you know, like you're gonna

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start having like you know, like you know like that

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you know what, man like I might as well just

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go to m you know, so so like you know,

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it's you know, like and I mind you I just

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work for it doing it. I've seen this trauma stuff,

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so I can just imagine, you know, like these cops

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like like walking into a shooting and whatever, see a

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baby on the ground with a bullet hole, you know,

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and working on the child, you know, or like you

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know when they have to you know what I'm saying,

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I'm like, look, I really look, I don't like cops,

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pavot I'll let them be. Know however, however, you know what,

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I'll talk to you how you talk to me, you know,

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but you know, like if but like you know, like

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respectfully and all that stuff. You know, mh. I'll talk

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to you like how you talk to me PERVOTD and

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what these guys you know what I'm saying, like they

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deal with you know, like like like I gotta give

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them credit, you know, like they deal with a lot

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of bullshit now one that they go home and beat

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their wives, you know, like I ain't saying is right,

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you know, but like they just dealing with you know,

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like like like rest like in a big city, you know,

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like they're always on edge because you know what it's like,

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you know, but like they're wearing a badge whatever. And

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then like you know, there's somebody out here trying to

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like you know, pop them. And they know that, you know,

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anything could be the last day in the job. They

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know that, you know.

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So it's like.

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And then like you know, like Winnison, like you know,

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homicide scenes or whatever or like you know like stabbings, shootings,

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you know, things that happened to kids, you know, like

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suicides or whatever. Yea, at some point, you know what

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I'm saying, they're gonna break you know, and and and

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you know what and like the suicide the suicide rate

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for that, you know what I'm saying, just for being

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the police officers, Like it's pretty much up there. Like

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it's like you know, like yeah, it's like it's like

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Souliers coming back. Yeah, as I so just come like

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like when the first Way episode just came back from

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Kabul and and I right, you know, like you know

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what I'm saying, Like they was just offen themselves like

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like you know, like yeah, man, Like.

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So like I see the comment, and it's like if

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you're having a pan attack or anxiety and you can't speak,

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then a person, like a professional would know that that

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someone is having anxiety, Like what situation are you in?

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I'm trying to understand why someone like if I'm having

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anxiety or a panic attack and I can't talk, like

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and if I'm in distress, then I'm dialing nine one

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one or trying to get someone's attention because when you're

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having a panic attack, you think you're having a heart attack,

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so the first thing people do is go to a

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hospital to make sure that's not the case. So I

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don't understand still don't understand this idea of meaning some

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kind of badge for certain illnesses or whatever, like.

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You know what I used to get panic attacks on

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my job, right, And then like you know, I started

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to realizing I'm like, yo, you know what it's all about,

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Like like I'll start talking to myself to calm myself down, right,

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like it's all about breath control, you know what I'm saying,

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Like like control your breathing and whatever. Control your breathing

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and drink cold water. Control your breathing, you know, like

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like you know, like you have to like really like

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you know, talk to yourself, you know, like like no, no, no, no, no, no, no,

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not breathe easy. Really these these really you know, like

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you have to keep.

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It's not it's not. It's not always that easy for

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some people. Don't.

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No, no, no, I know, but like but like yo,

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you know what like like you know, working at port authorities,

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Like I used to get it bad, like like yo,

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and you literally used to feel like my heart, Yeah,

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I used to get panic attacks like heavy over there.

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The best thing to do for panic attacks or anxiety

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is actually, look, if you're in the middle of sobbing,

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it's finding five things around you that you can actually

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see and and I'm seeing that object and recognizing that

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object because it's it's putting you in your actual space again,

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like it's reminding you you're here, You're okay, there's you know,

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you're not freaking.

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Out like it's and it's a distress mental fuck.

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It's yeah, focus because like, that's what anxiety is, is

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a complete mental fuck that just messes with you in

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your fears and pokes at it, and the unfortunate.

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Thing is.

472
00:30:49.960 --> 00:30:50.359
Hold on.

473
00:30:53.920 --> 00:31:01.480
It's also sad that people who don't actually struggle with

474
00:31:01.720 --> 00:31:06.640
the anxiety, the depression, you know, these other things, they're

475
00:31:06.640 --> 00:31:08.880
the ones that have the most to say. But unfortunately,

476
00:31:09.079 --> 00:31:14.480
if you've never experienced it, you have no idea what

477
00:31:14.559 --> 00:31:18.200
that's like. You know, like feeling like you're having a

478
00:31:18.240 --> 00:31:23.759
heart attack when it's panic, Feeling like you want to

479
00:31:23.799 --> 00:31:26.559
die even though you really don't want to die and

480
00:31:26.640 --> 00:31:34.559
you don't know what else to do. Yeah, feeling like yeah,

481
00:31:34.599 --> 00:31:36.960
hearing voices that nobody else hears.

482
00:31:37.599 --> 00:31:42.480
But this is why you have to like see, I

483
00:31:42.559 --> 00:31:46.359
keep reading and she was saying something and just messed

484
00:31:46.400 --> 00:31:50.920
me up. Corleon. You have to time these things better, okay,

485
00:31:51.440 --> 00:31:56.640
because I like I can't. I have adh You just

486
00:31:56.960 --> 00:32:04.240
ruined everything in my mind right now, work and like

487
00:32:04.440 --> 00:32:06.319
we're going on another subject. If we want to go

488
00:32:06.400 --> 00:32:09.000
back on that, that's fine. So what were you saying again?

489
00:32:09.039 --> 00:32:11.440
Because I just like wanted to add a little thing

490
00:32:11.480 --> 00:32:16.480
and it wasn't anything special, but crap, I'm dare you

491
00:32:16.640 --> 00:32:23.440
color I feel you set me up bro right now?

492
00:32:24.920 --> 00:32:27.079
Oh eating the square running across the screen.

493
00:32:31.319 --> 00:32:35.839
I can't all right, so I know what it was. Sorry.

494
00:32:37.000 --> 00:32:39.039
This is why it's important for people to share their

495
00:32:39.079 --> 00:32:42.319
stories and experiences, because the only way that other people

496
00:32:42.400 --> 00:32:46.279
can recognize things or understand things is if they actually

497
00:32:46.319 --> 00:32:49.200
talk to people. And this is about anything things that

498
00:32:49.240 --> 00:32:53.960
people don't understand, whether it's not understanding how your gender

499
00:32:54.039 --> 00:32:57.960
is fluid, to not understanding specific mental illnesses, to not

500
00:32:58.119 --> 00:33:01.960
understanding why you know you would stay in a relationship

501
00:33:02.000 --> 00:33:04.920
when some guy keeps fucking you up, to understanding what

502
00:33:05.119 --> 00:33:08.680
like all these things, there are stories behind them, there's

503
00:33:08.839 --> 00:33:13.599
reasons behind shit, and people need to understand this shit.

504
00:33:13.640 --> 00:33:17.440
You can't just be one sided about life and only

505
00:33:17.519 --> 00:33:20.680
know about you. There are other people in this world

506
00:33:20.720 --> 00:33:22.279
and we need to coexist.

507
00:33:23.119 --> 00:33:25.880
Yeah, And it's easy to pass judgment on people when

508
00:33:26.599 --> 00:33:30.759
you don't have any clue what they're going through exactly.

509
00:33:30.759 --> 00:33:35.319
And half the people making their little comment comments wouldn't

510
00:33:35.359 --> 00:33:40.160
be able to survive a panic attack or a depression

511
00:33:40.240 --> 00:33:44.640
episode or you know, like heaven forbid, kind of like

512
00:33:44.720 --> 00:33:47.440
those pregnancy belly things they got going on now with

513
00:33:47.480 --> 00:33:50.640
the guys, Yeah, men think that having a baby is

514
00:33:50.680 --> 00:33:54.319
so easy, how about you push a wootermelon out something

515
00:33:54.359 --> 00:33:57.480
the size of a grapefruit, and when they put those

516
00:33:57.480 --> 00:34:00.559
little buzz machines on them, they see just how bad

517
00:34:00.559 --> 00:34:04.079
it is, and just how bad even having a period

518
00:34:04.119 --> 00:34:07.759
as a woman is. Yes, you know, and and unfortunately

519
00:34:08.039 --> 00:34:12.039
as manly, as manly as you men are, you couldn't

520
00:34:12.079 --> 00:34:14.599
handle the stuff that we as women have to go through.

521
00:34:16.599 --> 00:34:20.400
It's interesting to me. It's interesting to me the tolerance,

522
00:34:21.239 --> 00:34:25.559
the tolerance level that a woman's body has of pain

523
00:34:26.559 --> 00:34:29.599
versus a man's. You would think it would be the reverse, right,

524
00:34:29.599 --> 00:34:32.679
because men are so to be so strong, and I'm

525
00:34:32.719 --> 00:34:37.320
not saying that they're not stronger in stature possibly or muscular,

526
00:34:37.440 --> 00:34:39.360
but women can be that way too.

527
00:34:40.039 --> 00:34:44.880
Uh But yeah, get top down a tree to TJ.

528
00:34:45.800 --> 00:34:48.159
I believe you. I believe you.

529
00:34:48.199 --> 00:34:49.800
I could build something.

530
00:34:49.599 --> 00:34:54.079
On I cannot. I will watch you, and I'll freaking

531
00:34:54.199 --> 00:34:55.760
hand you the axe if you want.

532
00:34:58.360 --> 00:34:59.840
That's what Jo got for eating the apple.

533
00:35:02.199 --> 00:35:03.039
Eating the apple.

534
00:35:04.719 --> 00:35:11.760
Yeah, but yes, we tolerate.

535
00:35:12.119 --> 00:35:17.599
We can tolerate a pain down there that men like

536
00:35:18.039 --> 00:35:22.480
think like worse than your worst ship ever, worse than

537
00:35:22.480 --> 00:35:25.119
the worst constipation, you ever felt the worst gas, you've

538
00:35:25.119 --> 00:35:27.079
ever felt a.

539
00:35:27.079 --> 00:35:30.960
Kidney stone, whatever, all that.

540
00:35:31.360 --> 00:35:37.440
So still you know, like like we think. I think

541
00:35:37.480 --> 00:35:39.559
like the closest a man would ever get is pasting

542
00:35:39.559 --> 00:35:44.159
the stone. And believe me, problem.

543
00:35:46.280 --> 00:35:49.119
Now I'm thinking like maybe just a wide amputation of

544
00:35:49.199 --> 00:35:54.199
some some moments because adrenaline kicks in just like it

545
00:35:54.239 --> 00:35:56.800
does for a woman to allow it to happen. So

546
00:35:57.239 --> 00:36:02.039
there's probably the same ship. There's like men pain, because.

547
00:36:01.920 --> 00:36:06.360
Today at work, I was talking to someone about and

548
00:36:06.400 --> 00:36:10.920
this is like a manly like officer dude, right, he

549
00:36:11.679 --> 00:36:13.679
I was talking about, you know, I just had hand

550
00:36:13.719 --> 00:36:17.920
surgery and I didn't have a general anesthesia. I had

551
00:36:17.920 --> 00:36:23.599
a local anesthesia, okay, And and they're like, well, why

552
00:36:23.639 --> 00:36:25.599
didn't you just let them put you under? I said,

553
00:36:25.639 --> 00:36:29.199
you know why, because I don't have anybody in my

554
00:36:29.280 --> 00:36:32.280
life to pick me up and drop me off. Because

555
00:36:32.320 --> 00:36:34.400
they pumped me full of medication. So I had to

556
00:36:34.440 --> 00:36:36.760
do the local so that I could drive myself to

557
00:36:36.880 --> 00:36:40.079
and from right And so I was explaining to him.

558
00:36:40.079 --> 00:36:42.199
He's like, okay, so if you did that, how did

559
00:36:42.239 --> 00:36:46.719
it feel? I said, okay, so without the pain, I said,

560
00:36:46.760 --> 00:36:49.840
I was scared. I said, I'm actually laying there with

561
00:36:49.920 --> 00:36:52.320
a sheet on my face so that I don't see

562
00:36:52.320 --> 00:36:55.559
what they're doing. But I can actually feel this doctor

563
00:36:55.880 --> 00:37:00.320
sticking her fingers inside of my arm, and I can

564
00:37:00.360 --> 00:37:02.960
feel them pulling and pushing, and I can hear the

565
00:37:03.039 --> 00:37:06.960
snapping and the cutting, and and I was like, in

566
00:37:07.039 --> 00:37:09.119
the inside, I'm freaking out. You want to talk about

567
00:37:09.119 --> 00:37:11.480
panic attacks? I was like, why did I do this?

568
00:37:12.639 --> 00:37:14.440
And then and then you know what he did?

569
00:37:15.440 --> 00:37:18.400
I did right exactly it needed to be done. And

570
00:37:18.440 --> 00:37:22.920
then he then he follows up with me and compared

571
00:37:22.960 --> 00:37:29.880
it to him getting a victor. I'm like, I said, Bro,

572
00:37:30.079 --> 00:37:30.920
we're not the same.

573
00:37:33.679 --> 00:37:40.559
No, you're not for me, No, thank you, Nope, I'm

574
00:37:40.760 --> 00:37:41.599
glad I was out.

575
00:37:42.599 --> 00:37:44.119
That's what they call it, herpees.

576
00:37:46.639 --> 00:37:47.000
You know what?

577
00:37:47.519 --> 00:37:52.000
You and you are just.

578
00:37:51.119 --> 00:37:54.519
So real, so real. Quick. Back to that question about

579
00:37:54.519 --> 00:37:54.960
the high.

580
00:37:54.920 --> 00:37:58.239
Hills, I never answered.

581
00:37:58.239 --> 00:37:58.960
I never got my.

582
00:37:58.960 --> 00:38:00.840
Chance ahead sell what you guys say.

583
00:38:01.320 --> 00:38:06.440
First of all, as a woman that okay, So I'm older,

584
00:38:06.639 --> 00:38:08.960
so I don't love the heels as much as I

585
00:38:09.079 --> 00:38:12.639
used to, but I do enjoy wearing my tacos. Okay,

586
00:38:14.119 --> 00:38:19.159
but I am also you know what, woke. Okay, I'm also,

587
00:38:20.920 --> 00:38:24.480
but I'm also pretty smart. I don't go anywhere without

588
00:38:24.800 --> 00:38:25.719
my is of ton.

589
00:38:25.639 --> 00:38:32.800
Or slippers yoka. So like Sammy davidsr challenge.

590
00:38:33.639 --> 00:38:35.719
I have feet is shoes. My ass is not putting

591
00:38:35.719 --> 00:38:38.440
heels on. There's no reason why I would ever wear heels.

592
00:38:38.800 --> 00:38:44.480
Go as yourself. And if I'm with somebody.

593
00:38:43.639 --> 00:38:45.840
I'm latina. I think we come out the no.

594
00:38:46.320 --> 00:38:49.639
This is my response. You want to wear shoes, tell

595
00:38:49.679 --> 00:38:51.840
your shoes and hurt your feet, ladies, that's on you.

596
00:38:51.880 --> 00:38:53.920
But I have problems because I used to do that

597
00:38:53.960 --> 00:38:56.760
at my young age, and now that I'm no longer young,

598
00:38:57.239 --> 00:39:01.119
my feet are in pain all the time. So like

599
00:39:01.440 --> 00:39:05.199
my feet need to be comfortable. And if I'm with

600
00:39:05.440 --> 00:39:09.239
someone and my house is two blocks away or my

601
00:39:09.440 --> 00:39:11.840
car is two blocks away, you best believe he's going

602
00:39:11.880 --> 00:39:14.239
to get that fucking car and bringing it over to

603
00:39:14.280 --> 00:39:16.719
the two blocks where I am so I can get

604
00:39:16.760 --> 00:39:19.679
in said car and not me to walk those two blocks.

605
00:39:19.920 --> 00:39:23.559
That's what needs and the.

606
00:39:23.719 --> 00:39:27.840
Sentence listen, listen, you know what, and you get that's

607
00:39:28.000 --> 00:39:29.320
right where you're at. You know what I'm saying. I

608
00:39:29.400 --> 00:39:31.199
see you at the hotel. You make it, You make it.

609
00:39:31.639 --> 00:39:34.760
Guess what all my loves would pick my ass up.

610
00:39:34.760 --> 00:39:37.639
I'd be like, hey, go get my car, and they

611
00:39:37.679 --> 00:39:40.119
would like that.

612
00:39:44.039 --> 00:39:52.679
First off, she knows the real quick. Yo, you know what.

613
00:39:52.719 --> 00:39:54.280
First off, you know what I'm saying. She would nobody.

614
00:39:54.639 --> 00:39:57.920
You know what I'm saying. Okay, because because you know what,

615
00:39:58.079 --> 00:40:01.599
the then she throws on the shoes and I'm like, Yo,

616
00:40:01.800 --> 00:40:04.480
bring your slippers with you. I'm trying to hear ship.

617
00:40:05.000 --> 00:40:05.599
I don't want to hear.

618
00:40:06.599 --> 00:40:10.880
You cared enough, but you cared enough to think ahead

619
00:40:11.039 --> 00:40:12.440
and tell her to bring her.

620
00:40:12.760 --> 00:40:14.599
Exactly you know what I'm saying. You want to.

621
00:40:16.519 --> 00:40:20.159
Talking about to walk her behind here and.

622
00:40:20.119 --> 00:40:21.159
There you walk?

623
00:40:23.880 --> 00:40:25.239
Yeah, you know what. I love you, But I am

624
00:40:25.280 --> 00:40:26.679
moving my car and you know what I'm saying. And

625
00:40:26.679 --> 00:40:29.360
then I have to spend the block like eight times

626
00:40:29.360 --> 00:40:30.400
just to find parking.

627
00:40:32.239 --> 00:40:37.119
You know, I you and you see if.

628
00:40:36.960 --> 00:40:40.559
My house is two blocks away, okay. Not everyone in

629
00:40:40.599 --> 00:40:44.280
the world lives in the homeboken. Okay, there are places

630
00:40:44.320 --> 00:40:47.360
where you park, like in front of your home. Okay.

631
00:40:48.079 --> 00:40:51.199
So I met like, if we're two blocks away from

632
00:40:51.199 --> 00:40:54.920
the car and we were out doing something and we're

633
00:40:54.960 --> 00:40:58.159
going home type situation. If we're two blocks away from

634
00:40:58.679 --> 00:41:02.039
my home. I need to move because there's no reason

635
00:41:02.079 --> 00:41:07.760
why I should be parking on the streets. Black is

636
00:41:07.760 --> 00:41:08.920
different out here in pa.

637
00:41:09.239 --> 00:41:12.079
Okay this of course you.

638
00:41:12.119 --> 00:41:15.079
Know here, No, but I want to go.

639
00:41:15.119 --> 00:41:16.400
I want to go back for a second.

640
00:41:16.400 --> 00:41:16.639
TG.

641
00:41:18.320 --> 00:41:22.840
I can bet you dubs. His girl was wearing, was

642
00:41:22.920 --> 00:41:27.360
wearing those tacos when they made their little baby girl.

643
00:41:27.079 --> 00:41:30.280
Oh yeah, sure, and her feet were hurting and she

644
00:41:30.440 --> 00:41:33.039
was like, oh bo, why don't you just like let

645
00:41:33.039 --> 00:41:35.000
me right up on your back. And he was like,

646
00:41:35.199 --> 00:41:39.159
oh my baby, And he did that real quick because

647
00:41:39.199 --> 00:41:42.119
that day he had the strength because that boy pulled

648
00:41:42.119 --> 00:41:45.800
it in all the way. Yeah, we know, we know

649
00:41:46.239 --> 00:41:48.920
your backgrounds on certain occasions, we know.

650
00:41:50.000 --> 00:41:52.119
Yeah, of course I'm saying when it's not I mean,

651
00:41:52.119 --> 00:41:55.960
you're taking painful is going to hurt, you know, Like

652
00:41:56.519 --> 00:41:59.679
but look, you know what that goes without saying, right

653
00:42:00.960 --> 00:42:03.360
like at the end of the day, like you know what, Yeah,

654
00:42:03.400 --> 00:42:05.519
I reminded, like, yo, you know everywhere in those man,

655
00:42:05.559 --> 00:42:06.800
you better be wearing you know what I'm saying, carr

656
00:42:06.920 --> 00:42:10.679
some comfortable you know what I'm saying, Carry something.

657
00:42:10.519 --> 00:42:13.360
Carry something comfortable, you know, because.

658
00:42:13.800 --> 00:42:15.519
Because yeah, you know what I'm saying, because I don't

659
00:42:15.519 --> 00:42:16.719
want to hear that ship. You know what I'm saying,

660
00:42:17.760 --> 00:42:19.360
because then you know what I'm saying, Like, I'm gonna

661
00:42:19.360 --> 00:42:22.079
be like yop, I told you, I told you Wow. Wow.

662
00:42:22.280 --> 00:42:24.000
That is so not loved.

663
00:42:24.519 --> 00:42:27.199
Is it wrong to take an uber two blocks away

664
00:42:27.679 --> 00:42:29.039
or asking for afect?

665
00:42:29.039 --> 00:42:33.400
Oh yeah, waste of money. That's just a waste of money.

666
00:42:33.920 --> 00:42:35.880
Take uber two blocks away?

667
00:42:36.880 --> 00:42:40.599
What if they're like New York City blocks though those.

668
00:42:40.440 --> 00:42:43.360
Are really long blocks, Yes they are.

669
00:42:47.280 --> 00:42:52.639
That requires walking downstairs, bro, like you like like you

670
00:42:52.679 --> 00:42:54.239
don't know, mm hmmm.

671
00:42:55.239 --> 00:42:59.360
Some of us have sepro sometimes sometimes you know. Sometimes

672
00:42:59.360 --> 00:43:01.679
you know what I'm saying. To know what love is,

673
00:43:01.679 --> 00:43:06.760
you gotta suffer, meaning I don't.

674
00:43:07.000 --> 00:43:09.679
I do not believe that the only suffering that should

675
00:43:09.719 --> 00:43:15.840
happen in relationship is that I'm missing you. That's it, amen, TG.

676
00:43:17.000 --> 00:43:22.679
Yeah, car and pick you know again. But that's not

677
00:43:22.719 --> 00:43:26.880
for us. I got good aim, but I'll be hitting.

678
00:43:26.920 --> 00:43:30.840
I won't be missing trust me, Lord, I mean anybody

679
00:43:31.239 --> 00:43:33.280
you know what I'm saying. It's joking around it like,

680
00:43:33.599 --> 00:43:36.280
no anybody needs to can holler at me. I can't

681
00:43:36.280 --> 00:43:42.599
miss that's because your game is weak. I can't pull

682
00:43:42.639 --> 00:43:44.320
out of a driveway you.

683
00:43:44.280 --> 00:43:48.199
Can't and all the time you spend in your car, damn,

684
00:43:49.000 --> 00:43:50.559
I know right right.

685
00:43:52.920 --> 00:44:00.400
You know, it is what it is? So so like

686
00:44:00.440 --> 00:44:06.760
what was? What if it was raining? Would get no?

687
00:44:08.719 --> 00:44:11.320
So we're two blocks listen, man, we're two blocks away?

688
00:44:11.320 --> 00:44:15.840
Why why why am I going to run two blocks away? Right?

689
00:44:16.159 --> 00:44:18.679
Let's to come back outside, you know what I'm saying.

690
00:44:19.559 --> 00:44:22.320
Then to drive back and you know what and where

691
00:44:22.360 --> 00:44:24.920
I'm at, you know, like parking is.

692
00:44:26.599 --> 00:44:27.599
Coughing? What are you doing?

693
00:44:28.480 --> 00:44:35.079
She'll be all right, strigger water all right? You know,

694
00:44:35.280 --> 00:44:37.679
like I don't. I don't understand why she ain't sleeping,

695
00:44:39.719 --> 00:44:43.719
you know, like, oh well, but what I learned in

696
00:44:43.719 --> 00:44:47.159
the Casey Anthony School for Parenting is that a little

697
00:44:47.199 --> 00:44:52.920
bit of chloroform will take care of that little Yeah,

698
00:44:53.119 --> 00:44:53.599
just a tad.

699
00:44:54.360 --> 00:44:56.440
He knows he's talking out his butt.

700
00:44:56.840 --> 00:44:58.599
Of course I am sire. She can stay. She could

701
00:44:58.599 --> 00:44:59.320
do whatever you want.

702
00:44:59.719 --> 00:45:03.320
Yeah, you let that girl, that girl she got you wrapped.

703
00:45:03.039 --> 00:45:06.639
Them around her little thinking she doesn't you know what,

704
00:45:06.679 --> 00:45:09.639
she's my travel part. That's my buddy. Wherever I go,

705
00:45:09.760 --> 00:45:10.199
she goes.

706
00:45:11.800 --> 00:45:16.840
Yeah, that's what it is, all right, So and we

707
00:45:16.920 --> 00:45:25.880
will be moving on. So what is one activity you

708
00:45:25.960 --> 00:45:30.559
initially you initially approached with that you had hesitation on

709
00:45:30.760 --> 00:45:33.440
but eventually ended up doing anyway?

710
00:45:33.920 --> 00:45:36.440
Living? Say that again?

711
00:45:37.440 --> 00:45:38.719
Living? Really all right?

712
00:45:38.880 --> 00:45:46.760
So the quest the question is what's one activity you

713
00:45:46.880 --> 00:45:52.639
initiate that you were initially approached with hesitation but wounded

714
00:45:52.719 --> 00:45:53.440
up enjoying?

715
00:45:54.719 --> 00:45:54.840
Uh?

716
00:45:55.800 --> 00:46:00.320
Okay, I can't say a lot of things carry key.

717
00:46:04.199 --> 00:46:07.039
And I'm pretty you know, and I'm pretty sure ship.

718
00:46:07.079 --> 00:46:13.519
Puking, picking, I can actually saying, bitch, bring it go

719
00:46:13.599 --> 00:46:19.440
in a fat com by myself two years in a row. Uh,

720
00:46:19.920 --> 00:46:23.039
a lot of things. Think about it, guys, Like tell

721
00:46:23.079 --> 00:46:25.280
me there isn't activities in your life that you've done

722
00:46:25.320 --> 00:46:29.519
that you didn't have hesitation at first and you did

723
00:46:29.519 --> 00:46:32.119
it and it felt good or you were glad that

724
00:46:32.159 --> 00:46:35.039
you did and that you didn't miss out on the opportunity.

725
00:46:36.320 --> 00:46:39.920
Yo, you know what, man like in all honesty right now,

726
00:46:40.039 --> 00:46:42.719
this is the real meat that's gonna say something. I'm

727
00:46:42.719 --> 00:46:44.239
so like you know what I'm saying, Like as far

728
00:46:44.280 --> 00:46:47.480
as like you know, like the right yeah, the real

729
00:46:47.519 --> 00:46:49.840
me see what I'm saying, like perked up like like

730
00:46:50.159 --> 00:46:52.199
like like you know, like we're gonna take the mask

731
00:46:52.239 --> 00:46:55.000
off real quick. Right, I'm so like, you know what

732
00:46:55.000 --> 00:46:57.920
I'm saying, Like nowadays, I'm so like, you know, like

733
00:46:58.559 --> 00:47:01.880
good with life, you know what I'm saying, Like like

734
00:47:01.880 --> 00:47:05.639
like every day it's just like you know, like an

735
00:47:05.679 --> 00:47:07.800
opportunity for something, you know, like.

736
00:47:07.800 --> 00:47:10.000
That that's what love did to your life stuff.

737
00:47:10.760 --> 00:47:19.199
Mm hmmm yeah yeah, yeah, yeah, you know, but but

738
00:47:19.199 --> 00:47:21.480
but other but other than that, but other than.

739
00:47:21.400 --> 00:47:27.079
That, I mean, you know, I can't recall like you know,

740
00:47:27.159 --> 00:47:35.679
like like an activity or whatever, you know, because like

741
00:47:36.199 --> 00:47:41.800
not not do way too much, way too much, you know,

742
00:47:41.920 --> 00:47:43.920
like because like yo, most of my most of my

743
00:47:43.960 --> 00:47:45.320
activities involved drugs.

744
00:47:46.440 --> 00:47:48.760
Well, let's talk about them things that you can't do.

745
00:47:49.079 --> 00:47:50.159
Will you do karaoke?

746
00:47:51.880 --> 00:47:53.440
I used to freestyle, you know what I'm saying, Like

747
00:47:53.440 --> 00:47:53.800
I used.

748
00:47:53.719 --> 00:47:57.079
To figure freestyling singing. When I'm talking about the rap game,

749
00:47:57.320 --> 00:47:59.400
you're not getting up there and doing rap songs. That's

750
00:47:59.480 --> 00:48:03.159
cheating to Karaoke's about saying even if you can't, you're

751
00:48:03.199 --> 00:48:04.320
supposed to go out there.

752
00:48:04.159 --> 00:48:07.400
And say, you know, there's other things.

753
00:48:07.800 --> 00:48:08.880
Do you know how to roller skate?

754
00:48:11.239 --> 00:48:11.360
Oh?

755
00:48:11.440 --> 00:48:12.719
Yeah, I could see him doing that.

756
00:48:13.000 --> 00:48:15.119
Yeah, with with with that back of his he's gonna

757
00:48:15.159 --> 00:48:15.639
roller skate.

758
00:48:16.119 --> 00:48:18.440
Oh yeah, I mean that's definitely an activity of hesitation,

759
00:48:18.480 --> 00:48:20.599
because he's like, if you fall back, I'm dead. But

760
00:48:20.639 --> 00:48:23.039
I was thinking more with his you know, the little one.

761
00:48:23.079 --> 00:48:26.239
Eventually he's gonna want to be doing things and activities

762
00:48:26.239 --> 00:48:26.679
for her.

763
00:48:26.679 --> 00:48:29.880
Daddy, you know what, like like you know, honestly, we

764
00:48:29.960 --> 00:48:31.840
want pumpkin pickingness past.

765
00:48:31.559 --> 00:48:38.880
Weekend, you know, like and you had hesitations, not just

766
00:48:38.920 --> 00:48:42.719
wanted to get out the house, you know, Like.

767
00:48:42.920 --> 00:48:45.760
I'm glad you with that, because pumpkin picking is fun.

768
00:48:47.079 --> 00:48:49.360
You know, No, you know what, and getting you know what,

769
00:48:49.519 --> 00:48:51.519
getting purposely lost what's fun too?

770
00:48:52.199 --> 00:48:54.400
Oh no, I can Did you do a corn maze?

771
00:48:55.280 --> 00:48:57.599
Was that corn maze?

772
00:48:58.440 --> 00:48:58.760
No?

773
00:48:59.280 --> 00:49:00.639
No, not.

774
00:49:02.760 --> 00:49:06.639
Like when I said getting purposely lost? You know what

775
00:49:06.639 --> 00:49:08.280
I'm saying, Like we ended up a Bear Mountain?

776
00:49:09.199 --> 00:49:10.480
Oh even when you were driving?

777
00:49:12.159 --> 00:49:15.039
Yeah, like yeah, and no, you know what I'm saying,

778
00:49:15.079 --> 00:49:18.039
like I justly did it without the GPS, like like

779
00:49:18.079 --> 00:49:20.719
you know, like we went from like you know, like

780
00:49:20.880 --> 00:49:24.480
Hillsdale ended up in a Spring Valley. From Spring Valley,

781
00:49:24.480 --> 00:49:28.440
we ended up Bears Mountain. From Bears Mountain, we ended

782
00:49:28.519 --> 00:49:29.159
up with Woodbury.

783
00:49:30.639 --> 00:49:33.880
Mm hmmmm. You wind up all over the up c

784
00:49:34.119 --> 00:49:34.519
New York.

785
00:49:35.760 --> 00:49:37.840
Yeah, it was a beautiful day. You know. First off,

786
00:49:37.880 --> 00:49:41.760
it was beautiful, right, you know, you know what, and

787
00:49:41.800 --> 00:49:45.480
then like you know, like like like what's you call it?

788
00:49:45.719 --> 00:49:48.639
Non W non W has trees like you know what

789
00:49:48.639 --> 00:49:51.840
I'm saying. It's like riding in a canopy, you know

790
00:49:51.840 --> 00:49:54.039
what I'm saying, trees like and like you know what,

791
00:49:54.079 --> 00:49:57.119
and the leaves are like different colors. So it's like, yeah,

792
00:49:57.159 --> 00:49:58.840
it was a good day to get lost. He is

793
00:49:58.880 --> 00:50:03.000
beautiful right now, you know, like, of course.

794
00:50:02.800 --> 00:50:05.719
It is this this this question right here is gonna

795
00:50:05.760 --> 00:50:07.079
have to go around the room because this is a

796
00:50:07.159 --> 00:50:08.079
very interesting question.

797
00:50:09.599 --> 00:50:12.280
Yeah, right at left, right, right left, All.

798
00:50:12.320 --> 00:50:17.519
Right, tell the audience about a time when you hurt

799
00:50:17.559 --> 00:50:23.760
someone so deeply on in a personal relationship. Tell us

800
00:50:23.800 --> 00:50:31.199
how it happened and how it was resolved. Mm hmmm,

801
00:50:31.559 --> 00:50:36.599
We're gonna start with Dubbs.

802
00:50:37.119 --> 00:50:42.679
Yeah, I gotta go down.

803
00:50:44.440 --> 00:50:45.360
Right. She's great.

804
00:50:47.039 --> 00:50:51.079
Hey, look, you know what, that's there's way too many

805
00:50:51.119 --> 00:50:52.679
people for that, you know what I'm saying.

806
00:50:52.480 --> 00:50:57.519
Like, well, just give us one situation that you heard

807
00:50:57.519 --> 00:50:59.239
someone on a you know.

808
00:51:00.840 --> 00:51:02.320
Yeah, but yo, you know what when when I heard

809
00:51:02.519 --> 00:51:04.360
you know what, like like like back then like, you

810
00:51:04.400 --> 00:51:07.039
know what I'm saying that I'm saying back then when

811
00:51:07.039 --> 00:51:10.920
I heard somebody it was it was done intentionally, right,

812
00:51:11.719 --> 00:51:14.320
you know what I'm saying. So it was like, and

813
00:51:14.360 --> 00:51:16.400
I did it a lot, and I don't know, you

814
00:51:16.400 --> 00:51:20.159
know what you want? I have one.

815
00:51:20.239 --> 00:51:23.960
I have one. Let him think infester while I give

816
00:51:24.000 --> 00:51:26.320
you a simple one. Because it literally was something I

817
00:51:26.400 --> 00:51:31.639
was talking with someone about today. So I had like

818
00:51:31.639 --> 00:51:36.920
a best friend in high school and we were like

819
00:51:37.039 --> 00:51:42.440
inseparable my senior year, and then she decided that she

820
00:51:42.519 --> 00:51:44.400
was going to get together with this asshole even though

821
00:51:44.400 --> 00:51:46.960
we all told her not to, and he wound up

822
00:51:47.039 --> 00:51:53.000
knocking her up and she had this baby, uh, and

823
00:51:53.079 --> 00:51:56.880
we found out together actually that he was cheating on

824
00:51:56.920 --> 00:52:00.079
her uh and was having another baby with some and

825
00:52:00.159 --> 00:52:04.480
else when she was like two or whatever. So cut

826
00:52:04.559 --> 00:52:13.800
to I want to say twelve years maybe later or

827
00:52:13.960 --> 00:52:19.000
later actually, so she was probably like twelve or thirteen,

828
00:52:19.119 --> 00:52:24.199
I think, and I ran into the deadbeat dad while

829
00:52:24.320 --> 00:52:28.360
I wasn't hoboken drinking, so I was drunk and I

830
00:52:28.360 --> 00:52:32.079
saw this person who I didn't like, and she got

831
00:52:32.119 --> 00:52:36.199
into like a whole conversation and I went and told

832
00:52:36.239 --> 00:52:40.400
her about it. And she got so mad at me,

833
00:52:41.360 --> 00:52:46.400
like I did something wrong because I dared to tell her,

834
00:52:47.119 --> 00:52:51.039
like what if your daughter does want to see her

835
00:52:51.119 --> 00:52:54.119
dad or a relationship with him, Like would that really

836
00:52:54.159 --> 00:52:56.480
be a bad thing or whatever? Like I was just

837
00:52:56.519 --> 00:52:59.840
thinking from a perspective of a daughter who has a

838
00:53:00.320 --> 00:53:03.880
who she didn't really get to see and wanted to

839
00:53:04.039 --> 00:53:08.599
have in her life. But at that point, my friend

840
00:53:08.679 --> 00:53:12.159
had decided that like he has no rights to her.

841
00:53:12.280 --> 00:53:15.960
Her last name was changed and everything for a reason.

842
00:53:18.039 --> 00:53:20.559
So she kind of took that as like I went

843
00:53:20.599 --> 00:53:24.679
against her somehow, and then she didn't trust me. So

844
00:53:26.920 --> 00:53:29.440
something that I felt was good intent or I had

845
00:53:29.480 --> 00:53:33.000
good intent to it and wasn't like anything, Like I

846
00:53:33.119 --> 00:53:35.800
never promised anything, never said I was going to set

847
00:53:35.880 --> 00:53:39.559
up anything for him. I never led him to believe

848
00:53:39.639 --> 00:53:46.079
that I would do anything but talk and uh yeah,

849
00:53:46.480 --> 00:53:51.400
because you know, when you're drunk, everything sounds reasonable. Uh

850
00:53:51.760 --> 00:53:56.880
So yeah, And the relationship changed that after that, Honestly,

851
00:53:59.320 --> 00:54:02.559
I don't and ever kind of really went back to

852
00:54:02.920 --> 00:54:05.519
what it was at one point, which is sad, But

853
00:54:06.000 --> 00:54:09.880
I can understand now a little bit more of like

854
00:54:09.920 --> 00:54:12.400
where she was coming from, how she could have seen that.

855
00:54:12.519 --> 00:54:16.119
But at that time, I also felt like, if I'm

856
00:54:16.159 --> 00:54:19.800
your best friend, I'm never gonna hurt you intentionally, Like

857
00:54:19.920 --> 00:54:25.599
that's not how my unconditional loves works towards my friends.

858
00:54:25.639 --> 00:54:31.559
So okay, that's a good one. Lady, g what's up?

859
00:54:35.440 --> 00:54:41.079
Are we talking about intentionally hurting somebody or unintentionally not it.

860
00:54:41.159 --> 00:54:42.639
Just hurts someone deeply?

861
00:54:46.119 --> 00:54:53.440
Because I can't honestly say that, I well, first of all,

862
00:54:53.519 --> 00:54:59.559
I don't think I've ever purposefully hurt anyone deeply. But

863
00:54:59.599 --> 00:55:03.039
the only thing I can think about that at least

864
00:55:03.079 --> 00:55:06.000
that I'm aware of, because sometimes when people get hurt deeply,

865
00:55:06.599 --> 00:55:11.599
they don't really say anything to you, excuse me. The

866
00:55:11.599 --> 00:55:16.239
only thing I can really think of is before I

867
00:55:16.239 --> 00:55:25.519
got divorced, I, after fourteen years of marriage, approached my

868
00:55:26.000 --> 00:55:28.159
ex husband and told him, you know that we have

869
00:55:28.239 --> 00:55:35.119
a problem. We have an issue, and I think it

870
00:55:35.159 --> 00:55:37.320
would be a good idea for us to do, you know,

871
00:55:37.400 --> 00:55:42.119
a trial separation. And because he actually wasn't living in

872
00:55:42.159 --> 00:55:45.920
the same state with me, he was living in another

873
00:55:46.000 --> 00:55:53.760
state for work. But I started to realize that the

874
00:55:53.840 --> 00:55:57.480
marriage wasn't what I guess had in my head that

875
00:55:57.519 --> 00:56:00.800
it was. Until he was no longer theirs. So I

876
00:56:00.920 --> 00:56:03.280
kind of approached him and said, you know, maybe we

877
00:56:03.280 --> 00:56:08.119
should try a trial separation and see, you know, how

878
00:56:08.159 --> 00:56:12.199
this works out. And for the first time in our

879
00:56:12.199 --> 00:56:16.000
whole entire marriage, which was a total of sixteen years.

880
00:56:16.000 --> 00:56:17.480
I saw the man cry.

881
00:56:19.760 --> 00:56:23.719
And we lost parents, we lost siblings. Like in our

882
00:56:23.760 --> 00:56:27.760
sixteen years of marriage, people died, people that we loved,

883
00:56:28.480 --> 00:56:30.440
and I never once saw the man shed a tear.

884
00:56:31.639 --> 00:56:34.280
But when I say, you know, we should have a

885
00:56:34.320 --> 00:56:38.679
trial separation, we should. You know, he wasn't even trying

886
00:56:38.679 --> 00:56:41.679
to hear anything else after that, you know, but he cried.

887
00:56:42.199 --> 00:56:45.639
But he cried, and every you know, for those who

888
00:56:45.719 --> 00:56:51.119
know me as a person, every fiber of my being

889
00:56:51.199 --> 00:56:54.719
wanted to take it back. But at the same token,

890
00:56:54.760 --> 00:56:57.239
I was the one hurting, which is why I even

891
00:56:57.400 --> 00:57:01.519
mentioned it. So I had to stay strong and I

892
00:57:01.559 --> 00:57:05.559
did you know, I didn't take it back. Uh. But

893
00:57:05.639 --> 00:57:08.960
the way that turned out was he ended up walking

894
00:57:09.000 --> 00:57:12.800
away like another week later and married my daughter's godmother.

895
00:57:13.000 --> 00:57:16.440
So uh, I guess that that's that.

896
00:57:17.079 --> 00:57:20.360
I'm sorry, it's still crazy to hear that, Like every

897
00:57:20.400 --> 00:57:22.800
time when you mentioned I'm still like, come on.

898
00:57:22.840 --> 00:57:26.199
Bro, I know, I know, but hey, they're going five

899
00:57:26.280 --> 00:57:27.000
years strong.

900
00:57:27.400 --> 00:57:33.800
Yay, wait till they get seven years. That's what what

901
00:57:33.920 --> 00:57:35.119
is it? The seven year itch?

902
00:57:35.480 --> 00:57:39.039
The seven year itch, and that and that, and that

903
00:57:39.239 --> 00:57:41.360
is real because I have to admit when we got

904
00:57:41.360 --> 00:57:44.840
to seventh I was itching. I was like, I don't.

905
00:57:44.599 --> 00:57:46.000
Know, I got over it, but.

906
00:57:47.719 --> 00:57:52.280
I got over it still. So that's the only thing

907
00:57:52.639 --> 00:57:56.280
or the only time I could ever think that I've

908
00:57:56.360 --> 00:57:58.840
hurt someone deeply. But then again, I really don't know

909
00:57:59.119 --> 00:58:01.480
other than the fact that he cried that day, But

910
00:58:01.519 --> 00:58:04.039
that could have been for any reason. That could have

911
00:58:04.079 --> 00:58:07.280
been maybe he got slapped in the balls. I don't know,

912
00:58:07.400 --> 00:58:12.159
but then he didn't really have any So.

913
00:58:14.519 --> 00:58:22.960
That's that. That's that that special backhand of yours. She

914
00:58:23.119 --> 00:58:25.679
cocked it way back. She was like, lit'sten, my little.

915
00:58:28.920 --> 00:58:30.639
Like with the chunk persition.

916
00:58:31.039 --> 00:58:34.559
Then yes, yes, the boomerang ch.

917
00:58:36.440 --> 00:58:37.760
Yeah, that's hilarious.

918
00:58:38.159 --> 00:58:49.320
All right, So so what's yours. Yeah, let's see, I'm thinking.

919
00:58:49.719 --> 00:58:51.519
I was thinking the whole time, and I'm just.

920
00:58:51.400 --> 00:58:56.079
Wow, wow, yeah, dubs, did you figure something out?

921
00:58:59.519 --> 00:59:06.039
It was yeah, yeah, yeah, you know what it's it's

922
00:59:05.159 --> 00:59:11.119
it's hard. It's hard. It's hard to speak, it's hard

923
00:59:11.119 --> 00:59:14.000
to speak on it because it was it was basically

924
00:59:14.039 --> 00:59:15.239
a life and that situation.

925
00:59:16.599 --> 00:59:19.039
Mm hmm, No, that's too deep.

926
00:59:19.239 --> 00:59:21.719
And I had to I had to deal with my brothers.

927
00:59:21.760 --> 00:59:24.840
So like we found out that that we were compatible,

928
00:59:25.920 --> 00:59:27.840
and I knew he needed the can and he asked me,

929
00:59:28.679 --> 00:59:30.440
but I was too, but I was too young at

930
00:59:30.440 --> 00:59:34.239
the time, like to you see like the the importance

931
00:59:34.320 --> 00:59:42.360
of it. So hold on, man, So like someone's calling you. Yeah,

932
00:59:42.880 --> 00:59:47.840
so like when the happening was right, when that happening

933
00:59:47.960 --> 00:59:51.320
was right, So he goes through like transplants and stuff right,

934
00:59:52.199 --> 00:59:53.920
and then like you know, like back in like the

935
00:59:53.960 --> 00:59:57.719
twenty fourteen twenty fifteen, I was like, you know what,

936
00:59:57.760 --> 00:59:59.920
I ain't drinking no more. You know, I'm focused. You know,

937
01:00:00.920 --> 01:00:05.599
I love you, bro, Like let's go do this. And

938
01:00:05.639 --> 01:00:06.920
by the time, like you know, we want to go

939
01:00:06.960 --> 01:00:10.239
like do the test and all that stuff, right, Like

940
01:00:10.320 --> 01:00:11.920
the doctors over here they don't want to do it.

941
01:00:13.880 --> 01:00:18.239
So we went to Columbia Presbyterian and like they were

942
01:00:18.239 --> 01:00:20.800
willing to do it up until they saw how much

943
01:00:20.800 --> 01:00:22.880
Scar to shoot you at because he had so much

944
01:00:22.880 --> 01:00:28.519
trans right, and when they told me that they can't

945
01:00:28.559 --> 01:00:30.880
do it, and they called them up and said that

946
01:00:30.960 --> 01:00:34.960
they couldn't do it. Yo, I freaking started crying in

947
01:00:35.000 --> 01:00:37.320
the hospital because I already knew right then and there,

948
01:00:37.360 --> 01:00:40.440
like they just sentenced my brother to dath and like

949
01:00:41.880 --> 01:00:44.960
and like you know what, and there was something I

950
01:00:44.960 --> 01:00:46.719
could have done. And like when I told him no

951
01:00:46.920 --> 01:00:49.559
because I was scared, I was like out your mind.

952
01:00:49.719 --> 01:00:52.599
I was eighteen at the time. Like you know, I

953
01:00:52.679 --> 01:00:54.719
remember the look on his face, right, like he held

954
01:00:54.760 --> 01:00:58.039
in tears, right.

955
01:01:01.199 --> 01:01:05.719
Yeah, but you know you didn't hurt him. You didn't

956
01:01:05.800 --> 01:01:08.880
hurt him, though, Like I don't like that you think

957
01:01:08.960 --> 01:01:12.960
that this is a way that you hurt somebody. You

958
01:01:13.000 --> 01:01:17.039
didn't hurt him because it wasn't something that you were

959
01:01:17.199 --> 01:01:22.559
unable to do or whatever that's you. It hurts me

960
01:01:22.679 --> 01:01:25.119
right now that you would even think that this is

961
01:01:26.800 --> 01:01:32.280
something even something you didn't hurt him. By that you

962
01:01:32.280 --> 01:01:35.199
you really are taking guilt and fault to this, because

963
01:01:36.000 --> 01:01:39.079
that isn't your fault, you know that, right.

964
01:01:41.000 --> 01:01:46.800
I mean there's always a lot of what is, of course.

965
01:01:46.599 --> 01:01:48.639
But at the same time.

966
01:01:48.760 --> 01:01:52.360
This isn't can tell you how close I was, but

967
01:01:53.320 --> 01:01:58.000
I know and like and like you know, like hey

968
01:01:58.079 --> 01:02:03.119
stop that, like stop it, hm, hey stop trying to Yo,

969
01:02:03.360 --> 01:02:04.480
stop trying to shack my chain.

970
01:02:05.679 --> 01:02:08.400
She's trying to get involved obviously in the conversation.

971
01:02:09.079 --> 01:02:16.920
Yeah, so like when you know, like like I remember

972
01:02:16.920 --> 01:02:18.679
clear as day because they had me watch a video

973
01:02:19.760 --> 01:02:22.280
about it, and I'm here all like you know, hyped up.

974
01:02:23.079 --> 01:02:24.440
But then for them to like come in the room,

975
01:02:24.440 --> 01:02:27.400
it's like, yeah, we can't do it. So I was

976
01:02:27.440 --> 01:02:29.159
like what you know what I'm saying, I'm so saw.

977
01:02:29.159 --> 01:02:31.199
I blackedout, said, Yo, what you mean you can't do it?

978
01:02:31.239 --> 01:02:32.559
So what the fuck you have me come over here?

979
01:02:32.599 --> 01:02:32.639
For?

980
01:02:33.679 --> 01:02:36.400
I worked, you know what, I worked last night just

981
01:02:36.440 --> 01:02:38.360
to rush masks over here in time for all this

982
01:02:38.639 --> 01:02:41.639
to say you can't do it. You couldn't call. You

983
01:02:41.719 --> 01:02:43.239
know what I'm saying, Like that would have saved you

984
01:02:43.280 --> 01:02:44.559
what I'm saying, that would have saved me a trip.

985
01:02:47.000 --> 01:02:48.400
The first thing I did when I got back to

986
01:02:48.440 --> 01:02:53.199
Jersey was go, like see my brother, like you know,

987
01:02:54.079 --> 01:03:00.519
he started crying and he was like that's it. I'll

988
01:03:00.519 --> 01:03:02.440
never forget that day though, you know what I'm saying,

989
01:03:02.440 --> 01:03:12.320
because like because like stop because like, h I walked

990
01:03:12.320 --> 01:03:13.480
you know what I'm saying, Like I walked out of

991
01:03:13.480 --> 01:03:18.760
his house like sleeping problem night the thing like I

992
01:03:18.840 --> 01:03:22.280
started thinking about when I told him no the first time.

993
01:03:23.119 --> 01:03:26.639
Right, but again now you think your daughters even telling

994
01:03:26.639 --> 01:03:32.400
you write down that it's not your faults. Yeah, because

995
01:03:32.440 --> 01:03:34.000
it's not your faults.

996
01:03:35.639 --> 01:03:38.840
It is. And you know what, and other people that

997
01:03:38.880 --> 01:03:41.440
I heard, you know, like all I you know what

998
01:03:41.440 --> 01:03:43.079
I'm saying. All I could do now is ask you

999
01:03:43.119 --> 01:03:46.559
know what I'm saying. They're listening. I doubt that, but

1000
01:03:47.559 --> 01:03:50.679
you know, to have like you know what I'm saying,

1001
01:03:50.679 --> 01:03:57.480
like like like, you know, ask for forgiveness, and that's it.

1002
01:03:56.239 --> 01:03:59.599
I wasn't you know, I wasn't.

1003
01:03:59.480 --> 01:04:03.559
Even right now, I'm sure. But at the same time,

1004
01:04:03.639 --> 01:04:07.599
this wasn't your fault. You aren't the reason. I don't.

1005
01:04:07.719 --> 01:04:10.039
I think you need to hear that you were not

1006
01:04:10.239 --> 01:04:15.800
the reason. This is not your fault. Like the fact

1007
01:04:15.880 --> 01:04:18.599
that you loved him enough to want to do this

1008
01:04:18.679 --> 01:04:22.159
for him. I have siblings who I don't even talk to.

1009
01:04:23.079 --> 01:04:25.679
You had a sibling who you loved and who loved you,

1010
01:04:26.320 --> 01:04:28.960
and you guys loved each other so much that you

1011
01:04:29.079 --> 01:04:32.800
were willing to do something like that for him. If anything,

1012
01:04:32.840 --> 01:04:36.320
you were his fucking hero. Dude. Don't think anything other

1013
01:04:36.360 --> 01:04:42.039
than that, because it is not your fault. And I'm

1014
01:04:42.079 --> 01:04:44.480
sorry that no one has said this to you sooner,

1015
01:04:44.760 --> 01:04:46.480
because it's the.

1016
01:04:46.519 --> 01:04:48.599
Truth is that I don't talk about it.

1017
01:04:49.480 --> 01:04:52.239
Well, I'm glad you did because now you know it's

1018
01:04:52.360 --> 01:04:52.960
not your.

1019
01:04:52.800 --> 01:04:57.000
Fault and no one is half the battle, bro right

1020
01:04:58.360 --> 01:05:10.719
ge still, But yeah, how a question just went to

1021
01:05:11.159 --> 01:05:15.840
like interpretation matters, right, Like, it's very interesting to me

1022
01:05:16.039 --> 01:05:19.639
that we all heard one question and kind of like

1023
01:05:19.800 --> 01:05:23.320
interpret our story that we told was an interpretation and

1024
01:05:23.400 --> 01:05:24.559
how we took that question.

1025
01:05:25.760 --> 01:05:28.840
But like it also shows how much we internalize and

1026
01:05:28.840 --> 01:05:32.159
beat ourselves up for things. A lot of times that

1027
01:05:33.119 --> 01:05:36.119
is not on us. It really isn't, and that's okay.

1028
01:05:37.519 --> 01:05:43.719
You know, sometimes it happens like I could blame myself

1029
01:05:43.760 --> 01:05:48.679
for my mom dying because I could have told her

1030
01:05:48.880 --> 01:05:51.280
not to get the surgery and see what would happen,

1031
01:05:52.320 --> 01:05:54.559
you know, But what's that going to do for me?

1032
01:05:55.280 --> 01:05:58.800
She died. There's nothing I can do. She actually died

1033
01:05:58.840 --> 01:06:01.800
the way she wanted to, which was getting the surgery,

1034
01:06:02.440 --> 01:06:06.320
and it was literally the only option for her to

1035
01:06:06.480 --> 01:06:08.320
live because she wasn't you know, my mom had a

1036
01:06:08.440 --> 01:06:11.000
pancreatic cancer. She was not going to do chemo and

1037
01:06:11.119 --> 01:06:16.239
radiation again, So she took her chances, even though they

1038
01:06:16.280 --> 01:06:19.119
told her it was you know, there's a chance this

1039
01:06:19.199 --> 01:06:22.920
is not going to work out. And she lived for

1040
01:06:23.000 --> 01:06:25.280
a couple of weeks after her surgery, and that was

1041
01:06:25.280 --> 01:06:32.920
a wow. But do I regret ever taking her to

1042
01:06:33.840 --> 01:06:38.079
uh I can't even remember their name right now, Spoonne

1043
01:06:38.079 --> 01:06:42.840
memorial cattering because Hackensack refused to do her surgery. No,

1044
01:06:43.000 --> 01:06:46.199
I do not regret that, because that truly was her

1045
01:06:46.239 --> 01:06:48.079
only like.

1046
01:06:48.199 --> 01:06:49.920
Hope at that moment.

1047
01:06:52.960 --> 01:06:57.639
Yeah, you know, sometimes like I could have totally taken

1048
01:06:57.679 --> 01:07:00.760
that on on myself and blame my self for a

1049
01:07:00.800 --> 01:07:06.800
lot of things. Right, it's definitely not my fault. You know,

1050
01:07:08.800 --> 01:07:13.079
my mom, like in her final months showed us the

1051
01:07:13.079 --> 01:07:16.679
most strength we've ever seen in our mother. And so

1052
01:07:17.800 --> 01:07:22.239
I feel like, you know, it's unfortunate when it takes

1053
01:07:22.239 --> 01:07:28.920
you dying to actually be a better person, but you know,

1054
01:07:29.480 --> 01:07:32.599
at least that that's the experience I got to take

1055
01:07:32.639 --> 01:07:39.119
with me, Like, but you got to see it, yes,

1056
01:07:39.760 --> 01:07:42.320
And it's crazy because like in December, I like, you

1057
01:07:42.360 --> 01:07:44.559
still can't believe it's going to be ten years because

1058
01:07:45.400 --> 01:07:48.519
it goes time goes by fast. But at the same time,

1059
01:07:48.559 --> 01:07:52.199
it doesn't feel like it was that long ago. It

1060
01:07:52.239 --> 01:07:55.480
feels like it was a few years ago, like oddly,

1061
01:07:55.519 --> 01:08:00.159
you know, there's just these moments you have and and

1062
01:08:00.159 --> 01:08:03.559
I'm sure that all of us because we've experienced grief

1063
01:08:03.840 --> 01:08:08.159
in some way or a loss, like it could be

1064
01:08:08.199 --> 01:08:13.599
perfectly fine, and then you hear something that makes you

1065
01:08:13.679 --> 01:08:16.680
trigger a memory that makes you think about the person

1066
01:08:16.880 --> 01:08:19.159
and then you realize that you miss them because they're

1067
01:08:19.159 --> 01:08:24.960
not here. So usually October, like, these months are hard

1068
01:08:24.960 --> 01:08:27.760
for me because my grandma's birthday would have been October eighth.

1069
01:08:29.000 --> 01:08:32.960
My mom's birthdays December twentieth, and she died the twenty

1070
01:08:33.000 --> 01:08:41.680
first of December, so it's like such a weird time birthday. Yeah,

1071
01:08:41.840 --> 01:08:45.640
see so like and it's right right before the holidays too,

1072
01:08:45.840 --> 01:08:49.000
you know, so it always makes it just a little harder.

1073
01:08:50.000 --> 01:08:55.039
But I'm so grateful for the people in my life,

1074
01:08:55.119 --> 01:08:57.600
the life that I have, the job that I have,

1075
01:08:57.920 --> 01:09:00.920
even though I want more, I'm grateful for the things

1076
01:09:00.960 --> 01:09:05.159
I do have, and I'm actually happy, which Corleone can

1077
01:09:05.199 --> 01:09:07.840
attest to a few years ago I was not. So

1078
01:09:10.840 --> 01:09:12.479
yeah mm hmm.

1079
01:09:14.319 --> 01:09:20.119
Yeah, I get it, man. And then and don't say and.

1080
01:09:20.359 --> 01:09:29.520
Don't sit and don't you know me, I mean, you

1081
01:09:29.560 --> 01:09:33.079
know what like next month, Like next month is like

1082
01:09:33.119 --> 01:09:37.960
my brother's birthday, and then like two weeks after that is, oh,

1083
01:09:38.000 --> 01:09:40.439
my grandmother passed away. Those are the two people that

1084
01:09:41.680 --> 01:09:43.800
you know, like had like a real positive impact on

1085
01:09:43.840 --> 01:09:47.640
my life. And like you know, and like like when

1086
01:09:47.640 --> 01:09:50.520
my you know what, when my grandmother passed away, Like

1087
01:09:50.560 --> 01:09:52.840
I just like you know what I'm saying, internalize everything

1088
01:09:52.880 --> 01:09:57.439
and quietly lost mhm. You know, like at such a

1089
01:09:57.479 --> 01:10:01.800
young age and stuff. So like now you know, now

1090
01:10:01.840 --> 01:10:05.319
you know, like I'm older now, so like I'm able

1091
01:10:05.319 --> 01:10:11.560
to like you know, enjoy the little things I have,

1092
01:10:13.439 --> 01:10:16.479
you know, like like you know, like when my brother

1093
01:10:16.520 --> 01:10:19.119
passed away, me and my older brother wasn't getting along.

1094
01:10:19.760 --> 01:10:22.199
So when they came up here, like I remember were

1095
01:10:22.239 --> 01:10:23.720
looking on my brother's cast and I looked at him.

1096
01:10:23.760 --> 01:10:27.479
I was like I was a brother, you know. After

1097
01:10:27.560 --> 01:10:32.520
mom and Dad's gone, we all we got you know, yeah,

1098
01:10:32.520 --> 01:10:36.000
I'm like, I'm like, you got a family, So I

1099
01:10:36.039 --> 01:10:40.800
got scattered kids, right, you know, but they're still my family,

1100
01:10:41.920 --> 01:10:46.920
you know. But like with like you know what, We're

1101
01:10:46.920 --> 01:10:50.000
gonna have to like start somewhere because because like my

1102
01:10:50.039 --> 01:10:53.479
oldest brother was like, you know, you guys are like

1103
01:10:53.479 --> 01:10:55.920
two thousand miles away and yet you know, like you

1104
01:10:56.239 --> 01:10:58.000
guys are always arguing. And then you told me the

1105
01:10:58.039 --> 01:11:00.560
real the reason why. He's because you always get in trouble.

1106
01:11:00.640 --> 01:11:03.920
That shit's annoying hearing mom, like you know, stress about

1107
01:11:03.960 --> 01:11:09.439
you getting in trouble. He got a point, he made

1108
01:11:09.479 --> 01:11:16.520
a good point, you know, like but like but like

1109
01:11:16.560 --> 01:11:18.840
at that time, you know, like everything was like you know,

1110
01:11:19.479 --> 01:11:21.920
slowing down a little bit. But then like when my

1111
01:11:21.960 --> 01:11:25.239
brother died, like I turned the love a lot, and

1112
01:11:26.319 --> 01:11:31.000
like I was drinking a lot, you know, like a lot.

1113
01:11:31.239 --> 01:11:34.239
Like I picked up drinking again, like probably like a

1114
01:11:34.319 --> 01:11:37.439
year later because I didn't know how to like you know,

1115
01:11:39.760 --> 01:11:43.520
deal with it. So like I was drinking a lot,

1116
01:11:43.720 --> 01:11:45.800
and then I was like doing reckless shit like driving

1117
01:11:46.119 --> 01:11:48.159
like who the hell drinks a freaking fifth of fucking

1118
01:11:48.279 --> 01:11:51.279
titos or whatever side of hop behind the wheel, living

1119
01:11:51.319 --> 01:11:53.439
you know, knowing damn where you live, like you know,

1120
01:11:53.520 --> 01:11:56.239
twenty miles away, like fifteen miles away, and stuff on

1121
01:11:56.279 --> 01:12:00.199
the highway and nighttime. Yeah, I always always my hand

1122
01:12:00.239 --> 01:12:03.840
on that one. You know. Some people like, yeah, you're stupid, yo,

1123
01:12:03.960 --> 01:12:08.399
I had no interest in living. You know, I really didn't,

1124
01:12:08.439 --> 01:12:10.560
you know what I'm saying, like like you know, I

1125
01:12:10.560 --> 01:12:13.199
would laugh on whatever talking about I'm just drinking to

1126
01:12:13.279 --> 01:12:15.760
catch up to the pays I missed. No, you know

1127
01:12:15.800 --> 01:12:18.479
what I'm saying, I was drinking because I was running

1128
01:12:18.479 --> 01:12:24.640
away from something. You know, you know what, like because

1129
01:12:24.640 --> 01:12:27.119
you know what, on this planet, in this world and

1130
01:12:27.239 --> 01:12:30.000
this life, you're either chasing something or you're running away

1131
01:12:30.039 --> 01:12:33.159
from something, or you're doing both. But you really can't

1132
01:12:33.159 --> 01:12:35.439
do both. You can't chase something to run away from something.

1133
01:12:35.920 --> 01:12:38.000
You know what I'm saying. You gotta you gotta focus

1134
01:12:38.000 --> 01:12:41.479
on what you're chasing, and you got to focus on

1135
01:12:41.520 --> 01:12:48.159
what you're running away from. So yeah, you know, like

1136
01:12:49.800 --> 01:12:54.600
so like yeah, you know, like this is this is

1137
01:12:54.600 --> 01:12:57.239
who I am. Like you know, when I'm on the

1138
01:12:57.239 --> 01:13:01.239
phone with people, you know, like when I come out here, Yeah,

1139
01:13:02.399 --> 01:13:05.840
it's therapeutic to bug out or whatever, you know, be

1140
01:13:05.920 --> 01:13:08.800
somewhat of a villain, be a little offensive. I ain't

1141
01:13:08.800 --> 01:13:11.119
trying to do. I ain't trying to you know, while

1142
01:13:11.199 --> 01:13:14.960
I like no more because you know, I got you

1143
01:13:15.000 --> 01:13:17.159
know what I'm saying, like I got business ventures that

1144
01:13:17.159 --> 01:13:19.439
that will be working on real soon and the last

1145
01:13:19.479 --> 01:13:22.159
thing I need is if I'm going to close out

1146
01:13:22.239 --> 01:13:25.560
on the deal. Someone here some wild as ship that

1147
01:13:25.600 --> 01:13:26.159
said three.

1148
01:13:26.079 --> 01:13:26.680
Years ago.

1149
01:13:28.079 --> 01:13:32.000
You know, you know, like you know like like like

1150
01:13:32.199 --> 01:13:34.560
like you know like like like you know like I'm like,

1151
01:13:34.600 --> 01:13:36.600
I'm like, I'm all like you know, you know, like

1152
01:13:36.720 --> 01:13:38.720
dress appropriately. And then all of a sudden, I say, yeah,

1153
01:13:38.800 --> 01:13:43.279
what's this about? Yeah that bitch raw I don't need.

1154
01:13:43.439 --> 01:13:45.560
I don't need that. You know what I'm saying, Like

1155
01:13:45.560 --> 01:13:46.800
like you know what I'm saying, that's gonna come and

1156
01:13:46.840 --> 01:13:47.680
mess up with my money.

1157
01:13:48.479 --> 01:13:53.479
Oh so so now you respect the process when it

1158
01:13:53.560 --> 01:13:55.399
messes with your money.

1159
01:13:57.399 --> 01:13:58.560
Yeah.

1160
01:13:59.039 --> 01:14:00.800
Now you've been Tea get people.

1161
01:14:00.960 --> 01:14:06.720
And now it's joking around.

1162
01:14:08.000 --> 01:14:12.680
That the show's done. All Star Villain is done.

1163
01:14:13.640 --> 01:14:18.199
No, not really, you know what I'm saying, villain deals.

1164
01:14:18.800 --> 01:14:20.920
Yeah, so.

1165
01:14:23.359 --> 01:14:25.800
Wait was it what was that thing that you just showed?

1166
01:14:26.840 --> 01:14:31.279
No, it was it's actually uh flashes Penis. He has

1167
01:14:31.279 --> 01:14:37.800
a detachable dechable. When I heard that song the rest time.

1168
01:14:38.479 --> 01:14:40.319
You really can't see it because.

1169
01:14:40.079 --> 01:14:43.560
The light it is like it's glowing. It looks like

1170
01:14:43.600 --> 01:14:47.159
it's from Marrio Brothers Zell.

1171
01:14:48.760 --> 01:14:55.319
That makes sense, but you can't see it, have some toy.

1172
01:14:55.960 --> 01:14:57.880
Is this your way to like tell people to wrap

1173
01:14:57.920 --> 01:15:01.520
it up like they did on the Chappell Show with

1174
01:15:01.600 --> 01:15:04.680
the music, Wrap it up? Wrap it up?

1175
01:15:06.800 --> 01:15:07.760
You know what?

1176
01:15:08.199 --> 01:15:09.479
The soundboard?

1177
01:15:10.039 --> 01:15:12.079
I gotta, I gotta, I gotta set it up, man,

1178
01:15:12.159 --> 01:15:12.720
I have to.

1179
01:15:13.039 --> 01:15:14.720
You still have it?

1180
01:15:14.840 --> 01:15:16.880
You still can't even have unbelievable.

1181
01:15:17.000 --> 01:15:19.279
No, no, it's not that. It's not that I have

1182
01:15:19.399 --> 01:15:23.319
to working with it. It needs to have to figure

1183
01:15:23.359 --> 01:15:24.680
out how to use it on this laptop.

1184
01:15:25.119 --> 01:15:26.439
Okay, it's not.

1185
01:15:26.600 --> 01:15:28.319
It has nothing to do with whether or not it works.

1186
01:15:28.359 --> 01:15:30.119
It works, it's just trying to figure out how to

1187
01:15:30.159 --> 01:15:32.560
get it for you guys to hear it as well

1188
01:15:32.600 --> 01:15:35.560
as I hear it in the headphone. So the problem,

1189
01:15:35.680 --> 01:15:38.079
the problem I was having with it was whenever I recorded,

1190
01:15:39.239 --> 01:15:43.319
I didn't hear it. I didn't hear it on the playback. Boom.

1191
01:15:44.760 --> 01:15:47.359
That makes it makes no sense to have a soundboard

1192
01:15:47.399 --> 01:15:49.920
and it makes sounds during the show, but nobody can

1193
01:15:49.920 --> 01:15:54.560
hear it on the playback. Right, I'll figure it. I'll

1194
01:15:54.560 --> 01:15:58.319
figure it out. So so let me trash on trash Yeah,

1195
01:15:58.520 --> 01:16:03.600
let me all right? So a relationship, all right, So.

1196
01:16:05.760 --> 01:16:13.840
A Buddhist man Boom, that's how that's how you feel,

1197
01:16:15.000 --> 01:16:15.560
that's how you.

1198
01:16:15.880 --> 01:16:19.399
Feel our own sound board.

1199
01:16:19.479 --> 01:16:22.119
I don't feel that way because I just got box.

1200
01:16:23.680 --> 01:16:24.600
You just do that.

1201
01:16:33.000 --> 01:16:40.520
Hilarious. They can't with you. He's like, I'll remind you

1202
01:16:40.560 --> 01:16:41.920
who's the boss. I can.

1203
01:16:54.119 --> 01:16:56.479
All right, so real cool, Let me, let me, let me,

1204
01:16:56.520 --> 01:16:58.560
let me, let me do this because I figured out

1205
01:16:58.600 --> 01:17:00.640
what I'm gonna what I'm gonna come with, what I'm

1206
01:17:00.640 --> 01:17:06.079
gonna say. So, uh, somebody I heard, I'm gonna tell

1207
01:17:06.119 --> 01:17:11.039
you right now this is this is so whether or

1208
01:17:11.079 --> 01:17:15.479
not she's listening, I don't know. Okay, but my daughter's mother,

1209
01:17:15.760 --> 01:17:22.960
my oldest daughter's mom. Okay, we were young when we

1210
01:17:23.000 --> 01:17:24.479
had and I don't even know if my daughter, my

1211
01:17:24.840 --> 01:17:29.640
daughter knows this, but she'll know it now. Me and

1212
01:17:29.680 --> 01:17:38.840
her mom were together back when we were fifteen and

1213
01:17:39.039 --> 01:17:44.439
she had she had gotten she had gotten pregnant, and

1214
01:17:47.359 --> 01:17:51.720
her parents, her parents were like, listen, did you this

1215
01:17:51.760 --> 01:17:57.159
isn't happening, like you know? So she she she went

1216
01:17:57.239 --> 01:18:01.800
and she had she had been abortion the first time, right,

1217
01:18:04.239 --> 01:18:13.520
and us being idiots, she went ahead and she got

1218
01:18:13.560 --> 01:18:16.520
pregnant again, not really not thinking about the first time.

1219
01:18:17.479 --> 01:18:21.439
She gets pregnant again, and so we have my daughter, right,

1220
01:18:23.239 --> 01:18:27.840
But I treated I treated my daughter's mother so bad.

1221
01:18:27.960 --> 01:18:28.159
Man.

1222
01:18:29.359 --> 01:18:36.560
So I mean I treated her bad man Like I was.

1223
01:18:36.600 --> 01:18:39.399
I was a kid. I didn't know any better. I

1224
01:18:39.439 --> 01:18:43.359
was like fifteen, sixteen years old or something. I was.

1225
01:18:43.600 --> 01:18:45.399
I was a street kid. I was out on the

1226
01:18:45.399 --> 01:18:49.800
streets doing street kids shit, you know, doing all types

1227
01:18:49.840 --> 01:18:55.439
of crazy shit, not thinking about consequences, not thinking about nothing, man.

1228
01:18:57.000 --> 01:19:04.079
And and I sometimes I can still see some of

1229
01:19:04.119 --> 01:19:08.000
the ship that I said, and did you know? And

1230
01:19:09.319 --> 01:19:14.960
I have a lot of regret, especially when it comes

1231
01:19:15.000 --> 01:19:20.039
to my daughter's mom because if if you can always

1232
01:19:20.119 --> 01:19:23.600
say if if you knew what you knew now? Right,

1233
01:19:24.000 --> 01:19:24.880
you know what I'm saying.

1234
01:19:25.319 --> 01:19:27.159
We always say that I know.

1235
01:19:27.359 --> 01:19:31.479
But her mom, her mom, her mom, she didn't. She

1236
01:19:31.520 --> 01:19:34.720
didn't deserve any of the ship that I put her through. Man.

1237
01:19:35.840 --> 01:19:39.920
And I feel bad because now now she's she has

1238
01:19:40.000 --> 01:19:44.479
cancer and she's very very ill. She has stage four.

1239
01:19:45.399 --> 01:19:47.079
Have you said anything to her then?

1240
01:19:48.039 --> 01:19:50.800
And I told my daughter, I said, I think I

1241
01:19:50.800 --> 01:19:55.560
need to have a conversation with your mother. She gave

1242
01:19:55.600 --> 01:19:59.239
me her number and everything, and like I want to,

1243
01:19:59.319 --> 01:20:01.119
I want to talk who are in everything? But I

1244
01:20:01.159 --> 01:20:03.079
have no idea, what the fuck I want to say

1245
01:20:03.119 --> 01:20:03.399
to her?

1246
01:20:03.439 --> 01:20:09.239
Man, and literally what you just said, I was I

1247
01:20:09.319 --> 01:20:14.319
was thinking back to you know us and what had happened,

1248
01:20:14.479 --> 01:20:17.600
and I didn't treat you the way I should have

1249
01:20:17.600 --> 01:20:21.039
treated you deserved better than that, and I am not

1250
01:20:21.239 --> 01:20:24.880
that person. Yeah, you keep waiting, that's it.

1251
01:20:25.000 --> 01:20:26.439
Before you know it, it's going.

1252
01:20:26.359 --> 01:20:28.880
To be too late. That's all you need to say.

1253
01:20:29.079 --> 01:20:33.399
And and you know what, and she could do. Don't

1254
01:20:33.399 --> 01:20:37.439
have any expectation though you know, she may not forgive

1255
01:20:37.479 --> 01:20:39.680
you and and may like be like it's a little

1256
01:20:39.720 --> 01:20:42.520
too late for that, you know. But at the same time,

1257
01:20:43.239 --> 01:20:45.800
if this is what you need to let her know,

1258
01:20:45.960 --> 01:20:48.199
like I fucked up and I'm sorry for what I did.

1259
01:20:48.760 --> 01:20:51.760
I think an apology is a huge thing because you're

1260
01:20:51.800 --> 01:20:57.560
recognizing that you did wrong and you feel some way

1261
01:20:57.600 --> 01:20:58.319
about it now.

1262
01:20:58.680 --> 01:21:04.960
So yeah, yo, you know what, And that people can't speak,

1263
01:21:06.600 --> 01:21:12.720
that people can't talk back talkers tooken, bro, Yeah you

1264
01:21:12.800 --> 01:21:14.159
know what I'm saying, like like, Yo, you know what

1265
01:21:15.000 --> 01:21:17.000
messed up? You know you know what I'm saying, Like

1266
01:21:17.000 --> 01:21:19.479
like like you must be scared about what you know

1267
01:21:19.520 --> 01:21:21.600
what I'm saying. The outcome is going to be fuck

1268
01:21:21.640 --> 01:21:25.359
the outcome. Say what you feel, speak your peace right,

1269
01:21:26.399 --> 01:21:28.640
you know, like like yo, you know what if I

1270
01:21:28.640 --> 01:21:31.600
could talk to my daughter's mom, I apologize, you know

1271
01:21:31.960 --> 01:21:34.680
like even though like you know, like it works out

1272
01:21:34.680 --> 01:21:36.640
the way it works out, you know what I'm saying,

1273
01:21:36.640 --> 01:21:39.600
but all apology what I'm saying, like I would apologize,

1274
01:21:40.439 --> 01:21:44.079
you know, like however, you know, like that girl hates

1275
01:21:44.119 --> 01:21:49.640
me so much like you you know, because but yo,

1276
01:21:49.680 --> 01:21:51.520
you know the thing is I was older, but you

1277
01:21:51.560 --> 01:21:52.920
know what though like I was just like in my

1278
01:21:54.319 --> 01:21:58.279
in my I do not care about nothing face when man, yeah,

1279
01:21:58.279 --> 01:22:01.920
when I say I didn't care about nothing nothing like

1280
01:22:02.000 --> 01:22:04.760
you know what, how did yo? You know what? Like

1281
01:22:04.840 --> 01:22:07.199
it amazing? It amazed me how like someone expected me

1282
01:22:07.239 --> 01:22:09.680
to love them but I didn't love myself right and

1283
01:22:10.319 --> 01:22:13.079
I don't understand that. I couldn't. I couldn't grasp you

1284
01:22:13.119 --> 01:22:15.800
know back then. You know what I'm saying, what like

1285
01:22:16.000 --> 01:22:17.960
that whole that you know what I'm saying, Like why

1286
01:22:18.000 --> 01:22:20.239
am I even bugging out like that? You know? I

1287
01:22:20.239 --> 01:22:24.119
didn't love myself, so you know what, like like I

1288
01:22:24.119 --> 01:22:26.600
didn't love myself enough, you know what I'm saying. But

1289
01:22:26.760 --> 01:22:28.319
and here this person is giving me. You know what

1290
01:22:28.319 --> 01:22:33.279
I'm saying, gave me my first daughter, and yeah, you

1291
01:22:33.319 --> 01:22:34.960
know what I mean, Like I just you know what

1292
01:22:35.000 --> 01:22:39.600
I'm saying. I just you know, I mean, like every yoke,

1293
01:22:40.960 --> 01:22:43.920
let's just say the womanizing was like crazy, you know

1294
01:22:43.960 --> 01:22:45.479
what I'm saying, Like it was just toxic, you know,

1295
01:22:45.560 --> 01:22:47.600
like like you know, you'll find out the truth. I

1296
01:22:47.640 --> 01:22:49.479
was like, yeah, and you know what, I'm gonna do

1297
01:22:49.479 --> 01:22:51.119
it again tomorrow that I get punched in the face.

1298
01:22:51.119 --> 01:22:54.640
And you know what I'm saying, you know, like whatever,

1299
01:22:55.079 --> 01:22:56.359
you know what I'm saying that I deserve to get

1300
01:22:56.439 --> 01:22:59.640
hit yo, brool. That did Hell yeah, I'll admit that.

1301
01:23:00.399 --> 01:23:03.560
See. The think the thing is too is that we

1302
01:23:04.680 --> 01:23:09.960
like I haven't, I didn't speak. We didn't talk in

1303
01:23:10.000 --> 01:23:12.760
like twenty something years, like we haven't. And then I

1304
01:23:12.800 --> 01:23:17.279
saw her at the at my daughter's gender reveal party.

1305
01:23:17.479 --> 01:23:21.439
She introduced me, I introduced She introduced me to her

1306
01:23:22.159 --> 01:23:23.960
her dude, and she was like, hey, this is you

1307
01:23:24.000 --> 01:23:26.239
know and she was like, how you doing. How's everything?

1308
01:23:26.279 --> 01:23:27.840
I was like, I'm good, you know, how are you?

1309
01:23:28.359 --> 01:23:28.600
You know?

1310
01:23:28.640 --> 01:23:31.159
We kept it, We kept it, you know, we kept

1311
01:23:31.199 --> 01:23:36.640
it cool. And then at the baby shower, she she

1312
01:23:36.720 --> 01:23:39.880
said to me, listen, you know I That's what she

1313
01:23:39.880 --> 01:23:41.720
said to me. Like, she came to me. She walked

1314
01:23:41.760 --> 01:23:42.920
up to me and she was like, listen, I want

1315
01:23:42.920 --> 01:23:44.359
to talk to you about someone. I was like, what's up.

1316
01:23:45.319 --> 01:23:47.039
She was like, you know, I have cancer and everything.

1317
01:23:47.079 --> 01:23:49.800
And I was like wow, you know, and I was

1318
01:23:49.880 --> 01:23:52.560
kind of like taken back a little bit because she

1319
01:23:52.640 --> 01:23:54.319
was she was. She came to me and she told

1320
01:23:54.399 --> 01:23:56.159
me personally, you know, I didn't hear from my daughter,

1321
01:23:56.199 --> 01:23:59.159
didn't hear from nobody. I heard it from her mouth.

1322
01:23:59.239 --> 01:24:02.359
And she was like, I just wanted to let you

1323
01:24:02.439 --> 01:24:06.239
know that. And you know, because if anything happens, you

1324
01:24:06.279 --> 01:24:12.279
know Melody, you know she's gonna she's gonna, you know,

1325
01:24:12.399 --> 01:24:16.560
need to have you know, have you there, and you know,

1326
01:24:16.640 --> 01:24:26.039
stuff like that and everything. So but I am, I got,

1327
01:24:26.079 --> 01:24:27.720
I got, I got, I gotta, I got the number.

1328
01:24:27.760 --> 01:24:29.680
I just gotta make the call. You know what I mean?

1329
01:24:31.359 --> 01:24:32.319
No speaking peace?

1330
01:24:32.399 --> 01:24:36.800
Fine, you know what I'm saying, don't sleep on a corne.

1331
01:24:37.600 --> 01:24:40.359
Where is she located far from you?

1332
01:24:41.079 --> 01:24:43.560
She's in Jersey City.

1333
01:24:44.159 --> 01:24:49.479
I think you should do this, Thomas, for nobody, you

1334
01:24:49.520 --> 01:24:51.239
know what I'm saying, Like like like seeing you know

1335
01:24:51.239 --> 01:24:53.760
what I'm saying, Like Tom, you know, Thomas, just what

1336
01:24:53.760 --> 01:24:57.520
I'm saying a false like security blanket. You think we

1337
01:24:57.600 --> 01:24:59.720
have to we never do exactly.

1338
01:24:59.840 --> 01:25:01.960
So that's why this week you're going to go to

1339
01:25:02.000 --> 01:25:05.279
your city. You're gonna hit up either that cafe that's

1340
01:25:05.399 --> 01:25:08.199
Cuban on the corner or the Puerto Rican spog if

1341
01:25:08.199 --> 01:25:10.279
yourselves up at me or whatever you want.

1342
01:25:15.199 --> 01:25:18.119
Do. Wait don't all right, So.

1343
01:25:19.239 --> 01:25:23.239
The last, the last question of the evening, we're going

1344
01:25:23.279 --> 01:25:27.359
to get to it. So this is another another good question.

1345
01:25:28.479 --> 01:25:33.439
Which past relationship or connection are you most content with

1346
01:25:33.640 --> 01:25:35.439
leaving in the past and why.

1347
01:25:37.800 --> 01:25:38.359
All of them?

1348
01:25:39.960 --> 01:25:41.000
I'm not answering that question.

1349
01:25:41.399 --> 01:25:44.079
They're in the past for a reason. I think that

1350
01:25:47.439 --> 01:25:49.600
if I was meant to have relationships with these people,

1351
01:25:49.640 --> 01:25:54.000
I'd still have relationships room bus. That's what I was thinking.

1352
01:25:55.680 --> 01:25:57.960
That's the place, by the way that I was thinking about.

1353
01:26:01.279 --> 01:26:11.239
Oh snap, be careful copyright in prison. Oh yeah, but yeah,

1354
01:26:11.439 --> 01:26:19.239
like it's it's past relationship. Like I I'm like on

1355
01:26:19.399 --> 01:26:24.920
good terms with my exes. I've even been friends with axes,

1356
01:26:25.199 --> 01:26:26.760
Like I don't know.

1357
01:26:29.079 --> 01:26:32.039
All right, So all right, so doubsn't gonna answer the

1358
01:26:32.159 --> 01:26:36.199
question he just says, that's yo, yo.

1359
01:26:36.279 --> 01:26:39.640
You know what I'm not, you know, like it is

1360
01:26:39.760 --> 01:26:42.800
what it is, you know what I'm saying, Like I

1361
01:26:42.840 --> 01:26:48.680
don't like I don't need to be buddy, but nobody,

1362
01:26:50.880 --> 01:26:53.840
you know, like the minute you know what I'm saying,

1363
01:26:53.880 --> 01:26:57.319
the minute we've done, the minute we've done, we go

1364
01:26:57.399 --> 01:26:59.119
along your way or go along minds like if I

1365
01:26:59.199 --> 01:27:01.439
see this, hello, I doing and that's it, you know,

1366
01:27:01.560 --> 01:27:04.880
like there's no like there's no phone conversations doing nothing,

1367
01:27:05.840 --> 01:27:10.119
you know, like just what you know what I'm saying,

1368
01:27:10.159 --> 01:27:16.239
Like I don't need runs, I need money, right, you know,

1369
01:27:16.399 --> 01:27:21.239
like unless like you know what I'm saying, like you

1370
01:27:21.359 --> 01:27:25.359
have a business proposal, then we can talk. Other than that,

1371
01:27:25.520 --> 01:27:27.520
like I have no reason to talk to you, you know,

1372
01:27:27.640 --> 01:27:29.800
like good luck in your life though, good luck when

1373
01:27:29.840 --> 01:27:33.840
your future endeavors, you know, like I'm not a bit

1374
01:27:33.880 --> 01:27:37.920
of person. But there's no really you know, there don't

1375
01:27:37.960 --> 01:27:41.399
needs for me to talk to people. And I'm not

1376
01:27:41.479 --> 01:27:43.319
trying to sound like you know, like like I hate

1377
01:27:43.319 --> 01:27:46.079
people like they once again like trying to sound better

1378
01:27:46.159 --> 01:27:51.079
or nothing. It's that it's unnecessary for me to like,

1379
01:27:51.199 --> 01:27:53.800
you know, hold on to something that you know, yeah,

1380
01:27:53.840 --> 01:27:55.720
you know what, it was good while the lasted, you

1381
01:27:55.720 --> 01:27:57.600
know what I'm saying, Like, but like you're not the

1382
01:27:57.680 --> 01:27:59.760
person that's in my life now. You're the person that

1383
01:27:59.920 --> 01:28:04.399
was there when well, like it was both convenient for us,

1384
01:28:04.720 --> 01:28:06.239
you know what I'm saying, Like we needed each other

1385
01:28:07.600 --> 01:28:12.039
at that point in time, and like you know, like

1386
01:28:12.119 --> 01:28:14.840
I'm grateful for that and all that stuff, but you know,

1387
01:28:14.960 --> 01:28:20.239
like you went your way with minds and good love

1388
01:28:20.279 --> 01:28:25.000
with that, and I mean that the best way possible. No, no,

1389
01:28:27.119 --> 01:28:33.239
no malice in my heart and moving yeah, you know

1390
01:28:33.239 --> 01:28:34.520
what I'm saying, and moving on, you know what I mean?

1391
01:28:34.640 --> 01:28:37.960
Like like yo, you know what you know, like like

1392
01:28:38.119 --> 01:28:41.319
on the road again, like yo, you know like like yo,

1393
01:28:41.359 --> 01:28:43.239
you know what like like like you know what, like

1394
01:28:43.840 --> 01:28:45.279
before I used to be like, yeah, you know what,

1395
01:28:45.640 --> 01:28:47.840
puppy get hit by a freaking truck. You know what

1396
01:28:47.880 --> 01:28:52.079
I'm saying. You know, yo, Yo, you know what I

1397
01:28:52.199 --> 01:28:53.399
used to be like that. You know what I'm saying,

1398
01:28:53.479 --> 01:28:56.039
like yeah, you know what I'm trying to hear, shit,

1399
01:28:56.119 --> 01:28:59.000
go somewhere and die. You know now it's like you know,

1400
01:29:00.800 --> 01:29:02.720
I picked you know what I'm saying, Like like as

1401
01:29:02.800 --> 01:29:04.800
reckless as I am here. I really choose my words

1402
01:29:04.880 --> 01:29:07.640
wisely though, you know, like especially with people that you

1403
01:29:07.680 --> 01:29:10.920
know that actually know me. Not because I'm scared, it's because,

1404
01:29:11.840 --> 01:29:15.199
you know, like I'm not trying to be you know

1405
01:29:15.199 --> 01:29:16.399
what I'm saying, Like I really don't you know what

1406
01:29:16.399 --> 01:29:18.359
I'm saying, like like, yeah, you know what being a

1407
01:29:18.439 --> 01:29:20.039
vielding is school, but ship, you know what I'm saying,

1408
01:29:20.079 --> 01:29:23.880
like like, yo, you know what you know, like there

1409
01:29:23.920 --> 01:29:26.520
has to be an understanding, you know, like Fanos and

1410
01:29:26.680 --> 01:29:28.840
old Trump, you know, like those are understanding with them,

1411
01:29:28.960 --> 01:29:30.720
Like the Joker. You know what I'm saying, those are

1412
01:29:30.800 --> 01:29:35.359
understanding with him. You know, like there has to be

1413
01:29:35.439 --> 01:29:37.119
some type of understandings. So like, you know what, in

1414
01:29:37.279 --> 01:29:38.920
order for me to even do that, I have to

1415
01:29:39.039 --> 01:29:43.760
speak you know what I'm saying my piece the way

1416
01:29:43.760 --> 01:29:43.960
I do.

1417
01:29:48.359 --> 01:29:54.640
All right, Okay, so what about you, lady g anything?

1418
01:29:55.279 --> 01:29:55.520
Can you?

1419
01:29:55.840 --> 01:29:58.920
Can you ask that question again? Because doves went on

1420
01:29:59.159 --> 01:30:00.479
so long after forever?

1421
01:30:01.640 --> 01:30:05.319
All right? So what past relationship or connection are you

1422
01:30:06.359 --> 01:30:08.640
most content with leaving in the past and why?

1423
01:30:09.600 --> 01:30:11.760
Okay, her Wi Fi connection?

1424
01:30:14.880 --> 01:30:20.600
Oh my god, he's such an idiot, I would say

1425
01:30:23.800 --> 01:30:31.159
one of my brothers because it was it's it was

1426
01:30:31.279 --> 01:30:38.880
always toxic from day one. I love him, but I

1427
01:30:39.000 --> 01:30:44.199
love him from afar. But after all these years, like

1428
01:30:44.399 --> 01:30:49.399
I'm I'm content with leaving that relationship in the past.

1429
01:30:53.920 --> 01:30:57.600
It did nothing but cause pain and anguish, lots and

1430
01:30:57.680 --> 01:31:04.520
lots of tears and anger sacrifice, Like there comes a

1431
01:31:04.600 --> 01:31:08.640
point when people take so much from you that you

1432
01:31:08.800 --> 01:31:16.039
have no more to give them. And so, like I said,

1433
01:31:16.159 --> 01:31:19.520
I always love them, but I'm very content with leaving

1434
01:31:19.560 --> 01:31:20.720
that relationship behind.

1435
01:31:21.399 --> 01:31:24.640
And it hurts more, I think when it's family, because

1436
01:31:24.800 --> 01:31:30.239
they're supposed to like be the safe ones and be

1437
01:31:30.439 --> 01:31:34.359
the ones that you can count on, and it sucks

1438
01:31:35.079 --> 01:31:37.720
when you are part of its functional family where that

1439
01:31:37.880 --> 01:31:39.319
person isn't that person.

1440
01:31:40.479 --> 01:31:43.720
And you know what, I used to feel bad about that,

1441
01:31:45.159 --> 01:31:51.600
but I met someone recently and they shared a similar

1442
01:31:51.720 --> 01:31:56.760
story with me about a sibling, and they're like, I

1443
01:31:57.199 --> 01:32:04.199
hate them. They they did some mad damage. And so

1444
01:32:05.079 --> 01:32:07.640
it's I think it's ironic that we're asking this question

1445
01:32:07.800 --> 01:32:11.399
tonight because this has only been within the last couple

1446
01:32:11.439 --> 01:32:11.840
of days.

1447
01:32:12.760 --> 01:32:20.199
Isn't it ironic? A little too ironic? That's karaoke right there.

1448
01:32:24.920 --> 01:32:29.520
Yeah, it's funny how we think that we're alone in

1449
01:32:29.520 --> 01:32:32.880
a lot of things. Yeah, we find out we're not.

1450
01:32:34.520 --> 01:32:45.159
You were not alone? Oh god, oh my lord.

1451
01:32:46.119 --> 01:32:50.199
All right, So with that being said, we see.

1452
01:32:50.039 --> 01:32:56.520
Your day job, yeah, being unemployed, that job.

1453
01:32:59.279 --> 01:33:03.560
You keep doing a great job that well, so you know,

1454
01:33:03.720 --> 01:33:04.640
like my.

1455
01:33:04.720 --> 01:33:07.760
Day job is at my day job, you know. Oh

1456
01:33:08.319 --> 01:33:11.199
oh oh, let me ask you a question, right, when

1457
01:33:11.239 --> 01:33:14.760
do you think trolling someone goes too far? Right? Like

1458
01:33:14.880 --> 01:33:17.239
I seen I've seen something on Twitter real quick, right,

1459
01:33:18.079 --> 01:33:19.279
and they let.

1460
01:33:19.239 --> 01:33:19.600
You back on?

1461
01:33:20.840 --> 01:33:22.640
No, no, yeah, well they let me back on. But

1462
01:33:22.720 --> 01:33:24.840
like I'm like trying to stay away from it, you

1463
01:33:24.880 --> 01:33:26.600
know what I mean, like like not you know, not

1464
01:33:26.720 --> 01:33:30.880
engaging nothing because you know, it's it's just like you know,

1465
01:33:31.000 --> 01:33:33.039
Twitter is successful, you know what I'm saying.

1466
01:33:33.319 --> 01:33:34.279
I mean, I believe it.

1467
01:33:35.039 --> 01:33:40.640
Yeah, it really is more than so yo, you know

1468
01:33:40.720 --> 01:33:44.760
what you know? And yeah, bro, like all these only

1469
01:33:44.840 --> 01:33:47.399
fan models you know, like like you know, flashing the

1470
01:33:47.520 --> 01:33:50.399
herpe infested lips, you know, like you know, like like yo,

1471
01:33:50.520 --> 01:33:53.159
I was reading something with like some one dude slept

1472
01:33:53.199 --> 01:33:54.760
with seventy five women. You know what I'm saying, making

1473
01:33:54.840 --> 01:33:57.600
only fans content. But you know what I'm saying, normally

1474
01:33:57.720 --> 01:34:00.760
he had herpes and he's rolled and all these people

1475
01:34:02.880 --> 01:34:12.680
you know, like no, now that hurt this out right,

1476
01:34:13.000 --> 01:34:15.520
you know, like so like so there was an interaction

1477
01:34:15.600 --> 01:34:18.159
between these two guys right, like you know, they're going

1478
01:34:18.239 --> 01:34:21.479
back and forth right about you know, like hip hop music,

1479
01:34:21.560 --> 01:34:24.840
and then like you know it's a personal right, we're

1480
01:34:24.880 --> 01:34:28.279
like or like the Italian dude told the black dude

1481
01:34:28.560 --> 01:34:30.720
that he was a part of the coaching now you know,

1482
01:34:31.680 --> 01:34:34.359
cultural appropriation stuff. So like they so they then went

1483
01:34:34.399 --> 01:34:37.119
back and forth right and then like you know, like

1484
01:34:37.720 --> 01:34:42.319
the idiot, the Italian dude had his name his real name,

1485
01:34:42.600 --> 01:34:44.840
and I'm like I'm here reading his real name and

1486
01:34:44.880 --> 01:34:46.880
I'm like why would you have your real name on Twitter?

1487
01:34:48.000 --> 01:34:48.439
Know what I'm saying?

1488
01:34:48.520 --> 01:34:49.800
Why Why?

1489
01:34:50.840 --> 01:34:54.319
So the dude started doing his homework and figure out that,

1490
01:34:54.359 --> 01:34:55.840
you know what I'm saying, like like like you know,

1491
01:34:55.880 --> 01:34:57.880
like he lived in Philly and whatever, and that his

1492
01:34:58.000 --> 01:35:08.399
grandfather recently died. Oh man, yo, no bro, homeboy like

1493
01:35:08.560 --> 01:35:11.319
you know just went like you know, savage mode on

1494
01:35:11.439 --> 01:35:15.079
them talking about he was like yo, he was like yo,

1495
01:35:15.239 --> 01:35:17.600
you know what because like there's a comment where like

1496
01:35:17.680 --> 01:35:19.720
the dude said, He's like that's what you're getting buried

1497
01:35:19.800 --> 01:35:22.000
right now. He's like, he's like, you know, when you

1498
01:35:22.039 --> 01:35:24.720
say buried me, do you mean like bury me and

1499
01:35:24.840 --> 01:35:26.800
I could come up alive, like to walk in dead

1500
01:35:26.880 --> 01:35:30.079
or bury like your grandfather. I was like, and then like,

1501
01:35:30.119 --> 01:35:32.720
you know, he posts like the obituary thing, and I

1502
01:35:32.800 --> 01:35:37.640
was like, oh, he's like, Yo, Twitter has no freaking rules.

1503
01:35:37.760 --> 01:35:43.000
Yo. Well it's people have no boundaries or lines. They

1504
01:35:43.239 --> 01:35:46.399
just cross Yo. They don't give a ship.

1505
01:35:47.239 --> 01:35:48.239
And that's Twitter for you.

1506
01:35:49.079 --> 01:35:51.880
You know, they want to hurt as much as possible,

1507
01:35:52.680 --> 01:35:54.720
and there are people who like get joy out of it.

1508
01:35:54.840 --> 01:35:57.319
I feel, yeah, that's Twitter for you.

1509
01:35:58.720 --> 01:36:00.640
People are people, That's true.

1510
01:36:01.079 --> 01:36:01.359
You know what.

1511
01:36:01.720 --> 01:36:04.159
There's a lot of hurt people out there. You hear

1512
01:36:04.239 --> 01:36:06.760
the politicians, there's a lot of hurt. We're all struggling,

1513
01:36:07.000 --> 01:36:07.439
we're all.

1514
01:36:10.000 --> 01:36:12.920
Man. But but don't forget it, you know what. Yeah,

1515
01:36:13.399 --> 01:36:13.640
you know what?

1516
01:36:17.079 --> 01:36:23.359
So with right wing part of all right, we're done.

1517
01:36:23.560 --> 01:36:25.720
Hold on, wait, I gotta give the signal.

1518
01:36:31.399 --> 01:36:40.000
Yo, should cordial showing the golden rose? Yo? So you

1519
01:36:40.119 --> 01:36:41.279
got the golden rose.

1520
01:36:41.960 --> 01:36:45.760
With that being said, Lady t G, what's your final

1521
01:36:45.840 --> 01:36:49.159
thought of the evening? Yep?

1522
01:36:51.119 --> 01:36:53.560
I don't know. Just just have a good week and

1523
01:36:54.079 --> 01:36:56.079
uh and vote thank you.

1524
01:36:56.560 --> 01:37:00.159
Okay, what's your final thought of me?

1525
01:37:01.479 --> 01:37:05.079
One day? I'm gonna play a Red Band sket where

1526
01:37:05.119 --> 01:37:07.720
like Jerry's like you Redmand did the Jerry Springer skit

1527
01:37:08.239 --> 01:37:10.039
where he's like, well, I think you got the final

1528
01:37:10.159 --> 01:37:14.079
thought in your hand, Jerry here side right after. That's

1529
01:37:14.119 --> 01:37:16.760
gonna be my final thought. I'm gonna play that one day.

1530
01:37:17.119 --> 01:37:22.600
Okay, just to be a jerk, lady, give us your

1531
01:37:22.680 --> 01:37:23.760
final thought of the evening.

1532
01:37:25.880 --> 01:37:27.880
Love and fairy tales still exist.

1533
01:37:29.279 --> 01:37:33.359
Ah mm hmm wahh.

1534
01:37:38.600 --> 01:37:41.159
You know what if I ever get to you face,

1535
01:37:41.840 --> 01:37:42.720
I'm gonna fla.

1536
01:37:43.720 --> 01:37:44.279
What what what?

1537
01:37:45.079 --> 01:37:49.840
W d J clue clue.

1538
01:38:00.079 --> 01:38:01.079
Drop the bomb on him?

1539
01:38:01.840 --> 01:38:07.039
Boom, drop the bomb on him? Yo.

1540
01:38:07.359 --> 01:38:12.880
Feeling feeling falty right now? Y'all? Why is that because

1541
01:38:12.920 --> 01:38:15.359
y'all crapping on my thought for the evening?

1542
01:38:15.720 --> 01:38:17.199
Yes, we we apologize.

1543
01:38:17.359 --> 01:38:22.239
No, that was just I don't I apologize all right?

1544
01:38:22.319 --> 01:38:23.279
So, so old.

1545
01:38:28.399 --> 01:38:31.760
Golden Rose the golden rose.

1546
01:38:31.840 --> 01:38:34.920
Equivalent of shedding the light off in a room with children.

1547
01:38:36.119 --> 01:38:40.119
It's like, it's like, okay, guys, it's uiet time.

1548
01:38:40.600 --> 01:38:41.920
Watch out for the cuckoo.

1549
01:38:48.920 --> 01:38:50.640
Yo? Who do the Clinton road man?

1550
01:38:55.560 --> 01:38:58.680
Oh ship? No, my final thought of the evening is.

1551
01:38:58.720 --> 01:39:12.680
This when you're wipe back, if you're dirty, don't hold

1552
01:39:12.720 --> 01:39:17.439
on wait wait, hold on, though you think we're talking

1553
01:39:17.439 --> 01:39:19.000
about the women, Now we're talking about your little bitch

1554
01:39:19.000 --> 01:39:22.279
as niggas. We're talking about you bitch people, you bitch dudes.

1555
01:39:22.800 --> 01:39:24.359
He pitches front to back.

1556
01:39:26.560 --> 01:39:33.800
No dingle berries allowed, Captain.

1557
01:39:33.479 --> 01:39:48.640
Crunch flavored, all right, but for him, wow, what I do?

1558
01:39:50.800 --> 01:39:57.399
A right? So with that, with that being said, my

1559
01:39:57.760 --> 01:39:59.560
dog is acting. She acted up today.

1560
01:40:00.039 --> 01:40:00.880
It's just on her ship.

1561
01:40:01.039 --> 01:40:04.119
I don't know what the fuck is going on. Jesus

1562
01:40:04.239 --> 01:40:04.840
know what's going on?

1563
01:40:05.000 --> 01:40:05.119
Bro?

1564
01:40:05.319 --> 01:40:07.720
Did you recently like shout out your dog too for

1565
01:40:07.840 --> 01:40:08.720
me so good?

1566
01:40:09.399 --> 01:40:14.720
Yeah, like shout out shout out to for being look exactly,

1567
01:40:15.239 --> 01:40:18.640
you know what. She's probably rewatching that one episode.

1568
01:40:20.239 --> 01:40:22.800
Bro. It's a full moon tonight. Bro, isn't a full

1569
01:40:22.840 --> 01:40:23.319
moon tonight?

1570
01:40:24.079 --> 01:40:24.439
I don't know.

1571
01:40:25.640 --> 01:40:27.920
Trying to get in she exactly, all right. So with

1572
01:40:28.039 --> 01:40:31.560
that being said, I'm big cole on that stady G.

1573
01:40:31.720 --> 01:40:37.479
That's t D love. That's down a ka, Simon Phoenix, Yeah,

1574
01:40:37.479 --> 01:40:39.479
a lot of a kas. Thank you for doing us tonight,

1575
01:40:39.720 --> 01:40:45.199
and always remember that at some point, despite her everybody

1576
01:40:45.479 --> 01:40:46.039
piece out

1577
01:40:47.720 --> 01:40:47.960
Boy,